@@dasaxophonist I know how you feel. I’m thinking about doing the same thing with my crush. It really does hurt being just friends. I want more too or I don’t want a relationship at all
John Banks i said that to him and he insists he's not a narcissist... and I want to move on and not be attached to anymore pain...we were together 5 yrs and now he wants to be friends...but still.calls me honey and babe... I dont wanna be confused... I will be his friend because we have a child, but he still acts romantically smh
John Banks My ex calls me a narcissist and I wanted to be friends, so we're friends. I don't see how anything has to do with narcissism. On another note I'm pretty great.
@@anastasiyarakova8517 Narcissist nah! Selfish more like it. If you don't want to be his one and only then give way for another woman to come into his life. Since you've broken up, your presence in each others life is now irrelevant. Sorry but that's the ugly truth.
I don't know, maybe this says something about me but, I'm not friends with ANY of my exes. If I see them out in public I'll say hi. But to stay friends with them on social media and "hang out" with them NO. Especially during that period where you are still grieving what "was" or if you put up with a lot of BS from them. Nope, I'm good, bye bye
For me I see it as we either are friends or if we get in a relationship and break up it's done period. None of this friends after a relationship bullshit I couldn't bear being friends with someone I loved so much, and to me if you really wanted me you would have stayed with me not leave then come back playing this little childish unsure game. If you want me you stay with me end of story.
I agree you should not be made to feel obligated to become friends and hangout with an ex. Specially when you have not spoken in years. Then both married to other people, started a new life and family.
my ex gf of 2 years broke up me out of the blue. she said she said i have no ambition and she does not feel secure ie i do not earn enough. i was teaching college math . i was heart broken but i did not beg and just ghosted. a couple of weeks after she texted me saying she was sorry for hurting me but she really did not see herself settling down with me but would like to be friends. i texted sure. 2 months later she asked me for help to shift her stuff to her new apt. i texted back no. that night she said she really needed help and tot i was a friend. i said i was busy( which i was) and that she could afford movers. one week later , she sent an text asking me to come to her new place and help set up her cable and pc. i was free but arranged a road trip over the weekend with some friends so i can tell her sorry road trip. she asked me out for coffee on a saturday afternoon 2 weeks later by text. i was free but said no. this time i did not give an excuse. i knew she was dating some rich lawyer so i figured the guy was working weekends and she needed company. finally she texted me saying i was a jerk for saying i would be a friend and then refusing to help or meet up. i texted back. sayng i do not help any of my guy friends move stuff or set up their cable why should i treat u any different? i told her i would only hang out with her if the.activity what i really enjoyed like hiking or catching a basketball game. she stopped texting me. now 9 months post break up i am fully healed up and dating a nice attractive girl and my ex gf wants to meet up to "talk". rich lawyer bf and her must have broken up . i did not keep tabs on her so i cant be sure but now i really do not care. i just texted no. one word. it has been 1 week and she has not texted me since . hopefully she gets the message i do not want to have anything to do with her.
No to being friends. Only time you should accept it, is if you guys were good friends before you got into the relationship. If not, say no to friends. If you can't have them, they can't have you as a friend. Nuff said.
I just let them say theybwant to be friends and then i just go with the flow. Tell them its all good and then tell them you're busy and go m.i.a. let them hit you up again and be the normal, awesome guy you you are, but play a bit hard to get. Usually there is some sort of negative feeling(s) for you when they distance themselves; just agree to it so that they know they can reach out to you and rekindle the relationship when they figure themselves out.
Thanks I stumbled across this video. It's been one hell of an emotional rollercoaster 5 months into our separation. I've learned a lot. We have finally been able to be in each other's presence and talk and carry on share laughs ECT. I've been able to apologize for several things that led to our demise. She is currently and I believe a rebound relationship that she says is going good and happy. I can't help but to think her asking me to be friends is a good thing for me to potentially showcase what I've learned in hopes that sometime we might be able to get back together and I might be able to write my wrongs. And apply but I've learned
They aren’t your friend if they can hurt you by the relationship ending badly , like cheating, abuse , etc RUN and never be friends with someone like that.
