Errr um, IDK about that. I have an inkling that red pill and gtow are very much experience-based. Do they have less friction for that path? Yes. But if you understand the value of a marriage to the right person in a very long format can bring to all aspects of your life, then logic may lead you to a different conclusion. For the record, this comes from a very traditional viewpoint, so you could say it is red pill. I suppose also this depends upon your experiences, perhaps your gender (undecided on that - I'm not a male so I don't know that I can ever fundamentally understand mgtow at its core experience), and certainly the society you live in.
I am an intj female and I've never pursued a guy that I may have been interested in. I find when I am interested I always kind of tell myself I really don't like that person it's only a visual attraction and not a intellectual one. It's very hard to find someone who can banter with me and challenge me without feeling intimidated. Being a female I think I have an advantage because in every relationship they have made the effort to make that extra step and not me.
I have a difficult time in relationships. I tend to question and overthink everything about the person to the point that i panic when i recognize certain personality traits that make me uncomfortable. It's a real problem. I question things so bad that i panic and it causes great confusion because I just simply dont want to make the "wrong decision" when comes to a partner. I tend to want the "perfect" partner, which i know is not likely to find because I think I will always find something lacking in them or something about them or their past that bothers me. I'm a mess.
I feel like that rn with my gf. I keep judging her character and how she does things, the way she leads her life, and keep thinking that it'll prevent me from achieving what I want and might be more of an obstacle than a partner in the long run, a distraction would be the best word to describe it. It feels like I'm doing something I shouldn't and giving up time that I should be using on something else.
True! Same with me. This "planning" behavior works fine with me in every aspect of my life except relationship. I don't know what to do. Especially I am from a culture it's hard to date and meet someone before commitment. Which makes it even harder, at least for myself, however, funny thing, lately after years of considering a girl, which I know her for years. I was able to talk to her even more and get to know her deeper. It was almost the " perfect " person. I proposed and ... You know ... I got "freind zoned" now I am back at square one AGAIN ... despite my broken heart, obviously.
Also INTJ here and I'm the same way. However, I've ignored this intuition...twice...and it burned me. Divorce after 6 years and a 6.5 year relationship after that ended in her cheating. I could have prevented both if I'd have listened to my intuition on their red flags. Bottom line: Your subconscious intuition often senses sketchy behavior before u can put a finger on it. LISTEN TO IT! Don't settle. If it's about where they put their socks...who gives a fuck. If it's about life perspectives...morality...ethics...lifestyle...do NOT ignore this. It will only get worse with time and destroy the relationship.
Observation, I’m very interested by the fact that the comments for this videos are carefully formulated to convey a very specific thought, idea or perspective on this video, and for me as an intj a point of frustration is that I may be misunderstood, making sure that I use the correct wording and phrasing to express my thoughts in a way that cannot be confused is an interesting quality and is the reason why many of these comments are on average longer. I did not proofread so forgive any grammar mistkes. Lol
I’m a White American INTJ that married a Filipino INFJ. I was extremely independent and when she started to take care of me, I felt I was losing my independence. In an effort to gain some of that independence back, she appreciated it and thought it as I was willing to do my share in the relationship. She opened up to share my personal hobbies of gaming and I was quite happy with that. We’ve been married 15 years now with two kids. I made myself get out of my comfort zone and travel a bit when serving in the military and pressed that on to her as we’re both homebodies.
Thank you for this video! Very insightful.😊 I am an ENFJ and my INTJ husband and I have been happily married for 16 years (total of 23 - we started dating in HS) 💖 Funny thing: we now have an INTJ daughter and an ENFJ son! 🤔🙃
Lux Lobos help me!!! I’m an INTJ woman & my best friend is an ENFJ boy (much younger than me) & he’s been crushing on me since the 1st day we worked together & i like him too but he has a long distance gf & when i started dating a couple of guys this summer he did act jealous in a subtle (but still obvious) way & said they’re not good for me-those relationships ended but lately he’s been under a lot of pressure but he doesn’t open up to me completely & it pains me to see him in pain! & long story short i got pissed at him being pissed with me all the time lately so i broke up the friendship, then i caved in after we worked together & ignored eachother. So i asked him to meet & talk-2 days ago- but he wouldnt answer me or give any clarification about his behaviour. But he said something strange very randomly, he looked me dead in the eye rather sadly & subdued & said “i think i can only be a good friend to u” even though it had nothing to do with the conversation....but the goddamn vibes i was getting off him was as if he telepathically said he likes me & knows i like him but ....& then said the conclusion out loud. Neither of us r making the 1st move to reveal our true feelings for the other. Now i don’t know what to do? I dont wanna make a fool of myself by telling him how much i love him coz i’m sure he’ll use his gf as an excuse to not reciprocate. All the info out there on ENFJs & crushes or secret loves, is scary! That y’all like to flirt just out if friendliness & all this ambiguity over is it real or just how ENFJs r....i want to know straight up if he wants more than friendship too so we can decide what to do. I cant take the emotional & sexual tension between us, after 8 bloody months!!!!!
