The thing is, you can try your damnedest to not hire a narcissist or become friends with a narcissist, etc., but some of them are *so good* at manipulation that even if you can read people really well, they'll fool you (at least for awhile). Unfortunately it only dawned on me within the last few years that my grandpa and grandma were both damaging narcissists. As someone who is the polar opposite, my default reaction is to assume that "it's me; I'm the problem in the relationship". So I basically did that my whole life before admitting that no, they were the ones with the problem. Despite therapy and years of discussing it and working through it, they both refuse to admit they have a problem and will not get help. Therefore, the relationship is currently on hold. Having to "break up" with family members because of their narcissistic personality is 100% worse than breaking up with a friend or significant other (but don't get me wrong - those suck big time) because they're a part of your family, and therefore a part of your life and a part of *you*. Cutting them out is an aggravating experience.
really identify with Rhett's filter analogy - it's really tough knowing somebody you have to worry about them manipulating you and putting you down, all with a smile on their face.
I got a 1. I think sometimes people confuse having self-confidence with being narcissistic. Having self-confidence is a good thing. It's good to know that you are good at something. A true narcissist has trouble maintaining relationships because everything has to be about them. They aren't interested in compromise or the give & take that comes with being in a relationship.
I got 25, and i know i'm a narcissist. I actually answered most of those statements in order to get a higher score, i think. But i was never lying to myself so. Yeah, i should probably talk to someone about that i am awesome and all.
John Forrest Actually it's Photoshop, but i'm not hiding my personality and have loads of pictures of my beautiful self all over the internetz! ;D It's just this pic because i made it and i'm awesome when it comes to my Photoshop skills :)
Narcissists are usually emotionally abusive. People get PTSD from being in relationships with Narcissists or if they grew up with a narcissist. Falling on the spectrum vs actually being a narcissist are two very different things. I have been in a relationship with one and grown up with one and Narcissism is the only mental illness in which the people around the person who has it go to counseling vs the person who has it. It's highly unlikely that narcissist will change, if you are in a relationship or a child of one it is best to go no contact and move on.
Compliments embarrass me to the point where it is borderline self esteem breaking. I feel really bad when people compliment me and it usually comes as a personal hit that takes time to recover from. I'd rather not be recognized at all, and I don't attach my name to the things I do. I use pen names and such so people do not come to me. The only things my name is directly attached to are academic accomplishments, which I find very embarrassing and I get offended when people bring them up.
Are you super humble or something? It's ok to have some praise now and then when you accomplish notable things. I guess the question to ask is why you don't like praise? But, you may be so good that you know that the praise doesn't even come close? Just kidding. In any case, as long as you like your work, that is what really matters. Ya know? Something tells me you are one smart overachieving cookie though. It's just a hunch. How are you doing at Calculus? I am curious, but don't worry I promise I won't complement you. Yeah, I'll probably just be super jealous instead! Just kidding. Whoever you are, sounds like you need more humor in your life. I recommend you watch GMM every day, at least three times a day. And, on Fridays, double the dose.
cbcandoit I took calc 1, 2 and 3 in college. I got Bs or whatever. Calc 3 I took as pass/fail because it didn't fit into my schedule. After calc 3 I stopped taking math classes. So I took three semesters of Serge Lang.
There's got to be a such thing as too modest. You need to go get checked out. I am sure there are some social issues that have arisen for you because you are embarrassed to such a high degree when praised.
Melthornal Oh relax. You sound normal to me. Are you? Joke. Yup, you are very smart. I contend that above average folks, especially those talented in Math and the higher sciences have it tougher in many ways than average people. Weird that it works like that, but I contend that eventually, provided you do what you love for a living and not necessarily what makes you the most $, you will wind up much happier than average. It takes longer because of the heavy demand of educational load. Greater demands are placed on smart people as you already know, and ego can really get in the way of achievement. But, along the way things will settle down and you will start to know yourself better and learn what makes you most happy in life. Life is tough sometimes. Isn't it? So, carry on, just be yourself that's all you really need to be. Does that sound correct?
***** I don't mind if people compliment my work, but I feel terrible if they compliment *me.* For instance, I just finished a long research project which was published. I made sure to not attach my name to it, which is what I try to always do. So basically, from the readers perspective, the work appeared out of the ether. It says "edited by" and no "written by". So the work stands on its own. Either it is well researched, well written, and the argument is persuasive, or it isn't. It isn't me. It isn't well researched because of me. It either is well researched or it isn't. Leave me out of it. It's not like it is poorly researched because I did it, but if someone else did the exact same thing it would be well researched. It shouldn't work like that. That is ad hominem. I don't know if that makes sense. I just want to be left out of judgments. I want my actions and my work to be treated on their own and not reflected back onto me.
I got a 29. I think it's mostly because of the leadership/authority questions. I've been in management for 11 years, so these are qualities I've had to develop in order to do well at my job.
It'd be interesting to secretly watch (OOOeeeOOOeee) you for a day while you were at work to see if your leadership authority was more of a self generated opinion shared amongst those you lead.
I think picking the option "can you read people like book" is contrary to what a narcissist would pick because that option would require empathy. Because a narcissist is so into themselves and failing at healthy relationships, it's obvious they're not understanding the feelings of people around them. My two cents/bitcoin.
People can be both empathetic and slightly narcissistic. I got a 20 and I have been told I am empathetic and kind. Also, I do think of myself as smart and a a powerful leader, but not attractive or manipulative.
