The advice of "show your emotions" to a whole generation of men raised without fathers is hands down the worse advice I've EVER heard. Fathers train how to handle that emotion, channel it and control it. Raised by single mothers, expressing your emotions means EXPLOSIONS of emotion out of men, not all good. We've been living through that, has it been good? lol. Mass pew-pew events are USUALLY raised by single mothers, hey, those boys were just "expressing their emotions" correct?
Whenever someone talks about "men don't know how to express their emotions," without talking about male disposability, I know they are clueless. They say men are taught to hide their emotions, as if a misinformed parent tells them this. The thing that teaches men this is the fact that society punishes us when we show emotion.
We are only one generation removed from those who fought in the last great war and the way things are going I think we'll see another before the boomers fade away entirely. Makes you wonder if we'll have the societal cohesion to survive it since what built that cohesion last time is utterly gone now in some places or heavily on the decline in others.
Yeah and the sport guy example is also pure ignorance. These highly successful guys can do this because the men can respect the feeling of dreams breaking down in real time. The women always respect status and ambition, and it's not like he is a bum because he didn't get drafted first or lost a game. Unsuccessful guys showing emotion just shows powerlessness. That's it. And you are not allowed to feel powerless or unfairly treated. Those guys don't even get to reproduce, that's how much that is hated.
@@IM_MOUNTAIN When studied it was shown that MOTHERS react negatively to boys expressing emotions. Not the fathers. Its women who push men into the toxic traditional role they complain about. Men look out for other men by telling them to be in that role because its what works and what women respond to. If men listened to what women say they wanted, men would be weak and single. Women tell men to be weak because those women want power over those men. If a woman wants a man, she wants him strong and rich. If a woman doesnt want that man she tells him to be weak and vulnerable so she had power over him. An Unattractive man having confidence and ego is a "red flag". A strong attractive man is not. In the past "weak men" were able to use the power of being a man to overcome most women. But in modern society men cant. So now we have a hierarchy where women are now above all men but for the few alphas on top. Women dont want bottom men to get above them.
@@jonnnybravo4092 "Women tell men to be weak because those women want power over those men" I think it's more that they want to ensure it is real. They tell men showing emotions is good, just so they can filter out the "bums" easier.
He’s saying to be in touch with your emotions, not be emotional; there is a big difference between the two. You can express how you feel in a calm and stoic manner without flying off the handle. That is what he is alluding to.
The 2 best pieces of advice here: Start a fitness routine early, and be forthright with how others make you feel with the people who make you feel that way.
Not sure if a man of his age and/or status is in the place in life to be giving such advice to young men. Of course, he can show more emotion now because he's older, out of the competitive dating pool of younger men, and has nothing to prove anymore. Young men can't show how they "truly" feel, lest they lose the respect of their peers. Instead, they have to express it in way that is warped/molded in way that is acceptable in their particular social sphere. A 20 year old Navy SeAL is probably going to have to keep a lid on it more than a 50 year old Navy SeAL because young guys need to prove themselves whilst older men have typically ready proven themselves and/or are out of the dating pool. The same is likely even for less masculine occupations. Signalling strength and toughness is how men have proven themselves going all the way back into prehistory. Observe nature - many most male mammals do this to some degree.
Mammals express emotions. Elephants cry when their child dies. Monkeys can be sad, angry, happy etc My Dog will be upset with me when I clean him under the shower and show me appreciation when I pet him. Being told and "cultured" into a state of not being aware of and hiding how you feel does not mean its natural*
@@moritji6090 I wasn't saying we ought not express emotion and I'm not making the "naturalistic fallacy" by claiming because X is natural we should do Y. I'm simply making a point about how male humans (depending on their particular social situation and age) must typically express their emotions differently than females (historically in a manner that ranges from a more stoic behavior all the way to outright murderous aggression) and that similar differences in expression can be seen in the animal kingdom, particularly among mammals and even more particularly among primates. Males and females of any species are expected to behave in certain preordained ways when interacting with members of their own kind if they are to be successful. My point still stands.
Being Stoic is very Masculine. I don't know how this gentleman has come to the conclusion that being emotional is proper masculinity. Being aware of your emotions is entirely different than giving into them.
@@MetalCrull In stoic philosophy its ok to feel bad. They only view the behaviour of observing your emotions without rash reactions to them as a more optimal way to engage with them.
Hell NO . Show your emotions in public sets you up to be seen as unreliable for the future . No one will give you tasks or goals to achieve or responsible positions if you don't have your feelings in check , an emotional stability. You can cry with your mother , with your therapist or with a good old friend that knows what your struggling with , all of that privately . Do it publicly and you are screwed .
She blocked the view with a notebook because she knows intuitively that women will punish men massively for breaking down. The punishment can be a permanent change in the way she sees you forever. That's the reality of the situation. Best not to take this advice.
