The experience of being stalked by a Narc is frightening. Once you mortify the individual, end the relationship and go no contact, the ferocious intent to harm by stalking becomes relentless. Its physically and mentally exhausting and requires discipline and dedication superior to that of the Narcissist to outwit, outmanouvre and literally 'out' this malignant malevolence. Never become complacent. Court orders are not necessarily a sufficient deterrent, they also have a time limit for those who do 'appear' to comply for the duration. Narcs are notorious for hoovering past partners despite the time lapse. Stay alert and stay safe 👍
This has been my daughter's experience - despite having a "no contact" regime for over a year and the perpetrator being cautioned by Police twice after trashing her house and mine, he continues to smear, stalk both physically & online and generally harass her. He utilises multiple phone numbers and social media accounts to monitor and attempt contact - successfully blocked so far. Its especially unnerving to see him appear in person from nowhere. Thank you H G - for providing such extensive information to help my daughter and I understand why the perpetrator acted, and is acting, in the way that he does - and how to keep safe from further manipulations
In my experience it's impossible to get a court order if the stalker(s) is one or more family members with whom you've gone no contact, especially if they are a parent and/or a sibling. What made it worse in my case is that my stalkers (predominantly my mother) didn't just conduct surveillance on me but they turned up at my workplace, at the temping agencies where I had registered, where I lived (which was backpackers' hostels in my 20s) and at my doctors, and bad mouthed me (usually claiming that I was a drug addict and a prostitute) which would lead to me losing my job (with temping jobs you don't get any notice or indemnity) or the roof over my head. As a result I was homeless on and off in my 20s. Also, every bloody time I registered with an agency, was offered a job contract, or a rental agreement, I was asked for the contact details of my 'next of kin'. I gave up explaining that I am willing to give the contact details of my lawyer and of my GP but that my 'next of kin' are not to be contacted under any circumstance, and should they contact my employer/landlord I do not want HR/the landlord to talk to them. Now I either claim that my GP is a relative (he agreed to it. He had 'the misfortune of meeting Madame Your Mother', as he puts it) or I put in a fake name and one of my former mobile phone numbers (which will still be valid). I did have to repeatedly move house and I was bombarded with mail (and voicemails if they managed to get my phone number) for over a decade after going no contact.
About 15 years ago, I had a short lived relationship with a girl I'm convinced was a narc. After she ended it with me, she stalked me. She would constantly message, call, and even use my friends to get information about my life in order to gain control. When I went full no contact with her, changed my number, hid it from the registry, and blocked her all the way to china she still contacted me using fake personas online. How common is it that they use fake identities to hoover, stalk, and control former sources who got away?
Fled from a narcissist almost 5 years ago and to my knowledge, he was at my house Jan this year. He typically leaves evidence that he's been here. I installed additional cameras, hoping that he is deterred from continuing the behavior. Fingers crossed.
Accurate. Interesting that even though I dress like a pilgrim at work I have had some of the most vitriolic responses from old men (with power) getting revenge on me for not wanting to go out with them. I’m like who the hell do you think you’re talking to???
Same problem here (warehouse jobs in France, with mostly Northern African guys, then financial industry in the UK, with British guys, most of them in their 40s, 50s and 60s and married and/or divorced with kids, then industrial food industry in the UK, mostly with Polish and Indian staff). For warehouse and factory jobs I wear overlarge labcoats on top of large hiking trousers (with a belt) and overlarge t shirts. When I was in the financial industry it was more tricky, I used large shawls or ponchos (like the ones Clint Eastwood wears in the Dollar Trilogy) and at my last workplace I ended up wearing an abaya (not when I had to bring coffee to the clients though). The HR director, who was one of the sex pests, was livid and told me that my work contract banned me from wearing clothes which hide the shape of my body. There was no such clause in my contract and it would have been abusive. I asked him why he would need to see the shape of my body, and he blundered : 'So that I can check that you are not pregnant!' There were quite a lot of apple shaped women in the office...
