Yup. 😢 be compassionate and understanding to the man's sensitivity. Then the man can be soft and sensitive in return becuz a morale boost goes a long way. If men can be understanding and compassionate to their women is a sign of him being caring, so those feeling should be recipricated as well.
Is answer sounded good but it rarely if ever works. Yes we would like to be able to open up to our women but they usually throw it back in are face sometime down the road or they start to lose respect and cheat. The real answer is men just can’t open up to women ever maybe their mother but she’s still going to say man up and get it done.
Nah. He isnt on here enough. His wisdom needs to be shared. That means more views. I wanna be tired of seeing & hearing this man & the truths he brings. He does need to have honest discussions like these in room of only men. Teaching the next generation of men how to teach the next generation of men.
Seems like this may be exactly where he needs to be. More men probably need to hear this and women as well. We ALL want to feel safe, LOVED and PROTECTED, Amen???🙏🏾 ❤
@dlee6014 I'm not disputing him doing his own thing. But he can't have a conversation with himself. He needs to answer questions from the audience and T.C. is a good fit for that. I'm saying he needs to branch out & be diversified. He needs to be seen by more eyes. And not just snippets either. He needs to be on an actual factual podcast where he can reach more
A lot of women will let you be vulnerable then use it against you the first time they see fit .I dealt with women like that in the past . My now wife has seen me at my lowest when I almost died . She cared for me with a smile on her face for months , we got behind on bills , then multiple family members died . I had a breakdown and wanted her to leave . She helped me in so many ways and never made me feel less then while I was trying to bounce back . That was years ago , and all is good now . Men should never settle for anything less , but you have to be grateful and reciprocate the love
WOW!!!! This is one hell of a testimony homie. First off, let me say I'm glad you made it through your illness. And you're blessed to have a woman who stood by your side the whole time. And I completely understand why you wanted her to leave. If I had to guess, you more than likely felt guilty about being sick and felt you were a burden on your wife. And because you love her, you didn't wanna take her through that. I would've felt the exact same way homie. But the fact that she stood by your side the entire time and didn't waver once speaks VOLUMES about her disposition and what kind of woman she is. And if it's one thing I know, there's no way she would've stood by your side like that if you weren't worth it. So that speaks volumes about the kind of man you must be. Thank you for your testimony. And I wish nothing but the best for you and your wife.
For some folks, it's probably more akin to muscle memory. They see an opportunity to take advantage the way they've done in the past. Eventually, they get caught with their hand in the cookie jar.
"if a man cant be sensitive and soft in his relationship, then where can he be?" That hits hard. Something a lot of people need to steep their mind in.
Men used to have spaces where we could be that way. But feminists didn’t like that and eliminated them by “no discrimination laws.” Both sexes need space with just their own, where they can be true with themselves and others. It provided a place for men who didn’t have that at home, either from being single or married to a woman who was untrustworthy in that regard. Now, with those gone, men who are in that situation have nowhere to be that way with other humans. Women, overall, have been so fixated on their own self-importance in the modern world as to think their way is the only way. Yet men and women show support and care in their gender in different ways. So they blinded themselves to the way men support each other and provide space and opportunity for themselves, thus concealing that they were condemning men to isolation and a lack of appropriate support, and instead so doing condemned themselves to the outcome.
The therapist or his close friend. Right or wrong, if you do it with your girl don’t be surprised when it goes south. She can’t feel safe with an overly emotional man.
Nah! It’s clearly not “all men”. Too many, have accepted the patriarchal dogma, that men are simply just naturally unemotional. Also, while it’s definitely important to point the women who think this way, it’s essential to understand that those women have been historically, and systematically manipulated to believe the patriarchal narrative.
@@donnaanderson2846If you actually listened to the men who say those things, they’re literally telling you that trying to be open and express their thoughts and emotions in a “softer” way has often backfired on them to the point where they feel like they NEED to put up a wall to protect themselves and more times that not, the worst experiences came from trying to be that soft, kind man with a woman.
Well it depends on the kind of man really. If that sensitive man looked like a scrawny weak ass man then naaaahhh not strong at all. But if he looked like a masculine healthy looking man who was kinda sensitive id be like no problem yeah he strong
She didn’t understand She let her past get in the way of the future that God had showed us. She gave in to the world and her thoughts I mean, how do you have a logical conversation with someone that literally treats you like the dream she had happen in the physical world How do you show vulnerability to someone that is in the middle of the argument you as a man of God will get down on your knees to pray, she will make fun of you, and I won’t point even try to gouge out your eyes Explain to me where, in this situation, I could’ve been softer. Explain to me how me as a train jujitsu fighter never put my hands on this woman that scratched up my neck and my face on four different occasions? This is a question for the ladies
I had an ex that made me feel bad about being sensitive. It made my mind think it was wrong. Didn’t work out. 5 years later I started dating a girl. We had arguments in the beginning because I would hide my sensitive side. She pushed me to release my sensitive side. I have never felt stronger than I do now. Because she helped me get in touch with my sensitive side I am able to take care of her now and pick her up when she’s down. Being strong all the time will destroy you. Communicating is key.
@@sawmawnbina2102 What none of us know is "The Rest of The Story" I hope it keeps up. Most women want you to open up because they don't have enough ammunition.
We are out here waiting young angel, the music and movies have us all messed up. That red pill crap is a lie, alpha male crap is a lie. The Sigma is most accurate but still not completely true. The Bible is closer but has been manipulated in some ways. I pray you find us. Young Queen. @@unravel2053
She thought she ate!!!! Good response my dude cause my wife used to tell me I wasn't sensitive enough. Once I started to let her in and open up those closed doors it was like the heaviest weight in the world was let off my shoulders. I love my wife for showing me it's ok to let your guard down and talk to her about whatever and it be ok
I’m happy your wife truly loves you and didn’t think you were weak for it and actually appreciated and accepted your struggles as her own because she is your partner. That’s a true marriage right there man you are truly blessed! You hold on tight to that because not many people find a love like that. I was told the same thing by my ex fiancé and yet when I opened up… she distanced herself, no longer asked me about my day, started acting strange. Then one day I’m being cheated on while taking care of her child and was told I’m not man enough because of my struggles. So believe me when I tell you that you have an amazing wife. I’m happy for you brother.
I almost considered deleting myself because I had no peace in my home. I removed the conflict in my home. It saved me, but it was necessary for my survival.
My dad told me growing up that no relationship (romantic or otherwise) is worth unnecessary chaos in your life. Peace is the greatest goal, even if it means losing a relationship. You can have valid struggles, but if your partner actively tries to disrupt the peace in the relationship, then the relationship is not worth struggling for. I am glad I learned this when I was teenager and not like many other guys my age who had to learn this lesson by a much more difficult mechanism much later in life. I love my dad.