My ex hurt me , than wanted to be my friend , I couldn't get over it and my emotions were running so high at 4 months later it ended up we can't be friends
Don't worry happened to me my ex gf kept lying to me when we became friends I only did it because so my ex could feel happy but during friends she made it sound like she still liked me then she changed her mind so I ended being friends So Don't Worry 👍👋
I’ve only been able to maintain friendship with two of my exes and that didn’t happen easily or overnight. Years had gone by, and we evolved into different people. Of course, immediately after the break up I went no contact & severed ties & I truly, honestly believe that was the right move because it helped me mourn and move on. Another reason why I was able to salvage the friendships is because we had heart-to-heart convos about what went wrong and apologized and forgave one another, we didn’t part on bad terms but still, it was nice to have a form of closure. However, I’m a stickler for staying true to my heart and won’t seek out friendship if I feel an ex isn’t genuine about being amicable and has sketchy patterns. I suppose it all boils down to using your intuition and observing a persons heart.
My now ex boyfriend texted me four days ago and said that "i love you but we should just be friends" (we were in a long distance relationship.) I was sad because we were getting close to two years in a relationship, but now it ended. I deleted him off of everything cause I was mad, but now I feel bad for it cause I still have feelings for him. I hope that one day we start talking again, because he was the only person that always had good advices, good sense of humour, and always made my day a whole lot better.
Sharlene Marten I feel the same way about my ex I loved him to death, and I actually blocked him on everything and said some pretty nasty things to him when he said he wanted to be friends because he made it sound like he wanted to fuck around with other people and that made me upset, and it was actually a long distance relationship too expect unlike you I don't see any hope for the future sadly.
My ex keep asking for us to be friends . I said yes because saying no was not getting through. But I am not putting any effort into it, I'm always too busy or too Tired, after all in our Journey they taught me how to live without them. And I thought them how they could Never Live without me. It was hard To reach where I am emotionally, I Thought I could of never live Without them, now I'm happy Again . Not the same happy but a different happy . Happy I did not give up on me . Happy I'm still Here , happy I know What its like to be rejected. And most of all happy watching my life heal
@@annocampo7778 this is one fucking hard point in life, that only the strong survived . Basically when I sat down with myself and analyze the situation I was grieving over the loss of a dream. So I set out to make new dreams.
I won't let my ex talk with me because he always wanted money and is deceitful about it. He never paid me back!. He kept asking for more money. I got tired giving because he never bought me anything he promised. I don't want him asking me for anything, so I didn't accept his friend request on Facebook. My issues with him can't be resolved. We never spoke to each other much without it involving money anyway. That's what ended the relationship. I feel he wanted to add me on Facebook to request money. I was hiding from him.
My ex broke up with me and he asked if we could be friends, but since we split he's said that he needed a few days to process his emotions and he's been refusing to speak to anyone, not me or his sister or anyone. It's hurtful since we both have feelings for each other but I guess he just needs some space?
My ex now after 7yrs he want to remain friends... I try to be normal about it but I cry alone because it's hard when you built so much together... I broke it off but it still was a mutual agreement because it's best for us... but friends it's really hard and I'm trying to find away to tell him... I just want to heal.
He said he didn't love anymore but that he wanted to be good friends. I said okay because I'm stupid and was worried that if I said no that I would hurt him. He proceeds to being a crappy friend. He sends me a message, I answer and he leaves my answer unopened fow up to 24h. Yesterday he used the phraseology "we" in the present tense and as a unit as opposed to "both you and I" in an identifying manner to which I answered that it was disrespectful of him to speak like that due to the situation. He apologised and now is ignoring me. I'm done with his games. I actually don't care if the truth will hurt him but he will hear it from me. That way I might stop him from hurting the next person. He is not my friend because he doesn't think of the consequences of his actions and words towards me. So no friends here to see. He's holding on to something I want back until he comes to my town and gives it to me on person as opposed to sending it by mail. He is inconsistent and seems to be using me for self-validation. I'm done with these games. I advise everyone to not fall into these kinds of traps. Some people don't deserve what you are ready to give to them so give all that love to yourself instead.
This guy and I we're friends in college. We hung out a couple times then he texts me and says "Don't take this the wrong way, but we're not going to kick it anymore, we're two different people?" Yet, he still follows me on Snapchat after I deleted him and watched my story.
