My Weight Loss Battle: An Update
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ก.ย. 2024
- I previously posted that I would attempt a 30 day experiment to get me back on track with my weight loss by limiting my Carnivore diet to simply Beef, Bacon, Butter and Eggs.
This video is an update to share what happened (or what didn't happen) during this challenge. Here is the original video where I laid out this challenge: • Getting Unstuck (My Ba...
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You did not fail, you learned what not to do.
Do you mean “what to do” ? Lol (reference to “not” commentary re language processing)
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Thinking of you as a child in the dark watching the bus go by really got me, I've been laughing with you and now😢, you are reaching hearts and making friends, with grace and gratitude, love your channel, we may have clicked for the subject but we stayed for you, 😊
Awww. Thank you!
My heart loves what you said! Beautifully spoken!
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Wow! I appreciate how open, honest, & vulnerable in sharing your struggle going back to childhood. So God bless you & thank you so much for sharing this! There’s so much I could say here but I need to gather my thoughts. First though, please do not beat yourself up, Tim! I imagine you feel like you’ve failed (as you said so) but you have already identified the sources in many ways & I KNOW you will overcome this challenge & it will be sustained!!! Look at all the people you have helped throughout your life & continued to help now in a short period of time, because of what you faced since 7th grade! When you retired, you have NUMEROUS friends! You touched so many lives with your loving, compassionate, helpful self! So be good & gentle with yourself & get up on that horse again & ride baby ride!!! You got this! Don’t let those old patterns defeat you!!! I, along with many others, will pray & cheer you on (& all those who struggle). More to come! Mad respect for you, Sir! 🙏🙏🙏
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What a candid narrative. You might have been too hard on yourself. Special diet guidelines are hard to stick with. It has taken me a long time to realize I eat too much. I do eat "real" food and make a big effort not to get real hungry or skip meals. It's working for me. You will get there, even w/o extreme measures.😊
Newly retired also. I can relate to your videos and do appreciate your wisdom. Now that my stress level has dramatically lowered, I was able to follow the keto diet and lost 42lbs. I look good, feel good mentally and physically. I love my new life, although slightly secluded, I am a full blown introvert, enjoying every minute.
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Hey Tim. I hope you realize that you have about 40,000 new friends through NRM. As a fan, I’m sorry to see you being so hard on yourself. Remember that you are newly retired and still working on new routines. I agree that the low-carb thing seems to be the way to go, especially as we age. Right now, I’m following Dr. Becky Gillaspy’s low carb plan and I like that it provides recipes I actually enjoy. I’ve been off sugar and eating low-carb for 6 weeks now and still enjoying it. Hang in there and cut yourself some slack! 🙂
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As a fellow introvert who struggles with weight I can relate to most everything you’ve shared. One thing I’ve been building as a new habit with watching TV and eating is to accomplish something small before I get the food, then I get only a single serving. If I want more I have to accomplish something else before I can get the 2nd serving. The something small could be a simple chore, or walking around the house for a few minutes. What this accomplishes is forcing me to move more, and reduces the extent of over eating. I also ask myself “Am I hungry?”, or “why do I think I need to eat right now?”, or “How are you going to feel about yourself after eating this?”, or “What can I do besides eating right now?”. Basically a list of written questions I can ask myself before grabbing unnecessary food. Sometimes even after stopping to think for a moment I still get the food, but with increasing frequency it’s becoming easier to wait and not eat in the moment.
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You aren’t alone. Right now I’m struggling. I lost 150 lbs but I’ve gained some of it back. I know how to do this but every day is a new excuse and I too fail. But we need to move forward and not be negative. We can do this! And thank you so much for putting yourself out there. You have no idea how much you help me and others.
Thank you for your honesty Tim. I find that it gets harder to lose weight as I get older.
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I admire you for putting yourself "out there" and sharing you weight struggles. As you may know, a diabetic HAS to do a lifestyle change by watching their diet to avoid spikes in glucose. I was diagnosed in 2011 and retired in 2012 because my job was very stressful and physically demanding. I started reading, having a Q&A with my doctor and nutritionist but it all seemed too complicated. I educated myself on what I should and should not eat. Bought cookbooks, etc. So, now in 2023, I can say I know which foods to stay away from. All that to say, it doesn't happen overnight or in a few days. At least not for me. Be patient, don't give up, believe in yourself and keep trying. You CAN do it. Thanks for the video!
Thank you for sharing your story!
Hello! I am your soul sister! I also sit too much, watch too much TV and you tube videos, and then beat myself up about it! I am an introvert also! I retired 11 years ago, and am learning at the age of 73, I’m going to be happy the way I am! I feel good and have my health, That’s what truly matters to me!
As an RN, the high fat meat diet is very bad for your heart. Please choose heart healthy food. Proportions are very important and yes lowering carbs will help. It has to be a lifestyle change and not a diet. You can do this!
Thank you for the concern. My doctor has signed off on Carnivore, and I follow several doctors and nutritionists (licensed) on TH-cam who give me the science behind it. If my blood work ever indicates a problem, I’ll gladly make the switch.
