Let's break the cycle... Nna I am the scapegoat. I go where I'm celebrated not where I am tolerated.... Parents divorced decades ago and I know who hates me and who doesn't. Got tired of fake love. SELF LOVE😍
Eish, l can write a book on this topic 😂😂😂. Zoleka was right. My list is longer. My mother's sister called me a bitch like she has a clean history let alone her children. Now her kids don't talk to her. My uncles wife thinks everything we accomplish in life, her husband paid for it. I could go in vacation to Europe, she will give her husband hell thinking he sponsored it. I could go on a work trip and she will tell her kids it's my uncle who paid for it. Now her kids think I am chowing my uncles money and they are BIG MAD. It's ridiculous 😂. I remember in 2020, I got an opportunity to go to New York, was my family not up in arms like "Why is she going there". You can imagine when covid cut my trip short. They celebrated 😂😂😂. Now I just move in silence but i want to shout out to God. He prepared a table for me in the presence of my enemies. The last person was on point with the recruitment, when people recruit other people to be against you, you shouldn't worry because they turn on each other. They tried to break me only to break themselves 😂😂😂.
@@moe_ramzKeep it up. I do same! Living in a different country helps me. I've had random relatives call me or send me messages out of the blue, all because my mum gave them my number without my consent! Our parents also put us in danger or make us vulnerable whilst trying to display their "pride". Now I just do my things in silence.
To the first caller re: closure...Sometimes you will never get the closure that you are looking for. As much as your side doesn't need to be heard all the time, you don't always need to have answers about some things. At times "no answer/explanation" is closure in its entirety. We cannot give our power to others or allow our psychological/emotional liberty to be determined by what we think they should say or do. However, like Madam says, if you really want to know what your aunt thinks, then have that conversation with her to set yourself free from this mental prison.
Madam, very sad stories, may the Lord come in for every person /family facing such challenges. Thanks for such topics, we really need them, very powerful, inspirational and motivational. God bless
Me too. I was sick and tired of trying too hard. Love was one sided. I used to be the only one making an effort to make calls and connect with my cousins and their parents. Over time I realised that this is bigger than I thought. It stems from unresolved conflicts in the generation before us. Now ppl take their parents' side and continue fighting battles they don't know. Isolation can feel like the wilderness. However, the silence of the desert is better than toxic noise. I soldier on with the family I created. I have created my own family traditions, be it Christmas or Easter.
The caller about having issues with her mother ..described my situation.the hurt from her voice 😢 I know the pain.currently being taken to court by her
I know the pain very well. Yoh! And I would watch her being affectionate with my older brother and younger sister. I don't know her hug up until she died. I stopped talking to her 2 years before she died in 2016 and she desperately tried to reach out to me and I was afraid and refused to take her calls. I made peace when I saw her in the coffin.
@@Blessed_for_life_2023I have observed most of your comments on this channel and I realised that you have a lot of lived experience. The way you articulate yourself amazes me. You have a lot of wisdom and I really enjoy reading your comments. With every comment you bless me. Your well is full and may it NEVER RUN DRY!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I am okay with my children they nearly killed me..for what I don't know Now they want peace For what I don't know I don't trust them I was free to them. They show me their other negative side of them They did hurt me alot
You are justified to not trust anyone who has betrayed you. Because you have seen their weaknesses and don't trust yourself to have the capacity to handle more betrayal. Question is, what happened between now and then for them to want peace? Did they do any work on themselves or get any help to develop self-awareness to recognise that they were wrong? Are they only coming back for what they miss or genuinely recognise the error of their ways and want to make it right? I guess these are all questions you can ask if you talk to them. Which seems to not be the right time because you are still hurting.