Until you’ve given everything you have, was the best at your position of 1,000’s of players and it still wasn’t enough you’ll never know the feeling. That guy is a champion who actually cares
@@tyler0506 lolz. You can continue to BS yourself. He’s an extremely lucky person. There are many people who have worked harder than him that couldn’t make it but he was lucky with his genetics. There are many athletes that don’t break down crying after losing. He likely has millions of dollars ahead of him and women most men can only dream of so no need to show this weakness.
This guy was raised by a single mommy who was a side-chick of a chad. Defeatism is in his voice. He has done good for himself financially but I wouldn't take his advice on anything else let alone life in general. Being "In touch with one's emotion" doesn't mean to express them right away or "act emotional". It means to reflect on them and ask yourself questions about where they are coming from. That might reveal your insecurities and you need to work on them. What he tells you to do will make you come across as validation seeking. You can't just ask people to like you. If someone is being rude to you, you need to put your foot down and let them know that it won't be tolerated (verbally or non-verbally), if the other party don't want or respect you it can't work, human collaborate is a two-way street.
Scott Galloway clearly thinks of himself as an exemplar of "positive" masculinity. Instead, he reminds me of a friend's stepdad who wouldn't let us play like normal, rowdy boys. He's the kind of guy I promised myself I'd never become.
Preach, the professor would wear a dress in the right circumstances. Dude out here telling youths to tell the girl “I’m bummed out you don’t like me as much sad I like you”. Broke my ribs laughing 😂😂😂
Exactly WTF is this? We are a couple generations from people who fought in WWII and now this guy thinks we should cry to our mums when things are not going well?
If tough men start expressing emotions. Women will get scared and run away because if a tough man appears ruled by emotion. All the muscle and capacity to get shit done too unpredictable and risky to be around for the physically smaller woman. Even women don't have to express emotions (they are just smaller and allowed to). Really tall women tend express emotion less. I think talking about problems so you can think them through or standing up for one self is being confused with feelings. Telling someone that ya care about them, that they are important or giving genuine complements is just telling the truth. That sensitive new age guy crap has been tried and it was a joke.
My son is 15 now but when he was little I focused on getting him to learn his emotions. I purchased a deck of emotion cards for children (they are about B5 size, made of thich cardboard and have a colourful picture drawn on both sides with an emotion and a word). Anytime he was experiencing any type of emotion I would bring out the cards and have him choose any card or cards from the deck that best described what he was feeling. The pictures were enough to help him before he had learned to read. Sometimes he would choose one card, other times a few. Then, once I one how he was feeling, I would sit with him, explain what he was feeling and teach him to learn to recognise the signs in the future and how to manage that particular emotion. I taught him emotional intelligence, basically. Today, he has a girlfriend (They've been together two years). He works hard to understand her emotions and to help HER manage her own emotions. She comes from a dysfunctional, fatherless home and my husband and I have allowed her to move in with us so she can get some respite and also save some money (she gets government benefits). If you start young enough, you can certainly teach boys emotional intelligence.
@@Islas_CanariasLove your comment and great job parenting your child. As a 22yr old its hard to learn this now (although its still early), not having learned it as a child.
The men I look up to are the likes of Neil Armstrong - he didn’t burst into tears when the 1202 abort alarm blared whilst piloting the lunar module to the surface of the moon.
Chris, I have watched many of your videos and I must say you are very well spoken and knowledgeable about the subjects that are interviewing guess about. I so wish I would have had just a small portion of the snap that have at your age. Good job! And keep up the good work, I am learning more ever day from you and your guests at 59.
If you think people who don't show any concern about your emotions are going to care if you say anything to them you are delusional. Saying "I don't think you care about me as much as I care about you." is going to be taken out of context. The best step is to move forward without that person. If they say something, then state why you don't reach out to them. Then continue moving forward. If they start to change then maybe you can devote some time to them.
To other guys.... DON'T show emotions. Show emotions and you get mocked and manipulated. People play emotional people ie push your buttons, stroke your ego, play on your fears and doubts. Setting boundaries calmly yet firmly is better than yelling or weeping for being slighted. If you are feeling overwhelmed or depressed, recognise it...Take action. Do things that make you energised and make you laugh or just breath and calm your mind (research Mushin). Emotions are for bringing your attention to something or someone but don't let them cloud the reality and your perspective.
Why not both? Show your emotions but also use them. Being able to let yourself be vulnerable sometimes is important too and you will find that more often than not people won't judge or bully you for it and if they do you don't want them in your life.
No one is saying showing emotion = yell or weep. Part of setting boundaries in a healthy way IS telling someone “I didn’t like that” so they don’t do it again. If they repeatedly disrespect your boundaries, CONGRATULATIONS, now you know they’re not a supportive friend or good faith person to have in your life, MOVE ON.
I'm a follower of Scott for a few years now and I've been regularly more "in contact" (multiple times per week via text at a minimum) with my closest friends for about 6 months now, and I don't hold back, because what Scott says is true. It's a good reminder. And think about it - the chances are not that long ago our closest friends were probably physically beside us more. So, we'd be talking more "real" [as men] to our friends. Nowadays, we seems spread out more and social media or text messaging is the main communication, which is NOT real communication.