Wow. I have never put my stalker in the narc category because we never had a relationship. At all. We spoke a few times and I turned down the one time he asked for a date. I thought mentally unstable incel or schizophrenia. He stalked me for 15 years and the police couldn’t do anything about it. He never broke a law. Hmmm something to think about. Thanks again HG.
Similar thing happened to me as well since 2005 a next door neighbor, it works with acids started spraying diluted mist at me earning my face hair eyes the police do nothing he denies everything but I'm the one who's burned and whose property has been vandalized everyday. He left the cigarette lighter in my house with the logo from his job, and smokes Marlboro lights and left Marlboro lights folded like a place card on my soap dish in the kitchen so he's been in my house he poured drain cleaner in the water softener and that went through all the pipes I had to change the hot water tank and it didn't help it took years to get better I didn't even use the water had to go to the health club it's a nightmare I move four times just unrelenting and I think he's got his relatives involved also he said he was going to finish me I didn't want to go out with him to have dinner.
Yep. The narc I was dealing with broke up with me on one occasion, then begged me back and showed up to my house, crying, begging me to go to dinner. When she got what she wanted, she asked me if I drove by her home/work while having this weird grin on her face. I told her, "No, you broke up with me. Why would I drive by?" She didn't believe me.
Scary stuff is when your stalker is a cop, plus he is driver of the patrol car and like to sound that damn police siren everytime he passes by in front of my house!!! Now I am an hypervigilant jumpy person! These narcs SMH!!! 😨😨😨
H.G., Thank you for your work. I've been following you for years. You're the only one who gives it to us straight. Your work is so important to so many. I've been stalked for 4 years. Without you, I would have lost my mind. You Rock!!!!!
I know they stalk me and I wonder if all the supplies they are dealing with are doing their damn job properly 🤔 I came to a conclusion that they are still not hitting it right and I still really don't gaf. Narc needs to move on and don't worry about the family ones, they know sides of me that they'd rather avoid.
Just learning about all of this,really never realized I was being stalked... just thought he was attracted to me... we were both married...happened for 2 years... my husband passed suddenly... all stalking has stopped... this is so strange, he even bought my husband a riding mower, then things started, I did not get that... I later returned the mower. We have money, and my husband had it all... crazy stuff, never knew a narcissist ever before... WOW!
wow, I was really wondering what was going on with that person .... first he devalued me becasue he found something shinier .... but he never stopped stalking me after I walked away, .... and it is exhausting
The X narc husband is mooching off of the neighbor across the street from my 🏡. He's been there living for free and it's been over 9 months now! It's very bothersome knowing he's there. He's not bothering me otherwise. He's mostly retired, my lawyer says since he's not "bothering" me there's nothing that can be done! I own my home. I have friends over and have decorated for the holidays! I'm having fun for a change, however he's there! Otherwise, no contact!
I was stalked and hoovered on line for yrs before I was wise to these personality disorders, and the 'friend' had plenty of support because he can be so superficially charming. I was already ill and experiencing abuse in my home, and so this upset me deeply as he posed as support. I rejected his invite to see him irl and he turned very nasty, using triangulation, character assination, libel, ostracism etc...so then fueled by the pain of betrayal and rejection, I stalked him ranting about his behaviour till he had to hide. Of course because I was openly angry i was easily labelled the abuser and he was victim to those who are happy with surface appearance facade. He changed his virtual name. I remember he was using a fresh name when we first met too- there was an angry young woman giving him abuse telling him that no she didnt love him after all, so he had to hide from her! Using fake names to keep grooming the new fuel sources.😆 Social media platforms are an abusers paradise.
I'm being stalked by my ex narcissist whom I met online and he has the nerve to bring his new or whatever has been in his life idon't have any idea brings her in on it. And sending me Emails. I keep blocking but it's not helping because of all his fake online profiles. I have been in contact with a lawyer for online stalking and other things going on.
