Stop Worrying About Your Future Husband | Nouman Ali Khan

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  • @jadeworldvlog6923
    @jadeworldvlog6923 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3350

    I'm 42yrs old sister not married,please pray for me to get married and have kids in shaa Allah

    • @googleuser1721
      @googleuser1721 2 ปีที่แล้ว +142

      May Allah help you and your kids.

    • @sameena3162
      @sameena3162 2 ปีที่แล้ว +182

      Don't worry sister, Insha Allah you will blessed with good spouse and children. Aameen

    • @alikhansahab8356
      @alikhansahab8356 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Ameen

    • @gulafshanbegum2013
      @gulafshanbegum2013 2 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      InshaAllah...... Allah gives you best partner soon🤲

    • @sidrahussain5096
      @sidrahussain5096 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Insha Allah u will be married soon

  • @lannaalisyafitri1605
    @lannaalisyafitri1605 2 ปีที่แล้ว +713

    I'm gonna be 25 this month, people around me, friends and family are getting married.. and i started to feel the rush to get married too.. just this evening after pray maghrib i made dua about spouse, then i opened yt and this video showed up and i clicked immediately bcs of the title triggered me so much🤣 ig Allah just gave me guidance through this video to calm down and to improve myself first.. sigh... i have a lot of homework

    • @cabdixeedho4205
      @cabdixeedho4205 2 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      I wish you a good husband, and lots happiness.

    • @shelbyfaaron739
      @shelbyfaaron739 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      that makes two of us, sister. May Allah bless us with the perfect spouse at the perfect time, and meanwhile, let's work hard on that homework haha

    • @AhmedAli-fr8kr
      @AhmedAli-fr8kr ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Yes. Allah is always with us. Don't worry ☺️☺️☺️

    • @abz4674
      @abz4674 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Same! I am 28 and I'm feeling like it's o behind. 😭

    • @checkmattee222
      @checkmattee222 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@abz4674 I'm 28 too and lately I've been so stressed about this but I thank Allah for bringing me across this video. May Allah grant us good spouses 😊

  • @nabie2980
    @nabie2980 2 ปีที่แล้ว +441

    I have a cousin, 44 years old, single. She doesnt worry, probably still waiting. Then I have a friend, by the time reached 40, she became worried, she prayed tahajjud, she asked God for a spouse. Fortunately, Her wish was granted and now happily married.
    Sometimes you have to worry in order for you to ask Allah for help and guidance. Not everybody is destined to have a spouse.

    • @fardosaadan5963
      @fardosaadan5963 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      MashaAllah

    • @noufshahi8946
      @noufshahi8946 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      He said young woman

    • @checkmattee222
      @checkmattee222 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@noufshahi8946 by "young woman" he meant single women.

    • @snapchat___
      @snapchat___ ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Dear Sister/ bro. With age girl's ability to become a mother declines.

    • @antelope5699
      @antelope5699 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      ⁠​⁠@@snapchat___who are you? God? So many young women are equally infertile. “Allah knows what every female bears and what increases and decreases in the wombs. And with Him everything is determined with precision” (13:8). Allah, not you, not science, not the doctors so please don’t speak on matters to dishearten people

  • @worldofislam4022
    @worldofislam4022 2 ปีที่แล้ว +261

    There is a girl named kadeeja . She have been went through a lots of struggles and now she is struggling to get married please pray for her to get married happily .Because dua has the power to change anything .

  • @sonic-od3fb
    @sonic-od3fb 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1280

    Without even joking, this video feels like a Godsent SUBHANALLAH. I'm in the situation of wondering those EXACT same words as the brother stated. "Who's gonna marry me?" "When am I gonna get married?" "When is the Qadr of Allah gonna come?" And after watching the video and the advice the brother gave to us sisters, ALHAMDULLILAH I feel SO MUCH CALMER and reassured that inshaAllah that I will find the right spouse! I'm just gonna do my part as a Muslim and things will get more clearer when the time is right! 😍 Allahu AKBAR for this video and may Allah SubhanawatAllah reward the brother for this video amin 🥰
    (Thank you SO MUCH for all the likes and comments! Never realized that my comment was so relatable 😆 I was only sharing my thoughts and view on the video and how I felt sooo reassured about my future Spouse 🙂 But I'm glad it's helping everyone else! ❤)

    • @beryllium42
      @beryllium42 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Same

    • @nerdyaspirant2
      @nerdyaspirant2 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Same with me.. These things were going on in my mind and the moment I opened TH-cam, this video appeared first as a guidance from Allah. Feels better now Alhamdulillah🙂

    • @sonic-od3fb
      @sonic-od3fb 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@nerdyaspirant2 Alhamdullilah I'm so happy to hear that 😁 I know how you feel sister. May Allah SubhanawatAllah give us the right spouses amin ☺️

    • @dharslinbanu3343
      @dharslinbanu3343 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same here sister

    • @nerdyaspirant2
      @nerdyaspirant2 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@sonic-od3fb Ameen😇

  • @Nisa0206
    @Nisa0206 2 ปีที่แล้ว +166

    All my Muslim brothers and sisters May Allah bless you with righteous and good spouse and kids who will benefit you in this world and hereafter too Allahumma Ameen 💖

    • @fardosaadan5963
      @fardosaadan5963 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ameen ya rabb🤲🤲🤲

    • @yusniatiyusni1503
      @yusniatiyusni1503 ปีที่แล้ว

      Aamiinn

    • @user-ne3pl6po1f
      @user-ne3pl6po1f 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      For advice sister avoid K pop because it’s haram بارك الله فيك

