Danielle Den Flores me too. I spend most of my time taking career choice quizzes but most of the stuff doesn’t really catch my attention. It just sucks that i’m not rich and can’t afford to not worry about my future income and financial problems if i don’t choose the right career 🥴
Thank you Nina, for reminding me that college is only just a small short time of my life. I get so caught up in this bubble of anxiousness, stress, and depression because of all the work that needs to be done that i forget to realize that this too shall pass. The world is so much bigger than the one ive created in my mind and it really is up to us to decide to be happy. It's my 5th and final yr so this really resonated with me. Thank you always for your thoughtful words. Edit: Wow, this has never happened to me. I hope all of yall are doing well, wishing everyone the best and happiness wherever yall are at in life. 💙
as a high school sophomore who just transferred to a new school and stressing about what college im going too, this video and comment rlly made me feel better 💜
As a junior who realized I might have to study til the 5th year for my minor, this really helped 😭 I was so anxious but it felt better to know I’m not alone❤️
I am in alternative education to finish my Highschool credits and taking a few college classes. I’m still 16 and everyone in my classes seem to already know each other and not looking to be friends at all. It just sucks.
My mom was SO against community college but after she heard many parents talk about it and how it saved a lot of money she decided to support me. I don't think it should take others to convince her about MY decision but hey, here I am saving money :D
@Rubí Gomes hm interesting bc mine is an immigrant too and she wanted me to go to a 4 year and accomplish a lot. Guess yours doesnt have high standards for you
i'm a college freshman and i am really really struggling with loneliness. even though other people said everyone is lonely and friendless, i feel like they were just comforting me because i am clearly upset about it. so thank you for explaining that it's a common thing, and it's okay to be alone :) i really needed to hear that today
i legit came back to her video because i felt so upset about being alone:( like I do have friends but the whole experience is lowkey lonely 🥺 but it makes me feel comforted that we’re not alone !
*I went to CC and graduated from a 4 year uni with 0 debt while my friends who started in 4 year uni, graduated with $20-30,000 debt. I feel so FREEEE!!!!!!!!!!!*
Literally the past few weeks I was feeling so lonely at my community college and I kept texting my old high school friends saying that how I am always alone and I hate it and none of them really knew what to tell me since they are living different lives from me. Thank you Nina for telling me exactly what I needed to hear... It really really helps to get advice from someone who completely understands the situation. I really felt like I was talking to a friend that knew just what to say. I hope that you have a good week Nina!! You gave me strength an dI hope you have strength this week as well!!
I’m in the same boat here! I knew absolutely no one at my cc, and I ate alone for the first few days of “orientation”. I felt quite alone for the first few weeks of school, but I slowly worked up the courage to talk to people in the same class. And I even joined a few clubs!! Don’t be scared to talk to people and join a club because that’s where you find friends. You have take the first step if you want to make the best out of your situation :)
I don't really mind being alone in college, I only have like 3 close friends but i rarely see them since our schedules are busy or they just live far away. I kind of took advantage of being alone as a good thing to focus so I wouldnt get distracted. When I first took classes on campus I would always sit in the front to stay focused with no distractions sometimes I would go to the library because I liked the calm/focused atmosphere. I switched over to online in cases i started working part-time and it really helps with time management & flexibility. If your a social kind of person I suggest to join a club of interest or meet up with friends during your free time and their free time, make a good plan. :) Unfortunately because of the pandemic you can't really do much about it but at least it give you the time to figure out what you want to do in life, your goal, finding happiness. :)
I started crying when you said that if you did it all over again, you'd rather do it with less worries. I started my freshmen year of university a few days ago and I hated every single second of it. not because university is bad but because my anxiety has been making it so bad for me. I can't talk to anyone without doubting myself and I'm not participating as much as I want to in fear of looking stupid. I'll try to let go of most of my worries in hopes that I'll get to enjoy my own four years. I need to keep the mind set that no matter what I do, I'll be okay. everything will pass.
hagar fadali heeey it’s been almost a year! how are you doing?? i am asking because i am having the same problem as you🥺 i started my freshmen year of university few weeks ago and i am sooo anxious about everything.. it’s been only 3 weeks but i am already tired asf and want to d*e lol
I came into college thinking that I'd make a ton of friends but yeah you're right... a lot of time is spent alone It's really nice to hear you mention this
Yeah I feel the same. I had a really nice friend group but two people are now at different unis and I hardly have any classes with my other friend so I am alone quite often, I struggle so much to actually form closer friendships
To be fair, if you spent a lot of time with people and not spending that individual time figuring out your college path, you most likely wouldn't have graduated. I'm a perfect example of that. I went to college 15 years ago at 18 y/o and all I did was play video games/drink alcohol with friends, skipped class and just had a vacation for 6 months. I realized at the end of the 6 months that I was wasting money that I didn't have and so I left. I pretty sure the group of friends (I had at the time) that I hung out with didn't graduate either. I joined the military afterwards but I wish I had finished college because it's 15 years later and I'm still trying to finish again.
Hearing Nina say all of this is very comforting. I just transferred to a university and I know no one. It's lonely. I feel like everyone already has their group of friends, but hearing you say that people are alone and it's okay. It's what I needed to hear
Diana same. I transferred for my sophomore year and had similar experience, though I made a few friends initially, they eventually transferred out after 1 semester (for the same reason). I’m a senior now set to graduate in the spring, but working in general or on campus helped me build a small friend group. I did try clubs but people were either awkward or closed off, but I’m giving it a shot again with dif clubs, & events. I also started to pursue more personal hobbies on the side. I’m happy we are talking about the topic of being alone, it’s so common
It"s so weird because I've never heard of people transferring to universities from a community college. I just thought you stay in wherever you go right after high school and that's it
You are literally the person that makes my thoughts easy, like sometimes I feel like doing nothing. Currently I’m in university studying modern languages and I love it but sometimes there is that thing that makes me sad cause I feel useless but let me tell you Nina, you help me a lot and I appreciate that, you videos, small talks, long talks, how you talk about your choices, life and the small little things that no one tells me. I consider myself a veeery shy person, I still have a lot of insecurities and I’m dealing with them... the point here is that thank you for your videos, for telling how you really feel, I will always remember the day I found your channel, you are a friend to me💜 I don’t really have the words to really tell you the big tank you that you deserve. Anyways, thank you neen, for every little thing. 💜🤧
I finished high school this summer and decided not to go to uni right after but to take a gap year or two. I am working now and saving up to travel for some months, hoping that I'll figure out what I *really* wanna do or study. My plan for now is to go to university after that - but I'll see lol I'm a little relieved having chosen a gap year after watching your vid bc I felt similar during high school... not really knowing what I wanted and not being passionate about anything. Just tryna find myself first for the next few moments :D
I love that you talked about being alone in college. In high school, sometimes it's looked down upon to be a "loner" but in college everyone is doing their own thing! have a good day, neen!
my applying to college experience was very similar to yours! I loved art but wasn't confident in my art or myself to major in art. I did create a portfolio but wasn't confident to send it to any art schools. I, like you, lived HS day by day and didn't have goals so when college came around i was lost and went to the only school i got into. Luckily that worked out for me because my school is perfect for me and my goals and i found a non-art related major that i love too. So for anyone else who is feeling like this, it gets better and you'll figure it out.
I'm a sophomore in college and I'm struggling a lot more now than I was last year. I get that college is hard and it's only going to get more difficult from here. I think I'm finally going to reach out for help. It's comforting to know that everyone else goes through similar things
same here, my mental health has plummeted from where it was my first year, and now that i kind of know what to expect, im less willing to break out of my shell bc of how emotionally draining i find everything to be, which only paradoxically cycles back into loneliness, depression, and self hatred. probably going to drop out soon. dont know why im writing this, just wanted to exercise my brain a bit before it gets back into that glazed over state
@@stars19735 Depression has several vicious cycles and it's hard to decipher where one begins and the others end. I hope that something good happens to you. Life is tough but we have to keep on trudging through. Hope you're okay
actually really crazy how so many people go thru this :') I recently withdrew from my college for the 2nd time :( I had taken a year off my 2nd yr of college and came back thinking I could handle it. Unfortunately I feel more lost than ever. I have no particular skills or interests and deal with anxiety and depression and the start of the second semester I have withdrew again :/ I'm 21 now and will try to use this time actually better myself and just work
@@mGigix That's good, do whatever you feel what is best for you. There's so much pressure for people to go to college right after high school or go to college at all. Wishing you the best
I'm currently starting my second year of community college soon and I found your videos around the middle of my first and they've been a big help. Although we're the same age, my life choices led me to wait 3 years before going to college and I don't regret it at all. I'm in a major I love (history) and although I have another year of community college left (3 years in total) plus 2 years at a university and I won't graduate until I'm close to 26, it'll be worth it in the end. Thank you for always inspiring me 💕
i'm a sophomore in hs and i've been stressed about college since i was in the 7th grade. this video is so clear and concise and i 100% relate to everything said in the beginning. i want my masters and the idea of going to community college and then transferring to a university sounds amazing. i think i'm gonna definitely need this video in 2 years lol.