+Forest Que It's alright, I got a 5 haha xDD I've always just been a pretty shy person too but if you try to get to know me I can be more extroverted :)
***** haha. Oh no! Are you also super shy? I can also be extroverted but I have to REALLY know the person I'm with in order for me to feel comfortable being more open.
I got a 19, and at first I was terrified that I had a narcissistic personality, but it has really calmed me down to see two of my favourite entertainers (whom I am convinced are quiet kind and humble people) have similar scores to me
I got a 21 but I see myself as healthy; I'm a leader in some fields, follower in others, and soloist on occasion. I do see how some of my behaviors can be detrimental and I'm working on fixing those. I think this kind of evaluation and introspection starts with something narcissistic but results in humility if approached properly.
No dark. You're an "awannanarcissist." A narcissist wanna be. You are not yet a full fledged self worshipper yet? It's OK. Not everyone can handle the self glow at first. Stick with just being self-absorbed for now. You'll get there.
I got 30. No bullshit, I just answered how I felt, and got 30... But I feel like I'm a self confident person, with perhaps a larger than average ego, but not narcissistic...
My ex is definitely a Narcissis & being told he is a Narcissis would set him off. He believes he is the best thing since sliced bread. He will say he is messed up but blame everyone else for his problems. He actually said "I'm the smartest person you will ever meet" so I responded with "but not smarter than a neurosurgeon" he of course snapped & said that he was ... He's a high school drop out with 0 college ... Yea.. There's more but a Narcissis wouldn't admit there's anything wrong with them & would tell you everything that is wrong .. Even things that you've never done but they have.. Very twisted & confusing
I know I'm late, but this is the Internet: there is no statute of limitations on public degradation. Anyway, I scored a 20. I was expecting to score higher than average, but not that high. It is weird b/c I definitely think like a narcissist (I am smart, manipulative, & a little bit self-obsessed), but I am not proud of it & rarely show it among strangers. I am super shy IRL & do not like being the center of attention in most circumstances, but also want to be an actor or performer of some kind, & on the Internet I am rather forward, as well as with my friends. I guess I am some sort of a shy narcissist? Shy around people I do not know well, but around friends &/or on stage I am insatiable.
I agree with what Rhett said at about 1:30 I got a 19, but just because of all the attention questions. I do theater, so of course i like attention. Of course i like to show off my body and get compliments and have good leadership skills..... 19 isn't that bad, but i do like myself, and i'm confident which IS different!!! ..... wow i thought i would get over 20..... but i'm also a good, kind person (i try....) Oh yeah, and i'm totally motest..... lol ;)
I do promote my channel :P And I don't think I'm bad at what I do, but it's really hard to get noticed on TH-cam and besides, there's still so much you can learn from other people! It's not a bad thing to realize and admit that, in my opinion.
Zixalf Fair enough, I suppose you have a point. After all, there are TH-camrs who have much more subscribers than you whom I still haven't even heard of too.
The line between the two types of people that you were talking about is the line between a narcissist and a person with narcissistic personality disorder, which are two very different things. For example, I am a narcissist, but I don't have a fragile ego, and my narcissistic tendencies have never effected my life in a negative way in the past, so therefore I don't have narcissistic personality disorder.
This is the theory. Also it really is sometimes what do you favor. A good example they brought up was General Happiness vs. Success. You WANT both... but which is so much more important to you? Some people might say I want to be happy my entire life. Others will say Success == Happiness generally even if happiness is not immediate. I scored an 11 but on one occasion I scored 14 and on another I scored 8. I took multiple data points to get my average of 11. Mood and Bias can really affect it.
Sometimes I hate compliments and I tend to exhibit self loathing tendencies, other times I feel confident but not overly so. I think I have somekind of disorder
i got a 20 too, but I force myself to be determined and confident and idk if its truly how I feel, or that I just tell myself that so I don't get discouraged and trip up on people. It sounds narcissistic, but Im not sure if its what they are defining
It's alright, I got a 6! And I'm confident in myself, but I care about other people more and how I affect them. So it's not terrible to have a low score 👍
I got a 7 but I'm not a social person. My highest was authority (3) and self sufficiency (2) I'm not upset with that. I was military and a law enforcement instructor seems fitting.
1. In a sense, it's discrimination, yes. But when you think about it, it's for a logical reason, making it not discrimination. Let me explain: Hiring a narcissist would likely hurt the work environment of the company. Everybody might feel uncomfortable or nervous around the person, making everybody else work less productively, making the company go down because of said employee. It's also like turning down someone without a college degree. That's _technically_ discrimination, but it really isn't, because it's for a good reason, if that makes any sense at all. What really _is_ discrimination is like turning down a black person who has perfect qualifications for the job. You are not turning them down for a good reason, and they wouldn't hurt the work environment. 2. Yep. xD
I think that it's important to understand that just because someone got a low score doesn't necessarily mean that you have low self confidence. Confidence and vanity/ego *are* different.
I got 16 which was unexpected, but I got 0 in vanity... My highest score was in authority (5) and exploitativeness (4) which actually concerns me a little as I usually pride myself on being a kind, respectable person who likes helping others. This suggests that maybe I actually don't deep down? Weird how things like this make you question yourself, but I'm glad I did it because now I know to look out for these things that I didn't think I did.
