I DON'T THINK I WILL EVER DO THAT AGAIN. I had a 5 year LDR with single mom of one 2 year old girl. (Boy ditched her when she became pregnant) she had to drop out of college. Parents were pissed. Enter me, I traveled 8 times in 2019 alone to visit her here in Cebu, Covid hit, then I retired and came to be with her forever.... BABY DADDY SHOWS UP... she leaves me for baby daddy. Even though (not bragging here, just to prove a point) I earn 3 times the amount of the average Expat lives on over here, and that boy earns 5920 pesos a month, or $101 per month ( high school dropout) How can a family of 3 live on that? Also he now lives in the poor province with her family, which stunned me that they would accept him back. They all loved me, but apparently baby daddy, regardless of his status will take her away from you every time. She said she wanted a "complete family " Okay, good luck with that. Moving on 😊
I not only lost the love of my life, I lost a potential daughter I loved dearly, I lost the family of 7 that I loved and respected and I helped out in a big way, and I lost the 20 or so friends that all live around her province area. So you lose more than just the girl. I will seek a single, no child girl this time. No more drama, and total heartbreak. 💔
@@robjulian2955 I feel that pain and loss. You never know the immeasurable lifelong effect you had on her circle. How many times per year will her parents say, "You should have stayed with the man who knew how to love and care."
sooo sorry. What a messed up story. Not to be too nosy, but as you mentioned it, what is your monthly budget / free cash flow? US$6,000? Mike should interview you
Just a matter of time before you get the line “you’re not my father,” or from the mother, “you’re not his/ her father. Your money and resources are, however, acceptable.” 😳
@tattie278 plus I can guarantee you that they care for you as a stepfather, they do not care one bit for you unless you give them plenty of money, especially in their teens.
DONT DO it, dont marry a single mum who has girls. It will cost you plenty. I have been in the Philippines 32 years and married a single mum with 3 daughters plus a biological one for 30 years. All my 3 stepdaughters became single mums at 15 and 16 years of age and now I am raising 3 bastard stepgrandchildren and it is hell, both emotionally and physically and financially. If your an older man, enjoy your retirement and forget children you will never have peace.
LOL! Send the girls to ANgeles City to work in the bars. Tell them if they want to eat they need to earn their own money! Does sound like this is hell.
@@suzzieq1914 hahaha thanks for the encouragement, the only problem I am not a filipino and I made my bed 30 years ago and I am laying in it. I will support the little bastards while I'm alive and they can do what they want after I'm gone.
@@iluvmoney6767 look I know where your coming from but these native girls are full of emotion and always in love. They would not listen to anything I said but once they had children they thankfully settled down as most h Filipino guys won't touch them with a 3 metre ( 10 foot ) pole. All three are in college and University and actually doing well.
My educated guess is that the child actually does NOT know who their real father is at least 50% of the time. All the mother has to do is ask him for money and he disappears. And most kids don't know enough to lie if you ask them. Just say, "Sino ang tatay mo?" And if they answer "Wala!", that's usually a pretty reliable indication that the father's never been around. Although an older kid might lie because he knows Nanay has caught herself a big fish.
I raised a stepchild in America from the age of five. He said I was the best father any boy could ever have so there is respect gained from your stepchildren regardless of nationality they respect you.
@@BelusTravellerI had a stepmother and a stepfather after my parents spilt and remarried…I’m 46 now and was very fortunate to be raised by two moms and two dads.
Mike's right. I have a Filipino step-son (now a naturalized U.S. citizen for over 25 years). I always thought his mother babied him way too much. We got through it, but it was always something of an issue. Fathers in general (even Filipino men) try to raise their sons to be strong and independent. We can be harsh, but that's usually just tough love. No man wants a weak son, and no woman wants a man that can't stand on his own two feet. IMO, women of any ethnicity don't know how to raise boys. Conversely, the same is true of men raising girls. Men tend to raise their daughters up to be entitled little princesses instead of responsible young women. If you hook up with the single mom of a young Filipino boy, you'll have a very hard time convincing her to back off and let you turn him into a man. Your Filipina will think you're just being hard on him because he's not your biological son. While this is a dilemma for step-fathers of ALL cultures and ethnicities, it's going to be particularly challenging for an American attempting to raise a Filipino boy. Filipino children mature much slower than American kids. But it's natural - boys will always be boys! And from time to time, they need a strong father figure who can put the fear of god into him to keep him in check. And when you do this, he will always go running off to cling to his mother's skirt, and your Filipina will almost always protect him - making him weak and pathetic. It's frustrating!
Once you married a woman with a child you will always be number 2 . There are millions of women here without children enjoy your latter years. Do you really need all these problems. Cheers 🍻
Yes. I am currently with a woman who just had a cesarean section. I paid for it. I married her about 8 months ago. I married her shortly after marrying her. She refused ObGyn appointments any way possible. She avoided ultrasounds for 4 months. All the while she promised the child was mine. Then after 4 months the ultrasound showed a time when I wasn’t even in the Philippines. I was crushed. She then told me some story of a guy named Casper and a girl named Althea that introduced them. I asked for a last name of either and she refused to give me any last names or how to contact either of them on social media. She promises this Casper will never pop up. But because she did not tell me he even existed for 4 months after she was forced to tell the truth after ultrasound results how could I ever believe anything she ever said. I have built onto her parents house. I furnished this extension once until she showed me so much disrespect right after the extension was finished that I sold all the furniture electronics and appliances because it seems too much like she was just waiting for the extension to be finished and furnished and was intending to get rid of me. She said if the child is mine she will never let me see her. She didn’t apologize and stayed with her mom and dad overnight and not in the extension with me. That’s when I took a sledgehammer to the extension I paid to build and sold all the furniture appliances and electronics that morning after she said what she said. I think she just expected to chase me away when she got what she wanted out of me. She never expected me not to leave the furnished extension for her, her child, and possibly her next boyfriend, or the biological father. She always has a big smile on her face around any visitors but rarely smiles with me. She is rarely even affectionate. I believe I was just a sucker thinking because she is young she will agree to me taking care of her now and when I get old she can return the favor. But she does not have that kind of character. I talked to a local Filipina about the scenario I am dealing with and she just commented, “ it’s the Filipina way”. And with all the warning vlogs about province girls foreigners getting taken advantage of if you allow it, it seems to be at least somewhat true that lies and manipulation are accepted on any scale regardless how they affect foreigners for an extension to their parents house. Poverty doesn’t make people humble and kind. It makes them desperate for the most part and will do whatever they have to to get what you have. And they want most of what you can give them just so they can show it to their compound people. I think it is a big joke and a dysfunctional competition with these young province girls. I thought a province girl would be purer, more innocent, more honest. Please don’t think that. Save yourself. Look for someone your age who has their own so you don’t end up with someone who doesn’t even want to know you but wants to know what you will or can be tricked into doing for her and her family. And believe me, when the compound finds out you will not be their piggy bank to adults or their children, they hate you. It sucks, but you can’t feel pity for the poor here because culture and tradition and social media and dating sites have corrupted the goodness in province girls and made them willing to fake love and care for profit. And if you ever get wise that they really don’t care about you, the only one that feels the pain of having to decide to leave is you. Poverty has taught a lot of these young women to detach from their emotions. So the time, money, property, and love you give is just what they want you to give as long as you don’t ever find out that the root of what they want is the money. Sorry, but if this is familiar to you, the only thing to do is to get away from them forever. I have had to come to this conclusion. I never have felt so used. But what you will hear is, “they didn’t make you do it”.
