♥️♥️♥️It is only now that I start to change everything and honor myself and my feelings. As well as what I really feel. Grew up and thought that I myself do not count. Especially as highly sensitive and the need and fix other people who feel bad. Soon 48 years .Now I go out into life and life instead of deafening or hiding my feelings. Or express myself about feelings. May I say stop and no. But never dared. Been a long journey to get here. But the journey does not end here. Will be an ongoing job for life. I will prioritize it. To be part of my own life. Because I shut myself out because I could not bear all the emotions. Which also has not always been my own. Drawn to broken people. Wanted to help. Known responsibility. Now the responsibility is to save myself. I mean something to myself. I am important in my life.♥️♥️♥️
I love this womem just found her last night watched cpl her videos so far on narrissit self worth high sensitive ppl my ex a covert narrissit just broke off a 13 year relationship Im so broken I'm a addict been using since i was 13 I'm 36 I'm codependent she has really opened my eyes something about her just resonates with me I'm in treatment now just watching her videos over and over everything she says makes so much sense I've never felt so understood my entire life you got to feel it to heal it that terrifies me I've been avoiding that my whole life basically but I know it's the only way to heal myself from all this pain and to finally start living not just surviving thank you Candace van Dell so much ❤
I am a HSP going through almost the same thing, except I was 16 when I started and am 40 now. I am a guy and my "fiance" is a covert narcissist.On Halloween, everything shifted and I realized my entire world was just a LIE! Devastated and broken, feeling so much emotion and anger. Good luck, Id go on but likely you wont even see this so... you are not alone
Every word you speak pulls on my heart strings. I have a friend (and myself included) that have not honestly spoken the whole truth about our feelings in 15 years!! Isn't that amazing! Well, I gave him your website & numerous favorite videos & now he is a better person, friend & human. You have no idea how many lives you have touched. I love you for the work you do & the help you have given.
I had to quit weed due to a new job that does randoms. At first I hated not smoking, - mood swings, too intense of feelings - although the return of vivid dreams was kinda neat. I was relearning how to be a complete human but also realizing I am a HSP. In the past 2 months from clips like this that ring so true and others work on HSP I have grown and matured more in the last 2 months than I have in my 20's and 30's. In short being forced to quit weed was what I needed. I had been numbing myself from my true self for over 20 years. Thanks you so much your work does matter and deserves way more than 1,000 views. I know there are a lot more, especially males, out there with the same issue. Unfortunately some go there whole lives without waking.
It was a long struggle for me to finally believe any "natural" type of treatment. I've always had a sense of energy being very real but also very hard to manage when attempted and when it came to medicine, honestly I thought you were all too different or just insane tbh. But, LIFE has taught me that I was WRONG and thankfully I brought myself to you who speaks to me in a language I understand, Very important IMO to recovery, having a person that understands on a deep level at least a huge percentage of your internal world. Thank you Mrs. Van Dell. Im not there yet, but there is key information that I really needed to hear and think about in every single video so far!
I'm currently healing myself despite being addicted to various substances. (nothing "hard", though) Because i just can't stop. I hope when i heal myself i will be able to let this shit go.
Very powerful. I unfortunately find myself in a pattern of just this. I become overwhelmed and rather than deal with my feelings, I try to numb them. I feel physically pained with my emotion and how I experience the world, I simply want to run from it. Thanks for helping me recognize that's no way to live.
WOW its like you know me! My addiction is endless hours of watching series online. I used to be so aware and insync with the universe, but something shifted couple of years ago, and I feel like Im running away from my thoughts, my pain and potentially my greatness. Thank you for this video!!! much needed!
