Separating sex ed by genders truly is one of the most ridiculous ideas somebody has ever come up with. To already assume all people to be straight and cisgender, and then assume they're later gonna enter heterosexual relationships, and yet NOT let them learn anything about each other... who's idea was this lol
Why do they need to be in the same classroom to learn about sex? I do not understand why this comment has so many likes. The majority of people will be cisgendered, that is just a fact. I am sure they do it for the protection of both genders, so they can actually focus on what is being taught and not on how awkward or hilarious it is to be talking about those things in the presence of the opposite sex (as a young person). Also, did I miss how this comment is relevant to the video at all, except for the broad subject of sex in general?
@@AmaranthineIntrigueyou missed the point entirely, they are not demanding girls and boys being in the same room, they are complaining about how boys abd girls are tought different things as in, boys receive no education at all about periods to then later freak out at their girlfriends, ... If the assumption is, that everyone is cus, then yes it is extremely stupid to act like biys will never be faced and in contact with the female repriductive systhem!!! Thats the core if the argument and it is solid as as hell.
@@AmaranthineIntrigue Thanks to the other commenter for clearing up my point further, but yes! Paige brings this topic up very briefly at around 17:45. They don't all have to physically be in the same room (although, a little bit of awkwardness isn't the worst thing if you present even just the barest basics in an age-appropriate manner), but the fact that most people ARE cisgender and straight makes it weird to me that they don't learn anything about each other, oftentimes right up until they're IN the act. I remember seeing viral videos where the joke is "haha, men don't understand how a vulva works at all", and it's kinda funny until I realize there's a good chance nobody bothered teach those men anything when they were younger. How are they supposed to know how stuff works if they don't know how to find educational resources? It's not cool to hide information from people, then laugh at them when they don't get it.
@@SingingSealRiana oh, I didn't know that. I never had sex ed in school since I am older. I did not say "everyone" but "most". Thaks fot answering my question.
Teenagers are the most difficult group to find homes for after family breakdown. Everyone tends to gravitate to younger children and the older ones get neglected and left in social services group homes. Having fostered a teenager myself I encourage everyone to consider the older ones; it's a huge challenge, but very rewarding. Only found out I'm autistic after as I'm late diagnosis. As a single parent, having three teenage boys was not as difficult as people would imagine. Give it a go.
I am so glad to see you back. My daughter is 2 and was just diagnosed with autism at the end of last month. Because of your videos, I have so much more knowledge about ABA. Your passion and openness really informed me and I realized that I needed to do more research and talk to other autistic adults. You are so intelligent and articulate and your passion really shines through. In addition, I sent my 20 year old son your video explaining PDA. He connected on almost every statement you made. He is now looking into autism as a possibility for himself. That's such a huge deal because he was adamant before he watched you that he was definitely not autistic and he thought I was ridiculous for even bringing it up. You're out here really helping people who are so confused and I appreciate you ❤
Autistic people are capable of understanding and practicing consent, just like anyone else. They may, however, benefit from clear, direct communication due to differences in social and non-verbal cues. Teaching and discussing consent in a straightforward, explicit manner can be helpful.
Thats a generalisation I csn not agree with, given a third of autists is heavenly cognitive impaired acting like they can be treated like anyone else feels neglegent. We are very much not a monolith and it is importend to remember that and treat each case accordingly. Another thing is, that especially high masking women are taught, that our feelings are invalid, we have no right to bounderies and that we have to accomodate and people please, making establishing health communication around consent as well as rewoking consent really hard and a potential partner needs to be aware of that. For many of us it feels, like saying no was never an option and we have to unlearn it. Another problem is, that communicating consent, and it being rewoked can be quite hard, if you are nonverbal or experience selective mutism, your partner needs to be aware and accomodating on a whole nother level there too! Sadly all of those factors lead to autistic people often being taken advantage of and disproportionatelly experience sexual trauma which in many cases, the partner neither intended nor is aware of. On the flip side, when we have struggles with nonverbal communication, we might not get a hint, without being clearly told. So no, an autists relationship with consent is not "just like everyone elses"
Boys/AMAB should absolutely learn about the female anatomy. I'm so sick of hearing stories about male (and even some female) teachers saying that girls "pee out the blood" when they're menstruating or telling girls/AFAB to "just hold it" when they need to change out their products.
It is so importent, especially given it is often men who end up making laes and rules impacting women about that stuff with having no clue in the slightest
Yep, having kids is sensorily difficult. The noise, the smells, the contact, the lack of sleep, lack of alone time, the having to deal with others on their behalf, etc., etc., etc. It's helpful to have a supportive partner who does their share, minimum (settle for no less). I did it, got through it; kids are funny, lots of good times. But knowing what I know now about myself (Audhd), I wouldn't have done it/wouldn't do it again.
I disagree with the idea that lots of folks have that autistic people shouldn't be able to consent, or that autistic people should be overprotected sexually or given things like Benperidol. I think a lot of fetish culture is actually really healthy for autistic folks, who might find certain forms of sexual appreciation, action and gratification to be more manageable. Maybe the concept of having to slowly coordinate pelvic motions is overwhelming but sexuality that is more "hands on", where each person can go at a different rate, works better. And many autistic folks like heavy, percussive pressure, but find more conventional, gentle sex in the context of heterosexuality to be overwhelming - neurotypicals in general seem to think that sensory aversion is always about basic intensity, when high-intensity things might be more soothing and predictable than light, high-"complexity" situations. I do think sex ed should be open to teaching about kinks and promote the validity of non-PIV sexual acts, in addition to teaching acceptance of LGBT individuals. I also think that abstinence-only sex education is ridiculous, especially "abstinence till marriage". I also don't think the whole purpose of sex ed is to condone and condemn certain sex acts or teach kids the "proper" way to have sex, just as a music class teaching Western classical and standard notation shouldn't condemn MIDI roll, jazz improv, or the cool shit Merzbow does (if you look it up, just know that I'm personally a "sound sensory seeker" and you might be overwhelmed with his music).
Yes, yes, yes! I also wondered why no one talks about experimentation in sex. The usual discourse around sex is so rigid, leaves no room. How are you supposed to seek what you need if you don't even know what's possible? I get that trying things out and being safe is like threading a fine line, especially when a lot of noobs assume porn is how things should be done. But I don't think there's an ultimate truth for how to start things off unfortunately 😒
As an autistic woman who wants to have kids one day , I want to thank you so much for saying that about autistic woman having autistic kids . Those people that you’re mad at cannot stop my happiness because once I’m married , I’m having kids and nobody can stop me. If people don’t like it , “boo hoo , waaaaah , you’re mad because you cannot control disabled people’s bodies hahaha screw you .” Yeah it’s always been my dream to be a mother and I know I’ll be an amazing mother and they cannot crush my dreams . It will happen no matter what .