My ex went from love bombing to being an asshole ..then decided to dissappear for 2 days after leaving my house to walk down the block to the store.. he was from another country and only knew nyc..I live in a suburb with no subways...funny I got angry figured he met a woman and I wasn't worried...he traveled the world and charming I just kept getting mad...2 days later he calls about just getting out of the hospital and needing his things gave me a bs story not believable hit by a car shot 50 feet in the air in hospital. No bruises or broken bones. I said i would be home and instead had my very large nephew give him his things (nephew confirmed looked fine no bruising or limping) dumped him via text..so he started coming to my town every weekend..joined a gym one block from my job. Lol...I never went back with him...he did a serious white collar crime with some dangerous people in his country and ran to nyc..I read articles about him...I kept thinking one day he would be killed and I could have been caught up in it...funny he denied ..then I got him drunk and he bragged how he's so smart and has the money hidden and can live where he wants. .I think he's in London now..yay..lol...I didn't know what narcissist were I just figured he thought I was some dumb American and it made me angry
Very Dangerous, my room matte Emma Phillipop a very pretty blond with log hair and super kind in Canada has disappeared thanks to one that reminds me a bit from your story.
Borderlines do this in a scarier way, but I see some Narcissist do too, specially when the couple or fantasy in their mind walks off. Is the low range Narcissist? On an impulsive level? Some times delusional. I can understand sexual attraction as an animal but... well.
I've had stranger stalking me for a year and the police arrested him . He always knew where I was at I was terrified. I was told they found porn or something in his car. I was so terrified.
It's not always narcissistic. It's to force commitment. Much like Cheaters TV Show. However, when you state what you want in relationships, you don't have to lie.
May we ask you to consider doing another video on compartmentalization? How could it be that one day they know you (hell you share a bed together) but next day they don't even talk to you in public (totally ignore you, even if you are at a concert, behind them, hugging them the whole concert, but they haven't spoken to you the whole time)?
Hi H.G thank you for your excellent content! 😎💜 I have been total no contact with my ex for over a year now, but recently he has popped up outside our children's school. He has the children every second weekend so collects them on a Friday afternoon. Recently he has started showing up outside the school an hour before the school day ends. (which happens to be when I drop the kids weekend bags off and pick up their school bags)😳 I've seen him twice now, the last time he looked angry as I pretended not to see him when he saw me. After watching a few of your most excellent videos I suspect he's probably a lesser mid range with many anti social traits. 😬 He disengaged from me over a year ago to pursue a relationship with a work colleague who is now his IPPS. I'm curious to know if these incidents could be considered stalking? He did not try to approach me and he has a legitimate reason to be outside the school to pick up the children? I admit I was confused seeing him there and it did play on my mind for a while afterwards. As a precaution I've changed my routine to avoid running into him again although I still wonder if I am being a bit paranoid about it all. 🤦♀️
No you’re not being paranoid. Never under estimate these people. Stop doubting yourself or you’ll sabotage yourself. Your inner alarm bells are alerting you to something bizarre. Heed the warning. It’s for the best you change the routine!! 🔱😎
My narc has come to my house twice. The first time I make him see I was here but I close the curtain ( it was a bit open) and then , pop up the volume. Then he came the following day. There was my family at home I was sitting in the court yard. As he came I went back in , he new I saw him, then he knocked on the door one more time. My dad came out and he gave him a lame excuse . I ask my father to not go out any more. Then he knocked 1 more time . And he left quite angry. He keeps stalking by Facebook, I I'm quite sure he make this fake profile. Today I went to the gym , he knows where I go and the time I used to go .. and he was in the bank in front of it.. ( I know he loves to fight, one he tried to triangulate and telle me he can pay someone to do some shit. I know that's not true) he wants me to feel scared.. hg Tudor pls answer me do I have to go to the police.. I'm i in danger.. he has a dog he didn't bitte her but his treat was far from kind.. Please help... As he came to the gym 2 days ago..
online stalking (stalking a social media account that is totally public is not really stalking, only if you create fake accounts it can count as so), googling someones name and seeing whats in the public is not stalking if you dont do anything with it, but its not healthy to do so and has no benefits, but stalking is something different, it actually hurts the other person and causes a lot of fear for the other person, googling someones name and checkings whats in the public doesnt hurt anyone else but yourself, dont worry
Borderlines seem to be empaths and victims at first. Because they had a relation or a near relation or are being used. But they are low range narcissist, I guess the Ultra Narcissist would already know what to do in advance by invisible means. As a Machiavellian, let them fall into their spider’s net, what he calls their fuel and matrix if the greater Narcissist or Ultra.