I encourage you to look at videos of doctors such as Ken Berry, Shawn Baker and Philip Ovadia who believe it's very healthy and they share evidence that it's actually sugar that causes heart disease. It sounded crazy to me too until I started looking into it. I also highly recommend the channel "Anthony Chaffee MD".
Growing up my dad was in the Army so we moved often. Going to new schools every 2 years made me an outcast and introverted. Your “story “ is relatable to me. I never had a serious weight problem but i did seek comfort from food. Fortunately i love being active and outdoors so have stayed at a healthy weight. Great video- thank you for being open and honest about your struggles ❤
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I’m nearly 57 and I can relate to your ‘need’ to clean your plate! I still remember coming home from kindergarten and, standing tall, announced that I “ate everything on my tray today “. I was in my 30s before I realized that I was always eating past the point of being full. For some reason, I believed that if I put the food on my plate, I couldn’t or shouldn’t waste it. I’ve never struggled with weight, I suppose I have a very high metabolism, but eating as much food as I was never felt healthy. today I try to consciously put less food on my plate as a way to not over eat. Don’t beat yourself up. Good luck in your journey.
"I've had my time of people for today" - whoo, boy!!!... I get that!
I battle with food since 7th grade myself -- that year was a TOUGH one, and changed the trajectory of my life as well. I was already beginning to use food for comfort since the age of about 9 due to my parents not being together, my dad moving clear across the country to settle down with another family, and my mom getting involved with a man I thoroughly did not like. When I turned 12, I was bullied by practically my whole 7th grade class due to several lies that my "best friend" told everyone about me. She was upset with me because I befriended someone else during the summer before 7th grade -- and that is how she got her revenge. I gained a ton of weight in 7th grade, and it has been a battle ever since.
I am now a 61 yo Christian and a member of a non-denominational church . Paul says in Hebrews not to forsake the assembling of ourselves together, and I struggle with this -- I truly do! I am exhausted when I am around so many people. And, fellowship after the service is one big carb-fest!-- People and carbs together in one room is a disaster in the making for me. It is not going to end well for me -- TRUST ME.
We all have a story. Thanks for sharing yours on camera and out in the open. We all need to be reminded that we truly aren't that different from one another.
We say are emotional/social 🥹 battery is drained 🪫!
Retired also. I started last week going to WW. I find it very motivating. Went for a walk on the boardwalk today. So increasing my steps, planning what I’m going to eat and recording it each day definitely helps me.
I am 75 and can relate to everything you said in this video. I have been a lifelong introvert, need to rest after going to town to shop or having company over. I enjoy alone time a LOT. I am more sedentary now that I am older. I am a stress eater and have gone through a lot of stress in the past few years as I cared for my elderly mother and worked with her through her many medical issues. More importantly I LOVE to cook and love food. I am overweight but have no health issues.
I have tried the Keto diet twice and my hair started falling out massively both times after a few weeks into it. I am currently focusing just on eating for my health - more of a Mediterranean diet with fresh fruits and veggies, low carb, healthy fats and not too much meat. Sometimes I use a flavorless priotein powder in my coffee if I feel the need for a little extra. I cook a nice roast every two or three weeks and then kind of slack off the red meat in between. Been kind of binging on scallops recently LOL, and trying to eat more seafood, fish and chicken.
The key to dieting in general is always going to be put less food into the body, and exercise more. I keep no "bad" snacking foods around, or I will eat them until they are gone. I prep raw veggies to have on hand each week that I can eat with a nice dip. I use some delicious Keto friendly crackers and cheese sometimes, or have a small portion of nuts, or a little dish of olives. I make Keto friendly drinks. I drink LMNT at least once a day in late morning or early afternoon and that seems to really help with food cravings. I find if I get into a rythym I only eat 2 meals a day, so I am doing basically an intermittent fasting.
I think the answer is different for everyone, depending on so many factors. I hope you find your balance! The struggle is real.
Thank you! It is definitely different for everyone.
Thank you for telling your story. I can relate to a lot of it too! I am a introvert, who worked as a RN for 35 years. I retired a year and 1/2 ago. I have struggled with weight gain most of my adult life. I am doing better with eating the right things, and I do get out an walk every day at least 1/1/2 miles, which is an improvement when i was working. I have had difficulty making friends pretty much my entire life, and since I retired it has been difficult. But i do like the quiet, and no committments. Congratulations on your increase in subscribers.
I understand introvert very well! It is so hard to be on with everyone all the time! I understand food / tv connection and also being so alone! No longer diets but has to be a lifestyle change!!
Fighting my weight since 4th grade. I did lose it at 35 yrs. But the struggle is still daily... currently Carnivore since June 2020. I live on the beach, and yet make excuses not to walk more often. Walking does make a difference, but I too have come to love my couch. My hobbies are oil painting and crafts, so the butt is still engaged in sitting 😳
I do well with a low carb, real food, (nothing processed) intermittent fasting combo along with the goal of eating healthy and avoiding the scale like the plague. I gauge my progress by how my clothes fit. I exercise in short intervals throughout the day. I’m 59 and I’m never going to have the body I had before, well life. Kids, illness, injury, aging etc.. I aim for better, not perfect.
