I feel like you’ve just told my life story! Thank you for sharing this, I know others will relate too. Now when people ask what it was like growing up half Filipino in a white British town, I’ll just show them this 😂
Awesome video! As a half-Korean who grew up in a white part of the U.S. I feel many of the things you talked about were totally relatable. By bringing your story to light you help to validate the experiences that all of us half-Asian share. Thanks for doing it!
IM SO PROUD OF YOU RAY! Thanks for giving us mixed race people a voice and explaining our struggles perfectly. Power to you. From a fellow half fili ;) 🇵🇭
ray!! this was so incredibly well made. as a Filipino growing up in England, i felt this video so much. thank you for sharing your story and making me (and others who'll watch this) feel less alone in this complex bicultural experience 💛
Wow, this struck too many chords with me as a half Spanish, half Algerian who lives in the UK. Looks like we went through a lot of the same stuff growing up.
@@bbqq013awwww hilarious story my son is half British, Irish, Ukrainian and pure filipino igorot original baguio city but my son don't like rice sad 😢❤@RayRoberts
This was a beautiful video - it made me so emotional to see you tell your story in this way. I have also been thinking about my own story and how and when I would tell it. Right now I still feel too anxious to tell it.
I loved this video the part where you spoke about the adversity your mother faced brought me to tears. My son is about to be 2 years old and is half Filipino and Guatemalan 🇬🇹. I like videos like this because I want to raise my son being proud of both of his cultures. When he's old enough he will watch this and know that he's not alone. Thanks again you've gained a new subscriber from Los Angeles.
thanks for this video, ray! i relate to a lot of these points. i'm half german (mother), half egyptian (father) and i've always struggled with existing in that limbo between two cultures and not feeling like i fully belong to either one. i also didn't learn arabic growing up and on top of that my dad passed away when i was 11 so, despite my mom's efforts to keep arabic food/tradition/culture alive in our family, it felt like i kept drifting away more and more from that side of me. however, a few years ago in uni i started taking arabic classes to reconnect with my heritage and interestingly, it was the one place where my experience felt completely validated for the first time! i didn't have to "justify" the parts of me that are a fusion of two cultures or which parts of me are more german/more egyptian. it was a really nice environment because the class consisted of so many biracial people and most were on the same journey of looking for pieces of themselves in both cultures.
Half Filipino and half French Canadian here. I also love getting people to guess, the most common answers I get are inuit, Japanese, and Mongolian. Fun aside, I always felt like a man without a country. I didn't really belong to either side of my ancestry, but the positive side is I did feel connected to other people of mixed backgrounds, even if we didn't have any actual blood in common. We were "the other", together, but I guess I was fortunate that being a mix of "something" was more common where I grew up.
I feel the same way. My mom is Filipina, chinese and Father is italian. I could never feel like I belonged anywhere as a kid. Could never imagine that many others felt the same way.
Hello from Seattle! I saw your post on ACN. This video was hella good. I grew up in a pretty diverse neighborhood in California but once I moved to Washington, all the points you've made about feeling other and different hit hard. Thanks for sharing your story :) I just subscribed.
Honestly, he really went in hard on guess work! Thank you so much man. I filmed this back in October and genuinely was inspired by your video to release mine. Love you brother.
Just saw this posted on subtle halfie traits and I zoomed here to watch it....every single thing you said resonated with me because i'm also half SEA (Singaporean) and half British, aaaand I also grew up in a small very white seaside town in England. I think that despite all the sh*t that we have had to put up with throughout our childhood and formative years, one of the best things is when we can share our stories with other halfies who have experienced the same things! Only other halfies can understand our identity struggles and it's comforting to hear others share their stories. Loved this video!
Your Mum's a hero for going through everything she did and handling it all with so much integrity. There's a decently large filipino community in New Zealand so I've always known about the country as a concept (also having my name kind of helped - cause schoolyard nicknames), but never really knew about the culture as it wasn't as prevalent as the South Korean, Chinese and Thai communities were when I was growing up. I would love to learn more about the culture (especially the cuisine) that comes from the Philippines in particular. Once all this madness is over I'm so down to help you produce this sort of stuff if you want to explore your heritage and document it on here :)
Thank you for this video Ray! Really resonated. I'm half Japanese, half British, and totally get the whole being treated as an outsider in both. Lucky to speak the Japanese, but have had people call me a foreigner to my face many times in Japan... frustrating and to be honest made me quite sad to go to Japan for a time. Also constantly labelled as 'asian' and have been told I'm not really British in the UK. 🙃Found it interesting to hear you talk about fetishisation of cultures. Feel I've experienced a lot of that especially in dating. I have *never* dated someone who hasn't been asked by the people around them if they have 'yellow fever' or an asian fetish. Please check out Daikon zine if you haven't already! A 'collective of South East and East Asian women and non-binary people living within a European context' doing really cool things.
