I know I am just a stranger in the comments , but I Just wanted to say that you are beautiful and amazing no matter what anyone else says. In this world now a days true friends are hard to find , but if you ever need someone to talk to , hmu whenever . Always remember you are worth it , you are special , and that you have a purpose in life💕
This ❤️❤️ I can totally relate to this feeling. All my life I’ve been constantly overthinking every decision I make to “make sure that it’s acceptable to my friends/family” which I’m finally realizing is impossible. Our wedding is less than a month away and this whole experience has taught me that no ones opinion really matters. I need to put my happiness first.
not one video of her where im like, "oh, this video was't s good as the last". all of her stuff is incredible. and her editing is also very incredible.
something ive learned with the text responding is not everything needs a response if it only benefits the other person. setting a boundary to not always be available to people and being available when i’m emotionally and physically there
Honestly I disagree ignoring people is super rude. There are ways to acknowledge peoples texts without necessarily responding. Emojis, giving a thumbs up or a like….you can set boundaries without being disrespectful.
Claudia saying “it’s okay to let someone down because you’re deciding to choose yourself” is the one thing in this world i’ve been needing for a while, i recently ended a friendship because i needed to do it for myself and the situation i’m in and i felt so guilty for it but Claudia saying that made me feel that yeah it’s okay to be a bit selfish sometimes yk?
right i really feel you! I’ve been having to be in the same situation as you! I just had a fight with my friend bc i chose me over her and she’s mad at me for that, and claudia said these really made me realize that it’s okay to be a bit selfish sometimes for your own sake
@@nunertnvl i hope your situation gets better and i’m so sorry that she was mad at you for choosing yourself. i’ve also been feeling really guilty for myself over that because i feel like that person hates me(even though i don’t talk to them anymore) though i gave a good reason to why i need to end the friendship. (sorry for oversharing)
I can relate 100% to you. Ended a relationship even though they were closest to amazing. Feels like being alone is what I should do at this stage of my life. Better days will come. It’s okay to sacrifice something for your own mental health. P.s I strongly believe what should be will be. So go with the flow. ❤️ Wish you all the peace and happiness
Can so relate to the texting thing! Texting has become so overwhelming to me during the pandemic, between overanalysing every conversation to just not having the mental capacity to respond. But it's okay to take the time that we need to be present
i now realize that this is what i felt during the pandemic with face to face or phone calls conversations, i just wasn’t me and my brain was shut out of nerves and i couldn’t process the ongoing conversation well enough to be responsive. it made some people to take a step back from me but the true friends stayed, and also with them i didn’t feel that had that problem
claudia, your editing is beautiful! it’s so smooth and just brings inspiration, joy, and comfort to me whenever i put on your videos ☺️ sending you love 🤍
from my pov and the way I've perceived you for years, watching you talk about therapy and the way we carry certain things meant sooo incredibly much for me. Mad respect and admiration for you since the first time I watched your videos. You go Cloob.
I like how you've enjoyed and learned stuff about yourself that you didn't know with therapy. Thank you for being open with us about what you've learned in therapy🥰🥰🥰
I genuinely relate to the fear of being misunderstood because I’m one of those people that leaves a conversation thinking “oh maybe I shouldn’t have said that” or “maybe they took what I said the wrong way” and I can usually never let it go and I assume that no one actually understands how I truly am and that’s why it’s hard for me to make true friends.
so proud of your growth and introspectiveness. I've been learning how to better communicate my needs with my partner! also the last ten minutes was like free therapy? we love it
I'm incredibly appreciative of your willingness and vulnerability to share your therapy journey, Claudia. I have never quite been able to put into words why texting too stresses me out, and I feel a huge amount of responsibility for people I spend time with, or talk to, in return harming my own inner balance and ability to feel comfortable in social settings. Everything you said made absolutely perfect sense (thank you claudia's therapist), and it put my mind at ease..... also I probably need to start therapy too. Haha. Thank you for your vlogs and the love and light that intertwines them. Oh also, the trinket box on your bedroom dresser reminds me of the chocolates box from Matilda. 💗
Claudia thank you so much for opening up about your fear of letting people down, when I watched your first video I realised I have the same struggle as you and it's honestly great hearing that other people have this fear, too. You're the only person I know who struggles with this and is so open and honest about it. Thanks it really helped me Also love your videos ❤️❤️
@@chryssa_kes I know I am just a stranger in the comments , but I Just wanted to say that you are beautiful and amazing no matter what anyone else says. In this world now a days true friends are hard to find , but if you ever need someone to talk to , hmu whenever . Always remember you are worth it and you are special no matter what anyone else says. 💕
The point you brought up about the fear of being misunderstood is so interesting and relatable, too. One thing I’ve learned is “Self care is choosing not to argue with people who are committed to misunderstanding you”. So important! ♥️
1:00 60's sofa. My mom had one, this exact color and fabric. 7:34 Also getting a 60's-retro vibe from this dresser. 11:56 FYI my grandmother was a painter, she always kept her doors closed. She even put nice cloths under her doors to keep the dust out. So clever. Once a week I have to dust... and I don't mean cat-tail dusting. I mean damp rag and cleaning dust off and then rinsing said-rag, and repeat. Dusting is the worst, but you gotta do it right.
the glow up Claudia’s closet had is crazyyyy!!went from two little closet that she kept the door open to make it like a walking closet to a entire room!!im so happy for her
You are so well spoken Claudia, when I was hearing you talk about your biggest fear is letting people down I could help but relate to that, but I am so proud of you for realizing your strength inside yourself 💛
Meanwhile, I feel this through a different angle. Whenever someone leaves me on read or just leaves by liking the last msg, I feel truly vulnerable and confused about where I went wrong. Didn't realise it until now. Thank you Claudia!
