I found God, quit drinking and drugs after 2 decades of use, recovered from what doctors assured me would be a crippling automobile accident without the recommended surgery, wrote a novel, started another one, and I am moving into a cabin come the new year.
Just thinking about how scary this concept would sound to a non INFJ vs how totally comforting it is to an INFJ. As a matured INFJ I know how important hermit mode is and practicing it regularly makes me the best me I can be.
@@angepack1 how lovely , I’m going to a meditation total silent retreat too in a fortnight so will miss you guys and Wenzes for about 10 days. This is my first time of this kind so wish me luck I can survive it without Wenzes content 🤣
The pandemic showed me that it was totally ok to stop pushing myself to socialize. It’s stressful, it’s never not stressful. Even time spent with loved ones requires recovery time, lots of it.
I've been in hermit mode for several years now. It's actually totally awesome sauce. Building my better life, my better self. Try it. Warning: you can only do this if you learn to not care what anyone else says or thinks about you, and you have to ignore the gossiping haters; realize they're just Jealous Little Britches [JLBs] who couldn't do what you do in a million years. You have to run your life your way without any regard for what others are doing. It's not lonely if you keep a tight relationship with God, and once you do that there's no going back because no one can hold a candle to having God as your best friend. Keep firing.
I agree 100%! This describes my situation these past few months. I've become someone I'm way more comfortable with and proud to be. And like you said, there's no going back, I don't want to and it wouldn't make sense to
Yes, God is my best friend. Also, I have enjoyed being alone, away from the talkative. It makes me read a lot and plan for the next step /season/ stage in my life... always praying for God's direction and slowly working it out... and a lot more.
Relate best feeling ever being who you are in everything 😂 not mess your self in anyone. I'm alone but not lonely I have God and I am truly happy 😊 34 years old no boyfriend since birth. I have peace of mind that I can't bargain in anything in this worlds. I love freedom, peace of mind is everything to me
Before I was a senior in hs I was always in my hermit world with one or two friends who connected with me. And I was happy there. Then when I was getting ready to graduate, all my special Ed teachers were pushing me to be social, networking, sell myself and do a lot of public speaking. I got the notion that what I wanted wasn't going to be enough. They'd ask what I wanted to do with my future and I said "be a sleepy-town bookstore worker or a Shaman who comes to town occasionally." they told me that was impossible. This was awful. I let way too many people lead. Now I'm finding my way back to myself again. The Shamanic bookkeeper
This is so true! I'm just now going through this/went through it. I've always been the type to want to interact with people (a small group of close friends/family) to feel like I belong and I'm loved and to pass the time away. Well, I tore my achilles a few months back and I was forced to spend a few months ALONE while I recovered. At first it was depressing, none of the family I spent time with were really there for me and it got me really down...but then something shifted in my perception. I realized that the people I was around didn't add anything to my life but only zapped me of my energy. I embraced the solitude, and actually began to enjoy the time to myself. I was able to reflect on many things, heal from a lot of trauma that I always ignored by staying distracted and I grew/matured a lot mentally and emotionally. I've become way more comfortable and okay with being alone, it's allowed me to understand myself much better and to evolve into someone I'm more proud of being. My injury went from being a curse to a blessing
I could just as easily have written this post @jemz4555, except I fractured my shoulder, and 6 mo later my wrist, and another 6 months later, I was in a crash, and fractured my sternum = 3 x time alonefor recovery. maybe I just had too much growing and healing to catch up on ...lol.
That's interesting as I was also "forced" into a period of solitude when I injured my leg a few months ago and couldn't walk properly for a while. I used this time to take good rest (I slept A LOT), reassessed my life and recalculated my path. So I can clearly see a pattern here.:)
It's a cliche, but it really is true that it gets easier as you get older. When you're young and some old relative asks, "Why aren't you married yet?", you feel a little uncomfortable. But when you get older it becomes humorous and you might answer with something like, "Why aren't you divorced yet?" Another one is when you sit somewhere by yourself at work or whatever and a co-worker says, "Sitting with all your friends?", the appropriate answer is, "Sitting with everyone that deserves to be my friend".
I feel like I’m starting to come out of ‘hermit mode’ now, so this video is timely. Your videos have and continue to be so helpful and I’m so grateful for them.. I know this doesn’t answer your question but wanted to let it be known 🙂
Where do I begin...emerging from a hermit period right now. I'm so excited about what's to come... Your videos have been a part of the journey, process😉thank you!