Scott Galloway:“ when a woman upsets you or a friend, you know, say it bummed me out that you didn’t call me back.” This will literally get you less action with the ladies. What you do is, you ignore them - want to know when it really works? Woman: “I think we should break up”. You: “yeah sure, all good”. 90% of the time they talk themselves back into the relationship 😂😂😂. Scott will be voting blue this year. 👋
@spidermanfan321 eh, that’s the point Spider-Man. You do care - when they think you don’t, they stay. Every time. But yeah, try Scott’s technique for a while 😂
@spidermanfan321 eh, that’s the point Spider-Man. You do care - when they think you don’t, they stay. Every time. But yeah, try Scott’s technique for a while 😂
You tell no lies. This will get you much more sex from emotionally immature women. When you are ready for deep authentic connection with someone who has her shit sorted out, Scott’s advice is what you need.
Something is wrong with this message, but I can't listen to the entire interview as it's essence is unbalanced.. Conclusion: wrong narrow approach for men today
Bro Caleb Williams gave his blood sweat and tears, was the best player in the nation and it still wasn’t good enough to win. Dedicating your whole life to something and coming up short. I’m a Pats fan and would draft that guy in a heartbeat
Have backup or have backup. Side box neutralizes the power of main box. The "boys" want what they want. They need an alternative source of pleasure or they will conspire against a man.
0:53 I agree with that statement it's essential to stay in touch with your emotions and express them while also beeing careful to who you open up to. Many people take advantage of this, especially if their personal needs don't get met. So it's even more important to *_understand your emotions before you express them_* I think the majority of Men are guarding their emotions and supress them instead of trying to controll them as if they are a monster. It is not a shame to have compassion and empathy and beeing in touch with your emotions feels better than this ''dead inside'' feeling but getting controlled by them, is like sailing through a storm with a small sailing ship until we get lost in a sea of emotions. *_Not a good spot to be in_*
Its kinda funny that Scott Galloway gives off such a low energy vibe for a guy who is so woke. Seriously though he should be checked out by a doctor for depression
The Professor needs to stop the advice about being able to beat up anyone in the room as a goal. I understand his point, but he needs to find a better way to say it.
I strongly disagree with Scott. The notion that not embracing our emotions as men is the primary cause of various external conditions and outcomes is unfounded, if not fanciful. Moreover, I would argue that the opposite is likely true. When reflecting on the worst mistakes I've made, a common factor was being under the influence of my emotions. Emotions themselves are often prone to lead us astray and make situations worse. Ultimately, I believe the stoics were right; our emotions are something to be managed and approached with caution, rather than something to be driven by or something we should lean into. However, none of that implies that you can't tell your mother you love her, or even worse, that you should never ask for help when you truly need it. I find it odd to relate those two things to a lack of commitment to experiencing our emotions.
I think psychology today completely misses the mark with depression and suicide, especially with men. I'm not gonna get into this all here but I have to say that not "expressing" their emotions, in my opinion, is not a reason for male depression and suicide; the lack of expression is a product of the underlying psychological issues that ALREADY exist in the background, which are not talked about by psychologists. Modern Psychology is never going to solve the problem of depression until it starts reading between the lines and looking beyond superficial behavior and patterns.
Yes you could say objective reality punishes men. If you went on the news and started crying and sharing all the stuff you are going through, there would be a lot of hurt men and boys making fun of you. But that does not mean men should not share their feelings with people who are close to them on a general basis. Sharing experience as fact is a dangerous game. Read my larger comment if you are interested in more info on this.
I agree with Scott. The expression of and keeping in touch with such emotion is important for a man . The pressure has always been on us to be big, strong, adaptable, provide, protect….. how could we deal with such a weight and not have an outlet to vent it ? Or only have very specific opportunities to do so? But In any case the push back I’ve seen in the comments have all been followed up by what a woman would think and my response to that would be: “as a man who the fuck cares” we seen women not even understand their own emotion and they’re always expressive, they’ve put their emotions before anything and anyone’s else to include their own children . They’ve sent entire institutions and concepts to the grave because of how they felt . It’s not to bash women but it’s to express that they haven’t in the history of ever earned the right to govern or judge how a man should express himself, I’d go as far as to say we’re still having this debate because most men know what I’ve expressed here to some Degree and would prefer to distinguish themselves from How women act because it’s not respected. This has impacted men I believe because we have allowed them to govern how men feel despite lacking the qualifications, because we desire sex and approval from them to get it . But If a man is operating at their higher self day after day …who cares ? Express your emotions …don’t hurt anyone in the process. Don’t speak to those not willing to listen or have a propensity to put your feelings under theirs ever chance they get . Yea that may mean being single . But what’s more important your mental health as a man or sex from a woman who rather not listen to you in between sessions.