I have been binge watching your videos this evening. Got recommended your D&D MBTI video and i really love it. You explain stuff really well by pointing out the answer and explaining the necessary points instead of going round around in circle like other youtubers who just want more watchtime. Props from an INTJ
I’m an INFJ and a lot of this applies to me! I’ve been slow in the dating life and I appreciate people being direct with me rather than beating around the bush.
Thanks for the video. I think its very intj the way you put your thoughts in words, very measured. I relate a lot to what all you mentioned. Yeah very direct, straight forward and honest. This creates a lot of problems many times cos ppl around us are not like that.
I'm an INTJ, I met my wife a few months before my 21st birthday, 2 months later we started dating, 4 months after that we were married, been marred for 11 years now, she is an ENFJ, there has been quite a few ups and downs but our relationship is strong, if I didn't meet here when I did I probably wouldn't have gotten married.
Are you willing to share more videos about your relationship with an ENFJ? I was searching for INTJ and ENFJ when I came across your video. There is hardly any content about these relationships out there. 🤞
You're not the only one. I've been trying to find videos, & articles on the dynamics/chemistry of a intj, & enfj for almost two years, & have had $hi+ for luck.
Dude when you said in relationships, try to be straight forward with INTJs, that was so on point! I know dealing with girl that after knowing her was like puzzles and cats and don't exactly know what they want and I'm supposed to solve that? Na na Girl! I got 36 other things that I need to work on and I need to gain so much learning and development. You come back when you are solved! You are not checking these top 2 checklist that I need for my standards. I couldn't care less how good you look. Dumped her being cold while she keep wanting a relationship so bad. Noa.. No!
i agree with you i listened to most of the songs you have listed already and i like them for the same reason and i found a new band i like cos of this list thank you
I'm an INTJ male. And i have been infatuated with an ENFP for 3 years and never knew she was a EnFP until a week ago. I'm not great with women (surprise), but her and i are close friends. when you said that's the power couple it made absolute sense and stung like a GODDAMN WASP lol
I laughed so hard at 3:55 the fact that intj's are not most normal people😂 I totally agree and relate though because especially as a young intj I know kind of what I want from a person but I don't know what it's going to be like and I am not willing to really go out of my way to make something work unless I know it will turn into something meaningful for me. The other thing is what I call being picky with people. I have acquaintances but I don't have very close relationships with anyone especially those my age. And I don't want to unless I feel that person is worth my time and effort- which sounds bad but is how I determine what I fill my days with. So that is one thing that unsettles me because in the future I think I want a relationship but as of now I really don't know.
And one more thing the directness is something I SO appreciate. I think that is something really big about my indecisiveness with relationships because I don't want to jump through hoops. I am direct and sometimes blunt but I want other people to be blunt with me. I don't need sugar coating of beating around the bush, I just want the truth and if someone isn't like that with me than that's when I don't like or want a relationship that person.
@@christalphelps6186 yeah you're INTJ. LOL! well said. i find my problem is i hate doing the superficial playful stuff "required" at the beginning of meeting someone since i know the deeper harder questions need to be asked. i wanna go deep right away, since i know for there to be longevity and meaning in this coupling we need to address where we stand on important issues to us. i don't want to waste my time not getting confirmation on the bigger questions. i want to start our relationship in a serious, deep, meaningful way. i need the other person to want to delve into me also, and vice versa. I DON'T WANNA DO PLAYFUL SILLY STUFF FIRST. and yet i'm very much capable, quite naturally, of those fun, light-hearted, joyful traits, but we shouldn't be like that first since those things are not what we will need to LAST, since we will not last with me in the relationship without more meaningful areas of deep agreement or cooperation and respect. playing and flirting and being silly is all too often a waste of my time in the end. and no, i'm not flexible about this at all. i actually take delight now in hitting people up with super-deep controversial issues immediately upon meeting. i love not wasting my time, so i don't give a fvck what the answer or response from them is. i don't need agreement. i am glad i already know it's not a match.
Bro I'm an INTJ and I say INTJs have very clean heart and they want to save the world by seeing so many vulnerabilities and want to improve on them. They appear very cold from the outer shell but are the best people to get known at a deeper level.
You're very eloquent for an INTJ. All INTJs that I know - both in the real world and on youtube, and also including myself - are terrible speakers. Does speaking come naturally to you, or did you receive training?
