This is a hard one. I understand where both parties are coming from. To the dad it’s easier said than done, especially where you’re gone and your son’s are left to pick up the pieces. I truly feel for all of them. Good luck!
He already said he saved enough for his and his wife's funeral. He doesn't even want an expensive funeral. He's not a deadbeat father. He doesn't even want a child bride like some. He's a good father and a good man. He deserves better from his children. Men like him deserve respect. Stories like these makes me want to love my parents even more.
Kuv yog ib tug menyuam ntsuag, kuv ntshaw2 niam ntshaw txiv es koj los ua kuv niam kuv txiv. Kuv txawm tsis muaj nyiaj los kuv mam hlub koj thiab pam koj. Ua cas peb cov Hmoob pheej tseem coj tus cai qub2 es yuav hlub cas tsis hlub thaum tseem muaj txoj siav nyob es ho tos hlub thaum tuag. Peb ua neej rov quav ua luaj!!!!
Tus me txiv tsev koj zaj neej neeg no txaus tu siab tshaj, koj hais yog lus kawg txhob tos me nyuam hlub yus mog yog yus tsis nrhiav tus hlub yus ces txhob tos lawm tsis muaj lawm.
Ntuj yuas me txiv tsev aw! Txoj kev mob phem no ces nim twb tsis xav hnov lub niag npe os mog.....txoj kev no mas tu tu siab tshaj plaws li os mog........pab hlub koj thiab os
Grandfather, he is right. No need for pride and praise from people who really don't care about you. Grandfather, is right. Do what he wants while he is still able to live his last moment in life. No need for a 80k to 100k on a funeral bc the living are still living. Invest it to the living not the dead.. The dead will be dead. That is his will HONOR it.
Children, you are wrong to treat your father like this. Your elderly parents need the closeness that they loss. Children cannot replace the loss of the other parent. You need to give your father respect and love. So sad to hear all the children are treating their father and step mom like this. Love knows no age.
Wow zaj neej neeg no ua cas yuav txaus tu siab ua luaj li os lawv es .. cov laus pib txoj lus hais tias niam txiv tas rooj ntug nej cov hluas lub siab thiab cov lus nej hais rau nej txiv tsis zoo mloog kiag li nawb. Nej nco ntsoov nej muab khiv ev tus laus mus nrauj zoo nej nco ntsoov nej tej me nyuam yuav ev nej mus nrauj zoo thiab nawb. Cia nyiam mam paub nyiam nawb es seb puas mob nej li nej ua mob rau nej txiv os nawb.
Yog kawg li koj hais os mog peb cov uas yus tug poj Niam los yog yus tus txiv tuag tso yus tseg ces muaj tej pab me nyuam thiaj to taub yus txoj kev txom nyem siab xwb tej pab lawv muaj neej tas lawm ces lawv yeej ua koj mog txhob tu tu siab os leej twg rau yus txhais khau es leej twg thiaj li paub mog kuv los zoo ib yam li koj thiab maj peb taug tib txoj kev ntag os
Tus mi yawm txiv mloog koj tham mas tu siab kawg li os. Cas koj cov me nyuam yuav phem ua luaj tsis txawj xav li os. Koj tus Poj niam tuag tso koj tseg es twb Xoom xoom khua koj cov tub yuav coj koj mus yuav ib tug tabsi txhob tu siab os mog koj twb tau koj tus niam tsev no lawm es neb sib sib hlub nawb mog. Qhov no kuv yuav hais rau koj cov tub thiab ntxhais nej yeej tsis tsim nyog yuav hais thiab ua npaum no rau nej txiv li os cas nej tsis txawj xav li. Nej nco ntsoov hais tias yog nej txiv no nav cas nej cov nus muag yuav tsis txawj xav li es yuav ua rau nej txiv tu siab ua luaj coj li nej mas Zoo qhov nej niam tuag lawm naw yog nej niam nyob mas nej cia nej cov niag Poj niam ua heev npaum li ua rau nej txiv no mas xyov nej niam yuav ua cas nyiav txog hnub tuag li es nej txhob ua nej txiv quaj quaj tsam nej ev tsis taus nej txiv cov kua muag nawb . Nco ntsoov tseg cia tias peb txhua tus tsis txawj plhis li nawb ib tug yeej yuav tuag tseg ib tug xwb yeej khiav tsis dim li os nej cov tub nyab ntxhais vauv ntawm nej na. Cas ib tug ua los cas ib tug tsis cheem li .
Pab tus yawm txiv or tus brother no tu siab kawg. Nws cov me nyuam yog ib cov neeg tsis tawj xav tshaj plaws. Tsim nyog lawv yuav tsum zoo siab tias muaj tus los mus take care lawv txiv vim lawv niam tub tau tag sim neej tsis muaj hnub yuav rov qab los lawm.
Nrog koj tu siab kawg li os tus yuam txiv aw Koj cov me nyuam g txawj xav li thiab g hlub koj li koj cov me nyuam phem tiag tiag li vin lawv pom lawv tus kheej xwb kav liam os mog g txob tu siab os mog
Yog txoj kev ntsuag no thaum twg tsis raug lawv lawv yeej tsis paub kiag os vim txoj me kev ntsuag mas yog raug leej twg leej twg thiaj yuav paub vim txoj me kev ntsuag mas tu siab kawg vim tus yuav saib yuav xyuas thaum yus muaj mob tej me kev sib hlub yuav los nug tias tej puas noj qab nyob zoo no .COV tub siab phem ua luaj yog lawv hlub koj lawv yeej cia koj yuav ib tug los hlub koj .
Hmoob people worry about the talks of the outsider than what makes the person that still alive happy. In life, I see that the one that will love you more is the parents will love and sacrifice more to the children than the children to the parents especially the moms.