I came out of a long hermit mode for a bit. It was interesting for a while but I genuinely got bored and went back to hermit mode. There doesn’t seem to be much for me out there compared to what I can get into at home. I’m in a small town and in my 40 years here have rarely met anyone I don’t have to act basic for.. I need a lot of novelty and I can create that for myself. It’s Groundhog Day out there!
Am happy when am in hermit mode ... learned to bake bread, straight method bread and sourdough bread, i draw, write pieces ,play piano flute recorder .. have time for my coin collections .. ❤ the best time to read research.. satusfy my hunger for knowledge. Have to time to 😊create new dishesfor my restaurant .. thank you so much wenzes ... And when am out they always say i look younger.
I know , i discovered what I love, everything , what I like to do, and I like to be alone, I need to be alone , but I also feel crave to be there for the people that I love....
Absolutely! If this presentation were a book it would be considered a page turner that you couldn’t put down. Wenzes incisiveness causes one to contemplate their INFJ “reality”. Truly a gifted individual. 🙏👏
I love my own company ❤, and embrace hermit mode whole heartedly. I’ve discovered so many things about myself and the world around me during that time.
I’ve come up in life and achieved so much of the western dream as a foreigner while doing a hermit mode most of the time. I grow by picking who I want to socialise with and when I want to and listening to my body and emotion. The people that I have picked in my circle understand and don’t get offended if I bail on a meet up. I tried to be honest and tell them I don’t feel like coming and nothing to do about them. I need my hermit mode in these past few days. I don’t just turn up to invitations just to please people or just to be social. I pick my activities and I invite people who appreciates so much when I do. I used to just go to places and see People I don’t like just to please ( ie those born agains who uses uber friendly and guilt tripping to attend church). I choose how my world run, what I want to go to , when I want to. I have old flings trying to reconnect and I realised I’m not excited by this anymore. I know the person they were and I feel that they haven’t really changed the things that made the interaction go nowhere through their approach currently. I figure I can’t my energy. I’ve done this over the years now that sometimes I wonder if I’ll ever end up with a lifelong partner when I don’t see the incentive of being with someone. Unless a man in useful I don’t see the reward of expending any energy. Of course I need many things that a man can help but I can do them myself or pay someone to do it. This is the other side of growing and expanding so much that I feel everyone hasn’t really caught up with the realisation and wisdom I have gained from life. I feel I know so much and no one can relate. Including how law of attraction and grateful living has done wonders for me tangibly. I feel so abundant that sometimes I feel I finally learned the secret of manifesting, Trying to help others how they can achieved these too but most of the time they aren’t ready to hear it yet. Under as you can see we are cerebral. I love my comfortable dwellings and routines alone.
I had a wonderful period of hermit mode this summer when my estp husband was on a month long trip. It was the longest amount of personal time I have ever had and I absolutely LOVED it! I did everything I wanted to do at my own pace and learned a lot about myself in the process. 😊
I have found my peace in hermit mode and now I am stronger and willing to take care of myself. I am still learning how to say No, and how to quit being a target for narcissist.
I feel so good liking me. I love my hermit self. At 64, therapy has freed me. Healing is a process that never ends. What I've found is that I'm much better letting go of others' opinions. My in-laws don't like it and have twisted my words creating lies and then judging. At first this upset me a great deal and I wanted to confront them. After hermit mode I am letting it go putting into practice my two years of therapy. Hermit mode comes and goes in my life and I love it!
Under the Joy section (actually my middle name too) -- this is why i think we are the type to enjoy travel. Experiencing and truly enjoying other ways of life. And in so doing grow within ourselves.
For me it's when I realize that people want me to 'parent' them and I set boundaries and say no. Hermit mode doesn't always mean being totally alone for me, but I do things like sit in silence to reflect for a long time, study for school, take care of my physical body with massages or hygiene, make a healthy meal. For me a lot of it is doing things with deliberation rather than just rushing to please others before myself.
Thank you so much! 💓 This is so true... and I feel so much relieved. Your video gave me huge comfort. I am not alone in this. And now I can see how I can improve my life more clearly. Thanks again. xo
This is so true. When I line up a date w a friend to go do something it is always accompanied by an inner voice saying see? I'm normal--I have a healthy social life...look I have friends! There is something deeply defensive going on---as though underneath I have got the message: you are not normal and you cannot sustain normal healthy relationships. Acknowledging that I socialize defensively--to create an impression--helps me pull back from setting myself up. I realize when I do this I generally do it w acquaintances who seem to me to be hyper normal as tho I could assume their normality by standing next to them--not a good instinct.
