Am I Sinful If I Don't Forgive Them? - Nouman Ali Khan (Urdu Q&A 16 - Pakistan)
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- In seeking guidance on the matter of forgiveness, our dear Aunty and dedicated student inquired with Ustadh Noman Ali Khan during the Akhri Moujza (Divine Speech Urdu) program in Pakistan. Her questions revolved around the extent of forgiveness and whether it is warranted for an untrustworthy individual. Additionally, there was a concern about being sinful by not extending forgiveness in such cases.
Are we obligated to forgive someone even if they don't 'deserve' it? Will Allah SWT punish us if we don't do so? What does the Quran or examples from the Sunnah say about this?
Ustadh Nouman shares his insights and thoughts on this complex issue.
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Forgiveness, does not mean we go back to how we were. Most people want you to forget what they did.
But forgetting means we forget our experience of those people and become normal with them
Some people doesn't deserve forgiveness as they're not sincere enough to even say sorry with their whole heart. Their ego restricts them to even ask for proper forgiveness
This has given me so much peace….There are people who repeatedly hurt you & then try to act normal as if it’s their right to choose when they can hurt some one & then come back & start acting all normal.
Same goes wid me sister.even m inpeace after hearing this...love n respect from India
Ever heard of Narcissists? something called NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) please check its symptoms.
Ustadh's urdu is better than most urdu speakers living in Pakistan. He's actually making an effort while most don't even do that. ❤ And love his explanations whether they're in urdu or English
Taareef karne pe log itna aajate hain ki bas fazilat badhakar peer bana do, fir sabse bade aalim e deen isiko andhi taqleed kahte hain
Bhai saab Unse muhabbat karo achi baat hai par comparison kyun karte ho
@@Proudto_bemuslimand why do you seem so pressed about it? Does it bother you? Am I comparing you to ustadh? People have their opinions don't they? So chill. And this comparison isn't offending anyone lol 🥱
@@Sunflowersarepretty my intention was not to hurt you if it did I'm sorry for that
It was just a brotherly suggestion in a sarcastic way not to compare an alim with others(because he himself says not to compare with anyone) in any aspect be it about knowledge of quran o hadees,knowing a particular language, secondly don't praise someone so much so that it seems to be exaggeration.That's what I wanted to say and may be I said it not in a proper way.
This is how blind following starts brother
May Allah bless you and all of us and make us steadfast on the deen aaameen
Me too a great fan of Ustad Nauman Ali Khan I do respect him a lot.i do watch him a lot.I've learnt a lot from him and ustaad Dr Israr Ahmed r.a.
Brother first off I'm a sister😊 and I really felt bad after typing my comment. Bro i knw what you're saying and I totally get you however I would still I'm not exaggerating my praise for Ustadh. I just said what I observed. He's been living in the states and uses English more than Urdu like just listen to his lectures and you'll be mindblown. It amazes me that his Urdu is so perfect even better than natives cz lemme tell you I don't live in Pakistan but have studied in a Pakistani school and meet dozens of Pakistani people it's just I hate how all of them are trying super hard like when English isn't even necessary to the point where's it's cringey and embarrassing and it just makes them look like a fool. Like use English an Urdu separately. You're ruining both languages at the same time. Jazak Allah bro may Allah bless I hope your feelings weren't hurt. May Allah bless you.
@@Proudto_bemuslim
In Pakistan there's a misconception k agr insan ne na maaf kia to Allah b nhi maaf kre gy
Every time I listen to you, my eyes get wet. I am not able to come to America and meet you, nor do I have enough money, but I have a great desire to meet you and talk to you face to face. You are like a kind teacher to me. May Allah give you long blessed life. Amen ❤
Allah kare aap America zarur jayen.
Me too really want to talk to him. I wish I could just call him directly and ask as much questions as possible. In this difficult suiation of my life
@@sumbalshafiqbutt Allah Apke Lye Assaniyan paida Farmaye..AAMIN
Ustadh often came to Pakistan in recent times.
I couldn't stop my tears after watching this. I had this question since many years something similar story that aunty narrated happened with me and maybe many women around the world.
Jazakallah khair for sharing this.
May Allah guide us all in this journey
So important to know this and to not feel guilty about not being able to forgive someone who hurt you more than once…
even family and even if you really want it!
Please don’t hack my every accounts I forgive you please forgive me please
"to YAHIN poch rahin hon apse" was just soooo cute ALLAH Ta'la ap ki mushkilaat asaaaan kare ameeeeen !
