We’ve had five deliveries, four living babies, my hubs slept when I gave him the thumbs up, once my epidurals kicked in. Once baby was born, I slept and he stayed awake with baby. It worked out great for us! I wanted him comfortable and he wanted me to have everything I needed. He’s the best.
Right after getting my episiotomy stitches, my husband said he was so glad childbirth wasn’t as painful or scary as he had imagined. Pretty sure it was 0/10 pain, for HIM!
That makes me so mad for you lol. I ended up with third degree tearing and 57 stitches. 10 years later, I still have problems down there and a hole in my skin that shouldn’t be there. But sure, 0/10 pain buddy. 🙌🏻 if it makes you feel better, my ex husband fell asleep standing up DURING labor and almost pulled out my IV lines. My mom slapped him (which was so unbelievably out of character for her-I’ve never seen her hit anyone before) and kicked him out. I actually totally forgot about all of that. Lol 😂 memories unlocked.
My ex not only slept when I was in labor, but after I ended up having a c-section, he complained when I couldn't get up to get the baby from the hospital bassinet. I had to wake him up, and he got angry.
If he "just started drinking again today", he is not a recovering alcoholic, he IS an alcoholic. And for the sake of her child, that mom has to leave denial land and get serious about protecting her child.
Recovering alcoholics are still alcoholics. That's why they don't say "recovered". It's a process. I agree that mom needs to protect her child, though.
@@marilynmcmahon5932or something that actually works like treating the underlying conditions for why the husband drinks in the first place. 12 step programs are fantasy fueled trash
When my first son was born, the nurses were practically stuffing our new (free, hospital-provided) diaper bag with wipes, blankets, diapers… all the things! They said that once it was in our room it was ours; they couldn’t give it to another patient so we needed to take it. We got sooooooo much free stuff. 😂 That “baby” is 14 now, our youngest child is our last, and we still have that diaper bag!!
This! I was in NICU with my son for 6 weeks. They told us to take what ever was in our room except for clothes. We have a hospital grade thermometer(a bit chocked they don’t sterilize that equipment for reuse) and a bunch of little syringes we still use 3 years later 👍
We were told the same. We had another couple sharing the room with us who left before us, they left everything behind on the trolley. They orderly came by to clear their area and asked if we wanted to take the stuff from there too since with would just be thrown away. We ended up with twice as many nappies, wipes, blankets, pads etc. It was great!
Mine sat next to me on his phone. When it came time for the baby to actually come out, and without discussing it with me before hand, this was NEVER in the plans, he decided to get up and stand at the bottom of the bed behind the nurse and doctor (but in between them so he could see) with his head tilted slightly like a curious dog so he could watch. Instead of being my support. His reason was "it was the only time I'd be able to see something like that." Then he couldn't understand why I was so pissed when I felt like a science experiment.
@@VixLeu gawd. I thought you were going to say he got up and filmed the event from that vantage point. Ay letast he didn't do that. You didn't mention, so is that your ex husband now?
My x husband actually went home to sleep when I was in labor. A very high risk labor I almost didn't survive. Now, I will say I wasn't in danger when he went home, but I still kinda had feelings. I heard his mom having to yell at him to wake up when I called to say I was at 8 cm and very effaced. The hospital didn't actually make us steal stuff. They had two full diaper bags and other supplies, including a couple weeks of formula all piled up for us. Lots of receiving blankets and little hats and t-shirts and little socks. A whole bunch of stuff.
My wife had a 3 day induction..I was told by medical staff to go home and sleep. I refused and slept fleetingly in chairs for 4 nights. On the last night in recovery my wife took pity and we shared hers next to our brand new son.
My husband got to do the skin-to-skin because I had to have an emergency c-section and I was hemorrhaging pretty badly. It was adorable see husband with his baby ❤
I had a 36 hour labour with my first child. We had a LOT of pets, so my (then) husband had to go home a couple of times during labour to feed critters. After the last time, he was pretty tired, so he sat down in the big lounge chair in my room and fell asleep, while I was in labour... The nurse came in and went to kick his leg as she was appalled that he was asleep. I asked her not to wake him because he was driving me nuts, and having him asleep was a nice bit of respite for me. He woke up about half an hour later, only to find me arguing with another nurse that she needed to call my OB and alert her that I was going to have to transfer to a Caesarian. The nurse asked me why I thought that (in the most condescending tone I've EVER heard), and I said 'look at the baby's heart monitor tape', she did and said 'there's nothing wrong there, and your OB will be doing her rounds in about half an hour'. I just said 'OK, thanks' (no point arguing with an imbecile). The next nurse to come in was really nice, and I just politely asked her to please ask my OB to start her rounds in my room. She did that. My OB came in and said 'Hey, where's the fire?' I said 'Look at the tape, I'm pretty sure he's distressed, I think we're going to OR' The afore-mentioned condescending nurse was accompanying her, and was somewhat equally displeased and astonished when the OB took one look at the chart, and turned to her saying 'She's right, Go organise the OR, immediately'. My son was delivered, via Caesarian, about half an hour later. Oh, and, my (now-ex) husband proved as helpful after the delivery as he was prior.
I was in hospital for two days prior to giving birth, slow induction. My husband was there the whole time. Every time a midwife walked in and found him sleeping they would shake him awake too. Eventually I snapped and told them to go look up his information in the system because if they woke him one more time and he had a seizure I was going to scream the building down.
My mum was a nurse and Midwife (Australian system) when she had her first child they said they wouldn't release them from the hospital until she had done the "how to prepare formula" class just in case she was unable to breastfeed. (She was qualified to give the class) She said that was fine, she didn't mind staying when it meant someone else was cooking for her. Nearly got away with it until the next shift had someone who knew her.
@valk7229 No, I'm neither, but I have quite a good medical knowledge. Almost every time I (or my kids) have been in hospital or had discussions with medical professionals, I'd get asked whether I'm a doc or nurse. I usually just say 'Nope, I just read a lot'. (Or, sometimes I don't answer, so they keep thinking I'm qualified and don't give me too much shit). :)
My husband is an ER doc and was in year 2 of residency. He was switching his sleep schedule because he was supposed to start a month of night shifts. My water broke at 12:08am. I had to text him that my water broke (bedroom and office are on opposite ends of the house). He ran in so fast i started laughing and it caused a contraction. He slept while I labored with my insistence. I also felt very little pain as I got the epidural early seeing as they had to induce me anyways (water broke first and cervix wasn't dilating) and slept as much as I could. My husband was wide awake and aware of everything as I pushed. I had told him he was in charge of staying with baby incase anything happened to me. I almost ended up having emergency surgery because I was hemorrhaging. Thankfully the OB found the source and was able to stop the bleeding. It was the most wonderful and terrifying experience I've ever had.
I didn't have my husband anywhere near me when giving birth. I am a nurse and he's always had a problem with anything medical. He had, had a vasovagal attack whilst driving a couple of years before. I knew that watching me give birth would not be good for him so I told him to go. When he came to pick me up, I said I was going to say goodbye to a friend in another ward who was about to give birth. When I came back to the ward the emergency bell was ringing ( I had left him holding his son) when I got to the room he was passed out on the bed and luckily a nurse was holding our son. I then had to take my husband to A and E and sit on my stitches in pain while my husband saw the doctor! Such a help he wasn't.
My husband and I wanted our baby to do skin to skin with him too shortly after birth and were in the midst of their first time bonding when we let MIL and FIL into the delivery room. My father in law was *really* weirded out by it and after leaving apparently asked my mother in law "what kind of hippie bullsh*t" we were up to 😂
Why let your judgemental relative near you so soon after birth? Next time, if there is one, keep visitors away for the first 3-6 days....unless they bring food and do some household chores. You'll get more rest, and you won't have a negative memory associated with your child's birth. FIL sounds like an AH anyway....why have him near you, your newborn, and husband during what should be a very private and special time? My son had skin to skin contact frequently after his and my DILs baby girl was born. Both parents bond with their newborns if given support and privacy. I'm a grandmother who gave birth to my children at home with an RN Midwife. I appreciated having a clean, quiet, peaceful and private environment. We arranged for two young lady friends to attend our 2 and 6 year old kids while I labored & gave birth. Our RN Midwife had 2 assistants whose presence was very helpful but carefully unobtrusive. The Midwife hung a sign on our front door telling visitors to keep the visit time brief, please do something helpful during their visitation, and to STAY AWAY if they were ill.
@@OceanSwimmer I'm sorry, as much as I am sure you have the best of intentions, but if anything, your comment is what comes off as judgemental. You know nothing of my circumstances or my family. Your birth sounds lovely, but I have no regrets in regards to mine other than wishing I could have had my own family closer, but I live in another country. I love my FIL in all his brashness, and he and MIL have been immensely supportive to me and my husband and love their granddaughter to the moon and back. I'd urge you to practice more humility and not assume things about strangers on the internet...
Oh, I had to deal with that kind of attitude in response to me being the first woman to breastfeed my child. Family said I was " just doing it for attention and to be trendy. They make formula now. Breastfeeding nowadays is like walking miles to work when we have cars available." Smh
@@lorisreality8681 Oh gosh you just summed up my mother to the letter. "Mother they're for feeding _children_ ok? Stop making up stories about her" "Absolute RUBBISH, she's just doing anything she can to play up to a man and you saw how big _hers_ got, well she's got attention now hasn't she?"
My husband: "Well, when we have problems on the farm, we hook a chain to it, and pull it out with a truck....." OUT OUT OUT. " My gay best friend stayed for the entire labor. He is her Godfather.
@serahloeffelroberts9901 that's also not how youre supposed to pull a calf out either, pretty sure it was a joke abt getting the baby unstuck as if they were a vehicle stuck in the mud
Thirty years ago, I worked on a dairy farm and my boss told me how he got kicked out of the delivery room after offering to get his calf pulling chains to help speed up the delivery. His wife was not amused but the doctor was.
Our midwife was an australian horse woman. She was awesome. We clicked, and I had total trust. Yes, she laughed when he said that, but backed up that it would be better if he sat outside.....After seeing my 6'6" cowoy husand....she wasn't surprised our daughter was so LONG. She's 6'0" as an adult.
My husband slept and the night of i couldnt sleep but i was not mad. I was actually tremendously happy he was getting sleep because one of us needed to. He woke to me whimpering and i think that put him on edge because for that moment he had to be my advocate to get pain management, yes i could speak but i didnt want to call a nurse and wake him. After the epidural i was in and out all day but i did wake up while my mom was trying to get him to eat and take a break. I spoke up and said it was fine with me as i wanted him to be functioning for the baby. He left to eat and didnt even bring a drink back with him. He didnt get a bed or anything during the entire stay so hes making the best of his time and my focus was making sure we had 1 functioning adult between us both. Also, my nurses literally was telling us to take all the stuff for our baby. Theyre very helpful to young families or they just help in general.
