When transphobia goes wrong! Giving rise to the accidental allies of the world, we love it. Comment down below what you think of the vid! Thanks so much for watching :D
My lovely, your face doesn't look small, but I do understand feeling self-conscious. The accidental allies are moronic bigots, plain & simple. Love to Shaaba & yourself
That they are not as smart as they think they are. And yet they still manage to impress those of us that aren't transphobic with how removed they are from the potential of being intelligence.
@@silvercandra4275 I personally think it has less to do with how smart or educated someone is and more to do with their culture and values, which will determine what type of information and knowledge they value and priorotize
@@friend_trilobot Yes, I agree with... It's very individual what leads someone to think they way they do, but from what I've seen the most vocal transphobes, aren't really smart people... they just pretend to be. They might have been brought up in a way that led to them being hateful, or maybe it's their lack of information on the topic... but often, they just seem to think they're a whole lot smarter than they actually are and that they've cracked some kind of code, which makes them unwilling to listen and learn from other people... You can be uneducated and have a very low IQ or whatever else one might use to measure how smart someone is, but the people who really are dumb, are the ones who shut their ears and refuse to learn.
If you are reading this, you have survived your entire life up to this point. You have survived traumas, heartbreak, devastation, the difficult phases of your life, and here you are, still with us still fighting and for that I will always be proud. You are amazing, valid and awesome.
It's so much fun when transphobes forget that trans men exist and end up validating me. It makes a great story to tell later! Edit:1K WHATT Edit 2.0: 2K ??? HOLY CR*P
one time a transphobe told me: "gender is what's between your legs", so I said, " oh, ok. so my gender is your mom last night". to be clear, I am a cis girl living in Montana, USA
I know. I didn't know about any LGBTQ+ stuff until a few years ago, but for most of my life, I mentally referred to people who I didn't know personally as "they/them" since I didn't know their gender. Some people just don't want their kids to be decent human beings, I suppose.
I managed to get to a point where everyone is a they/them until I'm told otherwise. If they don't tell me their pronouns, I'm just going to use neutral ones.
There could be a few reasons for this - 1. They're bigots and just want to invalidate people's pronouns and enby / NB / non-binary people in general. 2. They're stupid and straight up forgot somehow that it's actually really flipping normal to use singular they in sentence structure quite literally ALL the time. 3. They're bigots AND stupid. (A very likely option, let's be real.) 4. The parents seriously underestimate the intelligence of their child. I don't know why so many adults straight-up think that younger people aren't intelligent, because they actually are usually very intelligent and perceptive. Maybe less "experienced" in life shenanigans in general, but that says nothing of their actual intellectual skills. I wish parents and adults in general would stop thinking of younger folks as being lesser or having less of a brain or some such. It's really weird AND rude AND dehumanizing to younger folks! (I say this as someone who's 29!)
If they can understand and use "you" in a singular form, they can understand and use they/them. Pretending to be stupid is just a way to cover their transphobia.
I don't know for sure, guys, but I'm pretty sure @Tonberry King was tryna be supportive... and failed? I've seen them being supportive in some other comments... Edit: Nevermind, saw them being an asshole in other comments
The guy who said, "No man is gonna date you if you keep saying you're a lesbian" has very similar energy to Jay from Big Mouth saying, "Come on, Andrew! No girl's gonna hook up with you if you're gay!"
@@randommeowthekitty6482 Mhm. Kids pick up things easier than some people think. If they see some people on TV or other media using they/them pronouns, liking their same gender, or anything LGBTQ+ related, they likely won't question it, and will accept it as a normal thing. I can't promise that it's the case for all children, believe me, but it damn worked for my little sister and my dad when he was that age.
I told my dad I was questioning my gender and would prefer to go by “M,” which is a shortening of my birth name, he said he would… and he hasn’t. I accidentally showed my mom something I made that had my name as “M” on it and she double-checked that that was the nickname I actually wanted, told me that it was sweet because my dad’s first initial is M. She then told my siblings I prefer to go by M. The funny thing is, my mom is more transphobic than my dad
I went to visit some friends (who I've known mostly my entire life) and I wasn't misgendered or deadnamed once in the three weeks I was there. I get back and my mom messes up several times on the day I get back alone. She's super supportive in general but she doesn't tend to think about what she's saying.
5:10 gives the same energy as when people tell me "if you keep saying you're ace/aro nobody will want to date you" yes, good, that's what I want thank you
I find it hilarious when people are like "you can't use they/them for a singular individual" but then write something like "a man can't be a women". Come on, I'm not even a native speaker and I get both of these right lol.
Me and my other trans friend are always baffled by bigots somehow thinking that the gender that follows like "Trans (blank)" is someone assigned gender at birth? Like if that was their AGAB....why would they be transitioning to it? Do they just think the trans part of the sentence is just extra seasoning?
No, it's just backwards. Whether it's female to male or male to female, they think the first part goes after the 'trans'. Like a transitioning man instead of a transitioned woman, if that makes sense.
Wasn't a complete transphobe (I wasn't very supportive of nb people until a friend of mine came out, and I explored my own gender)but I thought that too lmao
The fact that these transphobes are even being accidental allies in the first place shows their lack of understanding and knowledge on the subject. I don't get why people can't just do a bit of research and educate themselves before they decide to tell other people how they should and shouldn't live their lives.
I used to be homophobic (I didn’t know what trans was at the time) but I got used to the idea of lgbt+ people and ended up an ally. And I eventually found myself pans and not giving a fuck about my gender (After a bit of research I think I’m pangender). Look how far you can come with just an open mind and a willingness to learn.
There was a nonbinary minor character in an audio book me and my family listened to this summer on a road trip and both my parents were so confused when they kept being referred to as ‘they’. My mom asked if the character was supposed to be multiple people in the same body (it was a futuristic sci-fi story so it’s not as bad a guess as it could have been). To be fair to my parents though, English is not our mother tongue and they don’t hang out on the internet enough to know much about the later bits of the alphabet mafia. That said, it was actually great as it opened up a discussion where me and my sister could explain and at least nudge them in the direction that gender and sexuality are best viewed as spectra rather than either this or that.
I don't know what language is your original but some languages actually do have gendered terms, so I could see language barrier being an actual legitimate issue to understanding. I'm glad you got to open up a discussion about it though, hopefully they understand more now and were receptive to learning about gender/sexuality as being a spectrum! :D
(this person uses they/them) “*he* is nonbinary” “I know *he* is, shut up” “No but you keep saying he, that’ll offend *him*” “You are saying he too! *He’ll* be just as offended by you as *he* is by me” and it goes on… Edit: to clarify, I didn't want to focus it on me, so I put, "this person". "This person" is me, and *I am sick of this kind of thing*. I did not expect this much attention, and to all of those who are responding with stories of how they have been misgendered and had pronouns used for them that they don't like, I'm very sorry about that. People just need to learn.
when i came out to a cousin she was like "but how do you use they/them in singular form? seems hard" and i replied "when you're talking about someone you don't know the gender of, you'll use they/them like breathing right?" and she clamped her mouth
oh my god. me and my friends were playing a game where we make up characters (really fun, ill call the made up character milo) and one of my friends goes ‘she will be nonbinary’ then i tell her abt it and shes like oh ok sorry. anyways we go around and people keep calling milo ‘she’ but mostly the friend who made milo nb. it pissed me off so fucking much that i suggested that we change milo’s pronouns to she/they since they were being bitches about it and then they proceed to call me homophobic because of that. anyways
Neutering a dog doesn't remove the entire genitals anyway. I have to wonder what that person would think of a cis man who lost testicles due to cancer or something. Poor guy, not only has he got that to deal with but now he's apparently involuntarily a woman.
But not a "real" woman, because he can't give birth. Dude loses testicles and ends up involuntarily nonbinary, assumed female? So many logic fails in equating meaning to genitals and reproductive systems.
Like, my dogs still have their sausages hanging out anyways, just no balls. Anyways, since quite a few transphobes tend to be skinheads, and since they usually equate gender to what's in your pants and nothing more, I wonder if they think that you know who was a woman, considering he lost one of his balls?