Wonderful and very raw video. A lot of this resonated with myself as well, especially the issue with not speaking the language of my heritage. My dad didn't teach me Darija (Moroccan) as he thought people would treat me differently and now it's a struggle to speak to half of my family. I am learning now but as an adult for a niche language that doesn't have any books on it is incredibly hard. Also can't say how many times people refuse to believe that Morocco is in Africa and deny my ethnicity. Glad to see you are revisiting and embracing your ethnicity and culture ✌️😀
Thank you so much for sharing. I relate to so much of what you said. My mother is also filipina, and I am ashamed to say that growing up, I told my white friends that the Philippines is a part of Australasia, not Asia, so it would seem like I am closer to white then Asian. When I think about it, it's crazy that I once thought that way, but I guess when you're in secondary school and you're one of only 5 other kids who aren't white, your main priority is doing what you can to fit in. My mindset and sense of self have come along way since then though.. I am now incredibly proud of my heritage and proud to be filipina 🇵🇭👊 Subscribed and looking forward to future content kababayan ✨ (Ps. I'm from Somerset. Looked like you're from somewhere similar on the map?)
You look great bro! I personally like to ask about people's background because I'm a geography nerd and I like to talk about countries and peoples in general.
Bruh I've never related to a video so much from the attraction to anime compared to all my other white mates, the chicken abodo, to feeling out of place, filipino mother and white dad. Everything was on point! Thank you
I have boundless amounts of pride towards this video, you genuinely have such a great way of telling stories, Ray; I'm glad you shared this. As a fellow half-Filipino I get comments about how ambiguous I look; more so now that I have my hair grown out. Whilst I was in secondary school, other kids would call me a chink, and that would wind me up. Big love my guy
I am so sorry you and others experienced what you and others experienced. I really thought my people would always appreciate the uniqueness of others. I will always be grateful that I was born and raised in the small town in the Philippines. I experienced teasing but not bullying, so I never felt discourage going to school from elementary to university, never felt alone. I am glad you and others are now doing great. Ingat lagi!
Yo! Chad from ACN here. Loved how relatable our videos were just in different contexts - those feelings of not wanting to use my language because of its lack of usefulness, adaptation to a different diet are something that I as a non-mixed race Fil-Am super agree with. I can also empathize with the stereotype of "a white dad with an Asian fetish" or the "white rescuer" image.
This is such a great video! It sucks to see this situation is universal with nonwhite children of immigrants' families but it's comforting to know a lot of people went through similar experiences. I remember trying to actively be whiter by telling people to call me "Bill" instead of "Bilal" when I was a lot younger. Nowadays I'm a little more comfortable in my skin and make sure people know how to pronounce my name if they're going to say it.
Great stuff! Very well said. I'm half-Filipino too and experienced a lot of what you said, maybe a be les because in the US there's more Filipinos and other Asians and Pacific Islanders. If you haven't read the novel, American Son, you might like it.
Ray!! Thanks for sharing! I’m Filipina-American and never felt like I 100% fit in with my white and Asian families whenever visiting them. I love being immersed into both worlds and so glad that you’re embracing both sides of where you come from.
I'm the same mix dude 👊 I was lucky enough to have been raised in Hong Kong which felt very diverse but I guess it was only when I came to the UK that I started feeling like an outsider and having insecurities about my race. Thanks for bringing up these kind of issues for us mixed guys. Also, I'm sure you do but treat your parents well, they worked so hard for us to be where we are now.
I wanted to have a moment of peace and quiet to see this video. And I finally had it! :D Good job! I loved it. It is important to say these things because we may not be aware of the damage we do when we judge people and make this kind of jokes. I have felt a bit in the same place in the last years since I live in Norway. When I am here it is obvious that I'm not norwegian, but people can't really place me... I have been asked if I am German, Dutch, French... and then when I say that I am spanish, I hear things like: "oh, but you are the palest spanish person I have seen!" and I'm like: Well... for your information not every Spanish person has a dark complexion, and I have been living in f**king Norway for the past 8 years, what do you expect?? We don't see the sun! or "You are too pale to be Spanish" (...) Like what the fuck, would you tell anyone "you are too dark to be american? or you are too white to be Brazilian? Duh! There are lots of small racist comments even if we don't mean it... And then when I am in Spain is not like I feel that I belong there 100%... I don't know... it is strange. Even Spanish people sometimes ask me what country I come from... (despite my really strong accent from the south of Spain!) Anyway, a big hug from Norway! I hope to see you soon Ray!
