Dating in my thirties 💌 love, relationships, neurodivergence 👽
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Would love to hear more of your reflections on friendship. Especially wondering how you make and keep friends as an adult since you mentioned working so hard at it :)
I know I'm with a right person when I don't question the future, but stay in the present. It is as if there are no real worries, everything has a solution. My ex, who is now my friend, made me realise how soothing it feels. So dating in my thirties is seeking a peaceful relationship.
“Dating later in life” - Totally get what you mean but you are only in your thirties, that is still so young! ✨
"Take the easy option, life is hard enough" ❤ Thank you for your thoughts and videos in general, Nina!
Nina, i've been a long time subscriber, and i have to say that your vlogs are such a major highlight throught my week for me. Every week i look forward to hearing your thoughts, following you around sydney, seeing the world through your eyes. Every video feels like listening to a dear friend's voice memo, and i always learn somethig new about myself / take away something valuable, even if its just 'i should take some time for myself and go for a walk and read my books'. I loved hearing your thoughts on aging, relationships, things changing with age. Thank you for always being so vulnerable and open!
Ohhh!!! Truly one of the loveliest comments I’ve read 💖 thank you so much! This makes me so happy to hear.
Oof the thoughts on one partner being afraid of abandonment and the other being afraid of abandoning their self and getting lost in the relationship just blew my mind a little bit (i'm definitely the latter, unfortunately!) thank you as always for sharing your vulnerabilities with us
The sharing instead of merging really provided some clarity for my thoughts. Thanks for sharing
hi. here just making friends. I also watch Nina"s Chanel and i would like somo cool friends that also consume nice content, anyways just saying hi from Argentina
Socially weird very accurate put, thank you Nina for sharing with the warmth and understanding of your self and others!!! Being neurodivergent i can relate and getting my diagnosis at 45!!! I am 47 now well it finally gives you the space to understand it is okay, there is nothing wrong with you,your brain just work differently but you are as valuable as anyone else... Sending you lots and lots of warm hugs from Sweden and your vlogs give me so much comfort!!!
Thank you for sharing these thoughts about the fear of losing our sense of self. I had never put it into words but it resonates so much with how I feel that now I feel I can understand and think about my feelings and fears better ❤✨
I have also been practicing gentleness with myself and accepting that I am neurodivergent too! An almost 2 year burnout had me frantically trying to "fix" myself, seeking professional assistance that didn't help, but this summer has been a practice in being gentle. I will get to things in my own time.
Siempre me encanta escuchar tus reflexiones ❤ y la calma que trasmiten tus vídeos, hacen que la vida se vea bonita
Gosh, thank you so much for this video, I feel like I relate to you on so many levels.
Thank you for watching 🧡🧡 that makes me so happy to hear!!
Oh, I loved this talk about relationships. I know I am kind of independent but never really perceived it in this way (also helpful because my situation is similar to yours). A big realization for me about love/relationships is that I find them very difficult and hard because I am not good at mentally closing myself off. So it may seem paradoxal but because I can not be with someone while not mentally being with them all the time, I do not want to be in that situation/I dont want to loose myself.( So for me it is also a bit about exposure to this mechanism).
So thanks for being vulnerable out here and talking about it
Nina, thank you so much for sharing. There is a syncronicity for me in following your journey over the years. Your realisations have often chimed with my own as i've grown and changed. I am also in my first official year of a career change into counselling/psychotherapy. What you spoke of here is so in sync with the realisation i'm settling in to. I'm in my 29th year, and finally feeling in charge of my life - I hope my 30s will be a time where I can feel safe enough in myself to be able to date again. I think, like you are saying, you can only be a "we" in relationship if you've found your "I".
Lovely video Nina really enjoy your rants and reflections. I do think dating in my 30s was way easier than in my 20s specially bc I knew better who I was and was not trying to people please so hard all the time. Would love to hear more on the friends topic like where do you find them lol I’m having a hard time making new friends now that everybody my age is all about family&kids life
Ahhh less confident about friendships and making friends lol but I can definitely share my experience!! Would have lots to say hehe
As always a lovely video! ❤ I guess one of my biggest realisations is that i had to let go of this fairytale idea of love. That it would save me somehow or make everything better. But also like you said, that its less about needing to be validated all the time. I would be interested to hear how (now that you are in a relationship again) you stay close to yourself?
Glad to see you back 💖
Nina, me encantan los videos en los cuales por unos minutos te sientas y compartes lo que tienes en tu mente con respecto a algun tema, siempre me gusta comparar mis pensamientos o mi punto de vista con los que tu compartes en tus videos
Saludos y un super abrazo desde Argentina
I'm happy you posted:))
I love the note on decentering romantic relationships! I will die on that hill! This conversation as a whole was so validating. Thanks for sharing your vulnerable thoughts!!! Also, you mentioned moving to Australia alone. Where are you originally from?
Really appreciate these reflections :)
I feel the same way about the merging. For awhile, I thought I was the only one or that something was wrong with me for daring to say that I want to continue to know myself and have metaphorical streets that my partner has not and will not, travel with me. It's nice to find camaraderie because I sank so much further into the unknown the deeper I was in the relationship and both my insides and outsides would swirl with considerations and pleasant, neutral, and chaotic thoughts of them over me. The reflection in the mirror didn't seem to match my own in feeling nor silhouette. I'll have to pick up that book, because I have questioned why I think back on my relationship with a more unbiased gavel once it's done and dusted, versus while in it. Something I have come to realize is its partly because the pressures is off, both parties have withdrawn their weapons and there is no longer a battle available to seize.
Happy to wake up to a new video from you ❤❤
Cute jacket, sweet, authentic vibes
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How is your relationship going Nina?? ❤ Sooo nice to hear some more of how youre doing!
Hi Nina, I love watching your videos, so thoughtful and comforting
may i ask about your diagnosis? neurodivergence is such a wide spectrum and i was diagnosed late as well (at 25, i'm 29 now) with autism and adhd. following and understanding you for years made me wonder earlier if you may be on the spectrum, as i found so many similarities and same interests and thought progresses.
Curious how you found your friends in Australia, any tips in making new friends?
I made lots of my good friends through living in share houses! And some of them through Instagram and some of them through dates that didn’t work romantically 🙃
You are such a lovely kid :)
hi Nina, I can totally relate to sound sensitivity and sometimes wonder if I'm neurodivergent or just highly sensitive to my environment, including bright lights as well. My husband reviews IEMs so I'll let him know about yours. BTW what was the song playing from 1:11? I love it!
What’s the first song in the video?
Here’s to me hoping this is a queer video 🤓
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I'm so proud of you for knowing you're neodivergent. We have been saying it for years that we know you are 🤍🤍🤙🏼🌷