This whole video misses the point! 5:40 The Caleb Willam video is a premier display of narcissism and grandiosity. Scott is encouraging and grandstanding unhealthy, grandiose expression of emotion, and calling it evolutionary...Waat! Looks genuine, probably is real crying : "mom we lost- I didn't get what I wanted, waaah- poor me the victim of not getting what I always deserve- winning." mom: "Oh son you are still sooo special- poor baby- you really did win- you're my special man, I'll shield your wounded child, shame from the world!" Oh look- everyone is watching- let's make it good! Yup, nothing like good flagrant grandiosity to get the camera and the crowd!! Left subscription and notifications on- thanks for the reminder to unsubscribe and ignore from your immature content! Bunch of grandiose, social media, narcissistic BS...
I love your stuff, Chris. Your comments section is kinda a dumpster fire of people attacking each other with completely vacuous arguments. Almost feels like a bot infestation to stop us from improving.
I gotta agree with you . What’s the point of following a channel about human interactions and assessments if one gonna disregard everything shared in the videos and post internet charged nonsense.
6:49 yeah all these single TH-camrs think they got life figured out. The script COMPLETELY changes once you got kids. It's like Part 2 of your life. So hurry up and have some kids and get to the REAL life.
My god the comments on this video. We’ve obviously got a long way to go to cure toxic masculinity. What Chris and Scott are talking about here are just pure facts. I grew up around an older brother and his then low-life toxic friends, and was heavily shunned for expressing my emotions, so I shut them down. Fast forward 10 years and I suffered crippling periodic depression. Not until learning to express my emotions by my girlfriend (Yes real women do apprecciate vulnerability and emotional men), i was able to cure my worst depression. Crying literally excreets cortisol and triggers combating hormones to regulate you. It’s the healthiest response we have to emotional pain and stress. It’s a natural evolutionary response for a reason. Your emotions are your intuitive intelligence, much more powerful than your thoughts. They literally are a guiding hand through your life. And people talking about stoicism; The stoics didn’t shun emotions. They valued them, but advised on reflecting on them, to avoid reactive potentially damaging reactions to you and those around you. Owning your emotions, actually facing them and expressing them is absolutely a sign of confidence, because feeling and expressing them is the scarier option, thus much braver. I’m so happy people like Chris Williamson and Chris Bumstead advocate for this, because I’ve firsthand experienced the damage not embracing emotions can do, and the strength embracing them can give you.
The advice of "show your emotions" to a whole generation of men raised without fathers is hands down the worse advice I've EVER heard. Fathers train how to handle that emotion, channel it and control it. Raised by single mothers, expressing your emotions means EXPLOSIONS of emotion out of men, not all good. We've been living through that, has it been good? lol. Mass pew-pew events are USUALLY raised by single mothers, hey, those boys were just "expressing their emotions" correct?
I was married to a logical engineer. I'm an abstract Pisces artist. He had been a Big Jock in a small pond and that was his way of dealing. EVERYTHING was a competition. I can remember writing a letter to ME as if HE had written it. His reaction was hilarious. He felt so vindicated. He reacted AS IF he had written it and not ME. I remember him screaming "SEE, you have no idea how I feel. THIS is how I feel"...a year later he beat the sh*t out of me and I booked. Sadly, his 50 year old son reacts the same way. I won't deal with his BS either.
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The advice of "show your emotions" to a whole generation of men raised without fathers is hands down the worse advice I've EVER heard. Fathers train how to handle that emotion, channel it and control it. Raised by single mothers, expressing your emotions means EXPLOSIONS of emotion out of men, not all good. We've been living through that, has it been good? lol. Mass pew-pew events are USUALLY raised by single mothers, hey, those boys were just "expressing their emotions" correct?
Whenever someone talks about "men don't know how to express their emotions," without talking about male disposability, I know they are clueless. They say men are taught to hide their emotions, as if a misinformed parent tells them this. The thing that teaches men this is the fact that society punishes us when we show emotion.
We are only one generation removed from those who fought in the last great war and the way things are going I think we'll see another before the boomers fade away entirely. Makes you wonder if we'll have the societal cohesion to survive it since what built that cohesion last time is utterly gone now in some places or heavily on the decline in others.
How can you guys generalize so much? How can you present anecdotal statements/events as fact... I really don't get it.
Yeah and the sport guy example is also pure ignorance. These highly successful guys can do this because the men can respect the feeling of dreams breaking down in real time. The women always respect status and ambition, and it's not like he is a bum because he didn't get drafted first or lost a game.
Unsuccessful guys showing emotion just shows powerlessness. That's it. And you are not allowed to feel powerless or unfairly treated. Those guys don't even get to reproduce, that's how much that is hated.
@@IM_MOUNTAIN When studied it was shown that MOTHERS react negatively to boys expressing emotions. Not the fathers. Its women who push men into the toxic traditional role they complain about. Men look out for other men by telling them to be in that role because its what works and what women respond to. If men listened to what women say they wanted, men would be weak and single. Women tell men to be weak because those women want power over those men.
