For the closeted mom: I was in your shoes, I’m a 40 yr old mom and married for 20 years. I came out to my husband, kids, my family and friends. Everyone has been supportive, including my husband. Figuring out your sexuality is liberating no matter your age and you can come out on any timeline. I know not everyone has that support when coming out. Just know you’re not alone. 🤗 ❤
Know a similar situation and it's anxiety inducing but liberating while also very complicated. Figuring out the closet exit is a lot to go through alone especially with children but worth figuring out... @Lolo_Schmidt, If you would be up for a personal chat and sharing of stories that would be amazing... Let me know. 🙂
Echoing this for the closeted mom. I came out as trans in my forties. My life is so much better than before. Every situation is unique, and you need to stay safe, but I encourage you to do what you can to be who you are. Beyond your attraction; in everything you do. It’s not just ok to be yourself, it’s required if you want to experience the fullness of life. You owe it to your kids, to everyone in your life, to be your best self everyday. PS for Shannon: You’re one of my role models, too.
This is my favorite episode so far. Thanks for your vulnerability in answering the questions, even when some of them might still be a little uncomfortable for you. I hope you recognize how much you are helping those who may still be struggling with any of these issues. I identified as "gay" for the first few years of my coming out process, but once I got over the shame attached to internalized homophobia and misogyny, I proudly embraced the word "lesbian" and so did all of my friends/family. It really is so important that those of us who are comfortable identifying as lesbians continue to normalize using the word in a shame-free manner.
thank u so much for talking abt feeling too feminine, especially when ur like tomboy so not totally masculine or feminine. thought it was just me and it’s such an awk convo
You mentioned before hating the harness for straps. I highly recommend using the boxers that hold straps. Definitely helps with the dysphoria . I too hated the idea of all the leather and dog harness looking stuff
As a fellow NYC queer , just hearing you talk about the NYC Lesbian/Queer spaces just makes me so happy! Would love to see you at Cubby or Henrietta's or Gingers one day!
The short hair is growing on me. I feel like it suits shannon's personality so well and now the long hair seems off. Anyways, glad she's comfortable and brave enough to look and dress the way that she wants :)
6.5 weeks sober from alcohol and marijuana. This is the first time in my life where I’m not feeling bored and being sober is helping me feel grateful for practicing this kind of self-care. Thank you for sharing about your journey. 🤙 🌈
Really enjoyed this episode. Would love more like it whether here or on Patreon. I know it’s not helpful, but for me it doesn’t matter the subject of the content. It’s just comforting and validating to hear other LGBTQIA+ stories and experiences. These feel like chats with a friend and I don’t have a lot of queer friends yet.
Ditto to this: "for me it doesn’t matter the subject of the content. It’s just comforting and validating to hear other LGBTQIA+ stories and experiences."
I'm almost 6 months sober and it's wonderful! The excitement will return. I'm able feel excited about the smallest things again. Life isn't boring at all. If you're struggling with your health, mentally and/or physically, give it a try. So worth it!
Shannon posting regularly and starting this podcast has made me feel connected to my queerness again. There aren’t that many masc lesbians that I can relate to on the internet and my heart is just so full to see Shannon start this new era
Been following you since 2015-ish and it's awesome to sort of grow up with your content and see your content grow into something more mature as well! This was my favorite episode so far, love the vulnerability and openness. Keep up the great work!
