How to get along with Boomers, GenXers and Millennials | Mary Donohue | TEDxToronto
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How to get along with Gen X. Leave us alone.
Haha! Yes! (I'm Gen X too.)
@@portgree genX here.
Im self employed and endorse this message. x10. :)
YES!!!!🤣
Same goes for some millenials. Not everyone is interested in being liked or having friends. No disrespect intended. Same reason I Dont use FB, Twitter, or any variation of the two. The opinions of others on me or my life are irrelevant and over rated. I try to respect individuals regardless of age or generation, and try to focus on providing for myself and my family.
I can’t imagine any self respecting GenXr following her instructions at the end. We don’t like putting people into boxes. 🙄
Right! Screw boxes.
lmao the irony
Whatever
True, GenXers don't like it when anyone else (including baby boomers and millennials) is categorized in such a general way either. Each individual had his or her own stuff going on in their childhood. The generation they happened to be born in is far down the list of what shaped their personality. Some will say only a Generations Xer would make such a point. If there was a backdrop in the GenX generation that was different than our parents, it was desegregation.
I’d rather deal with people as individuals.
Basically, when a Gen Xr says whatever, that means stop talking and move on.
Yup
Someone gave birth
@Thunder Nugget Dude
You can’t get along with boomers.
They are difficult to deal but this video helps a lot. I'm a xennial in my late 30's. I waiting a long time for baby boomers go out of leadership but they still there. I don't understand why. 😒
@@joejoe5673 Depends on the person/people involved.
@@steelrose7342 I understand the frustration of wanting to get ahead. But I'm not sure why you think you should be running things in your 30s. There will be plenty of time for that when you're older.
@@profetaparaMexico
Hate for strangers. TYPICAL youtuber trait.
@@marylamb7707 It's also toxic for the work environment. Successful teams embrace diversity. Gender diversity. Racial diversity. Socioeconomic diversity. AND generational diversity. Everyone brings something to the table.
I'm also shocked by the 30-somethings in this thread who want boomers to "get out of the way." One commenter above said, "I waiting a long time for baby boomers go out of leadership but they still there. I don't understand why." Why are they still there? Because they are proven professionals who've made their bones the hard way. Because they've built the companies they work for, and are invested in their success. Because they have a wealth of experience and subject matter expertise. And on a personal note, because they have the dual burden of kids in college, and elderly parents who need costly medical care. They should retire? Why?
This intergenerational warfare is counterproductive, divisive, and utterly pointless. A successful team embraces diverse members and capitalizes on each other's talents, not pushes and shoves at each other out of personal ambition. Twenty or thirty years from now, millennials will be running the show, and their children might be shouting at them to "get out of the way." After spending their lives building their careers and their companies, they'd be right to feel aggrieved. I'd hope they'd have the self awareness to recognize their own futures and respect the people for whom that future is the present. Am I naive to hold them to that standard?
My group of gen x'er don't want to lead. We want to live. We have seen too many crashes to many ups and downs in the market. We know that what comes up will come down. Now we just wait.
Shane Andmorestuff So true. Boomers never get that. They assume everyone wants to be a leader and get a trophy. I could care less. I work to live, I don’t live to work. And the sooner I can retire, the better (one can dream...)
Doesn't click for me -- when I think Gen-Xers, I do think "get it done" -- but not because I grew up watching Disney. Nope, in my view it's because we were the "latch key" generation in which most of us grew up with two working parents (or only one parent due to high divorce rates), so we had to get a lot done for ourselves. Get yourself to school, get back home to an empty house and make yourself a snack. Get bored, nothing on the set TV schedule you want to watch? Go walkabout and find some other bored kids to mess around with -- no supervision, no helicopter parents, just come home when the streetlights come on. Want something done? Go do it, nobody is gonna do it for you! Someone's wining about life and fairness? Life ain't fair, so now what?
John Cunningham Dead on
Started off interested. Ended up nonsense.
Stereotyping is always flawed. We are individuals not prototypes popped out of a marketing and advertising agency generated cookie cutter. I don't identify with or live by generational stereotypes and neither do my friends of all ages/generations
There's no one size fits all.
Yes I remember them cause I was fighting them.....for your survival.....GENX
Not sure a Gen-X'er would go with the advice, 'though. Just tell us what needs to be done, leave us alone, and we will get it done, lol...
This makes it seem like you can't just be nice to people and make friends with people who aren't from your generation
It's a different dynamic at work though.
The reason that work sucks is that most of us don't decide when we work... we don't really decide what we do day today. And, on top of that, we are alienated from the goods and services we produce.
Generations apparently are the new corporate astrology (employment for the sort of people who don't know how to sew the right types of suits and power ties).