I feel like whenever I'm watching nina's videos, I'm not watching a youtuber, I feel like I'm only talking to a friend. Thank you, nina for your thoughtful words
the whole alone thing was so reassuring, I only have one friend in university that I've known for 3 years, we are taking the same course and I realized that not having a billion friends is actually okay
When you talked about the constant feeling of being overwhelmed I related to that so much. I missed out on so many opportunities bc I was overwhelmed first. It sucks thinking about it now but I still might have a chance on changing that mindset of mine. I graduated from my first degree 9 months ago and I went thru all the post-graduate existential crisis lol and I really felt sad that I just floated thru college too. I wish I made stronger friendships, took on more orgs/clubs, went on more adventures etc. This year I'm back in college for another year for my second degree. I'm glad I watched this vid! It was such a good reminder that college is a small and quick part of life. I'll try not to get too overwhelmed w worries and just do my best and enjoy it while it lasts. Thank you, Nina. This was such a thoughtful vid and I for sure will rewatch this if I need another reminder. :)
I'm in my senior year now & it's been overwhelming for me (thinking about future, job,etc). But after watching this, I guess I'll try to relax and enjoy my life a bit
I absolutely love the sentence "I am who I am because I commuted" it's all these small different things in life that shapes who we are, not necessarily the big big things. It's the small little habits we pick up, the routes that we take home, how we place our keys on the table or even how some of us choose to click on this video instead of doing other things. It's absolutely mind-blowing if you think about it. All small events and seemingly meaningless choices can lead to life changing events or even the boring lifestyle some of us have. The kind of lifestyle we lead are all impacted by these small tiny tiny little mundane things we do every day. Isn't that crazy??
i just graduated from shs with a, pretty good grade, just like u, just a good student, andd i was rejected for my college applies (cry), so i come here rewatch ur video to kick off this lonely feeling bc ALL my frens accepted everywhere they applied for. i just, i just wanna cry?? but NO actually i cried yesterday. i, idk why i'm here, idk why i type this in ur comment, i'm sorry for my life i wanna cry T^T nina, if u read this THANK YOU, if u don't, thank you as always. thank you for being there, sharing ur experience, basically being the older sister figure. ily nina to the neptune and back :"(
I just started college and I totally agree with you about the loneliness aspect of it. I’ve learned to accept being alone at all times and that it’s okay :3
i'm heading through my last year of high school next year and omg i really understood the feeling of like not knowing exactly what you want to do but just going to college because everyone else is kinda doing it, like i have many interests but i'm just not passionate enough to go through with it ://
Honestly everyone I’ve met is like this! My advice is always to go to college and get your general education requirements done with. By the time your first/second year is done, you usually have a sense of what you’re interested based on what you choose to do in your free time or what classes you tend to love the most. Gen eds arent always math, science, and English. Most the time you get to try out stuff like sociology, theatre, etc. whatever you’re into. Also, you can take whatever classes you want as long as you’ve taken the prerequisites. There’s no rules prohibiting you from taking a ceramics class as a math major. But yeah, my point is that it’s pretty rare for people to know what they want to do :) I wish that was communicated to me as a high schooler
in my third week of my first year of university, and let me tell you this is exactly what I needed. these days i feel really pressured to make friends and what you said about being alone really resonated with me. thanks for telling me it's ok to do my own thing and stick to myself. *virtual hug*
ok I feel so relieved that the whole loneliness thing is normal because I just started community college and was getting worried that I won't have any friends. It's good to know that most everyone feels the same and that we're collectively lonely LOL
as someone who just began their first semester in university this made me feel less anxious about it. i know the major i chose is not the easiest (chemistry), but it is definitely something i like and after listening to everything you just said i feel like i can make it, thank you, nina ❣️
"Being alone doesn't make you less of a person." "There's so much going to happen after that 4 years in college." "There's always a plan B in everything." -Nina ❤️❤️
the whole college app part made me cry bc my application experience was so damn shitty. i was basically forced to when i didnt know what i wanted to do or if i wanted to go to college, didnt care what school i went to, i didnt even send in a college essay. i wish i could redo that whole experience
I love you so much for this video. I'm in my last year of college and went through all 4 years pretty much like you, and while I also loved being alone, I've had this constant thought that I wasn't making the most out of college and going through this tug of war of being okay with it but then feeling "undesirable". I feel like most people had the same experience but we get caught up in the lives of those who are more "social" when honestly this is probably not even the experience of the majority of college students. Thank you so much for this honestly
I can relate to being a naturally good student but not being passionate. I didnt have a major or a uni i wanted to go to. Everyone was applying to lots of unis but i havent even applied to atleast one. When i did find a major i wanted it was too late for applications so i settled to a nearby school. I suffered so much in that school mentally because of so many reasons but im glad i was able to transfer to a uni im in now. I regret a lot of decisions bc of my carefree personality but im glad im in a good place now. Thank you for sharing your experience, Nina 💜
Thank you for talking about loneliness in college. As an online university student, I am alone most of the time and I tend to get anxious because my other peers would experience the college life with having orgs and being able to make friends and connections. But as you said, it's okay to be alone. It really helps me to reflect on myself more. Love you and your videos 💜
im in my last semester of university and man, hearing you talk about how fast university goes by is so true. I remember even up until last semester I was just wanting to hurry up and leave my state college, but now that i'm almost at the end, that i'll be in a new chapter in my life soon, is kind of bittersweet. i almost kind of dont want it to end, but simultaneously im excited for the future :)
Your videos always helps me unscramble my worries and gives me a sense of calm if that makes sense? This video helped me feel less worried about life after high school and I’m really thankful that you shared your story and advice. :)
i've just started uni (uk) and though the experiences are very different, it was so comforting to know that being lonely or alone is okay. although i'm an introvert i still get insecure about not having many friends because that's what everyone else seems to be doing, which sucks, but i'm working on it and just hearing it from someone else is so comforting
personally, it's so refreshing to hear you say your identity isn't equivalent to the college you attend. today's time is filled with this mentality that allows people to place themselves on a pedestal because of the college they attend. it's frustrating and has definitely cause some insecurities for myself. but, i've learned that someone else's success isn't a catalyst for my own and that i'm doing what's best for me, and no one else. :)
this video helped me so much. im currently studying at a community college to get my associates degree in 2 years and ive struggled so much with the idea of seeing all of my friends head straight to universities and living on their own. you made me feel better about my decision for the long run benefits SO THANK U
watching what you talked about in the beginning and watching aaashley's college video your guys' experiences have a lot of similarities that really hit home and makes me wish i wouldve seen both videos earlier:( both of you and i graduated/went into college at 17 n you both mention not feeling like u were prepared and wishing you had taken a gap year (which is something i resonate with so deeply). but esp for you going into detail abt feeling so lost in hs & not having any passions. im not afraid to admit that i genuinely started tearing up when you described your experience bc it was exactly what i felt (and still feeling). no one rly talks abt how sometimes you have no dreams or goals. you move like a current, going wherever life takes u but not in the fun hippie way but more in the "i'm so lost and wish someone wud guide me" way. i got accepted into my hometown uni & the best uni in my country. i revoked the acceptance from the hometown one once i got accepted into the other one bc i thought a bigger uni wud obvs be better id make so many more friends better campus etc etc but now i wish i never did. classes r online and im alrdy losing the motivation to continue w college bc its just reminding me of hs (something i dont wanna remember). the hometown uni wudve easily been the safer and easier choice but i was convinced that pushing myself past my comfort zone was for the best. its not like i can go back and change my decisions, esp since my parents did sm for me to get accepted. but now im wondering why i even applied for unis in the first place. bc all my friends did? to make my parents proud? the same parents who wouldnt have batted an eye either way (they didnt care whether i went into uni or not, just like how you described ur parents)? i know im not emotionally ready for college. im only 17 ffs. i still feel 14. theres sm trauma and mental illnesses that i havent learned to heal thru/cope with properly in a way that id be able to be a good uni student. i BARELY finished senior year. idk why i ever tried to convince myself i cud do college right away. i shouldve taken a semester off. but even then ik id do nothing productive and waste my time and feel so useless. sorry for the rant, i genuinely have no one in my life i cud comfortably talk abt this with. but the knowledge that no one will see a comment from a 2 yr old video makes me feel like i can get this off my chest in peace.