If a woman wants a man, she wants him strong and rich. If a woman doesnt want that man she tells him to be weak and vulnerable so she had power over him. An Unattractive man having confidence and ego is a "red flag". A strong attractive man is not.
In the past "weak men" were able to use the power of being a man to overcome most women. But in modern society men cant. So now we have a hierarchy where women are now above all men but for the few alphas on top. Women dont want bottom men to get above them.
@@jonnnybravo4092 "Women tell men to be weak because those women want power over those men"
I think it's more that they want to ensure it is real. They tell men showing emotions is good, just so they can filter out the "bums" easier.
He’s saying to be in touch with your emotions, not be emotional; there is a big difference between the two. You can express how you feel in a calm and stoic manner without flying off the handle. That is what he is alluding to.
Seems like not many could understand this simple thought, but you get it
Please start a youtube channel. We need to hear more of this truth
The 2 best pieces of advice here: Start a fitness routine early, and be forthright with how others make you feel with the people who make you feel that way.
Not sure if a man of his age and/or status is in the place in life to be giving such advice to young men. Of course, he can show more emotion now because he's older, out of the competitive dating pool of younger men, and has nothing to prove anymore.
Young men can't show how they "truly" feel, lest they lose the respect of their peers. Instead, they have to express it in way that is warped/molded in way that is acceptable in their particular social sphere.
A 20 year old Navy SeAL is probably going to have to keep a lid on it more than a 50 year old Navy SeAL because young guys need to prove themselves whilst older men have typically ready proven themselves and/or are out of the dating pool. The same is likely even for less masculine occupations.
Signalling strength and toughness is how men have proven themselves going all the way back into prehistory. Observe nature - many most male mammals do this to some degree.
Mammals express emotions. Elephants cry when their child dies. Monkeys can be sad, angry, happy etc My Dog will be upset with me when I clean him under the shower and show me appreciation when I pet him. Being told and "cultured" into a state of not being aware of and hiding how you feel does not mean its natural*
@@moritji6090 I wasn't saying we ought not express emotion and I'm not making the "naturalistic fallacy" by claiming because X is natural we should do Y.
I'm simply making a point about how male humans (depending on their particular social situation and age) must typically express their emotions differently than females (historically in a manner that ranges from a more stoic behavior all the way to outright murderous aggression) and that similar differences in expression can be seen in the animal kingdom, particularly among mammals and even more particularly among primates.
Males and females of any species are expected to behave in certain preordained ways when interacting with members of their own kind if they are to be successful. My point still stands.
@@antirealist Ok I misunderstood your point. My question would be, is there only one right way for men to behave or is it contextual?
Being Stoic is very Masculine. I don't know how this gentleman has come to the conclusion that being emotional is proper masculinity. Being aware of your emotions is entirely different than giving into them.
I doubt the teammates watching their captain literally run to his mother saw his actions as inspirational leadership
And giving into them is entirely different than being able to express them*
If the guy was a stoic he probably wouldn't have felt so bad in the first place
@@MetalCrull In stoic philosophy its ok to feel bad. They only view the behaviour of observing your emotions without rash reactions to them as a more optimal way to engage with them.
Weak men create hard times he is a example nof that just a leftist BS
I agree with the fitness thing. That's it.
Hell NO . Show your emotions in public sets you up to be seen as unreliable for the future . No one will give you tasks or goals to achieve or responsible positions if you don't have your feelings in check , an emotional stability. You can cry with your mother , with your therapist or with a good old friend that knows what your struggling with , all of that privately .
Do it publicly and you are screwed .
She blocked the view with a notebook because she knows intuitively that women will punish men massively for breaking down. The punishment can be a permanent change in the way she sees you forever. That's the reality of the situation. Best not to take this advice.
Absolutely, couldn't agree more.
Until you’ve given everything you have, was the best at your position of 1,000’s of players and it still wasn’t enough you’ll never know the feeling.
That guy is a champion who actually cares
@@tyler0506 lolz. You can continue to BS yourself. He’s an extremely lucky person. There are many people who have worked harder than him that couldn’t make it but he was lucky with his genetics. There are many athletes that don’t break down crying after losing. He likely has millions of dollars ahead of him and women most men can only dream of so no need to show this weakness.
@@renjit9044 you say that playing in front of millions of people in your last college game ever
@@tyler0506 yes every year there are sports stars that lose in front of millions of people
Scott the dude in the Gillette ad stoping my guy from approaching the girl on the street type energy 😂😂
Clueless Boomer talk. He probably hasn't dated in 40-50 years. Nothing will dry up a woman faster than taking Scott Galloway's advice.
His constant mansplaining would scare a few away too
This guy was raised by a single mommy who was a side-chick of a chad. Defeatism is in his voice. He has done good for himself financially but I wouldn't take his advice on anything else let alone life in general.