  • @itratnadeem9139
    @itratnadeem9139 2 ปีที่แล้ว +416

    I dont know why I was thinking about future husband all day and then at night when I opened TH-cam this video came in front of me. Wallahi this is a sign from Allah
    LOL I was not expecting such likes anyways thanks 😍😂😂

    • @nighatbhat1849
      @nighatbhat1849 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Same here

    • @ayeyokoris4810
      @ayeyokoris4810 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Same wallahi subhanallah🤭

    • @mujahidhasan118
      @mujahidhasan118 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Ayo As A 22 Old Muslim Boy (Almost 100Kg Fat)😂. I Have To Lose My Weight As Soon As Possible. Soon I Have To Hit The Gym And Shredded My Self. I'm Worried About My Future Wife. Don't Know What's Gonna Happen. Now Days Its Really Hard To Find Traditional Women (A Wify Material). Its Like Finding A Lost Needle In Sahara Desert.😩

    • @cabdixeedho4205
      @cabdixeedho4205 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      masha alah you're a nice person I wish you a briliant year ahead.

    • @itratnadeem9139
      @itratnadeem9139 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@mujahidhasan118 lol😂😂 don't worry because it is useless. The name of our spouse is already written.

  • @nafisanehar742
    @nafisanehar742 2 ปีที่แล้ว +80

    When u whole heartly trust Allah there's nothing to worry 💗

  • @splash6133
    @splash6133 2 ปีที่แล้ว +206

    Even as a young Muslim man I found this very beneficial, جَزَاكَ اللّٰه خيرًا

  • @MaddieFishblob
    @MaddieFishblob 2 ปีที่แล้ว +565

    As a 19 yr old, I rlly have been stressing abt finding a partner 😆 I want to get married but the thought of trying hard to find the perfect person often filled me with anxiety & dread. So to hear him say the process of meeting the right person will come naturally, and the objective is *peace and calm* in ur life - never looked at it from that perspective before and it rlly helps ❤️ thanks

    • @yasminflower5140
      @yasminflower5140 2 ปีที่แล้ว +55

      You're still young , don't worry ,the right person will come inshallah. Use this time to know yourself and your worth and also to spend time with your parents, this will not come back 💕

    • @mujahidhasan118
      @mujahidhasan118 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Ayo As A 22 Old Muslim Boy (Almost 100Kg Fat). I Have To Lose My Weight As Soon As Possible. Soon I Have To Hit The Gym And Shredded My Self. I'm Worried About My Future Wife. Don't Know What's Gonna Happen. Now Days Its Really Hard To Find Traditional Women (A Wify Material). Its Like Finding A Lost Needle In Sahara Desert.

    • @cabdixeedho4205
      @cabdixeedho4205 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      you are so yaung i hope you good luck

    • @lizzie6565
      @lizzie6565 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Omg I’m 19 as well. I have also been worrying about finding a good husband. I want to be somewhat traditional. Not entirely though I’m still very ambitious regarding my career.
      Unfortunately I was trapped in Andrew tates world for a while and got so scared that a good man wouldn’t want a successful woman :(
      My goal is to be a good wife though.❤
      Hopefully god helps me out

    • @yasminflower5140
      @yasminflower5140 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      @@mujahidhasan118 are you husband material ? Allah will you give you exactly what you deserve don't worry..... Righteous wife for the RIGHTEOUS husband

  • @diahfitriani3944
    @diahfitriani3944 2 ปีที่แล้ว +79

    I'm 30 soon, and still single. somehow that exact question haunted me, because in my culture, I'm already late for "ideal" age for married. our society put pressure to it. and it made me anxious sometimes. but qadarullah this video comes at the right moment. it reminds me why I should be grateful that my life is fine with or without spouse... it reminds me why I'm still single is waiting to be together with someone who would give me peace. someone who made me safe, reminds me of home. home that'll protect me, surround me with assurance, accepted me for who I am

    • @webiplus
      @webiplus 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      You are not late for marriage. You are still young enough to bear children and I'm sure strong enough to build a family.

    • @diahfitriani3944
      @diahfitriani3944 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@webiplus thank you for your kind words 😁

    • @mahamkhan7365
      @mahamkhan7365 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@diahfitriani3944 my cousin gets married at the age of 30 and she is pregnant. So don't worry. May Allah bless you with a good life partner.

    • @IronMan-nu3rb
      @IronMan-nu3rb ปีที่แล้ว

      What were u doing in 20s??

    • @diahfitriani3944
      @diahfitriani3944 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@IronMan-nu3rb I'm focus on my studies and build up my career

  • @za761
    @za761 2 ปีที่แล้ว +282

    53 and never had been married, never had boyfriends, I just follow the flow of my life. srudied, having a descent job, able to be at my parent's service, I do travel as and when I have the opportunity, went for hajj at my early 40s...I was ok all the while, but lately felt like a 'vacuum' in my life...thought of adopting a kid...hmm I don't know..I have been performing istiqarah for Allah's guidance

    • @xoismat8350
      @xoismat8350 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Mashallah! I worry for my Aunt because she isn't married but this gave me hope. I'll advice her to find her purpose

    • @mujahidhasan118
      @mujahidhasan118 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Ayo As A 22 Old Muslim Boy (Almost 100Kg Fat)😂. I Have To Lose My Weight As Soon As Possible. Soon I Have To Hit The Gym And Shredded My Self. I'm Worried About My Future Wife. Don't Know What's Gonna Happen. Now Days Its Really Hard To Find Traditional Women (A Wify Material). Its Like Finding A Lost Needle In Sahara Desert.😩