Is this a joke?
Paint 101 3 months ago
How to get along with Gen X. Leave us alone.
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Exactly! We don’t want to be bothered, we don’t want to be forced to sit in some
Kind of group therapies on how to do our jobs get along. Just shut up tell us what
You want done and the dead line . And stand back. Were not snow flake generation.
ah, yes. you aren't the snowflake generation. no, that's the generation who would very much like to see snow again... preferably not in california during the middle of summer.
We just want to show up, do our jobs, and go home. Is that too much to ask?🤣
@The eradicator
Exactly. 👌😎
@meme review
Snow?! Idk about you, right now im getting plenty of snow and barely in the teens, as far as weather goes.
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As a GenXer I want to lead, I just wish the Boomer generation would stop trying to forge their legacy by jumping over me and setting up the Millenials. We have waited, done everything we were told to do, showed up when others didn't and developed paths where none existed before. We are resilient, focused, and tough. However, we are tired.
Uber was started by Xers.
@T Mox and so was TH-cam...
@T Mox Typical treatment of the "middle child."
@@wordivore Yeah, why are Millennials getting credit for being innovators, using technology created by Gen-Xers? What is their contribution?
revelwoodie Facebook was created by a gen y
And so was Yahoo!
Her delivery is robotic. You can tell she had to memorize this whole speech word for word. It doesn't give an authentic feel
All these talks are like this. I've seen worse presentations than this too.
I’m GenX and I don’t understand some of the terms she used when discussing GenX. The millennial stuff is more understandable to me and Im an older GenXr. That said, she did nail the fear, resilience, doer, and visual aspects of my so-called generation.
The part where she said, "IF the street lights go on" made me Lol
I don't recognize her description of Gen-X either, and I'm pretty much dead center of Gen-X. Except for the "go outside and be home by dark" thing, that was spot on. That's why I'm so confused about her talk about how visual we supposedly are, and how we grew up on TV. I never watched TV growing up, and I don't know anyone who did. We were outside all the time. I had one friend who insisted on watching Fraggle Rock or something after school, and we all waited impatiently for to come out, and made fun of her for it. TV was that thing your grandmother was watching when you tried to tip-toe into the house an hour late.
If anything, I identify more with her description of Boomers. I am very verbal and I prefer face-to-face interactions.
The main thing, though, about Gen-X is our radical independence. This also a product of how we were raised, and how little parenting we got. It's probably why Gen-X is so very frustrated with Millennials. To us, Millennials seem very high maintenance. We always want to shout at them, "Just figure it out. I'm busy." And they also seem to seek out conflict, and are easy to upset. You really have to be very careful around Millennials, it seems, or risk creating a drama of some sort. Reading that back, I'm realizing that sounds a lot like how adults feel about teenagers. Maybe because Millennials were over-parented, they just aren't growing up as quickly as we did.
Same here; I think we were, as a generation, definitely ingrained with the doer trait. My teachers drilled that in me, from my collective memory. The movies and cartoons we were exposed to since we were actively watching TV in the 80s, also heightened up our visual senses.
She's wrong. Gen X is not 1960. A 60 year old is a boomer.
Exactly. She is trying to pass herself off as a Gen X when she is a Boomer.
ok boomer
ichtoza vuzovsky
oh my god. thank you. someone finally said it.
Born in 1970, right in the middle of GenX . I watched nothing getting better on the environmental or social scale...for decades . I was not able to change any of this . For me, it is an achievement to not have commited suicide yet .
Sorry, Mam, but Boomers were also the TV generation . I was born in 1953. And TV was always at the center of the living room. But TV was important. We gather around it. We had ONE TV. Now, there are TV's in every room. So, everyone is watching something different on their TV or Tablet or Computer. We don't communicate directly anymore. And Boomers also don't communicate as much. Very often, my mate is watching TV in the kitchen while i watch a movie on Netflix on my tablet in teh bedrooom
Yes but you watched it as a family always had someone there to watch with you, while us xers went home after school no one home i remember i watched the movie predator 11 times one summer and had icecream bars while watching. And in the summer you were there all day during the weekdays while both parents worked.
Had game systems, tv ... nothing to watch till mtv was introduced to us and going out to play all day. That is why we are the generation of the tv not that you didnt have it was the only media for early genx er as i was born in 79 the last year of gen x so i got more technology in my youth than other genxers.
Boomer here and could not agree with you more.
The entire family watched Disney, siblings watched Saturday morning cartoons, drank Tang, watched Neil Armstrong step out of the Lunar Module onto the moon on our new RCA Victor color TV.
