I don’t think it’s hypocritical. Remember, most of the men considering Filipinas have been burned by women, seeing them change from who they thought they married into a destructive and different person. Since you can never know a person’s heart, it’s always a risk and men are looking to minimize that risk. I’ve seen enough media to know that there are many single mothers in the Philippines and that there’s probably a lot of man who aren’t loyal to the women they make a baby with. It’s a matter or both camps have levels of distrust in each other for valid reasons. Marriage in the US is extremely bad for men in the US and so already burned men are naturally repelled by getting married again in the US. Both people in such a union are “using” each other. The Filipina is looking after her survival and the man is getting a hopefully more loyal and less obese and entitled companion. It’s a transactional relationship where each person is looking after their interests. The men deep down know they are getting a better deal than they would otherwise in the US.
Welcome back! And congratulations on your baby! I think everyone changes over time. We mature, become more humble. Yes, this happened to a friend of ours. He brought a Filipina back here and she left him and married one of his friends. But I'm sure it happens both ways. YES!! Social media has changed everything! Can't wait to get caught up on your channel.
Ma'am I have one problem with you finding it hypocritical with foreigners not wanting to bring their filipina's back to their home countries. That is, the filipina's are not paying for anything. If you don't want to place any of the blame on the filipina's for excepting this arrangement and for not waiting for the right man. Then don't blame the foreigners for not wanting to risk losing out on his financial investment.
Thank you for the comment. I understand and I have lived this. I did not pay to come to the US but I have worked and helped with the bills while I have been in the US as does most us based Filipinas I know. Most importantly, we had a child which was one of my husbands greatest desires. If you are looking at this from a strictly financial perspective than you are probably not looking for a deeper connection and building a life together. If you find yourself falling in love and needing to come back to the US (medical issues, family issues, tired of the heat) which most expats do, may not hang around.
@FilipinaWifeAbroad I am very happy for you and your family's success. I know that their are good filipina's that enter relationships for the right reasons, but I also know that some don't. A lot of foreigners that come to the Philippines have already been taken advantage of by a woman. Some now understand the true nature of women and that they are not sugar and spice and everything nice. Here is a question for you. Why do filipina's choose to date foreigners, and why do they date much older foreign men? Let's see if you will help me understand this. Why? The cost to bring a filipina to the US can be 600,000.00 pesos or more, just needed to define what's at stake
The way I look at it, assuming the couple is married there is no, his financial investment. Once married it is their investment, their choice where to live, as equal partners.
Wow - great comment and question. I will ask my fellow Filipina Americans their thoughts and get back to you. Bringing a Filipina to the US can be expensive. If you do your own immigration paperwork like we did, that will cost 200,000 peso plus a one way ticket to the US (100,000 peso - although cheaper flights are available) plus you need to buy her winter clothes and other essentials so 600,000 peso sounds about right but this is spread over 3 years and if the Filipina works, she should be able to offset some costs. My final thoughts - not all Filipinas want to date foreign men. I was in my forties before I even considered it and only because my husband was very well traveled and could easily blend with my family. If you find a woman who only wants to date foreigners than that is the type of woman I mentioned in the video that could lead to heartache or an empty wallet. Find a woman open to love regardless of the nationality, be humble and listen. You might be surprised how successful the relationship could be. In regards to age, culturally Filipina naturally gravitate to older men regardless of race. There is a great respect for older people that can easily translate into romance and this is strongly supported throughout society. Do not assume it is financial although sometimes it can be. I will ponder this some more and get back to you.
Interesting subject. This applies to everyone moving to any country. The surroundings usually change you, if only little by little, and so slow that you won't notice it yourself. And obviously it applies to both men and women, but most importantly, it depends on where you come from and are moving to, and lastly how old are you when you're moving. (the older you are, the less risk/chance, that person will change.) Thanks for a great video, it's a subject I have quite some experience on, haha... Many greetings from Ang Kha, Thailand.... Thomas
It’s not hypocritical. It’s merely their preference. Are you judging? If they left their country because they were unhappy with the culture, why would they bring their partner back into that culture? They are wise to be wary of the influence of the culture that they left on their partner. Can you possibly accept that perhaps the impulse to leave in the first place was the correct impulse? Don’t judge them. And why are you making the assumption that anyone who makes that decision not to bring their partner back has some sense of superiority? Your judgment is showing. You can always tell when someone is judging when they use the word hypocrite, and when they make assumptions which cannot stand up to scrutiny. Especially sitting there in the United States comfortable and probably drinking the Kool-Aid. Just saying.