What if hes now homeless sitting in his car watching saying nothing then sleeping in the park in his car across the street from my house? Not talking to me though no word why????
By consistently referring to it as hoovering doesn’t that confuse people who are still emotionally attached to the narcissist and maybe minimise the severity of the danger that they could be in ?
i really enjoy triggering my hoovesr so many way but just enough not to over do it, my Karen just can't help herself been being aggressive verbally and sexually too me, every now and then I narcissistic wound her keep the dragon in control but i do wonder if im playing a narcissistic Jiu Jitsu or just taking advantage of a person with a disorder or im i a bit of a narcissistic too but its just so exciting getting that rush as she walks past me and pertend i don't know here or see herë look right through her as she wasn't there she gets so mad and i know its going to be great game for the next week.
This is Emotional Thinking causing you to feed your addiction through interacting with the narcissist. You are still interacting by placing yourself where the narcissist sees and responds to you. This ‘rush’ that you feel is the feeding of your addiction and it puts you at further risk of being hoovered back in. Implement Full No Contact so that your Emotional Thinking falls and you can move on.
🙋♀️😘 Dear HG, - can I ask Y where do Y keep your other videos about stalking - I have a group of narc's in a family cult stalking me they rent appartments near me and hotel rooms if I'm travelling ..😯very toxic narc's - ...
I need some guidance HG Tudor please. I am being gang stalked daily as well as by my ex narcissist. How do I discourage this as it has gone on for close to a year is. Please contact me or can someone tell me how? Thank you. CG
Thank you for your response. I will have to think about this a bit. I live in Canada and the exchange rates in makes this a bit out of my reach financially but I will see what I can do;) you are well worth it! I am not working and have a disabled son. I think your videos are wonderful, finally a new perspective. Hope to get back to you to you do you can get back to me for some much needed advice. It is a horrible way to live as they follow me everyday ....Thank you. I also feel I am à super empath and I want a Nova moment! I think I can do it with your guidance of course. Chantal
I got ex baby mama's doing this craziness and got a team to join in and ex is that because he wanted the money they paid him to walk away. Many lied on me to get help destroy my life to hide the fact they been stealing and using my identity for years. Your pathetic 😒
What is stalking?
Well thats when two people go out for a nice romantic walk but only one is aware of it.
Thank you for making me laugh!
The experience of being stalked by a Narc is frightening. Once you mortify the individual, end the relationship and go no contact, the ferocious intent to harm by stalking becomes relentless. Its physically and mentally exhausting and requires discipline and dedication superior to that of the Narcissist to outwit, outmanouvre and literally 'out' this malignant malevolence. Never become complacent. Court orders are not necessarily a sufficient deterrent, they also have a time limit for those who do 'appear' to comply for the duration. Narcs are notorious for hoovering past partners despite the time lapse. Stay alert and stay safe 👍
This has been my daughter's experience - despite having a "no contact" regime for over a year and the perpetrator being cautioned by Police twice after trashing her house and mine, he continues to smear, stalk both physically & online and generally harass her. He utilises multiple phone numbers and social media accounts to monitor and attempt contact - successfully blocked so far. Its especially unnerving to see him appear in person from nowhere.