Its been too hard for me being friends. We've only been broken up for a few weeks but calls me for favors like rides and to sleep on my couch. It kills me inside cause I still very much love him and now our relationship is totally different. Im not sure what we even are or where this is leading. I feel its leading probably nowhere and possibly he calls me cause he has no other options as of favors from others. It makes me kind of feel used and taken advantage of but I'm allowing it because of my feelings for him. Its just gonna hurt me bad in the end.
It's been 3 months since my ex-girlfriend had left me (for good). Now, she's been trying to get my attention by messaging me (on skype), texting me (via phone) and even calling me (via phone) but, I haven't reciprocated it at all. I've actually avoided her. Now, I noticed that she doesn' t even put any effort in trying to get a hold of me. Mainly it's just her asking some questions or, saying hi or, even to the point where she talks to me like nothings ever happened. I had no replied back to her and by impulse (since I still want her back) lashed out at her (verbally). We were in a long distant relationship so, it's kind of difficult to get a hold of her presence. She laughed at me when I told her "Why do you just message me randomly then, go back to avoiding me/ ignoring me (minding her own business). She tells me, "I don't need you LMFAO". The messaging lasts for about 15 minutes and I asked tell her, "I was only trying to see if we can still work out, to see if I can still get you back". She then replies to me, "I just want to be friends, we don't benefit each other (how do we not benefit each other???). I still question myself on what she means about her wanting to still be friends. In the past (during the 3 months) time we talked, we were over dramatic and said to each other "I don't need you in my life, goodbye" Please, help me out, what does this all mean? What should I do? I've been depressed for 3 months now, constantly downing 1-2 bottles of liquor to myself (not trying to brag). I hate the way my life is, the way I'm living it but, I'm to weak...
I am 24 yrs old, don't even remember posting a message (nor even knowing it's been that long). I gave up on her, she wasn't worth it. She's still stuck in a miserable situation and, so am I though, I am slowly growing out of it. I'm tired of being a baby at this age and it's not even respectable. I'm a man and should be acting like one. She' s still going through lots of phases, she's just now finally realized that she's "not that ugly" (low-self esteem issues) but, just how she sees things in life is completely different how from what I see. Just recently ( to be exact about 3 months ago or so), she messaged me and I noticed that her breasts were just flopping out of her shirt. She then tells me, "oh yea, I don't wear bras anymore they annoy me". Then months before she finally forgot about me for good she started to get "jungle fever". She now seeks african american guys for hooking up but, relationship wise, she's down for anyone. I don't know and, I'm that I don't care anymore about everything but, sometimes I tend to bring up the past, she's even asked me this month (February 2017) if her and I could meet up in Cali (while she's on Vacation). After all those months of her rarely messaging me (1 message / every 1-2 months), she now wants to meet up? Yea right.
Carlos Perez ..bro.. it’s only you know what you are feeling deeply inside you when it’s come to ur ex issues, I totally understand ur situation and been through same situation before also, if both are still in contact observe her doing and character, if u feel any positive energy In the observation then make a move.. if both parties are truly In love before then u are both going through same adversary.. don’t let anyone mislead ur thoughts..
This guy wanted money. he would beat around the bush then ask for money. when I ended the relationship he called, It was money he wanted. I stopped answering the phone. He didn't want a full relationship, but he wanted me to buy him things.
I'm going through this right now. A recent ex of mine who I was with for a year told me recently that he doesn't see us being together again due to all of the problems we had. Which I can understand, but he would like us start over on a clean slate and be friends. I asked him why he would want to be friends when things were so bad with us when we were together. His response was "Well because if you care about the person and not the relationship that's what matters." Lol. Besides NO woman is okay with their boyfriend being friends with an ex. We'll get jealous as fuck. Lol. It's not fair to the other person.
I want to be friends with my ex and we agreed but we havent talked to each other since the break up, which was quite recent. I feel like he thinks that I may still hold feelings which I understand, but he was still an important asset to my life. Since he doesnt initiate does that mean that I should just let it go or should I initiate it myself. (Honestly it shouldn't matter who initiates it but for some reason in the back of my mind I want him too)
my ex texted my friend about me, that one day he'll have me as his friendship... but I chose not to cuz there was problem so... Am not gonna let him see me ever.. it's better that way..
with me my girlfriend start relationship and she broke the relationship after breakup she still meet me as a friend but for a short period of time in last two day she comes to my apartment regularly and she asked me i should cook food for her and i still cooked food for her in my apartment i don't know what should i do now it is very hard to spend one hour in front of each other it looks a very long time we have nothing to talk about it
Yeah i HATE my ex. I feel bad cause she is a really nice person, but she dumped me without warning and said she had no reason. Thing is she has noooo idea how i really feel and we are "friends" even though i really do hate her. any advice?
my advice is dump her ass and find new girlfriend. and a really nice person will not do what you said. A nice person will tell you exactly why she broke it off and give you a legitimate reason especially if you asked her. The reason she broke it off sounds to me is because it did not suit her own personal needs at the time. Staying friends will probably eat you up inside. Knowing she is with someone else when all this time you wanted to be with her. So it is better just to end it.