My story when I set out in search of a good woman. I looked specifically for a woman who had a child that was single. I found one and it has been the best decision I ever made. My daughter is now an adult who is in college. No issues ever from her.
So much more to my story just not enough space for it, but I did want to commend you on doing this topic. Its an important one with many things to address. You did a good job.
Just ended a 2 year relationship with a Filipina. Everything is MUCH more expensive if she has children. Mine had a 11 year old boy and a 14 year old girl. Food is triple, rent is higher due to the requirement of more rooms. School supplies, cloths and backpacks. Medical, dental and vision care is much more expensive. The son always wanted mama to sleep with him even when we were on vacation. If we left the kids behind I had to pay the grandparents expenses and additional food. I finally decided I really don’t want to raise kids again. Be very aware before you even start because once the kids bond with you it’s tough to break it off.
@ it was hard to end but I had just returned to the US from a month in the Philippines and a week in Thailand. I completed the month so her and the kids would have a nice vacation. I didn’t have a good time on that vacation and that was the final straw. The hardest thing for me in ending the relationship was the kids as they didn’t really know how their mom had treated me. I’m looking forward to moving full-time to the Philippines at the end of 2025 and I’ll resume my search for a companion.
There’s another guy from Michigan who married a single Filipina mom with 4 kids and teenaged son and he said they gets\ along great because the American father got him into lift weighting. So finding that commonality and similar interests between u and ur step-kids are important.
I think, I know him from his Vlogging. He went out with his son and got into a fight and his step son got badly injured in the head. Maybe, that's him.
I was raised by my paternal grandparents from the age of 7. I looked on them as my parents and always will. I never felt that my "dad" or "mom" were a step behind other's due to age. There was a 53 year gap between us, but they always told me I kept them young! They were financially settled and had time to spend with me. They lived long enough to see me through graduate school and into adulthood!
VIEWER FEEDBACK,,there you go sugar coating it,saying there is nothing wrong with single mum's, your being politically correct and biased because you have a single mum,,your a good man for accepting a single mum but you know really most smart men would prefer a single woman not a single mum,there are many practical reasons for that.
filipina single mums are just looking for a good provider. If u r much older and cannot satisfy her sexually, her young ex will do it for her. this is sad
And most women would prefer a much younger man than you are if he has the same free time and amount of money, that is just how life is. Don't fool your self, she settled for you and you were far from her first pick.
Good words , good video... Showing insight to the reality of real life... Hopefully foreigners realize this video makes good common sense.. After the initial honeymoon , Real life will Set in. Think first before you commit. Filipinas have hopes also.
We have a limited amount of money/resources. And to waste your limited amount on another man's kids is foolish. I was a stepfather. It was the single worst financial decision of my life.
Being a single mom has nothing to do with me. I had nothing to do with that decision. I was not invited to that party, so do not invite me to the clean up.
I was talking to a Philippina that said kids father was paying child support but she would not answer any other questions about him....She would get mad and ghost me for 2 days .
And how many other red flags were you willing to ignore to get your pee-pee touched by this woman? I mean really, guys have some self-respect and standards that you won't compromise on.
@RealGaryGibson I totally agree with you but do you also know why most/all Filipinas desperately/obsessively want a kid (or more than 1) even when she is poor as hell? Oh and pls dont say : "its their culture".
I am in the Philippines now and have been in a long term relationship with a single mom. She has one daughter that is nine years old. She is not married and the child's father is not involved. The three of us live together as a family.
@@TerryPaul-x2t just be aware, if the mum is a single mum, there may be a chance your stepdaughter will be a single mum and you will more than end up raising some elses child again like I did, twice!
Are you aware that if youre not married to a single mom and her daughter you can be arrested under the Phils Trafficking laws ? It only takes 1 filipino/filipina to report you and youre toast.
@@petesrules1508 Some guys are willing to endure suffering for the affections of a woman. As men, we should be advising each other to avoid the pitfalls of having relationships with single mothers. If she can't wait until she's married to have sex and children then you can't really trust that after you marry her that she'll never reconnect with that guy or some better opportunity down the road. Western women do this all the time, why do we presume other women who lacked morals wouldn't do the same? There's just no need to settle for the half-rotten apple on the ground. Reach up and put some effort into finding a good one still on the tree. Too many men would rather look down than look up and set their standards accordingly. We have to break men from settling for this sort of thing.
I think single moms are better care providers there used to putting others first and know how to love.I don't suggest everyone do this but I married a single mom of 6. We celebrate are 7 th anniversary this July. I also turn 62 this year and the youngest of the kids turns 21. I am happiest i ever have been and my wife is awesome. We have an empty nest now and will start to spend more time traveling.❤Good video Mike
Mike your exactly right about the costs. If you want your lady to stop working all the costs for the child or children will be born by you. That also includes a bigger place at least another bedroom for the rental and college education. It’s something you need to consider. It’s a deal breaker for me. That’s why many ladies lie about having children in the beginning.
Hard to blame the men in the Philippines for chasing easy women who dont protect themselves. The girls here have legs that are always open and minds that are closed for most of the time. That being in love with a loser is a recipe for disaster and thats when the foreigner comes in and saves the unfortunate women with kids. Poor choices leads to a poor life.