Being "In touch with one's emotion" doesn't mean to express them right away or "act emotional". It means to reflect on them and ask yourself questions about where they are coming from. That might reveal your insecurities and you need to work on them. What he tells you to do will make you come across as validation seeking. You can't just ask people to like you. If someone is being rude to you, you need to put your foot down and let them know that it won't be tolerated (verbally or non-verbally), if the other party don't want or respect you it can't work, human collaborate is a two-way street.
Please start a youtube channel. We need to hear more of this truth
Scott Galloway clearly thinks of himself as an exemplar of "positive" masculinity. Instead, he reminds me of a friend's stepdad who wouldn't let us play like normal, rowdy boys. He's the kind of guy I promised myself I'd never become.
Preach, the professor would wear a dress in the right circumstances. Dude out here telling youths to tell the girl “I’m bummed out you don’t like me as much sad I like you”. Broke my ribs laughing 😂😂😂
Giving in to your emotions and crying in public when losing a game is the new masculinity now. Ridiculous.
Exactly WTF is this? We are a couple generations from people who fought in WWII and now this guy thinks we should cry to our mums when things are not going well?
If tough men start expressing emotions. Women will get scared and run away because if a tough man appears ruled by emotion. All the muscle and capacity to get shit done too unpredictable and risky to be around for the physically smaller woman. Even women don't have to express emotions (they are just smaller and allowed to). Really tall women tend express emotion less. I think talking about problems so you can think them through or standing up for one self is being confused with feelings. Telling someone that ya care about them, that they are important or giving genuine complements is just telling the truth. That sensitive new age guy crap has been tried and it was a joke.
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My son is 15 now but when he was little I focused on getting him to learn his emotions. I purchased a deck of emotion cards for children (they are about B5 size, made of thich cardboard and have a colourful picture drawn on both sides with an emotion and a word). Anytime he was experiencing any type of emotion I would bring out the cards and have him choose any card or cards from the deck that best described what he was feeling. The pictures were enough to help him before he had learned to read. Sometimes he would choose one card, other times a few. Then, once I one how he was feeling, I would sit with him, explain what he was feeling and teach him to learn to recognise the signs in the future and how to manage that particular emotion. I taught him emotional intelligence, basically. Today, he has a girlfriend (They've been together two years). He works hard to understand her emotions and to help HER manage her own emotions. She comes from a dysfunctional, fatherless home and my husband and I have allowed her to move in with us so she can get some respite and also save some money (she gets government benefits). If you start young enough, you can certainly teach boys emotional intelligence.
Tall women express emotion less, LOOOOL, the bro science engine is working overtime
@@Islas_CanariasLove your comment and great job parenting your child. As a 22yr old its hard to learn this now (although its still early), not having learned it as a child.
@@annab3184 In general the smaller the woman the more emotional volatility she gets away with for her age.
The men I look up to are the likes of Neil Armstrong - he didn’t burst into tears when the 1202 abort alarm blared whilst piloting the lunar module to the surface of the moon.
He's admitted they didn't go...lol..wake up...admire his honesty if nothing else😊
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Chris, I have watched many of your videos and I must say you are very well spoken and knowledgeable about the subjects that are interviewing guess about. I so wish I would have had just a small portion of the snap that have at your age. Good job! And keep up the good work, I am learning more ever day from you and your guests at 59.
If you think people who don't show any concern about your emotions are going to care if you say anything to them you are delusional. Saying "I don't think you care about me as much as I care about you." is going to be taken out of context. The best step is to move forward without that person. If they say something, then state why you don't reach out to them. Then continue moving forward. If they start to change then maybe you can devote some time to them.
To other guys.... DON'T show emotions. Show emotions and you get mocked and manipulated. People play emotional people ie push your buttons, stroke your ego, play on your fears and doubts.
Setting boundaries calmly yet firmly is better than yelling or weeping for being slighted. If you are feeling overwhelmed or depressed, recognise it...Take action. Do things that make you energised and make you laugh or just breath and calm your mind (research Mushin). Emotions are for bringing your attention to something or someone but don't let them cloud the reality and your perspective.
Well said
Why not both? Show your emotions but also use them. Being able to let yourself be vulnerable sometimes is important too and you will find that more often than not people won't judge or bully you for it and if they do you don't want them in your life.
No one is saying showing emotion = yell or weep.
Part of setting boundaries in a healthy way IS telling someone “I didn’t like that” so they don’t do it again. If they repeatedly disrespect your boundaries, CONGRATULATIONS, now you know they’re not a supportive friend or good faith person to have in your life, MOVE ON.
I'm a follower of Scott for a few years now and I've been regularly more "in contact" (multiple times per week via text at a minimum) with my closest friends for about 6 months now, and I don't hold back, because what Scott says is true. It's a good reminder.
And think about it - the chances are not that long ago our closest friends were probably physically beside us more. So, we'd be talking more "real" [as men] to our friends.
Nowadays, we seems spread out more and social media or text messaging is the main communication, which is NOT real communication.
Very early timing! I love when you upload Chris and your podcast has helped me a lot. Thank you!