Yeah here's one: stop being so weak. You a man. Why would you wanna be a stow away??? So you basically allowing her to do this. You fucc'd up cuz now you playing her game!
Just be friends first and see how it goes obviously if they ask to be friend then meaning they still care n still love you , well if u guys are friends do not bring the past up talk about everything else but don't show him you're sad or hurt it won't help; then later on when they sure about u then ya will get back together
I want him..but not as a friend . He doesn’t want to commit in a relationship with me again but he would sleep with me if i want and meet and talk. He Said that he has some problems and doesn’t know what he wants now... he looked sad and depressed ... and he said that he is in the mood of “ i don t care anymore about anything”. What I should do? I want to help him and I love him...
I agree with most of what you say. This person you spend 4 or 5 years of your life with. Why wouldn’t you want this person in your life? There’s dating there’s relationships. I cherish all my relationships and I didn’t date much so the few people I’ve had I want them in my life for ever and I want the very best for them always. Sometimes in life things just don’t work out bad circumstances not bad people. 💕🤗
i know this girl who kept 2 guys in the dark about each other for 3 years ...then she broke it off with one. the following account has some details changed ...i am a guy from a south east asian country i was studying in a British university in the late 90s and thru mutual friends got acquainted with this girl (G ) who was from the same country as me. G was studying in a different university . i noticed when i bumped into at social events during the yearly summer holidays G' s bf was never around. her bf was from a neighbouring country and was just an hour drive away ...so that struck me as odd. i came back to my home country to work upon graduation and G graduated a few months later and came back to work too. within one month of returning , g broke up with her bf from university .( they were together for 3 years) he was due to graduate next year and would have easily found work in my country.. ........it turned out g was dating this other guy from my country and told her uni bf not to come to her but she visited him instead for a week during the 6 weeks of summer holidays ... G got married about 9 months after she broke up with her uni bf. some people are fully capable of spending years with someone and not want to marry that person..becos they are waiting to be someone else
Please I need advice on this. My ex boyfriend wants us to be friends because he doesn't wanna loose me and we broke up because he has lost interest in everything, he's not in love with me now it's an attitude . Should I forget him or I should wait as he said, he's trying to get himself back
josephine adu asiamah you should not wait for anyone. Life is too short to wait for someone to act right. Move on with your life. If he gets himself back and you are still available (you might find someone better in the meantime), then you might think about it. Or not.
I hope you respond please do, my ex girlfriend wants to stay friends while we are at different schools and its her last year and her home life is very rough even from my experience, she says she still wants me to be there and she does too and she wants us to figure ourself out during this time. And she wants us to to build a friendship so when the time comes we will have that really really really strong connection again.. What should I do ? I would love your advice man
AncientSoulTalk1 .. women’s don’t keep male friends if they do not need them... if a ex girlfriend still contacting u that mean she have an plan B on you.. make a move if u really want her back .. she still feeling for u and she’s waiting for u to unlock the matter cos she is missing some of ur special effects that the new guys can’t meet up to..
So, this advice contradicts (the "they're not quite done with you" part) with what he said on the same issue a few months prior to this video. th-cam.com/video/h5wRCiGNyiI/w-d-xo.html So, which one is it?
Paivy Martin you are correct and I can’t argue with that. I know someone who recently found out her boyfriend cheated with his ex. She tried very hard to be good to him . Unfortunately she took him back after what he did.
What if after a break up, she still wants to keep in contact? She said text me when you get home safely. We texted a few mgs but then I ended the text conversation bc she said she's not ready but she still have feelings for me too. Is no contact the best route?