Re: the web (or chart 😏) of lesbians at about 28:00… a very dear friend of mine once said “treat your girlfriends friends well, because when she’s not your girlfriend, they will be.” Meaning, more or less: the community is small and how you behave will get around. But also, the community is small and if you treat your girlfriend well you might get another girlfriend out of it. Shared for both humour and advice 😂
Hey Shannon, I might be the only one who feels this, but I felt protective of your boundaries when you shared about your fave sex positions. I wanted to support you NOT sharing that very intimate info-specifically because of how uncomfortable you were. Your discomfort seemed to be your body’s way of telling you-that’s a “nope..” I think it’s totally appropriate to draw some lines around what you share. Fans are amazing, but they aren’t entitled to those pieces of you that you may want to reserve for your future partner. Love ya xo
Hi Shannon, watching your podcast has helped me to move on from shame about some things and see I was a lil bit silly. Not having a reference and being naturally a private person I struggled with not knowing that alot of things are actually really damn normal and human. I know I don't need permission to be myself but your podcast is very encouraging. Thank you
First and foremost...I am so glad you are doing better! Second, yes yes be nicer to yourself. You deserve it! "C" joining you in Dry February. I'm glad you are chatting to us on your own. Guests are fun and have been entertaining, but I absolutely come here to hear you! Okay...you are so honest and up front about such private subjects as positions, its totally refreshing. I applaud your ability to make everyone who called feel listened to, understood and helped.
I really enjoyed this episode and it really shows your passion for the LGBTQ + community. I especially liked you sending that message to the 45 year old mother. I left you a message detailing my own coming out after 40 and being married etc. I can tell her first hand that living your truth is so worth it. Also, sex as a woman, and with women, gets better with age !!!!!
heyo! I love your authenticity and vulnerability. I discovered you years ago & you’ve been a huge inspiration in my life. I’ve recently started creating more of a social presence for myself & Ive gotten comfortable with sharing my social anxiety publicly, talking about emotions and posting on instagram the raw/unedited videos of me talking. Just like you, I also struggle with being kind to myself. Self compassion is something Ive started to practice a couple years ago and will be something I’ll forever prioritize for the rest of my life. It’s not always perfect but i’ve learned there’s a lot to love within ourselves. especially the things that no one else sees. no matter how different or weird. anyways, i appreciate you for who you are. - just another stranger
It has been soo much fun getting to know you again as an adult! When I was questioning my sexuality and telling myself to "pick a side" in my teens I watched your videos (probably not an uncommon thing). Being a Brit, i think i found you through rose and rosie... Who i found through daily grace + Ally Hills. I was telling myself to "pick a side" (I'm bi/pan/queer now) and the queer rep i had (yourself included) helped me just be like "oh wait maybe i can just be attracted to humans!" I've just got out of a relationship with a straight man and feel like I'm going through another queer awakening. This time you're helping me work out who I'm attracted to (your pod and guests) but thankkk youuu is what I'm trying to say.
I agree with reclaiming the word lesbian - our girl Sappho is worth embracing! We need to take it a step further and reclaim the island of Lesbos, too.
Shannon, I feel like we’re friends and like I know you well enough to say, I really chuckled a lot with how you answered that last sex position question. It was perfect. It’s probably similar to how I’d answer it. And you’re a 💎 we love you.
I know it’s a podcast and it’s about speaking but It just occurred to me how confident you come off compared to older you’ve videos. Idk if this is a matter of editing one vs the other but you’re very well spoken and I love it ❤️🥰
Happy to have you on your own, we all love any Shan content we can get! But for myself, this one felt a bit like a baby gay Q&A for the less experienced crowd. Which is totally cool for them, im sure they appreciate it! But less interesting for others. Maybe a bit more mix of other things would be cool! I also have no idea what "other things" could be, so this is probably not helpful LOL. You are doing great keep it up!!
noted!! I could see that since there's a lot of coming out advice!! I tried to do a mix.. but next solo episode I'll try to have more of a range of questions!