I’m going through all kinds of emotions while watching this video. I’m an international student, currently in college in the US, taking 18hrs of classes, working, preparing for grad school if it’s an option. Being an introvert myself, along with the busy schedule. I find myself being alone most my time. Most of the time, i’m fine with it and love it, but it’s definitely lonely sometimes, especially at long breaks bc I don’t have my family near me. Thank you so much for making this video (and every other videos, i love your aesthetics sm ❤️❤️❤️)!!! I really appreciate it. Saranghae Nina ❤️
This video really help me a lot. Even though I don't live in america and my school system is different, I am still able to take in a lot of the advice/tips that was mentioned. The part about 'enjoying life, enjoying your time there even tho its gonna be stressful and stuff' really hit me. I am just so focused on my grades all the time that it becomes unhealthy and it just becomes a huge burden. After hearing you, I should be able to work hard but still enjoy the other parts of my life. It will make things more enjoyable and healthy. Thank YOU!!!
Thanks Nina for the wake up call about making friends and the fact it’s okay to be alone sometimes. I’m a freshman and I started college a month ago so I definitely found it hard to make friends since I felt so lonely. It felt so different as to when I was in highschool where I was already constantly surrounded by my friends. You gave me reassurance and I thank you for that on top of all the advices you had said in the video. :-)
omg im a cc student right now and i felt the exact same way before starting out and this makes me feel so much better knowing other people feel the same way😣
i think its such valuable information that you tell your subs!! Im a Dutch student, and being alone is a thing at uni is more common then people expect. It is not the worst thing though, youre busy with yourself #growth. But make sure you value the time you have with the select few people you do vibe with & take ACTUAL time to spend time with them.
Watching this 2 years after graduating college and I still wish someone gave these advice to me 6 years ago 😂 I love my course and like Nina said, it made me into the person that I am today but I just wished I had more time to think about what I really wanted to pursue passionately. Not just good. Not just floating around but actually taking it by the collar and really study. I just remember my education as a confusing race with the clock ticking sound at the background and everyone's lost and bumping to each other. I wouldn't mind going back to college for something I'm really passionate about but we'll see.
i'm one year younger than you, so a college senior now and i can agree with you completely. I wasn't really ready to go to university straight from high school but i am almost done now (graduation in may) and i'm so happy you're talking about this because people really make it seem like college/university is an absolute must but it really is not for everyone and there is no shame in not going. it doesn't make you inadequate it's just finding what works for you and moving at your own pace.
If I had seen this when I was still in HS I would have done community college(CC)... It was a plan I had in mind but I feel high school teachers and students put “going straight to college” on this pedestal where CC is seen as a downgrade. But it’s not and I regret not doing it especially cause it saves so much money. I graduated with an associates degree in nursing which I do like but not fully love (I love helping and providing care but science was never my best subject so I struggled and had a lot of second thoughts but went through with it cause I was already half way done). CCs are a great choice especially when you are not sure what to do so I’d highly recommend it! I wish I did CC cause I think I would have changed to engineering or architecture :’)) Who knows maybe I’ll go back to school, it’s never too late tbh. I’ve met a lot of older students who had degrees in other majors but decided to pick up nursing. If they can switch career choices then anyone can. But thank you Nina for sharing your experience!
watching the first part of the video was hard for me, because its scary how much i relate to high school nina, but the worse thing is that because of how the spanish college system works, i did get into college (bc its only based on ur high school average and the grade of some exams, and i did ace those) but i feel like still today (i just started my sophomore year) im not ready and i would love to have a community college here, but its something that literally doesnt exist. but i gotta say, watching the rest of the video gave me hope and it kinda made me feel like everything is going to be okay at the end and that i got this :') thank u nina 💗
I've first watched this video in my junior year at highschool but i didn't get much out if it, even though i still enjoyed it a lots. But now, as a freshman in college who really went up and down, fucked up with college process, and finally settled down with a college that used to be my plan B option, I feel even more appreciated watching this video again and again. Nina really warms my heart to be more brave and ready for a journey ahead of me. So again, you might not see this, but thank you for sharing this to us!
this video is so relatable. i also went from community college to university and i’ve struggled with loneliness as well. like u said there’s nothing wrong with being alone, it’s just a part of the experience. i’m a senior and it really does go by sooo quickly
Thank you nina for this video. The beginning really hit home for me. I originally wanted to go straight to a 4 year because that's what my friends were doing. I ended up going to community college still bkt knowing what I wanted to do with my life. I took my general ed little by little and now 6 years after graduating high school I know what I want to do with my life. I'm finally almost done with my pre requisites for my major (finance) and will be applying to transfer next fall hopefully to CSULB, or CSUSM
i love this sm!! i relate a lot to your experience because i took a similar path with 2 year community college and transferred to university! this is my current senior year (university sophomore) and i am cramming all of my classes this year to graduate on time and as a commuter! your video and experiences help me feel a lot less alone in all this! hope you're doing well post grad!!
Thank you, Nina for this college advice video. I just started college (freshman) and I have already felt very overwhelmed, but hearing about your experience has really made me take a step back to realize that eventually it will be over and that I should enjoy these years. I want focus a little more on the present than just my future because eventually the future will become the present. It will come I just have to be patient. I loved watching your videos about your college experience and I'm also excited to see where your journey takes you next! Your fellow friend, Bria 💜💜💜💜
I am a freshman right now, a bts fan, a dreamer, an introvert, and you are my inspiration really 💕 these days I was really worried about making friends because meeting new people makes me nervous but watching your videos relax me a lot ! I can relate a lot to you so it really comforts me, thank you Nina :)
The mindset you have on picking whatever college accepted you, you’ll just go there is how I choose my college this year. Hopefully I find what I love to do and be successful!! ❤️
These days I'm stressing out about my university entrance exam and to be honest, it's not going well at all. I literally can sit and cry for hours just because I can't study properly. I've been watching your videos for 2 years and I didn't have time to watch this but I finally watched it and it really helped me in many ways. I felt like I had another sister who gives me advice and tells me about her experiences. Thank you I feel a little bit better now, I love you 💖
Thank you Nina for this vid. College can be very intimidating and lately it´s been very hard to decide what I want to study in the future. However, watching this video it reminded me how life is not determined by college or anything like that, but about what you make of it and what makes u happy. I´m always very motivated after watching your videos, so thank you for being an amazing role model for so many of us! xoxo
I went to community college and then transferred to a 4-yr university too! I dont regret it because I was only 16 and, same as what you said, the only thing I hope I could change was to be less stressed and miserable worrying about every little thing. However, it did change how I approach university so I am thankful for that.
The bit from being alone and spending a lot of time by yourself is very real and i hadn't seen anyone talk about it until now. It was something a bit hard for me, especially the first weeks and so, because i was expecting to party a lot and go out with friends like other people made it up to be... Anyways i did find friends, but then I transferred to another uni the next year so the cycle began again and this time i barely got any new friends at class (all my friends are my roommates and friends i met through them). It feels nice to see I'm not the only one who had to go through that
I’m not American and I’m not a college student but I’ve watched all of it and it’s given me so many inspirational things about my highschool life. Glad I watched it, thank you Nina ❤️
I have been looking for a video with this content for so long and this popped out of nowhere in my recommendations and Imma say it with pride that this is the most productive I've been watching a video from youtube! I even got a notebook in front of me while watching this because not a lot of people make video contents about transferring from community college to university, it's mostly from high school to uni which I found discouraging being a community college student at that time and I was really ashamed of being in one but this video really helped me realise that I'm where I'm meant to be and that it is not a bad thing to have applied to one. I gotta say, I really didn't know why I ended up in cc in the first place (cuz I don't often see things through on decisions I make) but listening to your experience helped me realise that I was just not ready to be in college and that I had no clue on what path I wanted to be in so thank you so much for making this video, sending love from Hong Kong and all the best for your future nina!
Freshman at UC Berkeley here, and this video couldn’t have come at a better time. I’ve had a hard time adjusting to college life, even though this is my dream school. I miss my friends, who I saw nearly everyday over the summer. I spent my birthday crying by myself. I’ve never commented before, but I just wanted to say thank you for talking about how normal it is to be alone in college and how a lot of people will be doing their own thing. I’ll figure out this whole college/being an adult thing one day. Love you Nina! ❤️
You have a really great outlook on life. It’s refreshing to hear someone not letting all of what society pushes put them down, especially since people look down upon any option besides college and a specific path. My school has a very linear path in mind for the future. I live by the city so there a lot of pressure to go to college and work a corporate job. It’s so stressful, especially when it feel like you need to meet several criteria (good sat score, passion in whatever, have several clubs) to be considered adequate.