I know this sounds weird but my ex and me broke up about 2 months ago because he had cheated and it wasn’t the first time either but I had enough so I ended things between us but just yesterday he reached out to me because I told him I wanted to talk about him deleting our sex videos 😂🤦🏽♀️ so we were talking and he was just trying to make convo like how I was doing and that he hopes I don’t ever have to go through what he put me through again and just admitting how he was in the wrong for what he did to me basically but I told him I don’t trust him to be friends cuz he betrayed me when I was his gf so I cant see us being friends after that and he just said that he’ll give me time to think about it and text me later when he is out of jail (Ik this story is really fucked up) to see if I’m still down to be friends just so he can check up on me here and there. Sooo im just wondering if he has feelings for me still & why could he want to stay friends with me if he cheated
No, he wasn't your friend. During the time he was in jail, he was surrounded by predominantly men. He was unable to cheat again with other females. He has/had plenty of time to think of a way to manipulate and gain some form of insurance for his own personal desires and feeling desired by anyone. Thus, he contacted his exes. He's manipulative.
Actually I broke up with him some time ago, first he basically hated me then he got a new girlfriend and asked if we could stop fighting and be friends again like before, so now we hang out almost every single day and it's just as nice as in the beginning of our relationship sooo.. That doesn't always have to be bad yk
I agree you should not be made to feel obligated to become friends and hangout with an ex. Specially when you have not spoken in years. Then both married to other people, started a new life and family.
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If you have feelings for someone, never go friend zone! It will only be torturous for you!
then what do i do!!!
kaileecawley dude let her go, meet new people
Yup I agree it happened to me so I left her 👍👋
I'm thinking of telling her how I feel. It hurts being just friends. I want more
@@dasaxophonist
I know how you feel. I’m thinking about doing the same thing with my crush. It really does hurt being just friends. I want more too or I don’t want a relationship at all
Any Ex asking to be a friend is definitely a narcissist. Run for the hills. healthy minds grieve and move on period.
John Banks i said that to him and he insists he's not a narcissist... and I want to move on and not be attached to anymore pain...we were together 5 yrs and now he wants to be friends...but still.calls me honey and babe... I dont wanna be confused... I will be his friend because we have a child, but he still acts romantically smh
John Banks My ex calls me a narcissist and I wanted to be friends, so we're friends. I don't see how anything has to do with narcissism. On another note I'm pretty great.
John Banks not true
@@anastasiyarakova8517 Narcissist nah! Selfish more like it. If you don't want to be his one and only then give way for another woman to come into his life. Since you've broken up, your presence in each others life is now irrelevant. Sorry but that's the ugly truth.
Thank you! This saves a lot of time for me haha
can't do it. All or nothing
Rachel Brudenell same.👌🏼
Yup same.
@Eugene Blyther same eithier your in or your all out
Same, im not the second option!
I've learned over the course of my years of long-term relationships, that I will never go backwards and will never be their friend.
I don't know, maybe this says something about me but, I'm not friends with ANY of my exes. If I see them out in public I'll say hi. But to stay friends with them on social media and "hang out" with them NO. Especially during that period where you are still grieving what "was" or if you put up with a lot of BS from them. Nope, I'm good, bye bye
Me either
Me too
I would not be friends with an ex, one its done its done.. im going to move on and forget they even existed
Forget they even existed is a harsh thing lol
@@PiolsFlorentino no it's being brutally honest I'd do the same
If he didn’t want to lose me, he shoulda just stuck with it. Like 10 weeks no contact. I’m good. ❤️
Has he contacted you since?
He contacted me that once. He has not. Thank God.
No contact still?
For me I see it as we either are friends or if we get in a relationship and break up it's done period. None of this friends after a relationship bullshit I couldn't bear being friends with someone I loved so much, and to me if you really wanted me you would have stayed with me not leave then come back playing this little childish unsure game. If you want me you stay with me end of story.
sky blum that how I feel man thanks for writing that.
FACTS!!!
