My ex GF of 10 years wanted marriage and this and that... she wasn’t a wife and didn’t act as such so she became resentful when I wouldn’t marry her immature self. Lowkey she is a narc also but anyway, fast forward she cheated and got caught red handed and still tried to lie about it to my face, lol. I now have full custody of both our kids and she pays me a very small amount of child support. It’s been 4 years and she’s still a single bootycall and she tried to come back but I’ve moved on with a good woman whom has taken me and my children in. It goes both ways. I can lead the family but I can’t lead her selfish self. She on her own now trading her self respect for attention.
Cheating is NEVER the fault or a reason of the non offender. If a man or woman cheat it is because THEY WANTED to! The cheating has nothing to do with the other person. The person that is cheating need to deal with themselves. If the non cheater choose to forgive ... GREAT! But it’s is not YOUR fault. 😏😏😏
1. This video is definitely for the women because men don't forgive after cheating. 2. I don't care what type of environment is created, there are other options outside of cheating. If that's your first choice, that's what you wanted to do anyway. 3. I forgive mistakes, but cheating is definitely not a mistake. ✌🏾✌🏾 4. Once he shares himself, could you really still consider him yours??? Sounds like community property.
A man is not your possession he doesn't bare your surname. You bare his surname, his children, his seed, his spirit, his history, his DNA.....you belong to him not vice versa......THE SLAVES BORE THE SURNAME OF THE MASTER. PROVING THE SLAVES WERE PROPERTY....SAME WITH MAN AND WOMAN.....WOMAN IS THE POSSESSION OF THE MAN
That's right.....once you've been nastied up and dirtied up by another man. We are done with you. You have your legs open for other men....no loyalty.....slag A man's loyalty is shown through providing and protecting not staying submissive to one woman.......its in our nature to see women as property not equals
I caught him emotionally cheating, i was taking a photo with his phone and a message popped up. A friend of his was telling him that she wanted to kiss him on his lips and he was laughing and calling her princess. I gave him a second chance but realized he started hiding his phone and turning it face down around me. I didn't care to see his phone in the first place but his actions just made me wonder. I got fed up of his hiding and lies and left. Where the mind goes, the body follows, if it's in a man/woman's character to cheat, don't waste your time. Its draining.
My Soon to be EX started the same way. It was the text messages and dating sights I saw in the computer cookies. He denided it over and over again. I let that slide the first time. Then 6mins after we got married, the messages came back up again. I let it slide again. He was asking her for pics and telling her lets see where it goes. I addressed this issue again with him. Let itslife a third time. Then meet and greets started up, then a female starting hitting me up in my DM about him being unfaithful and lying to her. He was seeing her for several months and wanted more in the relationship. Then she found out about me, his Whole Wife, through his lies, which started to unravel. Me and the girl spoke, she shared text messages, his pics, screenshots, voicemails...ALL THAT. I brought it to his attention. Of course he denied he was ever in contact with this woman. But I had proof . He dated for several months and he neglected me, all the bills and the whole house in general to the point the mortgage was being my 5-6mons, and his car being repoed. I decided to stay to try and work it out for the sake of the Marriage. He was too comfortable. Not even 6mons later, he was right back at it with a WHOLE NEW CHIC. He took her on a trip and he was scared to come back home. At that point, I decided to leave. Because I knew for sure that I was going to kill his ass. So I packed up and left. Now he wants me back. NAW BRUH, IM GOOD. DO YOU MAN SO YOU.
@@roselynh731 you gave him way too many chances sis but I guess he showed you who he really is. Why do these males always want what they would not even think about giving...smh
@@roselynh731 waw, that really sucks but i'm glad you finally found the strength to walk away. I know it would be difficult to get over that abuse but happiness is worth so much more than being in a toxic relationship. He isn't worth your time. Learn from the experience moving forward. I hope you don't ever go back. Wishing you all the best, i hope your next husband treats you amazing.
Why do men pursue a woman and play a perfect role to just end up being a cheater? Why do men pursue a relationship to just cheat every single time? I truly want to understand this because it blows my mind. Has Tony covered this before?
That's the reason why im divorced, he left me and our marriage and family to be with his married co worker so I filed for a divorce, he wanted out, so I gave him what he wanted, and now hes regretting his decision every day, he looks terrible and very unhappy....
I caught a STD because my boyfriend cheated on me. He brought women into my house to "do it". Thank God my situation was curable. The first time I found a pair of women's earrings in my bedroom, I should've ended the relationship.
@@lindemakasphe4376 symptoms must've gone unreported for quite some time. and certain screens are supposed to be a routine part of prenatal appointments.
If he cheats acts 100% unbothered at first. Then, secretly find out who he was cheating on you with. Then pack up all of his stuff and drop It off at her house. Because if he’s going to cheat let him stay over there.
Some men want a perfect woman while they are perfectly imperfect.. Giving second chances to a man who reminds you of all your shortcomings or mistakes...NO🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️Gotta GO!!! God gives second chances...🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 🙌🏽... I pray God’s will is done💜
So true, my Ex was this way. I finally realized he needed me to be perfect because he was sooo not. He cheated, I never confronted him. I just asked for a divorce. I am happy and at peace.
If ppl would own up to their faults and accept ACCOUNTABILITY when they are wrong things would go smooth. But first you have to own it and go from there no one is perfect everyone needs to be heard .
A couple years ago I left a man for cheating. I put him on block. He just reached out to me on fb and said that I hurt his feelings by leaving him for cheating on me! 🤦♀️ lol
No second chances with cheating or deception. Once the trust is lost it’ll eat you alive to try and trust again. If you give him/her a 2nd chance might as well be an open relationship.
I gave a second chance and it got worse! Tried to give him love an support but he got more comfortable to cheat again ! Don’t give a second chance to a men cheated on you !!!!!!!! Please Don’t
I've heard that one before, he wanted to be free meaning he could have the time space n freedom to cheat whenever he felt like it. We've been broken up ever since
He is speaking FACTS 2014 I was told by a therapist that I shouldn't just leave my marriage, I should prepare. Been divorced and now remarried but I must say, she was correct, she was trying to soften the blow, had I strategized I could've saved myself unnecessary drama. I think strategizing if you can manage it is very wise
Agree! I look back now if I had controlled my reaction I’ve could have prepared myself financially but I just lost it when I found out and confronted him.
@@denisedean8503 Its been a year since I've filed. Paid a retainer and all. Ex didn't sign of course. But we have nothing to divide. No kids and the house is in his name, plus he was several thousands behind on the mortgage. We were together for 9. Married for 4yrs. To answer your question...Not yet. Waiting on the courts now.
