I think people are addicted to the honeymoon phase. They keep wanting to go from relationship to relationship to relive that beginning phase but for the long-haul it’s not realistic. All relationships shift as time goes on. A passionate love that is ignited in the beginning by physical traits and sexual urges and desires slowly shifts into a more compassionate love. That’s what I observed in my 15 year marriage. By the seventh year I started to feel that compassionate shift move in. The fire can always be re-stoked LOL it just takes awareness. I’m a widow of seven years now. I lost my husband back in 2013. I think if a lot of people realized the shift that takes place, and it’s not bad. It doesn’t mean that things are going stale it just means another phase in your journey together. If people were more aware of this they wouldn’t be so eager to go back to the beginning and relive that “Honeymoon” stage with another person. I find that a lot of people are addicted to that initial first stage now that I’m back in the dating arena.
So in my relationship, my wife sees what I do in my life which is music and dogs both of which I make my living with and she can and has gotten really snarky about it. When it comes to my music career and other little music projects that I may take on, which isn't much in the grand scheme of things she always questions why I'm doing it and with a pretty scrappy attitude. We've been together almost 14 years and I've had to contend with this. I'm getting pretty good at just ignoring her complaints and go about my day. Oh and she does enjoy my music and the dogs I bring into our life and I do take out time for us and our relationship. We even listen to Abraham together.
How could one best tackle a narcissist spouse in this universe . Can the loa and other meditations work to live peacefully with them. Should narcs be ignored for their negative behaviors and only embrace their positives in order for the loa to work out for us ...
I recommend reading, Codependent - Now What? 'It's not you it's your programming' By Lisa A Romano. One of the reasons we attract narcissists is because we are codependent. I learnt to shift my vibration from codependent to interdependent and it's attracting healthier people to me. That book helped me alot.
@Amneh Taye he shouldn’t be needing to get close to source, it’s not diffcult, you aren’t trying to CHANGE anyone . You’re trying to attract a different part of someone that you have been wanting which is totally possible! in wanting them to change your basically trying to control a part of them .
They will continue to be a narcissist if you keep viewing them as that, labeling them as that, reading books about how to deal with a narcissist.... Listen to this video again. Abraham said: "if you focused so exclusively on that one positive trait that you consistently stayed in alignment." Whenever you are thinking about them AS a narcissist... You aren't in alignment (you're in alignment with something you DON'T want.) Now, this topic is usually deeper than this though. Most people attract a narcissist in the first place because they don't value themselves - they condemn themselves, they feel a lack of self Love, and they thus feel "needy" for Love and validation from others. The problem with this is, if you condemn yourself, then others in your life MUST reflect that (it's what you're in alignment with, what you're attracting). And usually, one of the main people that will reflect that is your partner. Furthermore, feeling "needy" or "yearning" for something is an indication that you LACK that, and thus, you will be given more "lack" of it. So what do you do? Stop criticizing yourself, full stop. Stop complaining about your life and your partner, full stop. You will not give your ego the "luxury" of complaining anymore. This may be hard at first, but will get easier. Then start a self-acknoledgement practice: write down every day if you can 3 things that are GOOD about yourself. You can randomly dwell on these throughout the day and feel good about them. This will help you start building SELF-love. Then, make a decision if you want to leave or stay with your partner. If you decide to stay, ASSUME they can change. Then, focus only on what you like about them, and switch your focus away from what you don't like. Find ways every day to feel genuine gratitude for them, and feel in your mind them ALSO feeling grateful for you (make it a 2 way street in your mind). All of this will help you be almost exclusively in alignment, and if done right, the changes usually start occuring within weeks. When the changes do start occuring, even very small ones, don't explain them away, but instead acknowledge them and celebrate them as EVIDENCE of your power and of things improving.
Tina Robinson I think if you stay focused on your inner being and vortex they can’t do anything that bothers you.....and they probably will go elsewhere....