Cov kwv los cov niam hluas aw thov nej hlub nej txiv es muab txoj kev zoo siab rau nej txiv os zoo li peb es peb twb tsis muaj niam ib yam li nej thiab tsuas tshuav peb txiv es peb twb xav yuav ib tug niam rau peb txiv los peb txiv nim muaj2 mob es peb twb muab tsis tau txoj kev sov siab rau peb txiv es cas peb nim xav tias yog peb txiv muaj txoj hmoo es peb yuav ib tug niam rau peb txiv es kom peb muaj niam no es cas kuv yuav hlub nej txiv kawg li os cas nej yuav ntshais faus niam tshiab ua luaj na lawv kuj muaj lawv nyiaj thiab tsuas yog muaj txoj kev zoo siab rau koj txiv xwb os peb yog me tub me nyuam peb yeej tu tsis tau yus txiv li nws tus txij nkawm li os xav zoo nawb
tus me txiv tsev pab kj tu siab kawg tsis txhob tus tus siab thiab lub neej no cov me nyuam yeej tsis hlub yus li thaud yus hlub lawv. tiag ces kuj tim koj thiab vim thaum ua neej nyob yus yov tau npaj life insurance cover yus tsis ntau los kom muaj $50 phav. qhov teeb meem mas yog koj tsis tsis muaj life insurance xwb. koj cov points kuj yeej yog kawg. los zam txim rau kj cov me nyuam thiab vim lawv ua tsis taus txiv. hais txog txoj kev pam tuag ces kj yeej hais yog nawb. kuv ces kuv yeej faj lus rau poi niam tias txog kuv thib no ces tsuas pub siv nyiaj li $45 phav tau li cas yuav li ntawd. hmong lub neej mas tsis yog hmong tha tuag hmong tha cov ciaj xwb es muab kaw taw ua taub hau muab taub hau ua kaw taw. pab kj zoo siab hais tias kj tawv txaus es yus txiav txim siab yus tus kheej
Ib hnub twg lub ntuj tig ko diav Los txog koj cov tub yeej yuav tau txais txoj kev uas leej tib neeg tsis xav tau hnub ntawv mam paub txog koj txoj kev nco koj tus txij nkawm.
Cov tub yeej hais yog thiab.koj.kuj hais yog kawg thiab.tsuas vim hmoob txoj cai siv nyiaj ntau rau lub ntees.yog hnoob twg peb cov hmoob ruam no,peb tso tau tej kev pam tuag no tseg mas peb lub neej thiab mus taus.
Let the old man live his old days in peace with whoever he wants. These children should compromise with him. Look for solutions, maybe establish a savings acct for their funeral expenses instead of hating on them. It is better to love and give when they are still alive then to waste money for elaborate funeral events just for saving faces.
Tus siab kawg zaj neej neeg no na. I can understand both sides of the story...the kids and father. Burying someone is not cheap when it comes to our Hmoob culture but then again if the father and girlfriend has their own burial money and will not be affected by her side of the family then go ahead and marry! Yeej paub tias Txiv neej yeej nyob tsis taus ib leeg kheej os mog.
Ib tiam ua phem qhia rau ib tiam o txhob tu siab o tu txiv ntxawm e muab xav rau luag tej ib txhias txom nyem li koj thiaj tseem nyuaj siab quaj ntsuag txoj kev hlub tshaj koj e tsuav neb khub txij nkawm sib2 hlub xwb ce zoo lawm mog tiam nov tej me nyuam feem coob ce lawv yeej tsis txawj hlub tej niam thiab txiv lawm o.
Koj ua yog lawm os tus txiv laus aw..abtsij los hlub yus tus kheej ua ib zaug neeg xwb kav liam cov menyuam tsis tau taub yus mog; pauv hmoob kev ua nteev txhob ua loj loj xwb mas sawvdaws aw...hmoob culture ua kev nyuaj siab rau sawvdaws mas los..
Cas yuav pab koj tu siab ua luaj li os mloog es koj lub neej nim zoo kiag li kuv txiv lub neej kuv mas tu siab tshaj li os vim kuv hlub2 kuv txiv los lub sij thaum kuv txiv tseem nyob kuv tseem tab tom tu kuv tu Niam pog thiab es kuv thiaj coj tsis tau kuv txiv los nrog kuv nyob los kuv yeej niaj hnub mus xyuas kuv txiv los yeej tsis cuag nrog yus Nyob nawb thiab vim kuv yog ib tug khaub ntxhais xwb kuv Txiv ho tsis kam nrog kuv nyob thiab. Tu siab kawg ua li cas los nim tsis zoo li os
Xav hais cov lus no txhawb me tus me tij laug koj siab tias txhob tu siab tsuav koj muaj ib tug los pab tu koj lawm.qhov kuv txhawj tsam peb cov txiv neej no qaib qua tsis taus lawm tab sis tsam koj tus me pj niam ho tseem xavๆ tau txoj kev niam txiv saum txaj tsam nws ho ua teeb meem rau koj xob os mog . Hos peb ua neej nyob xav hais rau koj cov me nyuam paub tias peb ua neej nyob tsis pom tom ntej thov nej ho hlub koj txiv tus niam tshiab yuav tau koob hmoov ces hlub luag thaum tseem muaj sia nyob xwb
Ntuj aws tej me nyuam no ces lam hlub lawv xwb hnub twg lawv muaj neej ces yus txib tsi tau lawv lawm os. Txhua tus li nawb tus hlub yus ces tsawg tus xwb os. Yus yuav yus es yus mus nyob yus mas txhob tos cov me nyuam no os lawv aws.
Yawm txiv aws peb ua neej nyob ces tsuas muaj tej niam tej txiv hlub tej me nyuam, tus hlob hlub tus yau xwb. Cov me nyuam yeej hlub tsis tau yus li yus hlub lawv os.
Such a sad story. 😢 who in their right mind should stop love? If you cannot live without having and loving someone yourself - you shouldn’t be preventing anyone else.