@@MartinNyberg thank you for the comment. I get it. My husband who was working primarily in Asia and often in the Philippines before we got married tried to explain this to me and now living between the cultures I see your point. What bothers me is the infidelity of men in relationships with decent Filipinas than having an affair with someone who just because it feeds their ego. There are some fabulous women in the Philippines but if you are going for something more than a fling do not let your opportunities cloud your judgement. The hypocrisy is that the Filipina can often behave the same way when you bring them to the US and if you behave poorly in the Philippines you can probably expect the Filipina to behave badly in the US. Just find the right woman to match your personality and do not let yourself get conned.
Judging or not, she isn't wrong. Western man is beautiful to many young girls in the Philippines. Bring her over here and the tables are turned 180 degrees. Say there is a secluded island that is full of nothing but beautiful women. There isn't a man in the world that could convince anyone that his reason for going wasn't opportunistic.
True.. it happened to me. My first ex-husband was good looking man at his late 20's and lots of women were showing interest in him. I disposed him. He's irresponsible & fond of gambling. My second ex is a retired American man. He visited me in Philippines. He saw the big nice house where I lived. He visited me twice & then he petitioned me to come to the U.S. He was having in mind tht my family will help me buy a house here in the U.S. He was an opportunist. Tht was what his word of mouth when he was mad at someone, " sitting down & drinking kool aid". Drinking kool aid is better than drinking whisky/ beer & other alcoholic drinks. A person uttering tht words is hypocrite.
Why the hell, at retirement age, should I... 1) get married 2) cohabitate 3) impregnate 4) raise some other fool's kids 5) tie myself down inconveniently 6) throw away all the peace, quite, rest, adventure and fun.. that I had been working my whole life for 7) make myself more valuable dead than alive 8) support an entire clan of strangers that weren't there for me when my a$$ was in pain working with ailments all those years 9) give into a self defeating trend of stu_pid decision making 10) make myself more miserable with drama 11) leave one stressful life for another 12) put myself at a disadvantage 13) subject myself to people's bullsh$t 14) do anything other than enjoying my life in my retirement? WHY??? To each their own! ✌️
Many thanks for watching. I understand that for the retirement that you may want to keep her in the Philippines and keep her as a fling. As I mentioned, the video focused on those wanting something more. The problem comes when you fall in love and need or want to come back to the US. Or maybe she wants a child and your feelings change after being around a bunch of retires who do have children or your simply miss the US. Watch the vlogs and see how many expats think they will never marry again or relocate back to the US or will have a child in retirement then change their mind. Life happens and most men want to make a life with their partners even when they originally think they do not.
Hello! Have a good day! Your story is very interesting and your experience will certainly be useful to someone! I hope everything goes well for you!❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹
The point being is that Men are the ones that have to the opportunity. They go to the Philippines for a reason. Why would you mess that up and bring thier women back to the US. Some do but the vast majority will not.
Thank you for watching the video. I do not think you are correct in your assumption. At any given time there may be 35,000 American expats in the Philippines with many working in the country, missionaries, retirees and long term marriages. Outside of makati, Cebu and Dumagueti, there are relatively few westerners. That said, are over 15,000 marriages involving immigration to the US each year. In my small town in Indiana, I see more Filipinas with their US born husbands than i ever saw Americans in my home of Iloilo City which has a population of 15 times. Even men who decide to stay in the Philippines permanently usually last less than 5 years before coming back often bringing their younger Filipina back with them. Just go to any US citizenship oath taking ceremony and I would guess you would see several Filipinas with their US born husbands.
Times have changed. Appealing filipinas are not usually interested in foreigners.
So true!
Nice sharing.
I don’t think it’s hypocritical. Remember, most of the men considering Filipinas have been burned by women, seeing them change from who they thought they married into a destructive and different person. Since you can never know a person’s heart, it’s always a risk and men are looking to minimize that risk.
I’ve seen enough media to know that there are many single mothers in the Philippines and that there’s probably a lot of man who aren’t loyal to the women they make a baby with.