Just go in knowing that children can be an overwhelming sensory experience and either have a plan to deal with those situations and be prepared with secondary and tertiary plans. Also, your children may have needs that are opposite of yours. Son is 16 and still continuely amazed by same and different to and from me he is.
Hey thanks for the unmasking thing. I have bookmarked it and will take it after an assessment confirms my shit (which might be a while, Jeezy Creezy, that shit is expensive!). You say you created it with the confused 15 year old who doesn't really know who they are in mind? Try being 51 and having NEVER known who you are! Frankly, it sucks. So feel good knowing that you're going to be helping more than just teenagers. You done a good thing (and way more affordable than an assessment).😊
I agree with some of your controversial takes. I always found it stupid how people striving to be adoptive parents have to jump through so, so many hoops, but for those having biological kids, there's literally nothing, they could be a psychopath, a criminal, anything. And we cannot stop them because reproductive rights. But where are those reproductive rights when abortion is banned in some places? Why does it not go both ways? It all should be the same. First off, as you said, people should have the full information, then choose to opt in or opt out. And also the same rules should apply whether someone has a biological or adoptive child.... the systems are truly broken.
I totally agree. The only valid reason why we don't control who can make children is that we don't know how to do it morally because for example we would have to know how and who should decide who can be a parent and then how to make sure people won't make children regardless
Adopting older children and teenagers is one of the most big-hearted and impactful things one can do. I hope you will do that some day, Paige, and you‘ll be a great parent to them I‘m sure ❤
I love you so much Paige . You actually have contributed to me so much in learning about my autism . You’re an awesome human being and you deserve the best life possible ever . :) Also hopefully, this is okay to share but I’m autistic and hypersexual . It’s important to realize that autistic people can also be on the other end of the spectrum too .
Thankfully I was asked to give a boundaries and communication talk with some of the disabled students and we all shared how disability led to some bad situations.
I ..didn’t know that my history with “allowing things” I did not consent to and feeling unable to stand up for myself in given moments..was related. In my case it was I who didn’t have boundaries (had narc parents), and since I was largely nonverbal I had numerous incidents where I didn’t know how to stop the situation and basically just “let it happen”. It would be years before I learned about assault, etc. I’m learning something today. This content is very much needed out here..thank you 🙏🏼
One aspect of autism sexuality that isn't talked about a lot and I'm certainly curious if this is a thing. Is it possible that a lot of autistic people may have sexual kinks of fetishes? Particularly if said fetishes are tied to one's special interests? I feel like this topic isn't discussed at all for three reasons: The first being the myths that Paige talks about where so many ignorant NT's think that autistic people can't have sex. The second is within some of those fetish groups, where there is still a stigma around autism and the misconception that it makes one childlike, thus autistic people are very less likely to be open about it within those groups. And the third because so many people are uncomfortable with talking about kinks and fetishes in the first place. Either because of embarrassment, or those eager to kink shame others. So it makes me wonder if this topic should be talked about a lot more.
I would say that a lot of autistic/adhd people who want to be sexual find a lot of comfort in the kink community - though not all kink is necessarily sexual. When you break it down, there's an element of stimming in certain areas of kink, there's a lot of clear discussion, specified boundaries and expectations etc.
Oh absolutly, just think about how bdsm and kink are highly accomodating, clear established bounderies, if you dont know what to do, you can have your partner give you exact directions, if reciving and giving at the same time is to much, being bound absolves you of that responsability, being gagged means you are jot expected to talk, when verbality is dificult for you when exited. Non sexuell pet play gives you affection without needing to conform, sensory imput can get controlled very well, the consent discussion and checking in if its still ok, as well as the normalisation of rewoking consent are on another level!! There is quite a chance of the whole thing having been invented by autists.
While the kink community is not free of bigotry, there are definitely a lot of openly autistic people in kink spaces. Ive heard of autistic people having sex or a specific kink be a special interest, I've met multiple autistics who used sex as a form of sensory seeking, etc. People are just afraid to acknowledge it.
@@LilChuunosuke I can't begin to tell you how many documentaries/articles/TH-cam videos/books/etc. I have consumed on the topics of sex, LGBTQ+, pornography, and the adult entertainment industry. I was telling my therapist that I felt like I didn't have much in the way of special interests, then she pointed out that those were my special interest. I just can't infodump about it because... awkward. 😅
17:05- My ex dumped me because he said he was not emotionally ready for a relationship. A week passed, and I still had a lot of unresolved emotions and wants, because he really did not set clear boundaries after the breakup. One afternoon, he texted me, saying he needed space, and that maybe* we could talk in one or two weeks. The following day, he talked about going no contact, which, confused me. I tried communicating that I understood what he wanted, tried to apologize, and was about to state my feelings and what I wanted. He cut me off, and threatened to block me if I didn't shut up and go along with what he wanted. He has autism, ADHD, and sexual trauma, so I understand he might be having a rough time. I also have those three disorders, and I realized I may have some of the symptoms of BPD because there is a high comorbidity between those disorders. Understanding and accepting boundaries, especially ones where I am estranged from a partner I was in a healthy relationship with, really confuse and emotionally upset me, and I'm still working through those feelings now. I'm sure a lot of people in the comments feel this way, so it's good that people in the ASD, ADHD, CPTSD, and BPD communities are creating a space to discuss it.
Autism and consent...I have so much to say on this topic. Too much, tbh. I've heard people claim that autistic people can never consent period. I've heard claims that we don't deserve autonomy regarding hygiene, sex, etc. I've heard people say that we don't have any sexual feelings at all, and sex scares us...there's a lot of harmful opinions/misinformation out there, so it's good to see someone debunking that stuff.