And sister, in this channel, I think u will get the answers, as long u share about everything, bcos people comes in this channel with good advise, and what u can do to get closure, so be strong our sister, God loves u more😍
Great topic indeed, how i wish the show was in english, cudnt really follow as i cudnt understand the language😭Having said that, u doing the Lord’s work Madam speaker, i appreciate your work🙏
I’m so sorry about that. I wish people could use English but I always advise them to use a language they are comfortable with in order to express themselves fully. ♥️♥️
Hi I am afraid for the family I nearly die through the family. They were isolated me for years I take it easy till I was to be killed. ...they want peace ...I did forgive them but I dont want them near me or near my children. ...cause I didn't think bad about them till they show me the truth colours.....I they stay where they stay I am okay stay without them is been 20 year ...I don't want to see them near me and children I am afraid for them I can't stay with people thinking negative things about me and my children I am okay with my children This is hurting cause 💔 you don't know what is be problem....
Mother’s hatred mostly comes from trapped trauma, almost like generational curse that is revisited on eldest daughters or sons. You find that the mother herself never recovered from her trauma and they project on the child
It’s the worst type of hatred because the child is abused and people can’t help since the mother is a bully. She resents the child and they will even bad mouth their children to their other relatives. Toxic mothers cannot be trusted even.
Bra I feel like I’m experiencing that right now People wanted nothing to do with you when you were struggling now that you have made it in life they suddenly want to be part of For the wat? I’m glad that my mom is the only person that contributed to my success so she is the only one I owe my loyalty to I see others wishing they can turn the hands of time I’m here to say that bus left a long time ago I’m done with fake relatives
Let's break the cycle... Nna I am the scapegoat. I go where I'm celebrated not where I am tolerated.... Parents divorced decades ago and I know who hates me and who doesn't. Got tired of fake love. SELF LOVE😍
Cheers 🥂 to breaking cycles ❤
Eish, l can write a book on this topic 😂😂😂. Zoleka was right. My list is longer.
My mother's sister called me a bitch like she has a clean history let alone her children. Now her kids don't talk to her.
My uncles wife thinks everything we accomplish in life, her husband paid for it. I could go in vacation to Europe, she will give her husband hell thinking he sponsored it. I could go on a work trip and she will tell her kids it's my uncle who paid for it. Now her kids think I am chowing my uncles money and they are BIG MAD. It's ridiculous 😂. I remember in 2020, I got an opportunity to go to New York, was my family not up in arms like "Why is she going there". You can imagine when covid cut my trip short. They celebrated 😂😂😂. Now I just move in silence but i want to shout out to God. He prepared a table for me in the presence of my enemies. The last person was on point with the recruitment, when people recruit other people to be against you, you shouldn't worry because they turn on each other. They tried to break me only to break themselves 😂😂😂.
Yep, moving in silence is the best. My family, including my parents know nothing about what I’m doing. Sometimes I lie to confuse the enemy 😂😂
@@moe_ramzamen
@@moe_ramz 💯
@@moe_ramzKeep it up. I do same! Living in a different country helps me. I've had random relatives call me or send me messages out of the blue, all because my mum gave them my number without my consent! Our parents also put us in danger or make us vulnerable whilst trying to display their "pride". Now I just do my things in silence.
To the first caller re: closure...Sometimes you will never get the closure that you are looking for. As much as your side doesn't need to be heard all the time, you don't always need to have answers about some things. At times "no answer/explanation" is closure in its entirety. We cannot give our power to others or allow our psychological/emotional liberty to be determined by what we think they should say or do. However, like Madam says, if you really want to know what your aunt thinks, then have that conversation with her to set yourself free from this mental prison.
Madam, very sad stories, may the Lord come in for every person /family facing such challenges.
Thanks for such topics, we really need them, very powerful, inspirational and motivational.
God bless
Amen 🙏🏿. It's my pleasure ♥️♥️♥️
I wish I joined in, I'm the type that don't care about extended family anymore. I'm at a better place after making my decision.
