Totally agree with leaving people’s messages on read but not responding. It gives “I don’t have time for you” which is hurtful especially to people you consider dear to you. It’s different if you have not seen the message but it’s rude to just ignore someone’s text, busy or not. Even a short text saying “cannot talk now but will get back to you soon” is better than being ignored.
I related sooooooo much to Miriam's friendship breakup story and that being what led her to get closer to God. Like word for word, bar for bar happened to me!!! I wish her all the best. It gets better and it gets easier!!! And your discernment of people gets stronger!
Joyce!!! And Mariam! Hands down another amazing episode! As baby Christian who’s now trying to be mindful of the type of content I consume on a daily basis, I’m so grateful that this was such a tasteful and vulnerable episode filled with so much laughter and great energy! And loving Mariam on this new journey of her life as she begins to get closer to the Lord, she just radiates with this amazing peaceful, loving aura as per usual but you can definitely see the transformation and it’s so beautiful to see🤍🤍
The Tangents are so important we love it..... and I have fallen in love with Maz more ....I am so happy about your Christainity journey. I pray we all finish well❤❤❤❤
I’ve been watching your shows for the past week. You are so amazing. I love how you share your relationship with God. Those segments really hit home because I’m currently trying to know God for myself 🥲. This is your calling! I will be here watching you FLOURISH 💕
This was such a surprisingly healing episode. Friendship break-ups aren’t discussed that much. You gals showed such beautiful vulnerability discussing your experiences and it’s so inspiring to see how you have elevated and have genuine sisterhood. Thank you for calling out toxicity women friendships, its powerful in changing what is considered acceptable.
Wow Joyce PHEW. I relate to you much it’s shocking. Me to a T when it comes to friendships. Loyal to a fault but I’ve learned to adjust the energy for those who are deserving of it.
One thing Mariam has to understand, sex is not created solely for reproduction, it’s created for two people in union to thoroughly enjoy. However they like, as long as it’s between them two.
this was sooooo refreshing! Thank you Mariam for having the courage to still speak about God even though you consider yourself a baby Christian, in this upside down culture and I wish you so much peace in your salvation journey ♥
on the topic of sex and God. I feel like christians forget that sex was God's idea! we're so tied up in performatively being morally upstanding. Your love and union has been blessed by God he has given and created the safe space for your guys to be intimate and manifest that love through the act of creation or sex if you like. God want's your pleasure, God wants your desires fulfilled and the freedom to do these things in God's love comes from sanctifying the relationship through Gods word. Standing before him and saying we are one. At that phase to me anything we do in our initmate moments is God centred! He is always there even when you laid on your back sisters! God doesn't know shame, humans do and I think that keeps us trapped in these ways of thinking. I promise you all God wants your pleasure, he just wants it in his glory! that is it.
1hr05 Sex is meant to be enjoyed not just for reproduction. If you are around Christians enough,you would know there also want to enjoy sex... Virgins do know whether sex is good or not cus even as a virgin,you know when something is good or not..libido whether high or not does not care about Virginity..You can marry as a virgin and still feel extremely sexually unsatisfied etc However, I agree if u can wait wait and even if u decide try it when you are much older
From what I've learned about biblical sex, the guardrails is that its not something that defiles your spouse, that they don't want to do and is unnatural. Pastor Kingsley and Mildred have a channel that's about biblical sexuality and they answer questions there. God created sex and the pleasure that people have to bring children and to also help couples be more intimate so he definitely wants enjoyment in it (in marriage)
@maamesbooks I think that’s where the whole dignity of your spouse has to be taken into account, like if your sexual acts are defiling someone and about your partner being an object of some fantasy that’s demeaning, that’s a no.
One of the biggest challenges i face is to be a girls girl. This topic of conversation on the demented mindset that most women have against other women validates everything i have been saying for the last 10+ years. 😅
15:11 I have had many experiences like this I end up having more love for them over time but I think some of them don’t feel the same purely because I had to break it off because it was being obedient to God. It’s bitter sweet but I wouldn’t have done it any other way. In hindsight it’s good we listen to God so we don’t end up with friends who down the line try poisoning us
Loving Christian Mariam😂😂 Your relationship with God will be your biggest saviour! Let me tell you! There is nobody that will be there for you like God will!! Honestly, I had 2 major friendship heart breaks and my goodness prayer and my other Christian friends helped me heal!