Proud of you for stepping out of your comfort zone and being vulnerable ! Get it girl don’t stop ! That’s what we’re all here for anyway the rated R sex talk 😂 you’re doing great keep it up. You’ve come a long way. (Been here / tumblr since the beginning) let it all out ! We’re all grown now 😂 Love the answering questions and by yourself. But also like guests. Either way you’re doing awesome. I could watch for hours
Ahhhhhh, Shannon. Dude, I was thinking about texting the number, but eh, all I really wanted to say was you're a beast and thank you for all that you do and continue to do for our community. 🤘
I just finished watching, and I really enjoyed it. I'd love more episodes like this because it's much more inclusive to involve listeners needing advice every once in a while. And honestly I feel like this episode just flew by! I was legit like, "wow it's been 40min already?" More episodes like this please🙌🏽 thank you, Shannon!❤
When I lived in Chicago I frequented a lesbian bar in Boystown (the gayborhood). I never ever ever felt unsafe there because it was 80% lesbians and 20% gay men. I simply would not feel comfy with straight men there 🤷🏻♀️
Another really good tip for femmes passing as straight is, if you have an apple watch ⌚️ you can get a rainbow band for the watch or set your watches wallpaper to a rainbow of some sort 🩷💛 rainbow phone cases are also a dead giveaway 😍
I'm way too self-absorbed and unbothered to remember to block most people unless I'm genuinely afraid of them. However, i am petty and will block back if i notice someone else blocked me first. But, it's always met with surprise first, like why did they do that? I didn't even know you could block someone on spotify AND VENMO?? i just dont care enough to be checking for my exes like that.
Hi shan! I’ve been following your content since about 2014, i was full of questions and fears trying to understand my feelings, and afraid of the reactions of friends and family about coming out. Your videos got me through that period. Thank you! Because that girl that was in her 20s did not feel alone. Now I’m in my 30s, completely out and happy, engaged too!! It’s crazy that a person living in the other partnof the world (im from argentina) feels like an old friend, i watch your videos with a smile and it always gives me joy to hear you. Thank uou for sharing your life with us, thank you for growing up and holding our hands when we feel alone. I hope you know how important you are and have been to us. Love you! Be kind to yourself!❤
I wake up every morning look in the mirror and say I love you.... Your name.. I say this as many times as I need to... Also I'm really proud of you... It works for me.. But did take practice.. You will get there.. You've got this
Per the story about reaching to past flings 28:51 I reconnected with someone I dated casually. We broke it off 3 months into it (wrong time, ended so amicably). We reconnected after 7 years and we are now coming up on a year of being official and she’s my person through and through. So. Literally just reach out. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain
Good job on your own. I know it’s probably super uncomfortable, but really enjoy the spiciness of it. It’s always so cool to know that there are more people out there who think, feel, do wonder things like we do. Xo 😘
I am very excited to see Vanessa on the podcast; I took refuge in you two when I still couldn't come out of the closet to my family; Although my coming out went wrong, I continued to find a home in you even though I was miles away; I am from Argentina. There are no words to thank you for the way in which you both were part of my soul for years; I love them so much
Oh Shannon, I understand you so well about the complications of a positive self-talk. Also 31, also queer, also having a freaking mean critical voice inside me . Not easy to soften that voice. Good luck with it!
Love the solo episode. You have great energy and such a great personality. Been watching you since your early TH-cam days. ….. and yes, can relate to your answer to the last question 😅😂🤭
Hey Shannon, love the solo episodes! It's always great to hear you. I just wanted to answer too about the first message of a fem asking how to be gayer. From my personal experience, it´s super funny because the more I started to accept myself and just do whatever I want, the more this gay energy got out of me weirdly? when I asked my older friends they sensed that I was queer but didn't know exactly, wasn't sure at all or even had no idea. When I started to realize it and have queer experience, now when I asked people who met me recently they directly know I'm a lesbian. And I asked how did you know and they always say the same thing: "I'm not sure it's your energy, you give gay energy." I'm speechless haha. So I'm not sure if it's a real thing but after some time when you accept it and say it to people casually, you start to have it in the way you are. And as Shannon said, sometimes it's better to just be direct and go for it. What's the worse thing that could happen honestly? Just follow your intuition with the person you want to talk to, You can test the way and then be direct. I would say, like anything else, it's a skill that comes when you put yourself in different situations. It's exactly like when you go to vacation somewhere and you recognize directly a person from your own country just with the way they are or their energy etc. I guess the same thing happen when people start recognizing you as gay of feel gay energy.