I Agree 👍👋
I agree you should not be made to feel obligated to become friends and hangout with an ex. Specially when you have not spoken in years. Then both married to other people, started a new life and family.
my ex gf of 2 years broke up me out of the blue. she said she said i have no ambition and she does not feel secure ie i do not earn enough. i was teaching college math . i was heart broken but i did not beg and just ghosted. a couple of weeks after she texted me saying she was sorry for hurting me but she really did not see herself settling down with me but would like to be friends. i texted sure. 2 months later she asked me for help to shift her stuff to her new apt. i texted back no. that night she said she really needed help and tot i was a friend. i said i was busy( which i was) and that she could afford movers. one week later , she sent an text asking me to come to her new place and help set up her cable and pc. i was free but arranged a road trip over the weekend with some friends so i can tell her sorry road trip. she asked me out for coffee on a saturday afternoon 2 weeks later by text. i was free but said no. this time i did not give an excuse. i knew she was dating some rich lawyer so i figured the guy was working weekends and she needed company. finally she texted me saying i was a jerk for saying i would be a friend and then refusing to help or meet up. i texted back. sayng i do not help any of my guy friends move stuff or set up their cable why should i treat u any different? i told her i would only hang out with her if the.activity what i really enjoyed like hiking or catching a basketball game. she stopped texting me. now 9 months post break up i am fully healed up and dating a nice attractive girl and my ex gf wants to meet up to "talk". rich lawyer bf and her must have broken up . i did not keep tabs on her so i cant be sure but now i really do not care. i just texted no. one word. it has been 1 week and she has not texted me since . hopefully she gets the message i do not want to have anything to do with her.
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CHEW Backka wow men she is fucked I'm in have filling she going to do that to me again same thing as you happen to me
you are a winner
BlaXk Truth yes i am. new girl and i got married.
CHEW Backka omg congratulations!!
No to being friends. Only time you should accept it, is if you guys were good friends before you got into the relationship. If not, say no to friends. If you can't have them, they can't have you as a friend. Nuff said.
LRF49 I agree 100 percent
100% agree!!
I’m crying. Thank you so so much! I needed these words. ❤️
I just let them say theybwant to be friends and then i just go with the flow. Tell them its all good and then tell them you're busy and go m.i.a. let them hit you up again and be the normal, awesome guy you you are, but play a bit hard to get. Usually there is some sort of negative feeling(s) for you when they distance themselves; just agree to it so that they know they can reach out to you and rekindle the relationship when they figure themselves out.
Thanks I stumbled across this video. It's been one hell of an emotional rollercoaster 5 months into our separation. I've learned a lot. We have finally been able to be in each other's presence and talk and carry on share laughs ECT. I've been able to apologize for several things that led to our demise. She is currently and I believe a rebound relationship that she says is going good and happy. I can't help but to think her asking me to be friends is a good thing for me to potentially showcase what I've learned in hopes that sometime we might be able to get back together and I might be able to write my wrongs. And apply but I've learned
They aren’t your friend if they can hurt you by the relationship ending badly , like cheating, abuse , etc RUN and never be friends with someone like that.
My ex hurt me , than wanted to be my friend , I couldn't get over it and my emotions were running so high at 4 months later it ended up we can't be friends
Don't worry happened to me my ex gf kept lying to me when we became friends I only did it because so my ex could feel happy but during friends she made it sound like she still liked me then she changed her mind so I ended being friends So Don't Worry 👍👋
Thank you for this. I Love Listening to Your Videos and your Advice, you're Always Straight to the point. Kudos
I’ve only been able to maintain friendship with two of my exes and that didn’t happen easily or overnight. Years had gone by, and we evolved into different people. Of course, immediately after the break up I went no contact & severed ties & I truly, honestly believe that was the right move because it helped me mourn and move on. Another reason why I was able to salvage the friendships is because we had heart-to-heart convos about what went wrong and apologized and forgave one another, we didn’t part on bad terms but still, it was nice to have a form of closure. However, I’m a stickler for staying true to my heart and won’t seek out friendship if I feel an ex isn’t genuine about being amicable and has sketchy patterns. I suppose it all boils down to using your intuition and observing a persons heart.
My now ex boyfriend texted me four days ago and said that "i love you but we should just be friends" (we were in a long distance relationship.) I was sad because we were getting close to two years in a relationship, but now it ended. I deleted him off of everything cause I was mad, but now I feel bad for it cause I still have feelings for him. I hope that one day we start talking again, because he was the only person that always had good advices, good sense of humour, and always made my day a whole lot better.
Sharlene Marten I feel the same way about my ex I loved him to death, and I actually blocked him on everything and said some pretty nasty things to him when he said he wanted to be friends because he made it sound like he wanted to fuck around with other people and that made me upset, and it was actually a long distance relationship too expect unlike you I don't see any hope for the future sadly.