Going through domestic abuse livin at the parents home constantly told my prays fasting good deeds are worthless if I don’t speak to my abusive siblings and there spouses
There terms of “forgivenesses” means being a docile door mat again and allowing them to treat me unjustly and with oppression
And to keep family honor by suffering in silence
This is NOT forgiveness. I am so sorry to read what you are going through. If it was a one off incident or strangers you didn't live with then you can work on your heart to let go off fear,hurt,rage whatever and forgive someone. But you are right. Being asked to endure other people's bad behaviour repeatedly is just that and nothing to do with forgiveness. Is there no-one you can ask to mediate for you? Or a friend you can spend a night with and just catch your breath so that you can think? Do you have a good doctor you can talk to, someone in the mosque? It's a very hard situation and I shall pray for you sister ❤️
@@LuciThomasHardylover-qx6ts my friends married off years ago and have move far away so I have no friends to visit or can’t go for there place bcuz there husbands won’t allow it
Docs suggested depression pills but that won’t make the pain go away or situation better
The local imams are useless it’s always keep blood ties together forgive and forget
Please make duaa I’m need Allahs help in that which he seems fit
@@piqueny8872 I know what you mean about imams. They're useless or worse than most of the world over. I reverted from Christianity and it took years to learn that in Islam no-one offers pastoral care. It's all well and good women having such rights, but how do they get them? It's not good enough to say that they should, because not everyone is honourable and if you either have no family or a non practicing one then who will demand your rights for you? Not the Iman or sheikh. I have no easy answers for you except that things do change. And usually when we least expect it, Alhamdulil'Allah things can change and move very quickly. We must be ready to take the chance when it comes. Try and watch the second video and see if that helps? Ultimately it's all those annoying clichés that are so true,we can only change ourselves, but we will be ready to take opportunities that come out way and when we change it slowly changes those around us. N.A.K. has a different take on it.. watch the video xx
@@piqueny8872 seems like the link I sent hours ago has been taken down. It's another Nouman Ali Khan video about not having to forgive...
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Try to be financially independent.... develop understanding of Quran....may Allah make ur life easier..... just know so many people are suffering through same trauma ❤
I’m pleased with what he said bcoz some people are pure evil that they don’t deserve forgiveness.
This is one of the best interactions. To all the moms out there ♥️
"Forgiving and surrender are two different things."
"Memaafkan dan menyerah adalah dua hal yang berbeda."
May Allah always protect us physically, mentally, and spiritually 🤲 Aamiin
Brilliant that you put English subtitles thank you
Allah says to forgive is better , but He also said we can seek our right of retribution in Surah an-Nahl.
Forgive but don't forget what they have done., draw a line but keep the silah where family is concerned.
Mostly needed answer jazakallah khair ❤
I've heard that example many times since childhood, but I never considered it in this way before. Now, I have a deeper understanding of the story and a fresh perspective. JizakAllah Ustad Nouman.
Muaf krna aur hathiyar dalna do alag alag chije hoti h...well said 5:23
I admire your knowledge and pray for your life , health and your parents AMEEN
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May Allah bless you Sir Nouman, my iman was low and then i watched a few of your speeches and vids and i feel better. Thank you
Soo amazing answer so so amazing answer and from this answer so many people are gonna learn, JazakAllah Ustad ❤
Assalamualaikum,sir I want to meet you iny life because your way to explain hadith and Quran is excellent. I have never seen in my life. Allah apko nek kaam me kamyabi de. Aameen
Masha allah, so lucky are these people attending such sessions live
So lucky are we that in just these last few years of human existence we can participate from anywhere in the world without having to physically be there! Alhamdulil'Allah! We are so lucky to have so much knowledge and help at our finger tips wherever we are, whoever we are. Alhamdulil'Allah 🤲
Allah
Assalamu alaikum wa Rahmatullah...Bhayi Ap waqayi bhot hi Behtreen Alime Qur'an hai...Allah Apko is Deen ki Khudmat Ka Ajar Ata Farmaye Ameen ❤❤❤
I'm requesting you guys. please pray for me. I'm so sick. Only Allah can heal me. If others pray for me, may Allah have mercy on me and heal me miraculously. Please say ameen for me.
Ameen
May Allah heal you and give your health back. Stay strong🤲
Aameen
Ameen
May Allah give you good health and heal you.
Forgive but don't forget
Plzzz ap quran ki sari surtoon ki tafseer urdu main upload karain ........