My dad took a "nap" in the room while I was delivering one of my kids. However, it was right when things were getting serious and I was pushing the baby out, so we all suspect he was just being a bit squeamish and was looking for an excuse to close his eyes and not look. My husband on the other hand was extremely supportive and helpful for all of my deliveries.
My dad, thinking I was twins, wanted to name me Rufus Egbert Carlton Ray. Found out I was I one baby- no problem. Rufus Egbert Carlton Ray. They then said I was a girl. Rufusina Egbertina Carlotta Rae. This was in t he early 70s. The big ol mammie nurse went out to laugh at him. Thankfully my mom named me Ann Elizabeth
@stacycamacho59 l named mine Lenore Sabra and Yolonda Brianne. They are Noah Sabra and Rowan Brianne. I suggested Rowan became Ezra (she's in a male dominated field). Noah kind of threw me for a loop when she became he.
I had a pregnant patient in the ER and we had to get fetal heart tones on any pregnant pt. I did that, set the monitor in its carrying case down to do something else and then forgot about it. The next night when I came in for my shift my manager tells me that they got a call from the police about a monitor with the hospital’s name on it that a lady tried to pawn. Yep, these scumbags stole the monitor and tried to pawn it! I got fussed at a little, but we got the monitor back in the end. 🙄
My children, before each aged out also 1 has not aged out yet, have been going to the same doctor for 24 years. Not the same practice, the exact same doctor. Their Dad still cant tell you the doctor's name.
@Pyrlady Oh, I know that most hospitals do. My husband is a security supervisor and he works 11pm to 7am! His hospital would have had that man removed immediately!
My ex took our daughter to the doctor once (I was out of town at a work conference) and couldn't remember the instructions they gave him verbally. It was the early 1990s, before they gave you a print out with instructions. I actually got a more coherent report from our 7 year old.
Jason Kelce's wife said he has never watched their 3 daughters by himself if she leaves and he's home she still calls a babysitter to come watch the girls so he can do whatever he wants what a pos
That is really not what she said. She was talking about his busy schedule and wanting to make sure she was covered. She didn’t say it like there was a problem.
@@dartb1206it can still be a problem, even if she doesn't say it like it is a problem. Men should be active parents and be just as involved with their kids as their partner is expected to be. Other women excusing their partners being less involved parents doesn't help. But as women we are conditioned and taught that is expected and normal and we should just deal with it or shrug it off. That's just how men are, after all. NO. Turns out they can and should take a very active role in their kid's lives. My older brother is very involved with my niece. Takes her to practice all the time, knows all of her medical information and history, talks with her teachers frequently, sets up hang outs with her friends, etc. So they are capable and should be expected to participate that way. They very often wanted the kid too.
To be fair, he makes enough money to have a large staff of fully qualified babysitters on call 24/7, in addition to all the chefs/maids/other household staff. His wife probably doesn't need to stress out about much.
Every time I've been hospitalized, 3 times starting in December 2020, I've always been told to take whatever I wanted since it would just be thrown out.
I also asked for certain things to get sent home with that I was using and the nurses would just prepare a to-go bag for me! 😂 I still had a few Tagaderms and sets of gauze around for a wound covering.
May husband was great. And so was my Son in law. I was very fortunate to be in delivery when my first grandson was born. (I just sat in my seat and behave myself) And it was wonderful to see how it all went. The nurse asked would Grandma like to see? I got watch as my Son in law cut the cord. It was a blessing. We had just lost my husband 5 mos before. But he did know our daughter was expecting. So there are good dads in birthing rooms. 👍🏼💕
Wow my husband sounds like a saint. He was with me for both births and emergency c-sections (first 20 hours, 15 hours second). He held my hand when I wanted to, he cuddled me when I wanted to. He never complained, he didn't eat, he just wanted to be with me. He was also in the room when I had my c-sections and he cut our children's umbilical cords. He even stayed as late as he could after. With our first one a midwife thought he was my room mate and tried to force him to leave. Even though I told her he was my husband multiple times. I had to get another midwife to tell her. She wasn't even my midwife.
6:09 when i left the hospital after both my kids and after my son had surgery i was like no that's not mine with so much of the stuff and nurses kept shushing me as they jammed my bags full of stuff and went to grab more bags. I have so many hospital baby blankets.
I don't think I would care if my husband slept while waiting on the baby, so long he woke up, when I needed/ wanted him to be. This mostly because I'm gonna need to rest more postpartum and he will have to pick up the slack.
I guess I'm very lucky. My husband was (and is) a wonderful partner and father. He helped push my knee up while I was in labor (my sister had the other one), helped clean me up when I puked, and laughed when, upon cutting our son's umbilical cord, he got a few drops of blood on his shirt. We still laugh about that today, in fact, 16 years later. And he supported me through the PPD I had, after our son was born. He's always been there for me and our son, no matter what, where, or when. He DID have to leave me for a short time, after our son was born, though. He ended up down to the ER with a kidney stone! Apparently, he'd been in pain all morning. He toughed it out for me, as long as he could. But once our son was safely born, and I got settled in my room and was resting, he had to go. He was only down there a few hours, though, and was there for me every second, after he came back up. He's been there for me, and our son, every second since, too! 😊
When the anesthesiologist came into the room for the epidural, I said, “I bet you’re everyone’s best friend on this floor.” Also, after I had the epidural and was feeling no pain, I kept trying to close my legs but they kept opening. Our friend who was in the room said, “Adrienne, what are you doing?” I said, “I am trying to close my legs but they keep opening back up.” My husband then says, “And that is why I married her!” 🤣 Oh and before I had my epidural, my mom and stepdad were in the room talking to my husband. They were talking about the food they had eaten in detail. I obviously had not eaten for hours and the contractions were so painful. I lifted my head up and said, “The next person to mention food is getting kicked out of here. I don’t care how you are related to me!”
My second baby and my husband was there for it all, including the epidural. When my daughter finally came out I looked at my husband. He was white as a sheet! I thought he was going to pass out. He explained that it was seeing the needle going into my back.
My wife always said she'd rather give birth 10 times in one day than have a needle stuck in her spine. Kept her word and had 5 kids with no meds. Doesn't regret it for a second.
I knew someone who went to the ER for premature contractions. It happened at 2am, she tried waking up her husband(he is a heavy sleeper), he woke up enough to hear her tell him she was going to the ER, then went back to sleep. She drove herself to the ER, was diagnosed with premature contractions so had to stay for observation. They asked where her husband was and were surprised when she said he was home sleeping. She called him in the morning to tell him to come pick her up. When he walked in, all(and I mean ALL) the nurses were standing around/near her; they all wanted to see what this husband that let his wife drive herself to the ER alone looked like, lol. TBH she knew he was a heavy sleeper for years, she accepted it and didn't blame him, just laughed when he walked in.
I didn't care if my husband slept, ate, left, whatever. I just wanted my mom. She had to get in the Dr's face. He left me in labor 28hrs, I had eclampsia. My daughter was born in distressed, i didn't see her for 6hours. She has cerebral palsy. I lost a lot of blood. Needed plasma. It was the most traumatic experience for both of us.
My husband’s dad was divorcing my MIL while she was in labor with husband. Husbands dad wasn’t there he was with his new girlfriend who later on like 2 years later gave birth to husbands half sister(girlfriend gave birth to a total of 2 girls half sisters) and while that girl was delivering the second girl he was cheating on another girl. He was a serial cheater. I hope this makes sense. (Pretty much FIL was not there for any of his kids births. 5 kids and ditched them all. Not sure where the first born is but FIL doesn’t talk about him)
While my mom was in surgery, having my younger brother via c-section, my bio dad was having sex with another woman. My mom gave my brother her maiden name. Side note, the other woman in this story had done this multiple times. This being sleeping with men, while their wives, or girlfriends were giving birth to the men's children.
When i was in labor my ex had the gaul to fall asleep. I tried to wake him up and he continued to sleep. I threw my water pitcher at him. That woke him up. 😂
I'm always shocked by the fact the US doesn't let birthing mothers eat. I'm Australian, I was induced for my twins they brought me meals and snacks constantly. I mean I got my epidural placed, had Twin A's water broken, ate lunch, then they started my pitocin. 6 hours later my midwife walked in as the dinner lady was dropping off my meal. Midwife goes "I'll just check first... ok, while I get the room ready you eat your soup and cake, you need energy for this. Dad, you take the main meal, it's just going to give her heartburn and I don't want you fainting. I'll go grab some sandwich packs." She didn't even call the OB until I had eaten my meal and then gave me a sandwich while we waited. Freebies: I got a dozen sheets of dry gel ice packs from my midwives, Australia doesn't do freebies in hospital, but if you need an ice pack the midwives will give you a heap to take home.
Midwives let the mama eat and studies show it's better for mom to eat and baby also get nutrients. But at the hospital they think "just in case you need a C-section you shouldn't eat because aspiration risk". However studies ALSO show that's it's better to aspirate on food stomach contents than plain stomach acid. Research hasn't caught up to practice and doctors do what's convenient for them not mom.
I'm in the us, and granted, I had my son 16 years ago, but they didn't tell me NOT to eat, when I was in early labor (in hard labor I was only allowed ice chips, but ofc I wasn't worried about food then). They did tell me not to eat anything heavy, though, I think they said because it could make me nauseous, and to only eat a light meal. Like your soup, which is what I had. But it didn't matter either way, because once I was in hard labor I got nauseous anyway, and then I puked it all back up lol.
If you bypass the hospital for midwives in a birthing center or home birth they’ll actually encourage you to eat and may show up to your delivery with protein bars and coconut water. It’s only the hospitals that do that that I have seen.
My ex spent more time outside smoking than in the room with me when I was in labor, and also by the time I had her I hadn't eaten in over 24 hours, so after delivery the nurse was nice enough to find me something to eat (it was after 1 am) and my ex decided to eat half of it, I love my daughter but I'm so glad I didn't stay with him
30 years ago we had our son in a Naval Hospital. That means they are a training facility. Most of the nurses, aids and corpsman were males. I was in labor for 15 hours. And 4 of them on Pitocin. No pain meds. So, we had a couple shift changes. My husband was concerned about the males checking on me. He actually asked the charge nurse if only female staff to attend to me. I told him, I don't fricken care who is in this room. I just wanted this baby out of me.