Me too. It's taken me therapy and a lot of time by myself to realize that my happiness doesn't and shouldn't rest in the hands of someone else, that my self-worth is not dependent on someone else's opinion, and that I am much more than what I can provide or offer in a relationship. I'm glad you're still here, because we deserve that happiness that others expected us to provide.
My man, this was spot on and so transparent because you hit a spot I've been in recently as well and I'm having to keep my guard up to be strong because our/my son is watching. Nothing like coming home from dealing with the world and being in chaos at home by myself. Zero support and being asked for more with nothing given in return💯. It's hard to breathe in this space because the chaos swallows up the room
AMEEEEEEN!!! I’ve said this FOR YEARS! I don’t wanna come home after battling the world, all in order to provide, just to come home to ANOTHER BATTLE! Home is SUPPOSED to be a family’s SANCTUARY and place to recharge…..a battle fought on two fronts is VERY DIFFICULT to withstand and a house divided will not stand.💯
Many a day I have prayed to God to let me have one day where I don’t have to be the STRONG woman, battling in the world, on the job, handling business and succeeding alone and to be strong thru disrespect and unkindness and devaluing at home. God’s answers has always been N0. He has made me equipped to handle it but Where do I get to be soft ,vulnerable and safe to put my Queen warrior armor down too. Seems like both males and females need sanctuary somewhere if not in each other. We have to find the peace within first. Neither of US is the enemy and WE must reach a level of mutual understanding and respect beyond ego and video hype or we won’t survive the stuff about to hit the fan to survive and thrive.❤
Make sure you set your home up tht way. Dnt create problems in the home, go to work n think it supposed to disappear when you get off. So many lost guys do this n complain about how they set it up. A man controls his house n a woman mirrors a man. Control you n the house will follow
WOW!!!! My wife told me this 15 years ago that I can’t be tough all the time. She knew my background and was patient with me and turned me into a great husband to her and an excellent family and provider. She told me that I’m going to be great and we own over 10 properties and counting..
@holmeslyfe WOW, this is incredible! I truly appreciate your sharing this. This is the point of all these messages. To hopefully one day touch millions of lives!
BECAUSE HE'S BEEN THROUGH THE BS SO MUCH SO THAT HE'S TAKEN ALL THE PAIN AND THE MISCOMMUNICATION OF WORDS AND CREATED A GODLY BOMB FILLED RESPONSE 😂 THERE'S NO COMING BACK FROM HIS ANSWERS 😂😂😂 ( IT'LL TAKE A GOD FILLED WOMAN LIKE MYSELF TO NURTURE THIS KING)❤
The pies you people tell your selves, you think all the great strong men in history thought like this?? You keep on listening to the dumb talks like weakness is strength yet all the great men in history never talked like thus that's why we clarify them as great. Why do you think most people in this generation are no where near strong??
That's a fucking lie, man is not supposed to express sensitivity. Those who support you idea only do so because they know that's their weakness and cowardly create this freaking arguments to "protect" their shame
This hits hard. I was with the mother of my first children. I confided in her. I told her that I never knew if what I was doing was the manly thing to do, growing up, because I was raised by my mom and with my older sister in the house. I had to question everything I did, because I had no man in my life as a role model. I had never told anyone these shameful things. About a week later we were in an argument. She got up in my face and told me that I was nothing but a little bitch because I didn't have a father around to show me what a man should act like. This absolutely crushed me. Now, I can take any insult, because none of them could be as soul crushing as what I have already received. Like the song says, you made me bulletproof.
Girl did sum like that to me and I immediately did the same. She started crying and said she done. Next day she apologized and I forgave her. We been better than ever but that exchange definitely put a cap on our potential closeness. At least for a good lil minute. I been watching what I say n do around hee. Sad stuff
Some people’s sensitivity creates anger and they become problematic so it depends on the level of sensitivity and the individual or you, yourself dealing with BS will become overly sensitive🫠 because now you feel drained. You have to remember to keep yourself sane, so be vigilant at the same time because some people are emotionally disturbed and don’t understand the difference between sensitive and problematic!
Trust no one...guarantee she will cheat on him...A wise man (me), says trust Noone but your mom and your dog...Sad but true...that's just a realistic fact you will need to get real about...Do you know what a gazelle has to go through being prey...a crying gazelle will still get eaten...facts...I'm nit cold hearted and live to love but you can't show that love to everyone...You can't date a stripper and expect deep conversation and philosophy
The sad truth is there are alot of woman that will say men are to sensitive and in the breath say that men have no feelings and we are to harsh,cold and rough around the edges . Thank you brother for breaking down the truth about how us men feel about showing and expressing our feelings and emotions to our significant others. This is the reason why alot of men go silent when it comes to his feelings and emotions and also why men blow up when they do express themselves because we bottle up alot of our feelings and when we do finally let it out and express it ., it come out more as frustration and anger because we are holding back our true feelings .
I also imagine that a man will find himself another woman that will grant that space for vulnerability. If you can't communicate in your relationship, then you have to ask where the relationship really is.
I've always said this. A man has emotions because he's human. I've never wanted a man who could not show his sensitive side. I've always wanted a man to feel safe with me. Home is supposed to be his sanctuary. ❤
@VictoriamcKenzie68 the point is not the narcissistic I want a man to. The point is, have grown seeing a submissive mother demonstrate that so you know how to create an environment/home that allows a man to feel safe with you? Ladies always talk about the idea but NEVER ABOUT THE ACTION THEY NEED TO TAKE TO MAKE IT A REALITY.
The 1st man i saw cry was my father who was very strong and protective. When i saw this it made me love him more because at that moment I realized he was not just my hero but human with feelings.
@@thetjdmandamn u missed the message ….and clearly the presence of a father. Any bum can get a bitch pregnant. Takes a man to be a father. Wonder where you fall on that board 😮
Bruh be hitting on all levels.... Mad respect for this man's mental.... Not too many of us think completely and it's frustrating trying to find those that do...
This is like saying a woman is soft all the time we can be masculine when we want and or it’s needed I believe it’s a balance act and men are human they can and should be sensitive when the time calls for
My Ex said the exact same thing to me and swore on HER kids who I was raising like my own that she would never use the weakness and vulnerability I showed her in private against me and she lied to me , told all her friends and family all my problems and worries and struggles , that were brought on by her and her issues the moment things weren’t the way she wanted, I gave her everything she asked for and wanted and then some and she betrayed my trust when it was convenient. I’ll never trust another woman like that again. EVER
@PoorMan84 how are you gonna say 'and YOU throw it in his face" like you know this person personally, she was expressing her feelings and even though your experiences don't match what she's willing to give doesn't make her desire false. Sorry, sir that you haven't found it!!!!