Nrog koj tu siab os. Tabsis Hnub no koj twb yuav tau koj tus Poj niam lawm es yus twb npaj tau yam uas lawv ntshai2 tsam lawv poob Nyiaj npaj rau yus lawm ces lawv tsuas yog yuav poob lub dag lub zog lub sij hawm xwb yog li lawv ho tsis zoo siab los xij tsuav lawv tsis xav tias lawv yeej tsis tshuav lub txiaj ntsim yuav pauj rau koj li los xij es txhob tu2 siab thiab es yus hlub2 yus tus kheej li yus hlub tau ua ntej yuav ncaim lub ntiaj teb xwb os mog
Tus yawm txiv aw thov txim tau hais li no tabsis kuv xav hais tias koj yuav tau mloog koj cov tub hais thiab os, peb tsev neeg twb tau tha ib tug pog laus tiag tiag li lawm, thaum koj mus yuav tau ib niag pog laus los nrog koj nyob lawm ces cov tub sab tom lawv tsis quav ntsej lawv niam kiag li lawm yog tsis muaj hmoo es nws ua koj ntej lawm ces koj cov tub yeej yuav tau tha tus pog laus tiag tiag li nawb mog. yog koj hlub koj cov tub tiag tiag ces koj yeej tsis txob ib niag pog laus los nrog koj cov tub tha tiag tiag li nawb.
Koj cov menyuam ruam2 tsis paub hlub koj. Cia lawv tau txais koj txoj ke lawv mam paub ces twb lig lawm. Kuv zoo siab koj twb npaj tau txhua yam koj ntshaw lawm os ♥ mog tus leejtxi aw.
It's so sad to hear that the kids treated their father like that. It's your father. He doesn't have much left, let him have his happiness. And the kids are concerned about the burden it will bring???? The kids too will grow old themselves.
It is such a heartbreaking story. Adults this generation act like kids. I don’t want to go into details because the kids are too ignorant to know. Just know one thing for sure... The sky is not that high.... KARMA will hit faster than you think. May God bless this Grandfather and May he live to see what Karma brings to his kids. The kids talk like they know what the future holds and that the old people are gonna die first... Death doesn’t pick or choose rich or poor, young or old... life is too short... take that money and buy whatever makes him happy... live in the present..NO ONE CAN FORSEE THE FUTURE!!!!
tsi txhob tu siab os tu yawm txiv peb ua neej ua neeg nyob hauv ntuj lub qab plab no ce 1 leeg muaj 1 daim lag zeb nplua leej twg lo yeej dhia tsi dhau daim lag zeb nplua ntawd ib zaug li os cia lwm hnub txog rau lawv ce lawv yeej yuav paub xwb os.
Zaj no yog musk tseeb li hais ces yog pab tub ntxhais no ua neej rov qab nyob rau lub teb chaws vammeej no lawm. Xa tau Koob hmoov ces hlub niam hlub txiv thaum lawv tseem muaj sia nyob ces thiaj tau. Thaum tuag lawm ces txhob cia siab. Txhob tu siab os muaj tswv Zej tswv zos yuav xa koj mus qaib ntuj.
I can understand both sides. The kids are still hurt from the loss of their mother. The father wants another wife. The kids don't want to take on the responsibility of burying an extra person especially when Hmong funerals are too extravagant. I told my kids will I die, I don't want a funeral. Just burn my body or throw it in the river, I don't care.
Love ur dad now, not later when he’s gone. 80k for a funeral?! who the heck cares what others think, use that money to love ur dad now and create forever memories. Some Hmong ppl are so backwards
Itll be bad if he wanted someone young from over seas. But he wanted someone his age to spend the remaining days with. Not everyone is ok to be alone. This is just sad...
I understand both side. If the kids would love the dad maybe he wouldn't think of remarried? I need to hear both sides. I understand that the kids don't want the burden of burying another person besides the two people who birth them. I wouldn't either. I would let her kids do it for her. Why bury someone who never raised you? Doesn't make sense. I wouldn't worry about that though because I know I wouldn't do it. I would never call another person mom either. Just call her by her name like mekas people. You only one one mom and one dad. I feel if the kids would love the father and take care of him he wouldn't need another woman
Luag tsuas qhuas tias hmoob M K thiaj siab zoo hlub tau luag lwm tus no nev cas cov me nyuam hmoob nyob teb chaws no yuav selfish thiab tsis paub xav li maj.yog zoo li no tom ntej no hmoob MK puas yuav paub sibbhlub lawm nawj
txhob tu siab os tus txiv hlob los txiv ntxawm aw tuaj nyob lub teb chaws no ces tej dab neeg zoo li koj zaj no yuav muaj tshwm sim zuj zus tuaj lawm xwb os mog hos cov me nyuam aw nej xav li cas los yeej yog kawg nawb tab mas vim cov laus lawv kuj xav tau ib tus los nrog lawv nyob es thiaj li tau hais lus tsis laj nyob tsis seev txog txoj kev kho siab xwb mog tej yam me me li no xwb nej yuav tsum ua pub nej txiv mog vim twb tshuav tsis ntev pub rau nws lawm os mog ua tej yam kom nws zoo siab nawb lub caij nws tu nej thaum nej tseem me mas nws tseem txom nyem tshaj thiav hlub nej khwv pub rau nej yav ntuj thau mas peb niam peb txiv lawv txom nyem heev li mog lawv txoj kev tu peb mas nyuaj tshaj qov peb tu law thaul lawv laus nej yuav tau xav kom zoo mog
So sorry you have such a selfish kids. Tej menyuam ntawm ko ces nkim zog hlub nkig zog tu. Tej cov menyuam uas lawv pom lawv tus kheej xwb. Pab koj tu siab tiag tiag li os me yawm txiv aw..
I’m totally understand the son’s side but I’m more likely support the father. I’m poor guy but I know money might be a major problem. But people always regret when it’s too late. I’m an orphan, so I’m totally understand the parents POV as well as the sons POV.
Sorry for my English... If you are rich, you can do it, but most Hmong are ordinary people with more or less decent salaries. In their own life people don't even use this money to have fun so why do they use so much money when they are dead? It's just for their reputation with Hmong society ... So pathetic! $ 80,000 for a funeral! I can't agree to put in so much money even if you say it is normal because these are traditions. You have to live with the times and improve traditions compared to life today !
That's so wrong of the children to be treated like a child. They have no respect for their dad. It is ok for him to have a life of his own after the mom passed away. There are loneliness. When the children get to be old like the dad's age they will know.