    • @somenamae
      @somenamae 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Al-Salam Alaykum, dear.
      I ask Allah to fulfill your needs and strengthen you and guide you to what is best for you in this life and in the eternal life. And I pray to Allah that He rewards you in both lives for your good deeds and sabr. 💕
      I would also like to tell you that adoption is not permissible in Islam; therefore, you cannot perform istiqarah on it. However, looking after an orphan is allowed and even encouraged as reported in this Hadith: Sahl bin Sa'd (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:
      *Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "I will be like this in Jannah with the person who takes care of an orphan". Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) raised his forefinger and middle finger by way of illustration.*
      [Al- Bukhari].
      وعن سهل بن سعيد رضي الله عنه‏:‏ قال رسول صلى الله عليه وسلم‏:‏ ‏ "‏ أنا وكافل اليتيم في الجنة هكذا‏"‏ وأشار بالسبابة والوسطى، وفرج بينهما‏.‏ ‏(‏‏(‏رواه البخاري‏)‏‏)‏‏.‏
      Reference : Riyad as-Salihin 262
      In-book reference : Introduction, Hadith 262
      Sister, may Allah provide for you from where you do not expect. 💗
      {And whoever fears Allah - He will make for him a way out ◉ And will provide for him from where he does not expect. And whoever relies upon Allah - then He is sufficient for him. Indeed, Allah will accomplish His purpose. Allah has already set for everything a [decreed] extent.} (Surah Al-Talaq, 2&3)

    • @halimaabdulla4865
      @halimaabdulla4865 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      May Allah grant you a spouse that will help you get to Jannah Ameen

    • @nurhayatiramli636
      @nurhayatiramli636 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Don't worry..Allah knows best, you will be blessed,..Inshallah.

  • @roksanashirmin3573
    @roksanashirmin3573 2 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    I am 36 year's woman, not married, please everyone, prayer for me, to get married please, my mother's, father's, younger brother is gone, now I am waiting for my marriage, I am totally alone, my tension.... Everyone pray for me

    • @jawwad4020
      @jawwad4020 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Try a Muslim dating site such as muzz?

    • @wheelfan100
      @wheelfan100 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Try lowering your natural hypergamy go for someone poorer etc don't go after the top guys. Make the first move

    • @wheelfan100
      @wheelfan100 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Also watch weath waffles

    • @harujong-il6059
      @harujong-il6059 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@wheelfan100that’s the worst advice you can give a woman. Just because she’s getting older doesn’t mean that she should lower her standards. Financial security is very important to women and most divorces occur due to financial issues

    • @sanshe311
      @sanshe311 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      May Allah grant your Duas with best and grant you good spouse.

  • @mubashshiratasnimmahmud3431
    @mubashshiratasnimmahmud3431 ปีที่แล้ว +173

    I’m a 29 years old sister from Bangladesh. I would like to be married, but it is being difficult for me to find a good spouse. Please everyone pray for me

    • @politicalnewswithriyad2855
      @politicalnewswithriyad2855 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      are you studying in university..?? if not then why you don’t get married early… you should need to understand a men never want to marry a girl if her age passed 25 ++

    • @Acholajanatsiraj
      @Acholajanatsiraj ปีที่แล้ว +1

      May u be answered by the the name of Allah

    • @rabiyarahman8147
      @rabiyarahman8147 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      ⁠@@politicalnewswithriyad2855who is the man !!! How can you say this

    • @nurinuri7389
      @nurinuri7389 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      ​@politicalnewswithriyad2855 my aunt get married at 50, and I have friends married happily at 30+, Allah knows what is the best time, and you the one spreading lies, and making woman feel hopeless in the mercy of Allah, shame on you

    • @jupiterian5831
      @jupiterian5831 ปีที่แล้ว

      May Allah swt grant your wishes, accept your prayers and give you a great spouse that is good for you and good Muslim children.

  • @monabrown101
    @monabrown101 2 ปีที่แล้ว +70

    Wow....even tho I am Christian, God used this to bless me. I %1000000 agree with this man. I believe God is a God of peace. If my future husband doesn't make me feel at peace around him, he is not the one. God bless you.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾😇😇😇

    • @mujahidhasan118
      @mujahidhasan118 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Ayo As A 22 Old Muslim Boy (Almost 100Kg Fat)😂. I Have To Lose My Weight As Soon As Possible. Soon I Have To Hit The Gym And Shredded My Self. I'm Worried About My Future Wife. Don't Know What's Gonna Happen. Now Days Its Really Hard To Find Traditional Women (A Wify Material). Its Like Finding A Lost Needle In Sahara Desert.😩

    • @Mochi-re8cv
      @Mochi-re8cv ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@mujahidhasan118 wify material 💀

  • @Hellofellowhuman212
    @Hellofellowhuman212 2 ปีที่แล้ว +146

    Wow I'm amazed how this video popped up when I most needed it! Studying medicine abroad sure creates lots of dilemmas within oneself when you know you're spending most of your youth studying in a foreign country with very low chances to find suitable future partner.