Thanks for sharing. You are not alone. You are NOT a number on a scale. ❤
Life is a struggle. I relate to you. Being an introvert is a gift. We ‘learn’ about life and become wise. Wisdom shares with others. Now, you are sharing in the way God has provided for you. God bless you. All will be well. Prayers. My new found secret for weight loss is - intermittent fasting - the ONLY way that has been successful.
After 7 1/2 years on keto, I have learned the more carbs I eat - the more I want. Also, if I am going to "cheat" potato will not automatically knock me out of keto but a single bite of a corn tortilla will. It might be genetic (I am 3/4 Irish and 1/4 Lakota) I wonder if it was the other way around, perhaps it would be corn over potatoes.
I think the most important thing is not beating yourself up and applying words like failure is not productive or kind to yourself.
We really appreciate you! Be kind to yourself! 😊
Thank you Tim for your transparency. Be easy on yourself. You’ll get there in time. Oh do I relate to being an introvert and relishing the quiet. It’s the same for me. I can visit with family but I need quiet after a while. I am a homebody but enjoy getting out off and on. My daughter and I are together for a while and living with her helps me not become a recluse. Lol. I love to read. She has helped me get back into going to the gym and it’s becoming a habit. Although, the three pounds I lost came back. Mexican food is the culprit here also. All this to say to you also, you are not alone. My problem is I used to be able to eat anything and not gain weight. It’s been creeping on over the years. When I lived in Oregon I’d be snowed in. Sitting became a habit. When I moved to Arizona I practically ran out to the sidewalks in the sunshine and walked (WALKED) to find a new job. The pounds melted off. Now they’ve crept back. Onward, forward. I’m so happy to be a part of this community and your channel. It’s real people helping real people.
Ok, I was enthralled with your story about missing the bus. Growing up is painful. BUT, you had me laughing because I so relate to everything you shared. I love food on every level. What a gift we've been given. Oh the joy of eating food, especially with family and friends. Thanks once again for hitting the target!
Thank you for sharing a little of your childhood. Must have been hard in many areas, especially if you are a child.
How fun. I’m the first to see/like this. Do enjoy your videos.
Congratulations on being first!! :)
Don't be so hard on yourself. You are a good person and have a wonderful personality. And may I say I love to hear you sing. Never thought of you as intervert.
The struggle is real. I’m not a TV loving person but I read a lot and watch TH-cam. I’m retired - since 2016. I just try to stay out of the kitchen other than mealtime and eat few -but healthy-snacks during the day. When I go out to eat I rarely eat my entire meal-taking home some for another meal later. Exercise is limited now bec I had back surgery in July. Oddly enough I lost 10 lbs since then-maybe due to chronic pain, not sure. Enjoying your channel and wishing you luck catching your buses in the future!
Good luck on your quest to loose a little weight. I have struggled all my life. I have hip pain and the Dr will not refer me for opp until I loose 4 stone. I have researched a lot and have found minimal carbs and intermittent fasting has removed the urge to eat bad foods. It has been a revelation.
I go to Weight Watchers and one of their philosophies is “small step goals”. You make a comment each week to something small. We all know that success builds on success. It doesn’t matter how small the goal is, in fact the idea is for it to be so small that it is easily achievable. Then the next week you add to it. You are in what I consider a transitional time of your life. We all go through those as we go through life. It is new and unknown but I have no doubt you will find your rhythm. Enjoy your trip to Scotland!🎉
Small step goals. I like that!
Hi Tim! Watching your videos is like visiting with a friend. Anytime I have a habit to break, I start a new one. In your case, I'd find a new hobby that would keep my hands busy while watching TV. The new hobby is a TV-time only habit that I can look forward to...get some puzzles, draw,...anything you'd enjoy. Also, it wouldn't hurt to suggest to your friends that you would love to try a new local Carnivore restaurant. I just googled it and there are several in or near Knoxville. Enjoy Scotland and come back refreshed to try again!
Same here. I lost 33lbs on Keto during lockdown in Scotland. No temptations at home. It’s been harder to maintain out and about. Like you said, social events change how we eat. I’ve gained a few pounds but I start Keto right again the next meal. I think I will maintain this. I feel awful when I eat the way I used to with processed food. I’m better on Keto and I keep reminding myself of this.
After years of yo-yo dieting using a myriad of programs that included both successes and failures, I had given up the effort. Like you, I was raised under the guise of "clean your plate - kids are starving in wherever; TV dinners had become popular and sitting in front of the TV was the "norm"; and of course favorite meals, treats and snacks all revolved around rewards.
In 2017 I hit a number on the scale that literally made me cry. Working with a nutritionist I was led down a path of lowering carbs, fats, sugar, processed foods, snacking, etc.... I began doing my own research and came up with a plan that I could live with. It was simple - eliminate salt, sugar, flour, fat and all things processed. During this research, i discovered that the majority of my problem was "in my head" - it was all about MY choices, MY thoughts and MY attitude! After years of blaming others (family), I realized that was totally wrong! No one was forcing me to eat all that junk!!!