I got ZERO. But I have aspergers and social anxiety (= really low self esteem) so that should probably explain parts of it. I am also from a country that doesn't celebrate the individual as much as USA seems to do :)
i got a 6 on the test but acting and performing is a huge part of my life. i think it's because i enjoy performing and entertaining people but i don't believe i'm all that superior from a regular sense, etc.
Link don't feel bad about an 18 I got a 22. And you know I was as honest as I could be though some of those questions were not too fair or telling. I know I have some things to work on but I am proud of taking the lead when necessary but because I know how I can be, I take the extra time to be empathetic and have casual banter with a stranger, or make the conversation about you and not me!
I tried to take the test, but I stopped after the "I don't care much for success" or "I will be successful" because my answer is "I think if I try hard enough I have a shot at being successful, and I do care about success"
A. Mark Probably not. I just consider myself on equal grounds with most other people, though I have low self esteem. I actually took the test twice and got the same score.
I got a 2. The ones I got points on were about letting others do things for me. It's not because I think I'm better than them. It's because I feel less of myself and don't want to bring others down.
Oh and all you people saying "I got a 5! Is that bad? What does it mean?" And freaking out.. What it means is that you're below the average intelligence. Oh and Link PLEASE stop interrupting Rhett. It's infuriating and I really can't enjoy the video and I would like to. Also, if you're going to discuss serious topics such as mental health disorders you should do a lot more research. It's not something to be joked about.
No, I'm not new to the show. I'm expressing my opinion, that is annoys me. No, that's not what I was saying. I was simply implying that the people with low scores that are freaking out are of low intelligence because it's a ridiculous response.
I think you'll find that both spelled and spelt are correct, maybe you should research before trying to make someone look stupid and it back firing on yourself :)
Really? That's a shame. I have been watching the show for a good few months now, but I haven't noticed until now.. Maybe he is interrupting gradually with each episode!
2:17 links narcissism coming out! I'm just kidding.. I know you were fixing your hair.. I just wanted to say, I love that face that people make when theyre looking in the mirror
If you have NPD and you took the test, you wouldnt acknowledge that something was wrong and wouldnt seek help. Most are only diagnosed after getting into a lot of trouble.
+M11vk It is nationality-ist? yet Furrnox said average instead of all so it's not as nationality-ist/offensive as it could be. But yet I do believe there are obviously other places/races of people who fall into that category and above, not just Americans.
i feel like disliking compliments is a fairly common trait. my theory is that it is not because the compliments themselves, but because we don't know how to respond without sounding vain, which we have a strong societal compulsion to avoid. not knowing what to say is uncomfortable, so compliments are uncomfortable
Is it narcissistic to know and accept that you are too nice to people? I like the feeling of making people laugh and I try my hardest to make the best first impression possible, or at least that's how I describe myself and I am afraid of being a bit too nice. Just this week I had a brief conversation with someone who i think is hilarious and vice versa. We met in the hallway a couple days later and I said "Hey friend!" We hugged and kept walking in separate directions, we laughed our ass's off at the end of the day when we saw each other.
There's a good chance that if you scored higher than average that you're a sanguine personality type. (Sanguine's often want to be the center of attention, are social butterflies, and have lots of friends.) A great book about the four personality types is "Your Personality Tree" by Florence Littauer. As Link mentioned, there's also a big difference between having a good self-image and being narcissistic. Take a good look at truly successful people. They're confident but that doesn't mean they are narcissistic. If someone doesn't like to be complimented there's a good chance they don't have a very high self image. I actually watched a study that talked about compliments and the effect they had on how a person feels about him/herself. I got a 16 by the way. :3 I actually thought I'd get higher.
i got a 5 and its mostly because i am basically anti-social... i dont like people that much and i am also depressed at most times. i have OCD, ADHD, ASPERGERS, TOURETTES SYNDROME (tics) etc.
3:00- 3:06, truer words have never been spoken. As a writer who dreams of getting published, but lacks the ability to sell myself and my work, I can vouch for that.
I got a 15, but the thing with the test is that it's so black and white. So many of the questions I didn't agree with either one, it was something in the middle.
Im generally a selfless person, I like to help other people and try to make sure people who are close to me are happy. Im not very "showy" either, yet I scored a 21. :c
If narcissism was just ego most of us could tolerate them better. They have no empathy and can get dangerous. If like me you are enduing one just remember, you can't change them, there is no cure or pill as of this writing, and if you stop trying to explain things to them all the time and just say things like, I'm sorry you feel that way or, your of course entitled to your opinion, you will have a lot less stress in life.
I got a 5. I also did the MBTI test, and I am on the borderline of 4 personality types, as well as on the borderline of Introversion and Extroversion, and on the borderline of Perceiver and Judger.
Look into the term ambivert, you might relate a lot to it. c: I'm an ISFP on the MBTI test! It's hilarious when people have a mix of P/J. XD Imagine a person like this telling someone a story, a pretty long story. They always drift away from the topic but it still has some sort of relevance to their original point. After finishing their extremely far-fetched side point, they instantly remember where they were going with it and sums it up perfectly, along with the main point they were making with the original story. It's a hilarious experience LOL "There is no such thing as a pure introvert or extrovert. Such a person would be in the lunatic asylum." Carl G Jung
I see a lot of people saying they have low self-esteem and are shy, and they get like a 6 or something, I have depression, anxiety, I'm shy, and all that bad stuff, and I got a freaking 19, though I do have a dream to be like Tyler Joseph the singer of Twenty One Pilots, who sings about his depression and anxiety, so that might be the freaking 19.