    • @naimaabdullahi6272
      @naimaabdullahi6272 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Sameee May Allah SWT take care of our affairs ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

    • @Hellofellowhuman212
      @Hellofellowhuman212 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@naimaabdullahi6272 Aminnn🙏🏻🙏🏻

    • @blue.Nina426
      @blue.Nina426 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Mashallah sister. Focus on your medecine studies. You are a futur doctor inshallah, Allah will give you what you want later inshAllah

    • @joyfulj1663
      @joyfulj1663 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Allah can send you someone by a way you couldn't imagine in that foreign country. Make sincere duaa everyday

    • @blue.Nina426
      @blue.Nina426 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@paralleluniverse298 shut up. I SY what I want. The most important thing is to be independent. Not your case ? I don’t care

  • @elizabethshittu3275
    @elizabethshittu3275 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    This is so true. Whether Allah wills marriage for you or not, the only way to be happy in this life is to be purposeful. If you are not, you will not attract anyone good in your life.

    • @silverstar2191
      @silverstar2191 ปีที่แล้ว

      What did he mean by saying, focus on being purposeful? Can you clarify for me please
      Jazak Allahu Khairan

    • @Adelina24244
      @Adelina24244 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@silverstar2191what is your purpose in this life to worship Allah and to obey his commands. Find out why Allah brought you into this world without purpose is the cause of many suicides. Have goals and dreams and focus on yourself

  • @roshnitasnim2757
    @roshnitasnim2757 2 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    Alhamdulilah, i was literally having anxiety about getting married and this video comes in. Alhamdulilah💚

  • @alishaansari8795
    @alishaansari8795 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Me bhot stress me thi
    Esa lag raha hai ye video Allah ke zariye mujh tak pohochi
    Alhamdolillahh 💙💙💕

  • @cii_faa
    @cii_faa 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Im 32 year old and all people always say what is your looking for? And don't much choose... This is the answer for all your question and what i looking for... Hope Allah give me this type of spouse for me who give me peace... Aamiin

    • @cabdixeedho4205
      @cabdixeedho4205 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Although they're very wrong, but I think It's motivational question🤣🤣

  • @anamwani4497
    @anamwani4497 2 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    I desperately needed this...

    • @sonic-od3fb
      @sonic-od3fb 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You and me both omg 😳

  • @suhana5645
    @suhana5645 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Iam 25year old.. I was worried but now after watching this video I got motivated very much.. Thank u

  • @sadianamel7141
    @sadianamel7141 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Allah is the best planner, may Allah Pak bless all of us the righteous path... ameen, sum Amen

  • @eminurshouse
    @eminurshouse 2 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    First we should find peace in our souls. Then our partner will find us or we will find them ❤️

    • @MA-2020
      @MA-2020 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      ✔️✔️✔️

  • @Rainhaasha
    @Rainhaasha 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    As a Muslim that is living in a society of people expecting you to get married after university made me quite worried about if I will get married but then this video came through to me, thank you.

  • @suhilaelnagar7426
    @suhilaelnagar7426 2 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    I just want to marry a Man that I feel with him Peace ❤

  • @putriwildaninasution7816
    @putriwildaninasution7816 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Suddenly this video comes up while i open youtube, is this a sign for advise? Masha Allah❤

  • @rodaisa7274
    @rodaisa7274 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Such a coincidence that I just saw this SubhanAllah literally all I do is think about my future husband and wanting to get married soon I need to relax and understand Allah is the best of planners

  • @farmanfatima5858
    @farmanfatima5858 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Obviously correct sir 💯💯✨👌 may allah give the good& religious spouse to every man & women ....Aameen

  • @soulserenity2503
    @soulserenity2503 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    SubhanAllah, Allah sent this video to me at the perfect time like He’s answering me

  • @elencapote9454
    @elencapote9454 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I needed this words today ! This man is amazing, the way he speak, he is sweet, authentic, for sure he is close to Allah
    He is funny also, lol

  • @unknownranger250
    @unknownranger250 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I’m 33 and InshaAllah will get married early next year. This is just for the girls out there, when i was in my early 20’s i would worry as everyone around me was getting married.. By Allah’s mercy and grace it is now happening for me at this age, whilst i battled other personal family related problems.. a decade later its happening. Its Allah swt’s Will..

  • @KadiatouKeita410
    @KadiatouKeita410 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    This video is so helpful, subhanallah.
    Let's leave with purpose, and the right spouse will find us inshaAllah.

  • @mzmalik9445
    @mzmalik9445 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    It's very difficult to identify the temper and attitude of a person in arranged marriage when that person poses nice to others. All depends on only qadr.

  • @user-of3mj2sz7z
    @user-of3mj2sz7z 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Whenever I'm stressed,this man comes & make me happy 💙

  • @123nadeemuu
    @123nadeemuu 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    This is EXACTLY what i was worried about 😭 ya Allah youtube can read my mind

    • @waytoguidance
      @waytoguidance 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      youtube is nothing I think its ALLAH Who made you watch something beneficial 😊

    • @farheenbukhari1129
      @farheenbukhari1129 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@waytoguidance Indeed It is Allah

    • @jawwad4020
      @jawwad4020 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@waytoguidance It's literally the TH-cam algorithm written by people that is making these suggestions. It is my understanding that it is disrespectful to compare artificial intelligence to Allah swt.- that would be shirk.

    • @waytoguidance
      @waytoguidance 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jawwad4020 Algorithm can recommend Islamic content but to be THAT specific.. like you find the exact thing you look for.. ALLAH can do anything سبحان اللہ
      And no one is comparing some technology with the Most High Astaghfirullah

    • @waytoguidance
      @waytoguidance 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jawwad4020 it has happened to me too I was struggling with alot of depression and just as I opened this app I saw a video specifically about Surah Duha in front of me.. to this day I thank ALLAH I saw that video.. it gives me strength by the mercy of ALLAH

  • @theempireofLuxury
    @theempireofLuxury ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I am saving it and going to watch it again again.. beacuse it need it very much.. because love is not everything. May Allah grant us spouses who give us peace ..