I noticed who I am and what I can become. Helped me take control over my life. And then I stopped and figured out that it’s very much necessary for us to do that or things will start to get difficult in certain areas of life.
At the end of the day you will reclaim your power over time and it won’t be so bad because once you find what your looking for and you can bounce from your introverted side that associates with the hermit side and your extroverted side
You have to somehow develop control bipolar disorder(and many shades between) and level it up to a fungi web and make it your tool amongst everything else the universe has to offer if needed.
Wenze's I concur with your thoughts.Wenze's I love your brains and beauty.Wenze's I'm like the David Bowie video "Loving the alien" or "The Man who fell to Earth" he was in the movie you'd like.Wenze's I'm in the box,go through the box and outside the box.I'm a being of logic,reason,time.Wenze's I'm learning from your guidance.Thank you.Jerome❤❤❤
I feel all the emotions multiple times a day without a issue and analyze it as it goes and laugh at me doing it follows😂 sometimes is tiring sometimes is boring sometimes is bliss but is always what you make of it in the end and as we are learning addicts😅 what can go wrong? ❤
I like your purpose your energy and you're pretty . I no idea there were other people that think and feel and see things like I do. I did the personality test and didn't think I would see something like this
Being a march 9th Pisces and INFJ-T my tarot card in personology profile is The Hermit. And yeah I've pretty much mastered that one and find my peace there always. And it's just I've got to do it and I know I don't need people but I'd like to have one of my select few people who love me and know me and I love somewhere within reach.. like able to be there if I just spiral. I've learned that always helps. I'm always alone but I try to be never alone. Idk how else to explain that. Like leave me be. Stay away. But don't go far. I'll let you know if I do need you. 💯
Find a favorite movie for each holiday. Find a favorite drink or food or book that you only read or watch or drink/eat during those holidays. Make it special for yourself. Do you write?
@@marinamayer6920 That's great! I mean I realized I have done that over the years and it's helped me. But just because it helps me doesn't necessarily mean it helps others. So if it does (in any way) then I'm glad I mentioned it. I write too. I mean when I can that is. Poetry to novel stuff.
18:56 I went through this. Because once we break our so-called ego. There's a whole nother level of that ego that we haven't saw yet. I am so confused by your channel. You say one thing and then say something else that contradicts it. Can you tell people to look out for yourself but then you tell them to take care of everybody. In a sense My gift is reading between the lines and seeing things for as they are My third eye has been open has been open for a couple years now. But this is like the beginning stages of it.. but if you stay in this mindset you will never fully open it. And you'll never fully be able to connect to the source
I've been in hermitage for the last two years. It's not narcissistic. It's necessary for my creativity...my writing and reading and singing and playing guitar in various modes. Walter Benjamin and Maurice Blanchot, these two philosophers taught me this.
Basically I am bored with people who have no depth capacity and so either I am alone or I need to exchange with a person who has a similar capacity as mine, that is to say an authentic exchange without constantly projecting onto me their insecurities cos I don't fit in what they expect of me or people in general. BUT I have never met later in life people with real depth, this is too complicated to find such a person in real life so I am alone and I like it but I will always miss deep connections between two free individuals, cos this is my need as an INFJ full stop
It's about balance yes you need to make time for yourself but that doesn't mean making life about you. Because a lot of people get lost in this message and they think it's all about making life about them and their happiness And I don't think you're very clear in that message. Because it to me it seems like oh yeah you can be nice but number one take care of yourself . When you give more than you take the universe will take care of you if you believe it. When your intentions are always pure and you're never trying to hurt or break somebody you will always be taking care of especially if you believe that you will be
"But I've always kinda been partial to calling myself up on the phone and asking myself out, you know? Oh yeah, you call yourself up too huh? Yeah, well one thing about it, your always around. Yeah I know, yeah you ask yourself out, you know, some class joint somewhere. The Burrito King or something, you know. Well I ain't cheap you know. Take yourself out for a couple of drinks maybe. Then there'd be some provocative conversation on the way home. Park in front of the house you know. Oh yeah, you smoothly put a little nice music on, Maybe you put on like uh, you know, like shopping music, Something that's not too interruptive you know and then uh slide over real nice and say 'Oh I think you have something in your eye'. Well maybe it's not that romantic with you but Christ I don't know, you know I get into it you know. Take myself up to the porch, take myself inside or maybe uh, Or may get a little something, a brandy snifter or something. 'Would like you like to listen to some of my back records? I got something here' Uh Well usually about 2.30 in the morning you've ended up taking advantage of yourself. There ain't no way around that you know. Yeah, making a scene with a magazine, there ain't no way around. I'll confess you know, I'm no different you know. I'm not weird about it or anything, I don't tie myself up first. I just kinda spend a little time with myself..." -TOM WAITS