I am a member of a 12 step group and have been sober for around 9 months. I definitely have an issue with smartphone addiction and avoidance when I have days when I feel down. Sitting with it is very very uncomfortable but this video was a good reminder it's exactly what I need to do. Thanks
Thanks Candice for this insightful presentation. I did however notice an absence of the very real & Common presence of Trauma in those with addictions. Most people do have trauma to varying degrees & its one if not the main antecedent to the development of addictions of all sorts... Consumables as well as process addictions. There's enough need for an Entire presentation on coping with & working through addictions given the truly dysfunctional Neurobiology of those of us dealing with trauma healing. When the Limbic System has short circuited due to PTSD triggers, the usual way the brain works is Gone! It's close to impossible to Stop the negative looping that ensues & to reconnect to the focus, And willpower that's imperative! It's so complex & the sharing of the latest info & current best practices would be So welcomed & appreciated. Thanks again ~*~
Thank you for this I really needed to hear this I never knew that there would be someone who could understand how my mind works when I am triggered to use I am in recovery but often just want to escape so I don't have to feel things anyway thank you for this video I don't feel quite so alone now knowing there are other people who think the way I do. Thank you very much.
Thank you for sharing! In my psychotherapeutical work with HSP I have often come across addictions which resulted from the person trying to get a grasp on their strong emotions. It is always truly beautiful to see how affected people have a chance to change once they understand why those things are happening to them. I love your channel! It is truly inspiring for me. Since I am tackling similar topics as you, I would appreciate it if you passed by my channel when you find time to. Take care and keep up the beautiful work ❤️
I just wanted to tell you thank you since you helped me realize that i did everything i could when i was younger(even if it was wrong). Im introverted and i was always shy. I have always (ironicly enough) found sales interesting but it was a disaster first time i tried it because of total overwhelm. After a couple of years i tried it again but this time i could handle the stress and the feelings a bit better. I could stand there and talk to people even. You know why? This time I was high on weed. In this was the addiction helped me but i have now realized that i CAN do it without it and with all i have achieved now in my profession i know that with that true power of what i really want, I can do anything. Ich habe in der schule deutschen gelernt, hast du eine klasse im diese subjekt?
To tell you something that I thought was interesting. My x at one point said she hated TH-cam . And that was very confusing to me . Because what's to hate , the best place to see all the bands and music ect , ect , . now I totally understand .because it was fuxin her game up . Thanks for posting because yourself and outhers like you made me realize so much .Also made me realize I'm not alone . Great job beautiful.
Hi, I hope you read this, because I am so desperate to change my life, I have gone from taking drugs everyday to one or two Times per month. I really don't want to take them at all. You are right about everything, you have said. Anyway do you have any advice to help. I have started doing a little meditation. and things....... thanks
I love your channel, however, as an addict, the fear of self was to great. The ability to numb was familiar, comfortable, and lonely. A 12 step program is what saved my life and helped to lessen the fear so I could sit with self. I’m healthier spiritually than I’ve ever been thanks to a 12 step program.
Haha thank you your my new favorite TH-cam channel yeah i'm all that and some extreme not proud to responsible my conscience level will benefit from your wisdom experimenting with everything in a neutral obsession Tools of dark and light unfortunately comes to defining true perception continued before samples of more mixture oh dear spot on more than one would admit the inconvenience of Truth is why we work day and night finding light I am 1of the many examples Uno Going through the ascending process All have to do this sometime in the next 15 years were 3”years into 18 Year cycle Our goal is to enlighten the dark side of reality by just changing we pleased to meet you Karmic family must see must be a fairy Spiritual sister glad we didn't skip ya
I like it better when you camand me to watch this video. My friend is addicted to all kind of stuff like whatever so I can get it if you need a friend in Tampa.
What about medical cannabis? I am using cannabis for several things. Insomnia. Stomach problems. Depression. Anxiety. Anger. And it keeps me away from the booze....
Candace van Dell hi, oh you know, I'm just going through the good ol lightworker -dark -night -of- the- soul- Saturn -return-shadow-work-phase lol, I was happy to see your name pop up as a recommendation and the content is really helpful. Thank you.
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So cool 😎☀️ videos. So much truth. Beauty and Wisdom. Rare child.