Yes it would be good to have your Pastor on. It just gives an interesting and different dynamic. I Love your shows Joyce, my daughter got me onto you 😂😂😂😂
I think I was that friend that wanted to be replied immediately, like always. But when I saw people actually ignored you till they were ready to reply, I just joined the crowd, I’m sorry, Like I have things to do too. And I stopped being the first to reach out🤷🏽♀️
42:00 yea I know what she means, I had a friend like that, she had all male friends, and she would bring her friends arounds as a flex to the boys. Many of her female friends would sleep with her male best friend and then her friendship with the females would decimate
"This is cocktails and takeaways. This is not mountain of fire ministries." 😂😂😂😂😂😭😭
Lmaoooooooooooo
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Finished me😂😂😂😂😂
MJ you're definitely a comedian 😂😂😂 it's how you used davidos Song to describe her breast for me💔😂😂
Mountain on fire 😅
Loving the vulnerability of Mariam
Joyce this all brown look is giving 😍😍😍
As a Christian woman I have to say this is the best episode yet 😂😂😂😂
Literally! I loved it!
we actually need Joyce's pastor for a CT sitdown
Yesssss it would be so lit
Agreed
Yes bring him on
Love you sis 😭❤️❤️
You’re just so sweet girl i wanna be your friend so bad😭
I’m loving this journey you’re on with God! It’s really helping me on mine🫶🏽❤️🥰
@@yolishi7090 beg
Well done Maz on your journey to Christianity ✝️ love this ❤️
You can see Mariam asking God to answer the questions / for guidance before she says anything and I love it
I love the tangents, it’s a more natural flow of the convo. I actually dislike when you cut the convo to get back on track sometimes lol
Same here
Same
Totally agree with leaving people’s messages on read but not responding. It gives “I don’t have time for you” which is hurtful especially to people you consider dear to you. It’s different if you have not seen the message but it’s rude to just ignore someone’s text, busy or not. Even a short text saying “cannot talk now but will get back to you soon” is better than being ignored.
Mariam is amazing 🤍 Genuinely such a sweetheart & I pray the years ahead of her a full of blessings 🙏🏾
I related sooooooo much to Miriam's friendship breakup story and that being what led her to get closer to God. Like word for word, bar for bar happened to me!!! I wish her all the best. It gets better and it gets easier!!! And your discernment of people gets stronger!
Me too! I was sitting here like is she reading my life like a book
"me that’s shaking my bum where will I go" I’m crying real tears 😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭
Same gurl 😭
Joyce!!! And Mariam! Hands down another amazing episode! As baby Christian who’s now trying to be mindful of the type of content I consume on a daily basis, I’m so grateful that this was such a tasteful and vulnerable episode filled with so much laughter and great energy! And loving Mariam on this new journey of her life as she begins to get closer to the Lord, she just radiates with this amazing peaceful, loving aura as per usual but you can definitely see the transformation and it’s so beautiful to see🤍🤍
God bless you and lead you trough your journey to Him, much love ❤️
I just love Mariam, she is such a sweet soul, bless her ❤
I love tangents, it encourages the convo to flow naturally, plus the best parts are derived from them.
Im crying Joyce is so cheeky for making Mariam think she was right
The Tangents are so important we love it..... and I have fallen in love with Maz more ....I am so happy about your Christainity journey. I pray we all finish well❤❤❤❤
Woww the accountability piece was SUCH a good conversation I definitely needed to hear that 🙌🏽
I’ve been watching your shows for the past week. You are so amazing. I love how you share your relationship with God. Those segments really hit home because I’m currently trying to know God for myself 🥲. This is your calling! I will be here watching you FLOURISH 💕
I like the tangents. That’s the best convo because ppl open up n share personal experiences!!!