Mojay quran sahi main samaj hi ap k urdu ki tafseer say aii ........really appreciate
But ap sub sourtoon ki karain
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Kindly share the name of that playlist or whatever it is..thx
It is actually present in audio.....I have all 114 Surahs in audio form. I will share link here in reply from where I downloaded long ago if I found in sha ALLAH
I am from bangladash and i understand hindi or urdu so neet more urdu video
Forgive me please please 🙏
Whay
Ma Sha Allah nouman sir, speechless ❤I mean I can't even express the sukoon your speeches gives us🙂
I always learn from your video .
love n respect from India...so pleased to hear you in simple xplaination....
Alhamdulillah ya rabbul al amin. My concept is clear now, was struggling a lot with this. Jazakallahu khairan ustad
Was going through very tough situations, & suddenly it came to my notification❤
Mashallah . Al-Hamdulillah may Allah give us knowledges in islam . Aujubillah .
Nouman Ali Khan Sahib = 💎
Jazak ALLAH khair , ya sheikh.
Love from India
may Allah swt bless you abundantly here nd hereafter
MashaAllah, the way ustadh answered clearly gave aunty food for her soul, may Allah ease her situation.
Alhamdulillah ❤ Allahu Akbar ❤ La illaha illa Allah ❤ SubhanAllah ❤Astagfirullah ❤ How Patient and Kind and Merciful Allah has been with me ! ❤
Alhamdulillah.
Thank you for the wonderful insight.
jazakumullahu khairan kathira
I'm really bad at forgiving people. I am a very emotional person and have tired to change this. Of course when it comes to family i forgive immediately but friends or colleagues i never forget. I do think that forgiveness gives you a better status in the afterlife however. I wish i was better at this insha'Allah.
❤✅ jazakallahu khair va alaikum Salaam 🌹
To forgive is a second option and a higher degree of " ikhlak " if it is permissible in the given circumstances and if he/ she asks for it . AND to get revenge of an equal degree is authorised in Islam 📌 That is what I understood from ustaad NAK.✅
JAZAKALLAHU KHAIR VA ALAIKUM SALAAM.
محمد صلی اللہ علیہ وآلہ واصحابہ وبارک وسلم
My Dearest Bro Ustaadh Noumam
you talk about enjoy
i alone prefer to say
i enjoyed with tears
May الله
bless u
ur family
Jannat al-Firdous
Ameen ya Rab🤲🏻
سُبْحَانَ اللَّهِ وَبِحَمْدِهِ
Subhaanallaahi wa bihamdihi.
The Prophet (SAW) said: "Whoever says: "Glorified is Allah and praised is He" one hundred times a day, will have his sins forgiven even if they are like the foam of the sea".
bundle of thnks ❤❤❤
Your explanation gives me a peace. I Entered in 30's of my life where question are heading in my head Regards with marriege alliances and personal life Issue. I wish to visit and meet you personally to get answer of those questions To get Clarity. May Allah ease for me to Find right spouse for here and after.
jazakAllah allah 🥺🙌 inshAllah I will meet by the will of Allah in janah with uh it's not possible here but I am keenly waiting for it you are super awesome fantastic 🥺🙌you are hero ustaad uncountable duaasssss for you ustaad 🙌🙌🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺hattsssss offffff ustaad may God bless you give you a long life 🥺🙌thank you so much for your efforts❤️❤️❤️
That's fantastic mashallah ♥️
Jazak Allah khair
I like to think of myself as a person who forgives but I believe when feelings are raw it’s very hard to forgive.
Seriously this answer matter me a lot a lot Thankyou jazakallah khair
My extreme wish is learning quran n arabic from ustaz Noman Ali .
thanku so much ap urdu me aye ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Jazaq Allahukum khairan shaikh💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐
I never commented on any video.... But this is amazing in all videos i can personally relate questions and the explation given by u are not rigid as there is a saying a religion can't not survive in long if it is rigid or hard to follow. Love from India.
Needed to hear this.
“O you who have believed, decreed upon you is fasting as it was decreed upon those before you that you may become righteous.”
(Surah Al-Baqarah 2:183)
The Prophet (ﷺ) “Whoever recites the 'verse of the Throne' (ayat al-kursi) after every prescribed prayer, there will be nothing standing between him and his entry into Paradise but death.”
Subhaan’Allah
جزاکم اللّہ خیرا🌻
My family has several issues he addressed.
The eldest person in our family guilt trips and asks us to continuously forgive the problematic people. I have done that in the past but I have been bitten by the same snake several times because I was led to believe if I forgive and forego, the next person will not hurt me. But they did. Several times. On several occasions. My heart refuses to trust the particular problematic person and also refuses to forgive because at the slightest chance, they immediately start pointing fingers at my character and my upbringing.
