Personally I don't think that the kids are the problem, but rather that kids amplify all existing problems and really test a couples ability to communicate and resolve conflict. It is also my personal belief that the modern expectation for men to be super involved as reverse to "never present" fathers causes its own set of problems. There's a reason why kitchens have a head chef and a sou chef. Each role is to support the other and achieve an overarching goal, but each has autonomy to perform within their role without constant participation from the other on every decision. Imo no two people will ever align 100% perfectly in every small decision, so the key is to agree in the overall direction and then don't need to sweat the small stuff.
Thank you @chloeleung1581 for your opinion! I totally agree with what you've said. Our expectations can be quite extreme and we need to find a balance on both roles. And yes! Too many cooks spoil the broth. I will share with you what I've learnt on Parenting in another video. Hope to see you there!
If you're blaming a child for ruining your marriage. It's YOU as a mother or father are the main problems. Don't blame on the kids because YOU'RE the ones raising them.
Hi @Rantsack! You are absolutely right. Our kids are exact mirrors to us. So honestly, we cannot avoid responsibilities when they are poorly raised. In my video, I've not blamed my kids (for e.g. their behaviors, their high-maintenance life) for the breakdown of my marriage. Just like what @chloeleung1581 had said, their existence amplified our existing problems. We no longer can turn a blind eye to issues between me and my husband. Thank you for your comment!
Hi @uncontrolled1413! Thank you for your affirmation, sharing and your patience in going through my video! I hope to have more useful content to help more people out there.
Personally I don't think that the kids are the problem, but rather that kids amplify all existing problems and really test a couples ability to communicate and resolve conflict.
It is also my personal belief that the modern expectation for men to be super involved as reverse to "never present" fathers causes its own set of problems.
There's a reason why kitchens have a head chef and a sou chef. Each role is to support the other and achieve an overarching goal, but each has autonomy to perform within their role without constant participation from the other on every decision.
Imo no two people will ever align 100% perfectly in every small decision, so the key is to agree in the overall direction and then don't need to sweat the small stuff.
Thank you @chloeleung1581 for your opinion! I totally agree with what you've said. Our expectations can be quite extreme and we need to find a balance on both roles. And yes! Too many cooks spoil the broth. I will share with you what I've learnt on Parenting in another video. Hope to see you there!
If you're blaming a child for ruining your marriage. It's YOU as a mother or father are the main problems. Don't blame on the kids because YOU'RE the ones raising them.
Hi @Rantsack! You are absolutely right. Our kids are exact mirrors to us. So honestly, we cannot avoid responsibilities when they are poorly raised. In my video, I've not blamed my kids (for e.g. their behaviors, their high-maintenance life) for the breakdown of my marriage. Just like what @chloeleung1581 had said, their existence amplified our existing problems. We no longer can turn a blind eye to issues between me and my husband. Thank you for your comment!
Not at all in unpopular opinion, I think a lot of things you mention are very true and should be heard by many more people! Important lessons
Hi @uncontrolled1413! Thank you for your affirmation, sharing and your patience in going through my video! I hope to have more useful content to help more people out there.