I can totally relate to this video as a half Cebuano and Aussie, no one can never guess my nationality is. Most people just assume that I'm either Greek or Italian. And when I say I'm half filipino the comment I get is "oh really well you don't look anything like Asian" I have 2 siblings that are full Filipino and when my mum immigrated to Australia she wanted to fit in with the culture she told them we only speak English here and so they forgot their first language I was never taught Cebuano although I really wish she did teach me. I love Filipino culture and would be really good to speak with my relatives in our native language.
I just watched this whole video and resonated with everything you said. The part when you said your mum wanted to share the only thing she kept from coming to the UK of her culture literally made me tear up because I also shamefully shunned my mum when she tried to teach me about Korean culture. The school also told my mum to not speak in Korean so I'm not fluent which I regret so much. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences and it's amazing that you are now using your negative experiences to discover your culture more which is also my motivation to promote authentic Korean cuisine and the history behind it. Salamat po!
I felt the exact same when reading your interview with asiansinbritain. I love seeing your food content and your desire to share authenticity and your culture! It’s so similar to what motivates me. It’s beautiful what you’re doing. Thank you so much for taking the time to say this!
I love this so much!! I’m quarter English quarter German (so half white as far as anyone knows or cares) and half Pakistani. People always ask me where I’m from and guess Spain, Italy etc. I tell them my mum is Pakistani and they literally make a 😟 face. Suddenly my mum is a terrorist and my dad is a nazi. Even though I am technically Persian too, I used to tell people that over Pakistani as people thought it was much more glamorous and sounded exotic. They hear Pakistan (or India) and immediately think of dirty slums and curry. People suck >:( but this video is so important and covers such important points and topics. Thank you for this!
Love this video Ray! Exploring my British, East & South-East Asian heritage for life ❤️ this is such a well-put and expressed video. It’s such an understated topic in our multicultural world.
thank you for this video. i'm half french half asian and i can relate to so many points on this video 🥲 i find myself beautiful but questions of people always saddens me in a way :/ it was hard for me to accept my identity. you are so right tho, it is nothing in comparison to the biases towards black communities, i really dont understand racist people
😀🇵🇭I am 17 I am half Filipino and Canadian and I have black hair and brown eyes and white skin and my personality is reserved and outgoing and am very funny and i love anime and art and animals.😀🇵🇭
One of the most honest videos out there, I hope other mixed race kids see this because it speaks from the heart. I’m not mixed myself but could completely relate to not being “Filipino” enough whenever I visited the Philippines. Well done Ray 💕
OMG, this was me and my sister growing up in the 80s! We’re 50/50 too. We were ‘white washed’ and not taught about Filipino culture, all we knew was adobo. We felt like outsiders in the UK, never accepted in either culture. I live in New Zealand now and I feel more accepted here than I did in London. I feel proud to have both heritages now, especially since our beautiful Filipino Mum passed away. Great video, funny too!
Ray Roberts I moved downunder 12yrs ago. Been in Auckland 6yrs and lived in Melbourne for 6yrs before that. Went on a working holiday visa, meet my husband out here and never came home!
3:25 - 3:39 hit me hard as I relate so hard. I’m the same mix as you man, half Filipino half white. From Australia and I don’t feel either side nor do I feel Australian. I get mistaken for Maori or Spanish a lot.
This sums up the alienation pretty well. Also half 🇵🇭 here. You were lucky with your mom learning you the language and share as much of her culture with you♥️ The weirdest shit happened recently as I got discriminated by other half east-asian kids for not looking asian enough. Apparently it's more of a status of being half Japanese or half Korean or something like that. Kinda worsens it lol. Anyone had the same experience?
Thanks for sharing your experience. My kids are half Swiss and half Malaysian but luckily they did not have to go through what you did. We stayed in big towns, maybe that helped. Maybe to grow up in the UK is different than Switzerland. Nevertheless, thanks for sharing your experience.