I said to myself 'I'm not commenting today, just listening'... Then Tony "then you got the man sending IF he got ANYTHING to send". LOL!!! Never fails, comedian.
If he cheats, make HER THE ONE for him. (Dr. James Dobson, "The Road Less Traveled."). Mine cheated for 34 years. Always said he would stop. Kept reading porn. Blamed me, never apologized. Kids are grown, I'm git gone. So happy now I cry. He was raised with cheating father, I was not.
There is never an excuse for cheating no one pushes anyone to cheat..there are a million other choices that could have been made with integrity. Cheating is 100% the cheaters sin to carry.
I gave him plenty of sex, love, time, friendship, cooking, all the childcare (3 kids)....he was lying and cheating behind my back the whole time (37 years), crazy how much work he put into making me look bad, following me, tapped by cell, gas lighting me, telling everyone I was crazy, gossiped about me, I would go to parties at his brother's house and many of the people there I never met gave me dirty looks, when I tell husband, he says I'm just crazy, (meanwhile he laughing) tapped my home phone BEFORE we had internet or cell phones. I never cheated. so happy now I cry.
This is sound wisdom! Thank you for being real and honest. There’s no one size fits all decision. Sometimes we contribute to the problem but only want to deal with the man’s response. It’s takes humility and maturity to see where you went wrong, be accountable, and do the work to grow. ❤️
I've felt the urge to cheat on my man several times because of the lack of effort he put into the relationship. I felt like I was in a 1 sided relationship. I done everything for this man. And he still cheated on me. And had a nerve to tell me he loves me and miss me. He was carrying me for months. I kept complaining cause I felt in my heart something was going on, but he told me I was assuming his mom even told me I was assuming. Whole time the mom knew exactly who the chick was. I would never speak to him or his mother
I pray you never go back girl ever no matter how much he cries and begs for you back, not worth it there's nothing you gain you actually loose parts of yourself
That was my ex he pushed me in a direction I didn’t want to be in and would never own it smh. I never cheated or had a desired for another man at all but it wasn’t the same with him .... I gave all my love and he show’d me in this 19 who he really was .💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾
All it comes down to is if you truly love that person, that wouldn't be a question for both people in the relationship. Period and if he/she cheated, that means they aren't ready or they ain't your person.
When a person learns self love they can then love other’s appropriately. To be in control over one’s own person as not to disrespect yourself and in doing so attracting what is meant for you is priceless. Peace of mind is the greater reward.
Enjoying the Commentary! But my heart aches 💔behind this break up and he cheated just once but it was once too many for me. So I bounced due to no trusting.🖤
What about a grown boy, who you did right by, and they know that you did right by them, and they never acknowledge it or apologize for everything that they were doing, and taking you through, and finally the guys is in his late 40's??? I would think at that age, a man would know what he wants. I'm so sorry that I wasted my time!!!!
Zoraida Castro If it was just weed. I probably could have handled it better. But it was much more. I had forgot who I married, He was like a stranger to me. I had never been in relationship with a Addict before and it was definitely scary.
I Do take accountability I'm doing the work to grow no one is perfect we all have our faults i was willing to seek counseling no excuse to cheat it's a choice
Denise Dean Forgive yourself. It's hard. I been there. I posted my testimony. You're still able to be who you want to be. It's never too late to start over with yourself 🙂
He cheated on me multiple times and it broke me down so much that I started cheating in revenge. It just went down hill until we both were living in hell. Hope he's doing better now, cause I do. 8 months apart. I'm still hurting though ((
Yeah that's horrible. My ex cheated on me and I forgave him. But it did not work at the end (we had other issues we couldn't solve) and it was horrible because whenever he would tell me something I could not know if it was true or not. I always had a doubt. Horrible feeling.
Excellent!!! Everything is not always cut & dry. Some relationships are worth fighting 4. Ppl can & Do contribute 2 unhealthy environments. Being honest transparent & Prayerful is the key. God will lovingly reveal whatever needs 2 be known. Blessings Tony G. 🙏🏾😊💯‼
we never had any money in the bank. Now I realize it wanted it that way so I couldn't leave. He told me I was EMOTIONALLY CHEATING (he cheats many many times physically), what do you expect when he leaves me so lonely? He took 37 years from me, I never even got to date! ever. married at age 20, met him at age 17 3/4. We had 3 children, I didn't want them to suffer, all 3 are successful now, glad I'm git gone.
Well TG everyone doesn't get that wife/husband at 21 or when your young. I tried to be a wife without the actual wife roll as I was younger but because your young doesn't excuse infertility, or any other issues. But I always hear from other men oh he was young what I did expect from him., he was going to cheat, lie, bring bs to you. So I'm like I was the same age 22 or 25 and I didn't cheat, lie, or bring bs to him. So I feel men always seem to get pases for whatever they did or do to women.. A woman on the other hand gets scolded and looked down at, if I were to be an cheater or liar to men. So I'm so tired of the double standards of men and women. It always on us even it comes to men and what they do or don't.
Tony you helped save my relationship! I was ready to give up on him! I am in the prosses of forgiving him for emotionally cheating I got your book make it work there are so many things in that book that I would have never thought about you explained everything so well I could put myself in his shoes and see the other side of the story! Now we are reading it together and he's putting in the work to fix what he broke! I was so ready to give up and walk away! Now I see what he needs to do and I know what I need to do ! Relationships are not always a walk in the park its a full time job and u both need to be on it 100% all the time! Thank you so much!!!
Right there with you, Sis. Only you know the value of the man and if he’s worth staying with. Women are quick to say leave, but after 10 years and two kids together, I chose reconciliation when he messed up. His effort is what made forgiveness happen. He accepted responsibility and he’s doing the work. 3 years later and our marriage is stronger and happier than it was before the infidelity. Because we both work hard.
He cheated while I was pregnant. It took him months to admit it but he had no choice because he gave me a std and he was busted. I actually forgave him and a year later I caught him cheating again. No he didn't give me any disease but the text messages showed he was meeting women in hotels from instagram telling them to take off all their clothes. Worse part he didn't even apologize
We married ,he cheated, lied and disrespected me ,I forgave him, and guess what 1,5 later we again in same situation he did it again this time it was last time .I hope to find a man who learned from his mistakes
😃😃 I love him Sooooo much . Thank you Mr. Gaskins for sharing every day. Has helped me sooooooooo much. Lord i wish you'd been around when I was married saved me a lot of wasted time & year's.