Great information! thanks for sharing❤
She wanted to be friends and I said no I love you then got blocked lol 😂
Aww I like that you said no I love you
Tre Balero Y’all both petty 😹😹😹
That's great your setting boundaries. You did nothing wrong and everything right.
my ex bf was talking to be my friend about him willing to be friends with me I have no interest on contacting him cuz he moved on and has a new gf
I like your videos. Great advice.
My ex keep asking for us to be friends . I said yes because saying no was not getting through. But I am not putting any effort into it, I'm always too busy or too Tired, after all in our Journey they taught me how to live without them. And I thought them how they could Never Live without me. It was hard To reach where I am emotionally, I Thought I could of never live Without them, now I'm happy Again . Not the same happy but a different happy . Happy I did not give up on me . Happy I'm still Here , happy I know What its like to be rejected. And most of all happy watching my life heal
Jump start happy for you. :)
@@annocampo7778 thanks
Jump start i hope i could reach that point too. Happy.
@@annocampo7778 this is one fucking hard point in life, that only the strong survived . Basically when I sat down with myself and analyze the situation I was grieving over the loss of a dream. So I set out to make new dreams.
Jump start :( it is. I ask my self everyday, what should i do today to make me happy? And i struggle. But im hoping one day i will no longer feel that
In my case, my ex crush who had just get married still want to be friends with me. Awkward.
I won't let my ex talk with me because he always wanted money and is deceitful about it. He never paid me back!. He kept asking for more money. I got tired giving because he never bought me anything he promised. I don't want him asking me for anything, so I didn't accept his friend request on Facebook. My issues with him can't be resolved. We never spoke to each other much without it involving money anyway. That's what ended the relationship. I feel he wanted to add me on Facebook to request money. I was hiding from him.
This is very difficult.
I was friend with one of my exes, but we were friends when some time has passed and everyone has moved on
I told him no. To get lost !
My ex broke up with me and he asked if we could be friends, but since we split he's said that he needed a few days to process his emotions and he's been refusing to speak to anyone, not me or his sister or anyone. It's hurtful since we both have feelings for each other but I guess he just needs some space?
maybe... as long as he's not dating anyone there's still hope.
Great advice
My ex now after 7yrs he want to remain friends... I try to be normal about it but I cry alone because it's hard when you built so much together... I broke it off but it still was a mutual agreement because it's best for us... but friends it's really hard and I'm trying to find away to tell him... I just want to heal.
He said he didn't love anymore but that he wanted to be good friends. I said okay because I'm stupid and was worried that if I said no that I would hurt him. He proceeds to being a crappy friend. He sends me a message, I answer and he leaves my answer unopened fow up to 24h. Yesterday he used the phraseology "we" in the present tense and as a unit as opposed to "both you and I" in an identifying manner to which I answered that it was disrespectful of him to speak like that due to the situation. He apologised and now is ignoring me. I'm done with his games. I actually don't care if the truth will hurt him but he will hear it from me. That way I might stop him from hurting the next person. He is not my friend because he doesn't think of the consequences of his actions and words towards me. So no friends here to see. He's holding on to something I want back until he comes to my town and gives it to me on person as opposed to sending it by mail. He is inconsistent and seems to be using me for self-validation. I'm done with these games. I advise everyone to not fall into these kinds of traps. Some people don't deserve what you are ready to give to them so give all that love to yourself instead.
This guy and I we're friends in college. We hung out a couple times then he texts me and says "Don't take this the wrong way, but we're not going to kick it anymore, we're two different people?" Yet, he still follows me on Snapchat after I deleted him and watched my story.
Its been too hard for me being friends. We've only been broken up for a few weeks but calls me for favors like rides and to sleep on my couch. It kills me inside cause I still very much love him and now our relationship is totally different. Im not sure what we even are or where this is leading. I feel its leading probably nowhere and possibly he calls me cause he has no other options as of favors from others. It makes me kind of feel used and taken advantage of but I'm allowing it because of my feelings for him. Its just gonna hurt me bad in the end.
You are being used!! Kick his ass to the curb! We all deserve way better!!! And don’t lend him any money cause you'll never get it back!!!