In all honesty it comes pretty naturally to me. I often spend a lot of time thinking over my thoughts before I actually say them, so when I do speak I have my thoughts collected. I've never liked or used scripts for my videos, I often tend to just record and delete a few times until I have had a run I actually like. Thanks for watching ^^
clever intjs are Amazing speakers,charming and hipnotizing when they come to talk about their main topics, but they kind of have the perception they're not
Hm. I'm very skeptical of MBTI videos linked to relationships. There is way too much of a bias that gets overridden by people's TENDENCY to look for a "magic solution" or "ultimate answer". This is particularly true for NT types who tend to theorise about what relationships will be like or NF types who idealise what relationships should feel like. Overall, analysing or abstracting relationships in general are the surest way to bend and break them, regardless of what is actually going on. Why this? Because when you remove the specifics from a particular situation, the situation is depersonalised, striped to the bone. This is the main reason I suspect many people's emotional attachments get wrecked at various points in time. First, I think people should make sure that they are in a mental place where they are AVAILABLE to others. I don't mean having 2 weeks free during the semester break that you want to use to ''find'' people to go/hang out with. That is utilitarianism at its worst. People are not there for your convenience. I also think it is a much better mindset/posture to just get on with your everyday life and notice people who cross your path, whether or not you have anything to do with them. They might be interesting, challenging, intriguing or fascinating, etc. All in all, people who work on themselves and their dreams are always going to be more of the above.
Yeah man, I went for coffee with a girl once, found out she likes to cook, and the next week I was window shopping for a condo with a nice kitchen. I’m hopeless.
Can relate to most of it. Don't forget the important 'hypersensitive' side some of us INTJs have, which makes us uncomfortable to opening up to a person who uses it in the wrong way. I think a lot of the contingency-planning comes from the fear of being vulnerable. Also, all INTJs want to be in a relationship - its human. INTJs might not want to admit it, because its a weak point [don't worry its a weakness for me too =)] and all people are not comfortable in admitting their weakness but all humans want to be in a relationship. Its just to learn to open up a bit and be a bit more social =). @ENFJ:s - I really love ENFJ:s and NFJ:s in general. However, not ENFJ:s who are trying to be too bossy or has an intelligence inferiority complex. @direct and to the point: Can you please tell a girl who likes me that??? God, I wish she got it. Not only do I agree, why I want directness is because Te confirms my Ni. I can perceive that she loves me through Ni, but I need EMPIRICAL EVIDENCE that this is the case, and when girls are INDIRECT, I can never prove to myself that my Ni is correct so I'm in this infinite loop.
Hey there. I do plan to, I’m just working full time and a full time student right now. All excuses aside I know I don’t really have a release schedule or anything, but I do plan to make videos again. Obviously I don’t do it for money or anything so I’ve just been prioritizing my life needs for awhile. Thanks for watching and supporting!
Congrats on your happy relationship, fellow INTJ. 😍🤘 ENFPs make me look for a bus...so I can throw myself in it's path (and traumatize some poor, unwitting driver...omg new plan...😳😂😂) I love an ISTP myself, particularly a nerdy former Marine. He meets my other oddball criteria as well. His predecessors of "try & fails" generated a list of filters for which I sorted. I finally in my late 40s found the human for me. It's worth it, good people. I had no idea a romantic relationship could be so *eeeeaaasssyyyyy*. It was only *after* I had utterly given up on the whole sordid ordeal (of mate selection); I joined a fb group of which a friend was an admin. I lost myself in doing things I love. I never stopped being exACTly myself. I figured, he's gonna like the real me or run for the hills. Choose. Well, he chose and here we are, 2+ yrs later, planning a wedding. Additionally, I have an INFJ best friend, so that need for intensity & intellectualism is met by her as well as him. Without her, I'd probably still be plotting away, under a rock somewhere...truth!!