AND - I had a motivating factor to lose the weight - a month long driving trip that ended with a back to back cruise. I would never make it through all of that traveling being as heavy as I was. By the time the trip came around in 2019, I had lost 90 pounds!
Fast forward to 2024. Yep - gained it all back plus more - of course it was the fault of the pandemic - NOT!! June 17, 2024 I decided to take a look at the eating plan I was on before, do a little more research, make a few changes and today (Aug. 9th) I am happy to report I have lost 27 pounds. Same basic principle of no salt, no sugar, no flour, nothing processed and only "good" fats. OMAD when I can, which is most days, and one day of just bone broth collagen protein in hot water. My research also taught me all about "inflammation" in joints (arthritis) and other body parts. My body was actually "angry"!! Which in turn made me angry and very much in pain. That was a game changer for me!
Thanks to Medicare and Plan G, I now have a free membership to the YMCA and am doing water aerobics and also strengthen my legs on the NuStep horizontal bike. This time I have two motivating factors - one is to prepare my body for knee replacements in the near future AND, I have planned a driving trip to the north GA mountains this October.
Long story to say that what works for one will not necessarily work for everyone. I know my weight loss begins in my own messed up head. And, I know that my factor of motivation is being able to travel. And, I know there are some foods my body will no longer tolerate. I can only advise to listen to your body, correct your thinking, and do your own research. Your path will become evident and your journey will be a success!! YES - let's all help each other in this ongoing journey!! Success and Blessings from Florida!
Thank you. Won’t go into a lot of detail but these are all helpful things I really needed to hear today, & I don’t believe in coincidences.
I’ve lost 1/3 of my body on keto (ketovore actually) since January. I have been a widow 5 years mostly secluding myself in my house & yard because that’s what felt safe.
I am now embracing life again for the 1st time in many years.
My why for the weight loss, & what keeps me going is to be better able to enjoy the nows instead of letting them pass me by as I have for 5 years - your bus.
Unwrapping the seclusion is as difficult as unwrapping the weight but I’m doing it. 1 step at a time.
Again, thank you. I’m on the right track & so are you.
I hear you. I want to be able to walk uphill without getting winded. Is that too much to ask? :)
I do struggle with weight. I have been at my ideal weight several times BUT I have never been able to maintain. Thank you for being open about the struggle.
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Weight loss is not only a physical struggle, it's also a mental struggle - at least for me. All my life (I'll be 64 in Nov) I've struggled with my weight. And I struggle with the thought of being overweight. As a child I had to wear clothing from a line called "chubettes". My weight has never been "normal". When you talked about waiting for the bus that never stopped I cried. Something about that picture reminds me of my life...like life has passed me by because I am overweight. On the outside I'm a glass-half-full kind of gal, always positive, but that's not who I am on the inside. I long to be a "normal" weight which in my brain is equated with beauty and being beautiful.
Thank you for your videos and for keeping it real.
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I can definitely relate. But now we’re in this together.
Well I’m a introvert too. Before I knew that I just thought I was wrong in some way. Now that I accept it I don’t feel bad about me time. I used too feel depressed when I spend time alone. Thinking I was wrong. I prioritize me time now just as I prioritize time with friends at other times. Gives me a sense of freedom accepting who I am. Changed school every two years as well. Made me very independent. Tight groups can restrict your individual development. It’s not all rosy living all your life in one spot with all the same people around. Things can get stale. There are plusses and minuses too it all.
Tim, I appreciate you sharing your childhood and struggle with weight. So without going into too much I will share that I’ve struggled with food since I was 8 years old especially sweets. I know that I’ve gained/lost/gained so many times that if I took all of the weight lost it would make another me. Sad. I’m in trauma therapy now and my therapist said she can help me with my food addictions and binge eating. Just know that you aren’t alone. Low carb or keto has worked best for me. I’m so excited for you going to Scotland!
No failure. You can reboot at your next meal.
You’re going to have to try a few things before you settle on what’s best for you. I do a combo - Watch carbs, try a few days of intermittent fasting, and yes, get out for some nice walks.
And btw, You seem like a lovely human and it’s ok to need to be alone for awhile.
❤ your honestly. I relate to many things you share. I wake up every morning planning my food. Almost 64 and my thoughts are shifting to how be healthy. This seems to help and just now started carnivore. Good luck and thank you for your channel 🤗
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Weight loss is something that is a life long battle for most of us. I have experience success when my mind is ready to accept that I have to change. Lately I have been feeling bloated especially in the evening and noticed I eat when I'm not hungry. I started eating my main meal for lunch and a lighter one later on. I hope it helps. I have found the best way to blow a diet is to go to a Mexican restaurant. I tend to be an introvert myself. Like you, I didn't always have a lot of friends growing up. I spend too much time watching you tube myself. I'm not a joiner or crafter. I wish I was.