I once told a younger friend, who was worried about pooping on the table when she had a baby in the future, the same thing. I said, "First of all, EVERYONE poops during labor. It's completely normal, and the medical staff have seen it a million times, and they will not care. Hell, they probably won't even say anything. Besides, when you get to that point, YOU won't care either. I promise. Matter of fact, by the time you're at the point of pooping on the table, you won't care if the hospital janitor comes in with a baseball glove, a roll of paper towels, and a mop bucket full of bleach water, pounds that glove with his fist, and goes, 'Okay, I'm ready to catch that baby AND clean it up! Let's go!' You'll just be like "Let's do it!" You will NOT care. You'll just want that baby out, and be glad there's someone there to catch it!" 😂😂
I was an RN in the PICU. We had a baby who was obviously hungry but unfortunately the mom informed us that the baby would have to wait because dad had just finished drinking...
We did not try to steal any supplies while in the ob gyn…I think maybe the lack of stuff disappearing into our bags, and our good manners, combined with the mortifying way my ILs behaved in front of the nurses and the sexist things they said about our baby daughter in the hallway, caused them to load us up to the gills with supplies and kind comments afterwards. God bless them!
I worked in a social program office. The number of kids with weird names is outstanding. Library, yes Library, KingJames, one word, PrinceMichael, one word, Vagina, Blige, Quarter, Apple and Northwest. Some people really hate their kids I think.
Knew of a woman who named her 3 sons after SUVs; Expedition, Suburban, and Escalade. Also heard about a Samoan woman who named her daughter Female(pronounced Feh-mah-leh).
So, while I was in labor my son got stuck and he had to be pulled out. I was passing out in between contractions and sometimes during pushing. It was horrible. Once he was out my husband said “your v*gina was just too small” or something like that. I was too high on whatever they gave me but I remember being completely mortified (as much as I could have been in that moment).
I swear some of these guys clearly have no fathers. I was raised by a pretty masculine dad and I couldn’t see myself doing any of this. Not because I know a lot about women but because I have a basic amount of human empathy. It’s really not that hard if an autistic person can do it so can you.
When my roommate was in labor, her support person both slept in the room and ate in front of her. It was me. I was her support person. In my defense, at dinner I hadn't eaten enough to get me through the night. I was only supposed to be getting her checked in, and staying until her sister and/or her baby daddy showed up. Unfortunately, we checked her in a little after midnight, and two weeks before her due date. Her niece had borrowed the car overnight, my friend's sister had no way to get there until after the baby had already arrived. Baby Daddy never answered his phone, so she called his sister, who informed her that his phone was malfunctioning. Honestly, I think his new girlfriend had something to do with him missing the birth of his only daughter. I had promised to stay until someone showed, and that's what I did. I stayed there for more than ten hours, and she was in labor for seven of those hours. She was trying to sleep at the same time that I was napping, I was just slightly more successful, on account of not being in labor. I had packed her a whole loaf of freshly baked banana bread for her hospital stay, because she's got health issues, which meant that they were going to keep her there longer than most people who give birth, and I wanted to make sure she had something good to snack on. I did ask her permission to eat a piece while she was in labor, and she said it was fine. She actually asked nursing staff about the cafeteria opening for breakfast, and made sure I ran down to eat something as soon as it was open. I ate as fast as I could, and managed to get back just in time for the delivery to start. Maybe I wasn't the best support person, but I kept my word, and stayed there until her sister showed up, at 10:30 in the morning. My roommate made sure I got my own set of baby footprints to celebrate the first time I had ever seen a person be born. I would say that I have them to this day, but that was, like, four months ago, so not having lost them isn't super impressive.
Both of mine were born at home. We had midwives and doulas. First baby took 10 1/2 hrs from water break to delivery. 2nd baby took 4 hrs, and I was eating a pimiento cheese sandwich while we caught the baby. Mom was a super trooper- no meds, 90 or nothing! Both babies perfectly healthy, its now 15 and 12 years later! 🥰
@chickenlover657 That's cool. I mean, billions of people have babies in garbage dumps, or in African bushes while being chased by gangs burning down their villages, so yeah. Guess it's not that impressive either. In the US, though, everyone is conditioned to have their babies via C section at the hospital, so I thought we were pretty awesome. But good on you.
When I had my 2nd daughter, my husband at the time arrived late & walked in with my now ex best friend who he was having an affair with. They stayed 10 mins and left together.
My husband is a briilliant father. He was their for the birth of all his (7) kids (4 from previous marriage). My kids (now grown) and i are autistic. He handles all medical appointments, is on top of all our medications. He's a pro. 🥰
With our first child we were told SHE was a boy. Well she was not a boy. My smart-ass husband said "put the baby back in its not done cooking" Every time this story comes up I remind him he was lucky there wasn't a knife nearby because he would have become a man with nothing to have fun with. The way the nurses were glaring at him they would have backed me up. Married for 38 years and he never again said anything stupid in the labor room. We had three more kids.
The hardest part for me was getting there at 7am. My new momma tour for the hospital was at 9am. Longest 4 minutes of my life. I said I am here to have my baby. She kept telling me, But your tour doesn't start until 9! Finally I had a hard contraction, doubled over and watched her light bulb come on!
Ya, alcoholic father should have been kicked out. Staff could ask him to leave while notifying him Security and/or Police will remove him if he doesn't take an Uber home. My ex is an alcoholic, and frankly, it was like having a toddler around. Not what I needed or wanted while raising 3 children. He was, and is still a shitty father, an opinion I keep to myself. His second wife is stuck with him now - she's not too happy. Not my Circus - Not my Monkey!
Was in a birthing center across the street from the hospital. Transfer time 3 minutes via tunnel under the street. Didn't need the transfer. Instead had natural birth with a 10lb7oz 21" baby girl.....
Was this birthing center in a medieval castle? That’s crazy that they literally built a secret passageway between the center and the hospital. Are they that scared of people seeing pregnant women?
@@jordanwhite8718 Well they said "under the street" so it makes sense to me so that an emergency doesn't need to wait for traffic or risk anyone needing to cross said street while in a rush.
Here in Germany you have the option for water birth in most hospitals. I don't know about special clinics for that here (never heared of it ^^'''). I wanted to do a water birth with my first child, but had problems with the birth procedure, so I had to go from delivery to surgery after 13 hours of contractions and so on. And the way to the surgery (which was a few floors above delivery) was long enough, imo ^^''' Can't imagine what would have happened if it wouldn't have been so near. Also we don't need to take things from the hospital that isn't ours... we get a big bag full of things for the first weeks of the baby (some diapers, milk powder, etc.) before leaving...they are provided through companies, who produce them (so, like samples, but more than just samples for the most part), so they can show you what you're missing out on, if you don't buy their stuff ;)
4:39 Sympathy, get him into psychiatric and sober living for a while. But i also think he shouldn't be allowed to be the dad in the actual dad role till he puts the bottle down again speaking from my own personal experience, trying to make things work with both an addict and then later on my mom also after finding her via ancestry, she's only recently started trying to recover once i came back Being an addict just instantly disqualifies a guy from being a dad or in the same room as me
When I was in kindergarten, I broke my arm. They set it wrong, and had to change the cast. My dad told me they were going to cut my arm off. He thought it was a funny joke. I reacted exactly as one would expect when they brought in the saw. My mom and the hospital staff were very angry with my dad.
My dad wanted to name my son. (His first grandchild). My son's name is Harley Davidson. He is 15 now and loves his name and loves the fact that his grandpa (who is no longer with us) named him.
My dad had fun whenever the machine said a contraction was coming he would say there she blows, my mom was not happy with him. He said I looked like a Play-Doh factory when I came out.
i didn't even get the opportunity to steal anything from the hospital after my kids were born, they literally pushed it into my arms. "here's a whole stack of maternity pads, and the plastic puke bin with the cup and the brush and comb and peri bottle and the special antimicrobial body wash and the shampoo and some diapers and some formula and a couple baby blankets and knit hats and the heavy duty water bottle that holds more than a stanley, let me get you some extra bags to carry that in..."
Um, no. When my water broke and I was in labor for 49 hours, I told my husband to sleep so that someone wouldn't be exhausted when it was all over. XD He didn't miss anything. 😅 Because I am the breadwinner, he's also the person who takes kiddo to the doctor and knows most of the deets. This video is silly and fun, but it's also quite old-fashioned. Dads can be awesome and they deserve to rest, too!
Im so glad I work in Radiology and so very rarely have to venture over to our L&D area to go bring someone over for imaging. My bluntness and shaming would get me into trouble. 😂
My husband named our daughter Silvia from his drift car, the Nissan s13 240sx. Silvia is a great car line. I fell in love with him because of his car 😂 not as weird as one of our neighbors. The girls were named Chevy and Porsche. 😅
As aunt, my job was to be support for dad while he was there to be support for mom. I was there to get food for them. I was able to bring a jacket because my brother didn't realize how cold the delivery rooms would be. I played cards with my brother-in-law while my sister slept.
America is the ONLY 1st world country that doesn't allow a labouring mother to eat, during active labour! It is the wildest thing. Because ONE woman allegedly chocked they THINK once. This is so weird. The woman is running a marathon let he eat to keep her strength up.
My husband pulled some of that crap plus some with our first. You bet with the other two he did much better. Fun fact. My water never broke til the first push so the nurse or Dr got covered all 3 times.
OMG! I LOVE that you had a clip of Jason Kelce sleeping while Kylie was in labor! She just showed it not too long ago on her own podcast! They're about to have #4!!
Every time I see or hear of stuff like this, I am so glad I never married or had children. People have been saying that I would change my mind about marriage and family when I got older, but that never happened. I'm forty-five and still free! I am, however, really sorry for all those who either gave in to societal pressure or else thought things would be different.😢I hope all of you women find someone worthy of all that you've sacrificed for them. Men don't seem to understand that women don't get much out of marriage.
I’m only 32 and I still get pestered about why I’m unmarried with no kids. But I’m from an extremely red area where most people have a baby before they have their high school diploma, so they can’t even understand that their life is totally avoidable. I’ve been married before and I won’t make that mistake again. If the ring doesn’t make their mask drop, two pink lines will! I’m sorry to everyone who was let down by their partner during or after birth, but their stories reassure me that I’m right in never ever having been pregnant!
@aprilmendenhall6705 I was born and raised in a blue area, but moved to a red one in my early twenties. If it's anywhere like I'm living, family, friends, and even complete strangers are going to keep pestering you until you're in your forties, like myself. Sorry. The good news is that it will stop when your 'prime childbearing' years have passed. They will, however, remain confused as to why you aren't showing any regret for your decision. Eventually, they will come to accept that you're different. It just takes half of your life for people to get there! So hang in there, relief from the marriage/children/grandchildren, verbal assault is coming!😁
@@DianeValerieWright-u3d I’ve only got another decade or so to go… I don’t get why they all complain to no end about marriage and parenthood and then don’t understand why we don’t want to do it. Am I saying it’s wrong to get married and/or have kids? Not at all. Freedom of choice, baby! What I am saying is they should not describe a Brazilian wax and then get upset when someone says they’ll stick to shaving 😆
@@DianeValerieWright-u3d This is so true! I got shamed and blamed for not having kids and not being yet _another_ teen pregnancy tragedy, but now that I don't have debts the same family that disowned has wanted my financial security. My final answer; "Hmmm who's this? Nah sorry wrong number" and I hung up. At a few months to 40 I am FINALLY FREE!