Honestly mood. Im also Half white half filipino but I live in Australia. I grew up with alot of the internalised racism and so did my dad who immigrated here as a teenager, as a result my only real link to being filipino is my lola. It feels tough because Im obviously not white but I feel like im a fake saying im filipino at times, trying my best to reconnect more now lol, its comforting knowing the mixed race experience isnt unique to me
I have a similar experience (I’m half Filipino / half Australian - mum is white Australian and dad is Filipino) but maybe not so similar. I was born and bred in Sydney Australia, and Australians are obsessed with tanned dark skin. I’m very light skinned, way lighter than you (I’m pretty much pale). A lot of people don’t believe me when I say I’m half Filipino. Filipino’s have told me I’m “too white” to be half Filipino or there’s no way my dad is “my dad” I’ve also been told by Filipinos and other ethnicities that I should tan cause I’m too pale. Furthermore, My dad is from Mindanao, Philippines which is known to be a terrorist spot. So many Filipino’s have joked about my dad and myself being a terrorist because he’s from Mindanao, including an old PE teacher of mine in high school. I even get told off by Filipino’s that I can’t speak full “Tagalog” (mind you my mum is white and she was a stay at home mum whilst my dad worked, so I grew up with my mum around more). Another thing, Filipino’s found it shocking when I say my dad is Filipino and not my mum! My Filipino grandmother gave my mum a hard time for being a white woman (cause my dad didn’t marry a Filipino woman). But I live in the U.K. now. Been living here for the past 4 years and not a lot of people know about the Philippines and tbh, it’s not something I expect. The Filipino community here is small. Lastly, I went to this high school for a few months when I was a teenager that was predominantly Polynesian (many Filipinos can look and pass as Polynesian which are Samoan / islander people vice versa) and because I didn’t look Filipino at all, comments were made about me being white, I couldn’t make friends, I was eating lunch alone, etc...I even had to explain to a Polynesian woman I was “half Filipino” to prove I wasn’t just “white” to make friends and be accepted. But anyways, similar experience, just more racism from Filipino’s and perhaps other ethnicities than white people. But I don’t know if I would truly call it racism in my opinion. Racism to me means hating someone due to their skin colour, ethnicity ... I think these people were just ignorant or rude, I don’t think they literally hated me cause I was more “European looking”. But who knows.
man do i relate to not remembering your mother tongue, when i was little i knew vietnamese yet once i got to elementary school i completely forgot it :
I’m half Dutch and half Filipino, so many of the things you talk about resonate with me. Thanks for posting this.
I feel like you’ve just told my life story! Thank you for sharing this, I know others will relate too. Now when people ask what it was like growing up half Filipino in a white British town, I’ll just show them this 😂
damn I feel you man, I grew up half british and half chinese and also lived in a small village with not the biggest of ethnicity groups around
Thanks so much for sharing this story. Most real video I have seen all year.
damn! That's some high praise! Thank you!
Awesome video! As a half-Korean who grew up in a white part of the U.S. I feel many of the things you talked about were totally relatable. By bringing your story to light you help to validate the experiences that all of us half-Asian share. Thanks for doing it!
IM SO PROUD OF YOU RAY! Thanks for giving us mixed race people a voice and explaining our struggles perfectly. Power to you. From a fellow half fili ;) 🇵🇭
Mabuhay my sister! 🥳
ray!! this was so incredibly well made. as a Filipino growing up in England, i felt this video so much. thank you for sharing your story and making me (and others who'll watch this) feel less alone in this complex bicultural experience 💛
You are phenomenal and I’m glad we met. 💛
Wow, this struck too many chords with me as a half Spanish, half Algerian who lives in the UK. Looks like we went through a lot of the same stuff growing up.
Carlos man, crazy how so many people experience this. love you brother!
OMG KUMUSTA THE SIMILAR THING HAPPENED TO ME 😭
@@bbqq013awwww hilarious story my son is half British, Irish, Ukrainian and pure filipino igorot original baguio city but my son don't like rice sad 😢❤@RayRoberts
@@RayRobertsI wonder what will happened for my son as well when he grows up in this country ❤😢
This was a beautiful video - it made me so emotional to see you tell your story in this way. I have also been thinking about my own story and how and when I would tell it. Right now I still feel too anxious to tell it.
If there's anything I could do in the future to help you tell your story, please let me know.
This is SO beautifully communicated and put together. Relatable on so many levels. We’re in this together - here to support you 💛
Thank you for always supporting me! I appreciate how we can both be supportive proud asian parents for eachother! 💛
this was such an amazing video, being half asian half british in the uk can be so confusing at times.
Best video you’ve ever done. Love and admiration.
Much appreciated. Very big praise!
This was so raw and brave and lovely. Thanks for putting this out there. Salamat!
Dan M Salamat po!
I loved this video the part where you spoke about the adversity your mother faced brought me to tears. My son is about to be 2 years old and is half Filipino and Guatemalan 🇬🇹. I like videos like this because I want to raise my son being proud of both of his cultures. When he's old enough he will watch this and know that he's not alone. Thanks again you've gained a new subscriber from Los Angeles.
Thank you so much for watching! That's a beautiful thing you're doing for your son! Thanks for watching!
thanks for this video, ray! i relate to a lot of these points. i'm half german (mother), half egyptian (father) and i've always struggled with existing in that limbo between two cultures and not feeling like i fully belong to either one. i also didn't learn arabic growing up and on top of that my dad passed away when i was 11 so, despite my mom's efforts to keep arabic food/tradition/culture alive in our family, it felt like i kept drifting away more and more from that side of me. however, a few years ago in uni i started taking arabic classes to reconnect with my heritage and interestingly, it was the one place where my experience felt completely validated for the first time! i didn't have to "justify" the parts of me that are a fusion of two cultures or which parts of me are more german/more egyptian. it was a really nice environment because the class consisted of so many biracial people and most were on the same journey of looking for pieces of themselves in both cultures.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. It’s important to share I feel and know you’re not alone 💛
This is such a GREAT video, Ray!! I loved it!