Dam kids, so ungrateful. If you don't want your dad to be happy, you might as well put him six feet under. It's very lonely at this age. I wish my father is still alive. 😫😫
Cov luas no mas Yeej tsis txhua mloog lus tiag li tsis txawj hlub tej me Nyuam kiag li hais ntau mas cas tseem yuav tuag thiab no oyoo yeej ua tau ntxim ntxub los mas
Ua ib lub ntees twb tsis pob nyiaj li los sav ..twb tau nyiaj tshav ntuj tau kawg ne ...tsuas yog siv dag siv zog xwb sav ..cas hmoob yuav coj txawv ua luaj ... txhua tus li os hmoob na .
I think a 15k funeral would be ok for anyone, don't over spend. Please have sympathy for the elderly, we are all no younger than 20years of our parents, so that means we are just about 10years behind. Please give some love for your father and stepmother, treat them with respect of what little time they have with each other
If u have millions then money is nothing, but when u live paycheck to paycheck, money is everything....u see anything free in America?? No, so don't be saying they don't love their parents....u see, if his brother love him?? Yes. But when the kids say, u give permission, u take care of her funeral, he backed out. 😆 lol they already love their parents.
Tus yawn this ntawm zaj neej need no nas txhob tusiab os yog cov tub cov ntxhais tsi pab neb ib niam txiv Los txhob chim cov neeg nyob sab nrauv xav xav pan neb muaj coob coob nawb
koj cov mi nyuam no lawv phem npaum no sim ua zoo noog lawv saib koj cov tub cov ntxhais lawv puas xav nrog poj niam pw cov ntxhais puas xav nrog txiv neej pw kom lawv paub tias neeg laus los yeej xav nrog poj niam pw ib yam li lawv thiab no los yog zoo li no ces hnub twg yog koj tuag no ces kom koj cov mi nyuam tsis txhob tuaj hauv lub ntees
This is a hard one. I understand where both parties are coming from. To the dad it’s easier said than done, especially where you’re gone and your son’s are left to pick up the pieces. I truly feel for all of them. Good luck!
He already said he saved enough for his and his wife's funeral. He doesn't even want an expensive funeral. He's not a deadbeat father. He doesn't even want a child bride like some. He's a good father and a good man. He deserves better from his children. Men like him deserve respect. Stories like these makes me want to love my parents even more.
True. Father who are very old already but still wanting a another woman. Who would be responsible when she passed on.
Kuv yog ib tug menyuam ntsuag, kuv ntshaw2 niam ntshaw txiv es koj los ua kuv niam kuv txiv. Kuv txawm tsis muaj nyiaj los kuv mam hlub koj thiab pam koj. Ua cas peb cov Hmoob pheej tseem coj tus cai qub2 es yuav hlub cas tsis hlub thaum tseem muaj txoj siav nyob es ho tos hlub thaum tuag. Peb ua neej rov quav ua luaj!!!!
Tu siab kawg vim NWS cov me nyuam tsis paub xa..hlub tus yawg laus no heev..
Tus me txiv tsev koj zaj neej neeg no txaus tu siab tshaj, koj hais yog lus kawg txhob tos me nyuam hlub yus mog yog yus tsis nrhiav tus hlub yus ces txhob tos lawm tsis muaj lawm.
Ntuj yuas me txiv tsev aw! Txoj kev mob phem no ces nim twb tsis xav hnov lub niag npe os mog.....txoj kev no mas tu tu siab tshaj plaws li os mog........pab hlub koj thiab os
Grandfather, he is right. No need for pride and praise from people who really don't care about you. Grandfather, is right. Do what he wants while he is still able to live his last moment in life. No need for a 80k to 100k on a funeral bc the living are still living. Invest it to the living not the dead.. The dead will be dead. That is his will HONOR it.
Yawm txiv aws ua ca koj cov niag me nyuam es ua cuag li uas lawv nim pom ntsoov lawv txoj hauv kev rau yav laus naj pab koj tu siab kawg os yom
Children, you are wrong to treat your father like this. Your elderly parents need the closeness that they loss. Children cannot replace the loss of the other parent. You need to give your father respect and love. So sad to hear all the children are treating their father and step mom like this. Love knows no age.
Wow zaj neej neeg no ua cas yuav txaus tu siab ua luaj li os lawv es .. cov laus pib txoj lus hais tias niam txiv tas rooj ntug nej cov hluas lub siab thiab cov lus nej hais rau nej txiv tsis zoo mloog kiag li nawb. Nej nco ntsoov nej muab khiv ev tus laus mus nrauj zoo nej nco ntsoov nej tej me nyuam yuav ev nej mus nrauj zoo thiab nawb. Cia nyiam mam paub nyiam nawb es seb puas mob nej li nej ua mob rau nej txiv os nawb.
Don't worry, they will also get old and they will get that they deserve.
Just make sure u have 80k save up for the new wife funeral then u can do whatever u want. Lol
Yog kawg li koj hais os mog peb cov uas yus tug poj Niam los yog yus tus txiv tuag tso yus tseg ces muaj tej pab me nyuam thiaj to taub yus txoj kev txom nyem siab xwb tej pab lawv muaj neej tas lawm ces lawv yeej ua koj mog txhob tu tu siab os leej twg rau yus txhais khau es leej twg thiaj li paub mog kuv los zoo ib yam li koj thiab maj peb taug tib txoj kev ntag os
Nyiam mloog zaj neej neeg no tu siab vim yus cov meyuam tsi hlub tus ke mus tag lawm .😭😭😭💯
Aub yaub peb cov niag hmoob ces ua ntees loj li loj ces yeej kawg txomnyem li lauj......thov txhob ua loj loj ntxiv lawm os mog
Pab hlub koj kawg li os Tus Brother. Tus twg xub mus ces nws mus lawm ntsiag moo to. Tshuav peb cov niag nyob es tsis paub xyov yuav nyob li cas li.