Don’t do to me what you don’t want done to u. Cheating is a personal choice until you are caught and loose everything . While you thinking the grass is green ur discussion will should you how brown it is .
Exactly great minds think alike. these are my standards and I accept nothing less than this. because if a man is not happy he shouldn't waste a woman's time whether he's married or not. you don't want to be there go on with your life. Ain't no excuse for a man doing what he doing. some men just want they cake and eat it too. that's just an excuse to keep on doing what they doing. And if any woman is like me you don't want no man that don't want to do right it's too much disease out here to be sleeping around I don't have no disease and I don't want no disease and I'm not going to let nobody give me something I can't get rid of that will kill me take me away from my children .I love myself too much and I love my children too much.
Debra Smith Just wanted to wish you well in your meeting. Are you a Christian? Pray for the Holy Spirit to be with you to give you wisdom, knowledge & the spirit of discernment. I hope he apologizes with a sincere heart & state the reasons for the apology & not just say "I'm sorry". I hope he will agree to attend church & pray with you.
I was shocked when I heard about financial infidelity😩😩😩 like seriously gob-smacked cause I didn't know it existed until 2020. As for the "third leg" comment IT FINISHED ME😂😂😂
I can speak to my own experience, as a woman. I wasn't a "loose" girl. I was a church going catholic girl with alot of love for Jesus & believed in prayer. I married young (21). I wrote my testimony on here, so I'll explain my mindset. Yes, I understood it would be adultery. Yes, I knew it would be wrong. An opportunity with an older, 33 yr old man, presented itself. I wanted out of my marriage already. So I took that open door. My mind was on getting out of the mistake of marrying too young & entering the excitement of sex with an older man. My ex was 1 yr younger than I. Looking back (I'm 50) I can see that I had been used & manipulated by that older man, but I also used him as my "way out". I felt the fear of God, shame, remorse & guilt. I think a "red flag" is someone who selfishly seeks their own pleasure without remorse & continues doing it. I know what I did was wrong, I confessed to my ex husband & told him why I did it. I made a huge mistake/bad choice. I owned it & we got the divorce. Is it forgiveable? That's a personal choice. After several years, I saw that ex with his wife & child. I had the opportunity to sincerely apologize & I know I was undeserving, but I asked his forgiveness. He said yes, he forgave me.
My ex bf who i have children with got married to someone he’s known for a few months he just told me the other day while we were on the phone talking about the kids that he cheated on his wife a day before they were married because he knew he wouldn’t be able to sleep with another woman again I’m like why would you bring sin into your marriage like that 🤦🏽♀️ welp shows that he hasn’t changed and i may have gotten seeds but glad i didn’t get the “ring” 🤢
@@PrettyDreadie You post to the comments to communicate. Its hard to understand your message without punctuation. Punctuation helps the reader to know where there are distinct separate clauses. If the sentences all run together, it will not be conveyed the way you intended. So please don't take offense. 🥰👍
@@PrettyDreadie Also, when people write in run-on sentences, they tend to communicate this way overall. Basically, they may have a tendency to talk without pausing, ensuring of the person has understood them or not. It can also reveal some underlying narcissism in a way when you are not aware or don't care just talk without making sure people understand youm Again, don't take offense at all. This is from the heart and coming from a good place. 😁
ButterCookie No it came from a place of sarcasm with an emoji to cover it up. If you don’t understand something sweetie that’s a personal problem. It really baffles me how strangers can sit on this damn app and try to pick and start things with people and then have the nerve to assume they can pick what kinda personality trait they have based off a damn comment. 🥴 So many weirdos on this app yo , BUT a lot are bored with nothing to do during this pandemic so it’s expected. Add your periods, commas, and anything else you need to understand if needed mam or sir whatever you are. Carry on 😌
Would you forgive a man paying for an onlyfans page and messaging the girls? When the relationship was good, sex is good everything was going good? Never got physical
Wow. Sad to hear Tony say this. This is basically blaming the victim or betrayed. If neither partner is flawless, that means each can find a fault or void and seek outside atrention with another person , cheat, affair, etc.. and just say they were pushed to it because they didnt like xyz. If youre a person of integrity, you wont for your own character stoop so low as to cheat nor do the one thing you know crush or be incredibly painful to the person youre in a relationship. Have accountability and demand it. If i can choose better and not cheat despite a shortcoming, he darn sure better or its a a wrap.
What if he warned me that he would go elsewhere if I couldn’t make more time to care of his needs.. I bust my butt working 2 jobs so my schedule was hectic to spend time with as I should. So yes I feel responsible for him doing what he said he’d do. Am I wrong?
How’s everything now? I will say you need to level yourself up and leave. You should t be having to work 2 jobs, unless he is too to help the household. If y’all are dating he already showing you his true colors. You got the red flags that’s telling you leave and never look back.
Yes, he is right! I moved out of state to be with this man. Everything started off good at first. he became mean and emotionally abusive. We were in a small country town in Texas so there were no buses , no uber or taxi service. It was hard to leave AND I WENT TO BATTERED WOMEN SHELTERS BUT THEY TREAT YOU LKIE YOU ARE IN JAIL. SO I WENT BACK TO HIM . I HAD TWO KIDS WITH HIM. I HAD TO PLAN LEAVING AND IT TOOK ALMOST A YEAR
Yes, as you say, 'people make mistakes', however, women are not given the same lead way. A more realistic statement would be, 'men are gonna make mistakes',so ,[women] forgive them.
I caught him at another female house. I called him and told him come get his ish out my house tomorrow. Return my keys. I have no trust no I won’t forgive. 1 and done no more chances you have 1x to get it right
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True. All these comments are Very Accurate but I calm down a lot after I realize that not everyone cheats. Some people are honest. Very Few Tho..... recognize who is for you....
I gave My all to my fiance and he cheated on me. And wouldn't even tell me he was cheating. He told me he was gonna write me a letter to tell me what happened. I changed my number and left his ass.
I’m so internally broken over the cheating because it’s several times and he claims to love me and my kids and that I am the one he wants to be with but I continue to catch him over and over we invested so much financially that’s why I stayed so long and I know I deserve better
Hi toni, it went well, talked, cooked together. He told me I am with the love of my life. I am not like the other women he knows.they only want money,and material things.i am a christian.and you and my spiritual mom and myself are in agreement.i asked God yesrs ago to give me the spirit of wisdom,and he did.i am a saved person. The holy spirit is giving me guidance. Thank you. Bless you and your family.
Daquanda marie Thank you for the recommendation.. but it’s not needed. Each person has the choice to decide to stay or leave when the spouse commits adultery and in fact be actually happy with a smile on his/her face after the decision.