The: "Dog got neutered but it didn't change his gender thing." I love. It goes against transphobes' or enbyphobes' logic and will either leave them stumped when you bring it up or make them say something that makes them sound even more ridiculous. (Also Grammarly apparently doesn't know what an 'enbyphobe' is.)
It’s funny too cause the cis people I’ve asked say they just wouldn’t be [their agab] if their genitalia was different. Like: “I’d be a Y because I had Y body parts” They conflate genitalia and gender so hard I don’t think they even know their gender. It’s kind of sad actually, cause I was the same before I realized I was agender.
@@honeypotpaws3892 I think the point of the term “enbyphobe” is it’s often used when trans-binary people discriminate against non-binary people, it’s there to differentiate between _general_ transphobia, and exclusively non-binary directed transphobia. Obviously it can be used in other circumstances, but unfortunately some people simply aren’t willing to accept certain people within the community.
That remembers me this r/terfisafetish post where a lesbian said that no lesbians would love a trans man,,, like, thanks, that's...The point ? Most of us aren't straight anyway lmao, mostly m-spec, a-spec and big gays
Same I'm intersex/ nb and all the time people say to me you'll never be a man, you don't even try to pass as male etc. When I'm literally amab but I have long hair and a girl-ish face
ugh i’m jealous, i wish i got that more often! i’m afab and non-binary and i really love a lot of girly things, and other than my short hair and binder, i look very cis. but at the same time as loving pink and sparkles, i wish i looked more androgynous. it’s a struggle 😭
@@_strawberry.peppermint_4985 That's exactly how I feel I used to always try to look as "manly" at possible but I realise that that's just not how I am clothes and makeup etc have no gender you're a perfectly valid non binary person either way :)
Analytic algebra😭 It was the only topic in my last school years that annoyed me and that I didn't understand well because my teacher was always sick in that time, and it's the maths topic I need most in my biology bachelor.
@@solar0wind Ah, what pain. I had a similar experience with probability, where we had a teatcher who mostly cared to tell us stories about his summer cabin. Now that's become the piece of maths I need to understand the most in my work.
I just need people to know that right after the "they is not plural" post, there was an ad break where the video game character was just screaming and...yeah...yeah that's how I feel right now
Day eight of telling this amazing pillar of confidence and hope for those of us who don’t have as many allies how great he is. Remember to take breaks and much love ❤️
I mean in your case though, YOU are still a male, yeah? The two women are, well, women! So I think what was said still technically applies. Just because you share a body doesn't make YOU a woman if you're male, you know? C:
@@mxerror404 In this context, a multiplicity is having multiple personalities inside one head. It’s actually not uncommon. It’s often confused with DID, but a DID diagnosis is only ever really given when the personalities in the system are in an emotionally volatile state and causing damage to each other or the system, rendering the system dysfunctional (the treatment involves working to create a functional system for everyone involved, but does not get rid of any of the alters, hence why it’s not really necessary to get a diagnosis or treatment for a system that’s already healthy and functional. I am part of a medically valid multiplicity, that both my therapist and psychiatrist support, but since there’s no active dysfunction within it they saw no reason to give a diagnosis). Hopefully this helps!
The whole “cat wants to be dogs” analogy is kind of silly. I mean… cats cannot have puppies. Most animals tend to produce infants of their own species. Humans CAN have baby boys and girls (and the spectrum in between) so… it’s more like a doe wants to be a buck… or vice versa.
Nah nah nah. You’re using ACTUAL logic. You aren’t thinking cis het enough. Men are from Mars women are from Venus. Men can’t understand women. No woman is funny. Real men don’t do x thing. Girl pink boy blue. Blah blah misogynistic trope. In are-the-straights-okay-land men and women ARE different species. Which is why women don’t like sex. Just pretend you never thought about gender past your understanding of it at 6 years old and you too can think just like them!
@@murdermyinsanity this was aggressive and i’m pissing myself laughing. Why ARE cishets like that lmaooooo Cats don’t wanna be dogs because the only thing cats really want is world dominations and more kitty treats, neither of which requires gender btw
I must admit, before i started watching your video, i was quite confused about the aspect of being trans and i actually thought that you just *wanted* to be someone else and i did not understand that you could not chose your gender. I also thought that “transboy” meant a girl who was born male and “transgirl” meant a boy who was born female, so tysm for helping me not be completely confused about everything!!!
I didn’t know whether the prefix in “trans woman/man” was referring to before or after their transition either when I was younger, so I just avoided the subject altogether because I didn’t want to offend/upset anyone. 😂🤣.
"Elephants are not birds" is the title of a children's book by an American 'writer', written with the specific aim of teaching kids that no one can change their gender. And yet they say we're the ones pushing our 'ideology' on to kids.
As a kid I didn't understand trans man and trans women. I thought it was like, I used to be a man, now I'm trans. I'm a trans man. I would use an example but I was confusing myself writing it out. I'm non binary know and as a kid people who are non binary confused me. I didn't see much representation and whem there was an adrog character in cartoons ( like peper mint patty) usually they were either man or women. So just someone being non binary used to confuse and amaze me
My grandma is the first person I came out to. It’s honestly the best story I’ve ever heard or experienced myself, and I’m so glad I chose her to tell first. It was fairly recently, and it’s definitely my favorite moment in my life. I was almost breaking down trying to tell her because I was so scared, I was terrified I was going to lose her forever. But when I finally managed to get the words out, she hugged me. She hugged me, and she calmed me down, and she just talked. She told me I was valid, and that she would never stop supporting me, no matter who I was. After I calmed down, she made a joke about my grandpa. She knew he would he supportive as well, and made a joke about how he’d probably he excited since he’d have a grandchild that wasn’t a girl. (I’m trans masc. non binary). After a while, when I told her I was worried about telling my parents, she offered to buy me pride flags to use to help me bring it up and come out. After I brought up my fear of them being transphobic, she said that, if need be, I could come stay with them (my grandparents). She then said ‘and if your father isn’t supportive you tell me and I’ll give him a whack on the head, and remind him we didn’t raise him like that! And that he better be supportive or he’s lost a child, because he’s lost a daughter either way!’ It was the best day of my life, hands down❤️ Heads up: my mom was supportive and with the combined force of me, my mom, and my grandparents we were able to bring my dad around. He’s still slightly confused but supportive
That time I explained to someone that they/them can be used in a singular way because language changes. Then I explained how the word “you” used to plural as well as “thou” was the singular. They. Stopped. Using. The. Word. You. In. A. Singular. Form. It was incredible and I almost admire their persistence.
Hey jammie! I haven’t been watching for that long but I’m a baby trans ftm who just got top surgery!! Currently laying on my couch bed watching your videos while I have nothing else to do :) any advice? Love these videos btw
lmao "jammie" advice would be to just get a lot of rest, do stretches and google is your best friend - if you arent on testosterone or you still feel as though you sound feminine, I recommend eating tuna and onions (there are other foods that get make ur testoserone higher + make you taller and other things) to get higher testosterone and do voice exercises etc
@@saikikfanatic5830 Tuna and onions... so that's why my voice dropped so much even though I'm not on T... I really like my tuna pizza. Pretty sure trying to hit the same notes as a male singer also helps to lower someone's voice, right?
... Random coincidence: me and my friend were trying to figure out a gender neutral name for me, then I randomly decided Jamie, and at that time I forgot this Jamie existed, so yeah-
I work at a medical lab, and I've been very clear in the past that I'm not accepting bullshit from my colleagues, so when my colleague today went and told me a story that happened over the weekend, you could fell she was stepping carefully on the terms she used and all that (go susan!) But then refered to the sister as "still a brother" because she hadn't gotten her surgery and legal sex change (which is a thing my superior are trying to come up with a clear solution for because depending on the hormones your body produces or you take, some test results are different and our system is too outdated to have an easy clicky solution. Anyway), so i corrected susan going "you mean sister" and she was like "no the sister was xyz" (talking about the other transwoman sibling). I tried to explain that she's a woman even without surgery and legal papers, but bless her little heart she looked even more confused at the end of the conversation. One day...