Menyuam Tsis txawj xav. Cia txoj nej seb nej Puas mus yuav Ib tug los Hlub nej thiab. Lub ntuj nyob qis qis lawm mog
Yog kawg... Thaum tseem muaj sia nyob ces luag tsis hlub, thaum tsis muaj yus lawm luag mam quaj thiab khuv xim xwb. Zoo siab koj nrhiav tau tus los hlub koj thiab ua koj khub. 💖💖
Tus mi yawm txiv mloog koj tham mas tu siab kawg li os. Cas koj cov me nyuam yuav phem ua luaj tsis txawj xav li os. Koj tus Poj niam tuag tso koj tseg es twb Xoom xoom khua koj cov tub yuav coj koj mus yuav ib tug tabsi txhob tu siab os mog koj twb tau koj tus niam tsev no lawm es neb sib sib hlub nawb mog. Qhov no kuv yuav hais rau koj cov tub thiab ntxhais nej yeej tsis tsim nyog yuav hais thiab ua npaum no rau nej txiv li os cas nej tsis txawj xav li. Nej nco ntsoov hais tias yog nej txiv no nav cas nej cov nus muag yuav tsis txawj xav li es yuav ua rau nej txiv tu siab ua luaj coj li nej mas Zoo qhov nej niam tuag lawm naw yog nej niam nyob mas nej cia nej cov niag Poj niam ua heev npaum li ua rau nej txiv no mas xyov nej niam yuav ua cas nyiav txog hnub tuag li es nej txhob ua nej txiv quaj quaj tsam nej ev tsis taus nej txiv cov kua muag nawb . Nco ntsoov tseg cia tias peb txhua tus tsis txawj plhis li nawb ib tug yeej yuav tuag tseg ib tug xwb yeej khiav tsis dim li os nej cov tub nyab ntxhais vauv ntawm nej na. Cas ib tug ua los cas ib tug tsis cheem li .
Pab tus yawm txiv or tus brother no tu siab kawg. Nws cov me nyuam yog ib cov neeg tsis tawj xav tshaj plaws. Tsim nyog lawv yuav tsum zoo siab tias muaj tus los mus take care lawv txiv vim lawv niam tub tau tag sim neej tsis muaj hnub yuav rov qab los lawm.
Cov niag minyuam niam no siab me2 twm2 xeeb lawm lawv tsis hlub tej laus lawm os thiab lawv tsis pom niam txiv txiaj ntsim lawm os mog. Peb kav tsij tseg kom tau Nyiaj Pam peb tso peb mam tuag os mog
Nrog koj tu siab kawg li os tus yuam txiv aw Koj cov me nyuam g txawj xav li thiab g hlub koj li koj cov me nyuam phem tiag tiag li vin lawv pom lawv tus kheej xwb kav liam os mog g txob tu siab os mog
Tu siab heev. Cov tub no tsi txawj xav. Txiv Ntxawm thov vaj tswv foom koob moov rau neb nawb...Kuv hlub Kuv niam Kuv txiv heev
Lawv txawj xav kawg, yog koj txawj xav heev no ces koj pub 100k 6 lawv ces kom pom tias lawv txawj xav tshaj li os. 5555
Tu siab kawg os ....cov menyuam xab maim no ntshe yuav pauj tsis tau niam txiv tus txiaj ntsim li lauuuu. Lawv mus yoog raws meskas lawm xwb os. Txhob yug menyuam coob coob lawm mog ...nkim zog xwb os hmoob awww.
Cas yuav tu siab ua luaj cov niag mi nyuam.lim hiam yeej yuav npam xwb2
Yog txoj kev ntsuag no thaum twg tsis raug lawv lawv yeej tsis paub kiag os vim txoj me kev ntsuag mas yog raug leej twg leej twg thiaj yuav paub vim txoj me kev ntsuag mas tu siab kawg vim tus yuav saib yuav xyuas thaum yus muaj mob tej me kev sib hlub yuav los nug tias tej puas noj qab nyob zoo no .COV tub siab phem ua luaj yog lawv hlub koj lawv yeej cia koj yuav ib tug los hlub koj .
Hmoob people worry about the talks of the outsider than what makes the person that still alive happy. In life, I see that the one that will love you more is the parents will love and sacrifice more to the children than the children to the parents especially the moms.
Ua neeg nyob txhua tus yeej ntshaw kom muaj tus hlub yus. Lwm hnub mas koj cov niag me nyuam yuav raug txoj kev quaj ntsuag tshaj koj lau
Cov menyuam no hnub twg lawv poj niam los tus txiv tuag nej yuav raws nej txiv txoj kev ntag
Everyone deserves happiness...❤️
Tej laus ib txwm tias yug tau cev yug tsis tau siab
Txhob tu siab os
Cov kwv los cov niam hluas aw thov nej hlub nej txiv es muab txoj kev zoo siab rau nej txiv os zoo li peb es peb twb tsis muaj niam ib yam li nej thiab tsuas tshuav peb txiv es peb twb xav yuav ib tug niam rau peb txiv los peb txiv nim muaj2 mob es peb twb muab tsis tau txoj kev sov siab rau peb txiv es cas peb nim xav tias yog peb txiv muaj txoj hmoo es peb yuav ib tug niam rau peb txiv es kom peb muaj niam no es cas kuv yuav hlub nej txiv kawg li os cas nej yuav ntshais faus niam tshiab ua luaj na lawv kuj muaj lawv nyiaj thiab tsuas yog muaj txoj kev zoo siab rau koj txiv xwb os peb yog me tub me nyuam peb yeej tu tsis tau yus txiv li nws tus txij nkawm li os xav zoo nawb
Tus txiv ntxawm..., lwm hnub lawv cov tub mam ua rau lawv os. Cas koj tsi yog kuv txiv ne.
tus me txiv tsev pab kj tu siab kawg
tsis txhob tus tus siab thiab lub neej no cov me nyuam yeej tsis hlub yus li thaud yus hlub lawv.
tiag ces kuj tim koj thiab vim thaum ua neej nyob yus yov tau npaj life insurance cover yus tsis ntau los kom muaj $50 phav. qhov teeb meem mas yog koj tsis tsis muaj life insurance
xwb.
koj cov points kuj yeej yog kawg.
los zam txim rau kj cov me nyuam
thiab vim lawv ua tsis taus txiv.
hais txog txoj kev pam tuag ces kj yeej hais yog nawb.
kuv ces kuv yeej faj lus rau poi niam tias txog kuv thib no ces tsuas pub siv nyiaj li $45 phav tau li cas yuav li ntawd.
hmong lub neej mas tsis yog hmong tha tuag hmong tha cov ciaj xwb
es muab kaw taw ua taub hau muab taub hau ua kaw taw.
pab kj zoo siab hais tias kj tawv txaus es yus txiav txim siab yus tus kheej
Laus laus lawm ces nyob zoo zoo xwb.. kuv yeej pom zoo li koj cov me nyuam hais. Qhov zoo twb 30 xyoo dhau mus lawm.
