Chelsea is so brave for been genuine and transparent. It takes so much self awareness and maturity to point out her own weaknesses as part of her explanations 💕
I feel bad for Jake tho at the end lol.. when he was talking about kids and she interrupted him you could see it In his face so he had to slowly add his answer while the other people talked lol DONT GET ME WRONG I LOVE TARA SO MUCH AND THEY ACTUALLY TALKED ABOUT THIS PROBLEM IN JC STREAM SO DONT TAKE THIS THE WRONG WAY
Ya I agree …. They are young but seemed to have more of a healthy relationship then most older people … I love that … they know what they want and it feels like if they came to a bump in the road and wanted different things in life … they would part ways relationship wise with ease … and they would probably stay friends …
I honestly love seeing how healthy and genuine Tara and Jake's relationship is - every time I see them together I’m always so impressed by how well they communicate and are so clear and comfortable within themselves and with each other. Both such well-rounded humans who balance being mature and knowing what they want with allowing themselves to have fun and make the most of life by doing what makes them happy. Honestly so lovely to see partners that understand each other in that way and have clearly put in the work to cultivate such a strong and healthy relationship.
* Should clarify that I don’t mean to take away from anyone else’s relationship! Everyone seems happy and secure in their own style and doing what works for them. Just feel like (especially for a young couple) they are a great example of what I’d love to see in my own life!
@@abbeyz4920 you are so right and don’t worry you weren’t putting down other relationships but relationships now of days are toxic and them being so young while maintaining a healthy relationship is something I want as well🥺
The way people really use "breaks" as an excuse to sleep around and then say that they are "so necessary" for relationships to thrive is actually insane. No way a person who isn't manipulative or narcissistic thinks this way.
trynna to find a comment that talked about that bc there’s literally no way you date someone and randomly when you’re comfortable be like do i want this person? leave and go fuck someone .. like huh? it’s a break like they said. if it’s a break that’s considered cheating to me personally. just break up if you want to fuck other people. your partner shouldn’t be a second choice because you’re unsure ? how are you unsure after 4 years? make it make sense.
I also agree but it's a good thing we can choose our person and we can choose to leave. If someone asked for a break I would just leave and never return lol I'm not dealing with that 😂
Yeah, and I like that Tara acknowledges that she won’t be a perfect mother. Not saying she won’t, but many adults have kids without thinking and they might not be the best parents, so I really like that about Tara
You know why Tara and Jake work so well? Because they are fantastic people who know themselves even if they weren't in a relationship! As they said, there's her, his, and their lives, not just one. I really love their input.
JC saying "WHAT IS A BREAK" is literally me 😂 and then Kian telling Ayla "and then when I kicked you out of the house we took a break for a weekend" lmfao Kian 💀
it’s usually how it is, the people that would be great parents doubt themselves bc they understand how much effort it takes to raise a great human being and put too much pressure on themselves
she said herself she’s too selfish and self centered right now to be able to be the best mom lol which is very apparent so it’s good she’s that self aware to prevent any accidents bc she knows she’s no where near ready
She said she doesn’t have motherly instincts. That’s actually the most important thing you need to be a mom, to want the kid. I’ve loved kids and babies my whole life and she says she doesn’t even like them. I applaud her self reflection and knowing herself, she’s a very nice and mature person
It’s was so weird to me seeing Kian and jc talk about kids until I realized that they really are grown adults now, it’s hard to believe how far they’ve come sometimes I still see them as the kids they were when I first started watching
Taking a “break” is different than needing space for a second. In my 10 year relationship we have faced many of hard times that required space but we never once needed a “break”. We worked though it together and that’s what makes you stronger
I love your comment and I agree. My boyfriend and I been together for 7 years and we never want our own space and we never fight, we agree and disagree but never a fight.
@@cheddarsunchipsyes8144 it’s poetic actually. As you said, you can have your own opinions and I believe JC didn’t mean to say the real definition of truth what he meant to push her to say was what’s really on her mind and feelings so meaning that’s her truth
I feel like everyone is talking about how healthy Tara and Jake are, and they are. But I appreciate how vulnerable and open everyone else was sharing their honest opinions. Especially Chelsea. You can tell she struggles with insecurities and trust. I’m happy that she and everyone else is open to talking about these things not only with their partners but with their friends as well. Talking about these things really helps others learn and realize their own toxic habits. I would love a part 2 of this!
I love the boyfriend giving support to his girl every time she talks about her insecurities and the toxic traits she’s able to acknowledge and work on ❤
You can really see that age difference matters when answering these questions. Love jake and Tara for keeping it real and truly enjoying their early 20’s as they should
kian, jc and david saying they see themselves as parents in 3 years kind of made me a little emotional. i grew up watching these people so i'm definitely gonna cry when that day comes
But really, Chelsea shows so much maturity, bravery, and self awareness. You can tell she has put in work to better herself for her and therefore for her relationship. That’s not easy, so I just want to commend her on that and being so authentic during this video. I feel like so many people can relate to the struggles she talks about and it is extremely validating to hear someone with a platform and in a long term relationship speak up about it ❤
This video just reinforces my belief that “healthy” relationships are different for every single human. What’s healthy to one person could not be to someone else & that’s why there’s specific people for each other.. because you’ve gotta find someone who aligns with you. It’s kinda a beautiful reminder of how diverse each individual person is. ❤
@@onemillionpercent For sure. I’m not saying “it’s okay you’re partner beats you or controls what you wear bc it’s healthy to you.” I didn’t think I needed to include toxic/abusive behaviors, because those things are obviously not healthy.
this friend group just seems so safe and fun. i hope one day i’ll be able to find a true group of friends like this. y’all have amazing souls and will each move on to amazing things. can’t wait to see what they are♥️
100% agree. Even though i am 21 and i feel like finding a group of friends like this is pretty much impossible now, i still hope that i can find ones like them.