Consent is really importent for everyone and sadly, even mire so for autists since we are disproportionally effected by coersion. Especially high masking women are taught that how ee feel is not valid, and we have to people please to be good people, always prioritising what another wants, leading to a lot of sexual trauma cause we are activly taught we have no right to bounderies. On the other hand, ensuring consent with someone nonverbal or with selective mutism is a difficult task that requires a lot of awareness, but that does not mean no autist could ever give valid consent either!!! There is a huge overlap between acespectrum and autiem, but it is in no way an universal trait and not that rarely we can find ourselfs on the opposite end if the spectrum too! So yeah, there are absolutely different circunstances that need consideration at the topic of sex with autists, but treating such a vide spectrum of peoole with entirely different mental capabilities and otger traits as a monolith is insane
@@SingingSealRiana I definitely agree with that. I've never understood the human tendency to see people with autism, mental health struggles, refugees, etc. as one huge monolith. People are all different; they may have overlapping similarities, but they sure as Hell ain't all a huge monolith
13:33 I've also felt like I could never deal with a young child. Crying and screams of joy are just the worst sounds in the world. Teenager could be alright, I feel like I have a lot I could teach a kid.
We are happy with you saying how you feel in the moment (I'm talking about how you said you might not make more content), even if you change your mind. My AuDHD friend does this all the time too, so I'm pretty sure most of us here either experience it or understand it. P.S. I squealed in autistic when I saw this video 😂❤
I totally agree with you on the having kids thing! I've always thought that people should have to get a license to have kids. You have to have a license for driving, marriage, practicing medicine, gun ownership (depending on your region), so why not have to take courses and get licensed in order to raise the next generation of humans?
It's the practical matter of how tyrannical invasive and terrifying the implementation of that would be. In a perfect world only wanted children to prepared loving parents would ever be born. However, there isn't a way to implement this without grave injustice.
@@rebeccaholcombe9043 oh, totally, and that's why it couldn't work, but I'll never not wish it could be a thing that could be implemented in a fair and just manner.
@@burns_o_maticThere could be courses you take to say you have finished a certain amount of units to satisfy a state or national standard. Not a certification or license process, but just enough course units to say you know enough. Then you could have kids anytime after that.
I agree that talking with kids about sexual things is protecting them because without the knowledge they're more vulnerable and easily manipulated. Also I'm autistic and asexual and my boyfriend is autistic ADHD and hypersexual. We're queer in different ways too I don't wanna have kids because it would be bad for me and them but it's mostly because of my other disabilities
This is a great video. I watched all on Incognito ( pfft). You were and are definitely right in a lot of ways I think. I like what you’ve been pushing, and I think while watching I could understand more. I do respect what you are doing here for sure, and at least it feels like somebody has it out for you with videos like these. The course on the parenting thing is something I never thought about. Eyebrow raised. Smart. I’m impressed, you are very smart. I’m a fan. I’m really resistant I think to the idea of being educated so that’s pretty much a big part of any issues I had with teachers. But you have been one of the few dope exceptions, thank you.🙏 Anyways.🚶♂️🚶. I also feel like your recent videos from what I have seen on here, kinda connect with me a little bit more in comparison to some last year let’s say.🤷♂️🚶🚶♂️.
Unfortunately I feel like masking makes it harder to ask important questions because we understand and are hyper aware of the taboo surrounding them. Which sucks because those questions are especially important for autistic people.
Hey. I'm autistic. I have a tattoo with puzzle pieces. I got it before I knew the sentiment around the puzzle piece. I never viewed the piece as a negative. It's like society is a puzzle, and everyone fits in somewhere. I HATE Autism Speaks!! Is something like my tattoo offensive?
Hé Paige, 4 générations on the autistic spectrum, that is à lot of autistic children raised by autistic parents. This gives us a joyful big family with passions and special interests sometimes a little bit different. That's my family. Thanks for your video!
5:10 (not negative/mad) It's a little wrong. Asexuals are not those who just don't want to have sex. I know you wanted to put it simply but it's a little misleading, since asexuals are those who do not *experience* sexual attraction. We can still want to have sex, we just don't feel the attraction (or feel it really little but that's not the focus of the video) Apart from that, thank you for the video! 🤍
Some thoughts, randomly assorted: First of all, thank you for the video, sharing these perspectives is really valuable! 13:45 felt this so much! :'D Also I love your tattoos!
Sexed needs so much more consent talk! Like so much more, especially how not only no is a no, but also as long as it is not a freely given yes, its not consent!!! Many for people pleasing raised high masking autists, setting bounderies themselfs is almost a foreign concept! We are disproportionaly effected by coersion! But not just us, especially rewoking consent and that consent for one thing is not consent for another is a frighteningly foreign concept for many. Ontop, not teaching boys about female biology is absolutely insane, especially with the cishet assumption that lead to seperated sexed makes it so stupid. Guys are expected to have a girlfriend, and then act and feel like she is a mythical being, not undrrstand anything about how the body they want and are "supposed" to be intimat with.... Giving her the feeling she is gross, wrong, lying and hurt her with misconceptions..... How is that benificial, how is it irrelevant fir them to learn that?! Especially given it is mostly men who later make laws about the female body
i’m an autistic 15 year old girl with low support needs and i’m still trying to figure out how sex works. like don’t peoples legs get uncomfortable lol? how would it work on a couch? i dont get it. every aspect of it seems like it would be very uncomfortable and scary. i dont think im asexual, but i just feel like it would hurt. and i think id get really cold too. and dont guys get uncomfortable standing for that long? i for sure would wanna sit down after like a minute. i don’t get kissing either.. why the hell would i want someone’s slobber on me? ew ew ew. and holding hands? get your sweaty grimy hand off my sweaty grimy hand!
your video is very important but your description of asexuality was definitely incorrect. Asexuality just means experiencing little to no sexual attraction. Even though most asexual people are sex-aversed , asexual people can be interested in sex or have fun in the practice of intercourse!
This was barely touched on and I think needed a lot more lip time in this video: Autistic adults (I didn't date in high school or college) naviating dating are in dangerous territory. Allistic people operate heavily in a non-verbal way when it comes to sex and intimacy. Most autistic people don't pick up those signals and cues, and are confused when searching for them. Even worse, we might accidentally send a signal and don't have a clue. It should be obvious how this leads to higher victimazation of sexual assault and rape, especially from women. An autistic woman is the woman who invited you back to her place to watch a movie, and not to "mess around" or have any sex. Obviously the danger is there for an allistic guy who starts things with presumption and confidence, and ultimately horrible if he doesn't stop or is so aggressive stopping doesn't seem like an option. The flip side (I am a man) isn't all too great either but I definitely have felt the pressure/hint to perform, and (allistic) women in general very much drop hints and non verbal clues rather than ever saying what it is they're after. This combined with the fact that a guy who misses too many of their signals is just "no," and then drops the situation with equally unclear or no communication on things makes for a very deflating experience.