Thank you!!
Half Filipino and half French Canadian here. I also love getting people to guess, the most common answers I get are inuit, Japanese, and Mongolian.
Fun aside, I always felt like a man without a country. I didn't really belong to either side of my ancestry, but the positive side is I did feel connected to other people of mixed backgrounds, even if we didn't have any actual blood in common. We were "the other", together, but I guess I was fortunate that being a mix of "something" was more common where I grew up.
Also damn, I started writing this before finishing the video, the last quarter of it. Hits right in the feels.
I feel the same way. My mom is Filipina, chinese and Father is italian. I could never feel like I belonged anywhere as a kid. Could never imagine that many others felt the same way.
THIS was hilarious hahaha
the guesses killed me, so relatable. Thank you for sharing your story!!
Thank you so much! 💛
Wow thank you for sharing your story! Being half Filipino myself, you described a lot of the same struggles I encountered growing up.
Hello from Seattle! I saw your post on ACN. This video was hella good. I grew up in a pretty diverse neighborhood in California but once I moved to Washington, all the points you've made about feeling other and different hit hard. Thanks for sharing your story :) I just subscribed.
Thank you so very much. How old were you when you moved to Washington?
Beautiful for you to share this Ray 💛
Thank you Seb 💛
This was so well made god damn boi. Laughed when that guy guessed Mauritius
Honestly, he really went in hard on guess work!
Thank you so much man. I filmed this back in October and genuinely was inspired by your video to release mine. Love you brother.
Just saw this posted on subtle halfie traits and I zoomed here to watch it....every single thing you said resonated with me because i'm also half SEA (Singaporean) and half British, aaaand I also grew up in a small very white seaside town in England. I think that despite all the sh*t that we have had to put up with throughout our childhood and formative years, one of the best things is when we can share our stories with other halfies who have experienced the same things! Only other halfies can understand our identity struggles and it's comforting to hear others share their stories. Loved this video!
So so good Ray! I absolutely loved how thought out this piece is, and loved talking with you on Clubhouse ✨🤗
Your Mum's a hero for going through everything she did and handling it all with so much integrity.
There's a decently large filipino community in New Zealand so I've always known about the country as a concept (also having my name kind of helped - cause schoolyard nicknames), but never really knew about the culture as it wasn't as prevalent as the South Korean, Chinese and Thai communities were when I was growing up. I would love to learn more about the culture (especially the cuisine) that comes from the Philippines in particular. Once all this madness is over I'm so down to help you produce this sort of stuff if you want to explore your heritage and document it on here :)
It's a very underrepresented culture around the world! I appreciate that man! If you ever want to try Filipino food lmk!
I loved this video
Thank you!! 💛
So proud of you for making this and putting this out there ❤️ beautifully, wonderfully done x
Thank you for always supporting me 🥺
I love the graphics and illustrations in this video. Great job Ray! :)
This video ROCKS, so interesting and beautifully told Ray
Thank you, Katy Reece! If you ever wanna make a video on your channel of me teaching you how to make Filipino, hmu 😏
Ray!!! this was AMAZING.
soso proud of you
Mia! Thank you so much! ✨
Really great video dude
You're forever one of the kindest people in my books!
Thank you for this video Ray! Really resonated. I'm half Japanese, half British, and totally get the whole being treated as an outsider in both. Lucky to speak the Japanese, but have had people call me a foreigner to my face many times in Japan... frustrating and to be honest made me quite sad to go to Japan for a time. Also constantly labelled as 'asian' and have been told I'm not really British in the UK. 🙃Found it interesting to hear you talk about fetishisation of cultures. Feel I've experienced a lot of that especially in dating. I have *never* dated someone who hasn't been asked by the people around them if they have 'yellow fever' or an asian fetish.
Please check out Daikon zine if you haven't already! A 'collective of South East and East Asian women and non-binary people living within a European context' doing really cool things.
Wonderful and very raw video. A lot of this resonated with myself as well, especially the issue with not speaking the language of my heritage. My dad didn't teach me Darija (Moroccan) as he thought people would treat me differently and now it's a struggle to speak to half of my family. I am learning now but as an adult for a niche language that doesn't have any books on it is incredibly hard. Also can't say how many times people refuse to believe that Morocco is in Africa and deny my ethnicity. Glad to see you are revisiting and embracing your ethnicity and culture ✌️😀
How and why are people denying that?! Insane. I'm glad it resonated with you, my friend!