who’s watching after kian and ayla announced their baby news🥺been watching kian for the last 11 years and i cant believe he’s going to be a dad, so surreal to hear them talk about it in this video 💕
i’m really happy they mentioned the FOMO type of jealousy because i always feel like such a horrible person when my bf gets to hang out & have fun with his friends and im sitting at home because i have no other friends besides him and i get that FOMO kind of jealousy, but i also don’t wanna break boundaries by insisting that i have to always be there when he’s hanging out with them
@@blueskies6475 if you don’t understand my struggle then ignore my comment. it was not targeted at you. it was for anyone else who might share my struggle so maybe they won’t feel so alone like i do. maybe try to be a little more kind in your replies because whether you believe it or not, reminding the wrong person of that in your tone could send them over the edge. i’m glad you’re able to make and keep friends but not everyone on this earth is as lucky. it takes more energy to type up a rude response than it does to not type one up at all.
Hey hun, I'm kind of horribly ambivalent towards wanting to be part of my BF's friends hangouts (I am always grateful to be included, but I don't expect and feel obligated to always be there as the 2nd half). But I get what you mean. I think it feels normal because there's this unsettling thing between his ability to have fun with another group and possibly have a different story or bond develop without you there... and the contrast to your lack of friend action at home. Don't feel obligated to always be a social butterfly. I can count my true friends on one hand, we connect and chat maybe 2-3 times a year since we are all spread across the world now but go to each other with all our deepest insecurities, goals, secrets and successes. Fun is overrated, remember 90% of the time boys are sitting around doing the dumbest shit, drinking and jking around. Don't feel guilty to not match the same level of social activity. Protect your energy and be happy with those closest to you.
i love how Tara and Jake are so calm and mature. You can tell they don't center their life around their relationship and i honestly feel like that's the most healthy thing. Love them both and it was good to hear their points of views.
I’ve seen them bicker a lot too tho, and boderline being rude to each other. Which is fine they’re both young and couples can fight too, but they seems to treat each other more like friends.
Really appreciate Chelsea being vulnerable and real even when it shows her own toxic traits or low self-esteem. I think we all can relate but to vocalize and be real about it… oof girl 🙌🏼❤️
Love the fact that Tara says how her friends tell her personal stuff and that it’s not for bf eyes. My ex best friend always let her bf on her phone like in class and he was the kind of guy who would read our text to find our drama. So I always felt uncomfortable with it especially since I always told her my family drama. Like at some point I felt like I couldn’t tell her anything because I was too worried he would read all about it without my permission. One of many reasons why we aren’t friends anymore
I think Jake had a really good point when he said "there's my life, Tara's life, & our life." I think if someone can't separate their life with their friends & their life with their significant other then it's a problem. I've had friends who put more importance on her boyfriend of 1 month over our friendship of 6 years, so I can kind of relate to you, I'm glad you're not friends with her anymore
@@arielm.4997 that's so true, some in a relationship may even say why can't you just tell me their "family drama", or secrets, or whatever else it could be because you're supposed to tell me everything. But no, they don't have to tell you everything if it doesn't have anything to do with your relationship. Specially if your friend is trusting you with this info, why does your partner need to know this info? It really just depends on the situation though
@@arielm.4997 my bsf does that to me now, we’ve been friends for 10 years now and she finally got her first bf and they are super close so she kinda brushed me to the side and the only time we rlly talked to eachother was when I reached out to her so I stopped reaching out and we go weeks without talking to eachother, and atp idk how to feel cuz I’ve been going through a hard time these past months and she never rlly check up on me sooo I feel like I don’t rlly got a bsf anymore. And it bothers me cuz he means a lot to me….🫠🫤
@@YamiiiC7 I'm sorry you're going through that, I've been there & it hurts a lot. Have you talked to her about it? She may or may not realize she's doing it but either way telling her how you feel is a good idea. Especially since you guys have been friends for 10 years, that's too important to let it end like that. I hope it gets resolved
Genuinely can't wait for the day when this friend group start getting engaged/married/having kids. I just know that baby will be loved, spoiled as HECK, cared for, and be surrounded by amazing people who will move mountains for them. I've been watching the majority of this group since the beginning and to see them all now, grown and talking about having kids is crazy. Love you sooo much David and thank you for always making such amazing videos. (Also, I freaking love Ayla and Kian😂😂He's effortlessly funny and I'm here for it)
Tara and Jake have one of the strongest "influencer" relationships I have seen in a while. They just meld so perfectly and are clearly on the same page about a lot of things in life.
i’ve always been told by my friends that i was “too chill” in relationships but seeing that i agreed with jake and tara with every topic and knowing that they’re in a beautiful, healthy relationship makes me feel at ease. everyone is different and sees healthy relationships in different ways, you just need to find your person and work through those different ideals together.
I think people mistake fighting for passion and care in the relationship When in reality if you guys have your boundaries and can handle conflict calmly, there’s nothing wrong with be calm!! Go you!
it's so nice from Chelsea to be genuine and transparent about her insecurities 'cause I could relate so much to her and I'm myself on a journey trying to get better about it. Also seeing how a beautiful and smart girl talking about having times of weakness made me feel a little better about myself like the fact i'm insecure doesn't mean i'm not pretty 💞
JC's girlfriend is so sweet, I get you with the insecurity and the fact she recognizes it and is obviously self aware and honest is so sweet and JC comforting her as she's talking is so sweet
“having a break” is a high school mentality. i have been with my spouse for 9 years. you are either in it or not. if you are gonna take a break like tara said then most likely they aren’t for you.