Wenzes, you’re just amazing! I just noticed that, at the moment I’m typing this, you have 77,7K followers and within 15 hours of posting your video, you have 7,5K views and 700 likes. That’s impressive to me, just saying. Hehe 😊 This just shows that 10% of your followers watch your content immediately and 10% of that likes your video. Probably because your content is so amazing! 😉 😊 thank you for helping to understand ourselves better. ❤
Because once you do the things that I'm trying to tell you to do... You'll truly find yourself and then you'll find your purpose in life There will be no doubt. And no one can tell you what that is. Not this program, not me. I don't want to tell you what to do. I just want you to be able to become the best person that you can be whatever that is. What being selfish and being willing to hurt other people is not the way
Wenzes their is something I don't know if it's common to all INFJ'S. I'm an accomplished INFJ, but it is like I have many personalities; for me it's not the case. I just feel like I'm like a rubric cub and have many facets. But for many people it is like for them my personality changes and I'm not the same person. And I'm talking about people who are trying to manipulate me, like for example narcs, who want to find a way to mimic me, or find my weak points. No. I'm talking about people who I helped in the past, and who have the impression I am not the same person, then few months later notice to me, that I am my old self again. For me I don't change, but it is true, I adapting myself to the situation I'm in. Is it the same for all the INFJS' you are meeting?
I know it is hard to be an infj in this world. And Wensez helps a lot to figure out what is really going on in our minds. I would like to mention another lovely channel here that means a lot to me: m.youtube.com/@CrappyChildhoodFairy It’s always a discussion if infj is born or made but I believe that Some of the issues with being an infj may be resulting from childhood traumas. Hope it helps to you!
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What are some of your personal transformations you have gone through in "hermit mode"?
I found God, quit drinking and drugs after 2 decades of use, recovered from what doctors assured me would be a crippling automobile accident without the recommended surgery, wrote a novel, started another one, and I am moving into a cabin come the new year.
The most important transformation is an entrance into indomitable self-belief, dear Wen.
Hermit mode is so ignorant. I call it "Mind Masturbation" instead.
Curious, why is it ignorant? @@infjmale91
I falsely thought that I was to self destruct. But no, I am surviving.
Just thinking about how scary this concept would sound to a non INFJ vs how totally comforting it is to an INFJ. As a matured INFJ I know how important hermit mode is and practicing it regularly makes me the best me I can be.
I actually go on silent retreats so I can just focus on me and my growth. I look forward to them every year!
@@angepack1is this the 10 day Vipassana ?
💯 exactly. Comforting and valid, even necessary to infj. But nightmare fuel for others types.
@@msmanager2775 no, it’s the spiritual exercises of St. Ignatius of Loyola. This includes meditation and prayer
@@angepack1 how lovely , I’m going to a meditation total silent retreat too in a fortnight so will miss you guys and Wenzes for about 10 days. This is my first time of this kind so wish me luck I can survive it without Wenzes content 🤣
The pandemic showed me that it was totally ok to stop pushing myself to socialize. It’s stressful, it’s never not stressful. Even time spent with loved ones requires recovery time, lots of it.
@empaths up charge alone, extroverts up charge around others. Are they suck8ng energy from others. Hmmm
I've been in hermit mode for several years now. It's actually totally awesome sauce. Building my better life, my better self. Try it. Warning: you can only do this if you learn to not care what anyone else says or thinks about you, and you have to ignore the gossiping haters; realize they're just Jealous Little Britches [JLBs] who couldn't do what you do in a million years. You have to run your life your way without any regard for what others are doing. It's not lonely if you keep a tight relationship with God, and once you do that there's no going back because no one can hold a candle to having God as your best friend. Keep firing.
I agree 100%! This describes my situation these past few months. I've become someone I'm way more comfortable with and proud to be. And like you said, there's no going back, I don't want to and it wouldn't make sense to
Amen. I agree. With God all things are possible.
Yes, God is my best friend. Also, I have enjoyed being alone, away from the talkative. It makes me read a lot and plan for the next step /season/ stage in my life... always praying for God's direction and slowly working it out... and a lot more.