Love the tangents, makes the conversation more organic
Glad you’re realising this now Miriam .Im a big auntie who still struggles with reacting to situations
Yes to TANGENTS!!! That’s how real conversations happen! Real convos don’t stick to the topic
This is going into my top 5 favourite episodes of Cocktails and Takeaways.
Honestly you make my day every time you post❣️
This was such a surprisingly healing episode. Friendship break-ups aren’t discussed that much. You gals showed such beautiful vulnerability discussing your experiences and it’s so inspiring to see how you have elevated and have genuine sisterhood. Thank you for calling out toxicity women friendships, its powerful in changing what is considered acceptable.
Wow Joyce PHEW. I relate to you much it’s shocking. Me to a T when it comes to friendships. Loyal to a fault but I’ve learned to adjust the energy for those who are deserving of it.
Particularly loved this episode, big up to you and Mariam
One thing Mariam has to understand, sex is not created solely for reproduction, it’s created for two people in union to thoroughly enjoy. However they like, as long as it’s between them two.
Word
That part had me 🤔 cause there's a whole book in the Bible that celebrates sexual longing 😂 procreation is important but God created pleasure too.
Exactly! However, I agree with her on the no Anal thing. As sodomy is mentioned in the bible as being a bad thing
Exactly. The other thing is the misunderstanding on anal/sodomy. A lot of Christian culture has mischaracterized the story of sodom & gomorrah.
we love the tangents. as long ad you come back- we goodie
I loveee the tangents it makes the convo go so smoothly
I really felt this episode and it made me laugh & reflect on my life & God at the same time ❤
Joyces explanation of friendships 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Joyce please bring your pastor on C&T please 🙏🏾
this was sooooo refreshing! Thank you Mariam for having the courage to still speak about God even though you consider yourself a baby Christian, in this upside down culture and I wish you so much peace in your salvation journey ♥
on the topic of sex and God. I feel like christians forget that sex was God's idea! we're so tied up in performatively being morally upstanding. Your love and union has been blessed by God he has given and created the safe space for your guys to be intimate and manifest that love through the act of creation or sex if you like. God want's your pleasure, God wants your desires fulfilled and the freedom to do these things in God's love comes from sanctifying the relationship through Gods word. Standing before him and saying we are one. At that phase to me anything we do in our initmate moments is God centred! He is always there even when you laid on your back sisters! God doesn't know shame, humans do and I think that keeps us trapped in these ways of thinking. I promise you all God wants your pleasure, he just wants it in his glory! that is it.
"It's a pride thing" I'm right there with you. Seriously having to work on asking for help
This was a great episode ❤ I love the tangents during Win or Bin
So enjoyed this convo :)!
Joyce we love the tangents!!
I really love madame joyce and her episodes. I just thought I'd binge and get into her properly because she is unmatched honestly 💅🏽✨️
I just love Mariam mannn, you two make me wheeze !!
Joyce is honestly such a joyyy to watch. I love this podcast 🥳
This is such a good show. I don’t usually give shows a like but this definitely gets a like! I’m a fan!
i love healthy friendships and if i spot one bad person i’m outttttt i no dey waste time
I’m with Musa…I interpreted the mum the same way she did😂
i know having a conversation with Mariam is such an experience i hope to experience that one day❤
1hr05
Sex is meant to be enjoyed not just for reproduction. If you are around Christians enough,you would know there also want to enjoy sex...
Virgins do know whether sex is good or not cus even as a virgin,you know when something is good or not..libido whether high or not does not care about Virginity..You can marry as a virgin and still feel extremely sexually unsatisfied etc
However, I agree if u can wait wait and even if u decide try it when you are much older
Love the tangents.. i feel like it makes the show 😅
From what I've learned about biblical sex, the guardrails is that its not something that defiles your spouse, that they don't want to do and is unnatural. Pastor Kingsley and Mildred have a channel that's about biblical sexuality and they answer questions there. God created sex and the pleasure that people have to bring children and to also help couples be more intimate so he definitely wants enjoyment in it (in marriage)
@maamesbooks I think that’s where the whole dignity of your spouse has to be taken into account, like if your sexual acts are defiling someone and about your partner being an object of some fantasy that’s demeaning, that’s a no.