@maxmontana3044 Secular sex-ed could have saved all those filipina single moms from getting preggy. Its so easy to have unprotected sex without getting pregnant as long as - preferably both - know everything about HER ovulation (menstrual cycle) (not to be confused with menstruation),. But hey, its more fun in the Philippines, right?
I'm a single mom. I met a French guy when my daughter is already 25 and start building her own family. I left her father when I all have the fears to have pregnant each year and we only both afford to just put food on the table 3x a day. A fear that We can not afford to send the kids to school. I am to blame earlier to leave him but it's better to raise a kid alone than more responsibilities that I can not afford because I sort it out he's not a good provider. So now I have an older guy, a foreigner with me, I see to it been a single mom isn't a hassle. We are living far province from my own family. Far from relatives from my own daughter. Because the priority is to retire peacefully. Single mom, best to know too if not legally married. Because there are single moms who are legally married and claiming single mom. If not, how long is she been single. How old and how many kids. But if it's not a problem with a guy who value peace with many more members of the family. Not a problem. One more thing is please you need to learn if the father of the kids is just around - within the Baranggay, town or just neighbors.
Very well thought out and appreciate the real life experience. My hats off to you Mike for taking on such a responsibility. Personally I will not be dating a single mother and taking on that its just not worth the squeeze. I just don't see the benefit. Great content Mike.
If I had to choose at older age I would choose to keep the money for myself and enjoy life without small kids on my neck. Just don't get me wrong because children are children,but my older age and my brain wouldn't allow me to go through that kind of stress.
Yes and the stress on your time, emotions, finances double, triple whith each stepchild you have. In the end you will end the relationship it cannot last.
I have a step son. He was seven months old when I met her mother because his father ran away. It was me and my wife that decided to intoduce him to his father at a very young age for him to know his dad. He is now 30 years old still call me dad and his father by his name. He says I am his dad and his bio dad is the one that gave him life. He like his father too, but in his life I am the one that borough him up to be man. He is now living with his wife with two children. He children call me papa and they do not care about their real grandfather. i also have one daughter not with my wife, but the story is different because she wss not raised by me but another man. She call that man by his name and me as dad. We have a good relationship and all my grandchildren visited us once a year. I have one daughter with my wife too and they all consider themselves brothers and sisters with no differences if same mother or father. It was complicated when they were growing up to explain them how rhis mess happened but they all understand the story that life had chosen for our family. I am proud today to be a grandparent of 7 grandchildren..
That's the easiest? Well at least you'll be the 2nd important person in her life but get to finance everything. Sounds kind of pathetic, don't you think?
@@ColonelHoganStalag13 And that is now I learned Spanish. Why would I have to support the family? Did we do thing together yes, but I did not pay for her household or family situation. If we went out and did something, sure I paid, but I did not exhaust my budget. Also, I never lived with her in her house, but I did learn Spanish fast and got to conversational Spanish in about 6 months. Do I think that it is pathetic, no. You make your own situation, what ever you build, that is what you end up with and there are lots of possibilities.
One thing that wasn't mentioned that should have been, is that the biological father might not be out of the picture. She wanted him but he didn't want to commit to her. You think she might not get sweet talked into sleeping with him again? Are you willing to take that chance? And what if you want to marry this girl and move out of the country? That father may not necessarily consent to it. That consent is required if he's still alive. You also are never really the father just the provider. No man should set out to put himself at such a disadvantage and risk his time and money on a used woman.
Good luck with that. Maya said she lied to Gio about not wanting children was probablydesperatefor a better life, when she always wanted a half white baby. The marriage broke thats one of the reasons
With 15 to 16 million single mums out there its a minefield for desperate and lonley Old foreigners who think they will save this women from povery. But buyer beware, while they love you as an ATM, they also love their local boyfriends because its always their first preference, which makes sense, they can related to their own kind.
Too close for comfort. Lack of communicatiion and no common interests anymore. She has a child and wanted another kid and wanted a family life. Gio wanted traveling and vlogging.
I m amazed how many guys, at the beginning, don't ask a filipina about her status, it is like they are scared of reality. However are there lots of single mums there compared to the west or is it that they target foreigners more than the single girls?When I was first there in the 1990's dated several women who didn't have kids now it seems rare to meet a girl who doesn't have kids.
Im 41, and I am not about to spend all that money to travel from the United States to date a single mother. I have no kids, but when I do I want them to my own.
The reason is no protection use here, What’s sad is there’s orphanages here. Its very sad!!!! I know single dad looking for single mom, Lol, But he has not found any keepers, He wants for mother of his own daughter, Well turns out none are really moms, They leave kids with parents and out party ect. Some have 2, 3 children 3 different dads, Give it 10 years STD be like Africa here,
Seeing Maya slapping high 5's with her heavily tatted vlogger friend a couple weeks after the breakup was absolutely sickening. Gio got suckered by her pretty face.
Personally I think it’s wise to stay away from single moms, unless the baby daddy is definitely no longer in the picture. But even that is a big risk. Not saying it can’t workout. But just comes with a lot of baggage. No pun intended.😂
I was 54 when I met a single Filipina with no kids who was 28 at the time. We're married and have kids together now and live in the US, but I was 54. Not retired. 65+ is a whole new level of game or lack of it. You MIGHT have to go for the single mom. I didn't have to, because I had more to offer.
Hello. Great video, i disagree with parents not strict or disciplining the child. If she is a single mother, most likely not. Filipinos with a 2 parent household get disciplined
Great topic and it's very common for guys to date single mothers. I have dated a few and supported their kids while being with them. I think men from the west are conditioned to try to take care of our partners kids. I would limit it to women w/ less than 4 kids tho, 1-3 kids isn't that bad. If they have 4 or 5 kids, that's a bit too much.
Dating a single mother back in the states when I was mud thirties, looking back 20 years, I essentially consented to being used, out of my loneliness. After 6 years, I was out and all the effort abd money I put in to helping raise him those years, I can't get any response in return now, it's as if I'm nothing. I would recommend staying away from single moms, no matter what country, but especially thurs world. Radio host Tom Lycas had it right. Thanks Mike for the straight talk that a lot of us guys need it.
