Why you can't stop checking your phone
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 14 ส.ค. 2019
- Social media is really cool and stuff but sometimes it's not so cool
Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport: amzn.to/2N38feK
Inaction is a Slow Death merch: teespring.com/stores/better-i...
The Official Facebook Group: / 179287156102224
My gear: tinyurl.com/pfdz3397
Follow me on Twitter (if you think it will be useful): / joeyschweitz
Join the official mailing list: mailchi.mp/35438794957e/bette...
Big thanks to Gabrielle, Noah, Kayla, Chrimo, Robert, Murray, Evan, and Martynas - my biggest sponsors on Patreon. Become one of my biggest supporters: / betterideastv
Other words for this issue are facebook addiction, social media addiction, instagram addiction, etc.
🎥 The Gear I Use: kit.co/betterideas
My issue is TH-cam, I am addicted to TH-cam. I don't use Facebook or any other social media. Just damn TH-cam.
Same here. Sometimes though I think to myself "Is there any real value to this particular video?" and on most occasions the answer is "No". Just the avoidance of facing the reality that if I wasn't watching it then I'd be left with my life and my own thoughts.
I guess I just need to do that and then fill my life with actual content and constructive activities.
What I did is to create 2 YT accounts, one for how to's or videos with real value (like this one, for example) and another account for entertainment. This helps me to control what I am consuming, and be consciuous if I am really learning, or I am just having fun
I have downloaded a software where it blocks the content from the first pages of youtube. You have to manually type a video to view them :) It's life changing!!
@@Neptunianist Actual content and constructive activities are all very good! But you hit the point when you said "I'd be left with my own thoughts". That's exactly what we really need to do. Observe our thoughts. The journey starts from there
@@bnsgokugreat wait what's the software
The point is reinforced by the fact that i started scrolling the comments.
Lol me too
Literally me seconds after the video started.
236 likes! Keep chasing that dragon! You can get 2360! Just one... more... like!
Yup
Damn. . .
"Your attention is their currency" - well said
That sentence stuck out to me so much too. It was powerful.
What he doesnt tell you is that he is doing exactly the same. Not just the “big companys”. Not a single shit better then them.
Thisssss
Well your attention to this video is his currency
He does have a point though...you have to give him credit for that!
I’m so addicted to TH-cam that I stopped watching T.V like 3 years ago literally
fr
3 years? Rookie numbers my friend
what abt TH-cam TV tho
Cancelled my satellite subscription going on two years ago ..why have it and pay those expensive prices? Everything is pretty much on your phone to access whatever you want...
Yup, YT is tv
So my TH-cam algorithm has finally caught on to me
And it's back lmao
@@holo6883 hahaha cool🤭
Your youtube algorithm is doing fancy things .. 😁😁😁
Facts
나두 집에가
That one dislike is Mark Zuckerberg
No Offence but He made Facebook, he didn't forced anyone to use it......we use his services for our pleasure if we think it's affecting our life or any part of it we should just stop using it instead of complaining about it & also Mark is amazing human being he's just using his knowledge to run a business without forcing or harming anyone again only using basics of human psychology.
@@smitmachhi1111 bro chill, it was a joke
@@smitmachhi1111 Alsooo...he's smoking this meat! 🎶
Smit Machhi ha! Marks real history is quite dirty.
@@smitmachhi1111 "mark is an amazing human being" uh....
“I don’t wanna be on my phone but I can’t be alone”
-Y&F
Haha I know the the feeling
It is great company, especially when you are alone.
i find it super cool when someone tells me they don't have accounts or don't use any social media apps.
Strange world we live in. Most people will find that odd.
Agree, they are lying too!
I only use TH-cam and Discord. Sadly that's distraction enough.
@@sneezebiscuits7239 same, but TH-cam and Twitter. Hoping to ditch twitter this year
“ Social Media can be a useful slave, or a dangerous master”
Isn't that a alcohol quote? It works on everything that is addictive I think
Dandapani?
@@timgeurts Not with HIV spreaders
@@Mosqueetos bruh what??
699 likes lmao
You seem like a very intelligent man.