  • @rm7250
    @rm7250 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I’m 26 and unmarried pls make dua for me in sha Allah Rahima that Allah swt give me a righteous spouse and make it easy

    • @sumaihbegum2480
      @sumaihbegum2480 หลายเดือนก่อน

      May Allah bless you with a righteous spouse!

  • @sarahja-db9jt
    @sarahja-db9jt ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Salem sisters
    Make this doùa : rabbi innī limā anzalta ilayya min khayrin faqīr (Qur’an 28 : 24 )

  • @ishfaqahmad5800
    @ishfaqahmad5800 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Every word you spoke out are just absolutely mind blowing

  • @mehfoozasajid6273
    @mehfoozasajid6273 2 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    This was much needed. My sister was getting anxious almost to the point of being depressed 😔 about who would marry her. In our society there are mostly arranged marriages and the man's side(his mother and sisters) mostly if not always demand a fair coloured girl. But anything below fair is unacceptable.

    • @waytoguidance
      @waytoguidance 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I have found that when you really do put trust in ALLAH.. and leave the evil and prohibited things for only HIS sake.. then ALLAH really does give you something much better.. but the main thing is you have to sincere from heart with ALLAH first

    • @waytoguidance
      @waytoguidance 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Also my advice is please don't give your sister in marriage to such people who prioritise other qualities of her and not her religion.. These aunties would only want to show the girl and her beauty off to their extended family which might contain non mahram men.. Big no !

    • @mehfoozasajid6273
      @mehfoozasajid6273 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@waytoguidance
      Highly appreciate your advice but the problem is these aunties don't really care if the you are religious or not or have any other qualities apart from being beautiful according to their standards.

    • @waytoguidance
      @waytoguidance 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@mehfoozasajid6273 Then be happy they are out of your life themselves 🙂

    • @yasminflower5140
      @yasminflower5140 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Tell your sister that she is beautiful and they don't deserve her, tell her that Allah is preventing her to be with such horrible people. Instead she can use this time to study her deen and maybe learn some skill that will truly help her

  • @Butterfly-ys9uv
    @Butterfly-ys9uv 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Alhamdulillah, Allah saved me from a mismatch 🙂and I cried and thought Allah could have made me my match😐 at first it looked so!

  • @othe_punya
    @othe_punya 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I’m trying to convince myself noy to worry about what’s going on in my life because Allah SWT knows what best for me

  • @libriansana8562
    @libriansana8562 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Girls think like that cuz they get worried... Mostly cuz of our parents cuz they are worried more than anyone... Unknown fears start to develop ws we age... May ALLAH help us ameen

  • @amazing.crafts
    @amazing.crafts 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I am going through this right now and got my answer AlhamdulilALLAH....
    ❤️

  • @amreenrajput4080
    @amreenrajput4080 2 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    Girls focus on ur purpose.... that's it.....the good partner is in the hands of Allah ..just pray for urselves ...... U will have a partner with whom u will be calm....انشاءاللہ

    • @silverstar2191
      @silverstar2191 ปีที่แล้ว

      What he meant by saying, Focus on your purpose? Can you clarify please

    • @amreenrajput4080
      @amreenrajput4080 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@silverstar2191 the purpose of muslim is to live a life of complete submission to Allah............we here to live a life that Allah wants us to live that's why he has given us the guidance through prophet muhammad SAW......so that we can become a good human being n this will help us in this duniya as well as in akhirah..........
      we are here to make our akhirah good by our good deeds.......

    • @amreenrajput4080
      @amreenrajput4080 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @phigitalai2020 walaikum assalaam warahmatullahi wabarakatu.....may Allah bless u

  • @syedafatima2839
    @syedafatima2839 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    I want to get married but my life is stuck in different things when I see everyone I know getting married my heart panics tears automatically roll down from my eyes . I want someone to be around me to talk and share my life with family is family but how much could someone bother them midnight or at anytime they feel sad or depressed . I think that’s y we have a partner so that we can share sorrow and happiness I pray the next year till I watch this video I will be married inshallah if allah Wills and is good for me .. till then I pray for everyone who feels like me and kindly keep in prayers sisters !

    • @AamnaK-fq1ki
      @AamnaK-fq1ki ปีที่แล้ว

      Allah is with you sister. Just be patient and whoever is in your naseeb will come at their destined time. Remember when there is no one to share your problems, you can always raise your hands and speak of Allah directly

    • @IronMan-nu3rb
      @IronMan-nu3rb ปีที่แล้ว +2

      It's almost going to be an year since you commented. Did u marry?🙂

    • @anikasiddiquebristy9331
      @anikasiddiquebristy9331 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same here sister!

  • @Peace.1022
    @Peace.1022 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I this year admitted in university and in sha Allah i will live purposeful life IN SHA ALLAH 💜 jazakallah khair brother

  • @halolizaa
    @halolizaa 2 ปีที่แล้ว +101

    I'm 37 years old, also still not married yet,, pray for me too.. 🙂

    • @AmitKumar-xx9pl
      @AmitKumar-xx9pl 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Why

    • @nurulilmarsah
      @nurulilmarsah 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      May allah blease we are ,, because i feel what are u feel

    • @halolizaa
      @halolizaa 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@nurulilmarsah Hope Allah gives the best for us,, amiinnn

    • @nurulilmarsah
      @nurulilmarsah 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@halolizaa can i know where do u from?