I’m genuinely happy whenever Claudia talks to us. I always feel so special when I watch her videos. I always seem to forget that thousands of other strangers are watching the same content as I am haha
I have never related more to someone about the fear of texting. You literally explained how I feel about texting, word for word, it was a bit eerie. Especially about the passing of time. How eventually, just not responding because you think you’ve taking too long and feeling lame about it. It was very refreshing to hear that I’m not the only one who thinks this way so thank you! (&I’ve never commented on a video before but I related so much and felt so moved I had to)
I’ve learned that stressing over the people you care about only makes matters worse. There is a reason people are close to you, they care and want the best for you.
omg your personal therapy talk and recent realizations is so relevant to my life right now! i have actually been realizing the same thing as I get older and go through big changes of life. life is too short and we HAVE to look out for ourselves!!
goodness claudia, it's like you are in my brain with everything you said about what you've learned in therapy...every single thing i related to, with genuinely connecting to everyone...texting...all of it. CRAZY. this was so helpful!
Oh what do you know, I was just watching Claudia's old vlog from 3 years ago and the vlog queen herself fed me by posting a new video right now. Talk about timing! Love to Claudia
Claudia sharing her therapy is so mind opening to me like.. I have the same problem and never realized. TELL ME WHAT OTHER TH-camR! Is so genuine and thoughtful and wise in her videos like. She's the most mature and positive one.
LOVE those Harley Davidson wedges! Also would you do a video just on all of your fragrances/perfumes and how you decide which to wear and how you decide to buy them? I think it would be really interesting!
I think what I’ve learned thanks to therapy is that every reaction I have is rooted in something else. So if something small like someone keeps talking to me while I’m at my laptop working, I ask myself: “why is this making me so angry?” And I keep asking more about why until I reach the source, like “I feel like when I’m bothered, that person doesn’t care about my work and my time.” And it can go even deeper than that to instances during childhood. Therapy really is such a gift because it helps you understand yourself and your habits so much deeper.
I really appreciated your vulnerability in sharing what you've been learning from therapy - the way in which you articulate your emotions + the things you have learned along your journey is incredibly inspiring and beautiful! thank you for sharing xox
i'm going thru a terrible narcissistic and manipulative break up and i really needed someone else to talk about their therapy like I'm not alone with being vulnerable 5 years of an online relationship thank you
wow your discoveries through therapy really resonate with me, that's something i've never been able to put into words, thank you for sharing that!! we love hearing the progress, and breaking the stigma around therapy
I love watching her videos so much they give me so much peace and these talking videos help me realise a lot of things . I'm also a people pleaser and watching this makes me feel like there is someone else like me and can be related to , it just feels good !!!
My therapist said something really life changing to me once, “It’s not selfish, it’s self-care.” Sounds so simple, but truly changed the way I look at situations where I’m being codependent or trying to people please.
Literally, as I was watching your part about hating texting made me realize something similar. I feel the same way about phone calls they make me super anxious I hate answering the phone but I always thought it was just a part of my social anxiety. But the video I watched before this was about different personality types, mine being INFJ, which made me realize I probably hate phone calls because I can't read a person without seeing them. I can pick up on body langue very easily and interpret their emotion visually rather than hearing them speak. sorry this was long, we love a little midnight spiral :)
claudia!!!! your chat at the end has me shook to the bones i kept pressing the rewind ten seconds button being like "okay girl lemme welcome this into myself again" lmao. Time and time again you prove how to show yourself through your platform whether it be your unique editing, your beautiful family, your healthy recipes and especially sharing what you're learning in your healing journey. You're by far my favourite creator and you smuggle so much light and genuine peace into everything you produce. Sending you all my love mama xxx
Learning that people pleasing is actually a form of manipulation was really eye opening for me. It’s not helpful for either party and can cause a lot of hurt!