I work at a nursing home that has a rehab section. More often than not the people coming in for short term therapy take anything they can get their hands on when they leave-toilet paper, towels, clothes they’ve borrowed from us etc. it’s nuts lol
With healthcare prices being as outrageous as they are, I don’t blame any of those people. If I’m gonna get bullshit charges for it whether or not I use it, then it’s coming with me!
When my grandfather was in the hospital, he brought up 4 throw up buckets, several shampoos and shaving creams, so much crap. The nurses told us they kept dropping it off? and they didn't know how to get them to stop! no one was asking for more stuff! the entire floor was over packed
My husband was worried about having to see our son being delivered. I told him that he didn’t have to look at the son comming out, his job would be at the head of the bed, looking out for me. On the day, he started at the head of the bed but then couldn’t help him self and both looked and cut the umbilical cord.
I was in the room when my sister had a cesarean, and I didn't have to change. They just had me put scrubs on over my regular clothes. Maybe it depends on where you are?
For the last one 👀 I’m curious what the wife/mom thought. But maybe it was a normal part of their lovin’. Babies suckling is different. 🤱👶 I bet if he tries once she lets down he’ll get a surprise. Or he won’t even have to try because the milk just leaks. 😂
I had horrible birth partners. J is the dad of kid 1, L is for kids 2&3. J left with his step dad to get my bag and they stopped for a sit down dinner! J only had to go get my bag because he refused to believe I was in labor as it was 3 weeks early. I was going to the hospital for a scheduled NFT and he wouldnt let me take my bag. L ate McDonald's immediately upon arrival with kid 2 and slept while I was up for 24 hours in labor with kid 3, unmedicated. L also claimed labor wasn't really that bad (painful) for me because the monitor didn't max out during contractions, I was exaggerating or just had a low pain tolerance. They're both exes for many reasons, this included.
I am so sorry to the other posters, I evidently had wonderful childbirth experiences in comparison. But I did have a water birth in a birthing center that was one block away and across the street from the L&D Emergency Department of the hospital. My husband was no where near me, which was good or I might have tried to drown him. The atmosphere in the birthing center was soothing and quiet and the room had a picture window facing the beach and as my son arrived, I watched the sunrise. No stitches as I had only a slight puckering that would heal well. Amazing since the child was 9 lbs 11 oz and 20 inches long. We did skin to skin with his umbilical cord still attached, and he nursed within 60 seconds of being born. My father cut the cord when it stopped pulsing. Some time much later, my husband came back having gotten breakfast at Denny's with his father. Absent partner, didn't miss him. Divorced a few months later. Those words said it all "Absent Partner."
My only child was born in 2004, no pain relief after induction "it's too late", regardless of what I requested. Every other Mum I have spoken to, who was on "Social Security" our government financial assistance, when delivering, had the exact same experience. I truely believe if you are a public patient, you don't get pain meds, no matter what.
I have been in the hospital abbout 20 times sometimes for as long as 9 days..i was charged for every roll of paper tape, every bandaid , every pill, every ace bandaid etc..except for jellp, ice cream, soda..food. read your itinized bill. Last time i was charged $9 for a Tylenol! The strength the $ store carries.
When i was pregnant with my 1st baby, my ex-husband asked me when the "EGG" broke and if it would break open during labor to let the baby out. I didn't understand what he meant! After thinking about it for a while I figured it out.. He thought that the sperm entered my ovary "egg" and that the "egg" just got bigger and bigger until baby came 😂😂😂
When we married @ 18yo hubby thought babies came from a woman’s belly button…his mom and dad were very religious and never discussed sex or showed affection in front of the kids..my family was very open about sex..I thought “what makes him think babies come from the belly button” and I realized he thought that in reference to women having c section..had to educate that boy really fast and after 45 years I think he finally gets it😂
My father couldn't be bothered remembering my birth date, couldn't understand why no-one laughed at his 'jokes' about asking my mother or that's what my birth certificate was for, though he jokes he didn't think I was his because I didn't behave like him. NO-ONE needed to trust me.
I have two stories about dads during birth: one about my grandad (I don't remember who was born my dad or his sister, so it is either 1967 or 1979) and the second is about my dad (1991 - that was me). Both stories happened on military bases in USSR. Grandma was giving birth in a tiny one-store building. Dad's weren't alowed in. So my granddad was running outside around the building, peering into the windows, and each time he caught someone passing by the window, he asked them to check on granny. At some point she said: "Honey, please, go home. You are breaking the work flow." With my birth that was even simpler. My dad wasn't anywhere near the hospital (none of the dads were). He was getting our whole neiborhood hammored on homemade wine. I belive there was not only wine as my family lived near an ennormose field of ganja.
First, my dad was AMAZING, knew everything! My ex-husband I bought prune juice for me because I was breastfeeding! My ex gave it to the baby 2oz an 1oz water! Leaving los angeles BTW we got to palm springs it was a mess! Dad stayed up all night changing diapers! And rinsing her off !They gave me something to stop 💩 💩 💩! Me and the baby!
So I had my son back in 2022. My husband was sleeping during the beginning part of my labor. I didn't mind. The reason is because that day before so my son was born Sept 4th 2022. On Sept 3rd 2022 around 8 pm his father died. We were already at the hospital. Within that hour I started having contractions. I wasn't due until the next week. I decided to go to the labor unit which was a floor below where he was sitting with his dad while he was talking to him still eventhough it would be the last time. I told him it was okay and that I understood. When I got to the labor unit they said I already started dilating. My doctor who would deliver our son told them that he would go ahead and induce the labor with a hooked object. So he made a little tear and then after that I stayed in bed and I told my husband after he was helping me relax after the doctor induced me that he can sit down and if he needed to then he can relax and try to sleep some. By the morning around 8 am our son was born. I can say that since that day my husband and I have changed and grown closer. I know it still hurts him that his dad passed but I always tell him our son is the light at the end of the tunnel. He was the good that came out of it. It really was upsetting that his dad couldn't be there a little longer for the birth but God had called him to go home. I know he is watching over us and i can't say how proud I am of my husband. With what happened and the end result it was a blessing really. We went there to say our final goodbyes and love you to his father and literally came out the next day with our son. We named our son Jericho. He really does take after his dad's side. ❤ I just wanted to share this with everyone. I'm so proud of my husband and the man he has become. ❤ I know his mom is proud of him too. ❤
My husband is ALWAYS talking about how our toddler getting sick makes him sick or how our son is contagious and going to infect him. No sympathy for anyone else. Just himself. I will admit, I also don't want him to get sick. He's the worst. And that's saying a lot.
My youngest is 16 months, my oldest (11 at the time) was at the birth (off to the side and on the Switch most of the time). Well 3.5 hours after the start of the induction, baby girl was here. My son cuddled her before my husband did, as soon as holding her was offered, he practically ripped his shirt off so he could cuddle his sister skin to skin. He had no issues or worries about cuddling his sister before she got cleaned up.
We’ve had five deliveries, four living babies, my hubs slept when I gave him the thumbs up, once my epidurals kicked in. Once baby was born, I slept and he stayed awake with baby. It worked out great for us! I wanted him comfortable and he wanted me to have everything I needed. He’s the best.
Right after getting my episiotomy stitches, my husband said he was so glad childbirth wasn’t as painful or scary as he had imagined. Pretty sure it was 0/10 pain, for HIM!
That makes me so mad for you lol. I ended up with third degree tearing and 57 stitches. 10 years later, I still have problems down there and a hole in my skin that shouldn’t be there. But sure, 0/10 pain buddy. 🙌🏻 if it makes you feel better, my ex husband fell asleep standing up DURING labor and almost pulled out my IV lines. My mom slapped him (which was so unbelievably out of character for her-I’ve never seen her hit anyone before) and kicked him out. I actually totally forgot about all of that. Lol 😂 memories unlocked.
Oof he'd be in the doghouse for that one!
@@jennifergraceh go, mom, go!! 😂😂😂
@@jennifergraceh I hope that's part of why he's your ex
Was he one of these guys that asked for a few extra stitches? I heard one doctor replied, "just how small are you? "😂
My ex not only slept when I was in labor, but after I ended up having a c-section, he complained when I couldn't get up to get the baby from the hospital bassinet. I had to wake him up, and he got angry.
I'm happy you said ex because he sounded as bad as my ex 😔 unfortunately I didn't see the red flags until years later.
@midnightt9569 meeeee tooooooo
A little narcissistic, maybe? My ex made me cook breakfast while I was laboring.
@@ash2larbruh what the actual fuck
I'm glad you said ex
If he "just started drinking again today", he is not a recovering alcoholic, he IS an alcoholic. And for the sake of her child, that mom has to leave denial land and get serious about protecting her child.
Recovering alcoholics are still alcoholics. That's why they don't say "recovered". It's a process. I agree that mom needs to protect her child, though.
She needs Al-Anon
@@marilynmcmahon5932or something that actually works like treating the underlying conditions for why the husband drinks in the first place. 12 step programs are fantasy fueled trash
When my first son was born, the nurses were practically stuffing our new (free, hospital-provided) diaper bag with wipes, blankets, diapers… all the things! They said that once it was in our room it was ours; they couldn’t give it to another patient so we needed to take it. We got sooooooo much free stuff. 😂 That “baby” is 14 now, our youngest child is our last, and we still have that diaper bag!!
I'm glad that is what happens in the US. You are from the US right? I heard that giving birth is very expensive there, so I'm glad they give you stuff
@@carolineseguin-ro5vt definitely not what happened the 3 times I gave birth in a US hospital 🤷♀️
This! I was in NICU with my son for 6 weeks. They told us to take what ever was in our room except for clothes. We have a hospital grade thermometer(a bit chocked they don’t sterilize that equipment for reuse) and a bunch of little syringes we still use 3 years later 👍
We were told the same. We had another couple sharing the room with us who left before us, they left everything behind on the trolley. They orderly came by to clear their area and asked if we wanted to take the stuff from there too since with would just be thrown away. We ended up with twice as many nappies, wipes, blankets, pads etc. It was great!
Haha none of this is free! It all comes out in the wash!