I'm in my late 20s and this is one of the first videos I've seen that had really made me feel old. I truly don't understand how someone can rationally say "Sometimes in a relationship you need to take a break to go sleep with people to see if you truly want to be with someone and if they're 'your person'". It's just a selfish mindset and a lack of respect and commitment to your partner. You're either in, or you're out.
I absolutely love Tara and Jake, they’re so real with eachother I also agree with Tara 100% on her outlook on having kids which I feel like is a uncommon opinion so it’s nice to hear how open she is with expressing it
A break is a breakup for people in denial. What they are describing is just having some "me time" away from your SO. Which is okay and probably necessary for healthy relationships. It could be a weekend away from each other or going to see family or a friends only vacation. A break sounds like someone who fell out of love or isn't interested in the relationship anymore but hasn't realized it yet.
Bro exactly. Every relationship whether a bf/gf or even close friends are allowed to have some distance and me time whenever its needed. The only reason they use the term "a break" is because of exactly what the girl said in the video: they explicitly want a time where they can go fuck around with other men/women. Saying its "a break" is just an attempt at a guilt free pass to do so at the detriment of their partner.
I love how everyone was so sincere and genuine with their answers and I love how mature jake and Tara are in their relationship when they are the youngest in the friend group. Overall great video !
Jake and Tara are very genuine and understanding of a real relationship but also the parent question they answered how people really should think when it comes to kids. People think that because they’re in a good place or they’re happy enough that this is a good time to have a kid when its really about if you’re ready to put your life on hold to raise a child to be its own person which is something barley any adult or parents understand so they have kids for the wrong reason such as “my cousin is having kids i should too” and such. I’m happy they know they have a life to live and goals that they would probably struggle to reach if they were pressured to think they needed to have kids soon because its the “right thing to do.”
I agree the goal shouldn't be to have kids it's to raise good humans. Lots of people use kids for selfish reasons like passing on their "legacy" or using them to heal their own issues. Children don't owe you anything I wish more people considered these things a little more.
But really, Chelsea shows so much maturity, bravery, and self awareness. You can tell she has put in work to better herself for her and therefore for her relationship. That’s not easy, so I just want to commend her on that and being so authentic during this video. I feel like so many people can relate to the struggles she talks about and it is extremely validating to hear someone with a platform and in a long term relationship speak up about it
something about grace seeming like the total opposite of david makes me believe wholeheartedly that they compliment each other so well lmaooo I wanna see more Grace!
bro jake and tara are amazing together and are like a solid couple, but also all the other couples seem great for one another and you can tell there’s so much trust and love between all these couples. mad respect to all of them for being so open and honest. we need more representation for healthy and honest couples :)
It’s so weird hearing Kian and jc speak about having kids - time flies by so quickly. I’ve practically grown with them on TH-cam, it’s such a bittersweet wholesome moment.
I agree with Tara and Jake so much especially with the phone thing, i think that everyone deserves privacy, just bc youre in a relationship doesnt mean that you have to show that person everything all the time, you still deserve to have private conversations etc. for me i use my notes app as a therapist and diary and i just want in there and i would be so uncomfortable if i caught someone looking through it
chelsea is seriously stunning and seems like a sweetheart. it makes me sad to hear her say she’s so insecure, but it’s incredibly admirable that she’s willing to be honest about that
@@lowrider0013 no, not jc. I just recall thinking that she wants to keep her options open so she must not be into jc that much. She appears older than him.
This is the first time I saw grace in a video and she absolutely killed it , such a smart , articulate & effortlessly funny person & she’s also stunning You complement each other beautifully, sending you lots of love
This video is so important and I’m so glad it exists. So many great conversations displaying HEALTHY, non-toxic relationships, but also being open about “toxic” traits and explaining how they’re actively working to improve, for themselves AND their relationships. BRAVO 👏🏻
It was interesting hearing everyone’s point of views. Love this friend group💙 Why are Jake and Reggie so naturally funny😂😂 “There is nothing wrong with being jealous” Jake: “Nick Jonas is!”
i don’t know why it hit me so hard the conversation about babies. im so used to seeing them being goofy and have fun for so many years that i forgot that now they’re older and getting to a point were they think about that stuff. damn also i love tara and jake🤩 they sound so mature and secure in they’re relationship is so nice to see!!
Jake and Tara really go together, you can tell how much they respect and trust eachother.😍All of the couples had a really great dynamic. This is such a fun friend group to watch. Keep em commmin!
Tara and Jake would do great as a married couple. So much communication and honesty. And although everyone else doesn’t agree on everything, these questions and videos helps put things into perspective which is brave of everyone! Marriage is up and down, just know that as long as you’re willing to stick it out together, you’re already on the upside of things. I’d like to see more videos like these, but how about adding married couples in the mix..it would be nice to see the different answers. I’ve been married 22 years, and some of these answers made me cringe lol😅❤ love to all of you though!! 😊
Hi guys! hope you enjoyed the video! comment so you have a chance to win! also... I'm gonna be doing this again. with other couples and some of the same. what questions should I ask?
i love how most of the differing opinions were really just bc everyone interpreted the question a different way. but none of their answers were a shock to the other. tara and jake are actually so similar as people its no surprise they’re usually on the same page. But bc the same cant be said about the other couples they had to learn other ways to make it work. Relationships arent always about having the same opinion but also figuring out a healthy solution for when you dont. idk if im dumb bc it could be obvious david did it on purpose but these specific couples are all so uniquely different yet kept the same vibe that it made it so much more interesting for me to watch.
jake and tara are so mature and have such a good outlook on relationships, i love it! everyone really does honestly, but especially noticed their answers.