It's crazy how much Claudia shines her light to so many people being so open about her life. What a time to be alive to be able to hear everything someone across the world has to say. Crazyyyy amazing. Love you, Claudia. Thank you for having the courage to be vulnerable in front of the camera and share everything that helps you grow. ❤️❤️❤️
I've realised recently that its hard for me to accept the person or stage of life I'm in now cause it's very transitional between college and getting a job. So I just end being unhappy even if I'm actually growing positively in my intellect and starting to like new things....also because I feel that nobody in my life is as excited about the same things that I am. So I have decided to accept myself slowly and just try each day not to be unhappy for growing and being at this stage. I really want to feel content but it's a struggle each day. Also your videos sooth me Claudia...so thank you for sharing ❤
I am 7 months to the party, but this video resonated with me a lot. Setting aside the wonderfully organised closet (which I mean, GOALS); the part where you talked about giving vs. pleasing could not have come at a better time. This pandemic and the preparation for the past two years of an exam that will determine the rest of my professional career have drained me a bit. However, despite not being completely well and needing time and energy for myself; I was constantly trying to make sure that the people around me didn’t feel left out by me, or not cared of. When I was the one feeling left out and needing to be cared for. So yeah, I was pleasing everyone and it was draining me. I can’t wait for the exam (cause I don’t know when the pandemic will end) to be over, so I can take the time to get myself together, and focus on myself in order to be able to give without losing. Thank you for sharing this x
I cannot put in words how much I love this woman. She spreads so many good vibes and positivity and I admire how she is so open about topics considering her personal life. Claudia Never fails to brighten up my day and making me smile with her loving character
Claudia, everything you said was SO important to me because i noticed i have the same problem and never thought about the duality of give attention, love vs sacrificing myself for other people when i'm not ok enough to respond or focus on other things. sometimes i just don't have the motivation to respond and then i think it's too late but it's never too late, our minds creates those limits that doesn't really exist just to sabotage our life and our relationships! ps: i'm very proud of you open up with us and very proud of your process of discovering yourself
Hi Claudia, I’ve been watching TH-camrs for years and have grown in and out of various channels but have always stuck with yours. After you opened up about what you learned in therapy, I realized the internal struggles we share and I thank you for sharing them with me, I now feel less alone. I usually never engage online so as I try to construct that perfect message, just wanted to let you know you’ve been an inspiration to me :)
Proving that literally ANYTHING looks good on confidence (and also Claudia) Bc tbh I thought each of those Thred Up items looked hideous individually 😬. But as soon as she put them on… a VIBE
Thank you for sharing a part of your story on dealing with the pressure of people pleasing. It felt like you were talking straight to me, because I deal with the same fear(s). It inspired me to start keeping a journal to so that I can reflect more often but also see growth through the pages. Thank you for sharing a part of your story and making me feel normal about the same feelings I'm feeling! You're such a great role model, I truelly look up to you! Lots of love
Hi Claudia! I’m so happy for your journey! Some of the symptoms that you have described sound similar to hyper vigilance, which some people may develop in their childhood. A lot of people who become hyper vigilance often also feel like they’re responsible for other people’s moods. Some people find it helpful to create a geno-chart about themselves and their family (parents, grandparents, etc.) to try to identify the kind of family dynamics they were exposed to growing up. There are some really great TH-cam channels that describe different family dynamics and traits that may develop from them!
What you spoke about in this video proves how much of a thoughtful and self aware person you are. I love people that self reflect and don’t just go through life without looking within themselves and trying to improve as a person. We’re here once why not make a difference where we can whether that’s within ourselves or how we treat others. Loved this Claudia ♥️
what you mentioned about consciously unlearning habits that have been ingrained in you since childhood is something i resonate with so muuuuch. please know you made me feel heard today ♥️
i look forward to her videos so much! i find so much peace in her presence and i love the habits she has helped me start. i feel happy and healthy watching her because i always know something beneficial and lovely will come out of it! ❤️❤️
Yo, loved hearing you talk about some of what you learned about yourself with therapy, and it totally resonated with me - not so much with texting, but with my social anxiety overall. Being about giving, rather than pleasing really speaks to having a healthier mindset in these things. I have learned tons, having therapy, and even on instagram, throughout following holistic psychologists and astrologers - I feel so grateful to have come across so much knowledge, it's wonderful to talk about too. About somantic healing, the nervous system, your birth chart... I also finished a journal I started last year I think, in the past week. And you're so right, it's beautifully satisfying, and I found myself reflecting on how far I've come since first writing in this one as well. So so far, journalling is so therapeutic for me as well. Thanks for the lovely reflections and discussion girl xx
Sounds like at the core your greatest fear is CONTROL! Not trying to push something on you that doesn't resonate but just had to say it. I find control issues to be at the core of so many peoples issues due to childhood and feeling like life is chaotic and trying to make sense of it 💖