He really does
ye, he SEEMS like a very intelligent man.
He is. Don't sell him short
I'd rather say wise, but probably both.
poopscoop you just displayed a great example of “Stupid”
I legit missed half of the video because I spaced out and looked through my phone
Same
69 likes lmao
fr
It’s a great summary of problems mentioned in Netflix’s “The social dilemma”
Since I deleted my accounts I got a job and started a second career.
I am not kidding.
It was your main problem? I feel like i spend too much time on social media, like 7 o 8 hours a day
Good on you! TH-cam is now my only "social media"... And it's more like my cable TV anyway.
@@bnsgokugreat what is it called?
@@mesaprime1299 Do you use Mac or PC? Safari or chrome? Answer depends on that question :)
@@bnsgokugreat pc
When you're this early cuz you always check your phone 😬
When I came back from pooping there was a notification message
David Alexanderson Oof
@@failgod9079 You didn't have to tell us that
No shit, I didn’t want to watch it when I first got the notification cuz it didn’t have a single view count (but strangely enough one like, but that was probably from our buddy here)
@@failgod9079 you didn't bring your phone with youtube to the toilet?
"Your attention is their currency." Whoa
Whoa I read this right as he said it
I'm the only person I know who isnt addicted to their phone. nor do I check any site frequently on my computer. BUT, I do spend a lot of time on video games. A habit I picked up on Christmas 1986 and never lost.
Thanks for that Nintendo, dad.
😂😂
'The Itch' describes it perfectly! (editing and cinematography is top notch as always)
The itch to check the fridge 50times a day
@@TerrorOfTeacup the itch to check if the door is locked 1000000 times a day- i stg
My retweet made a debut 2:37
My like made a debut 2:38
My nothing made a debut 2019
My response to you comment made a debut here 😎
Umm I'm kinda here now I guess
What I did is, I disabled ALL push-notifications except textmessages. That worked out so good for me I check my phone way less.
TheSocks221 absolutely I did the same thing! You can even schedule notifications to certain times of the day so you have a dedicated time to check those things.
Adagio Borntrager oh wow that sounds cool, I certainly need to check that out!
TheSocks221 I would check it more bc then I wouldn’t know if people were texting me and I don’t want to let them wait
Me too. He is actually speaking about push notifications problem. If you are not interested in LinkedIn notifications, just turn them off. Otherwise you can delete everything and go living in the woods, to say so. you can silent all apps
I done that and ended up checking my phone more
I am binge-watching your videos. Your content is exactly what I was looking for at this point in time in my life. I'm going through a tough break up and looking for ways to move on and become better than I was. Thank you for sharing!
I'm glad that you talked about digital minimalism instead of suggesting to delete all social media accounts. As a digital artist, social media is quite important to me for inspo and possible job opportunities. But I get sidetracked a lot, so this video is a great reminder to manage my time wisely. :)
Great topic.
I leave my phone out of my bedroom and when I block out work I put it in a other room. When I'm catching up with friends I leave it in the car. So important to phone ban yourself
My paranoia has kept me safe from this "notification addiction" that seems to be so rampant, right now.
See, every time I want to access my phone, I have to take the bag off of it that is for muffling the microphone and blocking the cameras.
So, I never got hooked. Too many steps in between. So, it's a GPS, phone and mail notifier, mostly.
I can't keep friendships on there and that's good. They're not fucking real! You can't shake their hand. They are not real.
Get real friends.
Another way to curb the addiction (not my own idea): set your phone to grayscale to eliminate the mega-manipulative effect of color that social media employs
Video started making sense when i realised i was scrolling facebook while listening to him.
Unlike you. I can't understand if not read that hardsub
You mean staring at 11/10 models and dog memes all day isn't bringing value to my life?
Ryan Douglas yes
No you should be watching cat memes
@Thot Patrol Mmm hentai
I only stare at Nastyanass twerking, its motion literally builds my brain, its a meditative activity
relate but I only go for 2d
Restlessness stemming from illusion of missing out.
When you don't have any substance within, you seek to fulfil it without.