@maamesbooksBDSM doesn’t come from God I honestly think it stems from trauma or porn which both of those things aren’t of love or goodness.
Please bring your pastor oo
Not the fluffy handcuffs 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I wanna know who created the animated intro , it’s so cool ❤
OGs already knew Mariam’s holiday story with the unhinged add on friend 😂😂 and adeola & nella
Tangets are good MJ.. don't want to miss out on ish like "we jus ordinary peopled"😩😂😂😂❤
Truly the best episode !!!
Wow this oneeeeee is the one loved every second of this episode
the fluffy hand cuffs floored me 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Loving the Christian content ❤
We love Mariam❤❤❤
LOVED this episode
One of the biggest challenges i face is to be a girls girl. This topic of conversation on the demented mindset that most women have against other women validates everything i have been saying for the last 10+ years. 😅
I love the tangents!
I just love a black woman in a constellation of browns! Gorgeous. Great convo!
Loved this episode! Mariam is so funny talking about fluffy handcuffs being okay and not titanium 😭😂
Keep doing the tangents!!!
I love this episode!!
“He’s sitting there single watching the fresh and fit podcast” 🤣🤣
Out here looking for “holy pink fluffy cuffs” 😂Another amazing episode with a Badt Girlie 👏👏👏
In are you smart when Mariam said 40 states and she said the Holy Spirit helped her - I had to pause to laugh 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Deffo about Nella. She seems toxic and has a victim mentality. You deserve the world Maz, pure soul xx
What happened with her and nella?
They don’t follow each other as well
We all saw a Nella’s behaviour on ima celeb….zero self awareness
I don't believe Nella has victim mentally
bring the pastor!! PLEASE
I love Mariam soo much, she's such a girl.. Watched her episode with ash where she was like "she is a yellow" read the book and I can really see it.
I love tangents. Very organic ❤
Mariam, I agree with you love. Home is always the best ☺️
We love the tangents Joyce 🤣🤣💖
Lolll “don’t forget to subscribe” is back 😆 love it
Facts on top of facts frl 🔥🔥❗️
I love the new animated intro’s
15:11 I have had many experiences like this I end up having more love for them over time but I think some of them don’t feel the same purely because I had to break it off because it was being obedient to God. It’s bitter sweet but I wouldn’t have done it any other way.
In hindsight it’s good we listen to God so we don’t end up with friends who down the line try poisoning us
lolll well this was a GREAT first episode experience 😂😂
love this for maz
😂😂 the way Joyce laughs,,now i understand why people say my laughter is contagious😂
That mother situation, i thought the exact same thing as Mariam
Loving Christian Mariam😂😂 Your relationship with God will be your biggest saviour! Let me tell you! There is nobody that will be there for you like God will!! Honestly, I had 2 major friendship heart breaks and my goodness prayer and my other Christian friends helped me heal!
Yes it would be good to have your Pastor on. It just gives an interesting and different dynamic. I Love your shows Joyce, my daughter got me onto you 😂😂😂😂
Fluffy handcuffs had me 😂😂😂
Please we want the pastor on the show
YOU MUST BRING THAT PASTOR ON!!!!
Mariam! I literally was thinking the same thing about the communication ick before you said it .
This is the funniest are you smart ep 😂
I think I was that friend that wanted to be replied immediately, like always. But when I saw people actually ignored you till they were ready to reply, I just joined the crowd, I’m sorry, Like I have things to do too. And I stopped being the first to reach out🤷🏽♀️
Please bring your Pastor on the show Joyce
Keep the tangents! & u should consider bringing your pastor
42:00 yea I know what she means, I had a friend like that, she had all male friends, and she would bring her friends arounds as a flex to the boys. Many of her female friends would sleep with her male best friend and then her friendship with the females would decimate
We want your Pastor on the show!
I was with Mariam on the “mum mum” thing 😂
I'm howling at "this is not mountain of fire ministries" 🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂 when you told her it was right for 40 I’m like what?? I’m American that isn’t right