    • @jawwad4020
      @jawwad4020 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@AmitKumar-xx9pl I think one should make their efforts as well. Imagine if we stayed at home and not went to work and only prayed that Allah give me dinner. No we are supposed to work and Allah will give barakat.
      My prayers for OP 🙏

  • @inspiringmuslim
    @inspiringmuslim 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    may Allah grant as righteous spouse and children .Ameen

  • @Sheart-qs6mm
    @Sheart-qs6mm 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Im divorced 5 yrs ago, and still want a good marriage to a good spouse and a good father for my daughter. Im anxious and dont want my marriage to end the same as the last one (sorry for the purpose of covering our past i cant tell why) and thinking who would marry a widow like me, also the news and socmed kept showing abt how a lot of marriage is wrecked and i then got worried abt it, my parents also traumatized and didnt allow me to remarried, but deep down i still want and hope to.. this came from Allah and i have teary eyes watching it..
    May Allah ease all the worry and anxiousness from all of us and grant us all good spouses, good family that together wants to get closer to Allah everyday and do a lot of good deeds for mankind.. Aameen.

    • @nescasta1950
      @nescasta1950 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      A cousin of mine got married twice and it still didn't work out now after 12 yrs she had a third marriage but its love marriage MashAllah MashAllah
      InshAllah when the time is right and Allah g knows it he will send someone your way meanwhile keep working on yourself and making a role model of yourself because that cousin did this , she studied more degrees , learnt even many more new skills

    • @coffeegirl6076
      @coffeegirl6076 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Dont worry sister, I am here praying for you. I have seen someone like you in my life who is closer to me, so I know the pain of yours. Allah will ease everything for you sister. He is the most Just. He will let miracles happen in unexpected ways sister. I doa for you the best.

    • @grahamthomas9319
      @grahamthomas9319 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Fix yourself first otherwise you get the same. You cannot change what you don’t own.

    • @cabdixeedho4205
      @cabdixeedho4205 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      قدر الله وما شاء فعل لا تقنط من رحمة الله لان ستلقى في حياتك الدنيا مشاكل ومصائب فلابد ان تؤمن بالقدر خيره وشره.
      I wish all of you a successful year ahead.

    • @cabdixeedho4205
      @cabdixeedho4205 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@nescasta1950
      Great story, thanks for sharing💞

  • @beinghuman4583
    @beinghuman4583 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    💖A VERY TRUE MESSAGE MY DEAREST BROTHER 💖☝️

  • @shootingstar1111
    @shootingstar1111 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!! Nouman sir, may Allah fulfill every wishes of yours and keep you in peace 🤲💖

  • @Hir_zKhan
    @Hir_zKhan 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I'm 36 years old woman and never married and I'm so worried about my future. Whenever I find a nice proposal or guy some misfortune happens. Everyone please pray for me 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

    • @Aafiya.Officiall
      @Aafiya.Officiall 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Can you tell me the meaning of this -> Hadith 3959 Sunan an-Nasa'i. You can google it
      .
      How can Allah allow men to have intercourse with slaves without marrying them.?
      ..... A man who already had many wives, still he intercourse with slaves, how can we consider him a prophet or a ideal man?
      There are many verses like this in Qur'an n hadith.which are against women and kafirs. We need to study our own with actual meanings.

  • @mizuki_mitsuru4482
    @mizuki_mitsuru4482 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Pov: you feel called out just from the headline subhanallah🌹

    • @sonic-od3fb
      @sonic-od3fb 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I did feel that way not gonna lie lol 😆

  • @alexanderv7702
    @alexanderv7702 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    These words are beyond wise: listen and apply!

  • @Dr.Abrahamkhan
    @Dr.Abrahamkhan ปีที่แล้ว +16

    May Allah save us from sins and give us women with good character. AMEEN ❤️💖
    And give to women a good character men. AMEEN ❤️
    No doubt Allah said in QURAN
    AND WE HAVE MADE THE BEST PAIRS( COUPLE) FOR YOU 💕💖💖❤️❤️

  • @zaheenkhilji8826
    @zaheenkhilji8826 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Allhumdullillah....the most needed thing for me 😭😍❣️

  • @NolavLnimeRoR
    @NolavLnimeRoR ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I'm 28 years old brother still not married, please pray for me to get married and have kids, in shaa Allah.

    • @mubashshiratasnimmahmud3431
      @mubashshiratasnimmahmud3431 ปีที่แล้ว

      May Allah make marriage easy for you brother. Please pray for me too, I would also like to be married

  • @nourhanebn69
    @nourhanebn69 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Subhan'allah this video was God sent,may allah guide,protect him for me insha'allah ya rab

  • @nikendhn29
    @nikendhn29 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    30 and im worried that im still single and never had any boyfriend. Please pray for me, brother and sister. Hope Allah will let me have my spose in this dunya. I want to have kids :”)

    • @duhakhan7738
      @duhakhan7738 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes sister🥺😓

  • @i.c5084
    @i.c5084 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I like this video.
    Congrats guys.
    I am a christian from romania ✌🏻🇹🇩❤️❤️❤️
    God bless us all!❤️🤗❤️❤️

    • @i.c5084
      @i.c5084 ปีที่แล้ว

      No...they have dark blue..@@omn968

  • @raze6869
    @raze6869 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I feel really down. My family don’t show me love, and I need someone to lean my shoulder on. I feel loneliest. I can’t even focus on my ambitions, my life is full of anxiety; our house is always chaotic. I just wanna run free

    • @IqraIqra-pc8oj
      @IqraIqra-pc8oj 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Me too

    • @minamoorie4746
      @minamoorie4746 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@IqraIqra-pc8oj you're a strong person for admitting this. Have patience and pray Allah will give you your freedom

    • @IqraIqra-pc8oj
      @IqraIqra-pc8oj 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@minamoorie4746 thank u

    • @coffeegirl6076
      @coffeegirl6076 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      We should create a support group for sisters like us. Sending love to you whoever you are sister. May Allah ease everything for you.

