Excellent video, too many men are suffering and no-one is there for them. People are scared/too blinded to challenge woman in case they are called out for victim blaming, and then there is the male shaming. This works in the favour of female abusers and it is so wrong. Who is there for these men, it's heart-breaking.
Thank you Jen, it's really encouraging when women speak out about it, and makes sense because allowing those types of women to thrive negatively impacts us all.
Too bad society doesn’t do everything they can to hide this from women because it’s like 80% of women are walking over on this earth thinking that men have never been abused. No man on earth has ever been abused by a woman when statistically, we are abused 60% more often we are more likely to suffer from spousal abuse than women, but yet women domestic abuse is talked about nonstop, but if men are being domestic Lee abused at alarming rate, the society do anything to society whole charity events to speak out about male domestic abuse know they have female domestic abuse seminars, and have a domestic abuser speak to those women about domestic abuse, and what it’s like to suffer from domestic abuse from a female abuser, that is the moment I realize society doesn’t give two shits about man it’s easier to make victims, then be a victim
Awesome and tragic. I could add to this video and I'm sure there are thousands of other men that either don't know they've been abused\controlled or daren't come forward. Thank you for putting this together.
Well done in giving voice to men's e experiences. I was wide eyed student in theclare 70s when I attended a talk by Erin Pizzey. At the time she was very well known due to her work on domestic violence. In that talk she included her work with Males seeking help or Refuge. The founder of the Refuge charity and movement subsequently sidelined by feminists turning against her humanitarian concern. It is a tragedy that such a video as this is a brave product, simply pointing out the reality.
I am actually going through this in my life! :( I have been suffering emotional abuse from my partner.. I didn't realise what it was until very recently . I have come out the toxic relationship however she has our home and will not let me see our baby. she is claiming that she was abused by me! I hope the UK legal system will see the truth through my text evidence and the people I know can vouch for my character.
If or when you plan to break up with your partner AND LEAVE due to abuse, PLE3ASE DO NOT TELL THEM. Get away on THE QUIET. Only tell your abusive partner that you have left them once you are safe and sound. You cannot expect an abusive partner to be reasonable about the break up, it simply will not happen that way. Please plan on the queit and safely leave. Your safety is first and foremost
I have little to offer by way of experience (although I have been in an abusive relationship, it went both ways - and it was emotional, as opposed to physical, abuse as it were a distance relationship). But I'd like to leave a comment anyway to make this video more likely (if only slightly) to show up for random people across the world. I will tell you about how when I was a kid, being indoctrinated into the cult of feminist ideas (no, not really "feminism", they never gave it a name), I wanted to be one of those people fighting for the rights of others. I wanted to be one of those "have-it-all"s, fighting for the "have-not"s. I wanted to be a champion of justice and equality, regardless of cost to mind and limb - and I was taught this injustice only happened to people who weren't like me. I never wanted any recognition for it, and I still don't. However, a few years back I came to realize that the people needing this sort of help the most right now, are people like me; men. The people who are told they're not worth anything to anyone unless they put all their effort into the betterment of the state, are men - the people who are told they're worthless and might as well rot away if they don't do enough for others. I thought, for a while, that I could be the hero in shining armor. Turns out the only ones who could wear that enchanted armor are women. The women who truly, honestly, care about the men in their lives. And I'm really scared thinking about how many of those women are left.
I had to dig in search for this video. It is absolutely sad. That society is doing everything they can to hide information about male domestic abuse and coercion control because I recently learned you can be coercion controlled. Like everything she does wrong to me is somehow my fault. She hit me in the nuts when roughhousing it’s my fault. I wear the wrong clothing. It’s my fault. Currently it’s in the beginning where she doesn’t have a lot of control over my life where she’s doing all the priming, but I’m so desperate for love. I might stick with her because I have no one else that will care about me and society obviously doesn’t want to help me.