Guess why I've decided that I'm only going to date other autistic people I'm genuinely afraid of nt ppl when it comes to dating and sex, cause nonverbal shit
I can hear the audio. But only in the left channel. Looks like Paige set the narration audio track on her editor to stereo and only for one channel. A workaround I would suggest for the meantime: Go into your computer settings and set your audio to mono. Or Dual mono, depending on what you're using.
As an autistic male I can afirm that asking a female for explicit concent immediately prior to sex is a great way to kill the mood and reduce likelihood of having sex to maby 10%. Knowing my gay male friends I don't think it would be a problem to ask for concent prior to engagement. You could probably discuss your boundaries before getting in bed and they would likely be good with it unless you are with a person who doesn't like to talk about sex and they will likely give you good indication if thats the case. I think ensuring you are not taking advantage of a person is foremost. Provided the previous and your partner is actively participating, taking things really slow and ensuring the other person is aware and understanding prior to commencement is a good idea. Be sure to pay attention to your partners verbal and non verbal language if they look uncomfortable or say anything indicating they don't want to have sex or do something specifically. Find out what they are thinking, be kind and respect their boundaries, remember no means no. Talk it out be kind and don't be demanding. That's the best advice I have at this point. I could be wrong, every person is unique and has had unique experiences and trauma and will respond accordingly.
th-cam.com/video/RxuawduXh9c/w-d-xo.html All of the views contained in this portion of the video are illogical allistic perspectives Paige has been conditioned to repeat lol
th-cam.com/video/RxuawduXh9c/w-d-xo.html Because it's so fair that some random loser can get drunk, get pregnant, do drugs through the whole pregnancy, neglect their child who then goes on to be a loser who harms others lol
"Autistic people shouldn't have children" Agreed. I have ONE CHILD (whom I love dearly and I'm so happy to have the privilege of raising), and ONE is enough. Lmao 😂
Why does anyone need to learn anything? To be well informed. Just because cis men can't get pregnant doesn't mean we don't need to know about it to be able to support people who can get/are pregnant.😊
Why? Sexuality is so often discouraged in us and she wants to encourage us to explore it the same ways that NTs do. She's not forcing people to take them.
@@forgenorman3025 it's weird man to talk about it tell you how to get it maybe but to encourage and influence sex and then tell parents to get their teenagers them that's so weird and dangerous a lot of us can be interested at first then wind up in a situation and not know how to get out of it she talks about us being targeting that's why she's doing it but it's like um well I don't think she has enough life experience to be talking on the topic honestly it's inappropriate and she didn't think it through. Making an autistic be influenced sexually is dangerous can lead to being targeted for sexual abuse., stds yeast infections just from toys if they have executive challenges they already have issues with hygiene not to mention the dangers of high masking to keep up with someone else's sexual expectations can lead to depression alcoholism drug addiction did you know that autistics are twice as likely to be alcoholics or addicted to a substance also the highest rate of suicide is autistic teenages so I think for these reasons you should try to influence something that has so many risk it's dangerous and irresponsible I'm autistic I was non-verbal until I was 7 and I stop talking again from 10 to 11 I ran away away from home at 12 because my older brother who also is autistic was confused on what love meant and tried to molest me I never went back home I met many strangers that tried to pray on me like I said Paige honey I get what your trying to do empower us but I'm 38 I've experienced a lot your not thinking this through and honestly i. Never slept around growing up. Even in my older age and thats what makes me a good quality women sex is something that is suppose to be special not acting like it's collecting charms on a bracelet so weird
I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing, neither is talking about topics regarding sex openly. It's taboo because people continue to see it as something that shouldn't be discussed, and discussing it openly removes that stigma. Plus, it's entirely voluntary. You don't have to get one if you don't want one, but the option is there.
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Are you familiar with the videos of someone named Amy Gravino?
Separating sex ed by genders truly is one of the most ridiculous ideas somebody has ever come up with. To already assume all people to be straight and cisgender, and then assume they're later gonna enter heterosexual relationships, and yet NOT let them learn anything about each other... who's idea was this lol
Why do they need to be in the same classroom to learn about sex? I do not understand why this comment has so many likes. The majority of people will be cisgendered, that is just a fact. I am sure they do it for the protection of both genders, so they can actually focus on what is being taught and not on how awkward or hilarious it is to be talking about those things in the presence of the opposite sex (as a young person). Also, did I miss how this comment is relevant to the video at all, except for the broad subject of sex in general?
@@AmaranthineIntrigueyou missed the point entirely, they are not demanding girls and boys being in the same room, they are complaining about how boys abd girls are tought different things as in, boys receive no education at all about periods to then later freak out at their girlfriends, ... If the assumption is, that everyone is cus, then yes it is extremely stupid to act like biys will never be faced and in contact with the female repriductive systhem!!! Thats the core if the argument and it is solid as as hell.
@@AmaranthineIntrigue Thanks to the other commenter for clearing up my point further, but yes! Paige brings this topic up very briefly at around 17:45. They don't all have to physically be in the same room (although, a little bit of awkwardness isn't the worst thing if you present even just the barest basics in an age-appropriate manner), but the fact that most people ARE cisgender and straight makes it weird to me that they don't learn anything about each other, oftentimes right up until they're IN the act.
I remember seeing viral videos where the joke is "haha, men don't understand how a vulva works at all", and it's kinda funny until I realize there's a good chance nobody bothered teach those men anything when they were younger. How are they supposed to know how stuff works if they don't know how to find educational resources? It's not cool to hide information from people, then laugh at them when they don't get it.
@@SingingSealRiana oh, I didn't know that. I never had sex ed in school since I am older. I did not say "everyone" but "most". Thaks fot answering my question.
@@kkuudandere thanks, It makes more sense now. I agree both sexes should learn about each other. But I guess they could still do this seperately.
Teenagers are the most difficult group to find homes for after family breakdown. Everyone tends to gravitate to younger children and the older ones get neglected and left in social services group homes. Having fostered a teenager myself I encourage everyone to consider the older ones; it's a huge challenge, but very rewarding.
Only found out I'm autistic after as I'm late diagnosis. As a single parent, having three teenage boys was not as difficult as people would imagine. Give it a go.