Say it louder for the ones in the back!!! The honor that gives a woman to have a man who trusts her with his heart is a blessing ❤❤❤ mad love for this ❤️
Right we have all emotions it’s called being human no one is wrong for wanting/needing to express them. It’s just about doing it in a way that communicates what you need. He’s right your partner should be a safe space and not make you seem less than you should feel seen. Sometimes that takes knowing ourselves first and being able to manage how we feel
I made our home, my Husbands palace. His respite and refuge from the wilderness. And he deserves every moment of it. We thank Almighty God. 🙇🏽♀️✊🏾💯🔥🔥🔥
No she doesn't. She can have a hard man if SHE can handle it. And I don't agree with him. Hard times create hard men. Hard men create good times. Good times create WEAK MEN. Weak men create hard times. The devil attacked Adam thru Eve. Women are your weakness. Limit your vulnerability by limiting your woman's ability to be a pawn for the devil. Unnecessarily making ANYONE aware of your weaknesses tends not to work out in general. ITS A HARD TRUTH. Especially with the lack of devotion in most relationships these days. Being vulnerable to a bish mentally, emotionally, financially ORRR sexually could be the end of u... Ask Samson. Leave that sensitive shit alone.
No, she’s learning. We all have to update our understanding and knowledge through life. Shes a product of her time and social influences and following bad examples who are put in front of them.
I want my man to feel safe with me just like I want to feel safe as well. I don’t want to be with a man that doesn’t have a soft side. You’re right , if he can’t access that side of himself, he can’t feel empathy or compassion for me more than likely. Thank you for saying this.❤
A man having a soft side has nothing to do with not feeling empathy or compassion. In order for a man to be in a relationship, he already has a level of empathy and compassion for his woman. Having a "soft side" is a different matter. Men know, that the woman, in general, is spiteful. There are countless stories of men revealing their "soft side" to their woman and having it thrown back in their face once things go south. Men mitigate risk. The majority of women will care about their man being soft and showing them emotion. They will go out and find a man that isn't.
@@PGO_Gaming I’m sorry you guys are experiencing so many women that are spiteful. I know plenty that aren’t. I guess it’s a question of finding who we are compatible with. Don’t get me wrong now, I don’t want a constant whinny wimp! I guess we know when it’s right or works for each of us. ❤️
@@patricecoleman276 I appreciate your positive sentiment here. But you also don't know that you contributed to the problem right here and thats would make you untrustworthy in my eyes. "I dont want a whiny wimp"..what does that mean? Who gets to decide that? How does a man become vulnerable with you while bring afraid of hitting you "whiny wimp" threshold? Would the safe choice then be to avoid extreme vulnerability to avoid getting to that point?
Got that right , cant come home and rest Whats point having relationship with a women. Dealing and fighting on outside to survive as black male Nothing but a target in this system and society As black male you are labeled and branded Stress and strain will bust your brain
I love the feedback from black men like this!! Yessss , where can be be soft when he already faces so much adversity in the world. Ohhhh his response gives me chills🥶🥶 speak!!
It hurts that a lot of us can’t be vulnerable nowadays, but just live your life the way you want too which means don’t act all tough it’ll only break you down later
Having the courage and humility to be vulnerable with the one you love and trust is a rare gift ❤. A man can be sensitive and strong. A real woman would admire his ability to completely bring his walls down for her but also defend her and protect her at any cost. True love is extremely rare ❤❤❤!!!
Better soft and vulnerable than having anger and bitterness being held in. Letting it out with your other half is trusting their support and compassion in what you’re feeling.
@@JosephSilas-k5l I am sad because you feel that way. I would like to think that it is not normal for a woman to use a vulnerability in a relationship as a weapon against you later. That being said shame on any woman that has done that to you or anyone else. Human kindness cost nothing and reaps the greatest rewards.
@@nancyperez8090 Every thread that asks men why they don't "talk" to their women about their vulnerabilities will tell you the same thing, it's not a feel thing, it's just a fact, You want it to be not true but it's very real.
Preach my brother.......these women have no clue what a man has to go thru out in the world. "If a man can't be sensitive in his home with his woman where can he be" ....💥💯
Been there. It feels like you get a hammer on your heart from your own self😢 Find someone who can keep you in one piece when you want to break to a million pieces. You'll never lose again.
This is my biggest fear in life ngl. Because when i finally found a girl i thought i could let me guard down around she slowly collected all the things for 2 years and then took it out on me. Used everything in her arsenal. I immediately left her, but the scars of being afraid to open up are here and stronger than ever. havent dated in over a year, since the breakup
It won't matter. They will not learn from this. It's not in their nature. Look how the room full of woman sigh when she complained about her man being to sensitive.
I love the idea that a man shows his emotions. No im not the kind of person who would ever throw that in a man’s face. The danger is he will shut down on you . I like to hear the truth even if it’s unpleasant. This way you won’t keep doing things that are their triggers
I've been watching this brother for a couple of months now. He comes with intelligence and makes his point. So much so, the women can't respond with anything intelligent to refute.
Spent ten years In a relationship like this. Tried opening up only to be used against me. Then I was blamed for not being caring and understanding. You wanted this, you created this. I gave you a chance to see me. You chose to judge me and my most vulnerable. So from then moving forward I didn't say shit.
You as well so take responsibility for the part you personally played tht helped with the outcome. You get wht you give both way but you are the man who leads
They don’t care. All they will say is that the man was weak and couldn’t handle them as if it’s a flex that she has to be handled like an untrained dog.
Men are people with feelings too. They endure a lot and the pressure is real! I know a man has to keep his guards up in the streets but home should be his sanctuary, his strength and his safe haven. ❤
Men don't respect vulnerability in men either. It's that we only recognize this or care when we are on the receiving end of that shame / rejection from our partners. The truth is that we've all been socialized to believe vulnerability is weakness. The part I disagree with in what he's saying is that a man should be able to display vulnerability and, in his words, softness in a number of places beyond his romantic relationship: with his best friend and with his dad. Men often place too high of an expectation on women to help us access our emotions because we haven't experienced or cultivated vulnerability in other places. I really think there's work for all of us to do around vulnerability
*He made so many wonderful and valid points. This is how I have always felt. A man should be able to be soft and vulnerable in his relationship, but the woman asked about how to deal with a man being MORE sensitive than her. I know, first hand what she's speaking of. My ex whined so much and threw huge fits constantly. He would throw things, slam doors, and not speak to me for days. There was no room for me to ever be emotional because he always was. Smh unacceptable behavior. I felt like I was the husband, and he was the wife. I could do nothing right. He complained about everything. He was highly sensitive. You could never tell him the truth, or he'd have a fit. Smh, he was very effeminate. My advice is to let a man like that go. He's ruined through and through.