Thank you H G - for providing such extensive information to help my daughter and I understand why the perpetrator acted, and is acting, in the way that he does - and how to keep safe from further manipulations
In my experience it's impossible to get a court order if the stalker(s) is one or more family members with whom you've gone no contact, especially if they are a parent and/or a sibling. What made it worse in my case is that my stalkers (predominantly my mother) didn't just conduct surveillance on me but they turned up at my workplace, at the temping agencies where I had registered, where I lived (which was backpackers' hostels in my 20s) and at my doctors, and bad mouthed me (usually claiming that I was a drug addict and a prostitute) which would lead to me losing my job (with temping jobs you don't get any notice or indemnity) or the roof over my head. As a result I was homeless on and off in my 20s. Also, every bloody time I registered with an agency, was offered a job contract, or a rental agreement, I was asked for the contact details of my 'next of kin'. I gave up explaining that I am willing to give the contact details of my lawyer and of my GP but that my 'next of kin' are not to be contacted under any circumstance, and should they contact my employer/landlord I do not want HR/the landlord to talk to them. Now I either claim that my GP is a relative (he agreed to it. He had 'the misfortune of meeting Madame Your Mother', as he puts it) or I put in a fake name and one of my former mobile phone numbers (which will still be valid). I did have to repeatedly move house and I was bombarded with mail (and voicemails if they managed to get my phone number) for over a decade after going no contact.
They stalk because they have no lives. Empty inside.
Verrrrryyyyy hilariously Empty
About 15 years ago, I had a short lived relationship with a girl I'm convinced was a narc. After she ended it with me, she stalked me. She would constantly message, call, and even use my friends to get information about my life in order to gain control. When I went full no contact with her, changed my number, hid it from the registry, and blocked her all the way to china she still contacted me using fake personas online. How common is it that they use fake identities to hoover, stalk, and control former sources who got away?
I can relate
Welp, time to get a restraining order.
Oh...I know stalking very well. 🥺
Ditto here, I found that the most stressful and frightening. The more of these videos I watch the more I am shocked that I have survived.
Fled from a narcissist almost 5 years ago and to my knowledge, he was at my house Jan this year. He typically leaves evidence that he's been here. I installed additional cameras, hoping that he is deterred from continuing the behavior. Fingers crossed.
Have always wondered what they get out of stalking 🤔 Now I know why 🤗🥳💪🏻🤣
Accurate.
Interesting that even though I dress like a pilgrim at work I have had some of the most vitriolic responses from old men (with power) getting revenge on me for not wanting to go out with them. I’m like who the hell do you think you’re talking to???
Start recording this behavior. Never mind state laws, handing them the proof will shut these old pervs down.
Same problem here (warehouse jobs in France, with mostly Northern African guys, then financial industry in the UK, with British guys, most of them in their 40s, 50s and 60s and married and/or divorced with kids, then industrial food industry in the UK, mostly with Polish and Indian staff). For warehouse and factory jobs I wear overlarge labcoats on top of large hiking trousers (with a belt) and overlarge t shirts. When I was in the financial industry it was more tricky, I used large shawls or ponchos (like the ones Clint Eastwood wears in the Dollar Trilogy) and at my last workplace I ended up wearing an abaya (not when I had to bring coffee to the clients though). The HR director, who was one of the sex pests, was livid and told me that my work contract banned me from wearing clothes which hide the shape of my body. There was no such clause in my contract and it would have been abusive. I asked him why he would need to see the shape of my body, and he blundered : 'So that I can check that you are not pregnant!' There were quite a lot of apple shaped women in the office...
Wow. I have never put my stalker in the narc category because we never had a relationship. At all. We spoke a few times and I turned down the one time he asked for a date. I thought mentally unstable incel or schizophrenia. He stalked me for 15 years and the police couldn’t do anything about it. He never broke a law. Hmmm something to think about. Thanks again HG.
Similar thing happened to me as well since 2005 a next door neighbor, it works with acids started spraying diluted mist at me earning my face hair eyes the police do nothing he denies everything but I'm the one who's burned and whose property has been vandalized everyday. He left the cigarette lighter in my house with the logo from his job, and smokes Marlboro lights and left Marlboro lights folded like a place card on my soap dish in the kitchen so he's been in my house he poured drain cleaner in the water softener and that went through all the pipes I had to change the hot water tank and it didn't help it took years to get better I didn't even use the water had to go to the health club it's a nightmare I move four times just unrelenting and I think he's got his relatives involved also he said he was going to finish me I didn't want to go out with him to have dinner.