Just know that u are not alone. When I started college I was super anxious and the experience was lonely but it does get better. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself and just do the best u can!
i love chelsea's openness, that is her strength 💖also you can tell grace is very down to earth through your vids and i admire that + any possibility with a part 2? roni-aaron, nezza-crawf, alex-alexxis but there may not be enough couples so it's understandable if there isn't. loved this vid david!
i knew i loved this group for a reason!! it was so refreshing to see people being real about their insecurity's and feelings towards relationships! i would love a part two
the way kian and ayla are in strongly agree for babies and now 8 months later they are expecting a baby boy ahhhhh i’m so happy and i love this video and re watch it for comfort
4:52 - 5:12 It's so funny watching that couple try and defend their breaks and breakups XD I'm just like, I couldn't personally do that. Either you're together or you're not.
Wow I love this video, I love how honest everyone is and how compatible everyone is with their significant other! Jake and Tara is a different story thought, those 2 are completely meant for each other!!
Chelsea is so brave for been genuine and transparent. It takes so much self awareness and maturity to point out her own weaknesses as part of her explanations 💕
i was thinking that too!! we love her for being so open and vulnerable 💗
i love her so much
i really loved how honest and open she was too
she’s the best! always so open. gotta love her
Sup guys
tara and jake are so real and genuine - they’re literally made for eachother
yes 😍
Facts
Yaaassss
rightttt
I feel bad for Jake tho at the end lol.. when he was talking about kids and she interrupted him you could see it In his face so he had to slowly add his answer while the other people talked lol DONT GET ME WRONG I LOVE TARA SO MUCH AND THEY ACTUALLY TALKED ABOUT THIS PROBLEM IN JC STREAM SO DONT TAKE THIS THE WRONG WAY
“I have my life Tara has her life and we have our life” that line was simple but very powerful. I liked a lot!
Ya I agree …. They are young but seemed to have more of a healthy relationship then most older people … I love that … they know what they want and it feels like if they came to a bump in the road and wanted different things in life … they would part ways relationship wise with ease … and they would probably stay friends …
100 percent.
@@jiminjimin1227the fact that you’re right
@@jiminjimin1227they did exactly that
@@jiminjimin1227ahaha that’s exactly what they did!
I honestly love seeing how healthy and genuine Tara and Jake's relationship is - every time I see them together I’m always so impressed by how well they communicate and are so clear and comfortable within themselves and with each other. Both such well-rounded humans who balance being mature and knowing what they want with allowing themselves to have fun and make the most of life by doing what makes them happy. Honestly so lovely to see partners that understand each other in that way and have clearly put in the work to cultivate such a strong and healthy relationship.
They were made for each other
* Should clarify that I don’t mean to take away from anyone else’s relationship! Everyone seems happy and secure in their own style and doing what works for them. Just feel like (especially for a young couple) they are a great example of what I’d love to see in my own life!
@@aubreyy__15 honestly tho, they're so compatible
@@abbeyz4920 you are so right and don’t worry you weren’t putting down other relationships but relationships now of days are toxic and them being so young while maintaining a healthy relationship is something I want as well🥺
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The way people really use "breaks" as an excuse to sleep around and then say that they are "so necessary" for relationships to thrive is actually insane. No way a person who isn't manipulative or narcissistic thinks this way.
trynna to find a comment that talked about that bc there’s literally no way you date someone and randomly when you’re comfortable be like do i want this person? leave and go fuck someone .. like huh? it’s a break like they said. if it’s a break that’s considered cheating to me personally. just break up if you want to fuck other people. your partner shouldn’t be a second choice because you’re unsure ? how are you unsure after 4 years? make it make sense.
I also agree but it's a good thing we can choose our person and we can choose to leave. If someone asked for a break I would just leave and never return lol I'm not dealing with that 😂
No fr. Like Why do u have to sleep around to know if u really want to be with skmeone
exactly
Right??
Tara and Jake is the relationship I would want to be in
No kids, no trust issues, no looking phones, stylish, perfect.
Sameee it’s what I strive to have.
Yeah, and I like that Tara acknowledges that she won’t be a perfect mother. Not saying she won’t, but many adults have kids without thinking and they might not be the best parents, so I really like that about Tara
Same, that shit looks tight
this didn’t age well
@@tevarosethey still love each other tho, they just decided to follow their own ways which i find really healthy!
You know why Tara and Jake work so well? Because they are fantastic people who know themselves even if they weren't in a relationship! As they said, there's her, his, and their lives, not just one. I really love their input.
This. They seem like confident people. Idk them but they exude that idea of knowing yourself first and also healthy effin boundaries.
you cant stop having your own life because youre in realationship yes youre together but its kinda sad if youre one person honestly
@@ShayNola Tara is the most intelligent of them all
@@shrutik9673 agreed
they were my favorite
Tara and Jake are so good at communication. You can really tell by their boundaries that it’s a healthy relationship too
right?!! and im pretty sure they have been together the longest out of all the couples! they compliment each other so well, i love them!
this didn’t age well
@@morganhall7336 oh, did they break up?😐
@@morganhall7336wait, they broke up?