You make us think twice, personally I would not be able to support a family financially,If I go in Philippines it won't be my goal to find a single mom, I'll take it easy, anyway Canadian dollars is dropping a lot so everything would cost more, thank you Mike
You mention 1 main reason for single moms was runaway Baby Daddies BUT from what the general concensus I've drawn from what Vloggers say It's actually Lack if Birth Control & sex before & outside marriage, as the main reasons
I would like to commend Mike for this very topic, its an information awakening. Yes everything is true. Let me put myself on the gentlemen in here. Why i would choose if single mom if theres, single lady not a family breadwinner in the beginning. If in case single mom, why i would choose single mom with more than 1 children that i would support them in all aspects. If in case single mom, why would choose doesnt know how to work or can help in financially to her own child/childrens needs. All decision should be really depends on you. If you cant then tell. Much better to be honest at the beg of dating. If its everything would be work to both of you. Love and Peace- Lynne
I thought if I found a single Filipina without kids she wouldn’t be happy with me because I can’t have any more kids. My filipina fiance is a working widow with 3 daughters: 17, 10, and 7. I have 2 sons who are with my exwife. I will be working for another 5 years, or so. Her eldest daughter will soon be an adult and is fiercely independent. The two youngest daughters will stay with close relatives, for now. We will be sending support money to the Philippines for the kids. My girlfriend will work in the USA.
Under Phklippines child protective law, a foreigner can't be alone in public or private with a minor under 18. It is a criminal offense and puts the foreignerl at risk of arrest and prosecution or pay out an extortion fee.
There’s lot of single girls that don’t have any kids. Don’t ever date with kids remember your there to enjoy your life not raise any kids, you don’t need any problems.
Excellent video Mike. The Mamas Boy scenario in the Philippines is real. The single mother's baby and spoil the boys because they do not want to alienate them. They are hoping the boy or boys will help them when they are old. Most of the young men who shoot, and scoot are Mamas Boys. I know Filipino men who are in their 40s and cannot make any decision without first consulting their mother, and they are shooters and scooters. Some of the Mamas boys are also from homes with a father and mother and are still spoiled rotten. Meanwhile the daughters are expected to work locally and also OFW to give money to the whole family including the lazy and useless boys.
Yikes, I realize all you are saying and it’s true. I’m retired don’t want any of that. Like Reekay says know what you want first. No major decisions for at least a year. Take your time…..
I DON'T THINK I WILL EVER DO THAT AGAIN. I had a 5 year LDR with single mom of one 2 year old girl. (Boy ditched her when she became pregnant) she had to drop out of college. Parents were pissed. Enter me, I traveled 8 times in 2019 alone to visit her here in Cebu, Covid hit, then I retired and came to be with her forever.... BABY DADDY SHOWS UP... she leaves me for baby daddy. Even though (not bragging here, just to prove a point) I earn 3 times the amount of the average Expat lives on over here, and that boy earns 5920 pesos a month, or $101 per month ( high school dropout) How can a family of 3 live on that? Also he now lives in the poor province with her family, which stunned me that they would accept him back. They all loved me, but apparently baby daddy, regardless of his status will take her away from you every time. She said she wanted a "complete family " Okay, good luck with that. Moving on 😊
I not only lost the love of my life, I lost a potential daughter I loved dearly, I lost the family of 7 that I loved and respected and I helped out in a big way, and I lost the 20 or so friends that all live around her province area. So you lose more than just the girl. I will seek a single, no child girl this time. No more drama, and total heartbreak. 💔
@@robjulian2955 I feel that pain and loss.
You never know the immeasurable lifelong effect you had on her circle.
How many times per year will her parents say, "You should have stayed with the man who knew how to love and care."
@@robjulian2955 If the next relationship doesn't work out your loss will be the same except for the daughter.
That was a hard lesson, but you'll move on successfully, it's her loss.
sooo sorry. What a messed up story. Not to be too nosy, but as you mentioned it, what is your monthly budget / free cash flow? US$6,000?
Mike should interview you
No, I can't handle it and I won't even try. That's one of my RED FLAGS 🥴
Just a matter of time before you get the line “you’re not my father,” or from the mother, “you’re not his/ her father. Your money and resources are, however, acceptable.” 😳
@tattie278 plus I can guarantee you that they care for you as a stepfather, they do not care one bit for you unless you give them plenty of money, especially in their teens.
@@tattie278 they are like milk. You better get your moneys worth in trade.
DONT DO it, dont marry a single mum who has girls. It will cost you plenty.
I have been in the Philippines 32 years and married a single mum with 3 daughters plus a biological one for 30 years.
All my 3 stepdaughters became single mums at 15 and 16 years of age and now I am raising 3 bastard stepgrandchildren and it is hell, both emotionally and physically and financially.
If your an older man, enjoy your retirement and forget children you will never have peace.
LOL! Send the girls to ANgeles City to work in the bars. Tell them if they want to eat they need to earn their own money! Does sound like this is hell.
@@MrBatteryChanger1 Run run away…..good luck
@@suzzieq1914 hahaha thanks for the encouragement, the only problem I am not a filipino and I made my bed 30 years ago and I am laying in it.
I will support the little bastards while I'm alive and they can do what they want after I'm gone.
My buddy married a flip. Her daughters had a kid at 12 and 13. Standard in her village🤷
@@iluvmoney6767 look I know where your coming from but these native girls are full of emotion and always in love. They would not listen to anything I said but once they had children they thankfully settled down as most h
Filipino guys won't touch them with a 3 metre ( 10 foot ) pole. All three are in college and University and actually doing well.
Remember the child knows you're a step father. You can pay all the bills but child knows who is the real father.
My educated guess is that the child actually does NOT know who their real father is at least 50% of the time. All the mother has to do is ask him for money and he disappears. And most kids don't know enough to lie if you ask them. Just say, "Sino ang tatay mo?" And if they answer "Wala!", that's usually a pretty reliable indication that the father's never been around. Although an older kid might lie because he knows Nanay has caught herself a big fish.
I raised a stepchild in America from the age of five. He said I was the best father any boy could ever have so there is respect gained from your stepchildren regardless of nationality they respect you.
@@BelusTravellerI had a stepmother and a stepfather after my parents spilt and remarried…I’m 46 now and was very fortunate to be raised by two moms and two dads.
MyPhilippinesLife channel. Cat's daughter calls Michael daddy. They have been together less than one year.
@@RayH- is that the guy who runs the Canadian Beaver Bar?