Mine’s tried to sleep with my niece’s friend found out two years after I stayed and forgave him 2 years past the time I forgave him he just cheated on me in Africa with some random girl because he was “Angry “ at me for telling him it’s over between us because he wasn’t responding to me being stuck on the side of the road with our son in the car! I thought he was ignoring me and I was angry however the phones wasn’t working out in Africa ok so he payed me back by sleeping with another woman 3 times in the week now he thinks i’m staying with him jokes on him
My testimony - I am soon to be 51. I married at the age of 21 & the guy was 20. I was able to get in the clubs & he wasn't. In my eyes & mind at that time, I started thinking I made a huge mistake. I was meeting people my age & older & felt I was missing out. I tried talking to my ex husband that we were too young & made a huge mistake. He didn't want to leave my home. I admit & confess, I purposely cheated, just to finally get a divorce. Young, immature & stupid. The point I want to make - even though I CHOSE to do it, to THIS DAY, that decision haunts me. I have since seen this man with his wife & child & I was able to apologize & he forgave me. I can still picture his face when I told him what I did. I'll never forget the hurt. So whether you are the cheater or being cheated on, neither feels good. If you are currently married, flirting with someone you know or a co worker, STOP IT. When you're in that mindset, you're getting like a drug hit. It feels too good & you're not thinking clearly the damage you're about to create should you keep going. That temporary, sinful act, will lead you to destruction! As a Christian woman now, after all these years, I STILL feel the shame, remorse & regret. I wish I had just filed for an annulment (we were catholic at that time) in that 7th month, instead of choosing the foolish way I did, to end it. In my dating years afterwards, yeah I got mines. I got cheated on, so yeah, I got to know that hurt.
Please stop living in regret. That choice was made, you stopped and took accountability. Don't remain in your past any longer cuz you are still worthy afterall, humans aren't perfect-ever.
really interesting - i love the style of these shorter videos in parts too Tony - it means you can watch more easily on the go, whilst doing other things etc. thanks for the wisdom and the comedy all the same...
If you are a man listening to this. I commend you. I understand it is not easy for a man to stay faithful to one woman. I highly suggest that you pray seriously for the grace of temperance.For Christ said "without me, you can do nothing" Hope this helps.
CHEATING = IMMATURITY = Cannot LEAD our family. Byeeeeeeeeee
My ex GF of 10 years wanted marriage and this and that... she wasn’t a wife and didn’t act as such so she became resentful when I wouldn’t marry her immature self. Lowkey she is a narc also but anyway, fast forward she cheated and got caught red handed and still tried to lie about it to my face, lol. I now have full custody of both our kids and she pays me a very small amount of child support. It’s been 4 years and she’s still a single bootycall and she tried to come back but I’ve moved on with a good woman whom has taken me and my children in. It goes both ways. I can lead the family but I can’t lead her selfish self. She on her own now trading her self respect for attention.
And most of all it's done intentionally, with full knowledge and intent to hide and deceive.
That's a wicked spirit in there.
Amen a boss got to lead
RUNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN
IM OUT TO!!!!
Yesssss sis
Cheating is NEVER the fault or a reason of the non offender. If a man or woman cheat it is because THEY WANTED to! The cheating has nothing to do with the other person. The person that is cheating need to deal with themselves. If the non cheater choose to forgive ... GREAT! But it’s is not YOUR fault. 😏😏😏
I love this, so we'll worded. My fave part "it's not your fault" period
1. This video is definitely for the women because men don't forgive after cheating.
2. I don't care what type of environment is created, there are other options outside of cheating. If that's your first choice, that's what you wanted to do anyway.
3. I forgive mistakes, but cheating is definitely not a mistake. ✌🏾✌🏾
4. Once he shares himself, could you really still consider him yours??? Sounds like community property.
Well said.....how about communicating with your partner before cheating. Why is cheating the first option.
I agree
Lol
@@lakeysha8061 exactly
A man is not your possession he doesn't bare your surname. You bare his surname, his children, his seed, his spirit, his history, his DNA.....you belong to him not vice versa......THE SLAVES BORE THE SURNAME OF THE MASTER. PROVING THE SLAVES WERE PROPERTY....SAME WITH MAN AND WOMAN.....WOMAN IS THE POSSESSION OF THE MAN
Ladies do not give second chances! If the roles were reversed HE WOULD BE DONE WITH YOU! Men love to dish it but can’t take it!
💯 agree! I gave my Ex husband a second chance and he did it again.
That's right.....once you've been nastied up and dirtied up by another man. We are done with you. You have your legs open for other men....no loyalty.....slag
A man's loyalty is shown through providing and protecting not staying submissive to one woman.......its in our nature to see women as property not equals
I hope I'm not the only man who listen to this brother. Thank you for everything.
Please recruit 5 more other brother's 🤗glad you are willing to gain knowledge 👏👏
It takes a real man to HEAR the truth no matter how difficult it is. ACCEPT the truth and DECIDE TO ACT positively on it.Courageous man you are.👍
You're not. They're listening on the low 😂
You probably are, cos men don’t like the truth 😂
God bless you handsome. I second Kiia’s statement....recruit your boys 🙌🏼♥️ This knowledge is 🔥
I caught him emotionally cheating, i was taking a photo with his phone and a message popped up. A friend of his was telling him that she wanted to kiss him on his lips and he was laughing and calling her princess. I gave him a second chance but realized he started hiding his phone and turning it face down around me. I didn't care to see his phone in the first place but his actions just made me wonder. I got fed up of his hiding and lies and left. Where the mind goes, the body follows, if it's in a man/woman's character to cheat, don't waste your time. Its draining.
preach, who has time for that nonsense
My Soon to be EX started the same way. It was the text messages and dating sights I saw in the computer cookies. He denided it over and over again. I let that slide the first time. Then 6mins after we got married, the messages came back up again. I let it slide again. He was asking her for pics and telling her lets see where it goes. I addressed this issue again with him. Let itslife a third time. Then meet and greets started up, then a female starting hitting me up in my DM about him being unfaithful and lying to her. He was seeing her for several months and wanted more in the relationship. Then she found out about me, his Whole Wife, through his lies, which started to unravel. Me and the girl spoke, she shared text messages, his pics, screenshots, voicemails...ALL THAT. I brought it to his attention. Of course he denied he was ever in contact with this woman. But I had proof . He dated for several months and he neglected me, all the bills and the whole house in general to the point the mortgage was being my 5-6mons, and his car being repoed. I decided to stay to try and work it out for the sake of the Marriage. He was too comfortable. Not even 6mons later, he was right back at it with a WHOLE NEW CHIC. He took her on a trip and he was scared to come back home. At that point, I decided to leave. Because I knew for sure that I was going to kill his ass. So I packed up and left. Now he wants me back. NAW BRUH, IM GOOD. DO YOU MAN SO YOU.