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Me too. I was sick and tired of trying too hard. Love was one sided. I used to be the only one making an effort to make calls and connect with my cousins and their parents. Over time I realised that this is bigger than I thought. It stems from unresolved conflicts in the generation before us. Now ppl take their parents' side and continue fighting battles they don't know. Isolation can feel like the wilderness. However, the silence of the desert is better than toxic noise. I soldier on with the family I created. I have created my own family traditions, be it Christmas or Easter.
The caller about having issues with her mother ..described my situation.the hurt from her voice 😢 I know the pain.currently being taken to court by her
I know the pain very well. Yoh! And I would watch her being affectionate with my older brother and younger sister. I don't know her hug up until she died. I stopped talking to her 2 years before she died in 2016 and she desperately tried to reach out to me and I was afraid and refused to take her calls. I made peace when I saw her in the coffin.
@@Blessed_for_life_2023I have observed most of your comments on this channel and I realised that you have a lot of lived experience. The way you articulate yourself amazes me. You have a lot of wisdom and I really enjoy reading your comments. With every comment you bless me. Your well is full and may it NEVER RUN DRY!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I am okay with my children they nearly killed me..for what I don't know
Now they want peace
For what I don't know
I don't trust them I was free to them.
They show me their other negative side of them
They did hurt me alot
You are justified to not trust anyone who has betrayed you. Because you have seen their weaknesses and don't trust yourself to have the capacity to handle more betrayal. Question is, what happened between now and then for them to want peace? Did they do any work on themselves or get any help to develop self-awareness to recognise that they were wrong? Are they only coming back for what they miss or genuinely recognise the error of their ways and want to make it right? I guess these are all questions you can ask if you talk to them. Which seems to not be the right time because you are still hurting.
Sometimes their there to check. To make sure you’re really gone 😅
True 😅
And sister, in this channel, I think u will get the answers, as long u share about everything, bcos people comes in this channel with good advise, and what u can do to get closure, so be strong our sister, God loves u more😍
Absolutely 💯. Thank you so much
Great topic indeed, how i wish the show was in english, cudnt really follow as i cudnt understand the language😭Having said that, u doing the Lord’s work Madam speaker, i appreciate your work🙏
I’m so sorry about that. I wish people could use English but I always advise them to use a language they are comfortable with in order to express themselves fully. ♥️♥️
Hi I am afraid for the family I nearly die through the family. They were isolated me for years I take it easy till I was to be killed. ...they want peace ...I did forgive them but I dont want them near me or near my children. ...cause I didn't think bad about them till they show me the truth colours.....I they stay where they stay I am okay stay without them is been 20 year ...I don't want to see them near me and children
I am afraid for them I can't stay with people thinking negative things about me and my children
I am okay with my children
This is hurting cause 💔 you don't know what is be problem....
I get you because I can relate.
Mother’s hatred mostly comes from trapped trauma, almost like generational curse that is revisited on eldest daughters or sons. You find that the mother herself never recovered from her trauma and they project on the child
I can relate to what you've experienced, believe you me it's not a pleasant experience
It’s the worst type of hatred because the child is abused and people can’t help since the mother is a bully. She resents the child and they will even bad mouth their children to their other relatives.
Toxic mothers cannot be trusted even.
@@khathutshelo051You summed it nicely! It is soooo true..Wow! The mother is always the bully!!! Everyone is so scared of that person.
Bra I feel like I’m experiencing that right now
People wanted nothing to do with you when you were struggling now that you have made it in life they suddenly want to be part of
For the wat?
I’m glad that my mom is the only person that contributed to my success so she is the only one I owe my loyalty to
I see others wishing they can turn the hands of time
I’m here to say that bus left a long time ago I’m done with fake relatives
Eish, 😭 it's painful bcos the mothers, are the ones we go to them to take out the pain we r hiding, eish sorry Sister.
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I am done🖐👳♂️🙆♂️🙆♂️🙆♀️🙆♀️
Hi my dear ive been trying to locate the whattsup no in order to join prayer worrior group
I think madam speaker you must have time limit.Some people take a very long time
3:00 but is it wrong