@@morganhall7336just because they broke up doesn't mean they didn't have a healthy relationship with good communication lmao jeez
Throw back to when Kian & Ayla said they wanted a baby within the next 3 years and now look at them 6 months later 🤍 Congratulations Ayla & Kian!!
yay! 🎉
I came back to watch this video because of the foreshadowing 😢🎉❤
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right omgg
At first I thought Ayla was already pregnant but haven’t told anyone yet. 😅
JC saying "WHAT IS A BREAK" is literally me 😂
and then Kian telling Ayla "and then when I kicked you out of the house we took a break for a weekend" lmfao Kian 💀
I cannot believe Tara is only 22. She is wise beyond her years and so mature! I genuinely think she would be a fantastic mom and give such good advice
it’s usually how it is, the people that would be great parents doubt themselves bc they understand how much effort it takes to raise a great human being and put too much pressure on themselves
she said herself she’s too selfish and self centered right now to be able to be the best mom lol which is very apparent so it’s good she’s that self aware to prevent any accidents bc she knows she’s no where near ready
@@R2S0725 yeah I agree, it's better that she's honest & aware instead of having a baby she knows she can't take care of
She said she doesn’t have motherly instincts. That’s actually the most important thing you need to be a mom, to want the kid. I’ve loved kids and babies my whole life and she says she doesn’t even like them. I applaud her self reflection and knowing herself, she’s a very nice and mature person
@@jewel8439 oh yeah, I forgot she said that too, but you're right
It’s was so weird to me seeing Kian and jc talk about kids until I realized that they really are grown adults now, it’s hard to believe how far they’ve come sometimes I still see them as the kids they were when I first started watching
exactly! time flew
lol I was kind of shocked, then remembered they are full on adults JC is already 30
FR I remember seeing kians first ever video
I seriously am struggling to comprehend they’re like 30
And now kian and ayla are having a baby😭🥹
Legit can’t get enough of this friend group, from the dating blind series to the series where you get to see everyone’s mindset. Love all this content
this aged so well for kian and ayla😭❤️ so happy to see them become parents
yas!
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definetly did not age well for tara and jake :( i wish they didnt break up
@@glendagonzalez4217 i mean you could tell from the video they wouldn't last
Taking a “break” is different than needing space for a second. In my 10 year relationship we have faced many of hard times that required space but we never once needed a “break”. We worked though it together and that’s what makes you stronger
I love your comment and I agree. My boyfriend and I been together for 7 years and we never want our own space and we never fight, we agree and disagree but never a fight.
Same. I always said it’s an excuse to sleep with other people and they kinda confirmed it here lol.
@@ecstasyecs yep! I think Chelsea is late 30s which explains her views!!
agreed!
@@ecstasyecs Maybe that's healthy sometimes.
when JC says “speak your truth, baby” to Chelsey, my heart melted omfg 🥺
same omg I love them
That was so cute. 😭
“Your truth” is such a dumb term, there is only 1 truth in any scenario. You can have your own experience and your own opinion.
@@cheddarsunchipsyes8144 it’s poetic actually. As you said, you can have your own opinions and I believe JC didn’t mean to say the real definition of truth what he meant to push her to say was what’s really on her mind and feelings so meaning that’s her truth
@@cheddarsunchipsyes8144 taking it too literal bro.
I feel like everyone is talking about how healthy Tara and Jake are, and they are. But I appreciate how vulnerable and open everyone else was sharing their honest opinions. Especially Chelsea. You can tell she struggles with insecurities and trust. I’m happy that she and everyone else is open to talking about these things not only with their partners but with their friends as well. Talking about these things really helps others learn and realize their own toxic habits. I would love a part 2 of this!
chelsey's answers were so real and relatable, I love how she wasn't afraid to be transparent with her answers.
yes !!
she’s so real
Being honest about your "lack of values" doesn't really give you a lot of points! She's"honest" tho, I guess.
@@blueskies6475 how does expressing insecurities mean she lacks values???
@@lulue.5655 Sorry, I don't recall her insecurities. What were they?
I love the boyfriend giving support to his girl every time she talks about her insecurities and the toxic traits she’s able to acknowledge and work on ❤
watching ayla sprint to strongly agree to having kids in the next three years knowing they’re pregnant is crazy
Jake and Tara are literally perfect for each other!
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You can really see that age difference matters when answering these questions. Love jake and Tara for keeping it real and truly enjoying their early 20’s as they should
Lol absolutely. I feel like my expectations and mentality really developed over time.
“let’s all fight”
kian is so effortlessly funny 😭
I literally cant get enough of Kian HAHA
🤣🤣🤣
His gf is too much man, she just likes to disagree lmao
and also when he said "I trust Ayla with my heart, she could take it out like a heart surgeon and keep it alive" lol
when was this?
i LOVED tara and jake's explanation about the looking through phones. they explained my thoughts perfectly they get it
kian, jc and david saying they see themselves as parents in 3 years kind of made me a little emotional. i grew up watching these people so i'm definitely gonna cry when that day comes
NOW KIAN AND AYLA AND PREGNANT I'M CRYING
But really, Chelsea shows so much maturity, bravery, and self awareness. You can tell she has put in work to better herself for her and therefore for her relationship. That’s not easy, so I just want to commend her on that and being so authentic during this video. I feel like so many people can relate to the struggles she talks about and it is extremely validating to hear someone with a platform and in a long term relationship speak up about it ❤
she’s the best
Lol no
@@ognjenmisic7128 ong
@@ognjenmisic7128 shut up
who is chelsea
This video just reinforces my belief that “healthy” relationships are different for every single human. What’s healthy to one person could not be to someone else & that’s why there’s specific people for each other.. because you’ve gotta find someone who aligns with you. It’s kinda a beautiful reminder of how diverse each individual person is. ❤
exactly
@@Kay_lahM :))
So true!!!!!
kinda true. but! there are still some universal concepts of health ...
@@onemillionpercent For sure. I’m not saying “it’s okay you’re partner beats you or controls what you wear bc it’s healthy to you.” I didn’t think I needed to include toxic/abusive behaviors, because those things are obviously not healthy.
this friend group just seems so safe and fun. i hope one day i’ll be able to find a true group of friends like this. y’all have amazing souls and will each move on to amazing things. can’t wait to see what they are♥️
Couldn’t of said it any better. I fully agree with you. This is like my biggest wish.
100% agree. Even though i am 21 and i feel like finding a group of friends like this is pretty much impossible now, i still hope that i can find ones like them.