Narcissists often themselves enjoy getting "stalked".
Yep. The narc I was dealing with broke up with me on one occasion, then begged me back and showed up to my house, crying, begging me to go to dinner. When she got what she wanted, she asked me if I drove by her home/work while having this weird grin on her face. I told her, "No, you broke up with me. Why would I drive by?" She didn't believe me.
Yes
Scary stuff is when your stalker is a cop, plus he is driver of the patrol car and like to sound that damn police siren everytime he passes by in front of my house!!! Now I am an hypervigilant jumpy person! These narcs SMH!!! 😨😨😨
I appreciate you for this information and for giving me clarity for my particular situation. Thank you
If you see binoculars in their home...
H.G., Thank you for your work. I've been following you for years.
You're the only one who gives it to us straight. Your work is so important to so many.
I've been stalked for 4 years. Without you, I would have lost my mind.
You Rock!!!!!
I know they stalk me and I wonder if all the supplies they are dealing with are doing their damn job properly 🤔 I came to a conclusion that they are still not hitting it right and I still really don't gaf. Narc needs to move on and don't worry about the family ones, they know sides of me that they'd rather avoid.
Just like Groundhog Day. Thank you HG
Why can't the narcissists find something else better to do than engage in stalking victims 😔
They're addicted to fuel Joanne.
Nothing else matters.
Just learning about all of this,really never realized I was being stalked... just thought he was attracted to me... we were both married...happened for 2 years... my husband passed suddenly... all stalking has stopped... this is so strange, he even bought my husband a riding mower, then things started, I did not get that... I later returned the mower. We have money, and my husband had it all... crazy stuff, never knew a narcissist ever before... WOW!
i feel like im in university again. HG u changed my life!🕊️
wow, I was really wondering what was going on with that person .... first he devalued me becasue he found something shinier .... but he never stopped stalking me after I walked away, .... and it is exhausting
The X narc husband is mooching off of the neighbor across the street from my 🏡. He's been there living for free and it's been over 9 months now! It's very bothersome knowing he's there. He's not bothering me otherwise. He's mostly retired, my lawyer says since he's not "bothering" me there's nothing that can be done! I own my home. I have friends over and have decorated for the holidays! I'm having fun for a change, however he's there! Otherwise, no contact!
I was stalked and hoovered on line for yrs before I was wise to these personality disorders, and the 'friend' had plenty of support because he can be so superficially charming. I was already ill and experiencing abuse in my home, and so this upset me deeply as he posed as support. I rejected his invite to see him irl and he turned very nasty, using triangulation, character assination, libel, ostracism etc...so then fueled by the pain of betrayal and rejection, I stalked him ranting about his behaviour till he had to hide. Of course because I was openly angry i was easily labelled the abuser and he was victim to those who are happy with surface appearance facade. He changed his virtual name. I remember he was using a fresh name when we first met too- there was an angry young woman giving him abuse telling him that no she didnt love him after all, so he had to hide from her! Using fake names to keep grooming the new fuel sources.😆
Social media platforms are an abusers paradise.
Sounds like gross insecurity to me.
I am stalking your TH-cam channel!
Only because I let you!
🤣🤣😂😂
@@hgtudor-theultra Yes, thanks for that!
I’m hg greatest admirer. The pimpin of the ultra. Ultra ultra ultra. I’m definitely sitting under the learning tree of the true ULTRA.
So am I. Love putting on a podcast, listening while doing mundane tasks and learning something in return. Pure enjoyable gold.
I'm being stalked by my ex narcissist whom I met online and he has the nerve to bring his new or whatever has been in his life idon't have any idea brings her in on it. And sending me Emails. I keep blocking but it's not helping because of all his fake online profiles. I have been in contact with a lawyer for online stalking and other things going on.
I need to revisit London, I did not see and do as much as I wanted. So much history there.