Kanye west probably has a 100 score
+Sparksterfu this comment should have more likes
No!! Tom Cruise!!
Never seen statement more true in all my life lol
2:10 . Father Rhett, Kid Link
+Xtina Sain HA lolll so cute
LOL Same thoughts.
HAHAHAHAHA!!
When link held the camera for a second I thought I would see my reflection.
You mean held the mirror?
Me too XD
same
***** It was creepy
***** thinking the mirror would show my reflection
The thing is, you can try your damnedest to not hire a narcissist or become friends with a narcissist, etc., but some of them are *so good* at manipulation that even if you can read people really well, they'll fool you (at least for awhile). Unfortunately it only dawned on me within the last few years that my grandpa and grandma were both damaging narcissists. As someone who is the polar opposite, my default reaction is to assume that "it's me; I'm the problem in the relationship". So I basically did that my whole life before admitting that no, they were the ones with the problem. Despite therapy and years of discussing it and working through it, they both refuse to admit they have a problem and will not get help. Therefore, the relationship is currently on hold. Having to "break up" with family members because of their narcissistic personality is 100% worse than breaking up with a friend or significant other (but don't get me wrong - those suck big time) because they're a part of your family, and therefore a part of your life and a part of *you*. Cutting them out is an aggravating experience.
I have the same problem with my mom.
really identify with Rhett's filter analogy - it's really tough knowing somebody you have to worry about them manipulating you and putting you down, all with a smile on their face.
I got a 1. I think sometimes people confuse having self-confidence with being narcissistic. Having self-confidence is a good thing. It's good to know that you are good at something. A true narcissist has trouble maintaining relationships because everything has to be about them. They aren't interested in compromise or the give & take that comes with being in a relationship.
I think you nailed it on the difference there. :)
I got a 30, should I get help?
Nah, I'm too perfect of a person to have a mental disorder.
? You kinda just answered your own question.
The jokes. They're too good for people to get.
i got seven. is that bad? do i need to see a doctor about my self esteem?
Rivaldo Nelson
Doctors won't help. Seek within.
I got 10.
Rivaldo Nelson Don't worry lol i got a 6
The site's down because so many Mythical Beasts are flocking to it!
I got a 15, pretty average I guess
***** My Score Is 4, ummm. What? I though I was gonna get like 500 or something
I got 20. Holy moly ! I am narcisist
phew, got a 12...
I got a 1...
I got 25, and i know i'm a narcissist. I actually answered most of those statements in order to get a higher score, i think. But i was never lying to myself so. Yeah, i should probably talk to someone about that i am awesome and all.
If you were so awesome you'd be proud to show yourself in your thumbnail picture instead of a gas mask...
John Forrest Actually it's Photoshop, but i'm not hiding my personality and have loads of pictures of my beautiful self all over the internetz! ;D It's just this pic because i made it and i'm awesome when it comes to my Photoshop skills :)
Lmao, you really are a 25.
John Forrest Thank you! I think! xD
i got a 24
Narcissists are usually emotionally abusive. People get PTSD from being in relationships with Narcissists or if they grew up with a narcissist. Falling on the spectrum vs actually being a narcissist are two very different things.
I have been in a relationship with one and grown up with one and Narcissism is the only mental illness in which the people around the person who has it go to counseling vs the person who has it. It's highly unlikely that narcissist will change, if you are in a relationship or a child of one it is best to go no contact and move on.
Compliments embarrass me to the point where it is borderline self esteem breaking. I feel really bad when people compliment me and it usually comes as a personal hit that takes time to recover from. I'd rather not be recognized at all, and I don't attach my name to the things I do. I use pen names and such so people do not come to me. The only things my name is directly attached to are academic accomplishments, which I find very embarrassing and I get offended when people bring them up.
Are you super humble or something? It's ok to have some praise now and then when you accomplish notable things. I guess the question to ask is why you don't like praise? But, you may be so good that you know that the praise doesn't even come close? Just kidding. In any case, as long as you like your work, that is what really matters. Ya know? Something tells me you are one smart overachieving cookie though. It's just a hunch. How are you doing at Calculus? I am curious, but don't worry I promise I won't complement you. Yeah, I'll probably just be super jealous instead! Just kidding. Whoever you are, sounds like you need more humor in your life. I recommend you watch GMM every day, at least three times a day. And, on Fridays, double the dose.
cbcandoit I took calc 1, 2 and 3 in college. I got Bs or whatever. Calc 3 I took as pass/fail because it didn't fit into my schedule. After calc 3 I stopped taking math classes. So I took three semesters of Serge Lang.
There's got to be a such thing as too modest. You need to go get checked out. I am sure there are some social issues that have arisen for you because you are embarrassed to such a high degree when praised.
Melthornal
Oh relax. You sound normal to me. Are you? Joke. Yup, you are very smart. I contend that above average folks, especially those talented in Math and the higher sciences have it tougher in many ways than average people. Weird that it works like that, but I contend that eventually, provided you do what you love for a living and not necessarily what makes you the most $, you will wind up much happier than average. It takes longer because of the heavy demand of educational load. Greater demands are placed on smart people as you already know, and ego can really get in the way of achievement. But, along the way things will settle down and you will start to know yourself better and learn what makes you most happy in life. Life is tough sometimes. Isn't it? So, carry on, just be yourself that's all you really need to be. Does that sound correct?