*Happiness is an inside job.*
Dude, you're everywhere, bots liking your comments is an inside job
@@7stf888 Yeah, but there is no god... Same, as there is no Santa Clause, or Zeus... They have been invented by people... Knowing this should be the first step of self-development...
What are you supposed to do? Meditate all day like a monk? I'm not knocking that life but it's worth noting people get fulfillment out of their careers and relationships just the same. Fulfillment is just that, an illusion. It's only looked at positively when you're working hard to be successful in a career because society says so, but it's from the same space
Yep kinda of😆
Can you make a video expanding more on this comment.
Definitely going to pick up that book 👍🏻
Bet you won't
@j. Looks like those videos are just for you, what an idiot. Go get some fresh air you bloody prat
Hi man! Love your videos
Stg
"and countries are still being run decently..."
Czechia: **Am I joke to you?**
uninstalling the facebook app is something I had done a long time ago.
HUuuge time saver
wish i could do the same with the youtube app though
You can disable the app in the settings, I do that sometimes when I have a lot of work to do
Uninstalling yt is like uninstalling google 😕
TH-cam is great if you are suscribed to great channels and you don't spend too much time on it
Michael Jones this is true. I often find that my recommended section determines my mood and my productivity. When it is filled with games channels after watching a few, I get even more addicted to watching them and then have to try extra hard to change my recommended to something else. It is the same reversed, when it’s filled with videos like this one here (which it is now). I feel somewhat inspired and motivated, with an aspiring sense of self worth and belief. From a psychological point of view, it is very very interesting. (I might also add, like someone already has in this thread, I haven’t had social media in almost 3 years and I have got so much time back and can only recommend it to everyone!)
@@itsabaddayforwhitepeopledu3415 I feel exactly the same, it depends on what you watch and how much time you spend watching it.
I could dump every social media in an instant but I can't just let go of memes.
i suggest you to do it but shortening the time every day; like today 2 hours ,next day 1 hour 45 minutes and them there is a day that you just dont need it . it works as a drug you have to minimize the consumption.
Haha people kinda joke about injecting the memes, but the thing is they’re pretty much like drugs when u think about it
Try Reddit
Same :,-)
The Blue Sun Ah
A man of culture🧘🏽♂️
I love that we can see you reading your script when you look off to the side while speaking! I know I sound a lot more presentable when I use a script too. It's really helpful :) Thanks for the awesome videos!
This video really massively mind blew me, sadly-checking my phone constantly has made me a very socially anxious guy in my adult life and I never used to be that way, I used to be social and be able to talk to anyone but now I get too nervous to even approach because I don’t know how to say something anymore.
Also sometimes I use text terms in person which is always a face palm but I truly want more people to talk since that has become minimal of its own with this going on.
same
Quit social media nearly 2 years ago, never been happier!
... But you're on TH-cam 👀
Damon Jnr is that still considered social media?
Dont you get bored
How could you ?!
I tried for just one day but i was nerves
@@blackbat121 The brain requires retraining. You will feel the effects of not using social media for a while because it's something you've done for a very long time and it's become your source of pleasure. We are hardwired to seek pleasure and when we use social media, our brain makes this connection between pleasure and social media, so it will make you feel uncomfortable and send you urges to get another hit of dopamine to scratch that itch so to speak. Hence why when we feel nervous or irritable, our instinctive reaction is to pick up our phones and pointlessly scroll through SM.
We need to show our brain that we don't need social media as a source of pleasure. This can be done by allowing the intense energy of the urge to be there whilst we resist/refrain from acting on that urge and finding something else more productive to do with our time. I call it the acceptance and replacement strategy. This may not work for every single person but it certainly has been working for me... so far :)
Nice Blade Runner 2049 wallpaper
Thank you for making self help videos that are actually engaging and even funny at some points. Keep up the awesome work!!!
Thank you. Honestly, thank you. This was very useful and insightful.
True, my productivity drop because I always check my phone or social media. It took me time to cut it away and focus on my things to produce more results. It's okay to check your phone, but too much exposure on it is not good.