I am happy hearing you speak your truth and give advice and share more personal things about yourself! I love you Shan!!!! Been here for 6-7 or probably moooore yrs now. 😘😘😘😘
I hated using the word lesbian when i first came out because others’ only association with it was lesbian porn and it made me feel hyper sexualized in an unwanted way
I didn’t hear about the lesbian bar drama but I love the cubby hole, I pray to the gay gods that more lesbian bars start popping up. I’m lucky to live across the street from a lesbian dive bar but even so, it’s all dudes all the time. So disappointed the lesbians don’t come out more, if for nothing more than to keeping these bars alive 😢
Great podcast Shan!! A few days ago I went to a gay bar for the first time ever (I'm 25) and I can tell you that I wouldn't have any problem with straight people being there as long as they are respectful, that day a straight dude was flirting with my girl right in front of my face before she told him she was with me lol, he got offended, it was annoying
I’m not saying this to be mean in anyway, but as single Mum I so wish I could take a week to get myself together. I’m so glad you were able to have that time for yourself. Please cherish it for those of us who can’t take it. 😂☺️💛
Thanks for being so open and honest I got laided off my job and I'm been struggling and drinking a lot more alcohol than I usually do so I'm gonna try cut down and I'm having a lot of doubts trying to stay positive is just hard sometimes love u Shannon appreciate u and this podcast so much it helps me so much ❤ and we absolutely love just you episode was amazing 👏🤩🤩🤩
This one was my favorite, more spicyyyyy questions 👀
y'all should ask me more!! I didn't get that many sex related questions to my phone number but I'm open to answering!!
@@nowthisisliving how can someone who is not from us text you? maybe some whatsup number or sth?
@@angelaaaaa391omg real I want to participate tooo 😭
someone please count how many times i say the word “lesbian” in this episode
Can I just say...NOT ENOUGH! The word means power to me.
It was 70, you’re welcome 🫶🏼
70 or 72 I think? I kind of got a bit lost while listening to the podcast. Loved it!
@@hs76546hahaha thank you for your service legend! 😆🫡
Using this as a "take a shot every time Shannon says lesbian" game 🎉
I love that this one is just shannon talking
Me too
ngl same😂
Yes
For the closeted mom: I was in your shoes, I’m a 40 yr old mom and married for 20 years. I came out to my husband, kids, my family and friends. Everyone has been supportive, including my husband. Figuring out your sexuality is liberating no matter your age and you can come out on any timeline. I know not everyone has that support when coming out. Just know you’re not alone. 🤗 ❤
Know a similar situation and it's anxiety inducing but liberating while also very complicated. Figuring out the closet exit is a lot to go through alone especially with children but worth figuring out... @Lolo_Schmidt, If you would be up for a personal chat and sharing of stories that would be amazing... Let me know. 🙂
Echoing this for the closeted mom. I came out as trans in my forties. My life is so much better than before. Every situation is unique, and you need to stay safe, but I encourage you to do what you can to be who you are. Beyond your attraction; in everything you do. It’s not just ok to be yourself, it’s required if you want to experience the fullness of life. You owe it to your kids, to everyone in your life, to be your best self everyday.
PS for Shannon: You’re one of my role models, too.
lesbian is the perfect word
it's such an elegant word, it sounds like a language that mystical creatures would speak
This is my favorite episode so far. Thanks for your vulnerability in answering the questions, even when some of them might still be a little uncomfortable for you. I hope you recognize how much you are helping those who may still be struggling with any of these issues.
I identified as "gay" for the first few years of my coming out process, but once I got over the shame attached to internalized homophobia and misogyny, I proudly embraced the word "lesbian" and so did all of my friends/family. It really is so important that those of us who are comfortable identifying as lesbians continue to normalize using the word in a shame-free manner.
Another good episode. I think people will like this format as well as the ones with guests. It’s a nice way to interact with the community. Love you!😘
Agree! We need you on the podcast as a guest!
Agreed! Also, I'm hoping our community mom is going to make an appearance at some point! 🥰🫶
Good to see some mam support 😍
1883 ...ahh ...the year I was born!
Love this episode, for the 45 year mom, shannons is right, i was 32 and coming out was the best decision i ever made.