I am so glad to see you back. My daughter is 2 and was just diagnosed with autism at the end of last month. Because of your videos, I have so much more knowledge about ABA. Your passion and openness really informed me and I realized that I needed to do more research and talk to other autistic adults. You are so intelligent and articulate and your passion really shines through.
In addition, I sent my 20 year old son your video explaining PDA. He connected on almost every statement you made. He is now looking into autism as a possibility for himself. That's such a huge deal because he was adamant before he watched you that he was definitely not autistic and he thought I was ridiculous for even bringing it up. You're out here really helping people who are so confused and I appreciate you ❤
The Paige in the left ear only is really tripping me out LOL
Never thought I'd be able to say that Paige's microphone gave us mono
How dare the!::! ::kendo,::kdendifpg! (It’s okay i just felt like over reacting for the lol)
I was going crazy tweaking my audio settings, I thought I messed up my headphones!
I didnt even notice wth
Noticed this immediately, and had me fumbling with my ear buds!! Lol
Autistic people are capable of understanding and practicing consent, just like anyone else. They may, however, benefit from clear, direct communication due to differences in social and non-verbal cues. Teaching and discussing consent in a straightforward, explicit manner can be helpful.
Thats a generalisation I csn not agree with, given a third of autists is heavenly cognitive impaired acting like they can be treated like anyone else feels neglegent.
We are very much not a monolith and it is importend to remember that and treat each case accordingly.
Another thing is, that especially high masking women are taught, that our feelings are invalid, we have no right to bounderies and that we have to accomodate and people please, making establishing health communication around consent as well as rewoking consent really hard and a potential partner needs to be aware of that.
For many of us it feels, like saying no was never an option and we have to unlearn it.
Another problem is, that communicating consent, and it being rewoked can be quite hard, if you are nonverbal or experience selective mutism, your partner needs to be aware and accomodating on a whole nother level there too!
Sadly all of those factors lead to autistic people often being taken advantage of and disproportionatelly experience sexual trauma which in many cases, the partner neither intended nor is aware of.
On the flip side, when we have struggles with nonverbal communication, we might not get a hint, without being clearly told.
So no, an autists relationship with consent is not "just like everyone elses"
Boys/AMAB should absolutely learn about the female anatomy. I'm so sick of hearing stories about male (and even some female) teachers saying that girls "pee out the blood" when they're menstruating or telling girls/AFAB to "just hold it" when they need to change out their products.
It is so importent, especially given it is often men who end up making laes and rules impacting women about that stuff with having no clue in the slightest
Amab but trans femme. I was so frustrated in 5th grade when they separated us for sex ed. Like wtf we need to know that stuff too!
Yep, having kids is sensorily difficult. The noise, the smells, the contact, the lack of sleep, lack of alone time, the having to deal with others on their behalf, etc., etc., etc. It's helpful to have a supportive partner who does their share, minimum (settle for no less). I did it, got through it; kids are funny, lots of good times. But knowing what I know now about myself (Audhd), I wouldn't have done it/wouldn't do it again.
The right audio channel for this video is completely mute. It really bugs me.
This is why I prefer to use a mono channel and leave it balanced when recording my voice.
I disagree with the idea that lots of folks have that autistic people shouldn't be able to consent, or that autistic people should be overprotected sexually or given things like Benperidol.
I think a lot of fetish culture is actually really healthy for autistic folks, who might find certain forms of sexual appreciation, action and gratification to be more manageable. Maybe the concept of having to slowly coordinate pelvic motions is overwhelming but sexuality that is more "hands on", where each person can go at a different rate, works better. And many autistic folks like heavy, percussive pressure, but find more conventional, gentle sex in the context of heterosexuality to be overwhelming - neurotypicals in general seem to think that sensory aversion is always about basic intensity, when high-intensity things might be more soothing and predictable than light, high-"complexity" situations.
I do think sex ed should be open to teaching about kinks and promote the validity of non-PIV sexual acts, in addition to teaching acceptance of LGBT individuals. I also think that abstinence-only sex education is ridiculous, especially "abstinence till marriage".
I also don't think the whole purpose of sex ed is to condone and condemn certain sex acts or teach kids the "proper" way to have sex, just as a music class teaching Western classical and standard notation shouldn't condemn MIDI roll, jazz improv, or the cool shit Merzbow does (if you look it up, just know that I'm personally a "sound sensory seeker" and you might be overwhelmed with his music).
Yes, yes, yes! I also wondered why no one talks about experimentation in sex. The usual discourse around sex is so rigid, leaves no room. How are you supposed to seek what you need if you don't even know what's possible?
I get that trying things out and being safe is like threading a fine line, especially when a lot of noobs assume porn is how things should be done. But I don't think there's an ultimate truth for how to start things off unfortunately 😒
As an autistic woman who wants to have kids one day , I want to thank you so much for saying that about autistic woman having autistic kids . Those people that you’re mad at cannot stop my happiness because once I’m married , I’m having kids and nobody can stop me. If people don’t like it , “boo hoo , waaaaah , you’re mad because you cannot control disabled people’s bodies hahaha screw you .” Yeah it’s always been my dream to be a mother and I know I’ll be an amazing mother and they cannot crush my dreams . It will happen no matter what .
Just go in knowing that children can be an overwhelming sensory experience and either have a plan to deal with those situations and be prepared with secondary and tertiary plans. Also, your children may have needs that are opposite of yours. Son is 16 and still continuely amazed by same and different to and from me he is.
Hey thanks for the unmasking thing. I have bookmarked it and will take it after an assessment confirms my shit (which might be a while, Jeezy Creezy, that shit is expensive!). You say you created it with the confused 15 year old who doesn't really know who they are in mind? Try being 51 and having NEVER known who you are! Frankly, it sucks. So feel good knowing that you're going to be helping more than just teenagers. You done a good thing (and way more affordable than an assessment).😊
I agree with some of your controversial takes. I always found it stupid how people striving to be adoptive parents have to jump through so, so many hoops, but for those having biological kids, there's literally nothing, they could be a psychopath, a criminal, anything. And we cannot stop them because reproductive rights. But where are those reproductive rights when abortion is banned in some places? Why does it not go both ways? It all should be the same. First off, as you said, people should have the full information, then choose to opt in or opt out. And also the same rules should apply whether someone has a biological or adoptive child.... the systems are truly broken.
I totally agree. The only valid reason why we don't control who can make children is that we don't know how to do it morally because for example we would have to know how and who should decide who can be a parent and then how to make sure people won't make children regardless
Adopting older children and teenagers is one of the most big-hearted and impactful things one can do.