Thought so man, first look and I'm pretty sure this is one my kababayan. And a badass one you say.
Half Filipino and half British as well. I really hope i get an opportunity to go back to UK. It's been ages since i got back.
Thank you so much for sharing. I relate to so much of what you said. My mother is also filipina, and I am ashamed to say that growing up, I told my white friends that the Philippines is a part of Australasia, not Asia, so it would seem like I am closer to white then Asian.
When I think about it, it's crazy that I once thought that way, but I guess when you're in secondary school and you're one of only 5 other kids who aren't white, your main priority is doing what you can to fit in.
My mindset and sense of self have come along way since then though.. I am now incredibly proud of my heritage and proud to be filipina 🇵🇭👊
Subscribed and looking forward to future content kababayan ✨
(Ps. I'm from Somerset. Looked like you're from somewhere similar on the map?)
great video man!!!
You look great bro!
I personally like to ask about people's background because I'm a geography nerd and I like to talk about countries and peoples in general.
Cheers from ACN bro! Keep it up with the content
So relatable. Felt all of this
ahh I love this Ray and relate so much! Thank you for sharing what so many of us have felt
This is so great Ray! It's so brave to share something like this x
Thank you for your kind words and taking the time to watch! :)
Love this and love you Ray!
You're the best Ray 💜
no you
Great video Ray! Really enjoyed learning a bit more about your story - can tell a lot went into this one :)
I'm glad you enjoyed it! Wasn't an easy one to post!
Amazing video, amazing man
Not as amazing as you!
You WONDERFUL WONDERFUL human bean. This was great and I’m so proud!
love you 🥺
Such a great video, Raymond! Always proud to be Pinoy 🇵🇭🙌🏼
This vid man! 🔥🔥Keep at it! Didn’t even know Turkistan was a thing 😅😂
I’m glad to have educated you man. Thank you so much my guy 💛
It was really nice hearing you share this part of your life. Also please make Africa a country. Much love Ray!
I won’t stop til this is true 💛
So proud of you!
This! Thank you for sharing x
Bruh I've never related to a video so much from the attraction to anime compared to all my other white mates, the chicken abodo, to feeling out of place, filipino mother and white dad. Everything was on point! Thank you
Thank you very much for your comment! Glad I’m not alone
I have boundless amounts of pride towards this video, you genuinely have such a great way of telling stories, Ray; I'm glad you shared this. As a fellow half-Filipino I get comments about how ambiguous I look; more so now that I have my hair grown out. Whilst I was in secondary school, other kids would call me a chink, and that would wind me up.
Big love my guy
Love you, man! 🥺
So good!! Amazing work for sharing your story💛🧡
thank you for taking the time to listen! ☺️
I am so sorry you and others experienced what you and others experienced. I really thought my people would always appreciate the uniqueness of others. I will always be grateful that I was born and raised in the small town in the Philippines. I experienced teasing but not bullying, so I never felt discourage going to school from elementary to university, never felt alone. I am glad you and others are now doing great. Ingat lagi!
Salamat for your comment!
That Twitter Bio though! 😆😆💯
p i n o y a s f u c k 🇵🇭
Great video!
Yo! Chad from ACN here. Loved how relatable our videos were just in different contexts - those feelings of not wanting to use my language because of its lack of usefulness, adaptation to a different diet are something that I as a non-mixed race Fil-Am super agree with. I can also empathize with the stereotype of "a white dad with an Asian fetish" or the "white rescuer" image.
As a half Filipino/Dutch person I’ve basically experienced the same. Thanks for making a video about it.
Glad you posted it🤍🤍
Thank you for giving me confidence in it!!
This is such a great video! It sucks to see this situation is universal with nonwhite children of immigrants' families but it's comforting to know a lot of people went through similar experiences. I remember trying to actively be whiter by telling people to call me "Bill" instead of "Bilal" when I was a lot younger. Nowadays I'm a little more comfortable in my skin and make sure people know how to pronounce my name if they're going to say it.
Damn, I’m lucky my name is damn easy to pronounce. Good on you to be proud and not to cater toward others being closed minded!!
Great stuff! Very well said. I'm half-Filipino too and experienced a lot of what you said, maybe a be les because in the US there's more Filipinos and other Asians and Pacific Islanders. If you haven't read the novel, American Son, you might like it.
Well done Ray for sharing this vlog to everyone. It brings awareness to everyone regarding stereotyping and something about the Filipino culture! 🙂❤🇵🇭
Salamat po! Thank you for always being so kind! 💛
This was made months ago I was waiting for this
Ray!! Thanks for sharing! I’m Filipina-American and never felt like I 100% fit in with my white and Asian families whenever visiting them. I love being immersed into both worlds and so glad that you’re embracing both sides of where you come from.