I start checking my phone when I'm outside because of social anxiety, i try to distract myself from the fact that I'm surrounded by people
Same 😬
Maybe if you force yourself to not use your phone when you are surrounded by people or with people that will help you with overcome you social anxiety
@@charbelnakhoul2968 Tried that. Instead fixing my anxiety it induced anxiety panic attack and i felt like I'm about to die. The only way to calm anxiety is having someone close to you that knows you have anxiety issues.
I do this too. I’ve often wondered if it’s a temporary fix for a serious problem because if I didn’t have my phone or it was dead, I might have a panic attack.
@@techzoid6999 Doing wrong! You make your anxiety worse.
8:40 "And that's just dumb" « perfectly describes LinkedIn
Excellent video. Love the concept of Digital Minimalism
havent found the channel like this useful, interesting and helpful in a while, im in love with this content
That 'F --> Enter' combo is too real
Something you might find helpful: Changing default ringtone on your phone. So that when other's phone ring you won't get the urge to check yours. Takes a few days to get used to it.
People get really annoyed with me because of this, but I actually turned off both the ringer and the vibration on my phone. I was perfectly fine not knowing the exact moment I got a notification, and if somebody called me, they would leave a message if it was important. I recently got a Fitbit, though, and one feature I wasn’t aware of was that it tells me when I get a call or a message. Still, I don’t mind it, because it’s easy to ignore, I can read the message on the Fitbit, and my friends are a lot happier that I actually know when they message me now.
Better yet, make your own lol
Man that news feed eradicator thing is godsent! Love the video also, some really good points that I am trying to apply to my daily life as well. thanks for sharing!
so glad I came across your channel yesterday
Does anyone else get "the twitch" whenever you reach for your phone but you forgot it, or you suddenly become aware that you mindlessly reached for it?
Yep
I have a gift where I dont use social media at all but I'm disconnected with people
Go out more. You’ll talk to people eventually even if you don’t intend to
Thx, for sharing the idea of Digital Minimalism and optimalization questions!
I'm currently binging all of your videos and gleaning every tidbit of wisdom you're sharing with us! THANK YOU!
Some important information on a growing problem, great content, thanks Joey.
I learned so much from this! Thank you!
YESSSS. News feed eradicator. Instantly downloaded (even though you just told me to be more particular about what apps I use) and love it. Ironic, but helpful.
Social media has become from education and keeping up to date to using it for comparison and judgement of one’s own life. Not realizing most social media is constructed, cultivated and fake.
Loved this video
Man you really deserve millions of subscribers. Your ideas are really unique.
Keep it up!
One might even say he has better ideas
He just found "adulting" earlier for his age , and is explaining it to kids/young adults that need "adulting" in their life
It's true I check my phone compulsively, but only to see if I have a text.
Hm, I suppose I lied. As I commented saying I don't check my phone compulsively, but I do check my phone for texts.
I just spent the best 11:34 mins watching your video and reflecting on my mindless consumption of useless social media. Thanks for the recommendation! Will look into digital minimalism !
Dude this was really very informative and helpful . Thanks 👍
1:20 "when you're in the middle of an essay". Got me there pal...
Wow that newsfeed eradicator extension is amazing! Big up!
Man your videos are amazing. So triggering and insightful. Thanks 🙏
First video I have seen from you, seems like the TH-cam algorithm did a good job by recommending your channel to me!
Great style of video and a very chill interaction with the audience. Keep it up man
man your discipline is hugeee I really admire you. I have kind of a necessity to scroll through instagram and its almost impossible for me delete it. Keep up all this great videos
Beautifully put! Thanks for your service. Love your style.
So damn helpful! I directly installed the news feed eradicator! Thank you!
Best video on this topic hands down.
Too many have a problem with "phone addiction" (including me, but i've been working on it for the last couple of months)
The real turning point for me was when it was starting to affect the time spent with ones i love.
Some great realistic tactics in this video.
Super important topic. Well done. Like your approach to FB, did the same ;).
Thanks man! This showed my a new perspective. You explained everything perfectly.