I think all with INT fit with F... Empathy makes them more developed...But it can be confusing, also for the F, if the F has one ideal of love, and then what to do with these thoughts, that you could be their one. But if it is ideal of INFJ, and if this is the thoughts, of INTJ... feelings and thoughts fit, as one. The INTJ can address the feelings, and feelings can address the thoughts. Maybe all with E feel for INT like they fix their world, bringing solutions.... Because they tell themselves not all is good about themselves. And E can tell them, and E can tell others, and E can bring in solutions with other people, being social. But lots with E are more criminal and psychopathic and bring in all not so much needed, I think. As science shows that a relationship between E, and crime and Dark Triad types, and less IQ. And less IQ shows a correlation with crime too. So, there is this logic of not so able to be internal and be less smart, and more criminal. Also, they seek more External, thus us. And we bring narcissistic people food in their world. And they will accuse us of being one, while we are just introverted, and introverted is the least dark triad types. An artist is for example actually ISFP... not E... people expect an E, as they can be showing work, but no, it is a trained introverted smart empathic feeling and perceiving, and all they do is shaped into an art made with the senses, personal art. As deep as us (i am infj) but they made their world into products, and are able to" entertain" others with work from themselves, being themselves, I think. Perhaps ISFP fits better to really solve if you seek a social life. You keep the authentic people, that fit you, sharing the same idea, and feelings. Share a love for something. I think that fits better when you seek that. IN is also related to higher IQ. Being smarter solves more. And the entire IN types, just any are smarter, thus together a group, that have or more perceiving, or more judging, or more thinking or feeling. But the differences are less big than Extraverted to introverted I think. And we all feel we live with ourselves, we understand this world this way. ((intuition is in the pineal gland, and is the finer thoughts.) So all sensed goes into the working memory, and the episodic memory decides what to keep, and then the information sensed goes into the facts and procedures memory. But with intuition build-up, there are finer thoughts from the sensed...so a more deep idea of all perceived.. but the more we sense with senses, the more builds up, as there is more to process when we sense. We use senses to build up. It is about that we sense. I find MBTI interesting that we split all sensations and this sensing into sensing and intuition, while we need sensing to have finer thoughts. But S focuses on sensing, and N on the finer thoughts (from all perceived, felt, sensed, etc ) IS and In are also kind of the same this way. Studying is an internal thing, not an extraverted thing. So, all of us with I, study. The F, feels it, makes you a feeler. More empathic, which is healthy, to feel and sense deeper and have deeper finer thoughts. So, when an empathic helps you feel others, could be enough solution to the "social problem", which is easily solved with finding all with the same ideas, hobbies, feelings, thoughts, things we do, preferences, etc. Where thinking, feeling, sensing, the same things start from. But I wonder too what fits best. I heard people think INTP fits best with F. And for example INFJ. I see how that helps INTP, that is within the self, and perceiving and thinking about all perceived and "sensed" into finer thoughts. Empathy is a way out of the internal world. F connects always. I do wonder if all F have the same reasons for being an F. Some have this ideal love, and ideal world, they seek. And all the abstract concepts they make will be an idea, and not per se the complete answer. Where P perceives, J judges. And S, F, sensed more with senses and created that into finest thoughts. And N is perceiving all the intuitive things. Maybe the type of F makes a huge difference for INTJ. ISFJ, ISFP, INFJ, INFP, it is a bit different, and your thoughts will be perceived a bit differently.
Maybe I should add a link to the MBTI test to my online dating profile. And then ask for results first whenever a guy messages me. 🤔 ... or I am just overthinking things again.
I've been thinking of contacting the local community college re me taking the personality test. Do you have a suggestion. I think (from what you say) I am INTJ
Thanks for the prompt reply. I am actually looking for more info about my type..being an Entj female comes with a lot of questions... I came accross to your INTJ video..and I enjoyed it very much since you described them so accurately( I know now u are one of them)..I am drawn to them. I suscribed to your channel so I am looking forward for your video. I found it quite easy to process. Thanks for taking the time to share!!
I don't celebrate valentines day at all. Relationships are hard because lately I tend to be controlling, i. e., I don't like when a guy I've just met turns up at my office unannounced.
I have been binge watching your videos this evening. Got recommended your D&D MBTI video and i really love it. You explain stuff really well by pointing out the answer and explaining the necessary points instead of going round around in circle like other youtubers who just want more watchtime. Props from an INTJ
I believe INTJ are natural Red Pill that can go their own way. They can live very happy doing their own things without a relationship.
FACTS
Errr um, IDK about that. I have an inkling that red pill and gtow are very much experience-based. Do they have less friction for that path? Yes.
But if you understand the value of a marriage to the right person in a very long format can bring to all aspects of your life, then logic may lead you to a different conclusion. For the record, this comes from a very traditional viewpoint, so you could say it is red pill.
I suppose also this depends upon your experiences, perhaps your gender (undecided on that - I'm not a male so I don't know that I can ever fundamentally understand mgtow at its core experience), and certainly the society you live in.
I AM AN INTJ-T THAT IS NOT ALWAYS TRUE I AM MORE ATRACTED TO INTELLEGENT WOMEN THAN DUMB WOMEN AND ALTHOUGH I DISLIKE MOST I LOVE MY GF
@@gothiccentral1027 you can't even spell 'intelligent' correctly, mr mastermind.
I am an intj female and I've never pursued a guy that I may have been interested in. I find when I am interested I always kind of tell myself I really don't like that person it's only a visual attraction and not a intellectual one. It's very hard to find someone who can banter with me and challenge me without feeling intimidated. Being a female I think I have an advantage because in every relationship they have made the effort to make that extra step and not me.
Nobody is intimidated by you. You are just a miserable person.
Umm
Yeah, I'm INTJ but that just sounds totally self-centered lol
I have a difficult time in relationships. I tend to question and overthink everything about the person to the point that i panic when i recognize certain personality traits that make me uncomfortable. It's a real problem. I question things so bad that i panic and it causes great confusion because I just simply dont want to make the "wrong decision" when comes to a partner. I tend to want the "perfect" partner, which i know is not likely to find because I think I will always find something lacking in them or something about them or their past that bothers me. I'm a mess.