This is so true I was recently involved in an accident which nearly could have Paradise me After the accident I noticed that I've become more sensitive It's kind of hard because I was the strong one Sometimes life throws you a curve ball and your going to have to deal with it
AMEN!!! I have son's that are grown now and I taught them it's okay to cry, it's okay to be in your weak moment but don't let it keep you down. I hate when women or other men tell men that men don't or can't cry. Men hurt as well folks💔😢.
@@lashayjohnson2857 You're setting your sons up to be ridiculed , women most likely will use that crying in front of them against them later on in a argument like y'all do 99% of the time.
It's not that crying is shameful. It's that men have to operate under any feeling. If you let your feelings overwhelm you it keeps you from performing the task at hand. If you let your emotions take over it causes you to make mistakes and act irrationally. That's why men should not break down and cry or rage and punch a wall. We have to understand what we're feeling and then perform despite those feelings.
@@JosephSilas-k5lyou’re absolutely correct. The only woman who would love you after seeing you cry is your own mother. In rare instances not even her. I learned the hard way NEVER to cry in front of ANY woman. Not even because a loved one passed away. She will never tell you but you lost her respect when she sees you crying even for legit reasons to do.
Goosebumps! I want my man to be safe, vulnerable and even cry with me. Not just him but any man that's willing to trust me with their emotions. It's a red flag if my man isn't sensitive then I feel like he's hiding things from me.
We all have to get back to YAH, his laws and statutes are in place for a reason, YAH created the woman for the man, to console him in times of need, to bare him seed and nuture and love those seeds, and above all always putting YAH above all! Shalom my brothas and sistas❤
So many people do not know Yah. It's heartbreaking. I went back to Yah years ago. My entire life changed. I care for and love you, I don't even know you. However, I'm glad you commented, young spirit of Almighty Yah! 🙏🏾💯💪🏾❤️🔥 Shalom
This is the reason I cannot love a girl 100% because then I have to be 100% vulnerable and based on my experience as soon as I am that's when they say something very hurtful to me about something in my life that I explained to them and nobody else. that's why I keep my guard up forever
A wise man once told me:
‘Home is where you don’t need to defend yourself’
And if you do have to defend yourself at home, find a new home.
Things have changed..
I like that.Cheer,s.
FACTS!!!💯💯🎯🎯❗❗
I got made fun for being vulnerable. And she used it against me in future arguments. Never did that again
Then a argument comes and she throws that shit in your face
That's a fact, haha. I appreciate your support, my friend.
You don't need to be with her God! You need to have a soft place to fall or you will die young!
Bingoooo
Everytime
Facts
If he’s sensitive with you, he trusts you. He feels safe with you. Don’t make him regret it
Dude..do not ever let your guard down with women... I'm 59. They always use it against you. ALWAYS
That part like damn
Yup. 😢 be compassionate and understanding to the man's sensitivity. Then the man can be soft and sensitive in return becuz a morale boost goes a long way.
If men can be understanding and compassionate to their women is a sign of him being caring, so those feeling should be recipricated as well.
Facts..its hard for real out here..trust is a valuable thing but some will weaponize it against you..its a damn shame
If he regrets it he’s gonna leave. Any man in his right mind should
"A man has to find softness within himself to properly handle those parts of you." Very well said.
Coldest statement during entire segment...
"I don't want to have to come home and protect myself from you" Damn
Right
Straight feelings 😭. That hit.
facts and i’m a woman
He's not lying though
That hit hard
HER question clarifies why men can not open up to women
Can't open up to anyone, except other brothers that are living it too, even then...rare asf
I confirm this is extremely difficult
Big facts💯
Is answer sounded good but it rarely if ever works. Yes we would like to be able to open up to our women but they usually throw it back in are face sometime down the road or they start to lose respect and cheat. The real answer is men just can’t open up to women ever maybe their mother but she’s still going to say man up and get it done.
@@JacobHazlett-qx2do🎯🎯🎯
He has outgrown this platform
By miles.
Nah. He isnt on here enough. His wisdom needs to be shared. That means more views. I wanna be tired of seeing & hearing this man & the truths he brings. He does need to have honest discussions like these in room of only men. Teaching the next generation of men how to teach the next generation of men.
Seems like this may be exactly where he needs to be. More men probably need to hear this and women as well. We ALL want to feel safe, LOVED and PROTECTED, Amen???🙏🏾 ❤
@@TheNumberXIIInah..he needs to go out on his own. the rest of "panel" are beneath him. that's facts.
@dlee6014 I'm not disputing him doing his own thing. But he can't have a conversation with himself. He needs to answer questions from the audience and T.C. is a good fit for that. I'm saying he needs to branch out & be diversified. He needs to be seen by more eyes. And not just snippets either. He needs to be on an actual factual podcast where he can reach more
A lot of women will let you be vulnerable then use it against you the first time they see fit .I dealt with women like that in the past . My now wife has seen me at my lowest when I almost died . She cared for me with a smile on her face for months , we got behind on bills , then multiple family members died . I had a breakdown and wanted her to leave . She helped me in so many ways and never made me feel less then while I was trying to bounce back . That was years ago , and all is good now . Men should never settle for anything less , but you have to be grateful and reciprocate the love
WOW!!!! This is one hell of a testimony homie. First off, let me say I'm glad you made it through your illness. And you're blessed to have a woman who stood by your side the whole time. And I completely understand why you wanted her to leave. If I had to guess, you more than likely felt guilty about being sick and felt you were a burden on your wife. And because you love her, you didn't wanna take her through that. I would've felt the exact same way homie. But the fact that she stood by your side the entire time and didn't waver once speaks VOLUMES about her disposition and what kind of woman she is. And if it's one thing I know, there's no way she would've stood by your side like that if you weren't worth it. So that speaks volumes about the kind of man you must be. Thank you for your testimony. And I wish nothing but the best for you and your wife.
Thats rare brother. God bless you
Simple “Don’t take kindness for weakness”
It never was
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Don't take having a weakness as being weak.
most wont listen. most are running with the times of today. its a damn shame❤
For some folks, it's probably more akin to muscle memory. They see an opportunity to take advantage the way they've done in the past. Eventually, they get caught with their hand in the cookie jar.
I've seen multiple videos of this man.
He truly speaks on behalf of all good men .
Yes he does. More of his kind is needed.❤❤❤❤
What is is handle name please
What’s his name???
Yes, and if you were a hardcore person all the time at home they would just start claiming you're abusive. You can't win with these modern women.
@@JoshAlli I have no idea, sorry man.
The most vulnerable I'll ever be is when I'm taking a shower talking to myself 😂
haha, that is too good. 😂
My Nigga. My Nigga.
Facts!
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Facts
"if a man cant be sensitive and soft in his relationship, then where can he be?"
That hits hard. Something a lot of people need to steep their mind in.