Hey Nina, I just wanted to say thank you. I'm a junior high school student who is still trying to figure out what I want to do. I feel lonely for no reason sometimes, I question my own choices and extracurricular choices, I get stressed out over possibly the most trivial things in academics. And I just wanted to say that your talk opened my eyes to a lot of things. Community college is okay. It's okay to be alone in college. College is just a small chapter in one's life. Prestigious schools don't determine everything. Focus on being happy and making sure that you're okay. All of these things I never would've understood if I weren't for you. Thank you for being the big sister that I never had. Keep up the good work, and just know that us fans, including me will always be there to support you!
I like that you're explaining your real experience it's very refreshing to hear that someone that is looked up to by many also has their bumps in the road. As someone (I live in the UK) at university for the first time (I am literally getting ready for my first ever class as I type this) as a 21 year old, it's very nice to see a video like this. My experience with college (high school for UK students also known as sixth form) was definitely a poor one. I was belittled and bullied by most of my teachers. I lost all of my self confidence and was in an incredibly abusive relationship at the time. All of this put together lead to me getting poor grades. I applied for uni on a foundation year (idk if you have these there), basically a year before uni for people who don't have the right grades or classes to progress straight onto their desired degree. And I was rejected. The course I applied for was everything I'd wanted to do since I was 12. But my experiences with my high school/college meant that I had no confidence and every time I thought of the thing I loved so much, I felt defeated and helpless. So I worked as a bartender for almost 2 years. And tried to get an apprenticeship, but that same anxiety and pressure lead me to fuck up my interview. So here I am almost 3 years later, writing this, starting uni (doing a different course) with either the intention to just do the first year and then an apprenticeship. Or to continue on through all 4 years. And I have no idea what I'm going to do with my life. As long as I'm trying to work towards something though (even if it turns out not to be the right thing for me) that's good enough.
Thank you so much Nina for this video! I can relate so much with you during high school. I also started at cc but I didn’t take as many classes, I never completely informed myself how it works. I was also going through A LOT, I hit rock bottom with my mental state. But I did transfer after two years to an university. Got there and they told me I wouldn’t graduate in two years. It hit me hard because ever since high school it was engraved in me that I was going to graduate in 4 yrs. this is my second year at the university , last year I studied something that I wasn’t passionate for and this year I changed it to what I thought I had passion for but my self esteem and confidence has gone down hill. I also wasn’t able to take alot clases because I’ve been having problems economically so I had to start working. So that pile up on my stress because I was behind and because I can’t fully dedicate my time for school.Im super stressed, full with anxiety and it’s not letting me able to focus very well. I feel very lost I can’t find my path. I want to make my family proud but I’m mentally tired. 🥺 Im scared
It’s my 3rd week in college and I am sitting here alone and eating food all by myself. So yeah, I guess, in college being all by yourself is pretty common thing. I agree that college is the time to focus on yourself. Personally, in high school, I was very anxious about everything. But as I am here, in college, I kinda feel relieved from all the anxiety I had before. It feels like a perfect time to focus on personal growth now, instead of being insecure all the time. Thanks for the video! And thanks for being with me as I was having dinner😂❤️
It’s my third year of college and I’ve eaten alone all three years. I know everyone says that you find your group of friends eventually but like.. wtf lmao
Thank you so much for this ❤️ In my first semester of college right now, i was so sad about not being able to go to my first/second choice bc of financial reasons, and I’m starting to accept where I am now. I’m in the process of trying to figure out what I want to study, and hearing you talk about the time you took to focus on yourself was what I needed to hear right now.
hey, thanks for this video! the way you talked so casually/ reassuringly about being alone in college made me feel so much better about being alone right now.
Im almost done with my second year of university, in Australia, doing engineering, so uhhh very different lol BUT its still so comforting and reassuring to know that someone feels the same with the busy-ness and loneliness. The acquaintance thing really resonates with me, I find it so hard to even make friends with people in my Electrical major due to schedules. We're damn busy. So yeah, its nice, Neen. You feel like that chill friend that's just like "its ok bro 💜" and I need that :')
Me in my junior year of uni still finds this video very helpful. Not that after watching it I know what I want to do, but at least it took off some concerns of not knowing what I want to do :’) I wish I got to explore what I like and what I’m passionate about when I was younger though...
Bish wat u expect u hooked up then wanted a text back afterwards thats not how it works hunny. You don’t get relationships from hookups 😂😂😂 If I were him I woulda lead you on just to use your body more to teach you a lesson
i came back to this video because as a senior in high school i'm struggling with where i want to go, even though i got into the schools i wanted, we cant afford my twin and i going at the same time. so cc seems better for me :( and i needed more advice and i was like oh yeah nina posted a video about her college experience so :D
I’m going to a community college in Va and, hopefully, transferring to JMU!! I’m super excited/nervous about the whole thing, but I know I’ll be where I want to be!
My boyfriend just broke up with me and I weirdly found this comforting despite being out of college for two years now. The part where you talked about being by yourself and being okay with it brought me some comfort. Thank you for your kind advice :)
I have been feeling so lonely at college, especially this semester, and this video was exactly what I needed to see. Thank you for sharing your experience and telling us that it's normal to be alone 💖
YES Finally someone who has the same mindset as me of being alone ! ! ! People always think that just because you're alone means that you're anti-social or lonely but I'd rather make it as time for myself, doing uni work (bc it's a LOT) I never joined clubs because the process of it is waaaay harder than it should. Thank you for reassuring everyone that it's not BAD to be alone :))
“being a good student is different from being a passionate student” tHAT SHI HURTED :’(
I've learned that the hard way. 14 years later, still no degree.
The stuff you said at the beginning about just being an average student and not being passionate enough for college hit close to home :((
same * sigh *
It’s me too
I’m a junior in high school and she literally described my current state lol
@@dani-yc1cx omg same!! i'm also a junior and i dont really know what im doing or am supposed to do with my life after highschool
Danielle Den Flores me too. I spend most of my time taking career choice quizzes but most of the stuff doesn’t really catch my attention. It just sucks that i’m not rich and can’t afford to not worry about my future income and financial problems if i don’t choose the right career 🥴
Thank you Nina, for reminding me that college is only just a small short time of my life. I get so caught up in this bubble of anxiousness, stress, and depression because of all the work that needs to be done that i forget to realize that this too shall pass. The world is so much bigger than the one ive created in my mind and it really is up to us to decide to be happy. It's my 5th and final yr so this really resonated with me. Thank you always for your thoughtful words.
Edit: Wow, this has never happened to me. I hope all of yall are doing well, wishing everyone the best and happiness wherever yall are at in life. 💙
You are speaking the words of my mind 😭
as a high school sophomore who just transferred to a new school and stressing about what college im going too, this video and comment rlly made me feel better 💜
I needed this so bad
I agree but I still think you should always try your hardest! Trust me it will pay off
As a junior who realized I might have to study til the 5th year for my minor, this really helped 😭 I was so anxious but it felt better to know I’m not alone❤️
Thank you for speaking about the loneliness aspect of college
Karen Yu it really is lonely 😞
I am in alternative education to finish my Highschool credits and taking a few college classes. I’m still 16 and everyone in my classes seem to already know each other and not looking to be friends at all. It just sucks.
Loneliness in college is so real and I love how she addresses that bc no one really does. They always talk about how social they are
@@multifandommochi6547 yeah same
Jenish Really? Wow 🤗. Wish I saw someone else like me where I am
My mom was SO against community college but after she heard many parents talk about it and how it saved a lot of money she decided to support me. I don't think it should take others to convince her about MY decision but hey, here I am saving money :D
Well I mean, she's just trying to do what's best for you, whether she realizes that she's wrong or not. Don't be too harsh on her :)
@Rubí Gomes doesnt give you the right to call my mother dumb
so you are mom cares more about saving money than supporting your education lol what a mom
@Rubí Gomes how do you expect her to know that information when I'm first gen? If you don't know all the info just shut up
@Rubí Gomes hm interesting bc mine is an immigrant too and she wanted me to go to a 4 year and accomplish a lot. Guess yours doesnt have high standards for you
nina: this is a cup of water, we're staying hydrated, not caffeinated
me: [looks down at my own cup of coffee in utter shame]
maëlle same 😂☕️
I'm literally having coffe so yeah
THE SHAME 🙂👍💔💕
same but tea (i drink both coffee and tea but tea was easier at 1 am lol)
Watching the whole ad to help you pay off student debt 💚💚💚💚💚
schima stuff Careful, he's a hero.
schima stuff can you help me too please. thank you
@Kaitlin Pages relatable lol
Hero
i'm a college freshman and i am really really struggling with loneliness. even though other people said everyone is lonely and friendless, i feel like they were just comforting me because i am clearly upset about it. so thank you for explaining that it's a common thing, and it's okay to be alone :) i really needed to hear that today
Hey! you be lonely in college, I be lonely in college. At least we know that we have each other and we are not the only people who feel this way :)
i legit came back to her video because i felt so upset about being alone:( like I do have friends but the whole experience is lowkey lonely 🥺 but it makes me feel comforted that we’re not alone !