THERE IS ONE PERFECT MARRIAGE-BETWEEN RELIGION AND BIG BUSINESS WHO, TOGETHER, BENEFIT GREATLY FROM UNHAPPY SEXUAL UNIONS! There are powerful forces, mostly to be found in religious institutions and large business corporations, who have a direct interest in ruining happy sexual unions! Large corporations, who sell everything from fancy furniture to Caribbean cruises, KNOW they make a LOT more money from unhappy married couples than any other group of marketing targets. And church leaders know they can exercise much more control over members whom they can convince there's something irreparably wrong with their souls. As a result, the one, truly, perfect marriage--Business and Religion! As preachers and teachers turn the words of the Bible inside out to make it SEEM as if God condemns people to Hell for having sex before marriage, a LOT of otherwise happy couples marry LONG BEFORE they're in a stable point in their life. Also, by convincing couples to change the foundation of their relationship from WANTING TO BE together to HAVING TO BE, even the happiest of couples who do wait until they're in a good position to live start a home together, soon find their love has disappeared! Then, the worse part begins. Couples who have clearly lost their love are then convinced they STILL HAVE TO BE together, and the longer they do, THE MORE THEY SPEND, all the while becoming far more likely to experience all sorts of other serious problems--from alcohol/drug abuse to physical violence! There's no mystery here--unhappy people entrapped in the thing that is making them unhappy will act out in order to fill the DEEP VOID within! And there are 1000s of industries, if not many more, who will come to them with promises "to help" fill that emptiness! Couples joyfully running along a beach, embracing as they get the keys to any larger house, or new cars...to all the "experts" who, for a sizable fee of course, promise to "save their marriage!" Then, once a couple has finally had all they can stand, the divorce lawyers swoop in to devour what, if anything, is left! In the meantime, there's the church where, once again, false promises are made "...to save you from your sinful self that caused you to lose your marriage!" Notice how many of them (especially the Neo Evangelical leaders) picture their happily married pastor (often with a much younger, attractive wife), all the while condemning others who don’t have that “perfect marriage.”) No! While no sexual union is perfect, most couples, even ones who seem to be anything but alike, will get along happily and stay that way, if only they were not deluded into thinking MAKING THEIR FUTURE SELVES LOVE SOMEONE! Rick Lannoye, author of www.amazon.com/Honeymoon-Ends-Do-Adverse-Marriage/dp/0595434479 Are you a victim of Bible Abuse? Get help at ricklannoye.com/contact
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I am 23. Single. I am so glad I attracted teachings of Abraham so early in my life. 😇
Me too 🌞🌹
Got to love the synchronicity
You have been attracted it earlier than you know
I will concentrate on the good characters of my husband so I stop attracting the bad in him
I think people are addicted to the honeymoon phase. They keep wanting to go from relationship to relationship to relive that beginning phase but for the long-haul it’s not realistic. All relationships shift as time goes on. A passionate love that is ignited in the beginning by physical traits and sexual urges and desires slowly shifts into a more compassionate love. That’s what I observed in my 15 year marriage. By the seventh year I started to feel that compassionate shift move in. The fire can always be re-stoked LOL it just takes awareness.
I’m a widow of seven years now. I lost my husband back in 2013. I think if a lot of people realized the shift that takes place, and it’s not bad. It doesn’t mean that things are going stale it just means another phase in your journey together. If people were more aware of this they wouldn’t be so eager to go back to the beginning and relive that “Honeymoon” stage with another person. I find that a lot of people are addicted to that initial first stage now that I’m back in the dating arena.
This has happened to me multiple times, I’ll decide to type in A Hicks and it’ll be exactly what I need or want to hear
Saved my relationship, thanks ❤️❣️❤️
Same!
💓💓💓
How
I'm getting married to a person who is so different to me and I am excited to learn more about him x
Congratulations!!!🎊🎉🍾
So in my relationship, my wife sees what I do in my life which is music and dogs both of which I make my living with and she can and has gotten really snarky about it. When it comes to my music career and other little music projects that I may take on, which isn't much in the grand scheme of things she always questions why I'm doing it and with a pretty scrappy attitude. We've been together almost 14 years and I've had to contend with this. I'm getting pretty good at just ignoring her complaints and go about my day. Oh and she does enjoy my music and the dogs I bring into our life and I do take out time for us and our relationship. We even listen to Abraham together.
The best relationship advice ever!
Love Abraham and Esther!😇❤️
Eternally grateful for this post ✨🙏🏼✨🎩✨💍✨ Unconditional love 💞 is the only way!
Struggling in a long-distance relationship right now... Working on fixing my relationship between me and me as we go along too.
Marriage is great!
Marraige is awesome!
How could one best tackle a narcissist spouse in this universe . Can the loa and other meditations work to live peacefully with them. Should narcs be ignored for their negative behaviors and only embrace their positives in order for the loa to work out for us ...
What feels best for us will lead us through the thick and thin
I recommend reading, Codependent - Now What? 'It's not you it's your programming' By Lisa A Romano.
One of the reasons we attract narcissists is because we are codependent.
I learnt to shift my vibration from codependent to interdependent and it's attracting healthier people to me. That book helped me alot.
@Amneh Taye he shouldn’t be needing to get close to source, it’s not diffcult, you aren’t trying to CHANGE anyone . You’re trying to attract a different part of someone that you have been wanting which is totally possible! in wanting them to change your basically trying to control a part of them .
What is a narcissist ? What does that look like?
They will continue to be a narcissist if you keep viewing them as that, labeling them as that, reading books about how to deal with a narcissist....