Shout out to the guy who told me "There are no cis people" yesterday. They also said "transphobic is another word for normal" and I replied "Even if it was, normal can also be used to mean boring" and that they don't want to be called transphobiy, which was followed by a "stop being transphobic then" from someone else.
I mean it's great that the community have some accidental allies, even if they don't mean what they say. I guess someone being stupid is helpful in it's own way. As a cis person (though I educated myself on the difference) the way you said 'trans and cis are just adjectives' really helped me understand this (not that I ever thought trans-men were women or vice versa). Also, I find it weird that transphobes/homophobes can't stand using they\them pronouns as they is a word for plural things yet they can get so confused and use 'women' for one person, which isn't even grammatically correct! This is my second time watching this video (these are good videos!) and I realised at 5:29 the transphobe was talking about Summer Luk. I've recently in the past couple of months have found some of her videos and she's really good at making shorts on trans issues so check out her channel too! : ) And finally transphobes, please gain some knowledge and get educated.
I told my grandfather that I was trans and he had no idea what I meant, but he still acted really excited. He smiled real wide and said he was happy for me. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ Edit: spelling error
yknow what, i find it funny that every time i click your video a trans/lgbtq+ ad starts. good job, my man edit: (i mean as in they are usually trans, not that trans arent lgbtq+, sorry if i confuse anyone
not sure if this has been said yet but the specific phrase "elephants are not birds" is going around because it is the title of a transphobic book for kids, and it has unfortunately gotten quite a bit of attention lately. great vid tho!! :)
Jamie, I don't think it's likely you'll read this but on the off chance you might, I want to thank you so much for your amazing channel! I discovered you recently and, please don't laugh, I first mistook you for a very cute cis queer boy who was pursuing bold trans allyship and it took, like three or more videos of yours before I recognized you were, in fact, a very cute queer boy. Yours is the very first channel I've subbed to run by a trans man, which is a relief frankly bc trans women were becoming increasingly over represented in my youtube feed between Contrapoints, Philosophy Tube, and Kat Blaque, among a handful of others it was starting to feel a bit strange. So thank you for helping to restore balance to my universe! I find your content inspiring and often hilarious, and I love it. So thanks again and cheers. Also, if anyone out there could recommend more channels by trans creators to me I would very much appreciate it. (Searching for creators by identity seems a bit gauche in a way that asking for recommendations doesn't quite, idk if that's valid exactly but it is how I feel) Thanks, keep shining!
I came out to my parents as trans yesterday. You helped me through trying to figure out my gender identity but just doing what your doing. Thank you for being an awesome wholesome TH-camr.
I love the whole accidental ally thing because it goes to show that they have no idea what they're talking about, they clearly have done zero research, they're terribly misinformed but it still doesn't stop them from being opinionated.
people not understanding they/them pronouns and still using them is so funny. i had a friend whose parents said that they/them pronouns were not grammatically correct and my friend came into school, looked me in the eye and told me that they weren't grammatically correct. I have been using they/them pronouns for almost 2 years at this point..... and they had been using them for me. was a very odd experience. also another one of our friends had recently started using they/them pronouns also... so all in all was very strange.
I am trans masc and i have naturally very broad shoulders . when i was working at a grocery store in a very conservative area I got people rudely saying both ma'am and sir (like calling me sir rudely assuming im a trans woman)and it was so funny turning around and them seeing my face and seeing their whole world shatter.
I was an accidental transphobe once cause I didn't know what the term "trans women" meant. I thought that it was supposed to mean a man who was assigned woman at birth (like I thought that Jamie is supposed to be called a trans woman) 🤦🏻♀️ So I kept saying that trans women don't want you to call them women (now I wish that the earth had swallowed me)
There’s something about these “accidental allies” that really rubs me the wrong way. Besides yknow, the obvious lol. I think it’s how, despite the jokes we make about them misusing our language, theyre really trying to, intentionally or not, take our language away, redefine our own terms meant to validate us to instead invalidate us. The idea of someone calling me a “trans man” feels really awful because it’s taking my trans identifier that I’m proud of and it’s twisting it on me, turning it into a word that means I’m delusionally trying to be something else. I think the best response is what this video does, to reinforce that our language is real and these people are just incorrect.
Can I just say how much it makes me want to scream that they're saying we should have "new names" for boy and girl, but then throw a fit when someone asks to be called by a pronoun that isn't he/she!?!?!?!?!?!?!? Like really? This is also someone who probably says they get offended at being identified as "cis".
When I first learned the term trans I was so confused... so I would never hate anyone on the confusion. I was thinking they are transitioning and then I got confused if they are transitioning from or to (like it was short form of "transitioning from a man" or "transitioning to a man"). Yes, I was incorrect but I never meant to be hurtful, if I ever made a mistake. I just always thought that if you had transitioned socially, and now living as your preferred gender you would not need to stress the addition "trans" anymore. I hope it comes across correctly (English is not my native language). So, yes, hate transphobes :) But not everyone who might get it mixed up might be a transphobe.
Hi Jamie! As far as I get your content, your view on gender is very scientifical. I'm reading up on it myself, but found very few contents on genderfluidity (I'm still looking for that and thankful for any recommendations). Still, mostly, what I found was confirming that it is possible to be androgynous and that there is no reason to assume that a connection to more than one gender wouldn't make sense, as usually every person has male and female characteristics - as we (the nonbinary community) like to say: "Gender is a spectrum". Still, in videos like this, you keep emphasizing that a changing gender wouldn't be possible ("Girls can't become boys/Boys can't become girls" etc.) or that a person wouldn't have a connection to multiple genders ("Men can't be women" etc.). First, I assumed you just didn't think these kinds of statements through, but I'm starting to get worried, since this is not the first video in which you do that. Can you please explain your stance on this? I'm trying to understand myself and the way gender even works, things like this are so important to me. It would mean a lot.
2:10 and you are going to have an incredibly easy one, because reality hasn’t caught up to yours. ‘Hey Siri set an alarm for ten years’ What would you like the alarm to be called? ‘When I can make a smooth roast line again’
im happy that another transgender youtuber person has been brought on this channel accidentally. Summer Luk's name was mentioned in this video and im so happy about it because ive been watching her channel since young.
my mistake to start drinking water while watching this video. you read “MEN ARE NOT WOMEN” and i started choking on water out of the absurdity of that phrasing because, literally no one is saying that men are women.
Henro, I just discovered your channel. Just wanted to say ur one of my new favorite potatoes! (As in, content creators/channels. I usually say beans, but you like potatoes.) Even when yoi react to negative content, are are very validating and reafirming. :3
hiya! i started watching your content before i realised and accepted i was trans. so thankyou, your content really helped me through and is still helping me
Jamie, you're just an angel. You help me again and again with all this social transphobia I'm experiencing everyday, everywhere. My transition should be all happiness (and it is, most of the time!), but people try to steal it from me. They won't succeed! I hope ...
While it's funny to laugh at bigots being stupid, it's super frustrating because it means they haven't taken the time to actually learn about what they irrationally hate. Like, imagine being so against something and advocating against it, but not understanding the basic concepts of said thing. (I know this happens with a lot of things besides transgender people, but this is just such an obvious example...)
It’s understandable in the way that i hate trigonometry cuz i don’t know much about trigonometry. But, unlike trigonometry, hating trans people has dire real life consequences. Also i think it’s a lot easier to understand trans folks than it is to understand math in any circumstance 😂 transphobes literally broadcast the fact that they’re uneducated and still expect people to take them seriously
2:55 Heh, this is kinda a double-dip trans allies thing. Backstory to the backstory for those who don't know- the scene is actually opposite to the way the meme is usually used. The things presented _are_ the same thing, and the person presenting the picture (In this meme, the woman captioned as "Science and nature") even says there are at least seven differences to the other character- before hard-cutting to a different scene to say to the viewer that they are the same picture, as the character (if I remember right) wastes time and is basically distracted trying to find the seven differences. He even says "I already see one- give them to me" So science and nature are challenging telling transphobes to find the difference between a trans woman and a woman- but fully knows there aren't any. Then again there is the chance they're using it the normal way, and just painting Pam as *the woke fools* etc, but you know. Good fun either way.