Completely agree
couldn’t agree more, and i’m 29 so i feel like times ticking 😂 but supposedly 30’s are the new 20’s!
who’s watching after kian and ayla announced their baby news🥺been watching kian for the last 11 years and i cant believe he’s going to be a dad, so surreal to hear them talk about it in this video 💕
i’m really happy they mentioned the FOMO type of jealousy because i always feel like such a horrible person when my bf gets to hang out & have fun with his friends and im sitting at home because i have no other friends besides him and i get that FOMO kind of jealousy, but i also don’t wanna break boundaries by insisting that i have to always be there when he’s hanging out with them
Then, have your own friends! Get busy!!
@@blueskies6475 if you don’t understand my struggle then ignore my comment. it was not targeted at you. it was for anyone else who might share my struggle so maybe they won’t feel so alone like i do.
maybe try to be a little more kind in your replies because whether you believe it or not, reminding the wrong person of that in your tone could send them over the edge.
i’m glad you’re able to make and keep friends but not everyone on this earth is as lucky.
it takes more energy to type up a rude response than it does to not type one up at all.
Hey hun, I'm kind of horribly ambivalent towards wanting to be part of my BF's friends hangouts (I am always grateful to be included, but I don't expect and feel obligated to always be there as the 2nd half). But I get what you mean. I think it feels normal because there's this unsettling thing between his ability to have fun with another group and possibly have a different story or bond develop without you there... and the contrast to your lack of friend action at home. Don't feel obligated to always be a social butterfly. I can count my true friends on one hand, we connect and chat maybe 2-3 times a year since we are all spread across the world now but go to each other with all our deepest insecurities, goals, secrets and successes. Fun is overrated, remember 90% of the time boys are sitting around doing the dumbest shit, drinking and jking around. Don't feel guilty to not match the same level of social activity. Protect your energy and be happy with those closest to you.
Tara and jake are so mature and have such a healthy relationship because of it
I just love Tara so much, just a wholesome, well-rounded, grounded person.
i love how Tara and Jake are so calm and mature. You can tell they don't center their life around their relationship and i honestly feel like that's the most healthy thing. Love them both and it was good to hear their points of views.
I’ve seen them bicker a lot too tho, and boderline being rude to each other. Which is fine they’re both young and couples can fight too, but they seems to treat each other more like friends.
@@persiabell556 i mean the foundation of relationships should be friendship
Didn’t age well lol
@@DetroitWireman58 they’re still close though lol so didn’t really change the essence of my comment
They definitely need to start doing these blindfolded. People look at what others are doing, and then follow.
i disagree, i think it adds to it when people are being indecisive and have to explain why
if they were blindfolded how would they see the lines to know where to go to lol
I mean they literally ask for their ideas so anytime they talk it’ll be obvious
Really appreciate Chelsea being vulnerable and real even when it shows her own toxic traits or low self-esteem. I think we all can relate but to vocalize and be real about it… oof girl 🙌🏼❤️
Love the fact that Tara says how her friends tell her personal stuff and that it’s not for bf eyes. My ex best friend always let her bf on her phone like in class and he was the kind of guy who would read our text to find our drama. So I always felt uncomfortable with it especially since I always told her my family drama. Like at some point I felt like I couldn’t tell her anything because I was too worried he would read all about it without my permission. One of many reasons why we aren’t friends anymore
I think Jake had a really good point when he said "there's my life, Tara's life, & our life." I think if someone can't separate their life with their friends & their life with their significant other then it's a problem. I've had friends who put more importance on her boyfriend of 1 month over our friendship of 6 years, so I can kind of relate to you, I'm glad you're not friends with her anymore
@@arielm.4997 that's so true, some in a relationship may even say why can't you just tell me their "family drama", or secrets, or whatever else it could be because you're supposed to tell me everything. But no, they don't have to tell you everything if it doesn't have anything to do with your relationship. Specially if your friend is trusting you with this info, why does your partner need to know this info? It really just depends on the situation though
thisssssss
@@arielm.4997 my bsf does that to me now, we’ve been friends for 10 years now and she finally got her first bf and they are super close so she kinda brushed me to the side and the only time we rlly talked to eachother was when I reached out to her so I stopped reaching out and we go weeks without talking to eachother, and atp idk how to feel cuz I’ve been going through a hard time these past months and she never rlly check up on me sooo I feel like I don’t rlly got a bsf anymore. And it bothers me cuz he means a lot to me….🫠🫤
@@YamiiiC7 I'm sorry you're going through that, I've been there & it hurts a lot. Have you talked to her about it? She may or may not realize she's doing it but either way telling her how you feel is a good idea. Especially since you guys have been friends for 10 years, that's too important to let it end like that. I hope it gets resolved
Genuinely can't wait for the day when this friend group start getting engaged/married/having kids. I just know that baby will be loved, spoiled as HECK, cared for, and be surrounded by amazing people who will move mountains for them.
I've been watching the majority of this group since the beginning and to see them all now, grown and talking about having kids is crazy. Love you sooo much David and thank you for always making such amazing videos.
(Also, I freaking love Ayla and Kian😂😂He's effortlessly funny and I'm here for it)
These couples are making my relationship expectations even higher than they already are lol
right? 😭
@@wendy.darling like I’m gonna be single forever at this point lmaoo no one will be Kian Lawley 😂
@@amywestlund stop
Ikr? Nothing saves me from the old cat lady life anymore
Jake and tara have the most healthiest and adult relationship. They also look like they’ve come straight from an 80s & 90s movie
Tara and Jake have one of the strongest "influencer" relationships I have seen in a while. They just meld so perfectly and are clearly on the same page about a lot of things in life.
i’ve always been told by my friends that i was “too chill” in relationships but seeing that i agreed with jake and tara with every topic and knowing that they’re in a beautiful, healthy relationship makes me feel at ease. everyone is different and sees healthy relationships in different ways, you just need to find your person and work through those different ideals together.