He can be soft in his alone time. The woman your with doesnt want no emotional feminine dude coming home. Yall are so blind.
Men used to have spaces where we could be that way. But feminists didn’t like that and eliminated them by “no discrimination laws.”
Both sexes need space with just their own, where they can be true with themselves and others. It provided a place for men who didn’t have that at home, either from being single or married to a woman who was untrustworthy in that regard.
Now, with those gone, men who are in that situation have nowhere to be that way with other humans. Women, overall, have been so fixated on their own self-importance in the modern world as to think their way is the only way.
Yet men and women show support and care in their gender in different ways. So they blinded themselves to the way men support each other and provide space and opportunity for themselves, thus concealing that they were condemning men to isolation and a lack of appropriate support, and instead so doing condemned themselves to the outcome.
FACTS
@@IAmTheRealBill💯💯💯💯
The therapist or his close friend. Right or wrong, if you do it with your girl don’t be surprised when it goes south. She can’t feel safe with an overly emotional man.
Exactly! This is why we live alone in PEACE! 😊
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Same with some women
Women also!! And we ALL, need love.😊
Truth
Amen ,
Our brother said something that all men think and many have to deal with
Nah! It’s clearly not “all men”. Too many, have accepted the patriarchal dogma, that men are simply just naturally unemotional. Also, while it’s definitely important to point the women who think this way, it’s essential to understand that those women have been historically, and systematically manipulated to believe the patriarchal narrative.
@@donnaanderson2846If you actually listened to the men who say those things, they’re literally telling you that trying to be open and express their thoughts and emotions in a “softer” way has often backfired on them to the point where they feel like they NEED to put up a wall to protect themselves and more times that not, the worst experiences came from trying to be that soft, kind man with a woman.
I believe this
I've seen this
I understand his point of view
That’s so powerful. If he can’t be sensitive with his woman then that’s not his woman. Period.
This dude is the only person on that stage who brings the 🔥🔥🔥 consistently.
Yes I like him
What’s bro name?
@atorius Trip Fontane I think
They all do. The men and the women on stage ❤
No@@andreadonner8479
A sensitive man is a strong man
I've given up on American women they're just too far gone.
Nah 😂
I agree. A sensitive man most certainly can also be a strong man. That's a man who's truly comfortable with himself.
Well it depends on the kind of man really. If that sensitive man looked like a scrawny weak ass man then naaaahhh not strong at all. But if he looked like a masculine healthy looking man who was kinda sensitive id be like no problem yeah he strong
She didn’t understand
She let her past get in the way of the future that God had showed us. She gave in to the world and her thoughts
I mean, how do you have a logical conversation with someone that literally treats you like the dream she had happen in the physical world
How do you show vulnerability to someone that is in the middle of the argument you as a man of God will get down on your knees to pray, she will make fun of you, and I won’t point even try to gouge out your eyes
Explain to me where, in this situation, I could’ve been softer. Explain to me how me as a train jujitsu fighter never put my hands on this woman that scratched up my neck and my face on four different occasions?
This is a question for the ladies
I had an ex that made me feel bad about being sensitive. It made my mind think it was wrong. Didn’t work out. 5 years later I started dating a girl. We had arguments in the beginning because I would hide my sensitive side. She pushed me to release my sensitive side. I have never felt stronger than I do now. Because she helped me get in touch with my sensitive side I am able to take care of her now and pick her up when she’s down. Being strong all the time will destroy you. Communicating is key.
Man where do yall find these angels😭
@@sawmawnbina2102 What none of us know is "The Rest of The Story" I hope it keeps up. Most women want you to open up because they don't have enough ammunition.
I hope I can be that woman for a man one day
@unravel2053 no you don't. Your all evil
We are out here waiting young angel, the music and movies have us all messed up. That red pill crap is a lie, alpha male crap is a lie. The Sigma is most accurate but still not completely true. The Bible is closer but has been manipulated in some ways. I pray you find us. Young Queen. @@unravel2053
This goes for young boys too. Trying to make them hard for a hard world only leaves them feeling nowhere is safe.
most women are not listening to the message and will never learn this simple and powerful truth
Not all women!
@@subscriber4588Not all, but most.
@@subscriber4588he didn't say all he said most. Comprehension is important to communication.
@@subscriber4588point proven.... You didn't even read what he wrote 😂
Being emotionally vulnerable with a women as a man is a huge mistake
She thought she ate!!!! Good response my dude cause my wife used to tell me I wasn't sensitive enough. Once I started to let her in and open up those closed doors it was like the heaviest weight in the world was let off my shoulders. I love my wife for showing me it's ok to let your guard down and talk to her about whatever and it be ok
I’m glad you knew it was you n did something to change it personally.
Beautiful and God bless you and your relationship
Still ain't found that place in the world. Props to you for finding the land of milk and honey.
I’m happy your wife truly loves you and didn’t think you were weak for it and actually appreciated and accepted your struggles as her own because she is your partner. That’s a true marriage right there man you are truly blessed! You hold on tight to that because not many people find a love like that. I was told the same thing by my ex fiancé and yet when I opened up… she distanced herself, no longer asked me about my day, started acting strange. Then one day I’m being cheated on while taking care of her child and was told I’m not man enough because of my struggles. So believe me when I tell you that you have an amazing wife. I’m happy for you brother.
@@icemanx5085you’ll get there! You deserve it and it will happen when the time is right. Just keep believing and everything will fall into place ❤
I almost considered deleting myself because I had no peace in my home. I removed the conflict in my home. It saved me, but it was necessary for my survival.
God bless
My dad told me growing up that no relationship (romantic or otherwise) is worth unnecessary chaos in your life. Peace is the greatest goal, even if it means losing a relationship. You can have valid struggles, but if your partner actively tries to disrupt the peace in the relationship, then the relationship is not worth struggling for. I am glad I learned this when I was teenager and not like many other guys my age who had to learn this lesson by a much more difficult mechanism much later in life. I love my dad.
I'm so glad you are still here!
Me too. It's taken me therapy and a lot of time by myself to realize that my happiness doesn't and shouldn't rest in the hands of someone else, that my self-worth is not dependent on someone else's opinion, and that I am much more than what I can provide or offer in a relationship. I'm glad you're still here, because we deserve that happiness that others expected us to provide.
My man, this was spot on and so transparent because you hit a spot I've been in recently as well and I'm having to keep my guard up to be strong because our/my son is watching. Nothing like coming home from dealing with the world and being in chaos at home by myself. Zero support and being asked for more with nothing given in return💯. It's hard to breathe in this space because the chaos swallows up the room
My boy Tripp always spitting those bars 🔥🔥🔥 This dude’s level of discernment and thinking ability is very impressive.
Behind every broken man is a woman pointing her finger at him!