It’s a matter or both camps have levels of distrust in each other for valid reasons. Marriage in the US is extremely bad for men in the US and so already burned men are naturally repelled by getting married again in the US.
Both people in such a union are “using” each other. The Filipina is looking after her survival and the man is getting a hopefully more loyal and less obese and entitled companion. It’s a transactional relationship where each person is looking after their interests. The men deep down know they are getting a better deal than they would otherwise in the US.
Welcome back! And congratulations on your baby! I think everyone changes over time. We mature, become more humble. Yes, this happened to a friend of ours. He brought a Filipina back here and she left him and married one of his friends. But I'm sure it happens both ways. YES!! Social media has changed everything! Can't wait to get caught up on your channel.
That happens a lot … that other friend must be richer and younger? Hahahah
Amazing dear thanks for sharing good luck 💯👍
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Ma'am I have one problem with you finding it hypocritical with foreigners not wanting to bring their filipina's back to their home countries. That is, the filipina's are not paying for anything. If you don't want to place any of the blame on the filipina's for excepting this arrangement and for not waiting for the right man. Then don't blame the foreigners for not wanting to risk losing out on his financial investment.
Thank you for the comment. I understand and I have lived this. I did not pay to come to the US but I have worked and helped with the bills while I have been in the US as does most us based Filipinas I know. Most importantly, we had a child which was one of my husbands greatest desires. If you are looking at this from a strictly financial perspective than you are probably not looking for a deeper connection and building a life together. If you find yourself falling in love and needing to come back to the US (medical issues, family issues, tired of the heat) which most expats do, may not hang around.
@FilipinaWifeAbroad I am very happy for you and your family's success. I know that their are good filipina's that enter relationships for the right reasons, but I also know that some don't. A lot of foreigners that come to the Philippines have already been taken advantage of by a woman. Some now understand the true nature of women and that they are not sugar and spice and everything nice. Here is a question for you. Why do filipina's choose to date foreigners, and why do they date much older foreign men? Let's see if you will help me understand this. Why?
The cost to bring a filipina to the US can be 600,000.00 pesos or more, just needed to define what's at stake
The way I look at it, assuming the couple is married there is no, his financial investment. Once married it is their investment, their choice where to live, as equal partners.
A new pair of glasses may be needed.
Wow - great comment and question. I will ask my fellow Filipina Americans their thoughts and get back to you. Bringing a Filipina to the US can be expensive. If you do your own immigration paperwork like we did, that will cost 200,000 peso plus a one way ticket to the US (100,000 peso - although cheaper flights are available) plus you need to buy her winter clothes and other essentials so 600,000 peso sounds about right but this is spread over 3 years and if the Filipina works, she should be able to offset some costs. My final thoughts - not all Filipinas want to date foreign men. I was in my forties before I even considered it and only because my husband was very well traveled and could easily blend with my family. If you find a woman who only wants to date foreigners than that is the type of woman I mentioned in the video that could lead to heartache or an empty wallet. Find a woman open to love regardless of the nationality, be humble and listen. You might be surprised how successful the relationship could be. In regards to age, culturally Filipina naturally gravitate to older men regardless of race. There is a great respect for older people that can easily translate into romance and this is strongly supported throughout society. Do not assume it is financial although sometimes it can be. I will ponder this some more and get back to you.
Interesting subject. This applies to everyone moving to any country. The surroundings usually change you, if only little by little, and so slow that you won't notice it yourself. And obviously it applies to both men and women, but most importantly, it depends on where you come from and are moving to, and lastly how old are you when you're moving. (the older you are, the less risk/chance, that person will change.) Thanks for a great video, it's a subject I have quite some experience on, haha...
Many greetings from Ang Kha, Thailand....
Thomas
It’s not hypocritical. It’s merely their preference. Are you judging?
If they left their country because they were unhappy with the culture, why would they bring their partner back into that culture?
They are wise to be wary of the influence of the culture that they left on their partner.
Can you possibly accept that perhaps the impulse to leave in the first place was the correct impulse?
Don’t judge them. And why are you making the assumption that anyone who makes that decision not to bring their partner back has some sense of superiority? Your judgment is showing. You can always tell when someone is judging when they use the word hypocrite, and when they make assumptions which cannot stand up to scrutiny.