I think people mistake fighting for passion and care in the relationship
When in reality if you guys have your boundaries and can handle conflict calmly, there’s nothing wrong with be calm!!
Go you!
this didn’t age well
tara and jake being on the same side most of the time is goals no cap 🤞
David: "it's okay to be jealous"
Jake: "Nick Jonas was."
that was iconic😂😂
fr underrated joke
yes loved that lmao
this made me cryyy 🤣
I don't get it
@@luna-pt2gpNick Jonas has a song called Jealous
it's so nice from Chelsea to be genuine and transparent about her insecurities 'cause I could relate so much to her and I'm myself on a journey trying to get better about it. Also seeing how a beautiful and smart girl talking about having times of weakness made me feel a little better about myself like the fact i'm insecure doesn't mean i'm not pretty 💞
JC's girlfriend is so sweet, I get you with the insecurity and the fact she recognizes it and is obviously self aware and honest is so sweet and JC comforting her as she's talking is so sweet
“having a break” is a high school mentality. i have been with my spouse for 9 years. you are either in it or not. if you are gonna take a break like tara said then most likely they aren’t for you.
I'm in my late 20s and this is one of the first videos I've seen that had really made me feel old.
I truly don't understand how someone can rationally say "Sometimes in a relationship you need to take a break to go sleep with people to see if you truly want to be with someone and if they're 'your person'".
It's just a selfish mindset and a lack of respect and commitment to your partner.
You're either in, or you're out.
I absolutely love Tara and Jake, they’re so real with eachother
I also agree with Tara 100% on her outlook on having kids which I feel like is a uncommon opinion so it’s nice to hear how open she is with expressing it
Kian has the ability to be immature but mature at the same time😅
A break is a breakup for people in denial. What they are describing is just having some "me time" away from your SO. Which is okay and probably necessary for healthy relationships. It could be a weekend away from each other or going to see family or a friends only vacation.
A break sounds like someone who fell out of love or isn't interested in the relationship anymore but hasn't realized it yet.
Bro exactly. Every relationship whether a bf/gf or even close friends are allowed to have some distance and me time whenever its needed.
The only reason they use the term "a break" is because of exactly what the girl said in the video: they explicitly want a time where they can go fuck around with other men/women.
Saying its "a break" is just an attempt at a guilt free pass to do so at the detriment of their partner.
Exactly
I aspire to have the level of confidence and security that Tara has, in herself and in her relationship.
jake and tara are probably the most mature, healthy and genuine couple i know
what are you on about bro
what did you smoke brev
I love how everyone was so sincere and genuine with their answers and I love how mature jake and Tara are in their relationship when they are the youngest in the friend group. Overall great video !
Jake and Tara are very genuine and understanding of a real relationship but also the parent question they answered how people really should think when it comes to kids. People think that because they’re in a good place or they’re happy enough that this is a good time to have a kid when its really about if you’re ready to put your life on hold to raise a child to be its own person which is something barley any adult or parents understand so they have kids for the wrong reason such as “my cousin is having kids i should too” and such. I’m happy they know they have a life to live and goals that they would probably struggle to reach if they were pressured to think they needed to have kids soon because its the “right thing to do.”
Completely agree with you!!
agreed!
I agree the goal shouldn't be to have kids it's to raise good humans. Lots of people use kids for selfish reasons like passing on their "legacy" or using them to heal their own issues. Children don't owe you anything I wish more people considered these things a little more.
I love how open & honest Chelsea is. Makes me feel less alone in the way I feel
But really, Chelsea shows so much maturity, bravery, and self awareness. You can tell she has put in work to better herself for her and therefore for her relationship. That’s not easy, so I just want to commend her on that and being so authentic during this video. I feel like so many people can relate to the struggles she talks about and it is extremely validating to hear someone with a platform and in a long term relationship speak up about it
i love chels and jc, she’s so mature and grounded, alpha female vibes the intellectual level is there
love them to death
For sure she is a diva ✨️
something about grace seeming like the total opposite of david makes me believe wholeheartedly that they compliment each other so well lmaooo I wanna see more Grace!
Same ! Definitely wanna see more of her !
bro jake and tara are amazing together and are like a solid couple, but also all the other couples seem great for one another and you can tell there’s so much trust and love between all these couples. mad respect to all of them for being so open and honest. we need more representation for healthy and honest couples :)
It’s so weird hearing Kian and jc speak about having kids - time flies by so quickly. I’ve practically grown with them on TH-cam, it’s such a bittersweet wholesome moment.
I agree with Tara and Jake so much especially with the phone thing, i think that everyone deserves privacy, just bc youre in a relationship doesnt mean that you have to show that person everything all the time, you still deserve to have private conversations etc. for me i use my notes app as a therapist and diary and i just want in there and i would be so uncomfortable if i caught someone looking through it
David really be stirrin' the pot in all his friends relationships 😂 excited to see what else he comes up with
Chelsey being so vulnerable, made this so genuine 💌
I really love hearing their explanations and seeing the similarities and differences between everyone
here after kian and ayla announced that they are pregnanttttt!!!!!!!! SO HAPPY FOR THEM
chelsea is seriously stunning and seems like a sweetheart. it makes me sad to hear her say she’s so insecure, but it’s incredibly admirable that she’s willing to be honest about that
When there is deceit and trickery, you feel fake which leads to insincerity.
@@blueskies6475 you’ve commented twice about chelsey being a cheater like what’s the beef? I’ve got way heavier insecurities and I’ve never cheated
@@lowrider0013 Exactly. I'm not the only one who noticed it either.