He mad another video about difficult family situations -
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Sheikh Nouman, im under deep distress...my mother is a high neurotic narcissist and she does very evil things to me. Ive been trying to escape her grip for many many years now but she seems to always grasp me. We r in Egypt and we just escaped the war in Sudan, and she has been torturing me for the past 8 months and a half. She is trying to corner me into a situation where i do something stupid and she calls the police and throws me into prison or mental hospital prison. She did this to me in sudan too and she tried to drive me crazy. But ive been praying to Allah ever since for my own sanity but she keeps coming for me. My family has no mercy on me. My brothers my sister nor my father. They all aid her in putting me thru pure misery idk if intentional or unintentional except my father. Hes a good person and doesnt like her at all. Please somebody help me. I feel they r trying to kill me.
I dont know who else to ask for help
may Allah ease your suffering! i think you should contact local authority about the abuse. Also if you are an adult and capable of finding a job then try to separate yourself from the abusive family members with the help of your father. Most importantly make dua abundantly inn Sha Allah, Allah is going to get you out of this abusive situation soon💕
Always think yourself first. Allah doesn't burden us to make everyone happy, he takes care of his abds and we're not rab. We are sometimes not powerful enough to empatise with ourself and others at the same time. So choose yourself. Sometimes we may go beyond and do wrong while thinking ourselves because we are just humans and we should ask forgiveness from Allah. But Allah cares about you and never wants you to be wronged, never.
Sorry for my comment i am still under distress but im gna hope for the best, inshallah Allah makes things easy..wlai i wudve died if it wasnt for nouman ali khan videos 😂 barakallah feekum ustatdh and others 🙏, Salamu 3alaikum❤
@@yasinamir5046 aleikum salam brother may Allah give you the best ❤️ (and good morning 😁)
One more example; When Hinda approached to Prophet of Islam (SAW) to accept Islam, He turned his face away from her.
In nutshell, never test anybody more than his/her capacity.
Unbelievable explanation
Allah aap k total bayan ko Urdu translation krwa de
Masaallah...so much inspiring video
Assalamualaikum everyone do this zikr 100 times every day 👇
La ilaha illallaho wahdahu la sharikala hu lahul mulku wala hul hamdu wahua ala kuli shai in qadeer
May ALLAH give hidayah to all of us Ameen ☺️😊🙂
But 12:98 is - He said, “I will pray to my Lord for your forgiveness. He ˹alone˺ is indeed the All-Forgiving, Most Merciful.”
- Dr. Mustafa Khattab, The Clear Quran
ماشاءالله amazing video
The verse 98 of Surah Yusuf says
He said: "Soon will I ask my Lord for forgiveness for you: for he is indeed Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Soon or Later
Jazak ALLAH khairan🇵🇰🇵🇰🇵🇰 21/Apr/24. 😍😍😍😍
Forgiving is often confused with forgetting. Forgiving is good for the person who has been wronged. To let go of the bad feeling. If someone genuinely asks for your forgiveness,if you can, it's always a good thing to try. BUT! That doesn't open the door for you to be foolish. You don't forget to be careful. Someone has shown you what they're capable of. They may change they may not. But the saying is "Fool me once,shame on you (because you took advantage of me). Fool me twice? Shame on me.(Because I let you fool me again,I didn't remember the lesson) But I can still forgive for my own health and sanity.
In bahasa Indonesia, forgiving is me-maaf-kan. Asking for forgiveness is minta (ask) maaf. I didn't know in Urdu it sounds the same : maaf
Recite this beautiful Dua daily 🤍
Allahumma inni as’aluka ilman nafi’an, Wa rizqan tayyiban, Wa amalan mutaqabbalan.
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ عِلْمًا نَافِعًا وَرِزْقًا طَيِّبًا وَعَمَلاً مُتَقَبَّلا
“O Allah, I ask You for beneficial knowledge, goodly provision and acceptable deeds.”
May Allah grant us sincere and beneficial knowledge that enlightens our hearts and minds, a provision that is wholesome and abundant, and deeds that are accepted in His sight, paving the way for our success in this life and the Hereafter.
Jajakallahu khairun
I invite everyone to listen holy Quran & Islamic speech from the India🇮🇳❤😊😅😊❤
Jazakallah khair
This was a great topic in a clip
Ya Allah give me strength ameen
Thankyou Ustad ❤
Probably most of the people get confused with Forgiving and Dealing. These are 2 separate things , you can forgive someone and do not have to deal with the same person.
Thank you ❤
What if they're doing not much right now like they did before. but You're continuously scared by their presence, and you cannot trust them coz they didn’t create a trustful environment for you. And You're financially dependent on them and can't maintain a peaceful distance.