@@roselynh731 you gave him way too many chances sis but I guess he showed you who he really is. Why do these males always want what they would not even think about giving...smh
@@roselynh731 waw, that really sucks but i'm glad you finally found the strength to walk away. I know it would be difficult to get over that abuse but happiness is worth so much more than being in a toxic relationship. He isn't worth your time. Learn from the experience moving forward. I hope you don't ever go back. Wishing you all the best, i hope your next husband treats you amazing.
Amen
Why do men pursue a woman and play a perfect role to just end up being a cheater? Why do men pursue a relationship to just cheat every single time? I truly want to understand this because it blows my mind. Has Tony covered this before?
That's the reason why im divorced, he left me and our marriage and family to be with his married co worker so I filed for a divorce, he wanted out, so I gave him what he wanted, and now hes regretting his decision every day, he looks terrible and very unhappy....
They think the grass is always greener on the other side...
OH Well!!! Blessings beautiful sista!!! The very Best is Yet 2 come💯✔‼🎯
@@priscillaoduro4865 exactly!!!
Same boat! 🙌
Was engaged to be married, he cheated before and after the enggementt I call it off and left with my daughter
Good for you sister!!! No 3rd leg is worth your health and peace❗
Right behind you sis
Omg 😳
Good for you and may God bless your new journey 🙏
How long were you guys together before getting engaged? Was that his daughter too?
I caught a STD because my boyfriend cheated on me. He brought women into my house to "do it". Thank God my situation was curable. The first time I found a pair of women's earrings in my bedroom, I should've ended the relationship.
Same here and my ex confessed and told me it came from his ex girlfriend before me and we were engaged to be married
@@cherburnett3200 what do you mean by healer restorer of relationships?
Same here smh
My niece lost her baby at 5 months preg bcos the STD ate up the placenta and caused her to give birth earlier! It traumatised me when i found out
@@lindemakasphe4376 symptoms must've gone unreported for quite some time. and certain screens are supposed to be a routine part of prenatal appointments.
I don't care who played what part...cheating of ANY kind is unforgivable....automatic excommunication should be standard.
You can be good to man. He will still cheat... smh
You can be good to a woman. She will still cheat. Smdh. It goes both ways.
Nothing satisfies grown boys
HeyyAshleyyy what satisfies grown girls?
@@DC-qk8ue ...The title says "He cheated"...
HeyyAshleyyy right
Your right! Cheating is anything you would do, with someone else, that you know your boyfriend/girlfriend or spose would not agree with.
If he cheats acts 100% unbothered at first. Then, secretly find out who he was cheating on you with. Then pack up all of his stuff and drop
It off at her house. Because if he’s going to cheat let him stay over there.
😂😂😂😂
Periooodt
😂✊🏾
Yes because people respond to consequences, not mere words. You got to shock them back to reality.
Some men want a perfect woman while they are perfectly imperfect.. Giving second chances to a man who reminds you of all your shortcomings or mistakes...NO🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️Gotta GO!!! God gives second chances...🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 🙌🏽... I pray God’s will is done💜
So true, my Ex was this way. I finally realized he needed me to be perfect because he was sooo not. He cheated, I never confronted him. I just asked for a divorce. I am happy and at peace.
Omg yesssss!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
If ppl would own up to their faults and accept ACCOUNTABILITY when they are wrong things would go smooth. But first you have to own it and go from there no one is perfect everyone needs to be heard .
A couple years ago I left a man for cheating. I put him on block. He just reached out to me on fb and said that I hurt his feelings by leaving him for cheating on me! 🤦♀️ lol
Wow!!
That was manipulative for him to say that, thank god he a EX
😂😂😂 he’s a comedian
What did he expect?!
No second chances with cheating or deception. Once the trust is lost it’ll eat you alive to try and trust again. If you give him/her a 2nd chance might as well be an open relationship.
yup
I gave a second chance and it got worse! Tried to give him love an support but he got more comfortable to cheat again ! Don’t give a second chance to a men cheated on you !!!!!!!! Please Don’t
The answer is not one size fits all.
"Pray for wisdom, clarity and guidance."
My ex was selfless and do things when he wanted to be free n then come back when he finish unacceptable 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾
Same thing pretty much just happened to me
I've heard that one before, he wanted to be free meaning he could have the time space n freedom to cheat whenever he felt like it. We've been broken up ever since
He is speaking FACTS 2014 I was told by a therapist that I shouldn't just leave my marriage, I should prepare. Been divorced and now remarried but I must say, she was correct, she was trying to soften the blow, had I strategized I could've saved myself unnecessary drama. I think strategizing if you can manage it is very wise
Agree! I look back now if I had controlled my reaction I’ve could have prepared myself financially but I just lost it when I found out and confronted him.
My Ex husband cheated on me last year I caught him cheating we are divorce
Can I ask, when you found out he cheated, how long after did you leave? Was it a fee times after or once?
@@roselynh731 I left right away that same Day.
Oh wow... now that I look back I stayed too long. I gave too many chances. That's why he was so comfortable doing what he did. Thanks for replying.
@@roselynh731 your welcome are you Divorce?
@@denisedean8503 Its been a year since I've filed. Paid a retainer and all. Ex didn't sign of course. But we have nothing to divide. No kids and the house is in his name, plus he was several thousands behind on the mortgage. We were together for 9. Married for 4yrs. To answer your question...Not yet. Waiting on the courts now.
Porn addiction is also cheating. I wish you would've mentioned this.
Yes. I would have liked him to expound on that
Yes, this is a huge nowadays but unaddressed.
Would you mind to explain further?
Amen it sure is! He does mention the “nasty movies” in most of his videos though.
Also the addiction affects their body, mind , emotions. They become very negative toxic ppl.
I said to myself 'I'm not commenting today, just listening'... Then Tony "then you got the man sending IF he got ANYTHING to send". LOL!!! Never fails, comedian.
Gural, I almost peed myself when he said it! Lawwd Cletus! Whereismyusha
If he cheats, make HER THE ONE for him. (Dr. James Dobson, "The Road Less Traveled."). Mine cheated for 34 years. Always said he would stop. Kept reading porn. Blamed me, never apologized. Kids are grown, I'm git gone. So happy now I cry. He was raised with cheating father, I was not.