Listen to this video again. Abraham said: "if you focused so exclusively on that one positive trait that you consistently stayed in alignment."
Whenever you are thinking about them AS a narcissist... You aren't in alignment (you're in alignment with something you DON'T want.)
Now, this topic is usually deeper than this though. Most people attract a narcissist in the first place because they don't value themselves - they condemn themselves, they feel a lack of self Love, and they thus feel "needy" for Love and validation from others.
The problem with this is, if you condemn yourself, then others in your life MUST reflect that (it's what you're in alignment with, what you're attracting). And usually, one of the main people that will reflect that is your partner.
Furthermore, feeling "needy" or "yearning" for something is an indication that you LACK that, and thus, you will be given more "lack" of it.
So what do you do?
Stop criticizing yourself, full stop. Stop complaining about your life and your partner, full stop. You will not give your ego the "luxury" of complaining anymore. This may be hard at first, but will get easier.
Then start a self-acknoledgement practice: write down every day if you can 3 things that are GOOD about yourself. You can randomly dwell on these throughout the day and feel good about them. This will help you start building SELF-love.
Then, make a decision if you want to leave or stay with your partner. If you decide to stay, ASSUME they can change. Then, focus only on what you like about them, and switch your focus away from what you don't like. Find ways every day to feel genuine gratitude for them, and feel in your mind them ALSO feeling grateful for you (make it a 2 way street in your mind).
All of this will help you be almost exclusively in alignment, and if done right, the changes usually start occuring within weeks.
When the changes do start occuring, even very small ones, don't explain them away, but instead acknowledge them and celebrate them as EVIDENCE of your power and of things improving.
💛💛💛
Brilliant!
I don't want to e in the middle of a relationship
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🙏❤️
I’m never getting married she’s gone this time for real gone that’s nothing but a pipe dream I can’t have
I disagree that you can be happy with anyone. A narcissist can never love you.
Sunshine and rainbows😂
Randy Logan hahahaha 🤣😂
Tina Robinson I think if you stay focused on your inner being and vortex they can’t do anything that bothers you.....and they probably will go elsewhere....
A Narcissist can’t remain were he/she isn’t aligned.
Tina Robinson when your vibes change they change or they’ll leave you
Perfect
THERE IS ONE PERFECT MARRIAGE-BETWEEN RELIGION AND BIG BUSINESS WHO, TOGETHER, BENEFIT GREATLY FROM UNHAPPY SEXUAL UNIONS!
There are powerful forces, mostly to be found in religious institutions and large business corporations, who have a direct interest in ruining happy sexual unions! Large corporations, who sell everything from fancy furniture to Caribbean cruises, KNOW they make a LOT more money from unhappy married couples than any other group of marketing targets. And church leaders know they can exercise much more control over members whom they can convince there's something irreparably wrong with their souls. As a result, the one, truly, perfect marriage--Business and Religion! As preachers and teachers turn the words of the Bible inside out to make it SEEM as if God condemns people to Hell for having sex before marriage, a LOT of otherwise happy couples marry LONG BEFORE they're in a stable point in their life. Also, by convincing couples to change the foundation of their relationship from WANTING TO BE together to HAVING TO BE, even the happiest of couples who do wait until they're in a good position to live start a home together, soon find their love has disappeared! Then, the worse part begins. Couples who have clearly lost their love are then convinced they STILL HAVE TO BE together, and the longer they do, THE MORE THEY SPEND, all the while becoming far more likely to experience all sorts of other serious problems--from alcohol/drug abuse to physical violence! There's no mystery here--unhappy people entrapped in the thing that is making them unhappy will act out in order to fill the DEEP VOID within! And there are 1000s of industries, if not many more, who will come to them with promises "to help" fill that emptiness! Couples joyfully running along a beach, embracing as they get the keys to any larger house, or new cars...to all the "experts" who, for a sizable fee of course, promise to "save their marriage!" Then, once a couple has finally had all they can stand, the divorce lawyers swoop in to devour what, if anything, is left! In the meantime, there's the church where, once again, false promises are made "...to save you from your sinful self that caused you to lose your marriage!" Notice how many of them (especially the Neo Evangelical leaders) picture their happily married pastor (often with a much younger, attractive wife), all the while condemning others who don’t have that “perfect marriage.”) No! While no sexual union is perfect, most couples, even ones who seem to be anything but alike, will get along happily and stay that way, if only they were not deluded into thinking MAKING THEIR FUTURE SELVES LOVE SOMEONE!
Rick Lannoye, author of www.amazon.com/Honeymoon-Ends-Do-Adverse-Marriage/dp/0595434479
Are you a victim of Bible Abuse? Get help at ricklannoye.com/contact
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