♥️♥️♥️It is only now that I start to change everything and honor myself and my feelings. As well as what I really feel. Grew up and thought that I myself do not count. Especially as highly sensitive and the need and fix other people who feel bad. Soon 48 years .Now I go out into life and life instead of deafening or hiding my feelings. Or express myself about feelings. May I say stop and no. But never dared. Been a long journey to get here. But the journey does not end here. Will be an ongoing job for life. I will prioritize it. To be part of my own life. Because I shut myself out because I could not bear all the emotions. Which also has not always been my own. Drawn to broken people. Wanted to help. Known responsibility. Now the responsibility is to save myself. I mean something to myself. I am important in my life.♥️♥️♥️
I love this womem just found her last night watched cpl her videos so far on narrissit self worth high sensitive ppl my ex a covert narrissit just broke off a 13 year relationship Im so broken I'm a addict been using since i was 13 I'm 36 I'm codependent she has really opened my eyes something about her just resonates with me I'm in treatment now just watching her videos over and over everything she says makes so much sense I've never felt so understood my entire life you got to feel it to heal it that terrifies me I've been avoiding that my whole life basically but I know it's the only way to heal myself from all this pain and to finally start living not just surviving thank you Candace van Dell so much ❤
I am a HSP going through almost the same thing, except I was 16 when I started and am 40 now. I am a guy and my "fiance" is a covert narcissist.On Halloween, everything shifted and I realized my entire world was just a LIE! Devastated and broken, feeling so much emotion and anger. Good luck, Id go on but likely you wont even see this so... you are not alone
Every word you speak pulls on my heart strings. I have a friend (and myself included) that have not honestly spoken the whole truth about our feelings in 15 years!! Isn't that amazing! Well, I gave him your website & numerous favorite videos & now he is a better person, friend & human. You have no idea how many lives you have touched. I love you for the work you do & the help you have given.
Speaking of addiction, I'm binge watching your channel! 💜
These videos are changing lives. Awesome work.
@@jaceharrick2812 Thank you!
Absolutely brilliant thanks I was a drug addict for 20 I have been clean for 17 weeks and I couldn't agree more with your words thanks and love
I had to quit weed due to a new job that does randoms. At first I hated not smoking, - mood swings, too intense of feelings - although the return of vivid dreams was kinda neat. I was relearning how to be a complete human but also realizing I am a HSP. In the past 2 months from clips like this that ring so true and others work on HSP I have grown and matured more in the last 2 months than I have in my 20's and 30's. In short being forced to quit weed was what I needed. I had been numbing myself from my true self for over 20 years. Thanks you so much your work does matter and deserves way more than 1,000 views. I know there are a lot more, especially males, out there with the same issue. Unfortunately some go there whole lives without waking.
Hello Duane. I gotta ask 1 year later. Hows life?
badmanvip i am 7 months sober feeling good if u smoke weed pls try to quit
Thank you, Duane, for your testimony. It really reached me!
This is so inspiring. I feel like saying I’m so proud of you for this part of your journey and these realizations. So beautiful
It was a long struggle for me to finally believe any "natural" type of treatment. I've always had a sense of energy being very real but also very hard to manage when attempted and when it came to medicine, honestly I thought you were all too different or just insane tbh. But, LIFE has taught me that I was WRONG and thankfully I brought myself to you who speaks to me in a language I understand, Very important IMO to recovery, having a person that understands on a deep level at least a huge percentage of your internal world. Thank you Mrs. Van Dell. Im not there yet, but there is key information that I really needed to hear and think about in every single video so far!
WOW! 👍♥️
I'm currently healing myself despite being addicted to various substances. (nothing "hard", though) Because i just can't stop. I hope when i heal myself i will be able to let this shit go.
good luck!
How are you doing?
I like how your really beautiful and have a depth in your personality, thank you sharing healing thoughts!
Very powerful. I unfortunately find myself in a pattern of just this. I become overwhelmed and rather than deal with my feelings, I try to numb them. I feel physically pained with my emotion and how I experience the world, I simply want to run from it. Thanks for helping me recognize that's no way to live.