    • @jawwad4020
      @jawwad4020 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      May you find the strength sister!

  • @faseetube801
    @faseetube801 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Consoled my heart when I was having the same doubt and being purposeful, Alhamdulillah ❤

  • @cutecupcake6870
    @cutecupcake6870 2 ปีที่แล้ว +98

    I am a Muslim girl
    I am not really worried about my marriage right now
    But few days ago a proposal came for me and my parents got so worked up... Allah knows why 🤣🤣🤣
    And I asked them to calm down.

    • @bocjagne2878
      @bocjagne2878 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Lol! I would have thought that was good, wasn't it?

    • @liv16851
      @liv16851 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      But, do you want to get married?

    • @zaheenkhilji8826
      @zaheenkhilji8826 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Exact happened with me😂😂

    • @mujahidhasan118
      @mujahidhasan118 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ayo As A 22 Old Muslim Boy (Almost 100Kg Fat)😂. I Have To Lose My Weight As Soon As Possible. Soon I Have To Hit The Gym And Shredded My Self. I'm Worried About My Future Wife. Don't Know What's Gonna Happen. Now Days Its Really Hard To Find Traditional Women (A Wify Material). Its Like Finding A Lost Needle In Sahara Desert.😩

    • @Mochi-re8cv
      @Mochi-re8cv ปีที่แล้ว

      😂😂😂😂😂 nooooo

  • @Harisous
    @Harisous 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Mon prof d'anglais nous as donner un devoir (présenter une vidéo, juste comme ca) et j'avais enregistrer cette vidéo sans regarder le titre mais elle a tellement était une réponse a toute mes inquiétudes subkhanallah , que j'ai peur de la présenter étant donner que je suis a la fac et mon groupe d'anglais je suis la seule musulmane.

  • @Habail786
    @Habail786 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I am 37 years old n unmarried.
    Please pray for me

    • @coffeegirl6076
      @coffeegirl6076 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Inshaallah Allah will bless you with everything you wanted here and Jannah sister.

    • @Akhatarr
      @Akhatarr 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      In sha Allah ❤

  • @Biologyandbiotechnology-qc5jo
    @Biologyandbiotechnology-qc5jo 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    i do not know what to say how much it is food of my soul, all bless you.

  • @onlyyoutube6824
    @onlyyoutube6824 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I WAS REALLY IN NEED OF THIS VIDEO. THANK YOU 💝

  • @Hainayusra
    @Hainayusra 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That's nice speech..I'm 34 years old and haven't married yet

  • @sisterfahima
    @sisterfahima 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I really needed this, جزاك الله خيرا

  • @Nini-cl5vb
    @Nini-cl5vb 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Not a muslim but definitely needed this!

  • @labulabuland
    @labulabuland 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    30 y.o. Have tokophobia. Never been married. Please pray for me.
    ✅watched

    • @dantesparda9488
      @dantesparda9488 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      cesarean section is painless

  • @comradeleppi2000
    @comradeleppi2000 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am hindu this is useful for me too. Thanks brother. Hope all muslim sister find their spouse

  • @ibni450
    @ibni450 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Greate messages for Us 😍

  • @adijahidi1215
    @adijahidi1215 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yaa UStadhi don't warry Allah give you jannah MashaAllah

  • @foziamaqbool9405
    @foziamaqbool9405 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Proud to be a Muslim

  • @syee797
    @syee797 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    that's what I am thinking now. pressure from people around me make me sad.

  • @Hecanburninhell
    @Hecanburninhell 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    MashaAllah link to full lecture please❤😭

  • @bellokhaeerat
    @bellokhaeerat ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Masha Allah
    Jazakumullahu Khairan for sharing this amazing video. May Allah grant us spouses who will be the coolness of our eyes(Ameen).

  • @linazana1497
    @linazana1497 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Everything he said is right but I do think love should be considered too, you should love them and feel peaceful with them. God didn’t just give us feelings and hearts for no reasons, we’re not robots we should feel love, attraction and everything beautiful with them.

    • @jawwad4020
      @jawwad4020 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Some will say any feelings are evil if you're not married smh 🙄

  • @fauzianalwoga
    @fauzianalwoga 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    May we all get good and loving non toxic spouses and children insha Allah ❤❤😢

  • @dessy844
    @dessy844 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I will be 45 next month, insyaAllah
    And That's the goal for me : Peace , always has been, but it did not work out on my first marriage, i was too young, probably ignorant of what peace in marriage is, insya Allah i know better for my future🙏 tabarakallah

    • @User_pretty67fg-op
      @User_pretty67fg-op ปีที่แล้ว

      If you are from India I can help you InshAllah

  • @sophiajacks8447
    @sophiajacks8447 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Im a christian buh I really loved this video.. thank you ❤️

  • @shaq100
    @shaq100 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Absolutely beautiful message! 💫💫

  • @shakeelahbehardien8768
    @shakeelahbehardien8768 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Peace of the heart and being in the constant remembrance of Allah SWT. 💙