Mine sat next to me on his phone. When it came time for the baby to actually come out, and without discussing it with me before hand, this was NEVER in the plans, he decided to get up and stand at the bottom of the bed behind the nurse and doctor (but in between them so he could see) with his head tilted slightly like a curious dog so he could watch. Instead of being my support. His reason was "it was the only time I'd be able to see something like that." Then he couldn't understand why I was so pissed when I felt like a science experiment.
@@VixLeu gawd. I thought you were going to say he got up and filmed the event from that vantage point. Ay letast he didn't do that. You didn't mention, so is that your ex husband now?
My husband did the same thing with the same excuse.
If my hubby had done that he would have been scolded but I would have afterward scolded him for not videoing it. I never get that viewpoint!
My x husband actually went home to sleep when I was in labor. A very high risk labor I almost didn't survive. Now, I will say I wasn't in danger when he went home, but I still kinda had feelings. I heard his mom having to yell at him to wake up when I called to say I was at 8 cm and very effaced. The hospital didn't actually make us steal stuff. They had two full diaper bags and other supplies, including a couple weeks of formula all piled up for us. Lots of receiving blankets and little hats and t-shirts and little socks. A whole bunch of stuff.
Well that's awesome the hospital actually gave you supplies to go home with
I'm so glad the hospital didn't force you to steal. It's always nice when that happens.
My wife had a 3 day induction..I was told by medical staff to go home and sleep. I refused and slept fleetingly in chairs for 4 nights. On the last night in recovery my wife took pity and we shared hers next to our brand new son.
My husband got to do the skin-to-skin because I had to have an emergency c-section and I was hemorrhaging pretty badly. It was adorable see husband with his baby ❤
Glad you are okay.
Nah the guy who got undressed to put on the scrubs is just funny and cluelessly cute. 10/10 He's a keeper.
Same as the guy with the milk question; clueless but exceedingly well intentioned.
I had a 36 hour labour with my first child. We had a LOT of pets, so my (then) husband had to go home a couple of times during labour to feed critters. After the last time, he was pretty tired, so he sat down in the big lounge chair in my room and fell asleep, while I was in labour...
The nurse came in and went to kick his leg as she was appalled that he was asleep.
I asked her not to wake him because he was driving me nuts, and having him asleep was a nice bit of respite for me.
He woke up about half an hour later, only to find me arguing with another nurse that she needed to call my OB and alert her that I was going to have to transfer to a Caesarian. The nurse asked me why I thought that (in the most condescending tone I've EVER heard), and I said 'look at the baby's heart monitor tape', she did and said 'there's nothing wrong there, and your OB will be doing her rounds in about half an hour'.
I just said 'OK, thanks' (no point arguing with an imbecile).
The next nurse to come in was really nice, and I just politely asked her to please ask my OB to start her rounds in my room. She did that. My OB came in and said 'Hey, where's the fire?' I said 'Look at the tape, I'm pretty sure he's distressed, I think we're going to OR'
The afore-mentioned condescending nurse was accompanying her, and was somewhat equally displeased and astonished when the OB took one look at the chart, and turned to her saying 'She's right, Go organise the OR, immediately'.
My son was delivered, via Caesarian, about half an hour later.
Oh, and, my (now-ex) husband proved as helpful after the delivery as he was prior.
I was in hospital for two days prior to giving birth, slow induction. My husband was there the whole time. Every time a midwife walked in and found him sleeping they would shake him awake too. Eventually I snapped and told them to go look up his information in the system because if they woke him one more time and he had a seizure I was going to scream the building down.
My mum was a nurse and Midwife (Australian system) when she had her first child they said they wouldn't release them from the hospital until she had done the "how to prepare formula" class just in case she was unable to breastfeed. (She was qualified to give the class) She said that was fine, she didn't mind staying when it meant someone else was cooking for her. Nearly got away with it until the next shift had someone who knew her.
How did you know? Are you a nurse or midwife? Good for you that you got validation.
@valk7229 No, I'm neither, but I have quite a good medical knowledge.
Almost every time I (or my kids) have been in hospital or had discussions with medical professionals, I'd get asked whether I'm a doc or nurse.
I usually just say 'Nope, I just read a lot'.
(Or, sometimes I don't answer, so they keep thinking I'm qualified and don't give me too much shit). :)
@ Did your hubby suffer from seizures, or was he having a bit of a panic when he was woken up?
My husband is an ER doc and was in year 2 of residency. He was switching his sleep schedule because he was supposed to start a month of night shifts. My water broke at 12:08am. I had to text him that my water broke (bedroom and office are on opposite ends of the house). He ran in so fast i started laughing and it caused a contraction. He slept while I labored with my insistence. I also felt very little pain as I got the epidural early seeing as they had to induce me anyways (water broke first and cervix wasn't dilating) and slept as much as I could. My husband was wide awake and aware of everything as I pushed. I had told him he was in charge of staying with baby incase anything happened to me. I almost ended up having emergency surgery because I was hemorrhaging. Thankfully the OB found the source and was able to stop the bleeding. It was the most wonderful and terrifying experience I've ever had.
I didn't have my husband anywhere near me when giving birth. I am a nurse and he's always had a problem with anything medical. He had, had a vasovagal attack whilst driving a couple of years before. I knew that watching me give birth would not be good for him so I told him to go. When he came to pick me up, I said I was going to say goodbye to a friend in another ward who was about to give birth. When I came back to the ward the emergency bell was ringing ( I had left him holding his son) when I got to the room he was passed out on the bed and luckily a nurse was holding our son. I then had to take my husband to A and E and sit on my stitches in pain while my husband saw the doctor!
Such a help he wasn't.
ID DUVORCE HIM HAHAHAHA
My husband and I wanted our baby to do skin to skin with him too shortly after birth and were in the midst of their first time bonding when we let MIL and FIL into the delivery room.
My father in law was *really* weirded out by it and after leaving apparently asked my mother in law "what kind of hippie bullsh*t" we were up to 😂
Hippie bullshit 😂😂😂😂 love that !
Why let your judgemental relative near you so soon after birth?
Next time, if there is one, keep visitors away for the first 3-6 days....unless they bring food and do some household chores.
You'll get more rest, and you won't have a negative memory associated with your child's birth.
FIL sounds like an AH anyway....why have him near you, your newborn, and husband during what should be a very private and special time?
My son had skin to skin contact frequently after his and my DILs baby girl was born.
Both parents bond with their newborns if given support and privacy.
I'm a grandmother who gave birth to my children at home with an RN Midwife.
I appreciated having a clean, quiet, peaceful and private environment. We arranged for two young lady friends to attend our 2 and 6 year old kids while I labored & gave birth. Our RN Midwife had 2 assistants whose presence was very helpful but carefully unobtrusive.
The Midwife hung a sign on our front door telling visitors to keep the visit time brief, please do something helpful during their visitation, and to STAY AWAY if they were ill.
@@OceanSwimmer I'm sorry, as much as I am sure you have the best of intentions, but if anything, your comment is what comes off as judgemental.
You know nothing of my circumstances or my family.
Your birth sounds lovely, but I have no regrets in regards to mine other than wishing I could have had my own family closer, but I live in another country.
I love my FIL in all his brashness, and he and MIL have been immensely supportive to me and my husband and love their granddaughter to the moon and back.
I'd urge you to practice more humility and not assume things about strangers on the internet...
Oh, I had to deal with that kind of attitude in response to me being the first woman to breastfeed my child. Family said I was " just doing it for attention and to be trendy. They make formula now. Breastfeeding nowadays is like walking miles to work when we have cars available." Smh
@@lorisreality8681 Oh gosh you just summed up my mother to the letter.
"Mother they're for feeding _children_ ok? Stop making up stories about her"
"Absolute RUBBISH, she's just doing anything she can to play up to a man and you saw how big _hers_ got, well she's got attention now hasn't she?"
My husband: "Well, when we have problems on the farm, we hook a chain to it, and pull it out with a truck....." OUT OUT OUT. " My gay best friend stayed for the entire labor. He is her Godfather.
Humans are not shaped like cows!
@serahloeffelroberts9901 that's also not how youre supposed to pull a calf out either, pretty sure it was a joke abt getting the baby unstuck as if they were a vehicle stuck in the mud
Thirty years ago, I worked on a dairy farm and my boss told me how he got kicked out of the delivery room after offering to get his calf pulling chains to help speed up the delivery. His wife was not amused but the doctor was.
Poor cow…
Our midwife was an australian horse woman. She was awesome. We clicked, and I had total trust. Yes, she laughed when he said that, but backed up that it would be better if he sat outside.....After seeing my 6'6" cowoy husand....she wasn't surprised our daughter was so LONG. She's 6'0" as an adult.
My husband slept and the night of i couldnt sleep but i was not mad. I was actually tremendously happy he was getting sleep because one of us needed to. He woke to me whimpering and i think that put him on edge because for that moment he had to be my advocate to get pain management, yes i could speak but i didnt want to call a nurse and wake him. After the epidural i was in and out all day but i did wake up while my mom was trying to get him to eat and take a break. I spoke up and said it was fine with me as i wanted him to be functioning for the baby. He left to eat and didnt even bring a drink back with him. He didnt get a bed or anything during the entire stay so hes making the best of his time and my focus was making sure we had 1 functioning adult between us both.
Also, my nurses literally was telling us to take all the stuff for our baby. Theyre very helpful to young families or they just help in general.
My dad took a "nap" in the room while I was delivering one of my kids. However, it was right when things were getting serious and I was pushing the baby out, so we all suspect he was just being a bit squeamish and was looking for an excuse to close his eyes and not look. My husband on the other hand was extremely supportive and helpful for all of my deliveries.
I might be reading your comment incorrectly, or maybe misunderstanding, but why did you want your dad in the room with you?
@@jocelynsmyth6604 It was the first grandkid. My parents were there, my brother was there, everybody was there. It was a bit of a spectacle.
My dad, thinking I was twins, wanted to name me Rufus Egbert Carlton Ray. Found out I was I one baby- no problem. Rufus Egbert Carlton Ray. They then said I was a girl. Rufusina Egbertina Carlotta Rae. This was in t he early 70s. The big ol mammie nurse went out to laugh at him. Thankfully my mom named me Ann Elizabeth
Lol. I wanted to name my oldest son axl rose.. from guns n roses. My mom said no.. 😂😂😂😂
@stacycamacho59 l named mine Lenore Sabra and Yolonda Brianne. They are Noah Sabra and Rowan Brianne. I suggested Rowan became Ezra (she's in a male dominated field). Noah kind of threw me for a loop when she became he.
M David Charles would have been Davianne Charlene. LOL. 1977.