*I went to CC and graduated from a 4 year uni with 0 debt while my friends who started in 4 year uni, graduated with $20-30,000 debt. I feel so FREEEE!!!!!!!!!!!*
LEGEND
INTELLECTUAL
❤️❤️❤️
YEEEEEES YOU ROCK
OMG YES!! I LOVE THAT FOR YOU
Literally the past few weeks I was feeling so lonely at my community college and I kept texting my old high school friends saying that how I am always alone and I hate it and none of them really knew what to tell me since they are living different lives from me. Thank you Nina for telling me exactly what I needed to hear... It really really helps to get advice from someone who completely understands the situation. I really felt like I was talking to a friend that knew just what to say. I hope that you have a good week Nina!! You gave me strength an dI hope you have strength this week as well!!
I’m in the exact same boat, don’t worry your not alone!
I’m in the same boat here! I knew absolutely no one at my cc, and I ate alone for the first few days of “orientation”. I felt quite alone for the first few weeks of school, but I slowly worked up the courage to talk to people in the same class. And I even joined a few clubs!! Don’t be scared to talk to people and join a club because that’s where you find friends. You have take the first step if you want to make the best out of your situation :)
I don't really mind being alone in college, I only have like 3 close friends but i rarely see them since our schedules are busy or they just live far away. I kind of took advantage of being alone as a good thing to focus so I wouldnt get distracted. When I first took classes on campus I would always sit in the front to stay focused with no distractions sometimes I would go to the library because I liked the calm/focused atmosphere. I switched over to online in cases i started working part-time and it really helps with time management & flexibility. If your a social kind of person I suggest to join a club of interest or meet up with friends during your free time and their free time, make a good plan. :) Unfortunately because of the pandemic you can't really do much about it but at least it give you the time to figure out what you want to do in life, your goal, finding happiness. :)
I started crying when you said that if you did it all over again, you'd rather do it with less worries. I started my freshmen year of university a few days ago and I hated every single second of it. not because university is bad but because my anxiety has been making it so bad for me. I can't talk to anyone without doubting myself and I'm not participating as much as I want to in fear of looking stupid. I'll try to let go of most of my worries in hopes that I'll get to enjoy my own four years. I need to keep the mind set that no matter what I do, I'll be okay. everything will pass.
hagar fadali heeey it’s been almost a year! how are you doing?? i am asking because i am having the same problem as you🥺 i started my freshmen year of university few weeks ago and i am sooo anxious about everything.. it’s been only 3 weeks but i am already tired asf and want to d*e lol
@@aruzhan777 same!!!! i need help
Hope you’re doing better now
graduated college 4 years ago, still will watch the whole vid lol
cari cakes cari I luv u!
You two interacting is all I didn't knew I needed 😭💖
Three years here and I did the same thing. Lol. 😂
I came into college thinking that I'd make a ton of friends but yeah you're right... a lot of time is spent alone It's really nice to hear you mention this
Yeah I feel the same. I had a really nice friend group but two people are now at different unis and I hardly have any classes with my other friend so I am alone quite often, I struggle so much to actually form closer friendships
time to time even if you have friends you still feel lonely. you are in the stage in your life when you think about a lot of things. it's natural.
To be fair, if you spent a lot of time with people and not spending that individual time figuring out your college path, you most likely wouldn't have graduated.
I'm a perfect example of that. I went to college 15 years ago at 18 y/o and all I did was play video games/drink alcohol with friends, skipped class and just had a vacation for 6 months. I realized at the end of the 6 months that I was wasting money that I didn't have and so I left. I pretty sure the group of friends (I had at the time) that I hung out with didn't graduate either. I joined the military afterwards but I wish I had finished college because it's 15 years later and I'm still trying to finish again.
U should do UC Berkeley vs UCLA with Ashley from bestdressed. as you've both graduated with similar majors
Good topic!! She should see this!!
OMG BOTH ARE MY FAVORITE TH-camRS!
Rhea Toraskar omg yes and they both have been on campus for 2 years because ashley was an early graduate !!
YASSSSS
YESS
Hearing Nina say all of this is very comforting. I just transferred to a university and I know no one. It's lonely. I feel like everyone already has their group of friends, but hearing you say that people are alone and it's okay. It's what I needed to hear
Diana same. I transferred for my sophomore year and had similar experience, though I made a few friends initially, they eventually transferred out after 1 semester (for the same reason). I’m a senior now set to graduate in the spring, but working in general or on campus helped me build a small friend group. I did try clubs but people were either awkward or closed off, but I’m giving it a shot again with dif clubs, & events. I also started to pursue more personal hobbies on the side. I’m happy we are talking about the topic of being alone, it’s so common
It"s so weird because I've never heard of people transferring to universities from a community college. I just thought you stay in wherever you go right after high school and that's it
You are literally the person that makes my thoughts easy, like sometimes I feel like doing nothing. Currently I’m in university studying modern languages and I love it but sometimes there is that thing that makes me sad cause I feel useless but let me tell you Nina, you help me a lot and I appreciate that, you videos, small talks, long talks, how you talk about your choices, life and the small little things that no one tells me. I consider myself a veeery shy person, I still have a lot of insecurities and I’m dealing with them... the point here is that thank you for your videos, for telling how you really feel, I will always remember the day I found your channel, you are a friend to me💜 I don’t really have the words to really tell you the big tank you that you deserve.
Anyways, thank you neen, for every little thing. 💜🤧
I finished high school this summer and decided not to go to uni right after but to take a gap year or two. I am working now and saving up to travel for some months, hoping that I'll figure out what I *really* wanna do or study.
My plan for now is to go to university after that - but I'll see lol
I'm a little relieved having chosen a gap year after watching your vid bc I felt similar during high school... not really knowing what I wanted and not being passionate about anything.
Just tryna find myself first for the next few moments :D
Lilina proud of u
@@ade1725 Hahah aww thank you ❤
Good luck (:
good luck! 😆
We have missed university student Nina😂🥺😍♥️♥️♥️
I love that you talked about being alone in college. In high school, sometimes it's looked down upon to be a "loner" but in college everyone is doing their own thing! have a good day, neen!
I killed my tree from the app “forest” and put down my history book to watch this.. no, I don’t regret it.
Aaaa mood
well u can plant trees with the search engine ecosia. You can download it as an app n use it instead of google, or add it as am extension uwu
Ooh I have that app too lol
i jug bts crack this is so me
That’s dedication 🤪😳
my applying to college experience was very similar to yours! I loved art but wasn't confident in my art or myself to major in art. I did create a portfolio but wasn't confident to send it to any art schools. I, like you, lived HS day by day and didn't have goals so when college came around i was lost and went to the only school i got into. Luckily that worked out for me because my school is perfect for me and my goals and i found a non-art related major that i love too. So for anyone else who is feeling like this, it gets better and you'll figure it out.
What major did u find? I’m in the same position and I’m so confused rn
@@anjaliraju961 ugh I can't believe she didn't answer
nina & ashley (bestdressed) have the best college/life vids 🥰🥰
Agreed.
Yes I love both of them!
They are both so truthful! I love it 💞
Yes, i could watch them talk all day about college and life, they're like my sisters that i never had
YEEEEES
I can definitely see some similarities between nina and namjoon: they're both so thoughtful, self-aware, and reflective
This is so random... but.. stan Nina-joon 😭✊💀💀
ninajoon? i’m wEAK 🗿🗿💀💀
I mean.. sure? She’s talking about pretty well-known things y’know.
This is way too accurate omggg
Can y'all for ONCE just stop relating everything to BTS? It's not cute, nor is it a personality trait
am I in college or going to it soon? No. Will I watch the video because I love Nina regardless? Yes.