Im going through this now lies if abuse and u just had a vacated plea as police litrally tried to fit me up ..im parental alienation aswell i need belp she is doing everything by the book of buse but no one listens i got 4 sisters and 3 girls im far from it
Wow, alot of what I went through was voiced in this video, im from the u.s. and I'm trying to find a method of legal action to take to stop the bullshit. And I won't back down, any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated
After seeing this video, I might have the strength to leave before it gets too bad because currently it’s just I’m being primed for abuse. It’s the little things she’s using to control me and I just afraid if I dump her, I’ll be looking over my shoulder for the rest of my life
I might be suffering from coercive abuse, but it’s the early stages and I’m too weak to leave because all she does now is belittle my identity anything that I want to do that she dislikes she makes me feel bad for liking it so I have to like her likes and wants and only her likes and wants if I wear something she disagrees with. I have to change if she hurts me while I were roughhousing and yeah I’m at an actual physical pain because she hit me in the nuts or I’m saying ow stop she starts crying and I’m there to comfort her and I thought no means no and stop means stop because if I tell you stop pinching me stop hitting me stop slapping me stop kicking me that should be the meaning to never do that again even in a playful way because I didn’t enjoy it in a playful way but apparently for men stop, doesn’t mean stop it means I’ll do it again next time and sometimes when she’s upset or mad or frustrated, she’ll pinch me or squeeze me tightly because of a video game or some like that like I feel like I can’t leave her because she’s been diagnosed as a learning disability, and I would be considered a bad person for leaving her and who knows what lies she’ll spread about me or things to fabricate because everyone’s gonna believe her because she’s in capable of lying according to society
One thing that I don’t understand about girls who are coercive control you tell them some thing like I have a bad knee or my hand hurts or my teeth are riding out of my skull and they say they listen to it it’s OK I won’t do that and was the first thing she does exactly what she was asked not to like I have my back teeth rotting out of my skull but still my girlfriend will grab my face and squeeze no matter how many times I’ve told her that is excruciatingly painful don’t do that Because she grabs and squeeze it, like she’s telling a child not to put their hand in the cookie jar or something
A very powerful video containing the valid experiences of abused men
Excellent video, too many men are suffering and no-one is there for them. People are scared/too blinded to challenge woman in case they are called out for victim blaming, and then there is the male shaming. This works in the favour of female abusers and it is so wrong. Who is there for these men, it's heart-breaking.
Thank you Jen, it's really encouraging when women speak out about it, and makes sense because allowing those types of women to thrive negatively impacts us all.
Too bad society doesn’t do everything they can to hide this from women because it’s like 80% of women are walking over on this earth thinking that men have never been abused. No man on earth has ever been abused by a woman when statistically, we are abused 60% more often we are more likely to suffer from spousal abuse than women, but yet women domestic abuse is talked about nonstop, but if men are being domestic Lee abused at alarming rate, the society do anything to society whole charity events to speak out about male domestic abuse know they have female domestic abuse seminars, and have a domestic abuser speak to those women about domestic abuse, and what it’s like to suffer from domestic abuse from a female abuser, that is the moment I realize society doesn’t give two shits about man it’s easier to make victims, then be a victim
The Irish Father was talking about Parental Alienation that is Coercive Control & Child Abuse
Awesome and tragic. I could add to this video and I'm sure there are thousands of other men that either don't know they've been abused\controlled or daren't come forward. Thank you for putting this together.
Thanks a lot for this video. My bro just realized he was the victim and I wish to help him more to go through this 😢
Have you see Respect UK's toolkits for male victims and female perpetrators ? It is so disgusting.
I looked them up last night - appalling so-called "charity".
Well done in giving voice to men's e experiences. I was wide eyed student in theclare 70s when I attended a talk by Erin Pizzey. At the time she was very well known due to her work on domestic violence. In that talk she included her work with Males seeking help or Refuge. The founder of the Refuge charity and movement subsequently sidelined by feminists turning against her humanitarian concern. It is a tragedy that such a video as this is a brave product, simply pointing out the reality.
I am actually going through this in my life! :( I have been suffering emotional abuse from my partner.. I didn't realise what it was until very recently . I have come out the toxic relationship however she has our home and will not let me see our baby. she is claiming that she was abused by me! I hope the UK legal system will see the truth through my text evidence and the people I know can vouch for my character.
Horrific but brilliant, well done Firebird ❤️
Good video lads straight to the point
Omg I'm so sorry for all of them
This is very real and hurts so much
Thank you for making this video. May all these beautiful people find joy again. Does anyone know any good support for survivors?
Excellent production!