My gosh you seem as honest as the day is long. I think a lot of women are embarrassed, feel super guilty or maybe feel like a failure if they mess up on a diet, so I about fell off the couch when you spoke so openly about your 'eating plan' mistake. Good job! It's ok you will do what you need to do to get back to it, I'm sure. 😊 I feel like I need to make some banana bread now. 😁
Carbs are life, moderation is the key. (I do get having a dysfunctional relationship with refined carbs, so I know it’s easier said than done.) Banana bread sounds wonderful.
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I’m retired and pretty much in the same boat as you! Fighting to lose weight and enjoying being sedentary. I’m going to be following your channel and coming along with you!😅
Yes, all my life! I am learning to battle my hunger cravings with larger amounts of water, and chewing gum. Yes, I pee way more often, but wow, I feel much better with more water.
I happened across this video by accident but now I'm a new follower. I've struggled with weight all my life too. I may not have been in the dark waiting for the bus, but I've felt that way too often in my life and am working to define a new me. Your honesty and candor are needed. Keep going with the great videos.
Oh wow! I am not the only one! Thank you. I have been comfort eating since June when we unexpectedly lost our little dog. I just can’t break out of it and I have gained 10 pounds. So ashamed of myself. But I have a sweet tooth and crave all those high calorie things. Every night I go to bed feeling way too full, thinking tomorrow I’ll be good but so far utterly failed. I hope you have some success but, quite honestly, you don’t look like you need to lose weight. I, on the other hand, have gained my very own rubber ring which is getting larger by the day. My brain obviously doesn’t think I might starve to death but that I might also drown!
We can only keep on trying. Good luck x
I’m very sorry to hear about your dog. That is a hard one to get past. ❤️
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I am a Hoosier, and it really saddens me at the unfriendliness of those kids in my state. My parents were bus drivers, I've seen each of them stop to check on a child waiting to let them know which bus would be their bus. Of course, this was 50+ years ago. These things from our childhood do make a mark for a lifetime.
Your vulnerability here is so appreciated by many of us. Thinking forward to your Scotland trip… don’t worry about your weight then, just enjoy the experience. My husband and I traveled to Great Britain 5 times, 3 weeks each time. Every trip we lost a few pounds because we were so active each day. We ate only 2 big meals daily: full English/Scottish breakfast around 8:00, then dinner around 5 or 6:00, after all the museums and sites closed. We’d get a coffee or small snack mid-day, but the two meals a day plan became very natural for us. Sometimes I think I should try that again!
It's great you are looking into nutrition. I started about 10 years ago myself. I have come to the conclusion that a varied diet based on nutrtional needs rather than cravings and a holistic approach to foods is key. Combined with some weight training, frequent cardio, the kind that gets uncomfortable and raises your heart rate into the high 120's to 130's minumum for at least 30 minutes works well for me. You must wake up your metabolism, you must plan your food intake wisely, no smoothies, no excessive anything, no combining carbs and fat in one meal, no eating until full.
That is a horrible feeling as a kid. The dark winter scene paints it well too. Probably part of why I'm drawn to this channel. 🤗 The emotional thing I turned to is ruminating and perfectionism. It does take time to alter those coping mechanisms. Maybe there's something you can replace the extra food with that lights you up? An exercise you enjoy?
Like you, I also need to remove myself from social situations to regroup and get my energy back. Thus, I like taking my solo hiking and sight seeing trips alone. Camping I do enjoy in a group. Thanks for posting!
At 71, I'll never forget moving just before 7th grade and having to go to a new school. I was a little anxious about it but I was bullied in elementary school so I was also looking forward to a new slate. My moms friend said she would pick me up and take me along with her daughters (no buses). She didn't show up. I dont recall how I got there but I remember having to walk into the school office, scared to death. Everyone was very kind but I remember all that to this day. I never thought of that in relation to my introversion or weight. Hmmm.
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It’s amazing how traumatic these experiences are when we were young.
I feel we are similar people.
Glad I found your channel.
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You didn't fail! You hit a small speed bump. Start back eating the way you have chosen; the weight will fall off again in a short amount of time. As a carb addict, I can totally relate to your struggle. Bread, chips, cereal, pasta, all my favorites, are also my worst enemies for staying at a healthier weight. I don't want to give them up completely, so I remind myself as I fix my plate that I have a choice and I need to make it now. 99% of the time I make the right choice. I don't kick myself for the 1% when I don't. I just get right back to what I should be doing as if it never happened.
Tim, 🤭 you need to stay the course 😅…. No more thinking ‘I’m going to stop my diet on vacation’ lol. Personally I stopped eating sugar in April. Lost 14 pounds, and started up the carbs these last couple weeks. Carbs ignite hunger, as you know. You’re doing great, now that you’re retired like me, there is so much more time to be active. It’s all good 👍
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Totally honest video. I do think that you are just in a transition after working for years and your world has totally changed. I am also retired from administration in education and it took me a year or two to get my bearings. I had a very similar situation as a kid…going to five schools in six years. I also comforted myself with food and intervertebral activities. I am slowly winning the weight loss, exercise battle, but it is a very slow process of changing one thing at a time until that is mastered and then moving to the next change that I need to make and so on.