I hope you will do that some day, Paige, and you‘ll be a great parent to them I‘m sure ❤
She's back!
I love you so much Paige . You actually have contributed to me so much in learning about my autism . You’re an awesome human being and you deserve the best life possible ever . :) Also hopefully, this is okay to share but I’m autistic and hypersexual . It’s important to realize that autistic people can also be on the other end of the spectrum too .
Thank you for being here Paige, in whatever state you are. Love!
That YAAAAAAAY sound effect gave me the biggest jump scare! 😭 Excited to see you again ❤
Thankfully I was asked to give a boundaries and communication talk with some of the disabled students and we all shared how disability led to some bad situations.
Great to see you back!!
I'm autistic and I love having sex! I also had to learn about safe sex mostly through internet searches and better-informed peers and partners
I ..didn’t know that my history with “allowing things” I did not consent to and feeling unable to stand up for myself in given moments..was related. In my case it was I who didn’t have boundaries (had narc parents), and since I was largely nonverbal I had numerous incidents where I didn’t know how to stop the situation and basically just “let it happen”. It would be years before I learned about assault, etc. I’m learning something today. This content is very much needed out here..thank you 🙏🏼
One aspect of autism sexuality that isn't talked about a lot and I'm certainly curious if this is a thing. Is it possible that a lot of autistic people may have sexual kinks of fetishes? Particularly if said fetishes are tied to one's special interests?
I feel like this topic isn't discussed at all for three reasons: The first being the myths that Paige talks about where so many ignorant NT's think that autistic people can't have sex. The second is within some of those fetish groups, where there is still a stigma around autism and the misconception that it makes one childlike, thus autistic people are very less likely to be open about it within those groups. And the third because so many people are uncomfortable with talking about kinks and fetishes in the first place. Either because of embarrassment, or those eager to kink shame others.
So it makes me wonder if this topic should be talked about a lot more.
Yup
I would say that a lot of autistic/adhd people who want to be sexual find a lot of comfort in the kink community - though not all kink is necessarily sexual. When you break it down, there's an element of stimming in certain areas of kink, there's a lot of clear discussion, specified boundaries and expectations etc.
Oh absolutly, just think about how bdsm and kink are highly accomodating, clear established bounderies, if you dont know what to do, you can have your partner give you exact directions, if reciving and giving at the same time is to much, being bound absolves you of that responsability, being gagged means you are jot expected to talk, when verbality is dificult for you when exited. Non sexuell pet play gives you affection without needing to conform, sensory imput can get controlled very well, the consent discussion and checking in if its still ok, as well as the normalisation of rewoking consent are on another level!!
There is quite a chance of the whole thing having been invented by autists.
While the kink community is not free of bigotry, there are definitely a lot of openly autistic people in kink spaces. Ive heard of autistic people having sex or a specific kink be a special interest, I've met multiple autistics who used sex as a form of sensory seeking, etc. People are just afraid to acknowledge it.
@@LilChuunosuke I can't begin to tell you how many documentaries/articles/TH-cam videos/books/etc. I have consumed on the topics of sex, LGBTQ+, pornography, and the adult entertainment industry. I was telling my therapist that I felt like I didn't have much in the way of special interests, then she pointed out that those were my special interest. I just can't infodump about it because... awkward. 😅
OMG UR BACKK IM SO HAPPY!!
Welcome back, homie!
Audio only playing on the left side >.>
They at least need to learn that its OK never to have had sex.
17:05- My ex dumped me because he said he was not emotionally ready for a relationship. A week passed, and I still had a lot of unresolved emotions and wants, because he really did not set clear boundaries after the breakup. One afternoon, he texted me, saying he needed space, and that maybe* we could talk in one or two weeks. The following day, he talked about going no contact, which, confused me. I tried communicating that I understood what he wanted, tried to apologize, and was about to state my feelings and what I wanted. He cut me off, and threatened to block me if I didn't shut up and go along with what he wanted.
He has autism, ADHD, and sexual trauma, so I understand he might be having a rough time. I also have those three disorders, and I realized I may have some of the symptoms of BPD because there is a high comorbidity between those disorders. Understanding and accepting boundaries, especially ones where I am estranged from a partner I was in a healthy relationship with, really confuse and emotionally upset me, and I'm still working through those feelings now.
I'm sure a lot of people in the comments feel this way, so it's good that people in the ASD, ADHD, CPTSD, and BPD communities are creating a space to discuss it.
Autism and consent...I have so much to say on this topic. Too much, tbh.
I've heard people claim that autistic people can never consent period. I've heard claims that we don't deserve autonomy regarding hygiene, sex, etc. I've heard people say that we don't have any sexual feelings at all, and sex scares us...there's a lot of harmful opinions/misinformation out there, so it's good to see someone debunking that stuff.
Consent is really importent for everyone and sadly, even mire so for autists since we are disproportionally effected by coersion.
Especially high masking women are taught that how ee feel is not valid, and we have to people please to be good people, always prioritising what another wants, leading to a lot of sexual trauma cause we are activly taught we have no right to bounderies.
On the other hand, ensuring consent with someone nonverbal or with selective mutism is a difficult task that requires a lot of awareness, but that does not mean no autist could ever give valid consent either!!!
There is a huge overlap between acespectrum and autiem, but it is in no way an universal trait and not that rarely we can find ourselfs on the opposite end if the spectrum too!
So yeah, there are absolutely different circunstances that need consideration at the topic of sex with autists, but treating such a vide spectrum of peoole with entirely different mental capabilities and otger traits as a monolith is insane
@@SingingSealRiana I definitely agree with that. I've never understood the human tendency to see people with autism, mental health struggles, refugees, etc. as one huge monolith.
People are all different; they may have overlapping similarities, but they sure as Hell ain't all a huge monolith
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Paige: You can't just sterilize people.
USA: *Laughs in Buck v. Bell, 274 U.S. 200 (1927)*
I was gonna say like over half of states have not consensual sterilization legalized 😭😭
I’m so happy you’re back! ❤
13:33 I've also felt like I could never deal with a young child. Crying and screams of joy are just the worst sounds in the world. Teenager could be alright, I feel like I have a lot I could teach a kid.
I missed you too!!!! Hope things are good in Paige land
Also you are only in one ear this time.