My ex went from love bombing to being an asshole ..then decided to dissappear for 2 days after leaving my house to walk down the block to the store.. he was from another country and only knew nyc..I live in a suburb with no subways...funny I got angry figured he met a woman and I wasn't worried...he traveled the world and charming I just kept getting mad...2 days later he calls about just getting out of the hospital and needing his things gave me a bs story not believable hit by a car shot 50 feet in the air in hospital. No bruises or broken bones. I said i would be home and instead had my very large nephew give him his things (nephew confirmed looked fine no bruising or limping) dumped him via text..so he started coming to my town every weekend..joined a gym one block from my job. Lol...I never went back with him...he did a serious white collar crime with some dangerous people in his country and ran to nyc..I read articles about him...I kept thinking one day he would be killed and I could have been caught up in it...funny he denied ..then I got him drunk and he bragged how he's so smart and has the money hidden and can live where he wants. .I think he's in London now..yay..lol...I didn't know what narcissist were I just figured he thought I was some dumb American and it made me angry
Very Dangerous, my room matte Emma Phillipop a very pretty blond with log hair and super kind in Canada has disappeared thanks to one that reminds me a bit from your story.
Borderlines do this in a scarier way, but I see some Narcissist do too, specially when the couple or fantasy in their mind walks off. Is the low range Narcissist? On an impulsive level? Some times delusional. I can understand sexual attraction as an animal but... well.
I've had stranger stalking me for a year and the police arrested him . He always knew where I was at I was terrified. I was told they found porn or something in his car. I was so terrified.
My husbands real grandparents on the mother side had esquizofrenia so now at 50 my husband stalks me and has developed that mental illness to .
It's not always narcissistic. It's to force commitment. Much like Cheaters TV Show. However, when you state what you want in relationships, you don't have to lie.
May we ask you to consider doing another video on compartmentalization? How could it be that one day they know you (hell you share a bed together) but next day they don't even talk to you in public (totally ignore you, even if you are at a concert, behind them, hugging them the whole concert, but they haven't spoken to you the whole time)?
This is covered by HG's "Stranger! video.
Hi H.G thank you for your excellent content! 😎💜
I have been total no contact with my ex for over a year now, but recently he has popped up outside our children's school.
He has the children every second weekend so collects them on a Friday afternoon. Recently he has started showing up outside the school an hour before the school day ends. (which happens to be when I drop the kids weekend bags off and pick up their school bags)😳
I've seen him twice now, the last time he looked angry as I pretended not to see him when he saw me. After watching a few of your most excellent videos I suspect he's probably a lesser mid range with many anti social traits. 😬
He disengaged from me over a year ago to pursue a relationship with a work colleague who is now his IPPS.
I'm curious to know if these incidents could be considered stalking?
He did not try to approach me and he has a legitimate reason to be outside the school to pick up the children? I admit
I was confused seeing him there and it did play on my mind for a while afterwards.
As a precaution I've changed my routine to avoid running into him again although I still wonder if I am being a bit paranoid about it all. 🤦♀️
No you’re not being paranoid. Never under estimate these people. Stop doubting yourself or you’ll sabotage yourself. Your inner alarm bells are alerting you to something bizarre. Heed the warning. It’s for the best you change the routine!! 🔱😎
Nope. This the less bad part. They can try to kill you for defying them...
I got the grocery store stalk last week.
What about checking our whatsapp status after we have escaped ? Is that also stalking?
H.G Could you tell me please, why does the Narcissist compartmentalize the DLS more than the other secondary sources?
Always remember that your stalker your always their stalker
My narc has come to my house twice. The first time I make him see I was here but I close the curtain ( it was a bit open) and then , pop up the volume. Then he came the following day. There was my family at home I was sitting in the court yard. As he came I went back in , he new I saw him, then he knocked on the door one more time. My dad came out and he gave him a lame excuse . I ask my father to not go out any more. Then he knocked 1 more time . And he left quite angry.
He keeps stalking by Facebook, I I'm quite sure he make this fake profile.