I relate so much to what you said about texting. I actually discussed it with my therapist last week! I told her that while I consider responding to messages a task, there are people on the other end that I do want to make a connection with. I genuinely want to give a thought out response to every text or message I get, but sometimes then I put it off like “oh well I’ll do it later when I can put more effort into it.” Which just leads into getting to the point where it’s been too long and I shouldn’t even reply. She suggested something similar where I should respond in a timely manner, but if I’m not in the mood or don’t have the time to chat/put effort, I can respond something like “hey! I got your message and I will get back to you once I have a moment to.” Or same as what you said, even just to like the message or acknowledge that I received it is enough. Texting/messages truly stress me out so much sometimes even though it seems like the simplest thing, I’m so grateful I could relate and hear someone else talking about it! It’s a hard thing to explain sometimes as not everyone feels the same. Sending you lots of love Claudia! Love you and your videos always ☺️❤️
I just started therapy and had watched your video mentioning your first session before I had my first session because I was so nervous haha. But the biggest thing I’ve learned so far about myself is that I have a big issues with boundaries. My therapist said something very interesting. I focus too much on being a “good person”, “good friend”, “good girlfriend”, or whatever and I put that at a higher value than having good relationships. I don’t establish my boundaries because I want to be seen as a good person, but it harms my relationships because I don’t express my needs and how things make me feel. It makes me resent the other person, which is unfair to them and myself. Definitely something I haven’t stopped thinking about
Your just so legit in what u make and it could seem quite hard for some to speak about what your life is like but ur just fine with it and it’s really amazing
The part where you’re talking about texting and ‘code switching’ I found interesting because I think this is definitely a new age where all this influence (technology) has not been fully researched or analyzed or has yet to even become hindsight (and hindsight is 20/20) so it’s hard to come to these realizations. But we code switch all the time when we speak to someone. We cater to everyone’s sense of humor, fluctuations, and we develop microlanguages with everyone that we have connections with. Or more simply put, ‘insiders’. Same exact thing just in text forms. Life is definitely complicated but don’t go so far to over complicate things for yourself. You can fix things forever and at some point have to think, therapy doesn’t have to be about changing everything but more becoming aware of yourself and the things you do, sometimes being aware is enough.
I would absolutely absolutely love if you made a podcast about certain revelations that you’ve had/are having. they help me so much and I relate to everything you’ve shared. ily
Woah, thanks for opening up about the mental things you're going through. That giving/pleasing blew my mind. I've known I'm a people pleaser, but I had no idea it was that extreme looking back on all the times I didn't say no. Wow. Like damn. Thank you. Very damn much. Much love to you, Finneas and Peaches
Thank you so much Claudia for being vulnerable and sharing your personal experiences. As I leave my teen years and enter into adulthood I’ve spent a lot of time interpreting and exploring my responses as well and I’ve found myself having similar experiences and feelings to you. It’s so nice to be able to hear something that I’ve been trying to comprehend expressed in the way that I feel also thank you so much and keep up the amazing work on your videos xx
Claudia is my therapist now! I can't help it, everything she says is so personal, and so real! I look forward to every vlog not only for the fab fashion/decor updates but for the fact that I'm so uplifted and inspired every time I see her! 🥰
At around 14:50 it felt so good to know that somebody feels the same way I do!! I get so worried about texting and the thought of somebody taking what I texted the wrong way scares me so much. Thank you for sharing because it made me feel amazing to know I'm not alone in the way I'm feeling!💜
Speaking about our inner dialogue: I remember my therapist saying we have an inner dialogue that was developed by our environment. I have the same self destructive dialogue at times and my therapist told me to at least get to 51% positive dialogue because that 1% will make a difference when you’re not being fair to yourself. We are going to be our own roommates forever. We need to treat ourselves like our own friends.
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Sharing your therapy is the kindest thing, thank you for all the relatable content.
yes really, also it really made me question myself and be aware of how do I feel about it
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I just wanna be peaches
@Chris Klemens Omg Chris I wanna be you I love you so much😭
“it’s okay to let someone down because you’re deciding to choose yourself” i really needed that🥺 thank you💗
I know I am just a stranger in the comments , but I Just wanted to say that you are beautiful and amazing no matter what anyone else says. In this world now a days true friends are hard to find , but if you ever need someone to talk to , hmu whenever . Always remember you are worth it , you are special , and that you have a purpose in life💕
This ❤️❤️ I can totally relate to this feeling. All my life I’ve been constantly overthinking every decision I make to “make sure that it’s acceptable to my friends/family” which I’m finally realizing is impossible. Our wedding is less than a month away and this whole experience has taught me that no ones opinion really matters. I need to put my happiness first.
I love when Claudia models all her outfits for us, she looks so pretty with everything
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not one video of her where im like, "oh, this video was't s good as the last". all of her stuff is incredible. and her editing is also very incredible.
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something ive learned with the text responding is not everything needs a response if it only benefits the other person. setting a boundary to not always be available to people and being available when i’m emotionally and physically there
U just put my thoughts in words:)
Honestly I disagree ignoring people is super rude. There are ways to acknowledge peoples texts without necessarily responding. Emojis, giving a thumbs up or a like….you can set boundaries without being disrespectful.