I agree with another comment, you have made friends. Thank you for sharing honestly, that is not an easy thing to do at times. Walking is a very good way to lose wait and be somewhat active. I agree, you have not failed. You are still trying and learning.
I can relate and I am still watching the bus pass me by.
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I wish I had some magic advice pill to give you that would help you on your journey, but sadly I do not. I could personally relate to many of the feelings you describe. Recently I’ve done a lot of soul searching and I discovered that although I would love to look better, what I’m personally really searching for is to feel better, protect my health and have more energy. I also realised that “losing weight” was such a big goal for me that it left me feeling very overwhelmed on how to really succeed at doing it. For me these kinds of feelings usually result in analysis paralysis. My husband’s advice to me (and I think it’s a good one) was to break what I wanted to accomplish down in micro goals that are easily achieved. So for example for me I started with making a list of what I would like to eat- goal #1 achieved. Then I decided I would stop buying/eating cookies- goal #2 achieved. Maybe next week I’ll conquer ice cream. For you, you might list 2 days a week you will walk around the block. Maybe next week limit your couch time to a certain amount of time each day. Blaspheme! Yes, I know... Small attainable goals result in small successes that make you feel great. True, it takes longer, but you’ll get there.
I am having excellent success with Carnivore and I just stick to all kinds of animal products. I did break my caffeine addiction, which helped me with my artificial sweetener addiction. Now, I'm experimenting with skipping the cheese to see if that improves my weight loss. It's very sad to learn that I've been lied to all my life about food, but I'm glad I learned the truth before the food killed me! I wish you every success no mater which path you take!
Im an intervert too,and like people,and can talk to them,but need my space and quiet time. Im in my happy place.
A tip that helps me to feel full more quickly, plus seems to cut sugar cravings is I eat the fat off my meat (if it’s a steak) or my tsp of butter before my first bite of steak and nice cold butter w my bites of steak or the ground beef etc… That signals I’m fuller more quickly.
I’m 65 and started this Dec 1st, 23. It has NOT been straight forward for me. No gallbladder so I was eating WAY too much fat initially 🥓🧈🥓🧈🥓🧈🥓🥞🥓🥞🥓. My stomach has healed over this time, most every I’ll health symptom has evaporated. So, now it’s the weight. The weight will drop off soon, I can feel my shape changing. I’ve got no Will power of Twizzlers or chips or jam n toast is in the house. So none of it is in the house. My fridge is now, 🧈🍗🥓🥚🧀 and sometimes cabbage as it supports my lack of gallbladder for some reason. Short sprints are my goal for autumn thru to Dec. You know you’re self better than anyone. Your journey is encouraging for me. Thank you for sharing. Bravo. 🙏
You did not fail, you learned.
Introverts are born and made. I’ve been exactly where you are. I highly recommend Susan Cain’s book: “Quiet, The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking. Every parent, teacher and manager should be required to read this book!
When I say I will not … My brain says: “Hold my beer and watch this!”
I’m right there with you. ❤ be kind to yourself. Keep trying, you’ll find your way.
You didn’t fail , like me at least you maintained in a way. You didn’t go beyond the original 👏
Some suggestions that might help:
1. If you had not been attempting to diet would you have gained a lot more weight today rather than not losing any? If so then that in itself should count as a success.
2. You could focus more on improving your inner body health rather than your outer body shape - circulation, vitamins, stress control, low salt and sugar, ultimately your inner health is what is more important, your appearance will eventually catch up.
3. There's no rule that says you have to eat out of the same plate of food you are given, whether it's at a restaurant or someone's home. What if you always asked for an empty plate on the side and just put the amount in it you want.
4. Make your goals even smaller, more attainable, even if they have to be rediculously small. Because ultimately it's consistency that is much more effective than effort.
Those are all very helpful! Thank you!
I had to do #3 at restaurants ~ I was a huge pasta lover! So I automatically had them box up 1/2 my plate before I started. My body this last year and half made the decision for me that if I ate high carb meals (including high sugar sauces ~ especially BBQ and jelly) it would make me physically regret those decisions for hours and, a couple times, for a couple days. The thought that life could be like that again is enough to deter me from even contemplating the idea of eating those foods. But that is the only thing over the years that has deterred me.
I really enjoy your videos. I’ve followed Bill Phillips book, Body for Life, for 20 years. It’s simple logical exercises and eating simply…best part is a “free day” (cheat day)once a week. Thanks for sharing.
So many common challenges. Particularly being sedentary… I have to move my body first thing in the morning, and prepping my clothes the night before. It’s helping a bit. Also trying 17/7 intermittent fasting.. and no junk food. That’s HAAAAAAARD
I love your channel! My dad died last year and just prior to that we moved, leaving dear neighbors who were like parents to me. Thank you for sharing your world with all of us. It's like having coffee with a kind, wise family member.