Never, ever, ever marry a single mum unless you dont want any children of your own. Also if your older man, enjoy your freedom and retirement.
Well said. WHy would an older expat move to the Phils only to help raise a child from a filipina who is not his? Makes no sense.
@@iluvmoney6767 You can never tell, that child might end up looking up after him when he is old.
@@johnlove6194good luck with that in 2050😂
A single mom is actually the best way to tell if she is a good mom if you want children yourself that is.
Mike's right. I have a Filipino step-son (now a naturalized U.S. citizen for over 25 years). I always thought his mother babied him way too much. We got through it, but it was always something of an issue. Fathers in general (even Filipino men) try to raise their sons to be strong and independent. We can be harsh, but that's usually just tough love. No man wants a weak son, and no woman wants a man that can't stand on his own two feet. IMO, women of any ethnicity don't know how to raise boys. Conversely, the same is true of men raising girls. Men tend to raise their daughters up to be entitled little princesses instead of responsible young women. If you hook up with the single mom of a young Filipino boy, you'll have a very hard time convincing her to back off and let you turn him into a man. Your Filipina will think you're just being hard on him because he's not your biological son. While this is a dilemma for step-fathers of ALL cultures and ethnicities, it's going to be particularly challenging for an American attempting to raise a Filipino boy. Filipino children mature much slower than American kids. But it's natural - boys will always be boys! And from time to time, they need a strong father figure who can put the fear of god into him to keep him in check. And when you do this, he will always go running off to cling to his mother's skirt, and your Filipina will almost always protect him - making him weak and pathetic. It's frustrating!
Or better yet, don't get into a relationship with a used woman and begin a family with a woman who didn't give her body away for free.
Once you married a woman with a child you will always be number 2 . There are millions of women here without children enjoy your latter years. Do you really need all these problems. Cheers 🍻
No 2 🤷♂️. No, more like No 3. Behind her child and also her family.
@@peterpoulter1420 agree..always #2
Nope I disagree. Its a matter of effective communication of the couple.
exactly all the repsonsibility but no authority. SIMP
Yes. I am currently with a woman who just had a cesarean section. I paid for it. I married her about 8 months ago. I married her shortly after marrying her. She refused ObGyn appointments any way possible. She avoided ultrasounds for 4 months. All the while she promised the child was mine. Then after 4 months the ultrasound showed a time when I wasn’t even in the Philippines. I was crushed. She then told me some story of a guy named Casper and a girl named Althea that introduced them. I asked for a last name of either and she refused to give me any last names or how to contact either of them on social media. She promises this Casper will never pop up. But because she did not tell me he even existed for 4 months after she was forced to tell the truth after ultrasound results how could I ever believe anything she ever said. I have built onto her parents house. I furnished this extension once until she showed me so much disrespect right after the extension was finished that I sold all the furniture electronics and appliances because it seems too much like she was just waiting for the extension to be finished and furnished and was intending to get rid of me. She said if the child is mine she will never let me see her. She didn’t apologize and stayed with her mom and dad overnight and not in the extension with me. That’s when I took a sledgehammer to the extension I paid to build and sold all the furniture appliances and electronics that morning after she said what she said. I think she just expected to chase me away when she got what she wanted out of me. She never expected me not to leave the furnished extension for her, her child, and possibly her next boyfriend, or the biological father. She always has a big smile on her face around any visitors but rarely smiles with me. She is rarely even affectionate. I believe I was just a sucker thinking because she is young she will agree to me taking care of her now and when I get old she can return the favor. But she does not have that kind of character. I talked to a local Filipina about the scenario I am dealing with and she just commented, “ it’s the Filipina way”. And with all the warning vlogs about province girls foreigners getting taken advantage of if you allow it, it seems to be at least somewhat true that lies and manipulation are accepted on any scale regardless how they affect foreigners for an extension to their parents house. Poverty doesn’t make people humble and kind. It makes them desperate for the most part and will do whatever they have to to get what you have. And they want most of what you can give them just so they can show it to their compound people. I think it is a big joke and a dysfunctional competition with these young province girls. I thought a province girl would be purer, more innocent, more honest. Please don’t think that. Save yourself. Look for someone your age who has their own so you don’t end up with someone who doesn’t even want to know you but wants to know what you will or can be tricked into doing for her and her family. And believe me, when the compound finds out you will not be their piggy bank to adults or their children, they hate you. It sucks, but you can’t feel pity for the poor here because culture and tradition and social media and dating sites have corrupted the goodness in province girls and made them willing to fake love and care for profit. And if you ever get wise that they really don’t care about you, the only one that feels the pain of having to decide to leave is you. Poverty has taught a lot of these young women to detach from their emotions. So the time, money, property, and love you give is just what they want you to give as long as you don’t ever find out that the root of what they want is the money. Sorry, but if this is familiar to you, the only thing to do is to get away from them forever. I have had to come to this conclusion. I never have felt so used. But what you will hear is, “they didn’t make you do it”.
My story when I set out in search of a good woman. I looked specifically for a woman who had a child that was single. I found one and it has been the best decision I ever made. My daughter is now an adult who is in college. No issues ever from her.
So much more to my story just not enough space for it, but I did want to commend you on doing this topic. Its an important one with many things to address. You did a good job.
@@philipcooper3330 you can get lucky sometimes, lucky she's not become a single mum.
Your daughter lol
@@philipcooper3330 I had no problems with the daughter. She was a dream. The boy was the problem and at 12 it was more than I was willing to take on
Tried that. Failed miserably. Paid all the bills and then some with no rights.
Just go slow, because slow is smooth and smooth is fast.
Just ended a 2 year relationship with a Filipina. Everything is MUCH more expensive if she has children. Mine had a 11 year old boy and a 14 year old girl. Food is triple, rent is higher due to the requirement of more rooms. School supplies, cloths and backpacks. Medical, dental and vision care is much more expensive. The son always wanted mama to sleep with him even when we were on vacation. If we left the kids behind I had to pay the grandparents expenses and additional food. I finally decided I really don’t want to raise kids again. Be very aware before you even start because once the kids bond with you it’s tough to break it off.
How hard was it to end it? Did you have to move to a different place?
@ it was hard to end but I had just returned to the US from a month in the Philippines and a week in Thailand. I completed the month so her and the kids would have a nice vacation. I didn’t have a good time on that vacation and that was the final straw. The hardest thing for me in ending the relationship was the kids as they didn’t really know how their mom had treated me. I’m looking forward to moving full-time to the Philippines at the end of 2025 and I’ll resume my search for a companion.