Ray, this was a beautiful video.
You’re a beautiful person 💛
Ah, I loved this video. So nice, so great.
Thank you!
I'm the same mix dude 👊 I was lucky enough to have been raised in Hong Kong which felt very diverse but I guess it was only when I came to the UK that I started feeling like an outsider and having insecurities about my race. Thanks for bringing up these kind of issues for us mixed guys. Also, I'm sure you do but treat your parents well, they worked so hard for us to be where we are now.
I wanted to have a moment of peace and quiet to see this video. And I finally had it! :D Good job! I loved it. It is important to say these things because we may not be aware of the damage we do when we judge people and make this kind of jokes. I have felt a bit in the same place in the last years since I live in Norway. When I am here it is obvious that I'm not norwegian, but people can't really place me... I have been asked if I am German, Dutch, French... and then when I say that I am spanish, I hear things like: "oh, but you are the palest spanish person I have seen!" and I'm like: Well... for your information not every Spanish person has a dark complexion, and I have been living in f**king Norway for the past 8 years, what do you expect?? We don't see the sun!
or "You are too pale to be Spanish" (...) Like what the fuck, would you tell anyone "you are too dark to be american? or you are too white to be Brazilian? Duh!
There are lots of small racist comments even if we don't mean it...
And then when I am in Spain is not like I feel that I belong there 100%... I don't know... it is strange. Even Spanish people sometimes ask me what country I come from... (despite my really strong accent from the south of Spain!)
Anyway, a big hug from Norway! I hope to see you soon Ray!
It shouldn’t even matter but in communities everyone likes to comment on someone who’s different!
Tears in my eyes....Fantastic! Well done Raymond. XX
So cool ! Can definitely relate - being half filipino and not quite fitting in on either side. Big ups to you!
I can totally relate to this video as a half Cebuano and Aussie, no one can never guess my nationality is. Most people just assume that I'm either Greek or Italian. And when I say I'm half filipino the comment I get is "oh really well you don't look anything like Asian" I have 2 siblings that are full Filipino and when my mum immigrated to Australia she wanted to fit in with the culture she told them we only speak English here and so they forgot their first language I was never taught Cebuano although I really wish she did teach me. I love Filipino culture and would be really good to speak with my relatives in our native language.
Thanks for sharing your story! Do you mind me asking, did you always wish you were taught as well as love Filipino culture? Or did it hit you one day?
Tell her she's a self hating white worshiper.
I just watched this whole video and resonated with everything you said. The part when you said your mum wanted to share the only thing she kept from coming to the UK of her culture literally made me tear up because I also shamefully shunned my mum when she tried to teach me about Korean culture. The school also told my mum to not speak in Korean so I'm not fluent which I regret so much. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences and it's amazing that you are now using your negative experiences to discover your culture more which is also my motivation to promote authentic Korean cuisine and the history behind it. Salamat po!
I felt the exact same when reading your interview with asiansinbritain. I love seeing your food content and your desire to share authenticity and your culture! It’s so similar to what motivates me. It’s beautiful what you’re doing. Thank you so much for taking the time to say this!
I love this so much!! I’m quarter English quarter German (so half white as far as anyone knows or cares) and half Pakistani. People always ask me where I’m from and guess Spain, Italy etc. I tell them my mum is Pakistani and they literally make a 😟 face. Suddenly my mum is a terrorist and my dad is a nazi. Even though I am technically Persian too, I used to tell people that over Pakistani as people thought it was much more glamorous and sounded exotic. They hear Pakistan (or India) and immediately think of dirty slums and curry. People suck >:( but this video is so important and covers such important points and topics. Thank you for this!
Thank you for sharing! It’s insane how quick people are to judge on cultures they know little about!
Love this video Ray! Exploring my British, East & South-East Asian heritage for life ❤️ this is such a well-put and expressed video. It’s such an understated topic in our multicultural world.
love you Ray!! 🇵🇭
Oh man, this hits home so bloody hard!
thank you for this video. i'm half french half asian and i can relate to so many points on this video 🥲 i find myself beautiful but questions of people always saddens me in a way :/ it was hard for me to accept my identity. you are so right tho, it is nothing in comparison to the biases towards black communities, i really dont understand racist people
😀🇵🇭I am 17 I am half Filipino and Canadian and I have black hair and brown eyes and white skin and my personality is reserved and outgoing and am very funny and i love anime and art and animals.😀🇵🇭
One of the most honest videos out there, I hope other mixed race kids see this because it speaks from the heart. I’m not mixed myself but could completely relate to not being “Filipino” enough whenever I visited the Philippines. Well done Ray 💕
Love you, Gabs!
Thank you for your beautiful presentation. New subscriber here a Fil-Am in California
Salamat!