@cilleshaner4092 I was 73.
my husband's baby name suggestions: ninja spider, rabindranath tagore, and asmoranomardicadaistinaculdacar. 🙄
I had a pregnant patient in the ER and we had to get fetal heart tones on any pregnant pt. I did that, set the monitor in its carrying case down to do something else and then forgot about it. The next night when I came in for my shift my manager tells me that they got a call from the police about a monitor with the hospital’s name on it that a lady tried to pawn. Yep, these scumbags stole the monitor and tried to pawn it! I got fussed at a little, but we got the monitor back in the end. 🙄
My children, before each aged out also 1 has not aged out yet, have been going to the same doctor for 24 years. Not the same practice, the exact same doctor. Their Dad still cant tell you the doctor's name.
Nothing worse than a narcissist with a child in the hospital.
Why wasn't security called on the alcoholic?
My question as well.
Security and/or Police would get that nuisance outa there fast. Whatta jerk!
Might not have had security after hours. It's not uncommon these days.
@Pyrlady Oh, I know that most hospitals do. My husband is a security supervisor and he works 11pm to 7am! His hospital would have had that man removed immediately!
My ex took our daughter to the doctor once (I was out of town at a work conference) and couldn't remember the instructions they gave him verbally. It was the early 1990s, before they gave you a print out with instructions. I actually got a more coherent report from our 7 year old.
Jason Kelce's wife said he has never watched their 3 daughters by himself if she leaves and he's home she still calls a babysitter to come watch the girls so he can do whatever he wants what a pos
WTF would he do if she was in a car accident and in the hospital for months or died? Probably give them to his parents or her parents to raise.
That is really not what she said. She was talking about his busy schedule and wanting to make sure she was covered. She didn’t say it like there was a problem.
@@dartb1206it can still be a problem, even if she doesn't say it like it is a problem. Men should be active parents and be just as involved with their kids as their partner is expected to be. Other women excusing their partners being less involved parents doesn't help. But as women we are conditioned and taught that is expected and normal and we should just deal with it or shrug it off. That's just how men are, after all. NO. Turns out they can and should take a very active role in their kid's lives. My older brother is very involved with my niece. Takes her to practice all the time, knows all of her medical information and history, talks with her teachers frequently, sets up hang outs with her friends, etc. So they are capable and should be expected to participate that way. They very often wanted the kid too.
To be fair, he makes enough money to have a large staff of fully qualified babysitters on call 24/7, in addition to all the chefs/maids/other household staff. His wife probably doesn't need to stress out about much.
Every time I've been hospitalized, 3 times starting in December 2020, I've always been told to take whatever I wanted since it would just be thrown out.
I also asked for certain things to get sent home with that I was using and the nurses would just prepare a to-go bag for me! 😂 I still had a few Tagaderms and sets of gauze around for a wound covering.
Husbands have to call their wives at the vet too.
May husband was great. And so was my
Son in law. I was very fortunate to be in
delivery when my first grandson was born.
(I just sat in my seat and behave myself)
And it was wonderful to see how it all went.
The nurse asked would Grandma like to see? I got watch as my Son in law cut the
cord. It was a blessing. We had just lost
my husband 5 mos before. But he did know
our daughter was expecting. So there are
good dads in birthing rooms. 👍🏼💕
I suspect there are a lot of them, and good grandmas, too.
Wow my husband sounds like a saint. He was with me for both births and emergency c-sections (first 20 hours, 15 hours second).
He held my hand when I wanted to, he cuddled me when I wanted to.
He never complained, he didn't eat, he just wanted to be with me.
He was also in the room when I had my c-sections and he cut our children's umbilical cords.
He even stayed as late as he could after. With our first one a midwife thought he was my room mate and tried to force him to leave. Even though I told her he was my husband multiple times. I had to get another midwife to tell her. She wasn't even my midwife.
6:09 when i left the hospital after both my kids and after my son had surgery i was like no that's not mine with so much of the stuff and nurses kept shushing me as they jammed my bags full of stuff and went to grab more bags. I have so many hospital baby blankets.
I don't think I would care if my husband slept while waiting on the baby, so long he woke up, when I needed/ wanted him to be. This mostly because I'm gonna need to rest more postpartum and he will have to pick up the slack.
I guess I'm very lucky. My husband was (and is) a wonderful partner and father. He helped push my knee up while I was in labor (my sister had the other one), helped clean me up when I puked, and laughed when, upon cutting our son's umbilical cord, he got a few drops of blood on his shirt. We still laugh about that today, in fact, 16 years later. And he supported me through the PPD I had, after our son was born. He's always been there for me and our son, no matter what, where, or when. He DID have to leave me for a short time, after our son was born, though. He ended up down to the ER with a kidney stone! Apparently, he'd been in pain all morning. He toughed it out for me, as long as he could. But once our son was safely born, and I got settled in my room and was resting, he had to go. He was only down there a few hours, though, and was there for me every second, after he came back up. He's been there for me, and our son, every second since, too! 😊
This is a testimonial! I'm so happy for you all.
When the anesthesiologist came into the room for the epidural, I said, “I bet you’re everyone’s best friend on this floor.”
Also, after I had the epidural and was feeling no pain, I kept trying to close my legs but they kept opening. Our friend who was in the room said, “Adrienne, what are you doing?” I said, “I am trying to close my legs but they keep opening back up.” My husband then says, “And that is why I married her!” 🤣
Oh and before I had my epidural, my mom and stepdad were in the room talking to my husband. They were talking about the food they had eaten in detail. I obviously had not eaten for hours and the contractions were so painful. I lifted my head up and said, “The next person to mention food is getting kicked out of here. I don’t care how you are related to me!”
My second baby and my husband was there for it all, including the epidural. When my daughter finally came out I looked at my husband. He was white as a sheet! I thought he was going to pass out. He explained that it was seeing the needle going into my back.
My wife always said she'd rather give birth 10 times in one day than have a needle stuck in her spine. Kept her word and had 5 kids with no meds. Doesn't regret it for a second.
@chickenlover657I did the same with both my kids. Hate needles. I can handle pain just fine, I can’t handle needles.
@ Good on you. No sarcasm.
I knew someone who went to the ER for premature contractions. It happened at 2am, she tried waking up her husband(he is a heavy sleeper), he woke up enough to hear her tell him she was going to the ER, then went back to sleep. She drove herself to the ER, was diagnosed with premature contractions so had to stay for observation. They asked where her husband was and were surprised when she said he was home sleeping. She called him in the morning to tell him to come pick her up. When he walked in, all(and I mean ALL) the nurses were standing around/near her; they all wanted to see what this husband that let his wife drive herself to the ER alone looked like, lol. TBH she knew he was a heavy sleeper for years, she accepted it and didn't blame him, just laughed when he walked in.
I didn't care if my husband slept, ate, left, whatever. I just wanted my mom. She had to get in the Dr's face. He left me in labor 28hrs, I had eclampsia. My daughter was born in distressed, i didn't see her for 6hours. She has cerebral palsy. I lost a lot of blood. Needed plasma. It was the most traumatic experience for both of us.
I have no idea why the alcoholic wasn't kicked out. The maternity ward is closed off and he was a danger to baby, mother, and staff.
My husband’s dad was divorcing my MIL while she was in labor with husband. Husbands dad wasn’t there he was with his new girlfriend who later on like 2 years later gave birth to husbands half sister(girlfriend gave birth to a total of 2 girls half sisters) and while that girl was delivering the second girl he was cheating on another girl. He was a serial cheater. I hope this makes sense. (Pretty much FIL was not there for any of his kids births. 5 kids and ditched them all. Not sure where the first born is but FIL doesn’t talk about him)
While my mom was in surgery, having my younger brother via c-section, my bio dad was having sex with another woman. My mom gave my brother her maiden name.
Side note, the other woman in this story had done this multiple times. This being sleeping with men, while their wives, or girlfriends were giving birth to the men's children.
I payed for that stuff in the hospital, I’m gonna keep it 😂
When i was in labor my ex had the gaul to fall asleep. I tried to wake him up and he continued to sleep. I threw my water pitcher at him. That woke him up. 😂
I'm always shocked by the fact the US doesn't let birthing mothers eat. I'm Australian, I was induced for my twins they brought me meals and snacks constantly. I mean I got my epidural placed, had Twin A's water broken, ate lunch, then they started my pitocin. 6 hours later my midwife walked in as the dinner lady was dropping off my meal. Midwife goes "I'll just check first... ok, while I get the room ready you eat your soup and cake, you need energy for this. Dad, you take the main meal, it's just going to give her heartburn and I don't want you fainting. I'll go grab some sandwich packs." She didn't even call the OB until I had eaten my meal and then gave me a sandwich while we waited.
Freebies: I got a dozen sheets of dry gel ice packs from my midwives, Australia doesn't do freebies in hospital, but if you need an ice pack the midwives will give you a heap to take home.
I had my first in Japan (I'm American) they wouldn't let me eat, AND gave me an enima before I went into hard labor!
Midwives let the mama eat and studies show it's better for mom to eat and baby also get nutrients. But at the hospital they think "just in case you need a C-section you shouldn't eat because aspiration risk". However studies ALSO show that's it's better to aspirate on food stomach contents than plain stomach acid. Research hasn't caught up to practice and doctors do what's convenient for them not mom.
I'm in the us, and granted, I had my son 16 years ago, but they didn't tell me NOT to eat, when I was in early labor (in hard labor I was only allowed ice chips, but ofc I wasn't worried about food then). They did tell me not to eat anything heavy, though, I think they said because it could make me nauseous, and to only eat a light meal. Like your soup, which is what I had. But it didn't matter either way, because once I was in hard labor I got nauseous anyway, and then I puked it all back up lol.
If you bypass the hospital for midwives in a birthing center or home birth they’ll actually encourage you to eat and may show up to your delivery with protein bars and coconut water. It’s only the hospitals that do that that I have seen.
My ex spent more time outside smoking than in the room with me when I was in labor, and also by the time I had her I hadn't eaten in over 24 hours, so after delivery the nurse was nice enough to find me something to eat (it was after 1 am) and my ex decided to eat half of it, I love my daughter but I'm so glad I didn't stay with him
30 years ago we had our son in a Naval Hospital. That means they are a training facility. Most of the nurses, aids and corpsman were males. I was in labor for 15 hours. And 4 of them on Pitocin. No pain meds. So, we had a couple shift changes. My husband was concerned about the males checking on me. He actually asked the charge nurse if only female staff to attend to me. I told him, I don't fricken care who is in this room. I just wanted this baby out of me.