***** I don't mind if people compliment my work, but I feel terrible if they compliment *me.* For instance, I just finished a long research project which was published. I made sure to not attach my name to it, which is what I try to always do. So basically, from the readers perspective, the work appeared out of the ether. It says "edited by" and no "written by". So the work stands on its own. Either it is well researched, well written, and the argument is persuasive, or it isn't. It isn't me. It isn't well researched because of me. It either is well researched or it isn't. Leave me out of it. It's not like it is poorly researched because I did it, but if someone else did the exact same thing it would be well researched. It shouldn't work like that. That is ad hominem.
I don't know if that makes sense. I just want to be left out of judgments. I want my actions and my work to be treated on their own and not reflected back onto me.
If you don't know how to answer someone when they complement the show just say, "Thank you, I'm glad you enjoyed it!"
I got a 29. I think it's mostly because of the leadership/authority questions. I've been in management for 11 years, so these are qualities I've had to develop in order to do well at my job.
I can smel your narsiccism from all the way here. jk
Uh oh narcissist here, lol.
It'd be interesting to secretly watch (OOOeeeOOOeee) you for a day while you were at work to see if your leadership authority was more of a self generated opinion shared amongst those you lead.
I got 100/100 in machavellism but i feel alright / 21 in narcissism
I got 22 and I think I am completely alright! :D
i got a 4 but just because i'm not social or confident or extroverted
last year i got a 4 this year i got a 3
I got a 2
i got a 7
supermanoffood I got a 4 too
Same, I got a 4
I scored a 23, thought to take the test again because I thought I messed up. Scored a 25...
28 is Mine!
LMAO
I got a 38....
Oh wait I trying to get a high number
i couldnt take the test. site takes ages to load and then i just get an error message :|
I just googled "narcissism test" because the same thing happened to me
same
Same
Same here!!:(
I scored a 1... Is that bad?
I think picking the option "can you read people like book" is contrary to what a narcissist would pick because that option would require empathy. Because a narcissist is so into themselves and failing at healthy relationships, it's obvious they're not understanding the feelings of people around them. My two cents/bitcoin.
That's what I would think too.
People can be both empathetic and slightly narcissistic. I got a 20 and I have been told I am empathetic and kind. Also, I do think of myself as smart and a a powerful leader, but not attractive or manipulative.
I got a 3. Welp. I am not depressed or anything I just have never been confident and have pretty severe anxiety.
+Forest Que Same. I got a four, and don't consider myself depressed or really introverted. I've just always been shy.
me too last year i got a 4 this year i got a 3
+Melting Clocks Hurray for us mega introverts!
+Forest Que It's alright, I got a 5 haha xDD I've always just been a pretty shy person too but if you try to get to know me I can be more extroverted :)
***** haha. Oh no! Are you also super shy? I can also be extroverted but I have to REALLY know the person I'm with in order for me to feel comfortable being more open.
I got a 19, and at first I was terrified that I had a narcissistic personality, but it has really calmed me down to see two of my favourite entertainers (whom I am convinced are quiet kind and humble people) have similar scores to me
I got a 21 but I see myself as healthy; I'm a leader in some fields, follower in others, and soloist on occasion. I do see how some of my behaviors can be detrimental and I'm working on fixing those. I think this kind of evaluation and introspection starts with something narcissistic but results in humility if approached properly.
My 11 made so much sense to me. I have a lot of aspirations and a decent self-image but I am also shy and deal with anxiety.
Matt Hash same
I got a 9, but i feel like a major Narcissist.
No dark. You're an "awannanarcissist." A narcissist wanna be. You are not yet a full fledged self worshipper yet? It's OK. Not everyone can handle the self glow at first. Stick with just being self-absorbed for now. You'll get there.
cbcandoit
Thank you for the words of encouragement bro
i got a 3
I got 30. No bullshit, I just answered how I felt, and got 30... But I feel like I'm a self confident person, with perhaps a larger than average ego, but not narcissistic...
You had confidence but there's a extent that's about 22 to 26 any higher it leans to narrsisism
Sorry I meant 15 to 20 is confident 20 25 is a big ego 25+ is "narcissistic" I think
Surely a narcissist would be interested in everything about themselves and therefore would love self-assessment tests?
My ex is definitely a Narcissis & being told he is a Narcissis would set him off. He believes he is the best thing since sliced bread. He will say he is messed up but blame everyone else for his problems. He actually said "I'm the smartest person you will ever meet" so I responded with "but not smarter than a neurosurgeon" he of course snapped & said that he was ... He's a high school drop out with 0 college ... Yea.. There's more but a Narcissis wouldn't admit there's anything wrong with them & would tell you everything that is wrong .. Even things that you've never done but they have.. Very twisted & confusing
I know I'm late, but this is the Internet: there is no statute of limitations on public degradation.
Anyway, I scored a 20. I was expecting to score higher than average, but not that high. It is weird b/c I definitely think like a narcissist (I am smart, manipulative, & a little bit self-obsessed), but I am not proud of it & rarely show it among strangers. I am super shy IRL & do not like being the center of attention in most circumstances, but also want to be an actor or performer of some kind, & on the Internet I am rather forward, as well as with my friends.
I guess I am some sort of a shy narcissist? Shy around people I do not know well, but around friends &/or on stage I am insatiable.
I'll have to take the test later...the Mythical Beasts are roaming around the site, so I can't get on it. /sigh
psychcentral.com/quizzes/narcissistic.htm
Search for "narcissist test" and another site will come up which works.
There shoud be a video of just Link with the mirror showing us what's behind the camera
I got a 6, but I know that I scored low due to my horrible self-esteem.