Loving this podcast!!! Hopefully one day you can get rose n rosie to the podcast :D
thank u so much for talking abt feeling too feminine, especially when ur like tomboy so not totally masculine or feminine. thought it was just me and it’s such an awk convo
You mentioned before hating the harness for straps. I highly recommend using the boxers that hold straps. Definitely helps with the dysphoria . I too hated the idea of all the leather and dog harness looking stuff
I'm glad you are doing better.The blushing part was soo cute 😊😊.
As a fellow NYC queer , just hearing you talk about the NYC Lesbian/Queer spaces just makes me so happy! Would love to see you at Cubby or Henrietta's or Gingers one day!
yes!!
I find it calming to listen to a video of someone just talking 😊
we love a solo shannon episode ❤
The short hair is growing on me. I feel like it suits shannon's personality so well and now the long hair seems off. Anyways, glad she's comfortable and brave enough to look and dress the way that she wants :)
Listening to you made me realize why I like certain positions and not others.. never knew that about myself but I absolutely agree
6.5 weeks sober from alcohol and marijuana. This is the first time in my life where I’m not feeling bored and being sober is helping me feel grateful for practicing this kind of self-care. Thank you for sharing about your journey. 🤙 🌈
Really enjoyed this episode. Would love more like it whether here or on Patreon. I know it’s not helpful, but for me it doesn’t matter the subject of the content. It’s just comforting and validating to hear other LGBTQIA+ stories and experiences. These feel like chats with a friend and I don’t have a lot of queer friends yet.
Ditto to this: "for me it doesn’t matter the subject of the content. It’s just comforting and validating to hear other LGBTQIA+ stories and experiences."
I'm almost 6 months sober and it's wonderful! The excitement will return. I'm able feel excited about the smallest things again. Life isn't boring at all.
If you're struggling with your health, mentally and/or physically, give it a try. So worth it!
🤝
Shannon posting regularly and starting this podcast has made me feel connected to my queerness again. There aren’t that many masc lesbians that I can relate to on the internet and my heart is just so full to see Shannon start this new era
Shannon you were great going solo! You seemed more confident in this episode! Your doing great 👍
Been following you since 2015-ish and it's awesome to sort of grow up with your content and see your content grow into something more mature as well! This was my favorite episode so far, love the vulnerability and openness.
Keep up the great work!
Re: the web (or chart 😏) of lesbians at about 28:00… a very dear friend of mine once said “treat your girlfriends friends well, because when she’s not your girlfriend, they will be.” Meaning, more or less: the community is small and how you behave will get around. But also, the community is small and if you treat your girlfriend well you might get another girlfriend out of it. Shared for both humour and advice 😂
Hey Shannon, I might be the only one who feels this, but I felt protective of your boundaries when you shared about your fave sex positions. I wanted to support you NOT sharing that very intimate info-specifically because of how uncomfortable you were. Your discomfort seemed to be your body’s way of telling you-that’s a “nope..” I think it’s totally appropriate to draw some lines around what you share. Fans are amazing, but they aren’t entitled to those pieces of you that you may want to reserve for your future partner. Love ya xo
I love listening to you talk. You have such a calming voice. I love how raw you are in these podcasts.
This has been my fave ep so far. We love a Shannon solo episode!
the "oh boy" and immediately trying to sit up got me
Shannon's responses are the best part. Its real and a tad reveling. Heart felt and I admire that honesty. It keeps me coming back to listen.
Hi Shannon, watching your podcast has helped me to move on from shame about some things and see I was a lil bit silly. Not having a reference and being naturally a private person I struggled with not knowing that alot of things are actually really damn normal and human. I know I don't need permission to be myself but your podcast is very encouraging. Thank you
I listened on apple podcasts and I came to comment and say I LOVED THIS EPISODE
First and foremost...I am so glad you are doing better! Second, yes yes be nicer to yourself. You deserve it! "C" joining you in Dry February. I'm glad you are chatting to us on your own. Guests are fun and have been entertaining, but I absolutely come here to hear you! Okay...you are so honest and up front about such private subjects as positions, its totally refreshing. I applaud your ability to make everyone who called feel listened to, understood and helped.