We are happy with you saying how you feel in the moment (I'm talking about how you said you might not make more content), even if you change your mind. My AuDHD friend does this all the time too, so I'm pretty sure most of us here either experience it or understand it.
P.S. I squealed in autistic when I saw this video 😂❤
I know you aren’t looking to be active on social media anymore but I still love the upload. Edit: Ouuuu the surprise at the end
Good to see you recovered. No explanations needed.
Just glad to see your content, do whatever makes you feel the best
Welcome back Paige
I totally agree with you on the having kids thing! I've always thought that people should have to get a license to have kids. You have to have a license for driving, marriage, practicing medicine, gun ownership (depending on your region), so why not have to take courses and get licensed in order to raise the next generation of humans?
It's the practical matter of how tyrannical invasive and terrifying the implementation of that would be. In a perfect world only wanted children to prepared loving parents would ever be born. However, there isn't a way to implement this without grave injustice.
@@rebeccaholcombe9043 oh, totally, and that's why it couldn't work, but I'll never not wish it could be a thing that could be implemented in a fair and just manner.
@@burns_o_maticThere could be courses you take to say you have finished a certain amount of units to satisfy a state or national standard. Not a certification or license process, but just enough course units to say you know enough. Then you could have kids anytime after that.
Good video Paige!!! Welcome back!!!!
I agree that talking with kids about sexual things is protecting them because without the knowledge they're more vulnerable and easily manipulated.
Also I'm autistic and asexual and my boyfriend is autistic ADHD and hypersexual. We're queer in different ways too
I don't wanna have kids because it would be bad for me and them but it's mostly because of my other disabilities
Thank you for the video paige i loved your book and love your content💜✨
Thank you for going here! Thank you for being you!
I defenitely need a checklist of Green and Red flags regarding relationships.
This is a great video. I watched all on Incognito ( pfft). You were and are definitely right in a lot of ways I think. I like what you’ve been pushing, and I think while watching I could understand more. I do respect what you are doing here for sure, and at least it feels like somebody has it out for you with videos like these. The course on the parenting thing is something I never thought about. Eyebrow raised. Smart. I’m impressed, you are very smart. I’m a fan. I’m really resistant I think to the idea of being educated so that’s pretty much a big part of any issues I had with teachers. But you have been one of the few dope exceptions, thank you.🙏 Anyways.🚶♂️🚶. I also feel like your recent videos from what I have seen on here, kinda connect with me a little bit more in comparison to some last year let’s say.🤷♂️🚶🚶♂️.
Same 🙋♂️. But at the same time, I don’t think things are gonna change. ( I grew pessimistic 🤷♂️).
Unfortunately I feel like masking makes it harder to ask important questions because we understand and are hyper aware of the taboo surrounding them. Which sucks because those questions are especially important for autistic people.
Paige... Keep up the excellent work... Sincerely, Clayton Crawford
I think this deserves a re-upload, in stereo. I want the education in both ears. 👍
Hey. I'm autistic. I have a tattoo with puzzle pieces. I got it before I knew the sentiment around the puzzle piece. I never viewed the piece as a negative. It's like society is a puzzle, and everyone fits in somewhere. I HATE Autism Speaks!! Is something like my tattoo offensive?
Happy Halloween Season to the Most Beautiful Paige!!
Hé Paige, 4 générations on the autistic spectrum, that is à lot of autistic children raised by autistic parents. This gives us a joyful big family with passions and special interests sometimes a little bit different. That's my family. Thanks for your video!
Thank you for including myth #5
Thanks so much for another superb vid! Btw you look just gorgeous in your pigtails!!!🎀🎀
Welcome back!!
Love your work. Idk if i'm autistic but I am certified ND lmao with Tourette's. Def have great videos.
I lobe you so much Paige im so happy i found you :)))❤❤
56 late diagnosed love your work!!
I wish there were youtubers for Non-Verbal Learning Disability, like there are for Autism.
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(not negative/mad) It's a little wrong. Asexuals are not those who just don't want to have sex. I know you wanted to put it simply but it's a little misleading, since asexuals are those who do not *experience* sexual attraction. We can still want to have sex, we just don't feel the attraction (or feel it really little but that's not the focus of the video)
Apart from that, thank you for the video! 🤍
Paige only being in my left ear feels like she's in the room aaaaaa
Dad to three freaking awesome kids here. I honestly think you could do a great job raising kids if you choose to, however you go about it.
if the sound is bothering you and you have an iphone, you can go to audio settings and make it play in the right ear
Some thoughts, randomly assorted:
First of all, thank you for the video, sharing these perspectives is really valuable!
13:45 felt this so much! :'D
Also I love your tattoos!
Sexed needs so much more consent talk! Like so much more, especially how not only no is a no, but also as long as it is not a freely given yes, its not consent!!!
Many for people pleasing raised high masking autists, setting bounderies themselfs is almost a foreign concept! We are disproportionaly effected by coersion! But not just us, especially rewoking consent and that consent for one thing is not consent for another is a frighteningly foreign concept for many.
Ontop, not teaching boys about female biology is absolutely insane, especially with the cishet assumption that lead to seperated sexed makes it so stupid. Guys are expected to have a girlfriend, and then act and feel like she is a mythical being, not undrrstand anything about how the body they want and are "supposed" to be intimat with.... Giving her the feeling she is gross, wrong, lying and hurt her with misconceptions..... How is that benificial, how is it irrelevant fir them to learn that?!
Especially given it is mostly men who later make laws about the female body
"pre-made kid" 😄 love it
I was so confused because I only have my headphones in my right ear 😭😭
My left ear really enjoyed this vdeo
I literally was just thinking everything is a phase. Gud vibeo thank.
i’m an autistic 15 year old girl with low support needs and i’m still trying to figure out how sex works. like don’t peoples legs get uncomfortable lol? how would it work on a couch? i dont get it. every aspect of it seems like it would be very uncomfortable and scary. i dont think im asexual, but i just feel like it would hurt. and i think id get really cold too. and dont guys get uncomfortable standing for that long? i for sure would wanna sit down after like a minute.
i don’t get kissing either.. why the hell would i want someone’s slobber on me? ew ew ew. and holding hands? get your sweaty grimy hand off my sweaty grimy hand!
Amazing vide but I hear every little noise it's like sensory overload ASMR hahwdhdh
Lol I'm using my right earbud only, and i hear every word perfectly.
Congratulations 🎉. ❤❤❤.