I have no self esteem
But I got a 10
I'm sorry :/ I think you should get around people who appreciate you! You are a beautiful person!
I took the test again and got a 2 both for vanity
I feel you there. I got a 10. I imagine if my self-esteem was higher, maybe my score would have been higher as well.
I agree with what Rhett said at about 1:30 I got a 19, but just because of all the attention questions. I do theater, so of course i like attention. Of course i like to show off my body and get compliments and have good leadership skills..... 19 isn't that bad, but i do like myself, and i'm confident which IS different!!! ..... wow i thought i would get over 20..... but i'm also a good, kind person (i try....) Oh yeah, and i'm totally motest..... lol ;)
I had only 8 out of 40, and I am an 'internetainer' myself. Is this a problem?!
I assume you don't self-promote much? I've never heard of your channel. Perhaps your low score has something to do with that.
I do promote my channel :P And I don't think I'm bad at what I do, but it's really hard to get noticed on TH-cam and besides, there's still so much you can learn from other people!
It's not a bad thing to realize and admit that, in my opinion.
Zixalf wow never heard of u ur vids are good! i subbed and btw u should play happy wheels
Zixalf
Fair enough, I suppose you have a point.
After all, there are TH-camrs who have much more subscribers than you whom I still haven't even heard of too.
I got 4, well belowe average, but kinda what i expected, I am after all very self-concious about myself and my appearance.
Same score and same view of myself
I got 4 too lol
Same.
Same! I thought I was weird! (I was afraid to post this)
I got a 5
i got 4... isn't that bad in the opposite way?
No, I wouldn't think so :P.
But then again, I got a four, and don't care much about it :3.
so did I, and I have a very dependent personality. But idk, maybe you just are selfless
I got a 5
Yes you think very low of yourself lol
I got a 4 as well
The line between the two types of people that you were talking about is the line between a narcissist and a person with narcissistic personality disorder, which are two very different things. For example, I am a narcissist, but I don't have a fragile ego, and my narcissistic tendencies have never effected my life in a negative way in the past, so therefore I don't have narcissistic personality disorder.
I got a 21 but there are a lot of questions on there where I would definitely go both ways depending on the situation.
i got 12, problem is there is so much t take into consideration on each question, maybe narcisists just only think one sided and answer straight away?
This is the theory. Also it really is sometimes what do you favor. A good example they brought up was General Happiness vs. Success. You WANT both... but which is so much more important to you? Some people might say I want to be happy my entire life. Others will say Success == Happiness generally even if happiness is not immediate.
I scored an 11 but on one occasion I scored 14 and on another I scored 8. I took multiple data points to get my average of 11. Mood and Bias can really affect it.
yes i think sometimes being happy means sacrificing how smart you are aswell, ignorance is bliss in other words
I got a 6 and I was concerned but I than found out some people got lower and I was relieved it wasn't just me
i also got six
I got a 6 too! It's totally fine 👍
I got a 7
I got a 23. Mostly cause of an 8 for Authority.... I ain't mad about that LOL.
I got 23 too.
+shinejunkie345 I got a flipping 29. I think I should see someone.
I got a 23.
I got 27. 8 for Authority, as well.
I Got a 26
i got a 23, but i don't feel like i'm a narcissist. I do have very solid confidence but i don't see it affecting me or others in a negative way.
+Kevin Becker Thats a very narcissistic thing to say, though.
hmm interesting
+Gavin Becker Well it's only a test on the internet it can be wrong
Sometimes I hate compliments and I tend to exhibit self loathing tendencies, other times I feel confident but not overly so. I think I have somekind of disorder
I got a 20... I dont even care much about myself...
nah I love myself, what am I talking about
2
I got 21 XD
i got a 20 too, but I force myself to be determined and confident and idk if its truly how I feel, or that I just tell myself that so I don't get discouraged and trip up on people. It sounds narcissistic, but Im not sure if its what they are defining
where do you take the test?
I got 5 but i really dont understand why, im actually a bit scared since the average is 12-15
It's alright, I got a 6! And I'm confident in myself, but I care about other people more and how I affect them. So it's not terrible to have a low score 👍
I got a 7 but I'm not a social person. My highest was authority (3) and self sufficiency (2) I'm not upset with that. I was military and a law enforcement instructor seems fitting.
I got a 5 too
#1 wouldn't not hiring a narcissist technically be discrimination?
#2 the title is spelt wrong.
I thought I was the only one.
1. In a sense, it's discrimination, yes. But when you think about it, it's for a logical reason, making it not discrimination. Let me explain: Hiring a narcissist would likely hurt the work environment of the company. Everybody might feel uncomfortable or nervous around the person, making everybody else work less productively, making the company go down because of said employee. It's also like turning down someone without a college degree. That's _technically_ discrimination, but it really isn't, because it's for a good reason, if that makes any sense at all. What really _is_ discrimination is like turning down a black person who has perfect qualifications for the job. You are not turning them down for a good reason, and they wouldn't hurt the work environment.
2. Yep. xD
"Dinkleberg"
MrJealous I was just about to say that!!!!! :)
I think that it's important to understand that just because someone got a low score doesn't necessarily mean that you have low self confidence. Confidence and vanity/ego *are* different.
I got 16 which was unexpected, but I got 0 in vanity... My highest score was in authority (5) and exploitativeness (4) which actually concerns me a little as I usually pride myself on being a kind, respectable person who likes helping others. This suggests that maybe I actually don't deep down? Weird how things like this make you question yourself, but I'm glad I did it because now I know to look out for these things that I didn't think I did.