Claudia saying “it’s okay to let someone down because you’re deciding to choose yourself” is the one thing in this world i’ve been needing for a while, i recently ended a friendship because i needed to do it for myself and the situation i’m in and i felt so guilty for it but Claudia saying that made me feel that yeah it’s okay to be a bit selfish sometimes yk?
right i really feel you! I’ve been having to be in the same situation as you! I just had a fight with my friend bc i chose me over her and she’s mad at me for that, and claudia said these really made me realize that it’s okay to be a bit selfish sometimes for your own sake
@@nunertnvl i hope your situation gets better and i’m so sorry that she was mad at you for choosing yourself. i’ve also been feeling really guilty for myself over that because i feel like that person hates me(even though i don’t talk to them anymore) though i gave a good reason to why i need to end the friendship. (sorry for oversharing)
I can relate 100% to you. Ended a relationship even though they were closest to amazing. Feels like being alone is what I should do at this stage of my life. Better days will come. It’s okay to sacrifice something for your own mental health.
P.s I strongly believe what should be will be. So go with the flow. ❤️ Wish you all the peace and happiness
I think we can all agree Claudia and Finneas are our internet parents
agreed!
Can so relate to the texting thing! Texting has become so overwhelming to me during the pandemic, between overanalysing every conversation to just not having the mental capacity to respond. But it's okay to take the time that we need to be present
Same! But I wasn’t aware of it until listening Claudia’s perspective, how weird is that as humans we can’t really understand our own mind
i now realize that this is what i felt during the pandemic with face to face or phone calls conversations, i just wasn’t me and my brain was shut out of nerves and i couldn’t process the ongoing conversation well enough to be responsive. it made some people to take a step back from me but the true friends stayed, and also with them i didn’t feel that had that problem
claudia, your editing is beautiful! it’s so smooth and just brings inspiration, joy, and comfort to me whenever i put on your videos ☺️ sending you love 🤍
from my pov and the way I've perceived you for years, watching you talk about therapy and the way we carry certain things meant sooo incredibly much for me. Mad respect and admiration for you since the first time I watched your videos. You go Cloob.
I like how you've enjoyed and learned stuff about yourself that you didn't know with therapy. Thank you for being open with us about what you've learned in therapy🥰🥰🥰
i’m always loving it when claudia posts another video!
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I genuinely relate to the fear of being misunderstood because I’m one of those people that leaves a conversation thinking “oh maybe I shouldn’t have said that” or “maybe they took what I said the wrong way” and I can usually never let it go and I assume that no one actually understands how I truly am and that’s why it’s hard for me to make true friends.
The prices from thred up are ridiculous, Kirra Sunshine was a kids beach brand, that same skirt sold for $10 on depop a year ago
I was wondering how on earth that skirt could be $214 originally…
Seriously, it’s giving *scam*
They sell skirts like that at Walmart…
@@xonikkiecal I wore skirts like that from limited too in elementary school 🤣
Exactly my thoughts
so proud of your growth and introspectiveness. I've been learning how to better communicate my needs with my partner! also the last ten minutes was like free therapy? we love it
I'm incredibly appreciative of your willingness and vulnerability to share your therapy journey, Claudia. I have never quite been able to put into words why texting too stresses me out, and I feel a huge amount of responsibility for people I spend time with, or talk to, in return harming my own inner balance and ability to feel comfortable in social settings. Everything you said made absolutely perfect sense (thank you claudia's therapist), and it put my mind at ease..... also I probably need to start therapy too. Haha. Thank you for your vlogs and the love and light that intertwines them. Oh also, the trinket box on your bedroom dresser reminds me of the chocolates box from Matilda. 💗
Claudia thank you so much for opening up about your fear of letting people down, when I watched your first video I realised I have the same struggle as you and it's honestly great hearing that other people have this fear, too. You're the only person I know who struggles with this and is so open and honest about it. Thanks it really helped me
Also love your videos ❤️❤️
Thanks for the heart it made my day 😊❤️
@@chryssa_kes I know I am just a stranger in the comments , but I Just wanted to say that you are beautiful and amazing no matter what anyone else says. In this world now a days true friends are hard to find , but if you ever need someone to talk to , hmu whenever . Always remember you are worth it and you are special no matter what anyone else says. 💕
@@beautyfromwithin0173 thank you 💕
The point you brought up about the fear of being misunderstood is so interesting and relatable, too. One thing I’ve learned is “Self care is choosing not to argue with people who are committed to misunderstanding you”. So important! ♥️
Why are FINNEAS and Claudia just the cutest couple?
Claudia: "is this interesting to you guys??" me: YESSSSSSSS
21 minutes of mental stability 🥰
I adopted you and Finneas as my parents a long time ago. So much love in that household.
1:00 60's sofa. My mom had one, this exact color and fabric. 7:34 Also getting a 60's-retro vibe from this dresser. 11:56 FYI my grandmother was a painter, she always kept her doors closed. She even put nice cloths under her doors to keep the dust out. So clever. Once a week I have to dust... and I don't mean cat-tail dusting. I mean damp rag and cleaning dust off and then rinsing said-rag, and repeat. Dusting is the worst, but you gotta do it right.
the glow up Claudia’s closet had is crazyyyy!!went from two little closet that she kept the door open to make it like a walking closet to a entire room!!im so happy for her
she’s back !!!