Sadly they probably mean it in using Pam as the “woke fool” like you said bc I feel like those type of conservative guys are the type to go “Pam was ruined once she learned how to stand up for herself and not let herself get walked all over. I liked her better when she was meek and submissive, now she’s a bitch!!1!!”
Ppl who say they/them aren't singular pronouns have obviously never read a book 💀 For example if there were a character and the author doesn't want to reveal the gender at the beginning of the story they'll refer to that character as they/them. It's not that hard to go read a book 👁️👄👁️
Holy shit! This is the first video I’ve seen that talks about my gender! I’m a demiwoman and I always get paranoid about talking about it because I’m not sure if it’s a term accepted by the larger lgbt community. It’s nice to see Jammi reaffirm my pronouns (although I also use she/her). He’s an awesome dude!
I love that I got a Prager U ad on this video with good ol' Candace Owens, as if TH-cam saw you were talking about trans stuff and decided you needed a little hate sprinkled in in the form of ads.
I was wearing a trans flag mask once and this was the dialogue with her. Lmao 'What pattern is ur mask?' 'Oh its the transgender flag :)' *she quickly shields her daughter* 'Oh im not dangerous' (jokingly) 'Sure your not...' 'Ok bye' (Slightly weirded out) *i hurry away* She yells 'YOU'LL NEVER BE A WOMAN' *concealed snort laughing hidden by the trans mask* Best compliment I've had all year
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What do we think of the accidental allies!!??
They’re just so confused about what they’re trying to say, you can’t help but feel bad for their brain cells
My lovely, your face doesn't look small, but I do understand feeling self-conscious. The accidental allies are moronic bigots, plain & simple. Love to Shaaba & yourself
That they are not as smart as they think they are. And yet they still manage to impress those of us that aren't transphobic with how removed they are from the potential of being intelligence.
@@kashvik7499 I think their brain cells might be practicing social distancing tbh.
in terms of transphobes, they're good because they're transphobes we can laugh at vs the ones who just make us upset.
"Cis men are men even though they're cis"
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Just had a hilarious image of you breathing through your bellybutton. 😆
@@changelingchild4299 Just chilling and watching some Jammi from inside the womb
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@@kosmicwaffle this reply made me expel carbon dioxide from my nasal cavity at a moderately increased rate
I love that "criticizing singular they while accidentally using singular they" has become a meme at this point
It just happens so often. It's just the right mixture of humorous and saddening.
It just shows that hateful people usually aren't the brightest... and lack a sense any semblance of empathy.
@@silvercandra4275 I personally think it has less to do with how smart or educated someone is and more to do with their culture and values, which will determine what type of information and knowledge they value and priorotize
@@friend_trilobot Yes, I agree with...
It's very individual what leads someone to think they way they do, but from what I've seen the most vocal transphobes, aren't really smart people... they just pretend to be.
They might have been brought up in a way that led to them being hateful, or maybe it's their lack of information on the topic... but often, they just seem to think they're a whole lot smarter than they actually are and that they've cracked some kind of code, which makes them unwilling to listen and learn from other people...
You can be uneducated and have a very low IQ or whatever else one might use to measure how smart someone is, but the people who really are dumb, are the ones who shut their ears and refuse to learn.
It's because we use singular they all the time
Some people just refuse to acknowledge that
"If u keep saying ur a lesbian men won't wanna date u"
"If u keep sayin ur allergic to peanuts people won't wanna give you PB&J"
This ⬆️
“If you keep saying you’re lactose intolerant, no one will give you dairy”
If you keep saying you're vegan, nobody will grill you pork chops
"If you keep saying you're allergic to cats your parents won't buy you another cat."
@@accio_firewhiskey8256 another! Man, I feel bad for that kid!
“They refers to multiple people!” [uses “women” to refer to one person]
This ^^^
so that's what whitney houston meant when she said she was "every woman".
Wait until they find out that "you" was originally plural- we gonna be back in the days of "thou"
If you are reading this, you have survived your entire life up to this point. You have survived traumas, heartbreak, devastation, the difficult phases of your life, and here you are, still with us still fighting and for that I will always be proud. You are amazing, valid and awesome.
wooo
I needed this. I DID survive trauma, thank you.
Oh hi again :D
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:)
It's so much fun when transphobes forget that trans men exist and end up validating me. It makes a great story to tell later!
Edit:1K WHATT
Edit 2.0: 2K ??? HOLY CR*P
Or when they get the terms backwards; "Transwoman? You'll never be a man!"
"Yes. _That's the point."_
Wait, but from your pfp you're non binary? I'm confused haha
@@LTMotions They're probably a demi boy (on the edge between beeing nb and a guy)
@@silvercandra4275 ah maybe
@@LTMotions Yeah, I'm trans-masc nonbinary. Not sure if I'm a demiboy or something else tho haha
I once had a man say to me "if you keep saying you're agender, people will think you're genderless" like buddy that's the point
i dont think thats the point, non binary means you're not male or female, out of the binary, and agender is genderless
@@branthony8055 ooh ok
I'd be happy if people think that I'm genderless because I _am_ genderless :)
one time a transphobe told me: "gender is what's between your legs", so I said, " oh, ok. so my gender is your mom last night". to be clear, I am a cis girl living in Montana, USA
💀💀💀💀
The double whammy of “i slept with your mom” and “your mom gay”
Mind if I steal this? Need it just in case someone decides to be a jackass.
HELP
GET OWNED TRANSPHOBE!!!!
I don’t get the whole “they/them is hard” or “they/them is hard for kids” when I found out I was 10 and I picked up in about a week lol
It’s been used since Shakespearean times, people have zero excuses
I know. I didn't know about any LGBTQ+ stuff until a few years ago, but for most of my life, I mentally referred to people who I didn't know personally as "they/them" since I didn't know their gender. Some people just don't want their kids to be decent human beings, I suppose.
I managed to get to a point where everyone is a they/them until I'm told otherwise.
If they don't tell me their pronouns, I'm just going to use neutral ones.
There could be a few reasons for this -
1. They're bigots and just want to invalidate people's pronouns and enby / NB / non-binary people in general.
2. They're stupid and straight up forgot somehow that it's actually really flipping normal to use singular they in sentence structure quite literally ALL the time.
3. They're bigots AND stupid. (A very likely option, let's be real.)
4. The parents seriously underestimate the intelligence of their child. I don't know why so many adults straight-up think that younger people aren't intelligent, because they actually are usually very intelligent and perceptive. Maybe less "experienced" in life shenanigans in general, but that says nothing of their actual intellectual skills. I wish parents and adults in general would stop thinking of younger folks as being lesser or having less of a brain or some such. It's really weird AND rude AND dehumanizing to younger folks! (I say this as someone who's 29!)
If they can understand and use "you" in a singular form, they can understand and use they/them.
Pretending to be stupid is just a way to cover their transphobia.
People saying that "they/them" can't be used in a singular way clearly didn't pay attention in English class...
Remind them that "you" used to be plural only too, and "thou" fell out of use
@@kimarna oof, and now the homophobes, transphobes, and whatever-phobes go cry in their fucking corner :D
My friends: always remembering to gender me correctly
Also me every 3 seconds: *misgendering myself*
HFJDHJDHSJ WE'RE THE SAME, MY FRIEND VALIDATES ME SM AND I CALL MYSELF SHE LIKE THE IDIOT I AM
OMG SAME MY FRIEND DIDNT INVITE ME TO A SLEEPOVER AND I WAS CRYING BUT IT WAS BEVAUSE IM A BOY AND IT WAS ALL GIRLS 😭😭😭
Oh, thank goodness. I thought that was just me.
You all might not be used to using your pronouns around people. I hope it gets easier soon!
I KNOW RIGHT! I KEEP FORGETTING I’M ENBY AND NOT CIS ANYMORE
_love the fact that there’s a small chance I’ll tell someone I’m trans they’ll say I’m not a man/woman, like thanks, never plan on being either_
@@tonberryking7836
>it/its in username
>tries to be offensive by calling it an it
@@tonberryking7836 oh how ironic you are an accidentALLY
@@tonberryking7836 yooooo accidental ally!!! ouo
I don't know for sure, guys, but I'm pretty sure @Tonberry King was tryna be supportive... and failed? I've seen them being supportive in some other comments...