No effort and no pain is wasted. You deserve all the patience and kindness of anybody else stuck on a plateau.
As an introvert and an HSP, wow can I relate to the story of your younger years and the struggle with weight loss. Whether you know it or not, you are an inspiration, thanks.
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Sedentary, retired introvert, food addict here. I had a similar bus experience that you had when I started a new school in eighth grade. I've never forgotten the feeling as I watched that first bus go by. But, I think my reliance on food to stuff emotions started much earlier. Why or when I don't know, but I've battled weight my whole life so I understand your battle. Also, it's great to hear a fellow introvert talk about being "peopled out".
I retired about 5 years ago. Something you said struck me. I also started out being pretty sedentary thinking that I would get bored and then join a gym and active groups. I wish now I had started the habit of exercise right away because being a sedentary couch potato has become easier and easier as I age. My advice - don't let it go on because it gets really a lot easier to sit and read or watch TH-cam videos than to take a walk, etc. I found I was losing weight, but it was mostly muscle - not the stomach where I needed it.
I so look forward to your videos. Please keep them coming.
We are tooooooo much alike to help each other, Helpless In Chelsea.
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Our family moved around a lot and the same happened to me, no friends, introvert. Affected me all my life and have never made many friends its very hard I agree. I did not eat as you did but was depressed all my life and now being old I am ok as I decided I never needed anyone in my life, except a dog.
Dogs are national treasures. :)
My heart went out to you, as you told your story about waiting for the bus . I felt sad as I thought about you in the dark and how that must have felt . I can’t believe that you are an introvert, as you come across on your channel like you’ve got it all covered ! I don’t think you realise yet , how you are helping others , including me ! …as for the weight challenge , I’m right there with you , in that I’ve tried many regimes , some have worked and others have not . In fact ! I made a semi promise to myself a few months ago that I would lose significant weight for my up coming vacation , which I’m going on with friends who are all slim! I tried half heartedly, but mainly like you , I’ve got no willpower . 🥺My vacation starts in less than 7 days and I’ve not lost 1lb , but what I’ve realised , is that this could be my last vacation and being with my friends will make me happy and I know for sure will bring some great memories to have forever. It’s not always about the fat on your body , but the person you are in the shell . You are amazing ! Keep being you ! Sending hugs 🤗
Your honesty is refreshing
I'm an introvert too and moved around alot during my school years. As a matter of fact, I lived in three different states during my 9th grade of school. Not sure but maybe a connection with being hard to make friends. I've been on every diet there is and am still overweight. I know how hard it can be. No anawers here. When I have had success, it never lasts. Keep looking inward and try not to judge yourself too harshly. Thanks for sharing.
The only "diet" I can ever remember sticking with for any length of time was The Rotation Diet. It worked but that when I was much younger. Now I'm 78 and don't care to use the word "diet" at all, rather I try to stick with healthy eating.
Glad to read so many are introverts. I always thought I was the only one. Never had friends, didn't like talking to people. Never had someone to go with to meetings, parties, weight watchers, or anything, always went alone. Retired 7 years ago, I knew I'd become a recluse, and fell right into it. Now my refrigerator is empty, before I can talk myself into going to pick up groceries.. just pick up, mind you, I don't go into stores anymore at all. So I know what you're all talking about.
I just started the carnivore diet. Thank you for your transparency! I’ve battled weight for years and I’m old enough to know better and do better. Let’s keep trying!
You didn't fail--you proved you can do it and you can do it again.
Appreciate your openness and honesty. You are way ahead of most of us as you understand so much about yourself that a lot of us do not. Hang in there, enjoy your new retirement role and give your self time to adjust. I think that most people can identify with you and that makes you likeable and quality friend material. I hope you make some good friends as they do improve our quality of life so much.
My friend, you and I are very much alike in many, many ways. Hope you enjoy the heck out of Scotland. I know I would.😊
Tim. I do enjoy your TH-cam. I guess I feel like we are virtual friends. I was a skinny kid but got bullied and or ignored. I am heavy now but I like you eat and watch tv. I have zero willpower also. I 1 year and 8 months to go for retirement but I am trying to cutback because of my stress level. I appreciate your transparency I was on keto about a year ago and I felt and looked great but the stress came back and so did the weight
I’ve probably lost a thousand pounds over a lifetime of yo-yo eating. I’m so sorry to hear of your being bullied. Children can be so cruel to each other.
I think your channel is successful because so many people can relate to what you are going through. Your talent of expressing your human experience in such a relatable way is endearing you to people who are honest with themselves and like you are looking for ways to find successful outcomes for their similar struggles. I just want to thank you for your honesty and encourage you to continue to make these kinds of videos. I know you are helping people.
Good morning Tim, I can relate 100% to your weight loss journey. I have been on Keto for a couple years now, I’ve lost the same 20lbs several times. I go along just fine then an occasion comes up which involves cocktails and food I should not eat and that one day, sometimes turns into several days, puts me back to my starting weight, and sometimes beyond. And I rinse and repeat😡. I eat two meals a day, no snacking between meals and the plate I use is a saucer! Yet here I am still struggling to get to a healthy weight. Maybe we can find something that we can live with and finally get this weight off! Keep on trucking! Don’t give up!