I once told a younger friend, who was worried about pooping on the table when she had a baby in the future, the same thing. I said, "First of all, EVERYONE poops during labor. It's completely normal, and the medical staff have seen it a million times, and they will not care. Hell, they probably won't even say anything. Besides, when you get to that point, YOU won't care either. I promise. Matter of fact, by the time you're at the point of pooping on the table, you won't care if the hospital janitor comes in with a baseball glove, a roll of paper towels, and a mop bucket full of bleach water, pounds that glove with his fist, and goes, 'Okay, I'm ready to catch that baby AND clean it up! Let's go!' You'll just be like "Let's do it!" You will NOT care. You'll just want that baby out, and be glad there's someone there to catch it!" 😂😂
I was an RN in the PICU. We had a baby who was obviously hungry but unfortunately the mom informed us that the baby would have to wait because dad had just finished drinking...
omg...
Mom and dad's priorities sound seriously messed up.
Hope the baby did okay.
🤢
Wow...hope you called CPS
WTF
You can be sympathetic to a recovering addict while still expecting boundaries to be respected.
We did not try to steal any supplies while in the ob gyn…I think maybe the lack of stuff disappearing into our bags, and our good manners, combined with the mortifying way my ILs behaved in front of the nurses and the sexist things they said about our baby daughter in the hallway, caused them to load us up to the gills with supplies and kind comments afterwards. God bless them!
I worked in a social program office. The number of kids with weird names is outstanding. Library, yes Library, KingJames, one word, PrinceMichael, one word, Vagina, Blige, Quarter, Apple and Northwest. Some people really hate their kids I think.
Wow
Knew of a woman who named her 3 sons after SUVs; Expedition, Suburban, and Escalade. Also heard about a Samoan woman who named her daughter Female(pronounced Feh-mah-leh).
@chochosan1981 I was a teacher, and knew the 3 Motor boys - Petrol, Diesel and Electric. 100% true!!
2:15 Dude is sleeping so deep that he looks like one of those paper mache heads the guys who escaped Alcatraz made. Wow.
So, while I was in labor my son got stuck and he had to be pulled out. I was passing out in between contractions and sometimes during pushing. It was horrible. Once he was out my husband said “your v*gina was just too small” or something like that. I was too high on whatever they gave me but I remember being completely mortified (as much as I could have been in that moment).
I swear some of these guys clearly have no fathers. I was raised by a pretty masculine dad and I couldn’t see myself doing any of this. Not because I know a lot about women but because I have a basic amount of human empathy. It’s really not that hard if an autistic person can do it so can you.
When my roommate was in labor, her support person both slept in the room and ate in front of her. It was me. I was her support person. In my defense, at dinner I hadn't eaten enough to get me through the night. I was only supposed to be getting her checked in, and staying until her sister and/or her baby daddy showed up.
Unfortunately, we checked her in a little after midnight, and two weeks before her due date. Her niece had borrowed the car overnight, my friend's sister had no way to get there until after the baby had already arrived. Baby Daddy never answered his phone, so she called his sister, who informed her that his phone was malfunctioning. Honestly, I think his new girlfriend had something to do with him missing the birth of his only daughter.
I had promised to stay until someone showed, and that's what I did. I stayed there for more than ten hours, and she was in labor for seven of those hours. She was trying to sleep at the same time that I was napping, I was just slightly more successful, on account of not being in labor.
I had packed her a whole loaf of freshly baked banana bread for her hospital stay, because she's got health issues, which meant that they were going to keep her there longer than most people who give birth, and I wanted to make sure she had something good to snack on. I did ask her permission to eat a piece while she was in labor, and she said it was fine. She actually asked nursing staff about the cafeteria opening for breakfast, and made sure I ran down to eat something as soon as it was open. I ate as fast as I could, and managed to get back just in time for the delivery to start.
Maybe I wasn't the best support person, but I kept my word, and stayed there until her sister showed up, at 10:30 in the morning. My roommate made sure I got my own set of baby footprints to celebrate the first time I had ever seen a person be born. I would say that I have them to this day, but that was, like, four months ago, so not having lost them isn't super impressive.
Good Friend!😊
@patriciatinkey2677 We've been friends for about two decades, now. At this point, I would probably get into a fist fight against a hurricane for her.
Both of mine were born at home. We had midwives and doulas. First baby took 10 1/2 hrs from water break to delivery. 2nd baby took 4 hrs, and I was eating a pimiento cheese sandwich while we caught the baby. Mom was a super trooper- no meds, 90 or nothing! Both babies perfectly healthy, its now 15 and 12 years later! 🥰
No meds is the norm in my country, so meh, not impressed.
@chickenlover657 That's cool. I mean, billions of people have babies in garbage dumps, or in African bushes while being chased by gangs burning down their villages, so yeah. Guess it's not that impressive either. In the US, though, everyone is conditioned to have their babies via C section at the hospital, so I thought we were pretty awesome. But good on you.
When I had my 2nd daughter, my husband at the time arrived late & walked in with my now ex best friend who he was having an affair with. They stayed 10 mins and left together.
My husband is a briilliant father. He was their for the birth of all his (7) kids (4 from previous marriage). My kids (now grown) and i are autistic. He handles all medical appointments, is on top of all our medications. He's a pro. 🥰
With our first child we were told SHE was a boy. Well she was not a boy. My smart-ass husband said "put the baby back in its not done cooking" Every time this story comes up I remind him he was lucky there wasn't a knife nearby because he would have become a man with nothing to have fun with. The way the nurses were glaring at him they would have backed me up. Married for 38 years and he never again said anything stupid in the labor room. We had three more kids.
The hardest part for me was getting there at 7am. My new momma tour for the hospital was at 9am. Longest 4 minutes of my life. I said I am here to have my baby. She kept telling me, But your tour doesn't start until 9! Finally I had a hard contraction, doubled over and watched her light bulb come on!
Ya, alcoholic father should have been kicked out. Staff could ask him to leave while notifying him Security and/or Police will remove him if he doesn't take an Uber home.
My ex is an alcoholic, and frankly, it was like having a toddler around.
Not what I needed or wanted while raising 3 children.
He was, and is still a shitty father, an opinion I keep to myself.
His second wife is stuck with him now - she's not too happy.
Not my Circus -
Not my Monkey!
Was in a birthing center across the street from the hospital. Transfer time 3 minutes via tunnel under the street. Didn't need the transfer. Instead had natural birth with a 10lb7oz 21" baby girl.....
Wow~BIG, Beautiful Babe❤🎉:)
Was this birthing center in a medieval castle? That’s crazy that they literally built a secret passageway between the center and the hospital. Are they that scared of people seeing pregnant women?
@@jordanwhite8718 Not sure how that was the logical conclusion here
Pennsylvania Hospital in Philly
@@jordanwhite8718 Well they said "under the street" so it makes sense to me so that an emergency doesn't need to wait for traffic or risk anyone needing to cross said street while in a rush.
Here in Germany you have the option for water birth in most hospitals. I don't know about special clinics for that here (never heared of it ^^'''). I wanted to do a water birth with my first child, but had problems with the birth procedure, so I had to go from delivery to surgery after 13 hours of contractions and so on. And the way to the surgery (which was a few floors above delivery) was long enough, imo ^^''' Can't imagine what would have happened if it wouldn't have been so near.
Also we don't need to take things from the hospital that isn't ours... we get a big bag full of things for the first weeks of the baby (some diapers, milk powder, etc.) before leaving...they are provided through companies, who produce them (so, like samples, but more than just samples for the most part), so they can show you what you're missing out on, if you don't buy their stuff ;)
Yeah,but you guys are civilized.
That breast-feeding story had me laughing 😂😂
*Got milk?*
4:39
Sympathy, get him into psychiatric and sober living for a while.
But i also think he shouldn't be allowed to be the dad in the actual dad role till he puts the bottle down again
speaking from my own personal experience, trying to make things work with both an addict
and then later on my mom also after finding her via ancestry, she's only recently started trying to recover once i came back
Being an addict just instantly disqualifies a guy from being a dad or in the same room as me
I agree. He needs to go to therapy to learn better stress management and coping skills. It’s selfish and irresponsible
No, you are NOT coming to a city near me and I'm annoyed about it.
When I was in kindergarten, I broke my arm. They set it wrong, and had to change the cast. My dad told me they were going to cut my arm off. He thought it was a funny joke. I reacted exactly as one would expect when they brought in the saw. My mom and the hospital staff were very angry with my dad.
My dad wanted to name my son. (His first grandchild). My son's name is Harley Davidson. He is 15 now and loves his name and loves the fact that his grandpa (who is no longer with us) named him.
My daughters name is Harley
Amen 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
I love that. My oldest child's middle name is my maiden name, aka my Daddy's last name.
My dad had fun whenever the machine said a contraction was coming he would say there she blows, my mom was not happy with him. He said I looked like a Play-Doh factory when I came out.
i didn't even get the opportunity to steal anything from the hospital after my kids were born, they literally pushed it into my arms. "here's a whole stack of maternity pads, and the plastic puke bin with the cup and the brush and comb and peri bottle and the special antimicrobial body wash and the shampoo and some diapers and some formula and a couple baby blankets and knit hats and the heavy duty water bottle that holds more than a stanley, let me get you some extra bags to carry that in..."
I would absolutely watch a remake of there will be blood that’s just a labor and delivery
Um, no. When my water broke and I was in labor for 49 hours, I told my husband to sleep so that someone wouldn't be exhausted when it was all over. XD He didn't miss anything. 😅
Because I am the breadwinner, he's also the person who takes kiddo to the doctor and knows most of the deets. This video is silly and fun, but it's also quite old-fashioned. Dads can be awesome and they deserve to rest, too!
It's actually dangerous to be in labor for 49 hrs. Just saying.
@ash2lar Well, yes. I didn't have much choice about it. XD
Just went to a show in Spokane, thank you it was awesome and an amazing experience.
Im so glad I work in Radiology and so very rarely have to venture over to our L&D area to go bring someone over for imaging. My bluntness and shaming would get me into trouble. 😂
My husband named our daughter Silvia from his drift car, the Nissan s13 240sx. Silvia is a great car line. I fell in love with him because of his car 😂 not as weird as one of our neighbors. The girls were named Chevy and Porsche. 😅
As aunt, my job was to be support for dad while he was there to be support for mom. I was there to get food for them. I was able to bring a jacket because my brother didn't realize how cold the delivery rooms would be. I played cards with my brother-in-law while my sister slept.
America is the ONLY 1st world country that doesn't allow a labouring mother to eat, during active labour! It is the wildest thing. Because ONE woman allegedly chocked they THINK once. This is so weird. The woman is running a marathon let he eat to keep her strength up.
I could swear the US health system has an intense dislike for women as a whole.
My husband pulled some of that crap plus some with our first. You bet with the other two he did much better.
Fun fact. My water never broke til the first push so the nurse or Dr got covered all 3 times.
OMG! I LOVE that you had a clip of Jason Kelce sleeping while Kylie was in labor! She just showed it not too long ago on her own podcast! They're about to have #4!!