OMG, this was me and my sister growing up in the 80s! We’re 50/50 too. We were ‘white washed’ and not taught about Filipino culture, all we knew was adobo. We felt like outsiders in the UK, never accepted in either culture.
I live in New Zealand now and I feel more accepted here than I did in London. I feel proud to have both heritages now, especially since our beautiful Filipino Mum passed away. Great video, funny too!
Damn, when did you move to New Zealand? Thanks for sharing your perspective!
Ray Roberts I moved downunder 12yrs ago. Been in Auckland 6yrs and lived in Melbourne for 6yrs before that. Went on a working holiday visa, meet my husband out here and never came home!
Quality channel/video with the visuals!
3:25 - 3:39 hit me hard as I relate so hard.
I’m the same mix as you man, half Filipino half white. From Australia and I don’t feel either side nor do I feel Australian. I get mistaken for Maori or Spanish a lot.
Yes mate! I'm same, Half British, Half Pinoy. My mum is Bisaya. Grew up here in UK too.
This sums up the alienation pretty well. Also half 🇵🇭 here. You were lucky with your mom learning you the language and share as much of her culture with you♥️ The weirdest shit happened recently as I got discriminated by other half east-asian kids for not looking asian enough. Apparently it's more of a status of being half Japanese or half Korean or something like that. Kinda worsens it lol. Anyone had the same experience?
You earned a sub for your honesty.
Thank you 🤍
You’re amazing Ray 🤍⚡️
Thanks for sharing your experience. My kids are half Swiss and half Malaysian but luckily they did not have to go through what you did. We stayed in big towns, maybe that helped. Maybe to grow up in the UK is different than Switzerland. Nevertheless, thanks for sharing your experience.
Ur amazing
Nah mate that's you
Love you ❤️❤️❤️
Right back at you! 💛
it's so crazy how i'm exactly alike... being filipino and british. except I never lived here and only lived in asia until uni 🫢
Honestly mood.
Im also Half white half filipino but I live in Australia. I grew up with alot of the internalised racism and so did my dad who immigrated here as a teenager, as a result my only real link to being filipino is my lola. It feels tough because Im obviously not white but I feel like im a fake saying im filipino at times, trying my best to reconnect more now lol, its comforting knowing the mixed race experience isnt unique to me
this is a great video
My Great grandfathers from Ohillipines and I’m from America so I have Asian in me
As a Filipino living abroad, I have heard those stereotypes :( I am a light-skinned Filipino, and people will be like "why do you look like that?"
I really needed to watch this today
I have a similar experience (I’m half Filipino / half Australian - mum is white Australian and dad is Filipino) but maybe not so similar.
I was born and bred in Sydney Australia, and Australians are obsessed with tanned dark skin. I’m very light skinned, way lighter than you (I’m pretty much pale). A lot of people don’t believe me when I say I’m half Filipino. Filipino’s have told me I’m “too white” to be half Filipino or there’s no way my dad is “my dad” I’ve also been told by Filipinos and other ethnicities that I should tan cause I’m too pale.
Furthermore, My dad is from Mindanao, Philippines which is known to be a terrorist spot. So many Filipino’s have joked about my dad and myself being a terrorist because he’s from Mindanao, including an old PE teacher of mine in high school.
I even get told off by Filipino’s that I can’t speak full “Tagalog” (mind you my mum is white and she was a stay at home mum whilst my dad worked, so I grew up with my mum around more). Another thing, Filipino’s found it shocking when I say my dad is Filipino and not my mum!
My Filipino grandmother gave my mum a hard time for being a white woman (cause my dad didn’t marry a Filipino woman).
But I live in the U.K. now. Been living here for the past 4 years and not a lot of people know about the Philippines and tbh, it’s not something I expect. The Filipino community here is small.
Lastly, I went to this high school for a few months when I was a teenager that was predominantly Polynesian (many Filipinos can look and pass as Polynesian which are Samoan / islander people vice versa) and because I didn’t look Filipino at all, comments were made about me being white, I couldn’t make friends, I was eating lunch alone, etc...I even had to explain to a Polynesian woman I was “half Filipino” to prove I wasn’t just “white” to make friends and be accepted.
But anyways, similar experience, just more racism from Filipino’s and perhaps other ethnicities than white people. But I don’t know if I would truly call it racism in my opinion. Racism to me means hating someone due to their skin colour, ethnicity ... I think these people were just ignorant or rude, I don’t think they literally hated me cause I was more “European looking”. But who knows.
man do i relate to not remembering your mother tongue, when i was little i knew vietnamese yet once i got to elementary school i completely forgot it :
That's so sad. Do you want to relearn it?
definitely wish i still knew it, when i visited my family in vietnam it was very hard to communicate with them