Mr. Plainview me too. I panic because I see my future with the personality flaw of the other person and nothing of the positive in the person.
I feel like that rn with my gf. I keep judging her character and how she does things, the way she leads her life, and keep thinking that it'll prevent me from achieving what I want and might be more of an obstacle than a partner in the long run, a distraction would be the best word to describe it. It feels like I'm doing something I shouldn't and giving up time that I should be using on something else.
True! Same with me. This "planning" behavior works fine with me in every aspect of my life except relationship. I don't know what to do. Especially I am from a culture it's hard to date and meet someone before commitment. Which makes it even harder, at least for myself, however, funny thing, lately after years of considering a girl, which I know her for years. I was able to talk to her even more and get to know her deeper. It was almost the " perfect " person. I proposed and ... You know ... I got "freind zoned" now I am back at square one AGAIN ... despite my broken heart, obviously.
Also INTJ here and I'm the same way. However, I've ignored this intuition...twice...and it burned me. Divorce after 6 years and a 6.5 year relationship after that ended in her cheating. I could have prevented both if I'd have listened to my intuition on their red flags.
Bottom line: Your subconscious intuition often senses sketchy behavior before u can put a finger on it. LISTEN TO IT! Don't settle.
If it's about where they put their socks...who gives a fuck. If it's about life perspectives...morality...ethics...lifestyle...do NOT ignore this. It will only get worse with time and destroy the relationship.
That, is hella relatable, man.
Observation, I’m very interested by the fact that the comments for this videos are carefully formulated to convey a very specific thought, idea or perspective on this video, and for me as an intj a point of frustration is that I may be misunderstood, making sure that I use the correct wording and phrasing to express my thoughts in a way that cannot be confused is an interesting quality and is the reason why many of these comments are on average longer.
I did not proofread so forgive any grammar mistkes. Lol
I see your point.
I’m a White American INTJ that married a Filipino INFJ. I was extremely independent and when she started to take care of me, I felt I was losing my independence. In an effort to gain some of that independence back, she appreciated it and thought it as I was willing to do my share in the relationship. She opened up to share my personal hobbies of gaming and I was quite happy with that. We’ve been married 15 years now with two kids. I made myself get out of my comfort zone and travel a bit when serving in the military and pressed that on to her as we’re both homebodies.
Thank you for this video! Very insightful.😊 I am an ENFJ and my INTJ husband and I have been happily married for 16 years (total of 23 - we started dating in HS) 💖 Funny thing: we now have an INTJ daughter and an ENFJ son! 🤔🙃
Lux Lobos help me!!! I’m an INTJ woman & my best friend is an ENFJ boy (much younger than me) & he’s been crushing on me since the 1st day we worked together & i like him too but he has a long distance gf & when i started dating a couple of guys this summer he did act jealous in a subtle (but still obvious) way & said they’re not good for me-those relationships ended but lately he’s been under a lot of pressure but he doesn’t open up to me completely & it pains me to see him in pain! & long story short i got pissed at him being pissed with me all the time lately so i broke up the friendship, then i caved in after we worked together & ignored eachother. So i asked him to meet & talk-2 days ago- but he wouldnt answer me or give any clarification about his behaviour. But he said something strange very randomly, he looked me dead in the eye rather sadly & subdued & said “i think i can only be a good friend to u” even though it had nothing to do with the conversation....but the goddamn vibes i was getting off him was as if he telepathically said he likes me & knows i like him but ....& then said the conclusion out loud. Neither of us r making the 1st move to reveal our true feelings for the other.
Now i don’t know what to do? I dont wanna make a fool of myself by telling him how much i love him coz i’m sure he’ll use his gf as an excuse to not reciprocate. All the info out there on ENFJs & crushes or secret loves, is scary! That y’all like to flirt just out if friendliness & all this ambiguity over is it real or just how ENFJs r....i want to know straight up if he wants more than friendship too so we can decide what to do. I cant take the emotional & sexual tension between us, after 8 bloody months!!!!!
I have been binge watching your videos this evening. Got recommended your D&D MBTI video and i really love it. You explain stuff really well by pointing out the answer and explaining the necessary points instead of going round around in circle like other youtubers who just want more watchtime.
Props from an INTJ
I’m an INFJ and a lot of this applies to me! I’ve been slow in the dating life and I appreciate people being direct with me rather than beating around the bush.
Thanks for the video. I think its very intj the way you put your thoughts in words, very measured. I relate a lot to what all you mentioned. Yeah very direct, straight forward and honest. This creates a lot of problems many times cos ppl around us are not like that.