Am I an ungrateful person??
𝗥𝗲𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿 𝗗𝗼𝗻'𝘁 𝗠𝗶𝘀𝘀 ❤
Power of Istighfar
Say 👇🏿
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Astagfirullah at least 100 times Daily
it's Sunnah of our beloved prophet.
Benefits:
The Prophet Mohammad (ﷺ) said:
"If anyone constantly seeks pardon (from Allah), Allah will appoint for him a way out of every distress and a relief from every anxiety and will provide sustenance for him from where he expects not."
Hadith (Abu Dawud)
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thanks.❤
Lekin agr muaaf kr dia jaay to ye Allah ko ziada psnd hy .
Hm b to itny dunah gaar hyn aur phir b Allah sy muaafi ki umeed rkhty hyn .
Es liy hmen b Allah ki makhlooq ko ye soch kr muaaf kr dyna chahiy k ye baat Allah ko ziada psnd hy .
Albta muaaf krny ka mtlb ye nhe k os insaan ko apni zindgi men dobara shamil kr k phir sy os sy dhoka khaen aur wo insaan b dobara sy gunah gaar ho jay .
Plz is bt ko sahi explain kre Mai Apne Bhai ko maaf kr du lekin Mai us se taluq nhe rakhna chahti to kia ye gunnah Hoga qk agar Mai ne us se phr taluq rakha to wo phr Mera Dil dukaiga
But Rasool SAW Forgave him . He did not tell wahshi that I will not forgive you. He told him not to show him his face as it reminds him of how his uncle was killed. Forgiving and forgetting are two different things I suppose. If somebody is really sorry , are we allowed to say, come what may I am not going to forgive. We may not forget the wrong that he has done, we may not be emotionally attached to that person ever again like before. But so far as forgiving is concerned , is there an authentic saying that would prove that one has a right not to forgive ( if the person is asking forgiveness) and say that I will take revenge in hereafter rather than forgiving you here.
Read Surah As-Shura 40-43
"The reward of an evil deed is its equivalent. But whoever pardons and seeks reconciliation, then their reward is with Allah. He certainly does not like the wrongdoers.There is no blame on those who enforce justice after being wronged. Blame is only on those who wrong people and transgress in the land unjustly. It is they who will suffer a painful punishment. And whoever endures patiently and forgives-surely this is a resolve to aspire to."
“Who spend [in the cause of Allah ] during ease and hardship and who restrain anger and who pardon the people - and Allah loves the doers of good” [Al ‘Imran 3:134]
“If [instead] you show [some] good or conceal it or pardon an offense - indeed, Allah is ever Pardoning and Competent” [an-Nisa 4:149]
“And if you punish [an enemy, O believers], punish with an equivalent of that with which you were harmed. But if you are patient - it is better for those who are patient” [an-Nahl 16:126]
“And whoever is patient and forgives - indeed, that is of the matters [requiring] determination” [ash-Shura 42:43]
“But if you pardon and overlook and forgive - then indeed, Allah is Forgiving and Merciful” [at-Taghabun 64:14].
Assalam-o-Alaikum sir g complete information of trading is halal or haram
🇵🇰 4:39 subhanallah
SubhanAllaah ❤❤❤
If someone has been treated very badly by their own family - in every way possible including magic ( which they are not still stopped)
What to do then ?
This is his answer to difficult families..th-cam.com/video/fxDQ-2gaYHw/w-d-xo.htmlsi=ilJxx_R8hWWgMapr
Please reply back
Alhumdulillah
I agree with most of what was said in the video, however, what was said about Wahshi reminded me of the incident where a companion, in a battle, was about to kill someone and they said the kalima And the companion killed them anyways bcz they doubted their intentions and the prophet SAW was extremely angry at them, asking did you tear open his chest? (To have known what his intentions were?)
I know that this was an impromptu convo so NAK probs didn't think this out properly but he seems to be implying that Wahshi only accepted Islam out of fear, this is something that we should avoid. Esp since he went on to fight battles for islam and even killed musaylmah the kazzab
Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi
Mujhe laga Akhri moiza ka episode aaya
As Salam o Alaikum
sir urdu mai nhi avllible apki classes 😢
Wow❤
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Ustad main admission Lyna chata hun plz guid
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Brother we want Bengali translation
I fell asleep saying im not turning the page and im not turning the page........
Absolutely hamri society ma bila waja ki maufi say etni bigar paida ho gi hay k ab agar aap maif karen ya na karen log rishtey etnay bigary huy han k log insan be kam he lagty han aisy lagta hay taleem be jungle ma janwaron say lee hay.
Love you