Ib hnub twg lub ntuj tig ko diav Los txog koj cov tub yeej yuav tau txais txoj kev uas leej tib neeg tsis xav tau hnub ntawv mam paub txog koj txoj kev nco koj tus txij nkawm.
Cov tub yeej hais yog thiab.koj.kuj hais yog kawg thiab.tsuas vim hmoob txoj cai siv nyiaj ntau rau lub ntees.yog hnoob twg peb cov hmoob ruam no,peb tso tau tej kev pam tuag no tseg mas peb lub neej thiab mus taus.
Ua cas zaj no yuav hais tau meej tseeb thiab tu siab ua luaj li
Pab tu siab os tus mi txiv ntxawm nkim zog tu 1 pab me nyuam os tus mi txiv ntxawm pab hlub koj thiab os
Let the old man live his old days in peace with whoever he wants. These children should compromise with him. Look for solutions, maybe establish a savings acct for their funeral expenses instead of hating on them. It is better to love and give when they are still alive then to waste money for elaborate funeral events just for saving faces.
Txiv Hlob, txhob tu Siab os mog, yus Yog tus tiv Kev nyuaj siab xwb, yog kj COV mi nyuam Hlub kj CES lawv Twb coj kj mus nrhiav ib tug Los daws kj txoj Kev nyuaj siab lawm nawb mog UA li yus txoj Kev kaj siab xwb os mog 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Tus siab kawg zaj neej neeg no na. I can understand both sides of the story...the kids and father. Burying someone is not cheap when it comes to our Hmoob culture but then again if the father and girlfriend has their own burial money and will not be affected by her side of the family then go ahead and marry! Yeej paub tias Txiv neej yeej nyob tsis taus ib leeg kheej os mog.
Ib tiam ua phem qhia rau ib tiam o txhob tu siab o tu txiv ntxawm e muab xav rau luag tej ib txhias txom nyem li koj thiaj tseem nyuaj siab quaj ntsuag txoj kev hlub tshaj koj e tsuav neb khub txij nkawm sib2 hlub xwb ce zoo lawm mog tiam nov tej me nyuam feem coob ce lawv yeej tsis txawj hlub tej niam thiab txiv lawm o.
Qhov tseeb tshaaj plawg ntawm kev sis hlub yuav tsum hlub thaum tseem muaj txuj sa nyob, yog ca tuag maam hlub ces tsi yog kev hlub tseeb kev hlub cuav xwb.
Koj ua yog lawm os tus txiv laus aw..abtsij los hlub yus tus kheej ua ib zaug neeg xwb kav liam cov menyuam tsis tau taub yus mog; pauv hmoob kev ua nteev txhob ua loj loj xwb mas sawvdaws aw...hmoob culture ua kev nyuaj siab rau sawvdaws mas los..
Muab xav mas tu siab kawg txawm yug tau ib pab los tseem tu siab tshaj qhov yug g tau ib tug
Koj tuag ua ntej mas koj pojniam hajyam raug tsim txom au. Covneeg tsis muaj siab ntsws ces tsis txawj hlub tib neeg.
Txhob tusiab mog tus txiv ntxawm aw tej menyuam ces yus tau cev xwb mog yus tsis paub lawv siab lwm hnub lawv laus li koj lawm yeej yuav nco koj xwb mog
Koj cov me nyuam tsis txawj xav thiab tsis hlub kj tij luag txhob tu siab mog
Cas yuav pab koj tu siab ua luaj li os mloog es koj lub neej nim zoo kiag li kuv txiv lub neej kuv mas tu siab tshaj li os vim kuv hlub2 kuv txiv los lub sij thaum kuv txiv tseem nyob kuv tseem tab tom tu kuv tu Niam pog thiab es kuv thiaj coj tsis tau kuv txiv los nrog kuv nyob los kuv yeej niaj hnub mus xyuas kuv txiv los yeej tsis cuag nrog yus Nyob nawb thiab vim kuv yog ib tug khaub ntxhais xwb kuv Txiv ho tsis kam nrog kuv nyob thiab. Tu siab kawg ua li cas los nim tsis zoo li os
Xav hais cov lus no txhawb me tus me tij laug koj siab tias txhob tu siab tsuav koj muaj ib tug los pab tu koj lawm.qhov kuv txhawj tsam peb cov txiv neej no qaib qua tsis taus lawm tab sis tsam koj tus me pj niam ho tseem xavๆ tau txoj kev niam txiv saum txaj tsam nws ho ua teeb meem rau koj xob os mog . Hos peb ua neej nyob xav hais rau koj cov me nyuam paub tias peb ua neej nyob tsis pom tom ntej thov nej ho hlub koj txiv tus niam tshiab yuav tau koob hmoov ces hlub luag thaum tseem muaj sia nyob xwb
Ntuj aws tej me nyuam no ces lam hlub lawv xwb hnub twg lawv muaj neej ces yus txib tsi tau lawv lawm os. Txhua tus li nawb tus hlub yus ces tsawg tus xwb os. Yus yuav yus es yus mus nyob yus mas txhob tos cov me nyuam no os lawv aws.