Yes he was cheating and praying with me....had the Nerve to try n come back...he say I miss you ...I do right by you. NEXT
Stay strong
Same here, way to be strong and show yourself the respect that he never could show you.
I felt this on so many levels!! It's what I been experiencing 😞
There is never an excuse for cheating no one pushes anyone to cheat..there are a million other choices that could have been made with integrity. Cheating is 100% the cheaters sin to carry.
Exactly I dunno what nonsense I'm hearing here
I gave him plenty of sex, love, time, friendship, cooking, all the childcare (3 kids)....he was lying and cheating behind my back the whole time (37 years), crazy how much work he put into making me look bad, following me, tapped by cell, gas lighting me, telling everyone I was crazy, gossiped about me, I would go to parties at his brother's house and many of the people there I never met gave me dirty looks, when I tell husband, he says I'm just crazy, (meanwhile he laughing) tapped my home phone BEFORE we had internet or cell phones. I never cheated. so happy now I cry.
Im so so sorry you had to go thru this your an strong woman and he didnt deserve you at all
That's emotional abuse
I said it cheaters don't deserves second chance, you can forgive them and move on with your life because life is too short to live unhappy.
Why get into a full blown relationship when you’re all ready thinking about cheating
This is sound wisdom! Thank you for being real and honest. There’s no one size fits all decision. Sometimes we contribute to the problem but only want to deal with the man’s response. It’s takes humility and maturity to see where you went wrong, be accountable, and do the work to grow. ❤️
Needed this today... my ex husband was notorious🤮
mine too
How long were you guys married?
@Hey Hey married for 5yrs together 6.5yrs. Totally wasted my young 20s.
Think ima just love on myself + my daughter because my time too precious for nonsense
I've felt the urge to cheat on my man several times because of the lack of effort he put into the relationship. I felt like I was in a 1 sided relationship. I done everything for this man. And he still cheated on me. And had a nerve to tell me he loves me and miss me. He was carrying me for months. I kept complaining cause I felt in my heart something was going on, but he told me I was assuming his mom even told me I was assuming. Whole time the mom knew exactly who the chick was. I would never speak to him or his mother
I pray you never go back girl ever no matter how much he cries and begs for you back, not worth it there's nothing you gain you actually loose parts of yourself
The parents especially the moms are enablers.
@@kyrianjoseph1403 true
YES, BE WILLING TO DO THE WORK, WHICH REQUIRES REFLECTION WITHOUT ANGER
That was my ex he pushed me in a direction I didn’t want to be in and would never own it smh. I never cheated or had a desired for another man at all but it wasn’t the same with him .... I gave all my love and he show’d me in this 19 who he really was .💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾
All it comes down to is if you truly love that person, that wouldn't be a question for both people in the relationship. Period and if he/she cheated, that means they aren't ready or they ain't your person.
When a person learns self love they can then love other’s appropriately. To be in control over one’s own person as not to disrespect yourself and in doing so attracting what is meant for you is priceless. Peace of mind is the greater reward.
I believe in second chances also, but I will never tell my man that.
Enjoying the Commentary! But my heart aches 💔behind this break up and he cheated just once but it was once too many for me. So I bounced due to no trusting.🖤
In the same boat right now as we speak
INDIVIDUALS are responsible for their actions. Their partner is NOT.
"Gotta Go, Gotta Go".....lol. You so funny, facts with humor on top!!! Very Good!!!
What about a grown boy, who you did right by, and they know that you did right by them, and they never acknowledge it or apologize for everything that they were doing, and taking you through, and finally the guys is in his late 40's??? I would think at that age, a man would know what he wants. I'm so sorry that I wasted my time!!!!
Yep, mine was even older than that! You would think maturing with age means maturing emotionally...NOPE!!!
I agree with the exit tragedy. It took me three months and on the 4th month I was out. He wasn’t cheating with a woman, it was drugs.
True, Drugs can be an entity
Zoraida Castro It was definitely a draining situation. I’m thankful I was able to recover from his addict behavior.
That's scary. He probably hid it well. And yes weed is a drug!!
Zoraida Castro If it was just weed. I probably could have handled it better. But it was much more. I had forgot who I married, He was like a stranger to me. I had never been in relationship with a Addict before and it was definitely scary.
Lucy I totally agree.
Some people take advantage of the kindness, when you say you accept an apology,and repeat the hurt.
Ladies leave
I Do take accountability I'm doing the work to grow no one is perfect we all have our faults i was willing to seek counseling no excuse to cheat it's a choice
Denise Dean Forgive yourself. It's hard. I been there. I posted my testimony. You're still able to be who you want to be. It's never too late to start over with yourself 🙂
He cheated on me multiple times and it broke me down so much that I started cheating in revenge. It just went down hill until we both were living in hell. Hope he's doing better now, cause I do. 8 months apart. I'm still hurting though ((
My husband still cheated he said he was drunk and didn't remember who or where it was I still don't trust him or believe him
Yeah that's horrible. My ex cheated on me and I forgave him. But it did not work at the end (we had other issues we couldn't solve) and it was horrible because whenever he would tell me something I could not know if it was true or not. I always had a doubt. Horrible feeling.
@@Afrohairlicious I agree makes you feel something is wrong with you
@@Afrohairlicious you just didn't trust him anymore...betrayal will do that. You're normal, there's nothing wrong with you.
Excellent!!! Everything is not always cut & dry. Some relationships are worth fighting 4. Ppl can & Do contribute 2 unhealthy environments. Being honest transparent & Prayerful is the key. God will lovingly reveal whatever needs 2 be known. Blessings Tony G. 🙏🏾😊💯‼
we never had any money in the bank. Now I realize it wanted it that way so I couldn't leave. He told me I was EMOTIONALLY CHEATING (he cheats many many times physically), what do you expect when he leaves me so lonely? He took 37 years from me, I never even got to date! ever. married at age 20, met him at age 17 3/4. We had 3 children, I didn't want them to suffer, all 3 are successful now, glad I'm git gone.
Well TG everyone doesn't get that wife/husband at 21 or when your young. I tried to be a wife without the actual wife roll as I was younger but because your young doesn't excuse infertility, or any other issues. But I always hear from other men oh he was young what I did expect from him., he was going to cheat, lie, bring bs to you. So I'm like I was the same age 22 or 25 and I didn't cheat, lie, or bring bs to him. So I feel men always seem to get pases for whatever they did or do to women.. A woman on the other hand gets scolded and looked down at, if I were to be an cheater or liar to men. So I'm so tired of the double standards of men and women. It always on us even it comes to men and what they do or don't.