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Relate best feeling ever being who you are in everything 😂 not mess your self in anyone. I'm alone but not lonely I have God and I am truly happy 😊 34 years old no boyfriend since birth. I have peace of mind that I can't bargain in anything in this worlds. I love freedom, peace of mind is everything to me
INFJ are like shonen anime character, every time they lose battle they get power ups and come back stronger
Been in hermit mode for almost a year and I'm totally good with being here and actually prefer it!
I would totally enjoy having a conversation with INFJ female you want to talk?😊
Before I was a senior in hs I was always in my hermit world with one or two friends who connected with me. And I was happy there. Then when I was getting ready to graduate, all my special Ed teachers were pushing me to be social, networking, sell myself and do a lot of public speaking. I got the notion that what I wanted wasn't going to be enough. They'd ask what I wanted to do with my future and I said "be a sleepy-town bookstore worker or a Shaman who comes to town occasionally." they told me that was impossible. This was awful. I let way too many people lead. Now I'm finding my way back to myself again. The Shamanic bookkeeper
Sounds so wonderful ❤ I am so happy for you.
Nice to hear that👌💓🎶, said the musical book- dragon 🤓...
Yea
LOL, took the long way to only arrive back on the path you KNEW was yours from the beginning. Same, friend same 😂😂
Lol shamanic bookeeper be like "THE SACRED TEXT!"
This is so true! I'm just now going through this/went through it. I've always been the type to want to interact with people (a small group of close friends/family) to feel like I belong and I'm loved and to pass the time away. Well, I tore my achilles a few months back and I was forced to spend a few months ALONE while I recovered. At first it was depressing, none of the family I spent time with were really there for me and it got me really down...but then something shifted in my perception. I realized that the people I was around didn't add anything to my life but only zapped me of my energy. I embraced the solitude, and actually began to enjoy the time to myself. I was able to reflect on many things, heal from a lot of trauma that I always ignored by staying distracted and I grew/matured a lot mentally and emotionally. I've become way more comfortable and okay with being alone, it's allowed me to understand myself much better and to evolve into someone I'm more proud of being. My injury went from being a curse to a blessing
I could just as easily have written this post @jemz4555, except I fractured my shoulder, and 6 mo later my wrist, and another 6 months later, I was in a crash, and fractured my sternum = 3 x time alonefor recovery. maybe I just had too much growing and healing to catch up on ...lol.
That's interesting as I was also "forced" into a period of solitude when I injured my leg a few months ago and couldn't walk properly for a while. I used this time to take good rest (I slept A LOT), reassessed my life and recalculated my path. So I can clearly see a pattern here.:)
Hey, someone has to be the lighthouse keeper!
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I would loooovvvveeee to live in a lighthouse❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Currently in my hermit mode. LOVE IT.
It's a cliche, but it really is true that it gets easier as you get older. When you're young and some old relative asks, "Why aren't you married yet?", you feel a little uncomfortable. But when you get older it becomes humorous and you might answer with something like, "Why aren't you divorced yet?" Another one is when you sit somewhere by yourself at work or whatever and a co-worker says, "Sitting with all your friends?", the appropriate answer is, "Sitting with everyone that deserves to be my friend".
You really are on the money. Over and over again. It's wild. Very impressive.
I feel like I’m starting to come out of ‘hermit mode’ now, so this video is timely. Your videos have and continue to be so helpful and I’m so grateful for them.. I know this doesn’t answer your question but wanted to let it be known 🙂
I feel like I’ve been in hermit mode my whole life. I gotta learn how to get out of it!
Where do I begin...emerging from a hermit period right now. I'm so excited about what's to come... Your videos have been a part of the journey, process😉thank you!
I came out of a long hermit mode for a bit. It was interesting for a while but I genuinely got bored and went back to hermit mode. There doesn’t seem to be much for me out there compared to what I can get into at home. I’m in a small town and in my 40 years here have rarely met anyone I don’t have to act basic for.. I need a lot of novelty and I can create that for myself. It’s Groundhog Day out there!
This is real
I think about interacting with other people but my expectation is always so much more enjoyable than reality
i want to leave my current place and live in seclusion. Help
@@मूकप्रेक्षक step one, make money.
I get that. Can't stand the banal conversations.
This is one of the best resource material I found on TH-cam. You're like a live version of Carl Jung
Considering how crazy the world is now, hermit mode seems to be the only practical, sane way to live.
I had an awakening experience while I was on hermit mode. Found god. Still in hermit mode in process of transformation.