Yawm txiv aws peb ua neej nyob ces tsuas muaj tej niam tej txiv hlub tej me nyuam, tus hlob hlub tus yau xwb. Cov me nyuam yeej hlub tsis tau yus li yus hlub lawv os.
Such a sad story. 😢 who in their right mind should stop love? If you cannot live without having and loving someone yourself - you shouldn’t be preventing anyone else.
Nrog koj tu siab os. Tabsis Hnub no koj twb yuav tau koj tus Poj niam lawm es yus twb npaj tau yam uas lawv ntshai2 tsam lawv poob Nyiaj npaj rau yus lawm ces lawv tsuas yog yuav poob lub dag lub zog lub sij hawm xwb yog li lawv ho tsis zoo siab los xij tsuav lawv tsis xav tias lawv yeej tsis tshuav lub txiaj ntsim yuav pauj rau koj li los xij es txhob tu2 siab thiab es yus hlub2 yus tus kheej li yus hlub tau ua ntej yuav ncaim lub ntiaj teb xwb os mog
Tus yawm txiv aw thov txim tau hais li no tabsis kuv xav hais tias koj yuav tau mloog koj cov tub hais thiab os, peb tsev neeg twb tau tha ib tug pog laus tiag tiag li lawm, thaum koj mus yuav tau ib niag pog laus los nrog koj nyob lawm ces cov tub sab tom lawv tsis quav ntsej lawv niam kiag li lawm yog tsis muaj hmoo es nws ua koj ntej lawm ces koj cov tub yeej yuav tau tha tus pog laus tiag tiag li nawb mog. yog koj hlub koj cov tub tiag tiag ces koj yeej tsis txob ib niag pog laus los nrog koj cov tub tha tiag tiag li nawb.
Koj cov menyuam ruam2 tsis paub hlub koj. Cia lawv tau txais koj txoj ke lawv mam paub ces twb lig lawm. Kuv zoo siab koj twb npaj tau txhua yam koj ntshaw lawm os ♥ mog tus leejtxi aw.
It's so sad to hear that the kids treated their father like that. It's your father. He doesn't have much left, let him have his happiness. And the kids are concerned about the burden it will bring???? The kids too will grow old themselves.
Txhob tu siab os mog peb txhua tus tsuas taug tib txog kev xwb os. Nyias ua rau nyias ris xwb os.
It is such a heartbreaking story. Adults this generation act like kids. I don’t want to go into details because the kids are too ignorant to know. Just know one thing for sure... The sky is not that high.... KARMA will hit faster than you think. May God bless this Grandfather and May he live to see what Karma brings to his kids. The kids talk like they know what the future holds and that the old people are gonna die first... Death doesn’t pick or choose rich or poor, young or old... life is too short... take that money and buy whatever makes him happy... live in the present..NO ONE CAN FORSEE THE FUTURE!!!!
Awwwww.... as long as we're alive, we all need someone next to us. It's the companionship. Poor father
Sometimes...hmong society funeral sucks
tsi txhob tu siab os tu yawm txiv peb ua neej ua neeg nyob hauv ntuj lub qab plab no ce 1 leeg muaj 1 daim lag zeb nplua leej twg lo yeej dhia tsi dhau daim lag zeb nplua ntawd ib zaug li os cia lwm hnub txog rau lawv ce lawv yeej yuav paub xwb os.
Zaj no yog musk tseeb li hais ces yog pab tub ntxhais no ua neej rov qab nyob rau lub teb chaws vammeej no lawm. Xa tau Koob hmoov ces hlub niam hlub txiv thaum lawv tseem muaj sia nyob ces thiaj tau. Thaum tuag lawm ces txhob cia siab. Txhob tu siab os muaj tswv Zej tswv zos yuav xa koj mus qaib ntuj.
I can understand both sides. The kids are still hurt from the loss of their mother. The father wants another wife. The kids don't want to take on the responsibility of burying an extra person especially when Hmong funerals are too extravagant. I told my kids will I die, I don't want a funeral. Just burn my body or throw it in the river, I don't care.
Love ur dad now, not later when he’s gone. 80k for a funeral?! who the heck cares what others think, use that money to love ur dad now and create forever memories. Some Hmong ppl are so backwards
Itll be bad if he wanted someone young from over seas. But he wanted someone his age to spend the remaining days with. Not everyone is ok to be alone. This is just sad...
Xaiv yuav ib tug nkauj mog ab rua txiv npuag ib ntus, txiv moog lawm guarantees nwg yuav tsum moog yuav txiv tom ntej ces mej kuj dim los mas....es txhob muab txiv yoo poj niam os cov miv nyuas awd...
Kids go around and come around,kids you will see one day
Cov hluas tam sim no feem coob ces ruam npaum li no tiag lawv !!!
Ua cas koj cov me nyuam no tsis txawj xav li tu siab heev li os lov
I understand both side. If the kids would love the dad maybe he wouldn't think of remarried? I need to hear both sides. I understand that the kids don't want the burden of burying another person besides the two people who birth them. I wouldn't either. I would let her kids do it for her. Why bury someone who never raised you? Doesn't make sense. I wouldn't worry about that though because I know I wouldn't do it. I would never call another person mom either. Just call her by her name like mekas people. You only one one mom and one dad. I feel if the kids would love the father and take care of him he wouldn't need another woman
Luag tsuas qhuas tias hmoob M K thiaj siab zoo hlub tau luag lwm tus no nev cas cov me nyuam hmoob nyob teb chaws no yuav selfish thiab tsis paub xav li maj.yog zoo li no tom ntej no hmoob MK puas yuav paub sibbhlub lawm nawj
ib cov tub nyab ntxhais vauv hlub koj, lawv tsis ua li rau koj mog tus tij laug!
