Why I Love Losing My Erection
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 ก.ย. 2024
- When it comes to losing your erection there are both emotional and psychological factors as well as physical factors. When I have talked about performance anxiety in the bedroom in the past I have mentioned that instead of getting angry or frustrated its best to instead be kind to yourself. There's good reason for doing this.
You have a part of your mind that is constantly scanning for threats, real or imagined, and when we begin to "associate" with the fear of the threat of losing our erection it's almost sure to happen. We create a self fulfilling prophecy by feeding that part of our mind more emotional juice.
The best course of action is to recognize that this survival part of your mind has good intentions to protect you. It may seem like it's being a saboteur, yet in reality it's just doing its job. When you recognize that and say "I love that" you break the cycle of stress that has started in your body and mind. This allows you to immediately get back to a relaxed and calm state and have more control.
When you get angry at losing your erection you are actually just feeding more stress hormones to your system and making matters worse. When you love losing your erection it means to truly feel it within yourself. When you are just trying to control the situation it creates more stress. When you surrender and love it, you actually gain the control you were seeking.
This is about creating a new awareness about the body and mind that will help you overcome the "illusion" of being self conscious. Your mind is constantly playing these "what if" scenarios to keep you safe. When you learn to see them as illusions instead of reality, it will give you the power to always maintain the state of mind that empowers you.
I hope this gives you a little shift in how you think about this next time it happens. The most important thing to do in the bedroom is to have fun and not take any of it serious. Being vulnerable with your partner is part of your growth and things don't always go how your mind wants them too. Surrender to this and the ironic thing is that's when everything will go the way you want.
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Damn buddy, now that is a complete mindF and really does make sense. I ALLOWED myself to be crucified in deep shame but being with my perfect partner which I HAD decided wasn't on the cards, she has provided incredible compassion and understanding..
She deserves my working every angle and this truly makes sense and worth a shot..thank you..
Glad you’re back. Also respect for not allowing ads on your channel.
Dude, watching your videos helped me alot. I was at the point of fearing even imagining sexual stuff that might end in me not having an erection. After some mindful practice, and reframing that fear, I have more power over it. Accepting it is HUGE.
Interesting reframe. Worth trying. Scanning for threats, and there are plenty of them these days, is a guy thing. Probably an evolutionary biology thing, since the men were responsible for leaving the village and either fighting off threats or bringing back protein. That was our job, and still is. Succeeding at that job got you laid and the tribe’s gene pool stayed strong. Recognizing what’s going on in your mind when your body isn’t cooperating, and dealing with that effectively is a real skill. Especially as you get older and erections aren’t automatic anymore. This is a good video. Thanks!
Just wanted to drop a quick thanks! Your videos really helped a lot! 😊
Glad it helped!
Hi julius
Awesome video ..thanx
.. by the way which bk do u recommend , when it comes to pick up women on the street or in grocery stores?
Thanx 4 ur help
CLAUDE
PARIS
what bro
Okay so I do have a big question that isn’t rlly related to the video. I can do the kissing and touching I’ve watched a lot of your videos but I am not sure what to say when it comes to dirty talk. I know you’ve given a couple examples in other videos but what makes dirty talk sexy and how should one do it?
Thank you! 🙂
You are welcome!
Hey bro do you ever do 1 to 1 talks/coaching - would be really good to speak to you about stuff
Thanks for reaching out. I don't do any personal coaching at this time. I would like to be able to help more in this capacity, perhaps in a group coaching call scenario. If others are interested please chime in and let me know.
I think the main questions I want to ask you is when you were in that dark place of losing your erection after you were cheated on, how did you get yourself out of that place/how did you start getting yourself over that mental barrier?
Did you see a therapist? Or do you have any good meditation guides to use to get to a point where you can dissociate from that inner critic and not believe it
That's a great question. I had a long healing journey and that's something I'm going to get into on my new channel with my wife. I'll have more on that soon. I definitely recommend meditation to start with. The "Waking Up" app from Sam Harris worked best for me. I feel like when life gets "dark" it's sometimes (without you knowing) taking you to a place to have a breakthrough. It's asking you to turn inward and face whatever fear has been lurking. We often don't want to look there because it feels difficult. But this is how we build courage and strength. Being vulnerable with yourself and your partner is a big part of this. When we realize that we don't have to live up to the "ideal" image we made up in our own minds it can be the most liberating feeling. The road may be uncomfortable, and your mind might resist, but on the other side is like a life "level up".
Start out with the meditations so you can start to separate your thoughts from your awareness. When you realize (with practice) that your thoughts are just a software program trying to keep you safe. That's when the breakthrough begins. It's a journey, not a race. I hope that gets you started and wish you well!
That’s a great answer bro - thanks for that, your videos have really helped me
Can you make a video with practical
Thanks for the message. Yeah, I think a practical example is a good idea for a future video.
What? The body needs to learn and love pain. Endure the the pain. Learn to become more relaxed with each painful blow. Maybe you have never been in the military? Teach the body to work harder under pain, crave danger, crave the adrenaline, get an erection each time you pull the trigger, jump out of the plane......
What the actual
LOL, until recently I hadn't realized that Mario updated his favorite way to tackle ED and it's a relief! Although what he previously suggested was pretty good, it was a real pain to follow... I just go'ogled the latest in Volpstein's Erections at Will, it's so much simpler and potent now!
Personally wouldn't want Erectile Disfuntion