Scott Galloway:“ when a woman upsets you or a friend, you know, say it bummed me out that you didn’t call me back.” This will literally get you less action with the ladies. What you do is, you ignore them - want to know when it really works? Woman: “I think we should break up”. You: “yeah sure, all good”. 90% of the time they talk themselves back into the relationship 😂😂😂. Scott will be voting blue this year. 👋
@spidermanfan321 eh, that’s the point Spider-Man. You do care - when they think you don’t, they stay. Every time. But yeah, try Scott’s technique for a while 😂
@spidermanfan321 eh, that’s the point Spider-Man. You do care - when they think you don’t, they stay. Every time. But yeah, try Scott’s technique for a while 😂
@@alandbs329you are exactly right
You tell no lies. This will get you much more sex from emotionally immature women. When you are ready for deep authentic connection with someone who has her shit sorted out, Scott’s advice is what you need.
@spidermanfan321 try again “Spider-Man”, it’s actually reason (d)
Yeah. Deeez nutzzzz. 🙋♂️🔥🔥🔥🔥
Something is wrong with this message, but I can't listen to the entire interview as it's essence is unbalanced.. Conclusion: wrong narrow approach for men today
Weak men create hard times.
Scott Galloway looks like he has seen a lot of hard times 🤣
Bro Caleb Williams gave his blood sweat and tears, was the best player in the nation and it still wasn’t good enough to win. Dedicating your whole life to something and coming up short. I’m a Pats fan and would draft that guy in a heartbeat
Such a disappointment to see Scott on this awesome channel.
Have backup or have backup. Side box neutralizes the power of main box. The "boys" want what they want. They need an alternative source of pleasure or they will conspire against a man.
0:53 I agree with that statement it's essential to stay in touch with your emotions and express them while also beeing careful to who you open up to.
Many people take advantage of this, especially if their personal needs don't get met.
So it's even more important to *_understand your emotions before you express them_*
I think the majority of Men are guarding their emotions and supress them instead of trying to controll them as if they are a monster.
It is not a shame to have compassion and empathy and beeing in touch with your emotions feels better than this ''dead inside'' feeling
but getting controlled by them, is like sailing through a storm with a small sailing ship until we get lost in a sea of emotions.
*_Not a good spot to be in_*
Its kinda funny that Scott Galloway gives off such a low energy vibe for a guy who is so woke.
Seriously though he should be checked out by a doctor for depression
Ah yes next time I’m upset about something in public I’ll just run crying to my mum and dad. Like a real fuckin man.
I literally just woke up, checked my feed and clicked on this video. I'm about to go for a walk then do strength training. Good timing!
Oh gawd, men be the best you can within current norms. Scott is always great at shilling the status quo. So banal.
The Professor needs to stop the advice about being able to beat up anyone in the room as a goal. I understand his point, but he needs to find a better way to say it.
You need to learn to listen. Since if that's all you heard. You came in listening for what you want to hear.
Nah
The point went clear over your head while you are focusing on semantics
Strength 💪 is confidence!
Only strong people are useful.
Amazing
Good stuff!!!
I strongly disagree with Scott. The notion that not embracing our emotions as men is the primary cause of various external conditions and outcomes is unfounded, if not fanciful. Moreover, I would argue that the opposite is likely true. When reflecting on the worst mistakes I've made, a common factor was being under the influence of my emotions. Emotions themselves are often prone to lead us astray and make situations worse. Ultimately, I believe the stoics were right; our emotions are something to be managed and approached with caution, rather than something to be driven by or something we should lean into. However, none of that implies that you can't tell your mother you love her, or even worse, that you should never ask for help when you truly need it. I find it odd to relate those two things to a lack of commitment to experiencing our emotions.
I think psychology today completely misses the mark with depression and suicide, especially with men.
I'm not gonna get into this all here but I have to say that not "expressing" their emotions, in my opinion, is not a reason for male depression and suicide; the lack of expression is a product of the underlying psychological issues that ALREADY exist in the background, which are not talked about by psychologists.
Modern Psychology is never going to solve the problem of depression until it starts reading between the lines and looking beyond superficial behavior and patterns.
Male role models used to be like Hercules (an awesome story of tragedy, challenge and redemption), now they're crying because they lost a game? LMFAO!
More soft emotion talk 😶🔫
That's kinda necessary where society is headed.
2024 - 22 year old males cry to their mom for losing a football game
1944 - 22 years old MEN defeated evil and saved the world
Gents….if you want to be successful, Learn nothing from this guy, other than how not to behave. Objective reality is not on his side
Yes you could say objective reality punishes men. If you went on the news and started crying and sharing all the stuff you are going through, there would be a lot of hurt men and boys making fun of you.
But that does not mean men should not share their feelings with people who are close to them on a general basis.
Sharing experience as fact is a dangerous game.
Read my larger comment if you are interested in more info on this.