You are so well spoken Claudia, when I was hearing you talk about your biggest fear is letting people down I could help but relate to that, but I am so proud of you for realizing your strength inside yourself 💛
Meanwhile, I feel this through a different angle. Whenever someone leaves me on read or just leaves by liking the last msg, I feel truly vulnerable and confused about where I went wrong. Didn't realise it until now. Thank you Claudia!
Def with you on the unlearning part! Feels so good to be curious about whatever else I have in store for myself. Thanks for sharing
Wow the part about "texting" was so helpful, you really made me be aware of myself!! Thank you for sharing, love you!!!!!
I’m genuinely happy whenever Claudia talks to us. I always feel so special when I watch her videos. I always seem to forget that thousands of other strangers are watching the same content as I am haha
the way that peaches lays on the bed while claudia cleans the living room is so cute
I have never related more to someone about the fear of texting. You literally explained how I feel about texting, word for word, it was a bit eerie. Especially about the passing of time. How eventually, just not responding because you think you’ve taking too long and feeling lame about it. It was very refreshing to hear that I’m not the only one who thinks this way so thank you! (&I’ve never commented on a video before but I related so much and felt so moved I had to)
the distinction you shared between giving vs pleasing really blew my mind. 🤯 also those studded shoes are EVERYTHING!!
I’ve learned that stressing over the people you care about only makes matters worse. There is a reason people are close to you, they care and want the best for you.
that's such a good reminder
It always amazes me how productive you are one day, and I only managed to shower today lol
Thats still a big step!! Hope you accomplish everything you set out to do tomorrow and everyday after! 😊
even small steps take you in the right direction! don't be too hard on urself
so cuteeee, the biking, the books, the outfits, the therapy conversations, peaches, finneas omg!!!!!!!!!! I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS
omg your personal therapy talk and recent realizations is so relevant to my life right now! i have actually been realizing the same thing as I get older and go through big changes of life. life is too short and we HAVE to look out for ourselves!!
goodness claudia, it's like you are in my brain with everything you said about what you've learned in therapy...every single thing i related to, with genuinely connecting to everyone...texting...all of it. CRAZY. this was so helpful!
Oh what do you know, I was just watching Claudia's old vlog from 3 years ago and the vlog queen herself fed me by posting a new video right now. Talk about timing! Love to Claudia
Claudia sharing her therapy is so mind opening to me like.. I have the same problem and never realized. TELL ME WHAT OTHER TH-camR! Is so genuine and thoughtful and wise in her videos like. She's the most mature and positive one.
LOVE those Harley Davidson wedges! Also would you do a video just on all of your fragrances/perfumes and how you decide which to wear and how you decide to buy them? I think it would be really interesting!
I think what I’ve learned thanks to therapy is that every reaction I have is rooted in something else. So if something small like someone keeps talking to me while I’m at my laptop working, I ask myself: “why is this making me so angry?” And I keep asking more about why until I reach the source, like “I feel like when I’m bothered, that person doesn’t care about my work and my time.” And it can go even deeper than that to instances during childhood. Therapy really is such a gift because it helps you understand yourself and your habits so much deeper.
I really appreciated your vulnerability in sharing what you've been learning from therapy - the way in which you articulate your emotions + the things you have learned along your journey is incredibly inspiring and beautiful! thank you for sharing xox
i'm going thru a terrible narcissistic and manipulative break up and i really needed someone else to talk about their therapy like I'm not alone with being vulnerable
5 years of an online relationship
thank you
wow your discoveries through therapy really resonate with me, that's something i've never been able to put into words, thank you for sharing that!! we love hearing the progress, and breaking the stigma around therapy
Peaches is evolving. I mean literally evolving. She sits & sleeps like a human now.
I love watching her videos so much they give me so much peace and these talking videos help me realise a lot of things .
I'm also a people pleaser and watching this makes me feel like there is someone else like me and can be related to , it just feels good !!!
My therapist said something really life changing to me once, “It’s not selfish, it’s self-care.” Sounds so simple, but truly changed the way I look at situations where I’m being codependent or trying to people please.
Literally, as I was watching your part about hating texting made me realize something similar. I feel the same way about phone calls they make me super anxious I hate answering the phone but I always thought it was just a part of my social anxiety. But the video I watched before this was about different personality types, mine being INFJ, which made me realize I probably hate phone calls because I can't read a person without seeing them. I can pick up on body langue very easily and interpret their emotion visually rather than hearing them speak. sorry this was long, we love a little midnight spiral :)
claudia!!!! your chat at the end has me shook to the bones i kept pressing the rewind ten seconds button being like "okay girl lemme welcome this into myself again" lmao. Time and time again you prove how to show yourself through your platform whether it be your unique editing, your beautiful family, your healthy recipes and especially sharing what you're learning in your healing journey. You're by far my favourite creator and you smuggle so much light and genuine peace into everything you produce. Sending you all my love mama xxx
Learning that people pleasing is actually a form of manipulation was really eye opening for me. It’s not helpful for either party and can cause a lot of hurt!