So true. There is a way back but it takes time for healing and careful consideration as to who you partner up with.
Damn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
AMEEEEEEN!!! I’ve said this FOR YEARS! I don’t wanna come home after battling the world, all in order to provide, just to come home to ANOTHER BATTLE! Home is SUPPOSED to be a family’s SANCTUARY and place to recharge…..a battle fought on two fronts is VERY DIFFICULT to withstand and a house divided will not stand.💯
Not Going to lie, I screen shot ur comment❤
Many a day I have prayed to God to let me have one day where I don’t have to be the STRONG woman, battling in the world, on the job, handling business and succeeding alone and to be strong thru disrespect and unkindness and devaluing at home. God’s answers has always been N0. He has made me equipped to handle it but Where do I get to be soft ,vulnerable and safe to put my Queen warrior armor down too. Seems like both males and females need sanctuary somewhere if not in each other. We have to find the peace within first. Neither of US is the enemy and WE must reach a level of mutual understanding and respect beyond ego and video hype or we won’t survive the stuff about to hit the fan to survive and thrive.❤
Make sure you set your home up tht way. Dnt create problems in the home, go to work n think it supposed to disappear when you get off. So many lost guys do this n complain about how they set it up. A man controls his house n a woman mirrors a man. Control you n the house will follow
This is my HOME, NOT PRISON....I STAND ON THIS WISDOM✊🏾💪🏾👑
It's a great wisdom, my friend! I appreciate your support
WOW!!!! My wife told me this 15 years ago that I can’t be tough all the time. She knew my background and was patient with me and turned me into a great husband to her and an excellent family and provider. She told me that I’m going to be great and we own over 10 properties and counting..
@holmeslyfe WOW, this is incredible! I truly appreciate your sharing this. This is the point of all these messages. To hopefully one day touch millions of lives!
Bars 💯🔥
He blew the roof clear off the building with that reply 💯🎯🎯💯
haha, space bound! Appreciate your support
YOU ALWAYS DO 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
He already knew what was coming. Its been rehearsed
This man is God sent!! This is what leadership sounds like. This man gets cooperation.
He translated his thoughts into words so easily... I couldn't have written a better response.
BECAUSE HE'S BEEN THROUGH THE BS SO MUCH SO THAT HE'S TAKEN ALL THE PAIN AND THE MISCOMMUNICATION OF WORDS AND CREATED A GODLY BOMB FILLED RESPONSE 😂 THERE'S NO COMING BACK FROM HIS ANSWERS 😂😂😂 ( IT'LL TAKE A GOD FILLED WOMAN LIKE MYSELF TO NURTURE THIS KING)❤
A man that isnt ashamed or unconfident in their vulnerability radiates strength.
Amen for that. I know who I am. my emotion change for a reason not for show. good saying man🎉
The pies you people tell your selves, you think all the great strong men in history thought like this?? You keep on listening to the dumb talks like weakness is strength yet all the great men in history never talked like thus that's why we clarify them as great. Why do you think most people in this generation are no where near strong??
Beautifully said.
That's a fucking lie, man is not supposed to express sensitivity. Those who support you idea only do so because they know that's their weakness and cowardly create this freaking arguments to "protect" their shame
This hits hard. I was with the mother of my first children. I confided in her. I told her that I never knew if what I was doing was the manly thing to do, growing up, because I was raised by my mom and with my older sister in the house. I had to question everything I did, because I had no man in my life as a role model. I had never told anyone these shameful things. About a week later we were in an argument. She got up in my face and told me that I was nothing but a little bitch because I didn't have a father around to show me what a man should act like. This absolutely crushed me. Now, I can take any insult, because none of them could be as soul crushing as what I have already received. Like the song says, you made me bulletproof.
Girl did sum like that to me and I immediately did the same. She started crying and said she done. Next day she apologized and I forgave her. We been better than ever but that exchange definitely put a cap on our potential closeness. At least for a good lil minute. I been watching what I say n do around hee. Sad stuff
You needed her to do that so you can be strong now
I hate she did that to you. I hope you found someone who you can confide in.
It happened to me and it changed me forever.
Sorry to had to go through that Bro... That crazy
Some people’s sensitivity creates anger and they become problematic so it depends on the level of sensitivity and the individual or you, yourself dealing with BS will become overly sensitive🫠 because now you feel drained. You have to remember to keep yourself sane, so be vigilant at the same time because some people are emotionally disturbed and don’t understand the difference between sensitive and problematic!
A man that comes home, and shows his soft side is a sign of trust! It means that you are in his heart.
I dont deal with anyone who don't show me the same 100% respect.
@@Rick3_dot tony soprano.." those who want respect, give respect"
A man will only show his soft side to the woman if he really loves her and expect to spend the rest of his life with her. Truth be told right here!
Trust no one...guarantee she will cheat on him...A wise man (me), says trust Noone but your mom and your dog...Sad but true...that's just a realistic fact you will need to get real about...Do you know what a gazelle has to go through being prey...a crying gazelle will still get eaten...facts...I'm nit cold hearted and live to love but you can't show that love to everyone...You can't date a stripper and expect deep conversation and philosophy
When people ask me if I have a softer side, I point to my lady.
Semper Fi!
The sad truth is there are alot of woman that will say men are to sensitive and in the breath say that men have no feelings and we are to harsh,cold and rough around the edges . Thank you brother for breaking down the truth about how us men feel about showing and expressing our feelings and emotions to our significant others. This is the reason why alot of men go silent when it comes to his feelings and emotions and also why men blow up when they do express themselves because we bottle up alot of our feelings and when we do finally let it out and express it ., it come out more as frustration and anger because we are holding back our true feelings .
This is a great message, my friend. Appreciate the support!
I also imagine that a man will find himself another woman that will grant that space for vulnerability. If you can't communicate in your relationship, then you have to ask where the relationship really is.
Some women goes through this to. Even I struggle with vulnerability & regulating my emotions because I got too much bottled up
I've always said this. A man has emotions because he's human. I've never wanted a man who could not show his sensitive side. I've always wanted a man to feel safe with me. Home is supposed to be his sanctuary. ❤
I wish more women was like you that could see this. Also if your looking for weakness then your not being supportive.
@VictoriamcKenzie68 the point is not the narcissistic I want a man to. The point is, have grown seeing a submissive mother demonstrate that so you know how to create an environment/home that allows a man to feel safe with you? Ladies always talk about the idea but NEVER ABOUT THE ACTION THEY NEED TO TAKE TO MAKE IT A REALITY.
Ase' 💜
The 1st man i saw cry was my father who was very strong and protective. When i saw this it made me love him more because at that moment I realized he was not just my hero but human with feelings.
So basically you didn't view your own father as a human being until he cried? The shallowness of women is insane to me.