I'm an INTJ, I met my wife a few months before my 21st birthday, 2 months later we started dating, 4 months after that we were married, been marred for 11 years now, she is an ENFJ, there has been quite a few ups and downs but our relationship is strong, if I didn't meet here when I did I probably wouldn't have gotten married.
Are you willing to share more videos about your relationship with an ENFJ? I was searching for INTJ and ENFJ when I came across your video. There is hardly any content about these relationships out there. 🤞
You're not the only one. I've been trying to find videos, & articles on the dynamics/chemistry of a intj, & enfj for almost two years, & have had $hi+ for luck.
Barack Obama is ENFJ and Michelle Obama is INTJ. I am an ENFJ and really like a guy who happens to be INTJ.
Please do... Enfj who dated a intj and wanting to learn
literally samee i’m an enfj (f) who’s been trying to work it out with an intj (m) and really appreciate all the info to get to know him better
Yes!
Dude when you said in relationships, try to be straight forward with INTJs, that was so on point!
I know dealing with girl that after knowing her was like puzzles and cats and don't exactly know what they want and I'm supposed to solve that? Na na Girl! I got 36 other things that I need to work on and I need to gain so much learning and development. You come back when you are solved! You are not checking these top 2 checklist that I need for my standards. I couldn't care less how good you look. Dumped her being cold while she keep wanting a relationship so bad. Noa.. No!
i agree with you i listened to most of the songs you have listed already and i like them for the same reason and i found a new band i like cos of this list thank you
I'm an INTJ male. And i have been infatuated with an ENFP for 3 years and never knew she was a EnFP until a week ago. I'm not great with women (surprise), but her and i are close friends. when you said that's the power couple it made absolute sense and stung like a GODDAMN WASP lol
I am in a similar situation, best of luck my infatuated friend!
Good luck !
I laughed so hard at 3:55 the fact that intj's are not most normal people😂 I totally agree and relate though because especially as a young intj I know kind of what I want from a person but I don't know what it's going to be like and I am not willing to really go out of my way to make something work unless I know it will turn into something meaningful for me. The other thing is what I call being picky with people. I have acquaintances but I don't have very close relationships with anyone especially those my age. And I don't want to unless I feel that person is worth my time and effort- which sounds bad but is how I determine what I fill my days with. So that is one thing that unsettles me because in the future I think I want a relationship but as of now I really don't know.
And one more thing the directness is something I SO appreciate. I think that is something really big about my indecisiveness with relationships because I don't want to jump through hoops. I am direct and sometimes blunt but I want other people to be blunt with me. I don't need sugar coating of beating around the bush, I just want the truth and if someone isn't like that with me than that's when I don't like or want a relationship that person.
@@christalphelps6186 yeah you're INTJ. LOL!
well said. i find my problem is i hate doing the superficial playful stuff "required" at the beginning of meeting someone since i know the deeper harder questions need to be asked. i wanna go deep right away, since i know for there to be longevity and meaning in this coupling we need to address where we stand on important issues to us. i don't want to waste my time not getting confirmation on the bigger questions. i want to start our relationship in a serious, deep, meaningful way. i need the other person to want to delve into me also, and vice versa. I DON'T WANNA DO PLAYFUL SILLY STUFF FIRST. and yet i'm very much capable, quite naturally, of those fun, light-hearted, joyful traits, but we shouldn't be like that first since those things are not what we will need to LAST, since we will not last with me in the relationship without more meaningful areas of deep agreement or cooperation and respect. playing and flirting and being silly is all too often a waste of my time in the end. and no, i'm not flexible about this at all. i actually take delight now in hitting people up with super-deep controversial issues immediately upon meeting. i love not wasting my time, so i don't give a fvck what the answer or response from them is. i don't need agreement. i am glad i already know it's not a match.
Most of the time we already set up a box for future dates to fit in.
all fits perfectly, yet I am very emotional and empathetic although I am an INTJ
Bro I'm an INTJ and I say INTJs have very clean heart and they want to save the world by seeing so many vulnerabilities and want to improve on them. They appear very cold from the outer shell but are the best people to get known at a deeper level.
You're very eloquent for an INTJ. All INTJs that I know - both in the real world and on youtube, and also including myself - are terrible speakers. Does speaking come naturally to you, or did you receive training?
In all honesty it comes pretty naturally to me. I often spend a lot of time thinking over my thoughts before I actually say them, so when I do speak I have my thoughts collected. I've never liked or used scripts for my videos, I often tend to just record and delete a few times until I have had a run I actually like. Thanks for watching ^^
Timrath What? No, we are good speakers, when we set our mind to it. And it has to be a topic, that you are an expert on. 😉
clever intjs are Amazing speakers,charming and hipnotizing when they come to talk about their main topics, but they kind of have the perception they're not
Timrath I think I practice speaking on a topic by talking to myself.
Perhaps you ought to expand your test set, or, possibly, not assume that you actually fall within it.