Me too. Through the love of my soulmate, I awoke to who I truely am. ❤🙏❤
Am happy when am in hermit mode ... learned to bake bread, straight method bread and sourdough bread, i draw, write pieces ,play piano flute recorder .. have time for my coin collections .. ❤ the best time to read research.. satusfy my hunger for knowledge. Have to time to 😊create new dishesfor my restaurant .. thank you so much wenzes ...
And when am out they always say i look younger.
I know , i discovered what I love, everything , what I like to do, and I like to be alone, I need to be alone , but I also feel crave to be there for the people that I love....
My void is filling. I am able to project myself and it attracts a lot of other people. This is fun.
Enjoy the process, and take off those blinders for unhealthy individuals you make attract.
I am addicted to hermit mode the pay out is unbelievable 😊
Absolutely! If this presentation were a book it would be considered a page turner that you couldn’t put down. Wenzes incisiveness causes one to contemplate their INFJ “reality”. Truly a gifted individual. 🙏👏
I love my own company ❤, and embrace hermit mode whole heartedly. I’ve discovered so many things about myself and the world around me during that time.
I’ve come up in life and achieved so much of the western dream as a foreigner while doing a hermit mode most of the time. I grow by picking who I want to socialise with and when I want to and listening to my body and emotion. The people that I have picked in my circle understand and don’t get offended if I bail on a meet up. I tried to be honest and tell them I don’t feel like coming and nothing to do about them. I need my hermit mode in these past few days. I don’t just turn up to invitations just to please people or just to be social. I pick my activities and I invite people who appreciates so much when I do. I used to just go to places and see People I don’t like just to please ( ie those born agains who uses uber friendly and guilt tripping to attend church). I choose how my world run, what I want to go to , when I want to. I have old flings trying to reconnect and I realised I’m not excited by this anymore. I know the person they were and I feel that they haven’t really changed the things that made the interaction go nowhere through their approach currently. I figure I can’t my energy. I’ve done this over the years now that sometimes I wonder if I’ll ever end up with a lifelong partner when I don’t see the incentive of being with someone. Unless a man in useful I don’t see the reward of expending any energy. Of course I need many things that a man can help but I can do them myself or pay someone to do it. This is the other side of growing and expanding so much that I feel everyone hasn’t really caught up with the realisation and wisdom I have gained from life. I feel I know so much and no one can relate. Including how law of attraction and grateful living has done wonders for me tangibly. I feel so abundant that sometimes I feel I finally learned the secret of manifesting, Trying to help others how they can achieved these too but most of the time they aren’t ready to hear it yet. Under as you can see we are cerebral. I love my comfortable dwellings and routines alone.
I had a wonderful period of hermit mode this summer when my estp husband was on a month long trip. It was the longest amount of personal time I have ever had and I absolutely LOVED it! I did everything I wanted to do at my own pace and learned a lot about myself in the process. 😊
I can do it! I'm loving hermit mode right now. Spending time with myself is important. For the first time I'm doing me
How come by watching only two videos of you, I feel that you are so close and we know each other from decades??
I have found my peace in hermit mode and now I am stronger and willing to take care of myself. I am still learning how to say No, and how to quit being a target for narcissist.
I feel so good liking me. I love my hermit self. At 64, therapy has freed me. Healing is a process that never ends. What I've found is that I'm much better letting go of others' opinions. My in-laws don't like it and have twisted my words creating lies and then judging. At first this upset me a great deal and I wanted to confront them. After hermit mode I am letting it go putting into practice my two years of therapy. Hermit mode comes and goes in my life and I love it!
I recently spent 2 days in hermet mode.
I am now refreshed! I can be involved in the social settings I am expected to participate in this weekend.
Hermit is a person who can see no solution for problems and he sets out to the desert alone
Under the Joy section (actually my middle name too) -- this is why i think we are the type to enjoy travel. Experiencing and truly enjoying other ways of life. And in so doing grow within ourselves.
Those things aren't even things are meant to do
For me it's when I realize that people want me to 'parent' them and I set boundaries and say no. Hermit mode doesn't always mean being totally alone for me, but I do things like sit in silence to reflect for a long time, study for school, take care of my physical body with massages or hygiene, make a healthy meal. For me a lot of it is doing things with deliberation rather than just rushing to please others before myself.