@@blueskies6475 oh are you saying jc did something?
@@lowrider0013 no, not jc. I just recall thinking that she wants to keep her options open so she must not be into jc that much. She appears older than him.
absolutely loveee jake and tara’s relationship!! and also love how chelsea is so transparent and recognises her own weaknesses ❤
“We took a break for a week.”
“We broke up.”
“We took a break for a week.” Sounds like Ross and Rachel 😅 WE WERE ON A BREAK!
This is the first time I saw grace in a video and she absolutely killed it , such a smart , articulate & effortlessly funny person & she’s also stunning
You complement each other beautifully, sending you lots of love
yes!
I agree :)
This video is so important and I’m so glad it exists. So many great conversations displaying HEALTHY, non-toxic relationships, but also being open about “toxic” traits and explaining how they’re actively working to improve, for themselves AND their relationships. BRAVO 👏🏻
Tara and Jake are the perfect example of right people wrong time
It was interesting hearing everyone’s point of views. Love this friend group💙
Why are Jake and Reggie so naturally funny😂😂
“There is nothing wrong with being jealous”
Jake: “Nick Jonas is!”
i don’t know why it hit me so hard the conversation about babies. im so used to seeing them being goofy and have fun for so many years that i forgot that now they’re older and getting to a point were they think about that stuff. damn
also i love tara and jake🤩 they sound so mature and secure in they’re relationship is so nice to see!!
Jake and Tara really go together, you can tell how much they respect and trust eachother.😍All of the couples had a really great dynamic. This is such a fun friend group to watch. Keep em commmin!
i love how every couple has their own style
Tara and Jake would do great as a married couple. So much communication and honesty. And although everyone else doesn’t agree on everything, these questions and videos helps put things into perspective which is brave of everyone! Marriage is up and down, just know that as long as you’re willing to stick it out together, you’re already on the upside of things. I’d like to see more videos like these, but how about adding married couples in the mix..it would be nice to see the different answers. I’ve been married 22 years, and some of these answers made me cringe lol😅❤ love to all of you though!! 😊
Hi guys! hope you enjoyed the video! comment so you have a chance to win! also... I'm gonna be doing this again. with other couples and some of the same. what questions should I ask?
KEEP KNJ
Bring roni & Aaron!!!
Nezza and Crawford
Or Jac and Scott !
Oooo you should ask if there has ever been a moment they thought “ I can’t do this anymore “ like being in a relationship with them ?
You should do one with ex’s and new partners or just ex’s !
Jake and tara going to basically every line together is so cute like it shows how similar and perfect for each other they are 🫶🏽
Come on everyone let’s hit that like button for David! He deserves it after all these AMAZING, FUNNY, CONSISTENT videos he’s been posting 😉🤘👏
the fact that this video isn’t even 6 months old! and kian & ayla announced THEYRE EXPECTING!!!! so exciting.
There's no such thing as a break in a relationship. You're either together or broken up. People who are married don't take "breaks"
i love how most of the differing opinions were really just bc everyone interpreted the question a different way. but none of their answers were a shock to the other.
tara and jake are actually so similar as people its no surprise they’re usually on the same page. But bc the same cant be said about the other couples they had to learn other ways to make it work. Relationships arent always about having the same opinion but also figuring out a healthy solution for when you dont.
idk if im dumb bc it could be obvious david did it on purpose but these specific couples are all so uniquely different yet kept the same vibe that it made it so much more interesting for me to watch.
I can relate so much to chelsey. I love her openness and vulnerability. We’re not perfect but we’re working on ourselves for our partners ☺️
jake and tara are so mature and have such a good outlook on relationships, i love it! everyone really does honestly, but especially noticed their answers.
Goth couple is definitely my favorite! They’re definitely the most mature & healthy & grounded. Both super cute together & attractive
why is tara literally a queen. she’s just standing here like 💅 popping OFFFF
I just love Tara’s and Jake’s relationship
omigosh all my favorite couplesz!!!!
This is probably one of my favorite questionarries that David has done. I don't know why but I loved this one for sure.
I love Tara so much, I can relate to their relationship opinions. It’s the most real way to think
tara and jake are so healthy im rooting for them truly
So excited to see how each couple thinks. Especially jake & tara 😂
Having such a hard time adjusting to college and watching David is one of the only things that helps me
Just know that u are not alone. When I started college I was super anxious and the experience was lonely but it does get better. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself and just do the best u can!
Watching this in December 2024, with Coast being one year old and Chelsea & JC expecting 😊
i love chelsea's openness, that is her strength 💖also you can tell grace is very down to earth through your vids and i admire that + any possibility with a part 2? roni-aaron, nezza-crawf, alex-alexxis but there may not be enough couples so it's understandable if there isn't. loved this vid david!
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Mariah and health also Scotty and jac perhaps🧐🧐
yes I agree sm :) and also David yeah pls give a part 2!!
David, your quality in videos is just amazing, they always brighten my day. Thank you for making videos 🙏🏻
i knew i loved this group for a reason!! it was so refreshing to see people being real about their insecurity's and feelings towards relationships! i would love a part two
the way kian and ayla are in strongly agree for babies and now 8 months later they are expecting a baby boy ahhhhh i’m so happy and i love this video and re watch it for comfort
Srsly🥹🥹🥹
4:52 - 5:12 It's so funny watching that couple try and defend their breaks and breakups XD I'm just like, I couldn't personally do that. Either you're together or you're not.
I am obsessed with Tara and Jake. Their vibes are immaculate.
Wow I love this video, I love how honest everyone is and how compatible everyone is with their significant other! Jake and Tara is a different story thought, those 2 are completely meant for each other!!