Good video Paige
Me struggleling to watch this bc it's only playing in one side of my headphones
your video is very important but your description of asexuality was definitely incorrect. Asexuality just means experiencing little to no sexual attraction. Even though most asexual people are sex-aversed , asexual people can be interested in sex or have fun in the practice of intercourse!
this is rally helpful i am so confused help me
Yay, btw more people definitely.
I couldnt watch because hearing you in only one side of my headphones is creeping me out DDD: I'm sorry
why is it only on my left ear
Hi Paige.
Vuggin' SWIM!
-my new f'sho!
I think Amy Gravino's sex ed. for self-advocates is great.
This was barely touched on and I think needed a lot more lip time in this video:
Autistic adults (I didn't date in high school or college) naviating dating are in dangerous territory. Allistic people operate heavily in a non-verbal way when it comes to sex and intimacy. Most autistic people don't pick up those signals and cues, and are confused when searching for them. Even worse, we might accidentally send a signal and don't have a clue. It should be obvious how this leads to higher victimazation of sexual assault and rape, especially from women. An autistic woman is the woman who invited you back to her place to watch a movie, and not to "mess around" or have any sex. Obviously the danger is there for an allistic guy who starts things with presumption and confidence, and ultimately horrible if he doesn't stop or is so aggressive stopping doesn't seem like an option. The flip side (I am a man) isn't all too great either but I definitely have felt the pressure/hint to perform, and (allistic) women in general very much drop hints and non verbal clues rather than ever saying what it is they're after. This combined with the fact that a guy who misses too many of their signals is just "no," and then drops the situation with equally unclear or no communication on things makes for a very deflating experience.
Guess why I've decided that I'm only going to date other autistic people
I'm genuinely afraid of nt ppl when it comes to dating and sex, cause nonverbal shit
Why is your voice only in my left ear????
Blud really got a vibrator sponsor.
No sound?
A sex toy sponsor? Did I click on a Caitlin V video? 😉
There's no audio
I can hear the audio. But only in the left channel. Looks like Paige set the narration audio track on her editor to stereo and only for one channel.
A workaround I would suggest for the meantime: Go into your computer settings and set your audio to mono. Or Dual mono, depending on what you're using.
I can't listen to this video, there are random sounds that are really upsetting
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As an autistic male I can afirm that asking a female for explicit concent immediately prior to sex is a great way to kill the mood and reduce likelihood of having sex to maby 10%.
Knowing my gay male friends I don't think it would be a problem to ask for concent prior to engagement. You could probably discuss your boundaries before getting in bed and they would likely be good with it unless you are with a person who doesn't like to talk about sex and they will likely give you good indication if thats the case.
I think ensuring you are not taking advantage of a person is foremost.
Provided the previous and your partner is actively participating, taking things really slow and ensuring the other person is aware and understanding prior to commencement is a good idea.
Be sure to pay attention to your partners verbal and non verbal language if they look uncomfortable or say anything indicating they don't want to have sex or do something specifically. Find out what they are thinking, be kind and respect their boundaries, remember no means no. Talk it out be kind and don't be demanding.
That's the best advice I have at this point. I could be wrong, every person is unique and has had unique experiences and trauma and will respond accordingly.
Welcome back page
th-cam.com/video/RxuawduXh9c/w-d-xo.html All of the views contained in this portion of the video are illogical allistic perspectives Paige has been conditioned to repeat lol
th-cam.com/video/RxuawduXh9c/w-d-xo.html Because it's so fair that some random loser can get drunk, get pregnant, do drugs through the whole pregnancy, neglect their child who then goes on to be a loser who harms others lol
"Autistic people shouldn't have children"
Agreed.
I have ONE CHILD (whom I love dearly and I'm so happy to have the privilege of raising), and ONE is enough. Lmao 😂
Well, sex is necessarily a social activity. Of course autists would benefit from some intentional coursework. And so would everyone else!
If you care so much about sexual information why did you delete my comment
@@IgotproofimblessedASD Probably because it was rude and offered no information, just your personal feelings about a subject.
@@IgotproofimblessedASD Either that, or it was YT and not Paige, because you used a word they don't like. That's far more likely.
Why do guys need to learn about pregnancy?
eh? ... Why shouldn't people learn about pregnancy? It's just as important for men to understand how to support their pregnant partners.
Why does anyone need to learn anything? To be well informed. Just because cis men can't get pregnant doesn't mean we don't need to know about it to be able to support people who can get/are pregnant.😊
Great that ur educating people but u giving everyone vibrators is kinda weird and I'm autistic
Why? Sexuality is so often discouraged in us and she wants to encourage us to explore it the same ways that NTs do. She's not forcing people to take them.
@@forgenorman3025 it's weird man to talk about it tell you how to get it maybe but to encourage and influence sex and then tell parents to get their teenagers them that's so weird and dangerous a lot of us can be interested at first then wind up in a situation and not know how to get out of it she talks about us being targeting that's why she's doing it but it's like um well I don't think she has enough life experience to be talking on the topic honestly it's inappropriate and she didn't think it through. Making an autistic be influenced sexually is dangerous can lead to being targeted for sexual abuse., stds yeast infections just from toys if they have executive challenges they already have issues with hygiene not to mention the dangers of high masking to keep up with someone else's sexual expectations can lead to depression alcoholism drug addiction did you know that autistics are twice as likely to be alcoholics or addicted to a substance also the highest rate of suicide is autistic teenages so I think for these reasons you should try to influence something that has so many risk it's dangerous and irresponsible
I'm autistic I was non-verbal until I was 7 and I stop talking again from 10 to 11 I ran away away from home at 12 because my older brother who also is autistic was confused on what love meant and tried to molest me I never went back home I met many strangers that tried to pray on me like I said Paige honey I get what your trying to do empower us but I'm 38 I've experienced a lot your not thinking this through and honestly i. Never slept around growing up. Even in my older age and thats what makes me a good quality women sex is something that is suppose to be special not acting like it's collecting charms on a bracelet so weird
I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing, neither is talking about topics regarding sex openly. It's taboo because people continue to see it as something that shouldn't be discussed, and discussing it openly removes that stigma. Plus, it's entirely voluntary. You don't have to get one if you don't want one, but the option is there.
I skipped over the ad but is she really giving out vibrators or is she promoting them so then adults can go purchase them if they choose?
@@heatherwilliams3748 no she's giving them away
Talk about sex if u think it helps but giving vibrators is weird think about it
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