Thank you so much! 💓 This is so true... and I feel so much relieved. Your video gave me huge comfort. I am not alone in this. And now I can see how I can improve my life more clearly. Thanks again. xo
I'm here for you for real this is a gift
I'm here to hear the world that's my purpose
This is so true. When I line up a date w a friend to go do something it is always accompanied by an inner voice saying see? I'm normal--I have a healthy social life...look I have friends! There is something deeply defensive going on---as though underneath I have got the message: you are not normal and you cannot sustain normal healthy relationships. Acknowledging that I socialize defensively--to create an impression--helps me pull back from setting myself up. I realize when I do this I generally do it w acquaintances who seem to me to be hyper normal as tho I could assume their normality by standing next to them--not a good instinct.
I noticed who I am and what I can become. Helped me take control over my life. And then I stopped and figured out that it’s very much necessary for us to do that or things will start to get difficult in certain areas of life.
At the end of the day you will reclaim your power over time and it won’t be so bad because once you find what your looking for and you can bounce from your introverted side that associates with the hermit side and your extroverted side
You have to somehow develop control bipolar disorder(and many shades between) and level it up to a fungi web and make it your tool amongst everything else the universe has to offer if needed.
I was going to do a TED talk. But I refuse to charge for it so... Communication broke down because I refuse to charge
Wenze's I concur with your thoughts.Wenze's I love your brains and beauty.Wenze's I'm like the David Bowie video "Loving the alien" or "The Man who fell to Earth" he was in the movie you'd like.Wenze's I'm in the box,go through the box and outside the box.I'm a being of logic,reason,time.Wenze's I'm learning from your guidance.Thank you.Jerome❤❤❤
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I am now in Hermit mode😮
I feel all the emotions multiple times a day without a issue and analyze it as it goes and laugh at me doing it follows😂 sometimes is tiring sometimes is boring sometimes is bliss but is always what you make of it in the end and as we are learning addicts😅 what can go wrong? ❤
totally great conformation to hear your videos about what I developed by 15. Got something me for me though?
I like your purpose your energy and you're pretty . I no idea there were other people that think and feel and see things like I do. I did the personality test and didn't think I would see something like this
Being a march 9th Pisces and INFJ-T my tarot card in personology profile is The Hermit. And yeah I've pretty much mastered that one and find my peace there always. And it's just I've got to do it and I know I don't need people but I'd like to have one of my select few people who love me and know me and I love somewhere within reach.. like able to be there if I just spiral. I've learned that always helps. I'm always alone but I try to be never alone. Idk how else to explain that. Like leave me be. Stay away. But don't go far. I'll let you know if I do need you. 💯
I just wanted to add that as I just wondered if the rest of us did that during hermit mode. ?¿
Sowly started this hermit mode journey a few weeks ago, it is hard but I think I'll be O.K. Dreading the Holidays though.
Find a favorite movie for each holiday. Find a favorite drink or food or book that you only read or watch or drink/eat during those holidays. Make it special for yourself.
Do you write?
@@christenw.1726 Thanks I was considering some plan like that, like read in the tub😁. I do write!
@@marinamayer6920 That's great! I mean I realized I have done that over the years and it's helped me. But just because it helps me doesn't necessarily mean it helps others. So if it does (in any way) then I'm glad I mentioned it.
I write too. I mean when I can that is. Poetry to novel stuff.
Never lonely
And not suffocated! 😊
18:56 I went through this. Because once we break our so-called ego. There's a whole nother level of that ego that we haven't saw yet. I am so confused by your channel. You say one thing and then say something else that contradicts it. Can you tell people to look out for yourself but then you tell them to take care of everybody. In a sense
My gift is reading between the lines and seeing things for as they are
My third eye has been open has been open for a couple years now. But this is like the beginning stages of it.. but if you stay in this mindset you will never fully open it. And you'll never fully be able to connect to the source
I've been in hermitage for the last two years. It's not narcissistic. It's necessary for my creativity...my writing and reading and singing and playing guitar in various modes. Walter Benjamin and Maurice Blanchot, these two philosophers taught me this.
Basically I am bored with people who have no depth capacity and so either I am alone or I need to exchange with a person who has a similar capacity as mine, that is to say an authentic exchange without constantly projecting onto me their insecurities cos I don't fit in what they expect of me or people in general. BUT I have never met later in life people with real depth, this is too complicated to find such a person in real life so I am alone and I like it but I will always miss deep connections between two free individuals, cos this is my need as an INFJ full stop
Very well said, again thank you!!!!!
I wished i had learned this lesson mant years ago.