Edit: Nevermind, saw them being an asshole in other comments
@@tonberryking7836 not as dehumanising as you think it is
The guy who said, "No man is gonna date you if you keep saying you're a lesbian" has very similar energy to Jay from Big Mouth saying, "Come on, Andrew! No girl's gonna hook up with you if you're gay!"
Yes, like ✨that’s kinda the point✨ XD
I too used to get confused between trans man and trans woman. When I was 10.
Yup, but only because no one taught me. If people actually tried to teach kids, they'd realize how easy they actually learn
@@randommeowthekitty6482 Mhm. Kids pick up things easier than some people think. If they see some people on TV or other media using they/them pronouns, liking their same gender, or anything LGBTQ+ related, they likely won't question it, and will accept it as a normal thing. I can't promise that it's the case for all children, believe me, but it damn worked for my little sister and my dad when he was that age.
@Lavender360
Yeah, I've heard so many stories about allied kids. It really doesn't take much for them to catch on
Same though-- maybe even 9
Same, but my friends taught me the differences later on
I told my dad I was questioning my gender and would prefer to go by “M,” which is a shortening of my birth name, he said he would… and he hasn’t. I accidentally showed my mom something I made that had my name as “M” on it and she double-checked that that was the nickname I actually wanted, told me that it was sweet because my dad’s first initial is M. She then told my siblings I prefer to go by M. The funny thing is, my mom is more transphobic than my dad
M is a cool name
@@fromthethirdplanet Thanks, picked it out myself!
m is a really neat name
i actually have 2 ocs named "j" and "x"
I went to visit some friends (who I've known mostly my entire life) and I wasn't misgendered or deadnamed once in the three weeks I was there. I get back and my mom messes up several times on the day I get back alone. She's super supportive in general but she doesn't tend to think about what she's saying.
@@nohintshere unrelated but
rythm heaven pfp
Always love accidental allies. They're so silly
agreed
I love them but I hate them
yess so silly and goofy >
@tired™ I like your pfp ^^
@@bvttew_miilk8793 thank you:)
5:10 gives the same energy as when people tell me "if you keep saying you're ace/aro nobody will want to date you" yes, good, that's what I want thank you
i enjoy seeing people being so confused to the point of being allies, it’s so funny to me
At the same time it's sad how they can be so surprised at someone being a decent person to trans people
I find it hilarious when people are like "you can't use they/them for a singular individual" but then write something like "a man can't be a women". Come on, I'm not even a native speaker and I get both of these right lol.
Oh my gods... I love correcting these types of errors, because I'm not a native either...
It's so funny.
Bilingual pride yay 😁
Every time I have a bad day or dysphoria i remember jamie exists and it makes life easier
PARTY POISON!
@@ellarorrie8150 YES TY LOVE HIM SM
@@jlori4690 I DO TOO!
@@jlori4690 I was also a killjoy for Halloween, although only 2 people recognized me as a killjoy (because I had to make my own female killjoy lol)
@@ellarorrie8150 why be a female killjoy be like gee reject gender xD
Me and my other trans friend are always baffled by bigots somehow thinking that the gender that follows like "Trans (blank)" is someone assigned gender at birth? Like if that was their AGAB....why would they be transitioning to it? Do they just think the trans part of the sentence is just extra seasoning?
No, it's just backwards. Whether it's female to male or male to female, they think the first part goes after the 'trans'. Like a transitioning man instead of a transitioned woman, if that makes sense.
Unrelated, but that's a really cute avatar! Did you make it yourself?
These people think we just constantly misgender ourselves.
(I mean some of us do by accident, but not when speaking about being trans)
Wasn't a complete transphobe (I wasn't very supportive of nb people until a friend of mine came out, and I explored my own gender)but I thought that too lmao
@@painslut off topic but we love that character development
The fact that these transphobes are even being accidental allies in the first place shows their lack of understanding and knowledge on the subject. I don't get why people can't just do a bit of research and educate themselves before they decide to tell other people how they should and shouldn't live their lives.
I don't think they want to do the research because they want to stay in their safe place where they think they have it all figured out.
I used to be homophobic (I didn’t know what trans was at the time) but I got used to the idea of lgbt+ people and ended up an ally. And I eventually found myself pans and not giving a fuck about my gender (After a bit of research I think I’m pangender). Look how far you can come with just an open mind and a willingness to learn.
@@hydrationsauce congrats on figuring yourself out! I’m glad that you’re more open-minded about others, best wishes to you and your loved ones!
@@hydrationsauce Yessss thats great I love it when people try and learn and change for the better. Thank you!!!
THANK YOU
I came out to someone I'm trans and they told me that I'll never be a woman... He's confused 😭
(I'm a trans male)
@@tonberryking7836 why lmao
@@tonberryking7836 Leave these people alone, it's really weird to just ask someone their age on the internet when they don't even mention it
well he's right
you're a man
@@flintsstar8392 ignore this person, they're running around asking everyone this question
@@Me-io3wg they also outed themself as anti-they/them pronouns ^^
There was a nonbinary minor character in an audio book me and my family listened to this summer on a road trip and both my parents were so confused when they kept being referred to as ‘they’. My mom asked if the character was supposed to be multiple people in the same body (it was a futuristic sci-fi story so it’s not as bad a guess as it could have been). To be fair to my parents though, English is not our mother tongue and they don’t hang out on the internet enough to know much about the later bits of the alphabet mafia. That said, it was actually great as it opened up a discussion where me and my sister could explain and at least nudge them in the direction that gender and sexuality are best viewed as spectra rather than either this or that.
I don't know what language is your original but some languages actually do have gendered terms, so I could see language barrier being an actual legitimate issue to understanding. I'm glad you got to open up a discussion about it though, hopefully they understand more now and were receptive to learning about gender/sexuality as being a spectrum! :D
I'm sorry but my dumbass read "mother is not my English tongue"
(this person uses they/them)
“*he* is nonbinary”
“I know *he* is, shut up”
“No but you keep saying he, that’ll offend *him*”
“You are saying he too! *He’ll* be just as offended by you as *he* is by me”
and it goes on…
Edit: to clarify, I didn't want to focus it on me, so I put, "this person". "This person" is me, and *I am sick of this kind of thing*. I did not expect this much attention, and to all of those who are responding with stories of how they have been misgendered and had pronouns used for them that they don't like, I'm very sorry about that. People just need to learn.
That shit really sucks
when i came out to a cousin she was like "but how do you use they/them in singular form? seems hard" and i replied "when you're talking about someone you don't know the gender of, you'll use they/them like breathing right?" and she clamped her mouth
oh my god. me and my friends were playing a game where we make up characters (really fun, ill call the made up character milo) and one of my friends goes ‘she will be nonbinary’ then i tell her abt it and shes like oh ok sorry. anyways we go around and people keep calling milo ‘she’ but mostly the friend who made milo nb. it pissed me off so fucking much that i suggested that we change milo’s pronouns to she/they since they were being bitches about it and then they proceed to call me homophobic because of that. anyways
@@cleetus_- That’s freaking horrible
@@cleetus_ it's sucks that you had to comprimise your own character bc your friends wouldn't understand :\
Neutering a dog doesn't remove the entire genitals anyway. I have to wonder what that person would think of a cis man who lost testicles due to cancer or something. Poor guy, not only has he got that to deal with but now he's apparently involuntarily a woman.
But not a "real" woman, because he can't give birth. Dude loses testicles and ends up involuntarily nonbinary, assumed female?
So many logic fails in equating meaning to genitals and reproductive systems.
it also shows a total misunderstanding of what bottom surgery actually entails lmfao. it's nothing like neutering a dog.
Like, my dogs still have their sausages hanging out anyways, just no balls.
Anyways, since quite a few transphobes tend to be skinheads, and since they usually equate gender to what's in your pants and nothing more, I wonder if they think that you know who was a woman, considering he lost one of his balls?
"Maybe we should come up with new names for it" "Ok, can you please refer to me as 'xe/xem'?" "THOSE AREN'T REAL!! YOU'RE A BOY OR A GIRL"
love how the “men are not women” banner had the genderqueer flag in the background
It's the suffragette flag colours. Loads of gender critical people use them in their profiles.