I'm a sophomore in college and I'm struggling a lot more now than I was last year. I get that college is hard and it's only going to get more difficult from here. I think I'm finally going to reach out for help. It's comforting to know that everyone else goes through similar things
same here, my mental health has plummeted from where it was my first year, and now that i kind of know what to expect, im less willing to break out of my shell bc of how emotionally draining i find everything to be, which only paradoxically cycles back into loneliness, depression, and self hatred. probably going to drop out soon. dont know why im writing this, just wanted to exercise my brain a bit before it gets back into that glazed over state
@@stars19735 Depression has several vicious cycles and it's hard to decipher where one begins and the others end. I hope that something good happens to you. Life is tough but we have to keep on trudging through. Hope you're okay
actually really crazy how so many people go thru this :') I recently withdrew from my college for the 2nd time :( I had taken a year off my 2nd yr of college and came back thinking I could handle it. Unfortunately I feel more lost than ever. I have no particular skills or interests and deal with anxiety and depression and the start of the second semester I have withdrew again :/ I'm 21 now and will try to use this time actually better myself and just work
@@mGigix That's good, do whatever you feel what is best for you. There's so much pressure for people to go to college right after high school or go to college at all. Wishing you the best
Mezmireyez I am and will try , thank you for taking the time to reply
I'm currently starting my second year of community college soon and I found your videos around the middle of my first and they've been a big help. Although we're the same age, my life choices led me to wait 3 years before going to college and I don't regret it at all. I'm in a major I love (history) and although I have another year of community college left (3 years in total) plus 2 years at a university and I won't graduate until I'm close to 26, it'll be worth it in the end. Thank you for always inspiring me 💕
Currently a community college student applying this fall to UCs! Thanks nina for this video😍
Same!
Same very nervous 😬 wish you best of luck!
did you get in any? please i’m thinking about doing community college first and then going to UCLA
Kihari Gibson yes! What is your major? You should give it a try
Getinlouiser i’m hoping for bio chemistry! i’m going into junior year and i’m rlly trying to get life figured out
i'm a sophomore in hs and i've been stressed about college since i was in the 7th grade. this video is so clear and concise and i 100% relate to everything said in the beginning. i want my masters and the idea of going to community college and then transferring to a university sounds amazing. i think i'm gonna definitely need this video in 2 years lol.
I felt the loneliness in college part deep in my soul, I miss my friends but they’re out there thriving
I feel like whenever I'm watching nina's videos, I'm not watching a youtuber, I feel like I'm only talking to a friend. Thank you, nina for your thoughtful words
Eunice Siazon so true dude I relate
the whole alone thing was so reassuring, I only have one friend in university that I've known for 3 years, we are taking the same course and I realized that not having a billion friends is actually okay
When you talked about the constant feeling of being overwhelmed I related to that so much. I missed out on so many opportunities bc I was overwhelmed first. It sucks thinking about it now but I still might have a chance on changing that mindset of mine. I graduated from my first degree 9 months ago and I went thru all the post-graduate existential crisis lol and I really felt sad that I just floated thru college too. I wish I made stronger friendships, took on more orgs/clubs, went on more adventures etc. This year I'm back in college for another year for my second degree. I'm glad I watched this vid! It was such a good reminder that college is a small and quick part of life. I'll try not to get too overwhelmed w worries and just do my best and enjoy it while it lasts. Thank you, Nina. This was such a thoughtful vid and I for sure will rewatch this if I need another reminder. :)
I'm in my senior year now & it's been overwhelming for me (thinking about future, job,etc). But after watching this, I guess I'll try to relax and enjoy my life a bit
I absolutely love the sentence "I am who I am because I commuted" it's all these small different things in life that shapes who we are, not necessarily the big big things. It's the small little habits we pick up, the routes that we take home, how we place our keys on the table or even how some of us choose to click on this video instead of doing other things. It's absolutely mind-blowing if you think about it. All small events and seemingly meaningless choices can lead to life changing events or even the boring lifestyle some of us have. The kind of lifestyle we lead are all impacted by these small tiny tiny little mundane things we do every day.
Isn't that crazy??
i just graduated from shs with a, pretty good grade, just like u, just a good student, andd i was rejected for my college applies (cry), so i come here rewatch ur video to kick off this lonely feeling bc ALL my frens accepted everywhere they applied for. i just, i just wanna cry?? but NO actually i cried yesterday. i, idk why i'm here, idk why i type this in ur comment, i'm sorry for my life i wanna cry T^T
nina, if u read this THANK YOU, if u don't, thank you as always. thank you for being there, sharing ur experience, basically being the older sister figure. ily nina to the neptune and back :"(
I just started college and I totally agree with you about the loneliness aspect of it. I’ve learned to accept being alone at all times and that it’s okay :3
i'm heading through my last year of high school next year and omg i really understood the feeling of like not knowing exactly what you want to do but just going to college because everyone else is kinda doing it, like i have many interests but i'm just not passionate enough to go through with it ://
Honestly everyone I’ve met is like this! My advice is always to go to college and get your general education requirements done with. By the time your first/second year is done, you usually have a sense of what you’re interested based on what you choose to do in your free time or what classes you tend to love the most. Gen eds arent always math, science, and English. Most the time you get to try out stuff like sociology, theatre, etc. whatever you’re into. Also, you can take whatever classes you want as long as you’ve taken the prerequisites. There’s no rules prohibiting you from taking a ceramics class as a math major.
But yeah, my point is that it’s pretty rare for people to know what they want to do :) I wish that was communicated to me as a high schooler
in my third week of my first year of university, and let me tell you this is exactly what I needed. these days i feel really pressured to make friends and what you said about being alone really resonated with me. thanks for telling me it's ok to do my own thing and stick to myself. *virtual hug*
ok I feel so relieved that the whole loneliness thing is normal because I just started community college and was getting worried that I won't have any friends. It's good to know that most everyone feels the same and that we're collectively lonely LOL
WILL USE THIS AS MY MOTIVATION TO WRITE MY PAPERS!!! thank u neen bean 💗
Hi Nina, I am from China. So sweet to cue the international audience! Love you so much!!!! Your videos are so warm and comfortable to listen to!!
as someone who just began their first semester in university this made me feel less anxious about it. i know the major i chose is not the easiest (chemistry), but it is definitely something i like and after listening to everything you just said i feel like i can make it, thank you, nina ❣️
Me: *lives in Greece and has no connection to american colleges whatsoever*
Also me: I'm gonna watch this entire video
ΚΑΛΗΣΠΕΡΑ
Με κανει να εχω πολλα εξπεκτεισιονσ λολ
same but from latinamerica
lol χαιρομαι που ειναι τελειως δωρεαν για εμας
"Being alone doesn't make you less of a person."
"There's so much going to happen after that 4 years in college."
"There's always a plan B in everything."