I'll share my score after all the Mythical Beasts stop overrunning the site :P
Good Mythical Morning, ruining your website with our fans :D
It's a Mythical Stampede!
I got 19 but mostly in authority because I am a project manager / civil engineer...so meh. Respect my authoritaaaay
no!
Audrey Gaffney respect his authoritaaaay.
supersammy7000 Make me
how old'z you? or how young'z you?
Should let you all know ima girl. Aka a female
I got an 8. YAS, below average.
same
+Angie Lovegood same
Same.
+Angie Lovegood same!
+Angie Lovegood I got an 8 too :)
rhett and link should give a tour of the set.
I got a 15, one of my friends got 36. I'll make sure to get him checked out..
Dang, I got a 24, but people love me.
Ikr 25
The test is bullshit! I got 28 because I want to be different from everyone and want success. This isn't an ideal way to test this disorder.
D96213 Dat profile pic says it all......
What does a 4 mean?!?!
it means you're underconfident.
Lucas Trugeda well crap then...
I feel you cuz I got a 4 too.
the 4 means: POTATO
No it doesn't it means that this doesn't concern you
I got ZERO. But I have aspergers and social anxiety (= really low self esteem) so that should probably explain parts of it. I am also from a country that doesn't celebrate the individual as much as USA seems to do :)
I also got a 0 and I have social anxiety and I'm really shy
Where are you from
I got the same score, and I'm American. But I do have social anxiety as well.
i got a 6 on the test but acting and performing is a huge part of my life. i think it's because i enjoy performing and entertaining people but i don't believe i'm all that superior from a regular sense, etc.
I got a 13, and I was happy with myself when I found out I paused the video at the right time.
I got a three so what does this mean
low self confidence but of course its an online test so take it with a pinch of salt alot f these questions are difficult anyway
Drinking u dr
Same!
My score was 4.
I got a 2, but I don't have low confidence...
I got a 27. That is all I am going to say.
+Kelly Simon Fliping 29.
+BMORRI Video thirty
Same.
i got an 11
***** oh wow thank you so much! i'm sure you are also very attractive
You got below average and so did i
me too
i feel like i should get help cause i got 7 :P
do all of you guys have low self esteem like me? I feel like that could be a reason for the lower numbers.
Link don't feel bad about an 18 I got a 22. And you know I was as honest as I could be though some of those questions were not too fair or telling. I know I have some things to work on but I am proud of taking the lead when necessary but because I know how I can be, I take the extra time to be empathetic and have casual banter with a stranger, or make the conversation about you and not me!
I tried to take the test, but I stopped after the "I don't care much for success" or "I will be successful" because my answer is "I think if I try hard enough I have a shot at being successful, and I do care about success"
I got a 7 on the test.
same.
Same... wonder if that's bad lol
well i got just 2
A. Mark Probably not. I just consider myself on equal grounds with most other people, though I have low self esteem. I actually took the test twice and got the same score.
I got 5...
I got a score of 4
You have self esteem issues and depression most likely.
I got 3, and I do have self esteem issues and depression tbh
I don't have any of those can't a person just be humble
Caity K. you can be arrogant and have it show as low scores. For instance, I got a 6
Are you calling yourself arrogant or me or someone else?
You spelled narcissism wrong.
I got a 21 .. I didn't think that I was a narcissist but here I am
I got a 2. The ones I got points on were about letting others do things for me. It's not because I think I'm better than them. It's because I feel less of myself and don't want to bring others down.
i got a 2 :)))
Same here!
+carolyn ellefson I got a 4
I got a 4 as well and I was trying to tell myself to be as confident as possible in my test results.. LOL
You spelt narcissism wrong!
Oh and all you people saying "I got a 5! Is that bad? What does it mean?" And freaking out.. What it means is that you're below the average intelligence. Oh and Link PLEASE stop interrupting Rhett. It's infuriating and I really can't enjoy the video and I would like to. Also, if you're going to discuss serious topics such as mental health disorders you should do a lot more research. It's not something to be joked about.
No, I'm not new to the show. I'm expressing my opinion, that is annoys me. No, that's not what I was saying. I was simply implying that the people with low scores that are freaking out are of low intelligence because it's a ridiculous response.
I think you'll find that both spelled and spelt are correct, maybe you should research before trying to make someone look stupid and it back firing on yourself :)
Really? That's a shame. I have been watching the show for a good few months now, but I haven't noticed until now.. Maybe he is interrupting gradually with each episode!
Mowgli Dyson But Rhett can go on and on and on...
I was thinking I'd be a narcissist, maybe a couple points above but jeez a 33... I answered honestly but damn I didn't think I'd be that bad.
2:17 links narcissism coming out! I'm just kidding.. I know you were fixing your hair.. I just wanted to say, I love that face that people make when theyre looking in the mirror
Also rhett looks in the monitor more than link. that is all
If you have NPD and you took the test, you wouldnt acknowledge that something was wrong and wouldnt seek help. Most are only diagnosed after getting into a lot of trouble.
Fuck sake I got 0 :(
If your score is accurate then you probably suffer from very low self esteem...
:(. There there there. We all love u! 😊
Me too!
stop giving her so much attention she doesn't like being the center of attention.