This woman thinks boomers listened to the wind up 78 RPM Victrola......Not a clue!
We haven't lost the ability to communicate because of technology, if someone can't communicate, it's because of themselves, not the platform!
Another part of the issue is maturity; and not to mention bad grammar that leads to erroneous and problematic communications that need several exchanges to finally get the intended meaning of...and these are college graduates I'm speaking of!
That should be "of which I'm speaking". It's improper grammar to end a sentence w/ a preposition. LOL
Sensory processing is probably different for different people and generations.
Millenials LOVE talking about themselves and will NEVER ask about YOU.
Gen X*
Great presentation. I'm in between jobs now, am a Gen Xer and have always wondered why each generation seems to come across differently for the most part, especially in the office. This was definitely helpful and will prep me when I finally return back to the workforce. I do usually nowadays find myself in the minority at the office, age wise; most of my past coworkers have been Millennials (I was never promoted to a senior management role; hope that changes one day especially since I sense I have leadership skills and have put them to use in activities on weeknights and weekends).
She clearly favours Gen Xers and hates Millennials. Too biased for me to take seriously.
I'm a Gen Z and it seems like Gen X is better than millennials (more entrepreneurial, not as annoying etc.) Millennials are only okay cuz they're young and involved with technology that gen X created but culturally are cancer.
That's because you're a spoiled brat millenial.
@@Daniel41145 Gen Z more entrepreneurial? LOL You idiots haven't done anything. Right now, Gen Z's biggest goal in life is to be a professional TH-camr! LOL.
@@HappyTheHobo10 lmao
@@HappyTheHobo10 Gomez said Gen X is more entrepreneurial. Not Gen Z.
Great video! I'm a 1984 born Millennial! Shared on LinkedIn and Facebook as well with my mom who is a Boomer.
My condolences.
1997's are MILLENNIALS...
gen Z's "they're just brilliant" loooooolz
Thank you Mary Donohue for this informative and objective talk!
You gave me a wonderful overview about the different generations and mastered it to provide information without judging one generation.
I appreciate this and agree on this view of the different generations since there is no "best, better or worse" one in my opinion. They all have different characteristics and I share the believe that it is our responsibility to create an environment which enables all of them to bloom.
Peace - Over and Out
I teach generational intelligence and found this information to be a new take (at least to me) on how generational worldviews develop. Is it possible for you to share some of the research you pulled these ideas from?
THE BIGGEST THING GEN-X CREATED WAS...NO IDENTITY GROUPS...WE DIDN'T/DON'T CARE WHO YOU ARE AS LONG AS WE HAD FUN TOGETHER..IE PICNICS, BBQS ETC.
IDK.....I was born in 74 and there were jocks, preps, stoners, headbangers, skaters, ropers, and so on.
@@avoiceinthewilderness9864 YES THERE WERE BUT THEY DIDN'T FEEL ENTITLED TO ANYTHING "EXTRA" BECAUSE OF IT.
Wow this is amazing. Thanks so much. I’m gen x and you are soooo right! Lol
I appreciate the information provided, but it’s important to note that there are nuanced subcategories within each generation. For example, I identify with the ‘Xillennial’ micro-generation, which embodies the characteristics of both Gen X and Millennials. This distinction is evident in technological trends; during my high school years, cell phones were not as ubiquitous as now. Only a few students had them, unlike today’s widespread ownership. Additionally, I believe that when discussing generational traits, one must consider the varying economic statuses within each generation, as they significantly influence the experiences and perspectives of the individuals.
Hello , guys !Thank you Mary Donohue for this informative and objective talk! You gave me a wonderful overview about the different generations and mastered it to provide information without judging one generation. I appreciate this and agree on this view of the different generations since there is no "best, better or worse" one in my opinion. They all have different characteristics and I share the believe that it is our responsibility to create an environment which enables all of them to bloom.
I don’t agree with all of this but some solid points. Boomers 1946-1964.
Did anybody else noticed how perfectly and on spot her dress, hair and shoes match the environment? She's like.. she was born there, she lives on that stage and is part of it for ever
Petr Kotlitel
...are you ok? XD
*eeeeeeehng *buzzer sounds off*
WRONG.
We millennials are easy. We are nostalgic and sensitive to people’s feelings. We are easy to get along with. Gen x and boomers not so much 😅
There should be a mandatory retirement age at all corporations.
Gen X Rulz! All others drool!!
Just kidding. Gen X had to wait for the Boomers to retire or die off.
masculinity (boomers) vs. femininity (Millennials)...
(genxers) ...? ...cross dressers...
So being a gluttonous hard-headed narcissist is masculine? OK.