@@ediandroid494 ah, so they are. They’re so close to the genderqueer flag though that you still have to laugh a little at GCs using them.
@@ediandroid494 They’re appropriating the suffragette colours
The: "Dog got neutered but it didn't change his gender thing." I love. It goes against transphobes' or enbyphobes' logic and will either leave them stumped when you bring it up or make them say something that makes them sound even more ridiculous. (Also Grammarly apparently doesn't know what an 'enbyphobe' is.)
It’s funny too cause the cis people I’ve asked say they just wouldn’t be [their agab] if their genitalia was different. Like: “I’d be a Y because I had Y body parts”
They conflate genitalia and gender so hard I don’t think they even know their gender. It’s kind of sad actually, cause I was the same before I realized I was agender.
enbys are trans btw! by being an enbyphobe, you're a transphobe aswell ^^
@@honeypotpaws3892 I think the point of the term “enbyphobe” is it’s often used when trans-binary people discriminate against non-binary people, it’s there to differentiate between _general_ transphobia, and exclusively non-binary directed transphobia. Obviously it can be used in other circumstances, but unfortunately some people simply aren’t willing to accept certain people within the community.
It’s okay, the first month I used Grammarly, it didn’t even know my name. They fixed that because it’s an older spelling.
Elephants can't be birds. Dumbo: Am I a joke to you?
Dumbo belongs to the trans community now, the transphobes can't have him.
You made me smile with that. Thank you :3
"if you keep saying you're a lesbian, men won't wanna date you" um yeah I sure hope so!
Oh no what a tragedy I'll never find a husband
That remembers me this r/terfisafetish post where a lesbian said that no lesbians would love a trans man,,, like, thanks, that's...The point ? Most of us aren't straight anyway lmao, mostly m-spec, a-spec and big gays
i wish all my trans lesbians
a merry
never being solicited by men
It’s almost like… ✨that’s the whole point✨
@@painslut what do you mean most of us aren't straight is their like a statistical anomaly with trans women that makes us less likely to be straight?
My peak gender moment and the highlight of my month is when people try to figure out whether I’m afab or amab hehehe
Same I'm intersex/ nb and all the time people say to me you'll never be a man, you don't even try to pass as male etc. When I'm literally amab but I have long hair and a girl-ish face
ugh i’m jealous, i wish i got that more often! i’m afab and non-binary and i really love a lot of girly things, and other than my short hair and binder, i look very cis. but at the same time as loving pink and sparkles, i wish i looked more androgynous. it’s a struggle 😭
@@_strawberry.peppermint_4985 That's exactly how I feel I used to always try to look as "manly" at possible but I realise that that's just not how I am clothes and makeup etc have no gender you're a perfectly valid non binary person either way :)
@@schoolemail190 LMAOO
@@_strawberry.peppermint_4985 f to pay respecc
Normal gender: when you find yourself at right angle from the woman-man plane. **Gender as vector space**
Analytic algebra😭 It was the only topic in my last school years that annoyed me and that I didn't understand well because my teacher was always sick in that time, and it's the maths topic I need most in my biology bachelor.
@@solar0wind Ah, what pain. I had a similar experience with probability, where we had a teatcher who mostly cared to tell us stories about his summer cabin. Now that's become the piece of maths I need to understand the most in my work.
@@Ivytheherbert Hey now, you shouldn't comment on the length of one's unit, that's highly inappropriate.
@@Howtard Pfft-
I thought the title was 'Accidental Trans Aliens' until I looked more closely. I think my glasses need glasses
Accidental allies always give me a good laugh. It's quite funny how their brain and their mouth wasn't in sync. Okay, I'm really going to sleep now.
I just need people to know that right after the "they is not plural" post, there was an ad break where the video game character was just screaming and...yeah...yeah that's how I feel right now
as soon as Jamie finished reading the tweet abt using they/them for multiple people instead of one a grammarly ad popped up lmao 10/10 timing there
Accidental allies are freaking hilarious
Agreed
@Dadapiggles 456 you’re right! Men are men and women are women! It’s crazy that people deny that
Agreed
Day eight of telling this amazing pillar of confidence and hope for those of us who don’t have as many allies how great he is. Remember to take breaks and much love ❤️
HOI TEMMIE
"a man can't be multiple women"
Plural systems: hold my beers
“Of course men can’t be multiple women”
Me as a trans guy living in a multiplicity that includes two women: o.o
I mean in your case though, YOU are still a male, yeah? The two women are, well, women! So I think what was said still technically applies. Just because you share a body doesn't make YOU a woman if you're male, you know? C:
@@KingdomEllipsis Yeah, that’s true. I just thought it was a kinda funny comparison XD
Lol
sorry if i sound rude but- what is a multiplicity in this context?
@@mxerror404 In this context, a multiplicity is having multiple personalities inside one head. It’s actually not uncommon.
It’s often confused with DID, but a DID diagnosis is only ever really given when the personalities in the system are in an emotionally volatile state and causing damage to each other or the system, rendering the system dysfunctional (the treatment involves working to create a functional system for everyone involved, but does not get rid of any of the alters, hence why it’s not really necessary to get a diagnosis or treatment for a system that’s already healthy and functional. I am part of a medically valid multiplicity, that both my therapist and psychiatrist support, but since there’s no active dysfunction within it they saw no reason to give a diagnosis). Hopefully this helps!
Arguably, this is when transphobia goes *right*, rather than when it goes wrong...
Deliberate Ally here ~ Cis Mum of a Daughter, a Son and a 'Normal' hehe, love my collection of now adult kiddies
You got the whole set /lh
Gotta catch ‘em all!
Thanku supportive mum, nice 2 c u around, even on the internet ❤️
I describe my three as, oldest to youngest, a son, a daughter and a sorta.
We do love a supportive mom. Hope you're doing well!
The whole “cat wants to be dogs” analogy is kind of silly. I mean… cats cannot have puppies. Most animals tend to produce infants of their own species. Humans CAN have baby boys and girls (and the spectrum in between) so… it’s more like a doe wants to be a buck… or vice versa.
Nah nah nah. You’re using ACTUAL logic. You aren’t thinking cis het enough. Men are from Mars women are from Venus. Men can’t understand women. No woman is funny. Real men don’t do x thing. Girl pink boy blue. Blah blah misogynistic trope. In are-the-straights-okay-land men and women ARE different species. Which is why women don’t like sex. Just pretend you never thought about gender past your understanding of it at 6 years old and you too can think just like them!
@@murdermyinsanity this was aggressive and i’m pissing myself laughing. Why ARE cishets like that lmaooooo
Cats don’t wanna be dogs because the only thing cats really want is world dominations and more kitty treats, neither of which requires gender btw
@@alexgava2086 also belly rubs in certain circumstances
@@alexgava2086 this sounds like the running asexual joke from the lgballt episodes.
All aces want is garlic bread, cake, and world domination.
I must admit, before i started watching your video, i was quite confused about the aspect of being trans and i actually thought that you just *wanted* to be someone else and i did not understand that you could not chose your gender. I also thought that “transboy” meant a girl who was born male and “transgirl” meant a boy who was born female, so tysm for helping me not be completely confused about everything!!!
I didn’t know whether the prefix in “trans woman/man” was referring to before or after their transition either when I was younger, so I just avoided the subject altogether because I didn’t want to offend/upset anyone. 😂🤣.
If you avoid talking about things that you don't know about, you're already way ahead of any transphobe.
@@ilikecookies9796 I was like seven through to fourteen at the time, but even I knew that. 🙄.
me laughing way to hard over the "a man cant be multiple woman" xD
"Elephants are not birds" is the title of a children's book by an American 'writer', written with the specific aim of teaching kids that no one can change their gender. And yet they say we're the ones pushing our 'ideology' on to kids.
As a kid I didn't understand trans man and trans women. I thought it was like,
I used to be a man, now I'm trans. I'm a trans man.
