Hey Kevin I am a person who is interested in Self Protection and Combatives or anything in general which works in a real violent scenario. I have been following Ideals like Lee Morrison, RIchard Dimitri and you of course. I am writing this mail to share my mental predicament which I have been facing. I often doubt myself a lot about whether I would be able to execute the teachings of the Instructors of the highest calibre. No matter how good a particular technique is, I still doubt myself whether I would be able to reproduce it under stress and adrenaline especially against big guys. Whenever I see some big guy committing violence whether in real life or social media, I immediately feel intimidated and get a feeling that I won't be able to do anything much. Even learning and watching the best techniques like shredder by richard dimitri I still think i won't be able to do much. I constantly watch videos of the ideals mentioned above and other creators as well. Including you. But I still lack confidence about my abilities and often visualize fighting with these big people only to arrive at a conclusion that I won't be able to defend or protect myself. So tell me how can I overcome this problem of mine.
This is a huge topic. Visualization is a good support tool for this, but as you”ve noted, if you’re dying constantly in your visualization, it points to a need for assertiveness training. The first thing I would suggest is to create a value inventory of all of the people and things you value-this can include everything from ideals you value, places you’ve been, favorite foods, songs, movies-make a detailed list of all of your unique likes and interests . Realize that this is what you want to protect. As I wrote in my first book, you need to make the reason why you train bigger than how you train. Motive matters more than method. Use this value inventory as your daily meditation and affirm that you will do everything in your power to protect it. I’ll continue in next comment .
Then recognize protection involves more than fighting. Detection and avoidance and deescalation are less exciting for most but they are the biggest piece of the self defense pie. If you can run, run. Recognize that many people who are confident are in fact delusional, so your heightened awareness and concern is not a weakness-it’s a heightened sensitivity . You are less likely to volunteer for stupidities like most and that is amazing. Last starting point, and the focus of my book Rituals of Strength, is that you need to develop this assertiveness in your daily life. I’m a fan of microdosing small increments of mental strength training. For example-30 seconds of cold water at the end of your shower, intermittent fasting, something as simple as a single one minute push up. Injecting little pieces of discomfort grows the portion of your brain responsible for will power and assertiveness (the anterior mid cingulate cortex). By interspersing small doses of deprivation and facing fears in your routine you will grow your resolve in all aspects. This has been essential in maintaining my resolve . Realize that you alone have the power to control this. It’s a huge topic but these are a few ideas. Message me on social media or email me at kevinsecours@hotmail.com and I would be happy to coach you along the way. You are dealing with the most important aspect of self defense training and sadly most never honestly address it.
John 3:5 King James Version 5 Jesus answered, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born of water and of the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God.
Thank you. Very effective.
@@AnthonyDibiaseIdeas thanks for watching
Nice. I've been looking at Craig Jones' leg ride stuff for BJJ. Who knew you'd be ahead of the curve on this (as well as eco learning etc etc).
@@danieluser I’ll have move material on rides coming but yes we’ve been using them for intervention and arrests for decades. They work super well.
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You forgot to mention the strong Khabib Smeeesh vibes to the whole thing!
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Wonderful, thank you Sir.
@@thevirtuoso6168 thanks for watching.
Excellent idea.
@@Super_D36 thanks for watching.
Hey Kevin
I am a person who is interested in Self Protection and Combatives or anything in general which works in a real violent scenario. I have been following Ideals like Lee Morrison, RIchard Dimitri and you of course. I am writing this mail to share my mental predicament which I have been facing.
I often doubt myself a lot about whether I would be able to execute the teachings of the Instructors of the highest calibre. No matter how good a particular technique is, I still doubt myself whether I would be able to reproduce it under stress and adrenaline especially against big guys. Whenever I see some big guy committing violence whether in real life or social media, I immediately feel intimidated and get a feeling that I won't be able to do anything much. Even learning and watching the best techniques like shredder by richard dimitri I still think i won't be able to do much. I constantly watch videos of the ideals mentioned above and other creators as well. Including you. But I still lack confidence about my abilities and often visualize fighting with these big people only to arrive at a conclusion that I won't be able to defend or protect myself.
So tell me how can I overcome this problem of mine.
This is a huge topic. Visualization is a good support tool for this, but as you”ve noted, if you’re dying constantly in your visualization, it points to a need for assertiveness training. The first thing I would suggest is to create a value inventory of all of the people and things you value-this can include everything from ideals you value, places you’ve been, favorite foods, songs, movies-make a detailed list of all of your unique likes and interests . Realize that this is what you want to protect. As I wrote in my first book, you need to make the reason why you train bigger than how you train. Motive matters more than method. Use this value inventory as your daily meditation and affirm that you will do everything in your power to protect it. I’ll continue in next comment .
Then recognize protection involves more than fighting. Detection and avoidance and deescalation are less exciting for most but they are the biggest piece of the self defense pie. If you can run, run.
Recognize that many people who are confident are in fact delusional, so your heightened awareness and concern is not a weakness-it’s a heightened sensitivity . You are less likely to volunteer for stupidities like most and that is amazing.
Last starting point, and the focus of my book Rituals of Strength, is that you need to develop this assertiveness in your daily life. I’m a fan of microdosing small increments of mental strength training. For example-30 seconds of cold water at the end of your shower, intermittent fasting, something as simple as a single one minute push up. Injecting little pieces of discomfort grows the portion of your brain responsible for will power and assertiveness (the anterior mid cingulate cortex). By interspersing small doses of deprivation and facing fears in your routine you will grow your resolve in all aspects. This has been essential in maintaining my resolve . Realize that you alone have the power to control this.
It’s a huge topic but these are a few ideas. Message me on social media or email me at kevinsecours@hotmail.com and I would be happy to coach you along the way. You are dealing with the most important aspect of self defense training and sadly most never honestly address it.
@@Combatprofessor Thanks a ton for your reply. Will surely consider emailing you. If I emailed I will surely let you know that it was me.
@@Combatprofessor This. Is truly important and in fact invaluable advice. Thank you.
@@skrattpiller thanks for watching I really appreciate it.
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@@hhspector3006 thanks for watching.
John 3:5 King James Version 5 Jesus answered, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born of water and of the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God.