@@thetjdmandamn u missed the message ….and clearly the presence of a father. Any bum can get a bitch pregnant. Takes a man to be a father. Wonder where you fall on that board 😮
He's absolutely right...
The harder something is, the faster it crumbles when broken.
young woman, it's called giving..you can't always be a taker.
This is where women confuse men being providers with only the man gives.
Bruh be hitting on all levels.... Mad respect for this man's mental.... Not too many of us think completely and it's frustrating trying to find those that do...
This is like saying a woman is soft all the time we can be masculine when we want and or it’s needed I believe it’s a balance act and men are human they can and should be sensitive when the time calls for
I want my man to be vulnerable, cry in my loving arms so I can love and nurture him back to his happy place.
Amen, and preach.
😊💯🔥👍
But as soon as an argument comes up you throw it in his face. The moment she said it the women gave her immediate validation by their cheer
My Ex said the exact same thing to me and swore on HER kids who I was raising like my own that she would never use the weakness and vulnerability I showed her in private against me and she lied to me , told all her friends and family all my problems and worries and struggles , that were brought on by her and her issues the moment things weren’t the way she wanted, I gave her everything she asked for and wanted and then some and she betrayed my trust when it was convenient. I’ll never trust another woman like that again. EVER
@@MusashiVSMifunesmart man
@PoorMan84 how are you gonna say 'and YOU throw it in his face" like you know this person personally, she was expressing her feelings and even though your experiences don't match what she's willing to give doesn't make her desire false. Sorry, sir that you haven't found it!!!!
He can say that because that's what women do . Take off your cape @@amack9303
Say it louder for the ones in the back!!! The honor that gives a woman to have a man who trusts her with his heart is a blessing ❤❤❤ mad love for this ❤️
I think that’s how con artists feel when you honor them with your credit card information.
CHECKMATE ❤❤❤❤❤
I second that!👍
Right we have all emotions it’s called being human no one is wrong for wanting/needing to express them. It’s just about doing it in a way that communicates what you need. He’s right your partner should be a safe space and not make you seem less than you should feel seen. Sometimes that takes knowing ourselves first and being able to manage how we feel
Hear this man! OMG home is not just where a man lays his head, it is where he finds comfort, rest, respect, and peace with his woman. 💖
I made our home, my Husbands palace. His respite and refuge from the wilderness. And he deserves every moment of it. We thank Almighty God. 🙇🏽♀️✊🏾💯🔥🔥🔥
He spoke Facts💯 Some women speak garbage. She needs to stay alone 🤦🏾♀️
No she doesn't. She can have a hard man if SHE can handle it. And I don't agree with him. Hard times create hard men. Hard men create good times. Good times create WEAK MEN. Weak men create hard times.
The devil attacked Adam thru Eve. Women are your weakness. Limit your vulnerability by limiting your woman's ability to be a pawn for the devil. Unnecessarily making ANYONE aware of your weaknesses tends not to work out in general. ITS A HARD TRUTH. Especially with the lack of devotion in most relationships these days. Being vulnerable to a bish mentally, emotionally, financially ORRR sexually could be the end of u... Ask Samson.
Leave that sensitive shit alone.
No, she’s learning. We all have to update our understanding and knowledge through life. Shes a product of her time and social influences and following bad examples who are put in front of them.
Yes !
Thank you !
I want my man to feel safe with me just like I want to feel safe as well. I don’t want to be with a man that doesn’t have a soft side. You’re right , if he can’t access that side of himself, he can’t feel empathy or compassion for me more than likely. Thank you for saying this.❤
A man having a soft side has nothing to do with not feeling empathy or compassion. In order for a man to be in a relationship, he already has a level of empathy and compassion for his woman. Having a "soft side" is a different matter. Men know, that the woman, in general, is spiteful. There are countless stories of men revealing their "soft side" to their woman and having it thrown back in their face once things go south. Men mitigate risk. The majority of women will care about their man being soft and showing them emotion. They will go out and find a man that isn't.
@@PGO_Gaming I’m sorry you guys are experiencing so many women that are spiteful. I know plenty that aren’t. I guess it’s a question of finding who we are compatible with. Don’t get me wrong now, I don’t want a constant whinny wimp! I guess we know when it’s right or works for each of us. ❤️
@@patricecoleman276 I appreciate your positive sentiment here. But you also don't know that you contributed to the problem right here and thats would make you untrustworthy in my eyes.
"I dont want a whiny wimp"..what does that mean? Who gets to decide that? How does a man become vulnerable with you while bring afraid of hitting you "whiny wimp" threshold?
Would the safe choice then be to avoid extreme vulnerability to avoid getting to that point?
Absolute truth. A man the battle the street don't want to come for another battle. I completely agree with brother.
Got that right , cant come home and rest Whats point having relationship with a women. Dealing and fighting on outside to survive as black male Nothing but a target in this system and society As black male you are labeled and branded Stress and strain will bust your brain
Make sure you DNT create battles at home n you good. Women mirror their men
I love the feedback from black men like this!! Yessss , where can be be soft when he already faces so much adversity in the world. Ohhhh his response gives me chills🥶🥶 speak!!
Not just black men; ALL men..
@GV-dg2lk 💯‼️
Speak the truth my good brethren ❤
Bro told no lies‼️‼️
Straight forward! Appreciate your support
It hurts that a lot of us can’t be vulnerable nowadays, but just live your life the way you want too which means don’t act all tough it’ll only break you down later
Love on him for trusting you enough to be vulnerable in your presence instead of being inauthentic.
Having the courage and humility to be vulnerable with the one you love and trust is a rare gift ❤. A man can be sensitive and strong. A real woman would admire his ability to completely bring his walls down for her but also defend her and protect her at any cost. True love is extremely rare ❤❤❤!!!
This man speaks the truth.
Better soft and vulnerable than having anger and bitterness being held in. Letting it out with your other half is trusting their support and compassion in what you’re feeling.
Women have a tendency to use that vulnerability against men later in an argument, that's why we don't tell our women about our vulnerabilities.
@@JosephSilas-k5l I am sad for you. Not all women do that. Shared feelings should bring you closer. Not used as a weapon later.
@nancyperez8090 Don't be sad for me because of what "Women" should do.
@@JosephSilas-k5l I am sad because you feel that way. I would like to think that it is not normal for a woman to use a vulnerability in a relationship as a weapon against you later. That being said shame on any woman that has done that to you or anyone else. Human kindness cost nothing and reaps the greatest rewards.
@@nancyperez8090 Every thread that asks men why they don't "talk" to their women about their vulnerabilities will tell you the same thing, it's not a feel thing, it's just a fact, You want it to be not true but it's very real.
Preach my brother.......these women have no clue what a man has to go thru out in the world. "If a man can't be sensitive in his home with his woman where can he be" ....💥💯
Speaking truth
A hard hearted person is tough to deal with ...