I would use an example but I was confusing myself writing it out. I'm non binary know and as a kid people who are non binary confused me. I didn't see much representation and whem there was an adrog character in cartoons ( like peper mint patty) usually they were either man or women. So just someone being non binary used to confuse and amaze me
My grandma is the first person I came out to. It’s honestly the best story I’ve ever heard or experienced myself, and I’m so glad I chose her to tell first. It was fairly recently, and it’s definitely my favorite moment in my life. I was almost breaking down trying to tell her because I was so scared, I was terrified I was going to lose her forever. But when I finally managed to get the words out, she hugged me. She hugged me, and she calmed me down, and she just talked. She told me I was valid, and that she would never stop supporting me, no matter who I was. After I calmed down, she made a joke about my grandpa. She knew he would he supportive as well, and made a joke about how he’d probably he excited since he’d have a grandchild that wasn’t a girl. (I’m trans masc. non binary). After a while, when I told her I was worried about telling my parents, she offered to buy me pride flags to use to help me bring it up and come out. After I brought up my fear of them being transphobic, she said that, if need be, I could come stay with them (my grandparents). She then said ‘and if your father isn’t supportive you tell me and I’ll give him a whack on the head, and remind him we didn’t raise him like that! And that he better be supportive or he’s lost a child, because he’s lost a daughter either way!’
It was the best day of my life, hands down❤️
Heads up: my mom was supportive and with the combined force of me, my mom, and my grandparents we were able to bring my dad around. He’s still slightly confused but supportive
That time I explained to someone that they/them can be used in a singular way because language changes. Then I explained how the word “you” used to plural as well as “thou” was the singular. They. Stopped. Using. The. Word. You. In. A. Singular. Form.
It was incredible and I almost admire their persistence.
how art thou today my friend?
@@raidev_ I am swell. I shall do art now since thou hast got me thinkith about it.
5:22 wow Summer Luk in a Jammidodger video????? My life is complete
Hey jammie! I haven’t been watching for that long but I’m a baby trans ftm who just got top surgery!! Currently laying on my couch bed watching your videos while I have nothing else to do :) any advice? Love these videos btw
lmao "jammie"
advice would be to just get a lot of rest, do stretches and google is your best friend - if you arent on testosterone or you still feel as though you sound feminine, I recommend eating tuna and onions (there are other foods that get make ur testoserone higher + make you taller and other things) to get higher testosterone and do voice exercises etc
someone needs to edit jamie as jam now
@@saikikfanatic5830 Tuna and onions... so that's why my voice dropped so much even though I'm not on T...
I really like my tuna pizza.
Pretty sure trying to hit the same notes as a male singer also helps to lower someone's voice, right?
@@silvercandra4275 yeah; some exercises involve humming at the lowest voice you can
I’m not trans or offering advice here, I just wanted to say congratulations!
...
Random coincidence: me and my friend were trying to figure out a gender neutral name for me, then I randomly decided Jamie, and at that time I forgot this Jamie existed, so yeah-
@@tonberryking7836 why do you want to know that?
@@tonberryking7836 why would u ask that to a random person
@@tonberryking7836 is there a reason you wanna know? because it’s kinda weird to ask a random person for their age
@@tonberryking7836 it’s not your business
@@tonberryking7836 i dont think you should get involved in random strangers lives
I work at a medical lab, and I've been very clear in the past that I'm not accepting bullshit from my colleagues, so when my colleague today went and told me a story that happened over the weekend, you could fell she was stepping carefully on the terms she used and all that (go susan!) But then refered to the sister as "still a brother" because she hadn't gotten her surgery and legal sex change (which is a thing my superior are trying to come up with a clear solution for because depending on the hormones your body produces or you take, some test results are different and our system is too outdated to have an easy clicky solution. Anyway), so i corrected susan going "you mean sister" and she was like "no the sister was xyz" (talking about the other transwoman sibling). I tried to explain that she's a woman even without surgery and legal papers, but bless her little heart she looked even more confused at the end of the conversation. One day...
Transphobes when someone uses "they" to refer to a single person: Anger
Transphobes wen they use women to refer to a single woman: Kalm
I would like to make the argument that elephants are in fact birds and trunks are just flexible beaks
Controversial take, but I admire your bravery.
Their skeletons are basically the same but proportioned differently.
You gave me a horrid image while I was eating my nectarine, I both hate and love your statement.
Hot take
This is horrifying. Love it, keep up the good work
Shout out to the guy who told me "There are no cis people" yesterday.
They also said "transphobic is another word for normal" and I replied "Even if it was, normal can also be used to mean boring" and that they don't want to be called transphobiy, which was followed by a "stop being transphobic then" from someone else.
I mean it's great that the community have some accidental allies, even if they don't mean what they say. I guess someone being stupid is helpful in it's own way. As a cis person (though I educated myself on the difference) the way you said 'trans and cis are just adjectives' really helped me understand this (not that I ever thought trans-men were women or vice versa). Also, I find it weird that transphobes/homophobes can't stand using they\them pronouns as they is a word for plural things yet they can get so confused and use 'women' for one person, which isn't even grammatically correct! This is my second time watching this video (these are good videos!) and I realised at 5:29 the transphobe was talking about Summer Luk. I've recently in the past couple of months have found some of her videos and she's really good at making shorts on trans issues so check out her channel too! : ) And finally transphobes, please gain some knowledge and get educated.
Last week was the first time I told people my new name (River) and I'm STILL riding that high.
That's a really pretty name... sounds calm and quiet still powerful as hell.
A good name.
my favourite thing is accidental allies, its so satisfying to see their argument just crumble heheheeeee
edit/ grammar whoops
@@tonberryking7836 stop asking this question to people, it's really invasive especially since it's over the internet
@@nxahsvidz ton outed themself as against they/them pronouns in another comment
Just DNI (do not interact)
@@kageneasterprojects yeah I've seen other comments of this person's and it's very negative :((
I told my grandfather that I was trans and he had no idea what I meant, but he still acted really excited. He smiled real wide and said he was happy for me. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Edit: spelling error
Aww!! That sounds amazing 😍
yknow what, i find it funny that every time i click your video a trans/lgbtq+ ad starts.
good job, my man
edit: (i mean as in they are usually trans, not that trans arent lgbtq+, sorry if i confuse anyone
not sure if this has been said yet but the specific phrase "elephants are not birds" is going around because it is the title of a transphobic book for kids, and it has unfortunately gotten quite a bit of attention lately. great vid tho!! :)
Omg the merch part when you go "maybe she is? I dont know!" Had me friggin cackling 😂
Jamie, I don't think it's likely you'll read this but on the off chance you might, I want to thank you so much for your amazing channel! I discovered you recently and, please don't laugh, I first mistook you for a very cute cis queer boy who was pursuing bold trans allyship and it took, like three or more videos of yours before I recognized you were, in fact, a very cute queer boy. Yours is the very first channel I've subbed to run by a trans man, which is a relief frankly bc trans women were becoming increasingly over represented in my youtube feed between Contrapoints, Philosophy Tube, and Kat Blaque, among a handful of others it was starting to feel a bit strange. So thank you for helping to restore balance to my universe! I find your content inspiring and often hilarious, and I love it. So thanks again and cheers. Also, if anyone out there could recommend more channels by trans creators to me I would very much appreciate it. (Searching for creators by identity seems a bit gauche in a way that asking for recommendations doesn't quite, idk if that's valid exactly but it is how I feel) Thanks, keep shining!
I came out to my parents as trans yesterday. You helped me through trying to figure out my gender identity but just doing what your doing. Thank you for being an awesome wholesome TH-camr.
I love the whole accidental ally thing because it goes to show that they have no idea what they're talking about, they clearly have done zero research, they're terribly misinformed but it still doesn't stop them from being opinionated.
people not understanding they/them pronouns and still using them is so funny. i had a friend whose parents said that they/them pronouns were not grammatically correct and my friend came into school, looked me in the eye and told me that they weren't grammatically correct. I have been using they/them pronouns for almost 2 years at this point..... and they had been using them for me. was a very odd experience. also another one of our friends had recently started using they/them pronouns also... so all in all was very strange.
another sign of a crossover with Jammie and One topic
Surprise twist their the same person
@@theemofemboycatgirlw3214 The ultimate cuddly wholesome man.