Dry February 👀
I really enjoyed this episode and it really shows your passion for the LGBTQ + community. I especially liked you sending that message to the 45 year old mother. I left you a message detailing my own coming out after 40 and being married etc. I can tell her first hand that living your truth is so worth it. Also, sex as a woman, and with women, gets better with age !!!!!
LOVE this king of videos because it gives a voice the "normal/ordinary" person like us. And you are a good listener and you give good advices.
WE LOVE THE SOLO EPISODES SOOOOO MUCH
heyo! I love your authenticity and vulnerability. I discovered you years ago & you’ve been a huge inspiration in my life.
I’ve recently started creating more of a social presence for myself & Ive gotten comfortable with sharing my social anxiety publicly, talking about emotions and posting on instagram the raw/unedited videos of me talking.
Just like you, I also struggle with being kind to myself. Self compassion is something Ive started to practice a couple years ago and will be something I’ll forever prioritize for the rest of my life. It’s not always perfect but i’ve learned there’s a lot to love within ourselves. especially the things that no one else sees. no matter how different or weird.
anyways, i appreciate you for who you are.
- just another stranger
It has been soo much fun getting to know you again as an adult! When I was questioning my sexuality and telling myself to "pick a side" in my teens I watched your videos (probably not an uncommon thing). Being a Brit, i think i found you through rose and rosie... Who i found through daily grace + Ally Hills. I was telling myself to "pick a side" (I'm bi/pan/queer now) and the queer rep i had (yourself included) helped me just be like "oh wait maybe i can just be attracted to humans!"
I've just got out of a relationship with a straight man and feel like I'm going through another queer awakening. This time you're helping me work out who I'm attracted to (your pod and guests) but thankkk youuu is what I'm trying to say.
I look forward to your podcast every week! I definitely say make the solo pod a regular thing!
Loving the solo episode and the phone line q&a type segment ❤ Would definitely like more of these type episodes.
We need more solo episodes. 🙌🏼🤗 Also, I’m loving the new podcast. You are crushing it Shannon!
I agree with reclaiming the word lesbian - our girl Sappho is worth embracing! We need to take it a step further and reclaim the island of Lesbos, too.
Shannon, I feel like we’re friends and like I know you well enough to say, I really chuckled a lot with how you answered that last sex position question. It was perfect. It’s probably similar to how I’d answer it. And you’re a 💎 we love you.
The best part was you squirming
Thank you for being vulnerable and truthful
Proves that REAL human quality.
Doggystyle so you can enjoy and not be embaressed to look at her.. Im the same really love that your more open! 🎉
I would love to see more episodes like this one, I loved it!!! Your voice is so good to listen to
More solo podcasts!! Guests are cool but this one was the best.
I know it’s a podcast and it’s about speaking but It just occurred to me how confident you come off compared to older you’ve videos. Idk if this is a matter of editing one vs the other but you’re very well spoken and I love it ❤️🥰
Solo eps are absolutely wanted!
Happy to have you on your own, we all love any Shan content we can get! But for myself, this one felt a bit like a baby gay Q&A for the less experienced crowd. Which is totally cool for them, im sure they appreciate it! But less interesting for others. Maybe a bit more mix of other things would be cool! I also have no idea what "other things" could be, so this is probably not helpful LOL. You are doing great keep it up!!
noted!! I could see that since there's a lot of coming out advice!! I tried to do a mix.. but next solo episode I'll try to have more of a range of questions!
this is so sweet and brave lmao, definitely so intellectually interesting too😭
Love the sprinkling of solo episodes.
You have such a warm and calming energy! I am so glad I found your podcast:)
Yep
Me too! As an older lesbian, I sure wish she had been around during my coming out "Daze".