Especially sitting there in the United States comfortable and probably drinking the Kool-Aid. Just saying.
@@MartinNyberg thank you for the comment. I get it. My husband who was working primarily in Asia and often in the Philippines before we got married tried to explain this to me and now living between the cultures I see your point. What bothers me is the infidelity of men in relationships with decent Filipinas than having an affair with someone who just because it feeds their ego. There are some fabulous women in the Philippines but if you are going for something more than a fling do not let your opportunities cloud your judgement. The hypocrisy is that the Filipina can often behave the same way when you bring them to the US and if you behave poorly in the Philippines you can probably expect the Filipina to behave badly in the US. Just find the right woman to match your personality and do not let yourself get conned.
Judging or not, she isn't wrong. Western man is beautiful to many young girls in the Philippines. Bring her over here and the tables are turned 180 degrees. Say there is a secluded island that is full of nothing but beautiful women. There isn't a man in the world that could convince anyone that his reason for going wasn't opportunistic.
True.. it happened to me. My first ex-husband was good looking man at his late 20's and lots of women were showing interest in him. I disposed him. He's irresponsible & fond of gambling.
My second ex is a retired American man. He visited me in Philippines. He saw the big nice house where I lived. He visited me twice & then he petitioned me to come to the U.S. He was having in mind tht my family will help me buy a house here in the U.S. He was an opportunist. Tht was what his word of mouth when he was mad at someone, " sitting down & drinking kool aid". Drinking kool aid is better than drinking whisky/ beer & other alcoholic drinks. A person uttering tht words is hypocrite.
@@marissadelapena5066you hve a very interesting love stories to share Maris! Hope to see you in Iloilo someday personally !
Why the hell, at retirement age, should I...
1) get married
2) cohabitate
3) impregnate
4) raise some other fool's kids
5) tie myself down inconveniently
6) throw away all the peace, quite, rest, adventure and fun.. that I had been working my whole life for
7) make myself more valuable dead than alive
8) support an entire clan of strangers that weren't there for me when my a$$ was in pain working with ailments all those years
9) give into a self defeating trend of stu_pid decision making
10) make myself more miserable with drama
11) leave one stressful life for another
12) put myself at a disadvantage
13) subject myself to people's bullsh$t
14) do anything other than enjoying my life in my retirement?
WHY???
To each their own!
✌️
Many thanks for watching. I understand that for the retirement that you may want to keep her in the Philippines and keep her as a fling. As I mentioned, the video focused on those wanting something more. The problem comes when you fall in love and need or want to come back to the US. Or maybe she wants a child and your feelings change after being around a bunch of retires who do have children or your simply miss the US. Watch the vlogs and see how many expats think they will never marry again or relocate back to the US or will have a child in retirement then change their mind. Life happens and most men want to make a life with their partners even when they originally think they do not.
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Thanks for the info sis
Hello! Have a good day! Your story is very interesting and your experience will certainly be useful to someone! I hope everything goes well for you!❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹
Thank you - very nice sentiment
2:30, I am a victim... Not done watching yet, but these have been haunting me despite I grew up there until 21.
Hope to hear it!
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Thank you for sharing. Sending love and hugs ❤
Excelente vídeo top parabéns
The point being is that Men are the ones that have to the opportunity. They go to the Philippines for a reason. Why would you mess that up and bring thier women back to the US. Some do but the vast majority will not.
Thank you for watching the video. I do not think you are correct in your assumption. At any given time there may be 35,000 American expats in the Philippines with many working in the country, missionaries, retirees and long term marriages. Outside of makati, Cebu and Dumagueti, there are relatively few westerners. That said, are over 15,000 marriages involving immigration to the US each year. In my small town in Indiana, I see more Filipinas with their US born husbands than i ever saw Americans in my home of Iloilo City which has a population of 15 times. Even men who decide to stay in the Philippines permanently usually last less than 5 years before coming back often bringing their younger Filipina back with them. Just go to any US citizenship oath taking ceremony and I would guess you would see several Filipinas with their US born husbands.
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hello po! good day!
Philippinas are cheap!!! easy to get!!!
But worth it if u find THE one!
Believe it or not, we got married after 3 months of courtship! Best decision ever! Good luck!