EMOTIONAL IMMATURITY
Tony you helped save my relationship! I was ready to give up on him! I am in the prosses of forgiving him for emotionally cheating I got your book make it work there are so many things in that book that I would have never thought about you explained everything so well I could put myself in his shoes and see the other side of the story! Now we are reading it together and he's putting in the work to fix what he broke! I was so ready to give up and walk away! Now I see what he needs to do and I know what I need to do ! Relationships are not always a walk in the park its a full time job and u both need to be on it 100% all the time! Thank you so much!!!
Right there with you, Sis. Only you know the value of the man and if he’s worth staying with. Women are quick to say leave, but after 10 years and two kids together, I chose reconciliation when he messed up. His effort is what made forgiveness happen. He accepted responsibility and he’s doing the work. 3 years later and our marriage is stronger and happier than it was before the infidelity. Because we both work hard.
What's the name of the book?
Hello hope all is well with everyone
Hey Tony! Hey Blessed Tribe 🙋🏾♀️
Heyyyy
He cheated while I was pregnant. It took him months to admit it but he had no choice because he gave me a std and he was busted. I actually forgave him and a year later I caught him cheating again. No he didn't give me any disease but the text messages showed he was meeting women in hotels from instagram telling them to take off all their clothes. Worse part he didn't even apologize
Yup been there and I'm leaving
1st time is a coincidence, 2nd time is a mistake, 3rd time is a pattern.
Can you talk about men that cheat and come clean without getting caught.
Cheating any kind is abuse of the partner.
Stop making excuses. It is all cowpies.
We married ,he cheated, lied and disrespected me ,I forgave him, and guess what 1,5 later we again in same situation he did it again this time it was last time .I hope to find a man who learned from his mistakes
😃😃 I love him Sooooo much . Thank you Mr. Gaskins for sharing every day. Has helped me sooooooooo much. Lord i wish you'd been around when I was married saved me a lot of wasted time & year's.
Don’t do to me what you don’t want done to u. Cheating is a personal choice until you are caught and loose everything . While you thinking the grass is green ur discussion will should you how brown it is .
Exactly great minds think alike. these are my standards and I accept nothing less than this. because if a man is not happy he shouldn't waste a woman's time whether he's married or not. you don't want to be there go on with your life. Ain't no excuse for a man doing what he doing. some men just want they cake and eat it too. that's just an excuse to keep on doing what they doing. And if any woman is like me you don't want no man that don't want to do right it's too much disease out here to be sleeping around I don't have no disease and I don't want no disease and I'm not going to let nobody give me something I can't get rid of that will kill me take me away from my children .I love myself too much and I love my children too much.
I’m all 👂🏽’s.......
Thank You Tony, I'll give it a second chance, I told him today the slate is wiped clean, we will be seeing each other tomorrow.
Debra Smith Just wanted to wish you well in your meeting. Are you a Christian? Pray for the Holy Spirit to be with you to give you wisdom, knowledge & the spirit of discernment. I hope he apologizes with a sincere heart & state the reasons for the apology & not just say "I'm sorry". I hope he will agree to attend church & pray with you.
I was shocked when I heard about financial infidelity😩😩😩 like seriously gob-smacked cause I didn't know it existed until 2020.
As for the "third leg" comment IT FINISHED ME😂😂😂
How can you differentiate between a red flag and a mistake/bad choice that can be forgivable?
Great question... I hope he does a video on this
OMGItsShea Ok let me know if you know the title. Thanks!
I can speak to my own experience, as a woman. I wasn't a "loose" girl. I was a church going catholic girl with alot of love for Jesus & believed in prayer. I married young (21). I wrote my testimony on here, so I'll explain my mindset. Yes, I understood it would be adultery. Yes, I knew it would be wrong. An opportunity with an older, 33 yr old man, presented itself. I wanted out of my marriage already. So I took that open door. My mind was on getting out of the mistake of marrying too young & entering the excitement of sex with an older man. My ex was 1 yr younger than I. Looking back (I'm 50) I can see that I had been used & manipulated by that older man, but I also used him as my "way out". I felt the fear of God, shame, remorse & guilt. I think a "red flag" is someone who selfishly seeks their own pleasure without remorse & continues doing it. I know what I did was wrong, I confessed to my ex husband & told him why I did it. I made a huge mistake/bad choice. I owned it & we got the divorce. Is it forgiveable? That's a personal choice. After several years, I saw that ex with his wife & child. I had the opportunity to sincerely apologize & I know I was undeserving, but I asked his forgiveness. He said yes, he forgave me.
My ex bf who i have children with got married to someone he’s known for a few months he just told me the other day while we were on the phone talking about the kids that he cheated on his wife a day before they were married because he knew he wouldn’t be able to sleep with another woman again I’m like why would you bring sin into your marriage like that 🤦🏽♀️ welp shows that he hasn’t changed and i may have gotten seeds but glad i didn’t get the “ring” 🤢
Punctuation please 🥰. I want to really understand what you're saying.
ButterCookie Is this TH-cam or English class ? 😬
@@PrettyDreadie You post to the comments to communicate. Its hard to understand your message without punctuation. Punctuation helps the reader to know where there are distinct separate clauses. If the sentences all run together, it will not be conveyed the way you intended. So please don't take offense. 🥰👍
@@PrettyDreadie Also, when people write in run-on sentences, they tend to communicate this way overall. Basically, they may have a tendency to talk without pausing, ensuring of the person has understood them or not. It can also reveal some underlying narcissism in a way when you are not aware or don't care just talk without making sure people understand youm Again, don't take offense at all. This is from the heart and coming from a good place. 😁
ButterCookie No it came from a place of sarcasm with an emoji to cover it up. If you don’t understand something sweetie that’s a personal problem. It really baffles me how strangers can sit on this damn app and try to pick and start things with people and then have the nerve to assume they can pick what kinda personality trait they have based off a damn comment. 🥴 So many weirdos on this app yo , BUT a lot are bored with nothing to do during this pandemic so it’s expected. Add your periods, commas, and anything else you need to understand if needed mam or sir whatever you are. Carry on 😌
Would you forgive a man paying for an onlyfans page and messaging the girls? When the relationship was good, sex is good everything was going good? Never got physical
I forgave kinda but idk it keeps haunting me
Wow. Sad to hear Tony say this. This is basically blaming the victim or betrayed. If neither partner is flawless, that means each can find a fault or void and seek outside atrention with another person , cheat, affair, etc.. and just say they were pushed to it because they didnt like xyz. If youre a person of integrity, you wont for your own character stoop so low as to cheat nor do the one thing you know crush or be incredibly painful to the person youre in a relationship. Have accountability and demand it. If i can choose better and not cheat despite a shortcoming, he darn sure better or its a a wrap.