God you are good! A gift from God. Very relatable. Rock on lovely lady😚
WOW its like you know me! My addiction is endless hours of watching series online. I used to be so aware and insync with the universe, but something shifted couple of years ago, and I feel like Im running away from my thoughts, my pain and potentially my greatness. Thank you for this video!!! much needed!
Naama sometimes we just need to be nudged back into alignment :-) happy you resonated with it! XO
I have never come across so much information that resonates. I found you tonight and have just been watching all the videos. Much love🙌
I am a member of a 12 step group and have been sober for around 9 months. I definitely have an issue with smartphone addiction and avoidance when I have days when I feel down. Sitting with it is very very uncomfortable but this video was a good reminder it's exactly what I need to do. Thanks
I'm addicted to clean air, and there's not enough of it!
Powerful. Thank you
thank you so much for this. how sweet of you to post vids for all of us to see for free!
Wow I've been doing this every time I get sad or upset or put down I really needed to watch this right now before I went back toy addiction part of me
You are fantastic - thank you so much for all those good advises 💎💚
I feel your vibration thru the video !
This is only my second time watching you are speaking the truth !
Thanks Candice for this insightful presentation.
I did however notice an absence of the very real & Common presence of Trauma in those with addictions. Most people do have trauma to varying degrees & its one if not the main antecedent to the development of addictions of all sorts... Consumables as well as process addictions.
There's enough need for an Entire presentation on coping with & working through addictions given the truly dysfunctional Neurobiology of those of us dealing with trauma healing. When the Limbic System has short circuited due to PTSD triggers, the usual way the brain works is Gone! It's close to impossible to Stop the negative looping that ensues & to reconnect to the focus, And willpower that's imperative!
It's so complex & the sharing of the latest info & current best practices would be So welcomed & appreciated.
Thanks again ~*~
Thank you for this I really needed to hear this I never knew that there would be someone who could understand how my mind works when I am triggered to use I am in recovery but often just want to escape so I don't have to feel things anyway thank you for this video I don't feel quite so alone now knowing there are other people who think the way I do. Thank you very much.
Such synchronicity! Thank you for making this video, what I appreciate about your videos is they are so honest and yet so on point
Behnaz B thank you foe this and for sharing! Yes I will make a video on that subject in the future :-))
Thank you 💚 on the healing journey ✡️
you are really great and beautiful soul, all the best!!!
Thank you for sharing! In my psychotherapeutical work with HSP I have often come across addictions which resulted from the person trying to get a grasp on their strong emotions. It is always truly beautiful to see how affected people have a chance to change once they understand why those things are happening to them. I love your channel! It is truly inspiring for me. Since I am tackling similar topics as you, I would appreciate it if you passed by my channel when you find time to. Take care and keep up the beautiful work ❤️
So wonderful!! Thank you for this and I will definitely check out your channel.
Big Hugs XXX
I just wanted to tell you thank you since you helped me realize that i did everything i could when i was younger(even if it was wrong). Im introverted and i was always shy. I have always (ironicly enough) found sales interesting but it was a disaster first time i tried it because of total overwhelm. After a couple of years i tried it again but this time i could handle the stress and the feelings a bit better. I could stand there and talk to people even. You know why? This time I was high on weed. In this was the addiction helped me but i have now realized that i CAN do it without it and with all i have achieved now in my profession i know that with that true power of what i really want, I can do anything.
Ich habe in der schule deutschen gelernt, hast du eine klasse im diese subjekt?
This was good.
I forwarded it to a half a dozen people who need it .
Neal Catlett wonderful!! Thank you xo
omg the words I have been trying to communicate thank you!
addiction is usually coping mechanism for unresolved pain
@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus
Please don't breed.
@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus
If this is true ...
How many children do you have??