Hey "TED" why is it that all nwo governments DO is to u$e new advance$ and technologie$ again$t HUMANITY, WHY?
Don't forget she also has red shoes! Red, red, red!!!
Wait. What does that have to do with anything? Can you explain? I'm genuinely curious. Yours isn't the only comment that brings up all the red.
Red Hair, red dress and red background....just saying
Who Knew red shoes 😄😄
Red rug
Wow, almost everything she said was wrong. Impressive!
If Sam gets to have Ferris Beuler then GenX gets to have Sean Connery's Bond.
This was creepy and weird.
You always eat and eat information, there's no dialogue
Looking at the commentaries here, i see the generational gap is huge. But it does not correspond to what i live through. I work with millenials. And we get along just fine. My boss is a GenX and i get along with him just fine. In fact, i have more conflictual elationships with many of my fellow Boomers than i have with other generations.
I'm a gen x and 20yrs ago boomers were not that way..once my parents Gen left they took over n have more power today , they act like complete psychopaths..they create conflicts just so you can have the " i hate my job" attitude this was not that way 20 yrs ago...its play time and couldn't wait for this moment
@@oochiewally2783 Absolutely. Boomers were actually pretty OK up until around 2007? After that total psychopathic assholes.
@@trikayatranslationservices9434 i don't understand how their parents generation gave them everything be so mean spirited ..i mean I'm now comparing them to bad teens today whats bad is i look young for my age and this whole rant about millennials is being thrown on me and I'm in my 40s "The Game" has changed for the worst and as they say it wont get better
And yeah you made a good point about the Boomers getting super crazy AFTER their parents' generation passed away. My parents for example started to become really bad after my grandmother died in 2007 (the same date I mentioned above).
I'm an elder Millennial, age 38 (1981). Gen Xers are generally OK, but they are probably even more traumatized by the Boomers than Millennials in some ways. At least us Millennials had some more opportunities due to the internet and etc. Gen Xers have probably been more screwed in that sense.
@@trikayatranslationservices9434 oh yes Gen x were heavily influenced as teens back in the 80s by boomers I'm a younger Gen x n saw this of course we need to watch out for anyone no matter the age lol
Elon musk and the milinials she sighted are GenXers
I'm a gen X. find myself totally incapable of listen to a single world this woman has to say.
Paragraph speak, and I wasn't able to listen to a full sentence to determine that.
She needs to buy a house with a basement. dig a hole. shield this world from herself.
Gen X here. Leave us alone. Want to be friend? Let's meet. No smartphone. No social media BS. Call us if DIY is not on your vocabulary. Thanks.
Lima Peru and i'm exer
Something I can do?
This is absolutely fascinating.
I'm different, I am a builder, viewer and an adapter.
Great points, interesting subject and certainly gives us more to think about when communicating across generations. Thanks Mary Donohue.
LOL it should be the other way around too.
That last bit on gen x is bang on , huge fan of ted talks
I think I’ll stick around a few more scores and listen to millennial disect ( or not) about their descendants.All generations build on prior levels of achievements, technologies and modes of communications. Consider this..... boomers were in the same que spot as as the younger generations, decades ago, they just survived it.
I’m a lot more interested in what Unites us, regardless of calendar entry dates. The communication style prompts suggested are very loosely derived from rather older studies with a dash of NLP. ( IMO)
I can see parts of myself in each of the descriptions of the previous generations. 10:12 Sam/Millenials less so and 14:11 Gen Z, only the fact that I'm good with tech and always have a phone (as does everyone in modern business).
Lets do the human boogie instead.
Thank you Sir that speech was insightful.
You think that's a man?
@@wordivore Knighted by the Queen, no less.
Millennials aren't that bad. All you need to do to get them to do something at work is tell them to do it, and then explain why they should do it, and then answer all their questions about why they should do it, and then go back and get them off their phones and make sure they do it, then you have to tell them they're doing a great job while they're barely doing anything, then you have to tell them they did a great job when they're done or they will never do anything next time you ask them because if you don't then you were being mean to them. See, they're not so bad after all
😂😂😂 "That's a good boy!"
" who's the future??! "🏆
there are hardly any videos on gen x
we´re less up our backsides
90's grunge and alt rock pretty much embodied that X-er outlook. The lyrics to those songs are loaded with self deprecating sentiments, which is one the what has always drawn me to that era.
Phil Smith true, we did go through the grunge phase, but the difference between us and Millennials is that we grew up and became adults after.😂
I am realising why my mental health feels impacted. 😑
Great and insightful lecture.
using classic NLP
Gen X, I quite quit at my job
Gen X 1965-1980
schee schucks
She just gave herself a standing ovation at end. Brilliant
Ok, boomer.