@@papadougpapadougsadventures and that my friend is the real truth.....
@@papadougpapadougsadventures best of luck and take your time. Life is for you now to enjoy.
Sounded you got a “gold digger” Many especially Filipina women, money is god to them and they will milk you without noticing it until is too late.
I’m just 37. I’ll go for the 18-22 year old w/ no kids
@@Kronnikk you have funds to leave us and think you will find job over there? 😀
@@Kronnikk save up your pennies......
@@Itsmenotu-g7gYou don't need a job if you know what you're doing bud😂
Not a bad plan but be aware she is going to want to have a baby or two with you, no matter what she says.
@@Kronnikk another thing government in Philippines is investigating if you have been convicted even minor crime in US you get deported from there.
There’s another guy from Michigan who married a single Filipina mom with 4 kids and teenaged son and he said they gets\ along great because the American father got him into lift weighting. So finding that commonality and similar interests between u and ur step-kids are important.
I think, I know him from his Vlogging. He went out with his son and got into a fight and his step son got badly injured in the head. Maybe, that's him.
Yes great family 💯
@ ♥️
Mike thanks for the PSA.... I'm officially scared straight. Peace and Love, B Goat
I was raised by my paternal grandparents from the age of 7. I looked on them as my parents and always will. I never felt that my "dad" or "mom" were a step behind other's due to age. There was a 53 year gap between us, but they always told me I kept them young! They were financially settled and had time to spend with me. They lived long enough to see me through graduate school and into adulthood!
VIEWER FEEDBACK,,there you go sugar coating it,saying there is nothing wrong with single mum's, your being politically correct and biased because you have a single mum,,your a good man for accepting a single mum but you know really most smart men would prefer a single woman not a single mum,there are many practical reasons for that.
@@danielexactlycorrectrobert5233 well God gave Adam a virgin, not a single mum with 2 or more kids and a woman who is always looking elsewhere.
@@danielexactlycorrectrobert5233 I guess it's okay if the kids are boys and your young and not interested in having your own, that could work.
filipina single mums are just looking for a good provider. If u r much older and cannot satisfy her sexually, her young ex will do it for her. this is sad
And most women would prefer a much younger man than you are if he has the same free time and amount of money, that is just how life is. Don't fool your self, she settled for you and you were far from her first pick.
I'm FIRST! I once had a date with an ORFAN with no kids who worked at McD by the Duma cathedral. An Orphan in PH is a dreamgirl! No family, Yippee!
I’m glad you’re here!
Yes, a catch!
Good words , good video...
Showing insight to the reality of real life...
Hopefully foreigners realize this video makes good common sense..
After the initial honeymoon ,
Real life will Set in.
Think first before you commit.
Filipinas have hopes also.
Good one, Mike. Good filming place. You looked 15 years younger here.
I'm glad you noticed!
We have a limited amount of money/resources. And to waste your limited amount on another man's kids is foolish. I was a stepfather. It was the single worst financial decision of my life.
@@hammertyme8392 yes I believe your right
Good information Mike!
Cool, thanks!
Being a single mom has nothing to do with me. I had nothing to do with that decision. I was not invited to that party, so do not invite me to the clean up.
Beware if the kids call you Daddy (First Name) because there is probably also a daddy Bob and a Daddy Steve and a Daddy Ralph too!?
I was talking to a Philippina that said kids father was paying child support but she would not answer any other questions about him....She would get mad and ghost me for 2 days .
And how many other red flags were you willing to ignore to get your pee-pee touched by this woman? I mean really, guys have some self-respect and standards that you won't compromise on.
Run and don't look back. It will cost you in the long term.
I've found that there's basically 2 types of Filipinas:
1 - Filipina that has a kid.
2 - Filipina that wants a kid.
@RealGaryGibson
I totally agree with you but do you also know why most/all Filipinas desperately/obsessively want a kid (or more than 1) even when she is poor as hell? Oh and pls dont say : "its their culture".
I am in the Philippines now and have been in a long term relationship with a single mom. She has one daughter that is nine years old. She is not married and the child's father is not involved. The three of us live together as a family.
@@TerryPaul-x2t just be aware, if the mum is a single mum, there may be a chance your stepdaughter will be a single mum and you will more than end up raising some elses child again like I did, twice!
Are you aware that if youre not married to a single mom and her daughter you can be arrested under the Phils Trafficking laws ? It only takes 1 filipino/filipina to report you and youre toast.
@@petesrules1508 Some guys are willing to endure suffering for the affections of a woman. As men, we should be advising each other to avoid the pitfalls of having relationships with single mothers. If she can't wait until she's married to have sex and children then you can't really trust that after you marry her that she'll never reconnect with that guy or some better opportunity down the road. Western women do this all the time, why do we presume other women who lacked morals wouldn't do the same?
There's just no need to settle for the half-rotten apple on the ground. Reach up and put some effort into finding a good one still on the tree. Too many men would rather look down than look up and set their standards accordingly. We have to break men from settling for this sort of thing.
Great information, I wish technology would hurry up with that sexbot before I get too old😂
If she has kids you first need to make sure she's not married. Get a Cenomar to be sure.
@@222jojo
Some Filipinas single moms will hide her filipino husband or bf from you also give you a fake cenomar
I think single moms are better care providers there used to putting others first and know how to love.I don't suggest everyone do this but I married a single mom of 6. We celebrate are 7 th anniversary this July. I also turn 62 this year and the youngest of the kids turns 21. I am happiest i ever have been and my wife is awesome. We have an empty nest now and will start to spend more time traveling.❤Good video Mike
Mike your exactly right about the costs. If you want your lady to stop working all the costs for the child or children will be born by you. That also includes a bigger place at least another bedroom for the rental and college education. It’s something you need to consider. It’s a deal breaker for me. That’s why many ladies lie about having children in the beginning.
Hard to blame the men in the Philippines for chasing easy women who dont protect themselves. The girls here have legs that are always open and minds that are closed for most of the time. That being in love with a loser is a recipe for disaster and thats when the foreigner comes in and saves the unfortunate women with kids. Poor choices leads to a poor life.
That's the way it's been ever since I can remember, and I'm pretty old, ok maybe not pretty...