@@silvercandra4275 that would be something a trans bisexual and a cishet ally rolled into one shape-shifting body
@@theemofemboycatgirlw3214 Shape shifters are amazing... even more reason to an to hug them...
@@silvercandra4275 yep
I am trans masc and i have naturally very broad shoulders . when i was working at a grocery store in a very conservative area I got people rudely saying both ma'am and sir (like calling me sir rudely assuming im a trans woman)and it was so funny turning around and them seeing my face and seeing their whole world shatter.
I was an accidental transphobe once cause I didn't know what the term "trans women" meant. I thought that it was supposed to mean a man who was assigned woman at birth (like I thought that Jamie is supposed to be called a trans woman) 🤦🏻♀️ So I kept saying that trans women don't want you to call them women (now I wish that the earth had swallowed me)
You learned. No need to be ashamed anymore, you know it now.
Don't worry.
@@silvercandra4275
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You weren't an accidental ally. You were an ally having an accidental understanding. Now you're just an ally.
you're probably not going to see this, but your jumper looks very nice :]
Thank you for the fun video. It's funny watching you get confused by the confused accidental allies.
There’s something about these “accidental allies” that really rubs me the wrong way. Besides yknow, the obvious lol. I think it’s how, despite the jokes we make about them misusing our language, theyre really trying to, intentionally or not, take our language away, redefine our own terms meant to validate us to instead invalidate us. The idea of someone calling me a “trans man” feels really awful because it’s taking my trans identifier that I’m proud of and it’s twisting it on me, turning it into a word that means I’m delusionally trying to be something else. I think the best response is what this video does, to reinforce that our language is real and these people are just incorrect.
I love your profile! Did you make it yourself?
@@twiggledowntown3564 The picture? No it’s a commission by @kindofmax on twitter
@@IsabelleChiming That's cool! I was going to ask, who's the picture of, because it reminds me of Peach.
@@twiggledowntown3564 it’s of me!!
@@IsabelleChiming You are adorable and look like a princess then.
Can I just say how much it makes me want to scream that they're saying we should have "new names" for boy and girl, but then throw a fit when someone asks to be called by a pronoun that isn't he/she!?!?!?!?!?!?!? Like really? This is also someone who probably says they get offended at being identified as "cis".
When I first learned the term trans I was so confused... so I would never hate anyone on the confusion. I was thinking they are transitioning and then I got confused if they are transitioning from or to (like it was short form of "transitioning from a man" or "transitioning to a man"). Yes, I was incorrect but I never meant to be hurtful, if I ever made a mistake. I just always thought that if you had transitioned socially, and now living as your preferred gender you would not need to stress the addition "trans" anymore. I hope it comes across correctly (English is not my native language).
So, yes, hate transphobes :) But not everyone who might get it mixed up might be a transphobe.
In the sea of content that contributes to my anxiety, your videos are such a nice reprieve. Thank you for making me laugh!
Hi Jamie!
As far as I get your content, your view on gender is very scientifical.
I'm reading up on it myself, but found very few contents on genderfluidity (I'm still looking for that and thankful for any recommendations).
Still, mostly, what I found was confirming that it is possible to be androgynous and that there is no reason to assume that a connection to more than one gender wouldn't make sense, as usually every person has male and female characteristics - as we (the nonbinary community) like to say: "Gender is a spectrum".
Still, in videos like this, you keep emphasizing that a changing gender wouldn't be possible ("Girls can't become boys/Boys can't become girls" etc.) or that a person wouldn't have a connection to multiple genders ("Men can't be women" etc.).
First, I assumed you just didn't think these kinds of statements through, but I'm starting to get worried, since this is not the first video in which you do that.
Can you please explain your stance on this? I'm trying to understand myself and the way gender even works, things like this are so important to me. It would mean a lot.
“We need new names for them” I put forward a motion to call people troys, trirls, coys, and cirls
2:10 and you are going to have an incredibly easy one, because reality hasn’t caught up to yours.
‘Hey Siri set an alarm for ten years’
What would you like the alarm to be called?
‘When I can make a smooth roast line again’
im happy that another transgender youtuber person has been brought on this channel accidentally. Summer Luk's name was mentioned in this video and im so happy about it because ive been watching her channel since young.
Thank you for brightening up my lockdown, I had gardening planned for today but the weather is shite.
my mistake to start drinking water while watching this video. you read “MEN ARE NOT WOMEN” and i started choking on water out of the absurdity of that phrasing because, literally no one is saying that men are women.
Henro, I just discovered your channel. Just wanted to say ur one of my new favorite potatoes! (As in, content creators/channels. I usually say beans, but you like potatoes.) Even when yoi react to negative content, are are very validating and reafirming. :3
I love the random things he says at the start of videos the few seconds of that can make my day 🥺💖
0:52 I keep forgetting that they're using a flag so similar to the genderqueer one.
Have they considered letting us have nice things?
hiya! i started watching your content before i realised and accepted i was trans. so thankyou, your content really helped me through and is still helping me
Jamie, you're just an angel. You help me again and again with all this social transphobia I'm experiencing everyday, everywhere. My transition should be all happiness (and it is, most of the time!), but people try to steal it from me. They won't succeed! I hope ...
While it's funny to laugh at bigots being stupid, it's super frustrating because it means they haven't taken the time to actually learn about what they irrationally hate. Like, imagine being so against something and advocating against it, but not understanding the basic concepts of said thing. (I know this happens with a lot of things besides transgender people, but this is just such an obvious example...)
It’s understandable in the way that i hate trigonometry cuz i don’t know much about trigonometry. But, unlike trigonometry, hating trans people has dire real life consequences. Also i think it’s a lot easier to understand trans folks than it is to understand math in any circumstance 😂 transphobes literally broadcast the fact that they’re uneducated and still expect people to take them seriously
I have been waiting for this video...❤️ Im excited to watch it.
2:55
Heh, this is kinda a double-dip trans allies thing.
Backstory to the backstory for those who don't know- the scene is actually opposite to the way the meme is usually used. The things presented _are_ the same thing, and the person presenting the picture (In this meme, the woman captioned as "Science and nature") even says there are at least seven differences to the other character- before hard-cutting to a different scene to say to the viewer that they are the same picture, as the character (if I remember right) wastes time and is basically distracted trying to find the seven differences. He even says "I already see one- give them to me"
So science and nature are challenging telling transphobes to find the difference between a trans woman and a woman- but fully knows there aren't any.
Then again there is the chance they're using it the normal way, and just painting Pam as *the woke fools* etc, but you know. Good fun either way.
Sadly they probably mean it in using Pam as the “woke fool” like you said bc I feel like those type of conservative guys are the type to go “Pam was ruined once she learned how to stand up for herself and not let herself get walked all over. I liked her better when she was meek and submissive, now she’s a bitch!!1!!”
Your videos give me the serotonin I need
Aww your intros are always the best! 💛
Ppl who say they/them aren't singular pronouns have obviously never read a book 💀 For example if there were a character and the author doesn't want to reveal the gender at the beginning of the story they'll refer to that character as they/them. It's not that hard to go read a book 👁️👄👁️
Hi Jamie!! im actually early for once lol, anyway i just wanted to tell you that you're amazing and a big inspiration to me and many others.
Holy shit! This is the first video I’ve seen that talks about my gender! I’m a demiwoman and I always get paranoid about talking about it because I’m not sure if it’s a term accepted by the larger lgbt community. It’s nice to see Jammi reaffirm my pronouns (although I also use she/her). He’s an awesome dude!
I love that I got a Prager U ad on this video with good ol' Candace Owens, as if TH-cam saw you were talking about trans stuff and decided you needed a little hate sprinkled in in the form of ads.
I was wearing a trans flag mask once and this was the dialogue with her. Lmao
'What pattern is ur mask?'
'Oh its the transgender flag :)'
*she quickly shields her daughter*
'Oh im not dangerous' (jokingly)
'Sure your not...'
'Ok bye' (Slightly weirded out)
*i hurry away*
She yells 'YOU'LL NEVER BE A WOMAN'
*concealed snort laughing hidden by the trans mask*
Best compliment I've had all year