It's about balance yes you need to make time for yourself but that doesn't mean making life about you. Because a lot of people get lost in this message and they think it's all about making life about them and their happiness
And I don't think you're very clear in that message. Because it to me it seems like oh yeah you can be nice but number one take care of yourself
. When you give more than you take the universe will take care of you if you believe it. When your intentions are always pure and you're never trying to hurt or break somebody you will always be taking care of especially if you believe that you will be
I found this while researching the Sigma Male hierarchy concept. Same as the INFJ's.
How do you all this shit? Thanks for giving me new perspective and new things to process 🙏
Am ready for my glow up 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
love your videos
"But I've always kinda been partial to calling myself up on the phone and asking myself out, you know? Oh yeah, you call yourself up too huh? Yeah, well one thing about it, your always around. Yeah I know, yeah you ask yourself out, you know, some class joint somewhere. The Burrito King or something, you know. Well I ain't cheap you know. Take yourself out for a couple of drinks maybe. Then there'd be some provocative conversation on the way home. Park in front of the house you know. Oh yeah, you smoothly put a little nice music on, Maybe you put on like uh, you know, like shopping music, Something that's not too interruptive you know and then uh slide over real nice and say 'Oh I think you have something in your eye'. Well maybe it's not that romantic with you but Christ I don't know, you know I get into it you know. Take myself up to the porch, take myself inside or maybe uh, Or may get a little something, a brandy snifter or something. 'Would like you like to listen to some of my back records? I got something here' Uh Well usually about 2.30 in the morning you've ended up taking advantage of yourself. There ain't no way around that you know. Yeah, making a scene with a magazine, there ain't no way around. I'll confess you know, I'm no different you know. I'm not weird about it or anything, I don't tie myself up first. I just kinda spend a little time with myself..." -TOM WAITS
Wenzes, you’re just amazing! I just noticed that, at the moment I’m typing this, you have 77,7K followers and within 15 hours of posting your video, you have 7,5K views and 700 likes. That’s impressive to me, just saying. Hehe 😊 This just shows that 10% of your followers watch your content immediately and 10% of that likes your video. Probably because your content is so amazing! 😉 😊 thank you for helping to understand ourselves better. ❤
I love you, Wenzes! Thanks so much for providing all of this knowledge. It´s so true what you are sharing with us!! ❤
See abandonment
.. I can help you heal
I’m fine being solo ❤
Thanks for this great video. I feel understood the first time.
Because once you do the things that I'm trying to tell you to do... You'll truly find yourself and then you'll find your purpose in life
There will be no doubt. And no one can tell you what that is. Not this program, not me. I don't want to tell you what to do. I just want you to be able to become the best person that you can be whatever that is. What being selfish and being willing to hurt other people is not the way
Sounds so nice and what I should do.
I really needed this video. Thank You.
Thank you 💐❤
Loved your content!
Thanks!
Great video thank you.
Thank you...
I'm currently working on five different degrees.. college degrees in different subjects
Wenzes their is something I don't know if it's common to all INFJ'S. I'm an accomplished INFJ, but it is like I have many personalities; for me it's not the case. I just feel like I'm like a rubric cub and have many facets. But for many people it is like for them my personality changes and I'm not the same person. And I'm talking about people who are trying to manipulate me, like for example narcs, who want to find a way to mimic me, or find my weak points. No. I'm talking about people who I helped in the past, and who have the impression I am not the same person, then few months later notice to me, that I am my old self again. For me I don't change, but it is true, I adapting myself to the situation I'm in.
Is it the same for all the INFJS' you are meeting?
Saturn in Virgo is the hermit 1979
But those things actually mean nothing to me
hello everyone
I know it is hard to be an infj in this world. And Wensez helps a lot to figure out what is really going on in our minds.
I would like to mention another lovely channel here that means a lot to me:
m.youtube.com/@CrappyChildhoodFairy
It’s always a discussion if infj is born or made but I believe that Some of the issues with being an infj may be resulting from childhood traumas.
Hope it helps to you!
infj vs anxiety video?
So if you already in the infj boot camp do we need to register again?
Can I join the boot camp on Monday 6th November?
Yes!
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By the way the source is God
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This is a victim mentality
The sigma mentality is the next step in that evolution. But there's more. Sigma is just the next step 😊 to enlightenment
brainwashed ...why is this learning mechanisms on that channel.. deeper
Once a philosopher said "i think God overestimated himself when he created mankind" i wonder then what God was attempting when he created the INFJ?
That "philosopher" overestimated his men-tal cap-acity. Arr-ogant ign-orance.
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An image of Himself in the earth.
To blot out the Darkness
Of people like that philosopher