Today I went to the gym , he knows where I go and the time I used to go .. and he was in the bank in front of it.. ( I know he loves to fight, one he tried to triangulate and telle me he can pay someone to do some shit. I know that's not true) he wants me to feel scared.. hg Tudor pls answer me do I have to go to the police.. I'm i in danger.. he has a dog he didn't bitte her but his treat was far from kind..
Please help... As he came to the gym 2 days ago..
And I have contact 0 since we broke up 2 months ago
HG, how is the victim (empath) stalking the narcissist different? Is it still narcissistic stalking?
Why would the empath stalk the narc though? Empaths stay far away from criminal behaviour.
online stalking (stalking a social media account that is totally public is not really stalking, only if you create fake accounts it can count as so), googling someones name and seeing whats in the public is not stalking if you dont do anything with it, but its not healthy to do so and has no benefits, but stalking is something different, it actually hurts the other person and causes a lot of fear for the other person, googling someones name and checkings whats in the public doesnt hurt anyone else but yourself, dont worry
@@randomn12321 omg it true
Borderlines seem to be empaths and victims at first. Because they had a relation or a near relation or are being used. But they are low range narcissist, I guess the Ultra Narcissist would already know what to do in advance by invisible means. As a Machiavellian, let them fall into their spider’s net, what he calls their fuel and matrix if the greater Narcissist or Ultra.
What if hes now homeless sitting in his car watching saying nothing then sleeping in the park in his car across the street from my house? Not talking to me though no word why????
Stalkers usually fit the criteria of a psychopath and or def a narcissist.
By consistently referring to it as hoovering doesn’t that confuse people who are still emotionally attached to the narcissist and maybe minimise the severity of the danger that they could be in ?
Keep your weapons closely…..
i really enjoy triggering my hoovesr so many way but just enough not to over do it, my Karen just can't help herself been being aggressive verbally and sexually too me, every now and then I narcissistic wound her keep the dragon in control but i do wonder if im playing a narcissistic Jiu Jitsu or just taking advantage of a person with a disorder or im i a bit of a narcissistic too but its just so exciting getting that rush as she walks past me and pertend i don't know here or see herë look right through her as she wasn't there she gets so mad and i know its going to be great game for the next week.
This is Emotional Thinking causing you to feed your addiction through interacting with the narcissist. You are still interacting by placing yourself where the narcissist sees and responds to you. This ‘rush’ that you feel is the feeding of your addiction and it puts you at further risk of being hoovered back in. Implement Full No Contact so that your Emotional Thinking falls and you can move on.
@@narcsitereader3844 well said!
🙋♀️😘 Dear HG, - can I ask Y where do Y keep your other videos about stalking - I have a group of narc's in a family cult stalking me they rent appartments near me and hotel rooms if I'm travelling ..😯very toxic narc's - ...
I guess stalking doesn't apply to me ..he is in canada far far away...
Indeed but there might be somebody much closer who is watching you through the window now. Stand back from that last Crispy Creme!
Oh distance doesn’t stop them if they want to stalk you
@@hgtudor-theultra NOT THE LAST CRISPY CREME! 🤪🤣
I need some guidance HG Tudor please. I am being gang stalked daily as well as by my ex narcissist. How do I discourage this as it has gone on for close to a year is. Please contact me or can someone tell me how? Thank you. CG
Use this
Consult narcsite.com/private-audio-consultation/
Thank you for your response. I will have to think about this a bit. I live in Canada and the exchange rates in makes this a bit out of my reach financially but I will see what I can do;) you are well worth it! I am not working and have a disabled son. I think your videos are wonderful, finally a new perspective. Hope to get back to you to you do you can get back to me for some much needed advice. It is a horrible way to live as they follow me everyday ....Thank you. I also feel I am à super empath and I want a Nova moment! I think I can do it with your guidance of course. Chantal
I got ex baby mama's doing this craziness and got a team to join in and ex is that because he wanted the money they paid him to walk away. Many lied on me to get help destroy my life to hide the fact they been stealing and using my identity for years. Your pathetic 😒