Telling someone is a lesbian is so much about the energy haha trying to teach my newly out flatmate how to read the signs
I agree with the receiving part I know exactly what you’re talking about 🤣
Proud of you for stepping out of your comfort zone and being vulnerable ! Get it girl don’t stop ! That’s what we’re all here for anyway the rated R sex talk 😂 you’re doing great keep it up. You’ve come a long way. (Been here / tumblr since the beginning) let it all out ! We’re all grown now 😂
Love the answering questions and by yourself. But also like guests. Either way you’re doing awesome. I could watch for hours
Ahhhhhh, Shannon. Dude, I was thinking about texting the number, but eh, all I really wanted to say was you're a beast and thank you for all that you do and continue to do for our community. 🤘
THIS WAS CHEF’s KISS & thank you for being so honest & vulnerable! We adore it
I just finished watching, and I really enjoyed it. I'd love more episodes like this because it's much more inclusive to involve listeners needing advice every once in a while. And honestly I feel like this episode just flew by! I was legit like, "wow it's been 40min already?" More episodes like this please🙌🏽 thank you, Shannon!❤
Solo episodes are the best! Love your podcast so much 🫶
When I lived in Chicago I frequented a lesbian bar in Boystown (the gayborhood). I never ever ever felt unsafe there because it was 80% lesbians and 20% gay men. I simply would not feel comfy with straight men there 🤷🏻♀️
It's good to see you much happier than the last episode😊
i live outside the US and i don't want to miss out on any content plsss i hope you keep it as it is
Another really good tip for femmes passing as straight is, if you have an apple watch ⌚️ you can get a rainbow band for the watch or set your watches wallpaper to a rainbow of some sort 🩷💛 rainbow phone cases are also a dead giveaway 😍
I'm way too self-absorbed and unbothered to remember to block most people unless I'm genuinely afraid of them. However, i am petty and will block back if i notice someone else blocked me first. But, it's always met with surprise first, like why did they do that? I didn't even know you could block someone on spotify AND VENMO?? i just dont care enough to be checking for my exes like that.
Each episode only gets better ! My absolute favorite podcast. You’re the best youtuber with a podcast ! ALSO PLEASE MAKE MORE DOROTHY HATS ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Hi shan! I’ve been following your content since about 2014, i was full of questions and fears trying to understand my feelings, and afraid of the reactions of friends and family about coming out. Your videos got me through that period.
Thank you! Because that girl that was in her 20s did not feel alone. Now I’m in my 30s, completely out and happy, engaged too!!
It’s crazy that a person living in the other partnof the world (im from argentina) feels like an old friend, i watch your videos with a smile and it always gives me joy to hear you. Thank uou for sharing your life with us, thank you for growing up and holding our hands when we feel alone. I hope you know how important you are and have been to us. Love you! Be kind to yourself!❤
I wake up every morning look in the mirror and say I love you.... Your name.. I say this as many times as I need to... Also I'm really proud of you... It works for me.. But did take practice.. You will get there.. You've got this
Shannon, you create a beautiful space here, thank you for this podcast! 🥺 So greatful! 🙏 All the best, greetings from Poland ❤🤙
21:31 True and I block my ex's because I just don't wanna be jealous if they got hook up again. That sh*t hurt you know 😂
I like the new artwork on the shelf
I noticed that too. Funny what you see when someone is talking and blushing.
Let’s gooo I’m excited to see you and Vanessa again! Talk about your bromance
Omg I’m so excited! I didn’t know if you guys were still friends 😊
To whom are you referring when you say you didn't know if they are still friends? I'm really curious. Pls let me know.❤
@@MargaretAlbright-b7c I’m pretty sure it’s Vanessa (idk her last name)
Per the story about reaching to past flings 28:51 I reconnected with someone I dated casually. We broke it off 3 months into it (wrong time, ended so amicably). We reconnected after 7 years and we are now coming up on a year of being official and she’s my person through and through. So. Literally just reach out. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain
as an og fan I'm so excited to see Vanessa on the next episode!!
Good job on your own. I know it’s probably super uncomfortable, but really enjoy the spiciness of it. It’s always so cool to know that there are more people out there who think, feel, do wonder things like we do. Xo 😘
I am very excited to see Vanessa on the podcast; I took refuge in you two when I still couldn't come out of the closet to my family; Although my coming out went wrong, I continued to find a home in you even though I was miles away; I am from Argentina. There are no words to thank you for the way in which you both were part of my soul for years; I love them so much
Oh Shannon, I understand you so well about the complications of a positive self-talk. Also 31, also queer, also having a freaking mean critical voice inside me . Not easy to soften that voice. Good luck with it!