INFP engaged to an INTJ. Best relationship either of us has known.
Hm. I'm very skeptical of MBTI videos linked to relationships.
There is way too much of a bias that gets overridden by people's TENDENCY to look for a "magic solution" or "ultimate answer". This is particularly true for NT types who tend to theorise about what relationships will be like or NF types who idealise what relationships should feel like.
Overall, analysing or abstracting relationships in general are the surest way to bend and break them, regardless of what is actually going on. Why this? Because when you remove the specifics from a particular situation, the situation is depersonalised, striped to the bone. This is the main reason I suspect many people's emotional attachments get wrecked at various points in time.
First, I think people should make sure that they are in a mental place where they are AVAILABLE to others. I don't mean having 2 weeks free during the semester break that you want to use to ''find'' people to go/hang out with. That is utilitarianism at its worst. People are not there for your convenience.
I also think it is a much better mindset/posture to just get on with your everyday life and notice people who cross your path, whether or not you have anything to do with them. They might be interesting, challenging, intriguing or fascinating, etc. All in all, people who work on themselves and their dreams are always going to be more of the above.
Always felt like Spock going out on a date.
I read the updates you provided on personalitycafe.com about your MBTI schooling. Congratulations on becoming certified.
Yeah man, I went for coffee with a girl once, found out she likes to cook, and the next week I was window shopping for a condo with a nice kitchen. I’m hopeless.
You say the so-called “power couple” is the INTJ and ENFP. Could you do a video on those types as a couple?
Consider putting text for videos where it won't interfere with captions. Thanks :)
I think ENFJs are the second most compatible type for us INTJs. I like their "steadiness".
I am an INTJ, and am married to an ENFP. I've never been in a relationship with another INTJ, but I think it would work great.
That was very well articulated! Good job INTJ bro!
Can relate to most of it. Don't forget the important 'hypersensitive' side some of us INTJs have, which makes us uncomfortable to opening up to a person who uses it in the wrong way. I think a lot of the contingency-planning comes from the fear of being vulnerable. Also, all INTJs want to be in a relationship - its human. INTJs might not want to admit it, because its a weak point [don't worry its a weakness for me too =)] and all people are not comfortable in admitting their weakness but all humans want to be in a relationship. Its just to learn to open up a bit and be a bit more social =).
@ENFJ:s - I really love ENFJ:s and NFJ:s in general. However, not ENFJ:s who are trying to be too bossy or has an intelligence inferiority complex.
@direct and to the point: Can you please tell a girl who likes me that??? God, I wish she got it. Not only do I agree, why I want directness is because Te confirms my Ni. I can perceive that she loves me through Ni, but I need EMPIRICAL EVIDENCE that this is the case, and when girls are INDIRECT, I can never prove to myself that my Ni is correct so I'm in this infinite loop.
I was with an ISTP once...we were quite similar in a lot of things
Will you continue this youtube channel? Or what is your goal right now? Great vid
Hey there. I do plan to, I’m just working full time and a full time student right now. All excuses aside I know I don’t really have a release schedule or anything, but I do plan to make videos again. Obviously I don’t do it for money or anything so I’ve just been prioritizing my life needs for awhile.
Thanks for watching and supporting!
Yes, you seem to know your stuff so please keep do m8!
Congrats on your happy relationship, fellow INTJ. 😍🤘
ENFPs make me look for a bus...so I can throw myself in it's path (and traumatize some poor, unwitting driver...omg new plan...😳😂😂)
I love an ISTP myself, particularly a nerdy former Marine. He meets my other oddball criteria as well. His predecessors of "try & fails" generated a list of filters for which I sorted. I finally in my late 40s found the human for me.
It's worth it, good people.
I had no idea a romantic relationship could be so *eeeeaaasssyyyyy*.
It was only *after* I had utterly given up on the whole sordid ordeal (of mate selection); I joined a fb group of which a friend was an admin. I lost myself in doing things I love. I never stopped being exACTly myself. I figured, he's gonna like the real me or run for the hills. Choose.
Well, he chose and here we are, 2+ yrs later, planning a wedding.
Additionally, I have an INFJ best friend, so that need for intensity & intellectualism is met by her as well as him. Without her, I'd probably still be plotting away, under a rock somewhere...truth!!
I think all with INT fit with F...
Empathy makes them more developed...But it can be confusing, also for the F, if the F has one ideal of love, and then what to do with these thoughts, that you could be their one.
But if it is ideal of INFJ, and if this is the thoughts, of INTJ... feelings and thoughts fit, as one. The INTJ can address the feelings, and feelings can address the thoughts.