@@billspaid9 lol yes
@maxmontana3044
Secular sex-ed could have saved all those filipina single moms from getting preggy. Its so easy to have unprotected sex without getting pregnant as long as - preferably both - know everything about HER ovulation (menstrual cycle) (not to be confused with menstruation),. But hey, its more fun in the Philippines, right?
I’m smashing a ling ling now with 2 kids..I plan on never meeting her kids or making her my gf we just have good clean fun! She’s amazing 😎
Single moms are for a fun time not a long time
Single mom........ a night of fun but no more than that.
I'm a single mom. I met a French guy when my daughter is already 25 and start building her own family. I left her father when I all have the fears to have pregnant each year and we only both afford to just put food on the table 3x a day. A fear that We can not afford to send the kids to school. I am to blame earlier to leave him but it's better to raise a kid alone than more responsibilities that I can not afford because I sort it out he's not a good provider.
So now I have an older guy, a foreigner with me, I see to it been a single mom isn't a hassle. We are living far province from my own family. Far from relatives from my own daughter. Because the priority is to retire peacefully.
Single mom, best to know too if not legally married. Because there are single moms who are legally married and claiming single mom. If not, how long is she been single.
How old and how many kids. But if it's not a problem with a guy who value peace with many more members of the family. Not a problem. One more thing is please you need to learn if the father of the kids is just around - within the Baranggay, town or just neighbors.
Going forward I now go into all relationships expecting them not to last and only do it for them good times and memories.
Very well thought out and appreciate the real life experience. My hats off to you Mike for taking on such a responsibility. Personally I will not be dating a single mother and taking on that its just not worth the squeeze. I just don't see the benefit. Great content Mike.
great segment mike,. important info for the newbies!!
Glad you found it helpful.
@@mikesphilippineretirement the newbies will. I'm past that point 😁
Mike, you're the very definition of a breath of fresh air.
If I had to choose at older age I would choose to keep the money for myself and enjoy life without small kids on my neck. Just don't get me wrong because children are children,but my older age and my brain wouldn't allow me to go through that kind of stress.
Yes and the stress on your time, emotions, finances double, triple whith each stepchild you have. In the end you will end the relationship it cannot last.
Simply a NO NO. Include separated Filipinas too. 🤔👍
No I have only dated a woman, that didn't tell me she was pregnant..... I found out some months later..., so you never now
I have a step son. He was seven months old when I met her mother because his father ran away. It was me and my wife that decided to intoduce him to his father at a very young age for him to know his dad. He is now 30 years old still call me dad and his father by his name. He says I am his dad and his bio dad is the one that gave him life. He like his father too, but in his life I am the one that borough him up to be man. He is now living with his wife with two children. He children call me papa and they do not care about their real grandfather. i also have one daughter not with my wife, but the story is different because she wss not raised by me but another man. She call that man by his name and me as dad. We have a good relationship and all my grandchildren visited us once a year. I have one daughter with my wife too and they all consider themselves brothers and sisters with no differences if same mother or father. It was complicated when they were growing up to explain them how rhis mess happened but they all understand the story that life had chosen for our family. I am proud today to be a grandparent of 7 grandchildren..
I target Lolas. Loving and no baggage
If you're a Lulu, a Lola is a perfect match! IMO, it's the extreme age gaps that cause most of the problems.
Good information salamat
I’d never seriously date a single Filipina but I’m glad a lot of dudes would. The most I’d do is “help” her while she’s dating the next guy.
The easiest way to learn the language is to date a single mom with a very young child. You can learn right along with the child.
That's the easiest? Well at least you'll be the 2nd important person in her life but get to finance everything. Sounds kind of pathetic, don't you think?
@@ColonelHoganStalag13 And that is now I learned Spanish. Why would I have to support the family? Did we do thing together yes, but I did not pay for her household or family situation. If we went out and did something, sure I paid, but I did not exhaust my budget. Also, I never lived with her in her house, but I did learn Spanish fast and got to conversational Spanish in about 6 months. Do I think that it is pathetic, no. You make your own situation, what ever you build, that is what you end up with and there are lots of possibilities.
For me, I will add to my life what enriches it. I’m not interested in being a dad or husband again. My dating pool will be smaller but that’s ok.
One thing that wasn't mentioned that should have been, is that the biological father might not be out of the picture. She wanted him but he didn't want to commit to her. You think she might not get sweet talked into sleeping with him again? Are you willing to take that chance?
And what if you want to marry this girl and move out of the country? That father may not necessarily consent to it. That consent is required if he's still alive. You also are never really the father just the provider. No man should set out to put himself at such a disadvantage and risk his time and money on a used woman.
My Asawa was smart enough not to get pregnant. We have no plans to have a child and she is ok with that.
Good luck with that. Maya said she lied to Gio about not wanting children was probablydesperatefor a better life, when she always wanted a half white baby. The marriage broke thats one of the reasons
With 15 to 16 million single mums out there its a minefield for desperate and lonley Old foreigners who think they will save this women from povery. But buyer beware, while they love you as an ATM, they also love their local boyfriends because its always their first preference, which makes sense, they can related to their own kind.
Single mom are a burden I don't have to worry about .
There are so many beautiful single girls.
No BS🎉
Off subject question.
Is the battery system the same in the PH as in the US? 12v vehicles, AAA, AA, C, D, 9V, button batteries?
Yes
Its pretty clear its a no win situation. I5s all about money not really love.
Most are scammers like maya
Ooo Gio won't like that, however not sure what went wrong in that relationship. Ho hum
So what is the story on their breakup ?
Too close for comfort. Lack of communicatiion and no common interests anymore. She has a child and wanted another kid and wanted a family life. Gio wanted traveling and vlogging.
No
No
No
No
No condoms.😅
Avoid at all cost…Same as in the west, responsibility without authority…
WAS THERE MUCH TO DO WHEN YOU ADOPTED JANETS SON?>?
Mike, youre vecoming the new Dr Phil.
😂😂😂😂😂
I m amazed how many guys, at the beginning, don't ask a filipina about her status, it is like they are scared of reality. However are there lots of single mums there compared to the west or is it that they target foreigners more than the single girls?When I was first there in the 1990's dated several women who didn't have kids now it seems rare to meet a girl who doesn't have kids.
I married a woman from Honduras.