Thank you. I think this is going to be life-saving. I'm grateful
You're my favourite youtuber right now. Every day i have some freetime, i'm watching one of your videos and it adds so much value to my life. Small changes and i see big outcomes. Keep going ! :)
Thanks for stopping by :)
If I was sitting across from you wearing that tank top, I wouldn’t think of my phone.
You made me smile, thank you
This helped a lot! Thanks!
Thank you so much for this video. It made me delete Instagram which I used to watch people sharing their life/photo’s/stories I am not even interested in 😂. The people I am interested in I can call or text. It made me feel much better to not be on Instagram which is full of perfect life’s and makes me compare myself to that which is truly toxic. The two questions in your video made me realize all of this. So big thanks again and looking forward to watch all of your videos. You are doing such a great job! 🙏🏼
I like listening to you. I recently became a certified life coach and am pulling together my niche to focus on. Your steady and humorous antidotes are really helpful. Thanks!
How do people find a life coach?
I've been wavering my screentime over the last year and notice that it's more difficult to keep in touch with some people who "socialize" more online than they do in person. It's led to less people in my life, which I'm happy with! Social media lets us think we have all of this camaraderie with people that mutually interact with us when we may not even be able to hold a significant conversation with them in person.
As always, thank you for sharing your findings and insights with us!
This is awesome. Thanks for uploading!
This is excellent information. Thanks, Joey! I can't believe I'm just now discovering your channel.
One more helpful thing besides stripping down the number of social media accounts you have is, switching off notifications for all the remaining apps. Only see your notifications when you actually open the app, when you get free. Been doing this since last 2-3 years and it seems quite helpful to me!
TH-cam should lead me to more videos like this more often
High quality content 👍🏻
Thank you. Downloading the book on digital minimalism now. Going on a digital minimalism lifestyle
This was extremely helpful and life changing for me. Thank you so much!
Really hesitated on clicking on this video, you've described and explained this problem very well and in an an intelligent way, I thought it was gonna be one of these videos on how phones are bad and new generations are ruined, good work!
Hi, I have quit social media for over a month. I am loving it. I don't regret at all. Thanks for your videos. I have been really productive and gave more time to myself and fam.
Loved to That Bladerunner Scene as the desktop background😉👌
I love this video!! Congrats, keep going! Thanks for helping opening our eyes😊
This is such a big struggle for me
:(... Its cripling my social anxiety
Dat view to like to dislike ratio 😮
Dude, you're making great videos. Thanks for addressing this stuff.
Very good video, helped me a lot!
That Blade Runner 2049 PC wallpaper tho! ♥
It would be great to have a video of your suggestions for apps to avoid. Explained like your thoughts on Instagram
Such an important conversation to be having. Thanks for sharing!
I'm so glad I found this channel great content and advice you are an inspiration keep it up!
Since I've deleted League Of Legends yesterday(account too), I've won soo much time that Iam considering buying a guitar to learn, instead of wandering the internet.
Omg league!!!! I only keep just in case they bring URF back lol but good for you!!
I keep league because I'm excited about new champions/reworks and lore. I don't care about the actual game anymore :/
League of legends is such a massive waste of time because of how long the games are... start with a ukelele! They’re 10 times easier and I’m telling you you’ll fall in love with the sounds, buy a medium sized one from a real instrument shop, not one that looks like it’s for a child lol.
oh wow, congrats! keep it up!
Just a heads up about learning guitar: I'd recommend getting a teacher in the beginning until you've figured out the basics because teaching yourself guitar can be very difficult. However, learning an instrument is one of the most rewarding things you can do. Which is why I've learned five lol.
When you're socially awkward so you look at your phone instead
Damn man! This is the second vid from you I’ve checked out and it’s literally just as relatable to the first😂 Again, thank you! You’ve truly got some things figured out my man, God bless✝️🙌🏼👍🏼
Thanks for this!
I see from your background you like blade runner, good man 👍🏻
These rewards are some of the most powerful and ancient rewards; memes.
LOL'ed irl 😂😂
Thanks for this useful information 💗
When you pull a laptop out of your pocket instead of a phone