Maybe all with E feel for INT like they fix their world, bringing solutions.... Because they tell themselves not all is good about themselves. And E can tell them, and E can tell others, and E can bring in solutions with other people, being social. But lots with E are more criminal and psychopathic and bring in all not so much needed, I think. As science shows that a relationship between E, and crime and Dark Triad types, and less IQ. And less IQ shows a correlation with crime too. So, there is this logic of not so able to be internal and be less smart, and more criminal. Also, they seek more External, thus us. And we bring narcissistic people food in their world. And they will accuse us of being one, while we are just introverted, and introverted is the least dark triad types.
An artist is for example actually ISFP... not E... people expect an E, as they can be showing work, but no, it is a trained introverted smart empathic feeling and perceiving, and all they do is shaped into an art made with the senses, personal art. As deep as us (i am infj) but they made their world into products, and are able to" entertain" others with work from themselves, being themselves, I think.
Perhaps ISFP fits better to really solve if you seek a social life. You keep the authentic people, that fit you, sharing the same idea, and feelings. Share a love for something. I think that fits better when you seek that.
IN is also related to higher IQ. Being smarter solves more. And the entire IN types, just any are smarter, thus together a group, that have or more perceiving, or more judging, or more thinking or feeling. But the differences are less big than Extraverted to introverted I think. And we all feel we live with ourselves, we understand this world this way.
((intuition is in the pineal gland, and is the finer thoughts.) So all sensed goes into the working memory, and the episodic memory decides what to keep, and then the information sensed goes into the facts and procedures memory. But with intuition build-up, there are finer thoughts from the sensed...so a more deep idea of all perceived.. but the more we sense with senses, the more builds up, as there is more to process when we sense. We use senses to build up. It is about that we sense. I find MBTI interesting that we split all sensations and this sensing into sensing and intuition, while we need sensing to have finer thoughts. But S focuses on sensing, and N on the finer thoughts (from all perceived, felt, sensed, etc )
IS and In are also kind of the same this way. Studying is an internal thing, not an extraverted thing. So, all of us with I, study.
The F, feels it, makes you a feeler. More empathic, which is healthy, to feel and sense deeper and have deeper finer thoughts.
So, when an empathic helps you feel others, could be enough solution to the "social problem", which is easily solved with finding all with the same ideas, hobbies, feelings, thoughts, things we do, preferences, etc.
Where thinking, feeling, sensing, the same things start from.
But I wonder too what fits best. I heard people think INTP fits best with F. And for example INFJ. I see how that helps INTP, that is within the self, and perceiving and thinking about all perceived and "sensed" into finer thoughts. Empathy is a way out of the internal world. F connects always.
I do wonder if all F have the same reasons for being an F. Some have this ideal love, and ideal world, they seek. And all the abstract concepts they make will be an idea, and not per se the complete answer.
Where P perceives, J judges. And S, F, sensed more with senses and created that into finest thoughts. And N is perceiving all the intuitive things. Maybe the type of F makes a huge difference for INTJ.
ISFJ, ISFP, INFJ, INFP, it is a bit different, and your thoughts will be perceived a bit differently.
Maybe I should add a link to the MBTI test to my online dating profile. And then ask for results first whenever a guy messages me. 🤔 ... or I am just overthinking things again.
Lol I did that to my ENFJ when we're started talking, and now we're on our first year together.
Great video
I think
INXJs or ENXJs are the best matches for INTJs
Ugh, I could never date an extravert; especially an ExFx.
I had a better connection with an ESTJ bf
I’m intj and my wife is enfp
It would have been interesting if you fit into this video how you met your girlfriend.
I've been thinking of contacting the local community college re me taking the personality test. Do you have a suggestion.
I think (from what you say) I am INTJ
Do it for free at psychcentral.
do it online. i did three different online tests over a 3 year period and got INTJ everytime. fascinating stuff.
Hi..I was trying to find in your videos one for ENTJs ( my type) but I couldnt find one..are you planning on making one? Thanks.
+Ororo S I am, it's going to be one of my next two. My videos take some time to release though as it's more of a side project to me.
Thanks for the prompt reply. I am actually looking for more info about my type..being an Entj female comes with a lot of questions... I came accross to your INTJ video..and I enjoyed it very much since you described them so accurately( I know now u are one of them)..I am drawn to them. I suscribed to your channel so I am looking forward for your video. I found it quite easy to process. Thanks for taking the time to share!!
I don't celebrate valentines day at all. Relationships are hard because lately I tend to be controlling, i. e., I don't like when a guy I've just met turns up at my office unannounced.
well that's just plain creepy. be assertive and control his azz out the door! LOL
I truly don't give a shit about love for the rest of eternity.
Agree
Cannot hear you!! Turn up the volume!!
So true. Hahaha
So true... Hahaha
INTJ is Boring
I have been binge watching your videos this evening. Got recommended your D&D MBTI video and i really love it. You explain stuff really well by pointing out the answer and explaining the necessary points instead of going round around in circle like other youtubers who just want more watchtime.
Props from an INTJ