Every time I see or hear of stuff like this, I am so glad I never married or had children. People have been saying that I would change my mind about marriage and family when I got older, but that never happened. I'm forty-five and still free! I am, however, really sorry for all those who either gave in to societal pressure or else thought things would be different.😢I hope all of you women find someone worthy of all that you've sacrificed for them. Men don't seem to understand that women don't get much out of marriage.
I’m only 32 and I still get pestered about why I’m unmarried with no kids. But I’m from an extremely red area where most people have a baby before they have their high school diploma, so they can’t even understand that their life is totally avoidable. I’ve been married before and I won’t make that mistake again. If the ring doesn’t make their mask drop, two pink lines will! I’m sorry to everyone who was let down by their partner during or after birth, but their stories reassure me that I’m right in never ever having been pregnant!
@aprilmendenhall6705 I was born and raised in a blue area, but moved to a red one in my early twenties. If it's anywhere like I'm living, family, friends, and even complete strangers are going to keep pestering you until you're in your forties, like myself. Sorry. The good news is that it will stop when your 'prime childbearing' years have passed. They will, however, remain confused as to why you aren't showing any regret for your decision. Eventually, they will come to accept that you're different. It just takes half of your life for people to get there! So hang in there, relief from the marriage/children/grandchildren, verbal assault is coming!😁
@@DianeValerieWright-u3d I’ve only got another decade or so to go… I don’t get why they all complain to no end about marriage and parenthood and then don’t understand why we don’t want to do it. Am I saying it’s wrong to get married and/or have kids? Not at all. Freedom of choice, baby! What I am saying is they should not describe a Brazilian wax and then get upset when someone says they’ll stick to shaving 😆
@@DianeValerieWright-u3d This is so true! I got shamed and blamed for not having kids and not being yet _another_ teen pregnancy tragedy, but now that I don't have debts the same family that disowned has wanted my financial security.
My final answer; "Hmmm who's this? Nah sorry wrong number" and I hung up.
At a few months to 40 I am FINALLY FREE!
@rustyhowe3907 Good for you!😃
I work at a nursing home that has a rehab section. More often than not the people coming in for short term therapy take anything they can get their hands on when they leave-toilet paper, towels, clothes they’ve borrowed from us etc. it’s nuts lol
With healthcare prices being as outrageous as they are, I don’t blame any of those people. If I’m gonna get bullshit charges for it whether or not I use it, then it’s coming with me!
When my grandfather was in the hospital, he brought up 4 throw up buckets, several shampoos and shaving creams, so much crap. The nurses told us they kept dropping it off? and they didn't know how to get them to stop! no one was asking for more stuff! the entire floor was over packed
My husband was worried about having to see our son being delivered. I told him that he didn’t have to look at the son comming out, his job would be at the head of the bed, looking out for me. On the day, he started at the head of the bed but then couldn’t help him self and both looked and cut the umbilical cord.
To be fair, for cesarean section they have to change their complete clothes, not just put it over their usual clothes. But there's a dressing room
I was in the room when my sister had a cesarean, and I didn't have to change. They just had me put scrubs on over my regular clothes. Maybe it depends on where you are?
For the last one 👀 I’m curious what the wife/mom thought. But maybe it was a normal part of their lovin’. Babies suckling is different. 🤱👶 I bet if he tries once she lets down he’ll get a surprise. Or he won’t even have to try because the milk just leaks. 😂
I had horrible birth partners. J is the dad of kid 1, L is for kids 2&3. J left with his step dad to get my bag and they stopped for a sit down dinner! J only had to go get my bag because he refused to believe I was in labor as it was 3 weeks early. I was going to the hospital for a scheduled NFT and he wouldnt let me take my bag.
L ate McDonald's immediately upon arrival with kid 2 and slept while I was up for 24 hours in labor with kid 3, unmedicated. L also claimed labor wasn't really that bad (painful) for me because the monitor didn't max out during contractions, I was exaggerating or just had a low pain tolerance. They're both exes for many reasons, this included.
I am so sorry to the other posters, I evidently had wonderful childbirth experiences in comparison. But I did have a water birth in a birthing center that was one block away and across the street from the L&D Emergency Department of the hospital. My husband was no where near me, which was good or I might have tried to drown him. The atmosphere in the birthing center was soothing and quiet and the room had a picture window facing the beach and as my son arrived, I watched the sunrise. No stitches as I had only a slight puckering that would heal well. Amazing since the child was 9 lbs 11 oz and 20 inches long. We did skin to skin with his umbilical cord still attached, and he nursed within 60 seconds of being born. My father cut the cord when it stopped pulsing. Some time much later, my husband came back having gotten breakfast at Denny's with his father. Absent partner, didn't miss him. Divorced a few months later. Those words said it all "Absent Partner."
Maybe the old fashioned way of having an enema on admission can prevent the pooping. Of course my birth experience was in 1975. No epidurals.
My only child was born in 2004, no pain relief after induction "it's too late", regardless of what I requested. Every other Mum I have spoken to, who was on "Social Security" our government financial assistance, when delivering, had the exact same experience. I truely believe if you are a public patient, you don't get pain meds, no matter what.
I have been in the hospital abbout 20 times sometimes for as long as 9 days..i was charged for every roll of paper tape, every bandaid , every pill, every ace bandaid etc..except for jellp, ice cream, soda..food. read your itinized bill. Last time i was charged $9 for a Tylenol! The strength the $ store carries.
I got my tubes removed a couple of years ago and they charged me $157 for a pregnancy test. The SAME ONES Walmart carries for $.98!
When i was pregnant with my 1st baby, my ex-husband asked me when the "EGG" broke and if it would break open during labor to let the baby out. I didn't understand what he meant! After thinking about it for a while I figured it out..
He thought that the sperm entered my ovary "egg" and that the "egg" just got bigger and bigger until baby came 😂😂😂
holy crap lol
I see his logic ... but no 😂😂
When we married @ 18yo hubby thought babies came from a woman’s belly button…his mom and dad were very religious and never discussed sex or showed affection in front of the kids..my family was very open about sex..I thought “what makes him think babies come from the belly button” and I realized he thought that in reference to women having c section..had to educate that boy really fast and after 45 years I think he finally gets it😂
@@Shopgirl1 I don't believe a word of that.
Well there are some animals where the eggs are internal, the young hatch inside and then born alive, like some sharks.
An acquaintance has 11 kids. When he takes one of the kids to the doctor or the ER he will often forget the middle name or birthdate.
Dad had 8. Remembered the day and month fine but would sometimes have to think about the year.
My father couldn't be bothered remembering my birth date, couldn't understand why no-one laughed at his 'jokes' about asking my mother or that's what my birth certificate was for, though he jokes he didn't think I was his because I didn't behave like him. NO-ONE needed to trust me.
I was in the labor room with my best friend while baby daddy was at a bar across the street from the hospital
My ex slept through my whole labor of my only child. Almost missed the birth due to him not being easy to wake after 13 hrs if sleep. 🤬
Kick the guy out of the crib! Get Austin to do it! He's great at being security! 😊
Thank God I kicked out my alcoholic boyfriend. He's not a bad guy but he can't keep it together and I can't put up with the bullshit
I have a bonus grandson whose mother named "Tiger". He's now a wonderful man.
I bet the Jason Kelce thing is going to be about the portable fan he brought for their 3rd daughter
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@@steveioeI posted that before it went live but I totally called it!!! 😂 (PS Go Birds!)
Isn’t he the one who spoke at a girls school says girls shouldn’t be educated…?
We are allowed to eat during labor which helped a lot because it was 18 hours lol
"And...your daddy!" 😂😂😂 dyinggg. Steven, none of these places are near me 😭😭😭
I have two stories about dads during birth: one about my grandad (I don't remember who was born my dad or his sister, so it is either 1967 or 1979) and the second is about my dad (1991 - that was me). Both stories happened on military bases in USSR.
Grandma was giving birth in a tiny one-store building. Dad's weren't alowed in. So my granddad was running outside around the building, peering into the windows, and each time he caught someone passing by the window, he asked them to check on granny. At some point she said: "Honey, please, go home. You are breaking the work flow."
With my birth that was even simpler. My dad wasn't anywhere near the hospital (none of the dads were). He was getting our whole neiborhood hammored on homemade wine. I belive there was not only wine as my family lived near an ennormose field of ganja.
First, my dad was AMAZING, knew everything!
My ex-husband I bought prune juice for me because I was breastfeeding!
My ex gave it to the baby 2oz an 1oz water! Leaving los angeles BTW we got to palm springs it was a mess!
Dad stayed up all night changing diapers! And rinsing her off !They gave me something to stop 💩 💩 💩!
Me and the baby!
Get rid of the drunk dad-permanently!!
So I had my son back in 2022. My husband was sleeping during the beginning part of my labor. I didn't mind. The reason is because that day before so my son was born Sept 4th 2022. On Sept 3rd 2022 around 8 pm his father died. We were already at the hospital. Within that hour I started having contractions. I wasn't due until the next week. I decided to go to the labor unit which was a floor below where he was sitting with his dad while he was talking to him still eventhough it would be the last time. I told him it was okay and that I understood. When I got to the labor unit they said I already started dilating. My doctor who would deliver our son told them that he would go ahead and induce the labor with a hooked object. So he made a little tear and then after that I stayed in bed and I told my husband after he was helping me relax after the doctor induced me that he can sit down and if he needed to then he can relax and try to sleep some. By the morning around 8 am our son was born. I can say that since that day my husband and I have changed and grown closer. I know it still hurts him that his dad passed but I always tell him our son is the light at the end of the tunnel. He was the good that came out of it. It really was upsetting that his dad couldn't be there a little longer for the birth but God had called him to go home. I know he is watching over us and i can't say how proud I am of my husband. With what happened and the end result it was a blessing really. We went there to say our final goodbyes and love you to his father and literally came out the next day with our son. We named our son Jericho. He really does take after his dad's side. ❤ I just wanted to share this with everyone. I'm so proud of my husband and the man he has become. ❤ I know his mom is proud of him too. ❤
Also, my birthing center was contacted!
Emergency c-section! Five minutes to the OR
My husband is ALWAYS talking about how our toddler getting sick makes him sick or how our son is contagious and going to infect him. No sympathy for anyone else. Just himself. I will admit, I also don't want him to get sick. He's the worst. And that's saying a lot.
My youngest is 16 months, my oldest (11 at the time) was at the birth (off to the side and on the Switch most of the time). Well 3.5 hours after the start of the induction, baby girl was here. My son cuddled her before my husband did, as soon as holding her was offered, he practically ripped his shirt off so he could cuddle his sister skin to skin. He had no issues or worries about cuddling his sister before she got cleaned up.