Damn man, these were the words I was trying to tell my woman
They are great words! I appreciate your support
Hopefully, you have listened to this video with her by now. Peace and Blessings
Thank you for this education. Women need to hear this. It is a privilege. It is a privilege. Thank you. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Been there.
It feels like you get a hammer on your heart from your own self😢
Find someone who can keep you in one piece when you want to break to a million pieces. You'll never lose again.
This is my biggest fear in life ngl. Because when i finally found a girl i thought i could let me guard down around she slowly collected all the things for 2 years and then took it out on me. Used everything in her arsenal. I immediately left her, but the scars of being afraid to open up are here and stronger than ever. havent dated in over a year, since the breakup
That's so true. I want my man to cry and express his feelings.
so you can turn around and use it against them 😅
All women need to see this 💯
It won't matter. They will not learn from this. It's not in their nature. Look how the room full of woman sigh when she complained about her man being to sensitive.
Immature people need to see and comprehend this perspective.
I love the idea that a man shows his emotions. No im not the kind of person who would ever throw that in a man’s face. The danger is he will shut down on you . I like to hear the truth even if it’s unpleasant. This way you won’t keep doing things that are their triggers
Well Said!!!🙌🏽🙏🏽
Hello World 🌍 ; he told the truth ! Peace 🕊️
Yes, that's for sure.
I've been watching this brother for a couple of months now. He comes with intelligence and makes his point. So much so, the women can't respond with anything intelligent to refute.
Well said brother, God bless everybody
God bless you as well brother 🙏🏾
God bless you as well my friend!
Talk to Them Bruh 💯👋🏾 Women need to Wake Up, It's Later Than you All Think
When there's a real. Connection..... this happens naturally
Such an "un-natural" way to write a sentence.
Spent ten years In a relationship like this. Tried opening up only to be used against me. Then I was blamed for not being caring and understanding. You wanted this, you created this. I gave you a chance to see me. You chose to judge me and my most vulnerable. So from then moving forward I didn't say shit.
Should have left her immediately after she betrayed you.
@kinetictheory9012
Yeah I became attatched to the kids...
You as well so take responsibility for the part you personally played tht helped with the outcome. You get wht you give both way but you are the man who leads
Facts. I wonder if they realize that when we confide in them and they throw it up in our face, how they can kill the relationship.
They don’t care. All they will say is that the man was weak and couldn’t handle them as if it’s a flex that she has to be handled like an untrained dog.
@@robertmonroejr1315😮
Just meant you confided in the wrong person.
Men are people with feelings too. They endure a lot and the pressure is real! I know a man has to keep his guards up in the streets but home should be his sanctuary, his strength and his safe haven. ❤
Real Talk!
Women don't respect vulnerability.. im here for strength thats it.. I cant change how nature works.. Men have to be ok with himself..
Men don't respect vulnerability in men either. It's that we only recognize this or care when we are on the receiving end of that shame / rejection from our partners. The truth is that we've all been socialized to believe vulnerability is weakness.
The part I disagree with in what he's saying is that a man should be able to display vulnerability and, in his words, softness in a number of places beyond his romantic relationship: with his best friend and with his dad. Men often place too high of an expectation on women to help us access our emotions because we haven't experienced or cultivated vulnerability in other places. I really think there's work for all of us to do around vulnerability
This is why women don't deserve respect.
Correction the wrong partner will destroy vulnerability.
The greatest response ever.
*He made so many wonderful and valid points. This is how I have always felt. A man should be able to be soft and vulnerable in his relationship, but the woman asked about how to deal with a man being MORE sensitive than her. I know, first hand what she's speaking of. My ex whined so much and threw huge fits constantly. He would throw things, slam doors, and not speak to me for days. There was no room for me to ever be emotional because he always was. Smh unacceptable behavior. I felt like I was the husband, and he was the wife. I could do nothing right. He complained about everything. He was highly sensitive. You could never tell him the truth, or he'd have a fit. Smh, he was very effeminate. My advice is to let a man like that go. He's ruined through and through.
This is so true
I was recently involved in an accident which nearly could have Paradise me
After the accident I noticed that I've become more sensitive
It's kind of hard because I was the strong one
Sometimes life throws you a curve ball and your going to have to deal with it
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AMEN!!! I have son's that are grown now and I taught them it's okay to cry, it's okay to be in your weak moment but don't let it keep you down. I hate when women or other men tell men that men don't or can't cry. Men hurt as well folks💔😢.
We all have pain! I appreciate your support and a great message.
@@lashayjohnson2857 You're setting your sons up to be ridiculed , women most likely will use that crying in front of them against them later on in a argument like y'all do 99% of the time.
It's not that crying is shameful. It's that men have to operate under any feeling. If you let your feelings overwhelm you it keeps you from performing the task at hand. If you let your emotions take over it causes you to make mistakes and act irrationally. That's why men should not break down and cry or rage and punch a wall. We have to understand what we're feeling and then perform despite those feelings.
@@JosephSilas-k5lyou’re absolutely correct. The only woman who would love you after seeing you cry is your own mother. In rare instances not even her.
I learned the hard way NEVER to cry in front of ANY woman. Not even because a loved one passed away. She will never tell you but you lost her respect when she sees you crying even for legit reasons to do.
Only do that around a woman that gives and understands you and won't use it against you
No CAP in his rap💯💯💯💯💯💯
Goosebumps! I want my man to be safe, vulnerable and even cry with me. Not just him but any man that's willing to trust me with their emotions. It's a red flag if my man isn't sensitive then I feel like he's hiding things from me.
Amen. Her question speaks volumes to how many black relationships fall apart.
We all have to get back to YAH, his laws and statutes are in place for a reason, YAH created the woman for the man, to console him in times of need, to bare him seed and nuture and love those seeds, and above all always putting YAH above all! Shalom my brothas and sistas❤
So many people do not know Yah. It's heartbreaking. I went back to Yah years ago. My entire life changed. I care for and love you, I don't even know you. However, I'm glad you commented, young spirit of Almighty Yah! 🙏🏾💯💪🏾❤️🔥 Shalom
It’s good to see these men start by explaining instead of holding it back within them❤
This is the reason I cannot love a girl 100% because then I have to be 100% vulnerable and based on my experience as soon as I am that's when they say something very hurtful to me about something in my life that I explained to them and nobody else. that's why I keep my guard up forever
He nailed it❤
Yes, he did! It's a great message.
I REALLY LOVE THIS MAN...
It's a great message!
That’s good! Men have a sensitive side too! Well said👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Wow that was extremely well said man!
I love this human
This dude knows how to respond !! Nicely handle bro!!!
Praise God...
Yes King! Talk to em! 💯💯💯
I appreciate it, my friend!