I agree with Scott. The expression of and keeping in touch with such emotion is important for a man . The pressure has always been on us to be big, strong, adaptable, provide, protect….. how could we deal with such a weight and not have an outlet to vent it ? Or only have very specific opportunities to do so? But In any case the push back I’ve seen in the comments have all been followed up by what a woman would think and my response to that would be:
“as a man who the fuck cares” we seen women not even understand their own emotion and they’re always expressive, they’ve put their emotions before anything and anyone’s else to include their own children . They’ve sent entire institutions and concepts to the grave because of how they felt . It’s not to bash women but it’s to express that they haven’t in the history of ever earned the right to govern or judge how a man should express himself, I’d go as far as to say we’re still having this debate because most men know what I’ve expressed here to some
Degree and would prefer to distinguish themselves from
How women act because it’s not respected.
This has impacted men I believe because we have allowed them to govern how men feel despite lacking the qualifications, because we desire sex and approval from them to get it . But If a man is operating at their higher self day after day …who cares ? Express your emotions …don’t hurt anyone in the process. Don’t speak to those not willing to listen or have a propensity to put your feelings under theirs ever chance they get . Yea that may mean being single . But what’s more important your mental health as a man or sex from a woman who rather not listen to you in between sessions.
This whole video misses the point!
5:40 The Caleb Willam video is a premier display of narcissism and grandiosity. Scott is encouraging and grandstanding unhealthy, grandiose expression of emotion, and calling it evolutionary...Waat! Looks genuine, probably is real crying : "mom we lost- I didn't get what I wanted, waaah- poor me the victim of not getting what I always deserve- winning." mom: "Oh son you are still sooo special- poor baby- you really did win- you're my special man, I'll shield your wounded child, shame from the world!" Oh look- everyone is watching- let's make it good!
Yup, nothing like good flagrant grandiosity to get the camera and the crowd!!
Left subscription and notifications on- thanks for the reminder to unsubscribe and ignore from your immature content! Bunch of grandiose, social media, narcissistic BS...
I love your stuff, Chris. Your comments section is kinda a dumpster fire of people attacking each other with completely vacuous arguments. Almost feels like a bot infestation to stop us from improving.
"I believe in the right things, so anyone who disagrees must be a bot."
I gotta agree with you . What’s the point of following a channel about human interactions and assessments if one gonna disregard everything shared in the videos and post internet charged nonsense.
6:49 yeah all these single TH-camrs think they got life figured out. The script COMPLETELY changes once you got kids. It's like Part 2 of your life. So hurry up and have some kids and get to the REAL life.
محتوى جميل ❤
My god the comments on this video. We’ve obviously got a long way to go to cure toxic masculinity. What Chris and Scott are talking about here are just pure facts. I grew up around an older brother and his then low-life toxic friends, and was heavily shunned for expressing my emotions, so I shut them down. Fast forward 10 years and I suffered crippling periodic depression. Not until learning to express my emotions by my girlfriend (Yes real women do apprecciate vulnerability and emotional men), i was able to cure my worst depression. Crying literally excreets cortisol and triggers combating hormones to regulate you. It’s the healthiest response we have to emotional pain and stress. It’s a natural evolutionary response for a reason. Your emotions are your intuitive intelligence, much more powerful than your thoughts. They literally are a guiding hand through your life. And people talking about stoicism; The stoics didn’t shun emotions. They valued them, but advised on reflecting on them, to avoid reactive potentially damaging reactions to you and those around you. Owning your emotions, actually facing them and expressing them is absolutely a sign of confidence, because feeling and expressing them is the scarier option, thus much braver. I’m so happy people like Chris Williamson and Chris Bumstead advocate for this, because I’ve firsthand experienced the damage not embracing emotions can do, and the strength embracing them can give you.
Absolutely agree, some of these comments here are fucking horrendous.
You two should each get your testosterone levels checked
@@G5Ckxew Proving my point lol
The advice of "show your emotions" to a whole generation of men raised without fathers is hands down the worse advice I've EVER heard. Fathers train how to handle that emotion, channel it and control it. Raised by single mothers, expressing your emotions means EXPLOSIONS of emotion out of men, not all good. We've been living through that, has it been good? lol. Mass pew-pew events are USUALLY raised by single mothers, hey, those boys were just "expressing their emotions" correct?
I roll with Michael Penix over Williams, Penix is a dude
Terrible bump on his head.
Wonder if he hit the debt ceiling?
My dad would beat me just for watching this video, forget about following advice . Sorry we had e ough of emasculated. En. Come.on......
I was married to a logical engineer. I'm an abstract Pisces artist. He had been a Big Jock in a small pond and that was his way of dealing. EVERYTHING was a competition. I can remember writing a letter to ME as if HE had written it. His reaction was hilarious. He felt so vindicated. He reacted AS IF he had written it and not ME. I remember him screaming "SEE, you have no idea how I feel. THIS is how I feel"...a year later he beat the sh*t out of me and I booked. Sadly, his 50 year old son reacts the same way. I won't deal with his BS either.
"Pisces"
😂
@@derpyeh9107 And YOUR point Mr Suspiciously a Troll Depye?