Love the solo episode. You have great energy and such a great personality. Been watching you since your early TH-cam days. ….. and yes, can relate to your answer to the last question 😅😂🤭
Enjoyed this kind of episode! Definitely would like to see this kind of episodes sprinkled in with the interview ones.
Shannon, I love you, Have a great week, listening to you calms me!!
I love it when it's just you talking! Great video ❤
Hey Shannon, love the solo episodes! It's always great to hear you.
I just wanted to answer too about the first message of a fem asking how to be gayer. From my personal experience, it´s super funny because the more I started to accept myself and just do whatever I want, the more this gay energy got out of me weirdly? when I asked my older friends they sensed that I was queer but didn't know exactly, wasn't sure at all or even had no idea. When I started to realize it and have queer experience, now when I asked people who met me recently they directly know I'm a lesbian. And I asked how did you know and they always say the same thing:
"I'm not sure it's your energy, you give gay energy."
I'm speechless haha. So I'm not sure if it's a real thing but after some time when you accept it and say it to people casually, you start to have it in the way you are. And as Shannon said, sometimes it's better to just be direct and go for it. What's the worse thing that could happen honestly? Just follow your intuition with the person you want to talk to, You can test the way and then be direct.
I would say, like anything else, it's a skill that comes when you put yourself in different situations. It's exactly like when you go to vacation somewhere and you recognize directly a person from your own country just with the way they are or their energy etc. I guess the same thing happen when people start recognizing you as gay of feel gay energy.
We love the solo episodes!
I 100% need one of your hats!! WHERE DO I BUY YOUR HAT!!!
Feeling low sometimes has to do with... The menstrual cycle. Its normal to feel like that pre-menstrual
Absolutely loved this solo episode!
I am happy hearing you speak your truth and give advice and share more personal things about yourself! I love you Shan!!!! Been here for 6-7 or probably moooore yrs now. 😘😘😘😘
sorry life is a bit shit.. it's nice to see you opening up.. be safe Shannon.. ✌💔
Love the solo episode! W & A’s always fun 😊
Loved your vulnerability on this ep. Feel like it helps us get to know you more too. Well done on your achievements too 🥳
OMG Venessa, can't wait to see her as a guest😍
I'm so happy she's coming!!!
@@nowthisisliving why me too😂 love her
I hated using the word lesbian when i first came out because others’ only association with it was lesbian porn and it made me feel hyper sexualized in an unwanted way
I didn’t hear about the lesbian bar drama but I love the cubby hole, I pray to the gay gods that more lesbian bars start popping up. I’m lucky to live across the street from a lesbian dive bar but even so, it’s all dudes all the time. So disappointed the lesbians don’t come out more, if for nothing more than to keeping these bars alive 😢
Love the show and love the episode!
You are doing a great job and I think all of us are loving it ❤
Omg your videos are so fun and comforting you are incredible
14:14 Uhhh, me listening to this as I'm wearing 6 silver rings... 😆
Great podcast Shan!!
A few days ago I went to a gay bar for the first time ever (I'm 25) and I can tell you that I wouldn't have any problem with straight people being there as long as they are respectful, that day a straight dude was flirting with my girl right in front of my face before she told him she was with me lol, he got offended, it was annoying
I love the dry in more ways than one joke.
I love solo talking episodes!
I’m not saying this to be mean in anyway, but as single Mum I so wish I could take a week to get myself together. I’m so glad you were able to have that time for yourself. Please cherish it for those of us who can’t take it. 😂☺️💛
Thanks for being so open and honest I got laided off my job and I'm been struggling and drinking a lot more alcohol than I usually do so I'm gonna try cut down and I'm having a lot of doubts trying to stay positive is just hard sometimes love u Shannon appreciate u and this podcast so much it helps me so much ❤ and we absolutely love just you episode was amazing 👏🤩🤩🤩