Dont be sad,i got 6:)
i got a 9 XD im so modest
Same here
I'd say thats a brilliant score, you have just the right amount of self-confidence and self-esteem :D
I did too
I got a 6
wtf I GOT A GOD DAMN 23!!!
I got a 11
That's what I got.
my peoples
I got a 5, however some of the questions were difficult to answer because neither choices really explained my opinions on the matter.
Narcissistic Trait
Strength of Trait
Authority: 4.00
Self-Sufficiency: 1.00
Superiority: 2.00
Exhibitionism: 0.00
Exploitativeness: 1.00
Vanity: 0.00
Entitlement: 1.00
-----------------------------
Score: 9
(Is that a good thing?)
I got a 4. The 12-15 must be an American average.
Furrnox I'm American and I got a 2 :3 GET YO FACTS STRAIGHT
***** Bigoted is the word you are looking for
I got a 5
+Furrnox 4 is bad you idiot
+M11vk It is nationality-ist? yet Furrnox said average instead of all so it's not as nationality-ist/offensive as it could be. But yet I do believe there are obviously other places/races of people who fall into that category and above, not just Americans.
i feel like disliking compliments is a fairly common trait. my theory is that it is not because the compliments themselves, but because we don't know how to respond without sounding vain, which we have a strong societal compulsion to avoid. not knowing what to say is uncomfortable, so compliments are uncomfortable
Got a 22. I might be narcisistic, wouldn't be ashamed of it either. I am more than proud of being myself even though I have my kinks.
I got 30. I already knew I was a narcissistic sociopath, but it was a cute little reminder.
I got a 9... I fake answered a couple of them to look more narcissistic
Is it narcissistic to know and accept that you are too nice to people? I like the feeling of making people laugh and I try my hardest to make the best first impression possible, or at least that's how I describe myself and I am afraid of being a bit too nice. Just this week I had a brief conversation with someone who i think is hilarious and vice versa. We met in the hallway a couple days later and I said "Hey friend!" We hugged and kept walking in separate directions, we laughed our ass's off at the end of the day when we saw each other.
iv discovered that a way to not become narcissistic is to not ask someone if they think ur good looking
yep got I got a 20. but there was no questions about giving to others, which I love doing.
I got a 13, I definitely expected it to be higher
i like it when link wears his superhero t shirts xD
I got a 10, which was surprisingly lower than I expected. I was expecting at least a 14.
There's a good chance that if you scored higher than average that you're a sanguine personality type. (Sanguine's often want to be the center of attention, are social butterflies, and have lots of friends.) A great book about the four personality types is "Your Personality Tree" by Florence Littauer.
As Link mentioned, there's also a big difference between having a good self-image and being narcissistic. Take a good look at truly successful people. They're confident but that doesn't mean they are narcissistic. If someone doesn't like to be complimented there's a good chance they don't have a very high self image. I actually watched a study that talked about compliments and the effect they had on how a person feels about him/herself. I got a 16 by the way. :3 I actually thought I'd get higher.
i got a 5 and its mostly because i am basically anti-social... i dont like people that much and i am also depressed at most times. i have OCD, ADHD, ASPERGERS, TOURETTES SYNDROME (tics) etc.
3:00- 3:06, truer words have never been spoken. As a writer who dreams of getting published, but lacks the ability to sell myself and my work, I can vouch for that.
I got a 15, but the thing with the test is that it's so black and white. So many of the questions I didn't agree with either one, it was something in the middle.
I am a narcissist, but I don't have NPD. If anyone wanted to know, I scored a 31.
Im generally a selfless person, I like to help other people and try to make sure people who are close to me are happy. Im not very "showy" either, yet I scored a 21. :c
I agree the best way to tell if someone is a narcissist is to ask, take it from a 25.
I took it honestly and got a 26 but I still don't consider myself a narcissist.
If narcissism was just ego most of us could tolerate them better. They have no empathy and can get dangerous. If like me you are enduing one just remember, you can't change them, there is no cure or pill as of this writing, and if you stop trying to explain things to them all the time and just say things like, I'm sorry you feel that way or, your of course entitled to your opinion, you will have a lot less stress in life.
I got a 5~ I feel like that's bad, but I really don't think I'm gonna dwell on it
I got a 5. I also did the MBTI test, and I am on the borderline of 4 personality types, as well as on the borderline of Introversion and Extroversion, and on the borderline of Perceiver and Judger.
Look into the term ambivert, you might relate a lot to it. c: I'm an ISFP on the MBTI test!
It's hilarious when people have a mix of P/J. XD Imagine a person like this telling someone a story, a pretty long story. They always drift away from the topic but it still has some sort of relevance to their original point. After finishing their extremely far-fetched side point, they instantly remember where they were going with it and sums it up perfectly, along with the main point they were making with the original story. It's a hilarious experience LOL
"There is no such thing as a pure introvert or extrovert. Such a person would be in the lunatic asylum." Carl G Jung
I see a lot of people saying they have low self-esteem and are shy, and they get like a 6 or something, I have depression, anxiety, I'm shy, and all that bad stuff, and I got a freaking 19, though I do have a dream to be like Tyler Joseph the singer of Twenty One Pilots, who sings about his depression and anxiety, so that might be the freaking 19.
I thought I was somewhat a narcissist, but I got below the average range.
I got 8 - below average aand my most narcissistic trait is
•Superiority (3)
Authority (1)
Self-sufficiency (1)
Exhibitionism (0)
Exploitativeness (2)
Vanity (0)
Entitlement (1)