Your too hard on yourself! I too went through similar experiences and finally landed upon the Glucose Goddess. Which has actually help rein in my over eating with her hacks, only modified normal diet with changing the order that I eat the food. I also made a pact with my daughter that we have to walk at least 30 minutes a day, whether outside or on a treadmill. If you get yourself a treadmill and set it up in your spare room you can fit it in no matter what. We’re now up to 40 minutes first thing in the morning and whatever else we do the rest of the day. We started last May and have kept it up so far, but winter will be the test. So far I’ve lost almost 10 pounds without really giving up anything and so has my daughter….my test will be when I go to the doctors and get my yearly check up. If you focus on your glucose levels, it really does help get your overall eating back under control. It will happen eventually for you, just don’t give up! I’m 60 and working mostly remote, so it’s been hard to back away from my computer and force myself to exercise….but…it’s now a habit and that has made the difference. Walking is possible anywhere, you just have to do it….you can listen to podcasts or music or just the wheels in your brain turning….it is the ultimate introvert sport. 😊Good luck, I know you can do it!
I can’t say no to Mexican food either!😂 it’s ok to fail as long as you pick yourself up and keep trying!!
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Hi there - I do have a weight loss problem. Long story of course. I lost about 20 pounds this summer just by not eating the things I know I shouldn't eat. I loved hearing your story about standing by the side of the road waiting for the bus. I would love to be able to commiserate with you on this issue. I haven't mentioned it on my channel but think I will. I was considerably thinner 3 years ago when my house burned in a forest fire, but I've been having weight issues for much longer than that... maybe about 20 or 30 years. I just want to be healthy and have the mobility to keep my yard maintained and enjoy what's left of the rest of my life.
Growing up I didn’t have a weight problem while living on a farm …we had plenty of healthy food. Every Saturday mom made a dessert for Sunday only.
We didn’t always have a television.. we were outside all day working in the fields of tomatoes we raised for the market and the vegetable garden. We also had 3 commercial chicken houses… there was always something to do.
At age 26 after I got pregnant, I immediately started having problems in the pregnancy. The doctor put me on rest… no lifting, no sweeping the floors, nothing. I sat on the couch eating while watching soap operas.
Weight loss for me means MOVE MORE.
I wish you the best on your journey.
Don’t be so hard on yourself.
You are so relatable.
Oh Tim, It seems as though you were in my head reading my thoughts. As I've heard so many times, I, like you constantly battle weight challenges. 😫 The main thing is to never give up and do something everyday to maintain focus on changes that we really want to make. Also recently retired, I've been using my own daily check list to help me stay on track. A daily journal can also help. I usually cross off most of my daily goals, but occasionally carry them over to the next day to complete.
I congratulate myself when I fulfill the my daily goals. I use it as a reference and don't always schedule specific times. I make a list of the things I want to accomplish for that particular day. Speaking of goals and inspiration, not sure whether you've seen another TH-camr called Sarasota Tim, but I accidentally found his posts while searching for detailed info on Social Security and Medicare. His posts appear to be helpful to a lot of subscribers including me. He has a lot of great ideas about inspiration, positive attitude, and making the most of our daily living while we can. Thanks Tim for being so real and sharing your experiences with the New Retired you. So much appreciated.
Thank you!
WOW' this makes sense"'your a Hoosier" ... Me too❣️ I'm home visiting Crawfordsville Indiana right now but hubby's work the last two years has been in Bismarck ND. Because of our careers we have lived many places. BTW' I respect the carnavore diet" you can always order the plate of hot chicken & cheese (some cornstarch) from the faijitahs. I don't know if you add any veggies when you do this but if so" add a salad. 👍
A diet always starts at the grocery store. All the food I carry home from the grocery store is going to be eaten, that's for sure.....
Awesome video. I can relate. Thank you for the video. Blessings to you.
I appreciate your honesty. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤
Thank you for your honesty. I am right there with you. Take it one day at a time. Or one evening or one hour…
Please read this one. I know you get lots of comments now and can’t read them all. I enjoy watching your videos. I normally do not do this! I am 67 and I am in same boat. I’ve been doing something now that helps my body with weight sleep i inflammation and many other health issues. This is the first time I have ever shared this in a TH-cam comment. The program is helping me and my husband who has some back issues and PTSD etc. if you want to know more please reach out to me. If not np. Looking forward to watching your ongoing videos. You are an inspiration.
Thank you! You can find my email address on the channel. Send me your program.
Thank you for being so honest in your battle.....like you said, you are not alone.
“I have zero willpower, zero” Are you my twin? 😂
I've been working on getting rid of 20lbs for 20 years. I was doing reasonably well until COVID-19 and am now back at square one. 🤬 I'm currently trying 16:8 intermittent fasting rather than any diet.
I need to do IF. The results appear to be amazing.
@@TheNewRetiredMe It works for a lot of people, hopefully me.