Im 41, and I am not about to spend all that money to travel from the United States to date a single mother. I have no kids, but when I do I want them to my own.
The reason is no protection use here,
What’s sad is there’s orphanages here. Its very sad!!!! I know single dad looking for single mom, Lol, But he has not found any keepers, He wants for mother of his own daughter, Well turns out none are really moms, They leave kids with parents and out party ect. Some have 2, 3 children 3 different dads,
Give it 10 years STD be like Africa here,
yes, that will happen.
Gio was with single mom so it’s not for everyone 🎉
you forgot the adjective "westernized".
Seeing Maya slapping high 5's with her heavily tatted vlogger friend a couple weeks after the breakup was absolutely sickening. Gio got suckered by her pretty face.
@ totally. she now surrounds herself with questionable women. I now view her as the poison. kept an open mind, but a lot more is visible now.
Personally I think it’s wise to stay away from single moms, unless the baby daddy is definitely no longer in the picture. But even that is a big risk. Not saying it can’t workout. But just comes with a lot of baggage. No pun intended.😂
My first wife had 3Nd was 12 older than me. We were married over 20 years
Nice of you to use a line and give credit to the originator
I was 54 when I met a single Filipina with no kids who was 28 at the time. We're married and have kids together now and live in the US, but I was 54. Not retired. 65+ is a whole new level of game or lack of it. You MIGHT have to go for the single mom. I didn't have to, because I had more to offer.
Hello. Great video, i disagree with parents not strict or disciplining the child. If she is a single mother, most likely not. Filipinos with a 2 parent household get disciplined
What if just dating leads to pregnancy.
Great topic and it's very common for guys to date single mothers. I have dated a few and supported their kids while being with them. I think men from the west are conditioned to try to take care of our partners kids. I would limit it to women w/ less than 4 kids tho, 1-3 kids isn't that bad. If they have 4 or 5 kids, that's a bit too much.
Dating a single mother back in the states when I was mud thirties, looking back 20 years, I essentially consented to being used, out of my loneliness. After 6 years, I was out and all the effort abd money I put in to helping raise him those years, I can't get any response in return now, it's as if I'm nothing. I would recommend staying away from single moms, no matter what country, but especially thurs world. Radio host Tom Lycas had it right. Thanks Mike for the straight talk that a lot of us guys need it.
They were single moms before the dad left. They weren’t married. Thus she is a single mom dating the dad. Her choice was single mom.
Also they all lived with mom on another island near mindino
You make us think twice, personally I would not be able to support a family financially,If I go in Philippines it won't be my goal to find a single mom, I'll take it easy, anyway Canadian dollars is dropping a lot so everything would cost more, thank you Mike
It takes a real man to be a good father. ❤
Sure and it also takes a real woman to be a good Mother.
@@lindawilson795 takes a lot of money too.
Total BS
@@lindawilson795 in the Philippines it takes a financer to be a good father.
I take care of my girlfriend and her daughter. She calls me daddy. I'm the only daddy she knows.
good info
Of course they don't use contraception how silly would that be😳
Wise words
Remember dating women in ph or usa over 30 most likely will have kids. 4 steps kids life is great. Good video
It doesn't matter if she's a single mom. What matters is if you can trust her. I married a single mom 12 years age in Cebu that's why I know.
You mention 1 main reason for single moms was runaway Baby Daddies BUT
from what the general concensus I've drawn from what Vloggers say It's actually
Lack if Birth Control & sex before & outside marriage, as the main reasons
I hope im never that desperate to have to date a single mom. That would be tragic...
Why would anyone travel halfway around the world to date a single mom? Just asking
I would like to commend Mike for this very topic, its an information awakening. Yes everything is true. Let me put myself on the gentlemen in here.
Why i would choose if single mom if theres, single lady not a family breadwinner in the beginning.
If in case single mom, why i would choose single mom with more than 1 children that i would support them in all aspects.
If in case single mom, why would choose doesnt know how to work or can help in financially to her own child/childrens needs.
All decision should be really depends on you. If you cant then tell. Much better to be honest at the beg of dating. If its everything would be work to both of you.
Love and Peace- Lynne
No kids👎🏻👎🏻
I thought if I found a single Filipina without kids she wouldn’t be happy with me because I can’t have any more kids. My filipina fiance is a working widow with 3 daughters: 17, 10, and 7. I have 2 sons who are with my exwife. I will be working for another 5 years, or so. Her eldest daughter will soon be an adult and is fiercely independent. The two youngest daughters will stay with close relatives, for now. We will be sending support money to the Philippines for the kids. My girlfriend will work in the USA.
Save yourself a lot of heartache and money lost and stay home; the grass is not greener elsewhere.
Dramatic situations indeed . I am sorry for the those children not having a responsible father .
No single moms ever!!
Don't and never date a single mother.
@@mylesmulenga-uz6gd it's like going to a party of single mums and then cleaning up their mess.
...there is a LOT that can go wrong with a signal mom...
Under Phklippines child protective law, a foreigner can't be alone in public or private with a minor under 18. It is a criminal offense and puts the foreignerl at risk of arrest and prosecution or pay out an extortion fee.
Beware Dont Become A Step Dummy
I give my GF 5k per week allowance I give her parents 3k per week to take care of the 2 young children 3 & 5 yrs. Works out great, everyone happy.
There’s lot of single girls that don’t have any kids. Don’t ever date with kids remember your there to enjoy your life not raise any kids, you don’t need any problems.
If you adopt her child, wouldn't you qualify for an increase in SSA benefits for added dependents?
Excellent video Mike. The Mamas Boy scenario in the Philippines is real. The single mother's baby and spoil the boys because they do not want to alienate them. They are hoping the boy or boys will help them when they are old. Most of the young men who shoot, and scoot are Mamas Boys. I know Filipino men who are in their 40s and cannot make any decision without first consulting their mother, and they are shooters and scooters. Some of the Mamas boys are also from homes with a father and mother and are still spoiled rotten. Meanwhile the daughters are expected to work locally and also OFW to give money to the whole family including the lazy and useless boys.
Beware of Rose M Bagunas her other name is Russel M Bagunas.....all the red flags come with her.
In the U.S., most guys won’t get involved with single mothers either. I did it once and will never do it again.
Yikes, I realize all you are saying and it’s true. I’m retired don’t want any of that. Like Reekay says know what you want first. No major decisions for at least a year. Take your time…..