I'm in this situation. I'm 72 and have no family. I'm still in good shape, but that's not forever. Before I get like this guy, I'll do myself in. I don't mind being alone, but I fear being disabled and being dependent on strangers.
Most communities have a senior center, council on aging, meals on wheels, and other programs from small to large, but each individual has to seek them out, sign up, etc. I think a significant thing would be a volunteer program where a trip to the grocery once a week, to a hospital visit, it builds a fewling of community, churches and charitable organizations should spearhead this kind of thing, and also have the seniors over for important holidays so they wont feel so lonely, etc. "Reach out and touch somebody's hand, and make this wotld a better place if you can..." :-) New Orleans
Not going to happen in this self-obsessed society unless you got a TikTok channel or Instagram that our present culture prefers over people. Time to accept and see OURSELVES as valuable. I don't need someone outside myself to determine my worthiness. Come on people--we need to grow up.
I am 71 and am an elder orphan. I have already gone to a funeral home and arranged and paid for a “pre-need” plan. Have also gone to an elder law attorney and did the legal "will", living will, legal "health care agent", etc. But very few elder orphans have the financial assets to pay for assisted living, and I do not. My greatest fear is ending up in a nursing home. So my plan is when my health declines, hang on at home as long as I possibly can, and hopefully die there. Until then, I plan to live, not just exist. Go out with friends, listen to music, walk outside every day, etc. Whatever happens will happen.
I'm an "elder orphan" and have the complete opposite attitude toward my new role. I CHOSE not to have children and do not need a "partner" to make me complete--for goodness sake. Elder orphans need to come together and solve our problems using the wisdom and experience of age. EVERY option should be considered and carefully thought through BEFORE we cannot take care of ourselves. Come on guys...let's use the brains we were given and solve our problems without moaning and groaning - POOR ME.
Not unless WE decide WE are. We need to get an "attitude adjustment" rather than whining that nobody loves the Elders and we need to figure out how to take care of ourselves as an Elder community. I find it massively infuriating that somehow NOT having children or a SPOUSE is a shortcoming and we are sad little helpless people. We are filled with wisdom, resilience and smarts having lived and SUCCEEDED many years. Come on people...
Lots of families take care of their seniors or those who are disabled and needy. You just don't hear about it because nobody talks about the tremendous sacrifice we are making as caregivers. We do it for zero money, as few caregivers are ever compensated financially. We are quite literally sacrificing ourselves and our futures in this unheralded role. Trust me, hospitals would be over-run with old people and otherwise disabled people in need of care if it wasn't for us, doing a thankless job, facilitating for a society that pretends elder care and disability care isn't a burden.
I'm in this situation. I'm 72 and have no family. I'm still in good shape, but that's not forever. Before I get like this guy, I'll do myself in. I don't mind being alone, but I fear being disabled and being dependent on strangers.
Most communities have a senior center, council on aging, meals on wheels, and other programs from small to large, but each individual has to seek them out, sign up, etc. I think a significant thing would be a volunteer program where a trip to the grocery once a week, to a hospital visit, it builds a fewling of community, churches and charitable organizations should spearhead this kind of thing, and also have the seniors over for important holidays so they wont feel so lonely, etc. "Reach out and touch somebody's hand, and make this wotld a better place if you can..." :-) New Orleans
We need to embrace our elders as valued members of society
When you get old, ugly and decrepit, nobody cares about you except your own kids, and sometimes they don't either. You can't change the world, sweets.
Not going to happen in this self-obsessed society unless you got a TikTok channel or Instagram that our present culture prefers over people. Time to accept and see OURSELVES as valuable. I don't need someone outside myself to determine my worthiness. Come on people--we need to grow up.
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Some adult kids move to the other end of the country for a reason.
I am 71 and am an elder orphan. I have already gone to a funeral home and arranged and paid for a “pre-need” plan. Have also gone to an elder law attorney and did the legal "will", living will, legal "health care agent", etc. But very few elder orphans have the financial assets to pay for assisted living, and I do not. My greatest fear is ending up in a nursing home. So my plan is when my health declines, hang on at home as long as I possibly can, and hopefully die there. Until then, I plan to live, not just exist. Go out with friends, listen to music, walk outside every day, etc. Whatever happens will happen.
my future..
I'm an "elder orphan" and have the complete opposite attitude toward my new role. I CHOSE not to have children and do not need a "partner" to make me complete--for goodness sake. Elder orphans need to come together and solve our problems using the wisdom and experience of age. EVERY option should be considered and carefully thought through BEFORE we cannot take care of ourselves. Come on guys...let's use the brains we were given and solve our problems without moaning and groaning - POOR ME.
We are so screwed.
Not unless WE decide WE are. We need to get an "attitude adjustment" rather than whining that nobody loves the Elders and we need to figure out how to take care of ourselves as an Elder community. I find it massively infuriating that somehow NOT having children or a SPOUSE is a shortcoming and we are sad little helpless people. We are filled with wisdom, resilience and smarts having lived and SUCCEEDED many years. Come on people...
There are not enough young people/nurses to take care of the boomers sadly. Hoping more families step up to help their own.
Lots of families take care of their seniors or those who are disabled and needy. You just don't hear about it because nobody talks about the tremendous sacrifice we are making as caregivers. We do it for zero money, as few caregivers are ever compensated financially. We are quite literally sacrificing ourselves and our futures in this unheralded role. Trust me, hospitals would be over-run with old people and otherwise disabled people in need of care if it wasn't for us, doing a thankless job, facilitating for a society that pretends elder care and disability care isn't a burden.
Some elderly they don't want to be nobody hinder unable to pay some handsome money to take care of them