Give them 100k ces lawv kam koj yuav leejtwg los tau ma....lol
txhob tu siab os tus txiv hlob los txiv ntxawm aw tuaj nyob lub teb chaws no ces tej dab neeg zoo li koj zaj no yuav muaj tshwm sim zuj zus tuaj lawm xwb os mog hos cov me nyuam aw nej xav li cas los yeej yog kawg nawb tab mas vim cov laus lawv kuj xav tau ib tus los nrog lawv nyob es thiaj li tau hais lus tsis laj nyob tsis seev txog txoj kev kho siab xwb mog tej yam me me li no xwb nej yuav tsum ua pub nej txiv mog vim twb tshuav tsis ntev pub rau nws lawm os mog ua tej yam kom nws zoo siab nawb lub caij nws tu nej thaum nej tseem me mas nws tseem txom nyem tshaj thiav hlub nej khwv pub rau nej yav ntuj thau mas peb niam peb txiv lawv txom nyem heev li mog lawv txoj kev tu peb mas nyuaj tshaj qov peb tu law thaul lawv laus nej yuav tau xav kom zoo mog
We all need jesus
So sorry you have such a selfish kids. Tej menyuam ntawm ko ces nkim zog hlub nkig zog tu. Tej cov menyuam uas lawv pom lawv tus kheej xwb. Pab koj tu siab tiag tiag li os me yawm txiv aw..
Tus tij laug aw koj cov menyuam tsis txhawj xav li os
Tus txiv tsev Koj cov me nyuam ua tsi yog lawm .
I’m totally understand the son’s side but I’m more likely support the father. I’m poor guy but I know money might be a major problem. But people always regret when it’s too late. I’m an orphan, so I’m totally understand the parents POV as well as the sons POV.
That's ridiculous! $80,000 for a funeral! 😲😲😲 smh
Thats traditional hmong funeral n that is just an ok funeral.... we did the most basic n my mom was 40k
Sorry for my English... If you are rich, you can do it, but most Hmong are ordinary people with more or less decent salaries. In their own life people don't even use this money to have fun so why do they use so much money when they are dead? It's just for their reputation with Hmong society ... So pathetic! $ 80,000 for a funeral! I can't agree to put in so much money even if you say it is normal because these are traditions. You have to live with the times and improve traditions compared to life today !
Vim nej cov laus zaj niag kev cai pam tuag thiaj zoo li no lau. Thov muam phauj tuaj tsawm kom siv $20k xwb mawj.
Yog lawm os txoj kev no yog leej twg rau thiaj paub
Nej cov nyab nyob sab meka koj siab phem dhau lawm os peb cov nyab nyb nplog teb siab tsi phem li nej nawb
That's so wrong of the children to be treated like a child. They have no respect for their dad. It is ok for him to have a life of his own after the mom passed away. There are loneliness. When the children get to be old like the dad's age they will know.
Dam kids, so ungrateful. If you don't want your dad to be happy, you might as well put him six feet under. It's very lonely at this age. I wish my father is still alive. 😫😫
Awe it does get lonely. As long as you’re happy.
Ib leeg muaj ib zaug txob tus siab os!
Cov luas no mas Yeej tsis txhua mloog lus tiag li tsis txawj hlub tej me Nyuam kiag li hais ntau mas cas tseem yuav tuag thiab no oyoo yeej ua tau ntxim ntxub los mas
Lwm hnub koj yeej yuav txawj laus koj cov mam ua rau koj, koj thiaj paub. Yeej yuav pom xwb thiaj tag.
Omg, so sad!!!😭cas yuav pab koj tu siab ua luaj os mi txiv ntxawm aws. Yog koj yog kuv txiv mas kuv yuav ua txhua yam kom koj zoo siab os
No yog kev laus uas peb yeej tsis xav tau los yeej yuav hla tsis dhau. Koj cov menyuam yeej hlub koj kawg lawm lo mas. Ntshe koj lau dhau lawm xwb os. Yog nyab twb tsis pub kov hlauv taws lawm ces koj yeej laus heev leem tiag. Laus lawm ces yuav tsum ua phooj ua ywg lawm xwb tiag.
Ua ib lub ntees twb tsis pob nyiaj li los sav ..twb tau nyiaj tshav ntuj tau kawg ne ...tsuas yog siv dag siv zog xwb sav ..cas hmoob yuav coj txawv ua luaj ... txhua tus li os hmoob na .
Nej tsis ntshai npam ua li ntaw ces nej yuav tsis tau nej txiv cov lus zoo tsam nej khaw nej txiv txoj kev nawb nws twb ntshaw2 ces cia nws yuav nws
Thank you may my sister you did two stories today it’s my birthday 8/25 thank you :)
I think a 15k funeral would be ok for anyone, don't over spend. Please have sympathy for the elderly, we are all no younger than 20years of our parents, so that means we are just about 10years behind. Please give some love for your father and stepmother, treat them with respect of what little time they have with each other
Tug txiv ntxawm aw koj cov me nyuam phem dhau lawm. Lawv yeej yuav npam xwb2 li. Peb cov laus no ces yeej yuav raug cov me nyuam coj mus nyob tsev laus xwb os.
Ua neeg ib zaug xwb ces nyias txiav nyias txim siab xwb mas mog
So sad... Happiness should matter more than money. These kids fail at loving their dad. You should never let your parents cried. Smh
If u have millions then money is nothing, but when u live paycheck to paycheck, money is everything....u see anything free in America?? No, so don't be saying they don't love their parents....u see, if his brother love him?? Yes. But when the kids say, u give permission, u take care of her funeral, he backed out. 😆 lol they already love their parents.
😂 really. I don't think you would be happy if you have to put thousands into a stranger funeral
Tus yawn this ntawm zaj neej need no nas txhob tusiab os yog cov tub cov ntxhais tsi pab neb ib niam txiv Los txhob chim cov neeg nyob sab nrauv xav xav pan neb muaj coob coob nawb
Very sad 😥...
Good parents don't deserve bad kids. Stories like these make me want to love my parents even more.
koj cov mi nyuam no lawv phem npaum no sim ua zoo noog lawv saib koj cov tub cov ntxhais lawv puas xav nrog poj niam pw cov ntxhais puas xav nrog txiv neej pw kom lawv paub tias neeg laus los yeej xav nrog poj niam pw ib yam li lawv thiab no los yog zoo li no ces hnub twg yog koj tuag no ces kom koj cov mi nyuam tsis txhob tuaj hauv lub ntees