Bs if the wife or husband cheat is done
“We create the environment sometimes in a relationship.” TG
The truth hurts.
So true
Same thing I thought before I clicked 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️. I was youngggg lol
I am soooo confused... Can't wait for part 2
What if he warned me that he would go elsewhere if I couldn’t make more time to care of his needs.. I bust my butt working 2 jobs so my schedule was hectic to spend time with as I should. So yes I feel responsible for him doing what he said he’d do. Am I wrong?
You're not responsible for that why he not busting his butt working 2 jobs with you
How’s everything now? I will say you need to level yourself up and leave. You should t be having to work 2 jobs, unless he is too to help the household. If y’all are dating he already showing you his true colors. You got the red flags that’s telling you leave and never look back.
Yes, he is right! I moved out of state to be with this man. Everything started off good at first. he became mean and emotionally abusive. We were in a small country town in Texas so there were no buses , no uber or taxi service. It was hard to leave AND I WENT TO BATTERED WOMEN SHELTERS BUT THEY TREAT YOU LKIE YOU ARE IN JAIL. SO I WENT BACK TO HIM . I HAD TWO KIDS WITH HIM. I HAD TO PLAN LEAVING AND IT TOOK ALMOST A YEAR
Yes, as you say, 'people make mistakes', however, women are not given the same lead way. A more realistic statement would be, 'men are gonna make mistakes',so ,[women] forgive them.
@Lucy FACTS!...Double standard allllll the way
I caught him at another female house. I called him and told him come get his ish out my house tomorrow. Return my keys. I have no trust no I won’t forgive. 1 and done no more chances you have 1x to get it right
Hello dear,do you need help to settle marriage,relationship,family issues etc ..I will recommend you to a powerful prophet who helped my daughter through healing and restoration in her marriage and deliver her husband from strange woman who wanted to destory her marriage.... He can help you restore your lost hope.
Happy Thanksgiving day
WhatsApp his number deliverance
Tony Gaskins I am so grateful for you
You are so on point... So correct... It blows my mind! Thank you so much for existing 🙏❣️
No repeat performances!! I don't do it.
Cheating is cheating, if a guy cheat he’s not worth it
True. All these comments are Very Accurate but I calm down a lot after I realize that not everyone cheats. Some people are honest. Very Few Tho..... recognize who is for you....
TEACH TONY TEACH
I gave My all to my fiance and he cheated on me. And wouldn't even tell me he was cheating. He told me he was gonna write me a letter to tell me what happened. I changed my number and left his ass.
I’m so internally broken over the cheating because it’s several times and he claims to love me and my kids and that I am the one he wants to be with but I continue to catch him over and over we invested so much financially that’s why I stayed so long and I know I deserve better
Hi toni, it went well, talked, cooked together. He told me I am with the love of my life. I am not like the other women he knows.they only want money,and material things.i am a christian.and you and my spiritual mom and myself are in agreement.i asked
God yesrs ago to give me the spirit of wisdom,and he did.i am a saved person. The holy spirit is giving me guidance. Thank you. Bless you and your family.
Be bless. Great message. My membership didn't show-up.
I believe in second changes like you said depending on the situation
Great exit plan if they cheated... especially if you’ve taken vows and have so much invested with that person.
Daquanda marie Thank you for the recommendation.. but it’s not needed. Each person has the choice to decide to stay or leave when the spouse commits adultery and in fact be actually happy with a smile on his/her face after the decision.
Mine’s tried to sleep with my niece’s friend found out two years after I stayed and forgave him 2 years past the time I forgave him he just cheated on me in Africa with some random girl because he was “Angry “ at me for telling him it’s over between us because he wasn’t responding to me being stuck on the side of the road with our son in the car! I thought he was ignoring me and I was angry however the phones wasn’t working out in Africa ok so he payed me back by sleeping with another woman 3 times in the week now he thinks i’m staying with him jokes on him
Thank you so much I really needed to hear this
My testimony - I am soon to be 51. I married at the age of 21 & the guy was 20. I was able to get in the clubs & he wasn't. In my eyes & mind at that time, I started thinking I made a huge mistake. I was meeting people my age & older & felt I was missing out. I tried talking to my ex husband that we were too young & made a huge mistake. He didn't want to leave my home. I admit & confess, I purposely cheated, just to finally get a divorce. Young, immature & stupid. The point I want to make - even though I CHOSE to do it, to THIS DAY, that decision haunts me. I have since seen this man with his wife & child & I was able to apologize & he forgave me. I can still picture his face when I told him what I did. I'll never forget the hurt. So whether you are the cheater or being cheated on, neither feels good. If you are currently married, flirting with someone you know or a co worker, STOP IT. When you're in that mindset, you're getting like a drug hit. It feels too good & you're not thinking clearly the damage you're about to create should you keep going. That temporary, sinful act, will lead you to destruction! As a Christian woman now, after all these years, I STILL feel the shame, remorse & regret. I wish I had just filed for an annulment (we were catholic at that time) in that 7th month, instead of choosing the foolish way I did, to end it. In my dating years afterwards, yeah I got mines. I got cheated on, so yeah, I got to know that hurt.
Please stop living in regret. That choice was made, you stopped and took accountability. Don't remain in your past any longer cuz you are still worthy afterall, humans aren't perfect-ever.
@@bobate6030 Thank you 🙏🏽 God bless you!
@@naz-nazneen886 😘
really interesting - i love the style of these shorter videos in parts too Tony - it means you can watch more easily on the go, whilst doing other things etc. thanks for the wisdom and the comedy all the same...
You're right. Love forgives. I found myself forgiving several times before I got tired and walked.
If you are a man listening to this. I commend you. I understand it is not easy for a man to stay faithful to one woman. I highly suggest that you pray seriously for the grace of temperance.For Christ said "without me, you can do nothing" Hope this helps.
Being a good person is easy it's being a sleezebag is the hard part cause you keep bringing in drama and more drama into your life like that
All the cheaters put thumbs down on this video.😂
So if a man cheated a year ago...then because you have agreements here and there and questions about cheating....makes him cheat again a year later?
My boyfriend terry Graham cheated on me tonight so I dumped block changed my number on him so I can move on .
IF HE GOT ANYTHING TO SEND 😂😂😂😅