-Nina ❤️❤️
the whole college app part made me cry bc my application experience was so damn shitty. i was basically forced to when i didnt know what i wanted to do or if i wanted to go to college, didnt care what school i went to, i didnt even send in a college essay. i wish i could redo that whole experience
I stopped doing my homework for university, but imma watch oh no nina talk instead 💖😂
I love you so much for this video. I'm in my last year of college and went through all 4 years pretty much like you, and while I also loved being alone, I've had this constant thought that I wasn't making the most out of college and going through this tug of war of being okay with it but then feeling "undesirable". I feel like most people had the same experience but we get caught up in the lives of those who are more "social" when honestly this is probably not even the experience of the majority of college students. Thank you so much for this honestly
I can relate to being a naturally good student but not being passionate. I didnt have a major or a uni i wanted to go to. Everyone was applying to lots of unis but i havent even applied to atleast one. When i did find a major i wanted it was too late for applications so i settled to a nearby school. I suffered so much in that school mentally because of so many reasons but im glad i was able to transfer to a uni im in now. I regret a lot of decisions bc of my carefree personality but im glad im in a good place now. Thank you for sharing your experience, Nina 💜
Thank you for talking about loneliness in college. As an online university student, I am alone most of the time and I tend to get anxious because my other peers would experience the college life with having orgs and being able to make friends and connections. But as you said, it's okay to be alone. It really helps me to reflect on myself more. Love you and your videos 💜
im in my last semester of university and man, hearing you talk about how fast university goes by is so true. I remember even up until last semester I was just wanting to hurry up and leave my state college, but now that i'm almost at the end, that i'll be in a new chapter in my life soon, is kind of bittersweet. i almost kind of dont want it to end, but simultaneously im excited for the future :)
Your videos always helps me unscramble my worries and gives me a sense of calm if that makes sense? This video helped me feel less worried about life after high school and I’m really thankful that you shared your story and advice. :)
i've just started uni (uk) and though the experiences are very different, it was so comforting to know that being lonely or alone is okay. although i'm an introvert i still get insecure about not having many friends because that's what everyone else seems to be doing, which sucks, but i'm working on it and just hearing it from someone else is so comforting
personally, it's so refreshing to hear you say your identity isn't equivalent to the college you attend. today's time is filled with this mentality that allows people to place themselves on a pedestal because of the college they attend. it's frustrating and has definitely cause some insecurities for myself. but, i've learned that someone else's success isn't a catalyst for my own and that i'm doing what's best for me, and no one else. :)
this video helped me so much. im currently studying at a community college to get my associates degree in 2 years and ive struggled so much with the idea of seeing all of my friends head straight to universities and living on their own. you made me feel better about my decision for the long run benefits SO THANK U
watching what you talked about in the beginning and watching aaashley's college video your guys' experiences have a lot of similarities that really hit home and makes me wish i wouldve seen both videos earlier:( both of you and i graduated/went into college at 17 n you both mention not feeling like u were prepared and wishing you had taken a gap year (which is something i resonate with so deeply). but esp for you going into detail abt feeling so lost in hs & not having any passions. im not afraid to admit that i genuinely started tearing up when you described your experience bc it was exactly what i felt (and still feeling). no one rly talks abt how sometimes you have no dreams or goals. you move like a current, going wherever life takes u but not in the fun hippie way but more in the "i'm so lost and wish someone wud guide me" way. i got accepted into my hometown uni & the best uni in my country. i revoked the acceptance from the hometown one once i got accepted into the other one bc i thought a bigger uni wud obvs be better id make so many more friends better campus etc etc but now i wish i never did. classes r online and im alrdy losing the motivation to continue w college bc its just reminding me of hs (something i dont wanna remember). the hometown uni wudve easily been the safer and easier choice but i was convinced that pushing myself past my comfort zone was for the best. its not like i can go back and change my decisions, esp since my parents did sm for me to get accepted. but now im wondering why i even applied for unis in the first place. bc all my friends did? to make my parents proud? the same parents who wouldnt have batted an eye either way (they didnt care whether i went into uni or not, just like how you described ur parents)? i know im not emotionally ready for college. im only 17 ffs. i still feel 14. theres sm trauma and mental illnesses that i havent learned to heal thru/cope with properly in a way that id be able to be a good uni student. i BARELY finished senior year. idk why i ever tried to convince myself i cud do college right away. i shouldve taken a semester off. but even then ik id do nothing productive and waste my time and feel so useless. sorry for the rant, i genuinely have no one in my life i cud comfortably talk abt this with. but the knowledge that no one will see a comment from a 2 yr old video makes me feel like i can get this off my chest in peace.
I’m going through all kinds of emotions while watching this video. I’m an international student, currently in college in the US, taking 18hrs of classes, working, preparing for grad school if it’s an option. Being an introvert myself, along with the busy schedule. I find myself being alone most my time. Most of the time, i’m fine with it and love it, but it’s definitely lonely sometimes, especially at long breaks bc I don’t have my family near me. Thank you so much for making this video (and every other videos, i love your aesthetics sm ❤️❤️❤️)!!! I really appreciate it. Saranghae Nina ❤️
This video really help me a lot. Even though I don't live in america and my school system is different, I am still able to take in a lot of the advice/tips that was mentioned. The part about 'enjoying life, enjoying your time there even tho its gonna be stressful and stuff' really hit me. I am just so focused on my grades all the time that it becomes unhealthy and it just becomes a huge burden. After hearing you, I should be able to work hard but still enjoy the other parts of my life. It will make things more enjoyable and healthy. Thank YOU!!!
Thanks Nina for the wake up call about making friends and the fact it’s okay to be alone sometimes. I’m a freshman and I started college a month ago so I definitely found it hard to make friends since I felt so lonely. It felt so different as to when I was in highschool where I was already constantly surrounded by my friends. You gave me reassurance and I thank you for that on top of all the advices you had said in the video. :-)
Nina is queen periodt. 👸🏽
omg im a cc student right now and i felt the exact same way before starting out and this makes me feel so much better knowing other people feel the same way😣
i think its such valuable information that you tell your subs!! Im a Dutch student, and being alone is a thing at uni is more common then people expect. It is not the worst thing though, youre busy with yourself #growth. But make sure you value the time you have with the select few people you do vibe with & take ACTUAL time to spend time with them.
watching this for nina even though i already go to uni and it's in the uk so all the american aspects don't really apply to me
Watching this 2 years after graduating college and I still wish someone gave these advice to me 6 years ago 😂 I love my course and like Nina said, it made me into the person that I am today but I just wished I had more time to think about what I really wanted to pursue passionately. Not just good. Not just floating around but actually taking it by the collar and really study. I just remember my education as a confusing race with the clock ticking sound at the background and everyone's lost and bumping to each other. I wouldn't mind going back to college for something I'm really passionate about but we'll see.
i'm one year younger than you, so a college senior now and i can agree with you completely. I wasn't really ready to go to university straight from high school but i am almost done now (graduation in may) and i'm so happy you're talking about this because people really make it seem like college/university is an absolute must but it really is not for everyone and there is no shame in not going. it doesn't make you inadequate it's just finding what works for you and moving at your own pace.
If I had seen this when I was still in HS I would have done community college(CC)... It was a plan I had in mind but I feel high school teachers and students put “going straight to college” on this pedestal where CC is seen as a downgrade. But it’s not and I regret not doing it especially cause it saves so much money. I graduated with an associates degree in nursing which I do like but not fully love (I love helping and providing care but science was never my best subject so I struggled and had a lot of second thoughts but went through with it cause I was already half way done). CCs are a great choice especially when you are not sure what to do so I’d highly recommend it! I wish I did CC cause I think I would have changed to engineering or architecture :’))
Who knows maybe I’ll go back to school, it’s never too late tbh. I’ve met a lot of older students who had degrees in other majors but decided to pick up nursing. If they can switch career choices then anyone can.
But thank you Nina for sharing your experience!
watching the first part of the video was hard for me, because its scary how much i relate to high school nina, but the worse thing is that because of how the spanish college system works, i did get into college (bc its only based on ur high school average and the grade of some exams, and i did ace those) but i feel like still today (i just started my sophomore year) im not ready and i would love to have a community college here, but its something that literally doesnt exist.
but i gotta say, watching the rest of the video gave me hope and it kinda made me feel like everything is going to be okay at the end and that i got this :')
thank u nina 💗
I've first watched this video in my junior year at highschool but i didn't get much out if it, even though i still enjoyed it a lots.
But now, as a freshman in college who really went up and down, fucked up with college process, and finally settled down with a college that used to be my plan B option, I feel even more appreciated watching this video again and again. Nina really warms my heart to be more brave and ready for a journey ahead of me.
So again, you might not see this, but thank you for sharing this to us!
this video is so relatable. i also went from community college to university and i’ve struggled with loneliness as well. like u said there’s nothing wrong with being alone, it’s just a part of the experience. i’m a senior and it really does go by sooo quickly
girl your hair and personality just give me major kim go eun vibes and I love go eun so much 🥺👉🏻👈🏻
Thank you nina for this video. The beginning really hit home for me. I originally wanted to go straight to a 4 year because that's what my friends were doing. I ended up going to community college still bkt knowing what I wanted to do with my life. I took my general ed little by little and now 6 years after graduating high school I know what I want to do with my life. I'm finally almost done with my pre requisites for my major (finance) and will be applying to transfer next fall hopefully to CSULB, or CSUSM
i love this sm!! i relate a lot to your experience because i took a similar path with 2 year community college and transferred to university! this is my current senior year (university sophomore) and i am cramming all of my classes this year to graduate on time and as a commuter! your video and experiences help me feel a lot less alone in all this! hope you're doing well post grad!!
Thank you, Nina for this college advice video. I just started college (freshman) and I have already felt very overwhelmed, but hearing about your experience has really made me take a step back to realize that eventually it will be over and that I should enjoy these years. I want focus a little more on the present than just my future because eventually the future will become the present. It will come I just have to be patient. I loved watching your videos about your college experience and I'm also excited to see where your journey takes you next! Your fellow friend, Bria 💜💜💜💜
I am a freshman right now, a bts fan, a dreamer, an introvert, and you are my inspiration really 💕 these days I was really worried about making friends because meeting new people makes me nervous but watching your videos relax me a lot ! I can relate a lot to you so it really comforts me, thank you Nina :)
When you talk about your parents being chill about you picking a career i felt that
The mindset you have on picking whatever college accepted you, you’ll just go there is how I choose my college this year. Hopefully I find what I love to do and be successful!! ❤️
These days I'm stressing out about my university entrance exam and to be honest, it's not going well at all. I literally can sit and cry for hours just because I can't study properly.