  • @Samwisebungee
    @Samwisebungee 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I absolutely support this message. However, as a Muslim psychotherapist, I'd like to add one thing that's (at least in my humble opinion) quite important. "Drama" may stem from a lot of things - those could be traumas, family issues, attachment problems, difficulties with mental and/or physical health and so, so much more. Sometimes you notice that behind maladaptative behaviours there is a good heart that just needs support and guidance. Of course, it's not up to the other person to heal the second one - this is where the specialist may take from and I sincerely wish there was less stigma surrounding psychoterapy these days (it also applies to relationship counselling!). I'd also like to add that I believe love and peace are complimentary in mature relationships - love can take so, so many shapes, forms and colours after all. What I usually say to my clients (especially to women, who are often encouraged to lower their just expectations), is that there is nothing 'needy'/'problematic' about expecting to be loved, honoured and listened to in a relationship (which, needless to say, works both ways). So, for all persons who are struggling and worrying about their future spouses - may Allah SWT bless you all and remember you're worthy of love, peace, respect and positive attention.

    • @zainabambia2148
      @zainabambia2148 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Assalamualaikum!!! 🤍 I want to ask how it's like to be a psychotherapist since I am still figuring out what to do after highschool. I have been really ambitious and passionate about extending compassion and care to ppl and I would love to know your opinion and perspective of being in this career field. A little side note haha, I have been brought up in a culture where it's typically expected of women to settle down quicker and its "pointless" for them to pursue further education. However ik deep down I rly want it and I am ambitious about it! Thus I did really appreciate your help. 🤍

  • @shamilamuhammed3008
    @shamilamuhammed3008 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    May Allah bless us with the best spouse.. Aameen💔..

  • @lonewanderer_vault101
    @lonewanderer_vault101 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Nice lecture!
    I'm 19 and not really worried about getting married and all but it's a good reminder if i do start thinking like this in the future.

    • @cabdixeedho4205
      @cabdixeedho4205 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Masha allah
      well said 🤣

    • @mahamkhan7365
      @mahamkhan7365 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are very young this is not the age of worrying about marriage. Focused on your studies. You will find the right person on the right time in sha Allah

    • @tasanotes
      @tasanotes 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      hi i'm also 19

  • @justme_doreamon
    @justme_doreamon ปีที่แล้ว

    This question has been on my mind for at least three years now

  • @salqauraofficialchannel3192
    @salqauraofficialchannel3192 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Many people asked me the same thing, many mans around you, why dont u pick up one to get marry with?,, simple answer “after getting know each other, I didnt feel any peaceful with them, respectively”,,, peace is important feeling in the hectic life

  • @izzagafoor6355
    @izzagafoor6355 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Itna khoobsorat deen hai. Hr bat sikha raha hai.

  • @azharmd9804
    @azharmd9804 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Girls are busy capturing nouman sir rather than listing his lecture

    • @Romantik8680dr
      @Romantik8680dr 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      U r busy typing comments instead of listening

    • @azharmd9804
      @azharmd9804 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @adan4477 wow well said🥱🙂

  • @fatoumatajawara6400
    @fatoumatajawara6400 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I feel comfortable after watching this veido 🥰

  • @assalamualaikum3959
    @assalamualaikum3959 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    I don't worry about who will marry me? I only worrg about whether he will respect and whether he will be a nice person and if he will be then will I be deserving of him?
    But as soon as these worries come to me, a sense of peace came too that no matter what it will be my qismat and only my dua's can make it better, only Allah swt will make it better
    Alhamdulliah

    • @muskakhan3278
      @muskakhan3278 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Exactly my thoughts that's why I am scared of getting married what if he's not to be what i want of him how would be my life then it worries me a lot Allah help us ameen

    • @cabdixeedho4205
      @cabdixeedho4205 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I wish you a good husband to joy of life together

    • @muskakhan3278
      @muskakhan3278 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@cabdixeedho4205 Ameen thank u same to u if u r not married 😀

    • @cabdixeedho4205
      @cabdixeedho4205 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@muskakhan3278
      you're very welcome.
      I'm still single🤣

    • @muskakhan3278
      @muskakhan3278 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@cabdixeedho4205 😃let's hope for the best r u a girl

  • @zainabkazmi131
    @zainabkazmi131 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    It’s not us it’s our parents who brings the topic of marraige again n again. They have made this the only purpose of life.

    • @farzanamunni8947
      @farzanamunni8947 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Absolutely right..

    • @user-sx6cy8bn4n
      @user-sx6cy8bn4n 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      But marriage is a shield

    • @henna5850
      @henna5850 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Then feel lucky.

    • @farzanamunni8947
      @farzanamunni8947 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      i didn't say that,, i'm not a feminist.. When a girl won't marry society alwyz mock her...but what she can do?? It's in her hand??

    • @heartstar143
      @heartstar143 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@farzanamunni8947 agreed😢

  • @Rahila520d
    @Rahila520d ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This video came up on my feed whilst i am facing severe trials with someone who i am meant to get engaged to. At 36 i am running out of hope but this video has reminded me of tawakul! And i also look at the trials our brothers and sisters in palsstine are going through! Who are we to complain?!

  • @maryumabrar7497
    @maryumabrar7497 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Aslamualaikum.i am at thirty and experience a break up.but this video is enough to open my eyes.i should improve my self.its better to leave the dead wood log rather to burn myself .

  • @janettamaryam5724
    @janettamaryam5724 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Is there someone who is single now? Iam 29yr woman and can't find any right man till now, then this video pop up when I kept questioning myself 😅