Hope this trial for Johny Depp bring some voice for abused men out there.. Men suffer silently
I am going through abuse right now by a woman but no one will listen to me
If or when you plan to break up with your partner AND LEAVE due to abuse, PLE3ASE DO NOT TELL THEM. Get away on THE QUIET. Only tell your abusive partner that you have left them once you are safe and sound. You cannot expect an abusive partner to be reasonable about the break up, it simply will not happen that way. Please plan on the queit and safely leave. Your safety is first and foremost
I have little to offer by way of experience (although I have been in an abusive relationship, it went both ways - and it was emotional, as opposed to physical, abuse as it were a distance relationship). But I'd like to leave a comment anyway to make this video more likely (if only slightly) to show up for random people across the world.
I will tell you about how when I was a kid, being indoctrinated into the cult of feminist ideas (no, not really "feminism", they never gave it a name), I wanted to be one of those people fighting for the rights of others. I wanted to be one of those "have-it-all"s, fighting for the "have-not"s. I wanted to be a champion of justice and equality, regardless of cost to mind and limb - and I was taught this injustice only happened to people who weren't like me. I never wanted any recognition for it, and I still don't.
However, a few years back I came to realize that the people needing this sort of help the most right now, are people like me; men. The people who are told they're not worth anything to anyone unless they put all their effort into the betterment of the state, are men - the people who are told they're worthless and might as well rot away if they don't do enough for others.
I thought, for a while, that I could be the hero in shining armor. Turns out the only ones who could wear that enchanted armor are women. The women who truly, honestly, care about the men in their lives. And I'm really scared thinking about how many of those women are left.
Controlling, overpossesive, jealous.. These r 3 words that describes it all
I had to dig in search for this video. It is absolutely sad. That society is doing everything they can to hide information about male domestic abuse and coercion control because I recently learned you can be coercion controlled. Like everything she does wrong to me is somehow my fault. She hit me in the nuts when roughhousing it’s my fault. I wear the wrong clothing. It’s my fault. Currently it’s in the beginning where she doesn’t have a lot of control over my life where she’s doing all the priming, but I’m so desperate for love. I might stick with her because I have no one else that will care about me and society obviously doesn’t want to help me.
That's just sad, sad, sad!
😡😡😡😡😡😡
Im going through this now lies if abuse and u just had a vacated plea as police litrally tried to fit me up ..im parental alienation aswell i need belp she is doing everything by the book of buse but no one listens i got 4 sisters and 3 girls im far from it
I have an abusive father he does this.
Wow, alot of what I went through was voiced in this video, im from the u.s. and I'm trying to find a method of legal action to take to stop the bullshit. And I won't back down, any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated
After seeing this video, I might have the strength to leave before it gets too bad because currently it’s just I’m being primed for abuse. It’s the little things she’s using to control me and I just afraid if I dump her, I’ll be looking over my shoulder for the rest of my life
My ex accused me of assault no further action was taken 3 weeks later
I might be suffering from coercive abuse, but it’s the early stages and I’m too weak to leave because all she does now is belittle my identity anything that I want to do that she dislikes she makes me feel bad for liking it so I have to like her likes and wants and only her likes and wants if I wear something she disagrees with. I have to change if she hurts me while I were roughhousing and yeah I’m at an actual physical pain because she hit me in the nuts or I’m saying ow stop she starts crying and I’m there to comfort her and I thought no means no and stop means stop because if I tell you stop pinching me stop hitting me stop slapping me stop kicking me that should be the meaning to never do that again even in a playful way because I didn’t enjoy it in a playful way but apparently for men stop, doesn’t mean stop it means I’ll do it again next time and sometimes when she’s upset or mad or frustrated, she’ll pinch me or squeeze me tightly because of a video game or some like that like I feel like I can’t leave her because she’s been diagnosed as a learning disability, and I would be considered a bad person for leaving her and who knows what lies she’ll spread about me or things to fabricate because everyone’s gonna believe her because she’s in capable of lying according to society
One thing that I don’t understand about girls who are coercive control you tell them some thing like I have a bad knee or my hand hurts or my teeth are riding out of my skull and they say they listen to it it’s OK I won’t do that and was the first thing she does exactly what she was asked not to like I have my back teeth rotting out of my skull but still my girlfriend will grab my face and squeeze no matter how many times I’ve told her that is excruciatingly painful don’t do that Because she grabs and squeeze it, like she’s telling a child not to put their hand in the cookie jar or something