It's crazy how much Claudia shines her light to so many people being so open about her life. What a time to be alive to be able to hear everything someone across the world has to say. Crazyyyy amazing. Love you, Claudia. Thank you for having the courage to be vulnerable in front of the camera and share everything that helps you grow. ❤️❤️❤️
I've realised recently that its hard for me to accept the person or stage of life I'm in now cause it's very transitional between college and getting a job. So I just end being unhappy even if I'm actually growing positively in my intellect and starting to like new things....also because I feel that nobody in my life is as excited about the same things that I am. So I have decided to accept myself slowly and just try each day not to be unhappy for growing and being at this stage. I really want to feel content but it's a struggle each day.
Also your videos sooth me Claudia...so thank you for sharing ❤
It’s so refreshing to hear your point of view, it feels good to have someone that understands. Love you Claudia 💕
claudia's videos feel like a mini movie i get so happy seeing a notification that she posted
I am 7 months to the party, but this video resonated with me a lot.
Setting aside the wonderfully organised closet (which I mean, GOALS); the part where you talked about giving vs. pleasing could not have come at a better time.
This pandemic and the preparation for the past two years of an exam that will determine the rest of my professional career have drained me a bit. However, despite not being completely well and needing time and energy for myself; I was constantly trying to make sure that the people around me didn’t feel left out by me, or not cared of.
When I was the one feeling left out and needing to be cared for.
So yeah, I was pleasing everyone and it was draining me.
I can’t wait for the exam (cause I don’t know when the pandemic will end) to be over, so I can take the time to get myself together, and focus on myself in order to be able to give without losing.
Thank you for sharing this x
you are literally the person that makes my day better when you post !!
I cannot put in words how much I love this woman. She spreads so many good vibes and positivity and I admire how she is so open about topics considering her personal life. Claudia Never fails to brighten up my day and making me smile with her loving character
It’s scary how much i relate to you fear, of letting people down!! Thank you for sharing your personal journey 🥰
Claudia, everything you said was SO important to me because i noticed i have the same problem and never thought about the duality of give attention, love vs sacrificing myself for other people when i'm not ok enough to respond or focus on other things. sometimes i just don't have the motivation to respond and then i think it's too late but it's never too late, our minds creates those limits that doesn't really exist just to sabotage our life and our relationships! ps: i'm very proud of you open up with us and very proud of your process of discovering yourself
My day is always brighter when you post. thank you for your honesty, sense of comfort and just YOU
Hi Claudia,
I’ve been watching TH-camrs for years and have grown in and out of various channels but have always stuck with yours. After you opened up about what you learned in therapy, I realized the internal struggles we share and I thank you for sharing them with me, I now feel less alone. I usually never engage online so as I try to construct that perfect message, just wanted to let you know you’ve been an inspiration to me :)
Proving that literally ANYTHING looks good on confidence (and also Claudia) Bc tbh I thought each of those Thred Up items looked hideous individually 😬. But as soon as she put them on… a VIBE
Thank you for sharing a part of your story on dealing with the pressure of people pleasing. It felt like you were talking straight to me, because I deal with the same fear(s). It inspired me to start keeping a journal to so that I can reflect more often but also see growth through the pages. Thank you for sharing a part of your story and making me feel normal about the same feelings I'm feeling! You're such a great role model, I truelly look up to you! Lots of love
Hi Claudia! I’m so happy for your journey! Some of the symptoms that you have described sound similar to hyper vigilance, which some people may develop in their childhood. A lot of people who become hyper vigilance often also feel like they’re responsible for other people’s moods. Some people find it helpful to create a geno-chart about themselves and their family (parents, grandparents, etc.) to try to identify the kind of family dynamics they were exposed to growing up. There are some really great TH-cam channels that describe different family dynamics and traits that may develop from them!
What you spoke about in this video proves how much of a thoughtful and self aware person you are. I love people that self reflect and don’t just go through life without looking within themselves and trying to improve as a person. We’re here once why not make a difference where we can whether that’s within ourselves or how we treat others. Loved this Claudia ♥️
I related so much to the discussion about texting, hearing it verbalized like that has helped my own introspection!!
what you mentioned about consciously unlearning habits that have been ingrained in you since childhood is something i resonate with so muuuuch. please know you made me feel heard today ♥️
i look forward to her videos so much! i find so much peace in her presence and i love the habits she has helped me start. i feel happy and healthy watching her because i always know something beneficial and lovely will come out of it! ❤️❤️
Yo, loved hearing you talk about some of what you learned about yourself with therapy, and it totally resonated with me - not so much with texting, but with my social anxiety overall. Being about giving, rather than pleasing really speaks to having a healthier mindset in these things. I have learned tons, having therapy, and even on instagram, throughout following holistic psychologists and astrologers - I feel so grateful to have come across so much knowledge, it's wonderful to talk about too. About somantic healing, the nervous system, your birth chart...
I also finished a journal I started last year I think, in the past week. And you're so right, it's beautifully satisfying, and I found myself reflecting on how far I've come since first writing in this one as well. So so far, journalling is so therapeutic for me as well.