Please say none 🙏🤞
@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus That's not really a > 150 IQ statement man
@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus because of your show of duality
Goddess
🍃🌷🍃Thank you so much♥️
To tell you something that I thought was interesting. My x at one point said she hated TH-cam . And that was very confusing to me . Because what's to hate , the best place to see all the bands and music ect , ect , . now I totally understand .because it was fuxin her game up . Thanks for posting because yourself and outhers like you made me realize so much .Also made me realize I'm not alone . Great job beautiful.
struggle on baby,Im with you.we are doomed,unless you got wings
This was great! Thanks for mentioning so many kinds of additions!
nice rock.daaanaaam, someone did good
another gem
Hi, I hope you read this, because I am so desperate to change my life, I have gone from taking drugs everyday to one or two Times per month.
I really don't want to take them at all.
You are right about everything, you have said.
Anyway do you have any advice to help. I have started doing a little meditation. and things.......
thanks
I Love You! I'm a light worker in the Hip Hop community thanks for the jewels
superrr...
Rock & Roll Consul..Danka
Bravo!
I love this perspective Candace! I totally relate to this! xo
maryscupoftea thanks beautiful!!! Xoxo
I love your channel, however, as an addict, the fear of self was to great. The ability to numb was familiar, comfortable, and lonely. A 12 step program is what saved my life and helped to lessen the fear so I could sit with self. I’m healthier spiritually than I’ve ever been thanks to a 12 step program.
Congratulations Karissa!! Congrats to you primarily for any & all forms of effort twds sobriety & seeking wholeness! Wishing you the best 💜
dnwalldoll84 🙌🏼💕
Haha
thank you your my new favorite TH-cam channel
yeah i'm all that and some extreme
not proud to responsible
my conscience level will benefit from your wisdom
experimenting with everything in a neutral obsession
Tools of dark and light unfortunately comes to defining true perception
continued before samples of more
mixture oh dear
spot on more than one would admit
the inconvenience of Truth is why we work day and night finding light
I am
1of the many examples
Uno
Going through the ascending process
All have to do this sometime in the next 15 years were 3”years into 18 Year cycle
Our goal is to enlighten the dark side of reality by just changing we
pleased to meet you
Karmic family must see
must be a fairy
Spiritual sister glad we didn't skip ya
I would like to make an interview with you dearling.
I am HSP personality
Huuuuuughhhh big stringent wake up it rly helped
For decades I smoked weed because I needed a barrier between the cold world and my inner being. Still struggling with addiction.
Rag Nar me too 😔
I believe everything will work out fine. Do u want to make a move or should I. I wonder what happens when we meet.
I feel afraid of loving myself. It's scary. I want to, but it's scary.
❤
Sonal Dongre is loving me :) :)
A good video for addicts like me🤑🤑..
Candace, will the new FB group become a closed group, or remain public? Would love to join if it's closed!
Sherri I will make it closed!! X
I like it better when you camand me to watch this video. My friend is addicted to all kind of stuff like whatever so I can get it if you need a friend in Tampa.
Jk
I was thinking just pot for anxiety
love this video but sitting in an overwhelming emotion is whats needed! check out teal swans work/videos, the completion process
Exactly!!!
What about medical cannabis? I am using cannabis for several things. Insomnia. Stomach problems. Depression. Anxiety. Anger. And it keeps me away from the booze....
If u r highly sensitive people dont use drugs pls Thank u🙏🏼
This explains my life currently wow
Hi Candace :-) it's ricky from usm! You rock!
C. Ricky H. Flores hi Ricky! What up brother!! X
Candace van Dell hi, oh you know, I'm just going through the good ol lightworker -dark -night -of- the- soul- Saturn -return-shadow-work-phase lol, I was happy to see your name pop up as a recommendation and the content is really helpful. Thank you.
I like you
Where are subtitles?
I really wish I didn't have this shit that's probably wrong to say but it's exhausting.
I Love Her do you Love Him?♥
7:10
Are you famous?
So, you try to sell me something
Do you work for free?? I have 500 free videos but to keep that going I offer my gift and services like everyone else in the world