I've been watching your videos for 2 years and I didn't have time to watch this but I finally watched it and it really helped me in many ways. I felt like I had another sister who gives me advice and tells me about her experiences. Thank you I feel a little bit better now, I love you 💖
i just existed and floated around...trying to get through each day" man...that hit me. that hit me hard. been doing that for the past 6 years ngl
Thank you Nina for this vid. College can be very intimidating and lately it´s been very hard to decide what I want to study in the future. However, watching this video it reminded me how life is not determined by college or anything like that, but about what you make of it and what makes u happy. I´m always very motivated after watching your videos, so thank you for being an amazing role model for so many of us! xoxo
I went to community college and then transferred to a 4-yr university too! I dont regret it because I was only 16 and, same as what you said, the only thing I hope I could change was to be less stressed and miserable worrying about every little thing. However, it did change how I approach university so I am thankful for that.
The bit from being alone and spending a lot of time by yourself is very real and i hadn't seen anyone talk about it until now. It was something a bit hard for me, especially the first weeks and so, because i was expecting to party a lot and go out with friends like other people made it up to be... Anyways i did find friends, but then I transferred to another uni the next year so the cycle began again and this time i barely got any new friends at class (all my friends are my roommates and friends i met through them). It feels nice to see I'm not the only one who had to go through that
I’m not American and I’m not a college student but I’ve watched all of it and it’s given me so many inspirational things about my highschool life. Glad I watched it, thank you Nina ❤️
I have been looking for a video with this content for so long and this popped out of nowhere in my recommendations and Imma say it with pride that this is the most productive I've been watching a video from youtube! I even got a notebook in front of me while watching this because not a lot of people make video contents about transferring from community college to university, it's mostly from high school to uni which I found discouraging being a community college student at that time and I was really ashamed of being in one but this video really helped me realise that I'm where I'm meant to be and that it is not a bad thing to have applied to one. I gotta say, I really didn't know why I ended up in cc in the first place (cuz I don't often see things through on decisions I make) but listening to your experience helped me realise that I was just not ready to be in college and that I had no clue on what path I wanted to be in so thank you so much for making this video, sending love from Hong Kong and all the best for your future nina!
Freshman at UC Berkeley here, and this video couldn’t have come at a better time. I’ve had a hard time adjusting to college life, even though this is my dream school. I miss my friends, who I saw nearly everyday over the summer. I spent my birthday crying by myself. I’ve never commented before, but I just wanted to say thank you for talking about how normal it is to be alone in college and how a lot of people will be doing their own thing. I’ll figure out this whole college/being an adult thing one day. Love you Nina! ❤️
Anne Nguyen its ok it gets better! Try going to the club event sponsored by your school it definitely helps to meet people .
You have a really great outlook on life. It’s refreshing to hear someone not letting all of what society pushes put them down, especially since people look down upon any option besides college and a specific path. My school has a very linear path in mind for the future. I live by the city so there a lot of pressure to go to college and work a corporate job. It’s so stressful, especially when it feel like you need to meet several criteria (good sat score, passion in whatever, have several clubs) to be considered adequate.
Hey Nina, I just wanted to say thank you. I'm a junior high school student who is still trying to figure out what I want to do. I feel lonely for no reason sometimes, I question my own choices and extracurricular choices, I get stressed out over possibly the most trivial things in academics. And I just wanted to say that your talk opened my eyes to a lot of things. Community college is okay. It's okay to be alone in college. College is just a small chapter in one's life. Prestigious schools don't determine everything. Focus on being happy and making sure that you're okay. All of these things I never would've understood if I weren't for you. Thank you for being the big sister that I never had. Keep up the good work, and just know that us fans, including me will always be there to support you!
I like that you're explaining your real experience it's very refreshing to hear that someone that is looked up to by many also has their bumps in the road.
As someone (I live in the UK) at university for the first time (I am literally getting ready for my first ever class as I type this) as a 21 year old, it's very nice to see a video like this. My experience with college (high school for UK students also known as sixth form) was definitely a poor one. I was belittled and bullied by most of my teachers. I lost all of my self confidence and was in an incredibly abusive relationship at the time. All of this put together lead to me getting poor grades. I applied for uni on a foundation year (idk if you have these there), basically a year before uni for people who don't have the right grades or classes to progress straight onto their desired degree. And I was rejected. The course I applied for was everything I'd wanted to do since I was 12. But my experiences with my high school/college meant that I had no confidence and every time I thought of the thing I loved so much, I felt defeated and helpless. So I worked as a bartender for almost 2 years. And tried to get an apprenticeship, but that same anxiety and pressure lead me to fuck up my interview. So here I am almost 3 years later, writing this, starting uni (doing a different course) with either the intention to just do the first year and then an apprenticeship. Or to continue on through all 4 years. And I have no idea what I'm going to do with my life. As long as I'm trying to work towards something though (even if it turns out not to be the right thing for me) that's good enough.
Thank you so much Nina for this video! I can relate so much with you during high school. I also started at cc but I didn’t take as many classes, I never completely informed myself how it works. I was also going through A LOT, I hit rock bottom with my mental state. But I did transfer after two years to an university. Got there and they told me I wouldn’t graduate in two years. It hit me hard because ever since high school it was engraved in me that I was going to graduate in 4 yrs. this is my second year at the university , last year I studied something that I wasn’t passionate for and this year I changed it to what I thought I had passion for but my self esteem and confidence has gone down hill. I also wasn’t able to take alot clases because I’ve been having problems economically so I had to start working. So that pile up on my stress because I was behind and because I can’t fully dedicate my time for school.Im super stressed, full with anxiety and it’s not letting me able to focus very well. I feel very lost I can’t find my path. I want to make my family proud but I’m mentally tired. 🥺 Im scared
I’m really thankful that you share your experiences of you going to college/uni
It’s my 3rd week in college and I am sitting here alone and eating food all by myself. So yeah, I guess, in college being all by yourself is pretty common thing.
I agree that college is the time to focus on yourself. Personally, in high school, I was very anxious about everything. But as I am here, in college, I kinda feel relieved from all the anxiety I had before. It feels like a perfect time to focus on personal growth now, instead of being insecure all the time.
Thanks for the video! And thanks for being with me as I was having dinner😂❤️
It’s my third year of college and I’ve eaten alone all three years. I know everyone says that you find your group of friends eventually but like.. wtf lmao
Thank you so much for this ❤️ In my first semester of college right now, i was so sad about not being able to go to my first/second choice bc of financial reasons, and I’m starting to accept where I am now. I’m in the process of trying to figure out what I want to study, and hearing you talk about the time you took to focus on yourself was what I needed to hear right now.
hey, thanks for this video! the way you talked so casually/ reassuringly about being alone in college made me feel so much better about being alone right now.
Im almost done with my second year of university, in Australia, doing engineering, so uhhh very different lol BUT its still so comforting and reassuring to know that someone feels the same with the busy-ness and loneliness. The acquaintance thing really resonates with me, I find it so hard to even make friends with people in my Electrical major due to schedules. We're damn busy. So yeah, its nice, Neen. You feel like that chill friend that's just like "its ok bro 💜" and I need that :')
Me in my junior year of uni still finds this video very helpful. Not that after watching it I know what I want to do, but at least it took off some concerns of not knowing what I want to do :’)
I wish I got to explore what I like and what I’m passionate about when I was younger though...
Bish wat u expect u hooked up then wanted a text back afterwards thats not how it works hunny. You don’t get relationships from hookups 😂😂😂 If I were him I woulda lead you on just to use your body more to teach you a lesson
i came back to this video because as a senior in high school i'm struggling with where i want to go, even though i got into the schools i wanted, we cant afford my twin and i going at the same time. so cc seems better for me :( and i needed more advice and i was like oh yeah nina posted a video about her college experience so :D
I’m going to a community college in Va and, hopefully, transferring to JMU!! I’m super excited/nervous about the whole thing, but I know I’ll be where I want to be!
My boyfriend just broke up with me and I weirdly found this comforting despite being out of college for two years now. The part where you talked about being by yourself and being okay with it brought me some comfort. Thank you for your kind advice :)
I have been feeling so lonely at college, especially this semester, and this video was exactly what I needed to see.
Thank you for sharing your experience and telling us that it's normal to be alone 💖
especially in covid times, this video is so reassuring! i am having a v similar college experience to yours so thanks sm for this ☁
2:57 this is really true. I know I am a good student but I'm not really passionate to the thing I'm studying
YES Finally someone who has the same mindset as me of being alone ! ! ! People always think that just because you're alone means that you're anti-social or lonely but I'd rather make it as time for myself, doing uni work (bc it's a LOT) I never joined clubs because the process of it is waaaay harder than it should. Thank you for reassuring everyone that it's not BAD to be alone :))