Thanks for the lovely reflections and discussion girl xx
Sounds like at the core your greatest fear is CONTROL! Not trying to push something on you that doesn't resonate but just had to say it. I find control issues to be at the core of so many peoples issues due to childhood and feeling like life is chaotic and trying to make sense of it 💖
claudia is so precious omg
Definitely finishing a journal, such self reflection and self discipline to do it. ♥️
I relate so much to what you said about texting. I actually discussed it with my therapist last week! I told her that while I consider responding to messages a task, there are people on the other end that I do want to make a connection with. I genuinely want to give a thought out response to every text or message I get, but sometimes then I put it off like “oh well I’ll do it later when I can put more effort into it.” Which just leads into getting to the point where it’s been too long and I shouldn’t even reply. She suggested something similar where I should respond in a timely manner, but if I’m not in the mood or don’t have the time to chat/put effort, I can respond something like “hey! I got your message and I will get back to you once I have a moment to.” Or same as what you said, even just to like the message or acknowledge that I received it is enough. Texting/messages truly stress me out so much sometimes even though it seems like the simplest thing, I’m so grateful I could relate and hear someone else talking about it! It’s a hard thing to explain sometimes as not everyone feels the same. Sending you lots of love Claudia! Love you and your videos always ☺️❤️
Ugh YES the pleasing vs giving !!! Such a big difference, super glad you touched on this!
I just started therapy and had watched your video mentioning your first session before I had my first session because I was so nervous haha. But the biggest thing I’ve learned so far about myself is that I have a big issues with boundaries. My therapist said something very interesting. I focus too much on being a “good person”, “good friend”, “good girlfriend”, or whatever and I put that at a higher value than having good relationships. I don’t establish my boundaries because I want to be seen as a good person, but it harms my relationships because I don’t express my needs and how things make me feel. It makes me resent the other person, which is unfair to them and myself. Definitely something I haven’t stopped thinking about
gosh, i love your videos, they just have such a vibe
“it’s okay to let someone down because you’re deciding to choose yourself” amen !!
Your just so legit in what u make and it could seem quite hard for some to speak about what your life is like but ur just fine with it and it’s really amazing
The part where you’re talking about texting and ‘code switching’ I found interesting because I think this is definitely a new age where all this influence (technology) has not been fully researched or analyzed or has yet to even become hindsight (and hindsight is 20/20) so it’s hard to come to these realizations. But we code switch all the time when we speak to someone. We cater to everyone’s sense of humor, fluctuations, and we develop microlanguages with everyone that we have connections with. Or more simply put, ‘insiders’. Same exact thing just in text forms. Life is definitely complicated but don’t go so far to over complicate things for yourself. You can fix things forever and at some point have to think, therapy doesn’t have to be about changing everything but more becoming aware of yourself and the things you do, sometimes being aware is enough.
I would absolutely absolutely love if you made a podcast about certain revelations that you’ve had/are having. they help me so much and I relate to everything you’ve shared. ily
We love a 21 minute video 💛💛💛
i love this woman sm and i will protect her at all costs
Woah, thanks for opening up about the mental things you're going through. That giving/pleasing blew my mind. I've known I'm a people pleaser, but I had no idea it was that extreme looking back on all the times I didn't say no. Wow. Like damn. Thank you. Very damn much. Much love to you, Finneas and Peaches
whos needs therapy when you have claudia
whenever i see the notification she posted on here i get really exited i LIVE for Claudia’s videos fr
Thank you so much Claudia for being vulnerable and sharing your personal experiences. As I leave my teen years and enter into adulthood I’ve spent a lot of time interpreting and exploring my responses as well and I’ve found myself having similar experiences and feelings to you. It’s so nice to be able to hear something that I’ve been trying to comprehend expressed in the way that I feel also thank you so much and keep up the amazing work on your videos xx
The fact that they bought Julie Andrews' "Homework: a memoir of my Hollywood years" and watched Mary Poppins...LOVE IT!
She’s so grounded, so empathetic and kind 🤍 Such a great influence.
Claudia is my therapist now! I can't help it, everything she says is so personal, and so real! I look forward to every vlog not only for the fab fashion/decor updates but for the fact that I'm so uplifted and inspired every time I see her! 🥰
At around 14:50 it felt so good to know that somebody feels the same way I do!! I get so worried about texting and the thought of somebody taking what I texted the wrong way scares me so much. Thank you for sharing because it made me feel amazing to know I'm not alone in the way I'm feeling!💜
Every time Claudia post I get so excited bc her videos are just fun to watch
Speaking about our inner dialogue: I remember my therapist saying we have an inner dialogue that was developed by our environment. I have the same self destructive dialogue at times and my therapist told me to at least get to 51% positive dialogue because that 1% will make a difference when you’re not being fair to yourself. We are going to be our own roommates forever. We need to treat ourselves like our own friends.
i literally squealed when i saw that you posted
you have very quickly became one of my favorite youtubers, and i love your boyfriends pop ins in every video
Claudia is the older sister I didn’t know I needed
I so happy to see that we still have nice people on this planet💕
the wedges are perhaps the most claudia thing i've ever seen. what a find