What a terrible legacy the boomers have left.
Love this, but disagree on the generational times. Boomers = 1945-1964 Gen X = 1965-1984 Millennials = 1985-2004
Gen X does NOT include 1984 lol
It should. As a 1979 gen xer there is a disconnect after 84
The dates vary from text book to text book.
Living on an Island, I do also think that the times differ here, but yes, the debate remains the same though.
Not a chance. I was born in 2002, and just turned 15. I am in no way a millennial. Definitely Gen z. I'd say this video's approximations are fairly accurate.
Is she married? :)
Gen X here. I was born in 1968. Not around when JFK was assassinated in 1963. Nevertheless, when I think about it, both my head and my eyes go back and to the left. Back and to the left. Back and to the left. Back and to the left.
Ok, Karen...
is it weird that i can get along with an gen x better than a boomer? to be fair. when i was a kid, the gen x people would spend time with me while the boomer would make me feel like a parasite. 20 years later. i kind of grown into this gen x attitude. leave me alone and we will be fine. XD they kind of let me be myself no judgement. with a boomer, i feel like god hates me.
I'm a GenXer and I feel closer to millennials than my parents and even my own. I am amazed of their entrepreneurial spirit and the ability to create wonderful things and a very prosperous living without the daily work grind. My parent's generation must retire and pass the baton and quit blaming us and the millennials for the problems that they created.
You must be a xennials born in the late 70s. However, gen x are entrepreneurial too
WTF is a "deck"?
A PowerPoint presentation slide "deck".
Thank you! I was wondering the same thing!
Me too. I didn't know what the heck she was talking about! LOL
Consider yourself fortunate.
Yep, that’s one of terms I completely missed but apparently am supposed to understand. That term comes from pre-Power Point technology, the good old fashioned slide (photo) deck (anyone remember those?)
I thought I was a Boomer based on Pew Research but here I'm Gen X, whatever. Favorite anime to live action movie series is Rurouni Kenshin and I watch ASMR roleplays to get my tingles. I have little idea what this woman is talking about and I turn to the younger generations for stress relief ideas.
The word " sucks" just knocks the class out of a professional presentation... and no matter what the information is... the lisp is hard to ignore.. some researchers and teachers must hire speakers to make their info stand out
If you believe the official story then you might as well be, a cave men in a cave, taking in the shadows on the cave wall as truth! However, you could not be more mistaken!
Born in 71 and I feel more like a boomer than the GenX described here.
How to get along, don’t put a label on your forehead and talk about it. I’ve never talked to anybody and thought about what generation they fall in.
Just talk.
Does the carpet match the drapes, Politically Incorrect! LOL
"they're just brilliant"
*suppressed laughter*
"Suckage component". I like this..hehe Totally taking this one.
Why does this guy think all generations act the way he said they do?
This is entertaining but the visual/auditory/etc eye movement stuff is full of sh^t.
RA Daniel Harrell watched 6/4/2020
I have no idea what she is talking about when she says give gen x a deck? What is that supposed to mean? I do agree that most of us see work as a way to support ourselves and not our life legacy. Work smarter not harder. The Gen X way.
A deck is a powerpoint presentation which is a collection of slides. Before powerpoint those slides were called a deck so the term carried over. Like a deck of cards, you had a deck of slides that each would be put on the projector to show up on the wall.
I'm between gen x & millennials - why are we always forgotten?
I can't figure out what a "deck" is, that you give a millenial to calm them down? I'm serious, I heard her say it twice...
@@Ummmmwtf............. maybe she didn't say 'deck'.? It sounded like; .... give them a whiteboard and a deck"...wierd...
What (time stamp) was this said
She didn't say give it to millennial...she said give it to a Gen x
she means Tape deck era. before CD or ipods lol
Well at least she did not say give them a bag of decks. A deck is a PowerPoint presentation. It consists of multiple slides which as a collection are called a deck or if you will a deck of slides. It is a hold over when one used to have to use an overhead projector of which you had to put each slide on the machine and it would project it on the wall. Again, the group of slides is called a deck. It is like cut and paste and copy and paste are terms used in graphic arts for making of books, and magazines etc. My Dad, a war baby, was a graphic artist. I used to teach a Publisher class.
This presentation wasn't that bad, is it me or are the other red x presentations not learning knowledge worthy?
Boring, it aint happening babe.
Is this about Boomer Death Camps?
Mary, No. 1, YOUR HOT!
No. 2, Man you REALLY DID YOUR
RESEARCH. What a CLEVER WAY
of tying up the Generations, WELL
DONE...................THANKYOU.🎸❤
watched on 06/04/2020