It's been 3 months since my ex-girlfriend had left me (for good). Now, she's been trying to get my attention by messaging me (on skype), texting me (via phone) and even calling me (via phone) but, I haven't reciprocated it at all. I've actually avoided her. Now, I noticed that she doesn' t even put any effort in trying to get a hold of me. Mainly it's just her asking some questions or, saying hi or, even to the point where she talks to me like nothings ever happened. I had no replied back to her and by impulse (since I still want her back) lashed out at her (verbally). We were in a long distant relationship so, it's kind of difficult to get a hold of her presence. She laughed at me when I told her "Why do you just message me randomly then, go back to avoiding me/ ignoring me (minding her own business). She tells me, "I don't need you LMFAO". The messaging lasts for about 15 minutes and I asked tell her, "I was only trying to see if we can still work out, to see if I can still get you back". She then replies to me, "I just want to be friends, we don't benefit each other (how do we not benefit each other???). I still question myself on what she means about her wanting to still be friends. In the past (during the 3 months) time we talked, we were over dramatic and said to each other "I don't need you in my life, goodbye"
Please, help me out, what does this all mean? What should I do? I've been depressed for 3 months now, constantly downing 1-2 bottles of liquor to myself (not trying to brag). I hate the way my life is, the way I'm living it but, I'm to weak...
how old are you?
I am 24 yrs old, don't even remember posting a message (nor even knowing it's been that long). I gave up on her, she wasn't worth it. She's still stuck in a miserable situation and, so am I though, I am slowly growing out of it. I'm tired of being a baby at this age and it's not even respectable. I'm a man and should be acting like one. She' s still going through lots of phases, she's just now finally realized that she's "not that ugly" (low-self esteem issues) but, just how she sees things in life is completely different how from what I see.
Just recently ( to be exact about 3 months ago or so), she messaged me and I noticed that her breasts were just flopping out of her shirt. She then tells me, "oh yea, I don't wear bras anymore they annoy me". Then months before she finally forgot about me for good she started to get "jungle fever". She now seeks african american guys for hooking up but, relationship wise, she's down for anyone.
I don't know and, I'm that I don't care anymore about everything but, sometimes I tend to bring up the past, she's even asked me this month (February 2017) if her and I could meet up in Cali (while she's on Vacation). After all those months of her rarely messaging me (1 message / every 1-2 months), she now wants to meet up? Yea right.
Sebunsutaa from reading your story bro you should be happy that girl is outta of your life... stop talking to her completely
Carlos Perez ..bro.. it’s only you know what you are feeling deeply inside you when it’s come to ur ex issues, I totally understand ur situation and been through same situation before also, if both are still in contact observe her doing and character, if u feel any positive energy In the observation then make a move.. if both parties are truly In love before then u are both going through same adversary.. don’t let anyone mislead ur thoughts..
This guy wanted money. he would beat around the bush then ask for money. when I ended the relationship he called, It was money he wanted. I stopped answering the phone. He didn't want a full relationship, but he wanted me to buy him things.
He is a dumb screw. Just tell him Get Lost ! #brokeniggaz
I'm going through this right now. A recent ex of mine who I was with for a year told me recently that he doesn't see us being together again due to all of the problems we had. Which I can understand, but he would like us start over on a clean slate and be friends. I asked him why he would want to be friends when things were so bad with us when we were together. His response was "Well because if you care about the person and not the relationship that's what matters." Lol. Besides NO woman is okay with their boyfriend being friends with an ex. We'll get jealous as fuck. Lol. It's not fair to the other person.
To be honest I’m totally against that
I want to be friends with my ex and we agreed but we havent talked to each other since the break up, which was quite recent. I feel like he thinks that I may still hold feelings which I understand, but he was still an important asset to my life. Since he doesnt initiate does that mean that I should just let it go or should I initiate it myself. (Honestly it shouldn't matter who initiates it but for some reason in the back of my mind I want him too)
Nel-Bel VIII im going through the same thing. just take some time for yourself then hit them up in a couple months
Let go
my ex texted my friend about me, that one day he'll have me as his friendship... but I chose not to cuz there was problem so... Am not gonna let him see me ever.. it's better that way..
with me my girlfriend start relationship and she broke the relationship after breakup she still meet me as a friend but for a short period of time in last two day she comes to my apartment regularly and she asked me i should cook food for her and i still cooked food for her in my apartment i don't know what should i do now it is very hard to spend one hour in front of each other it looks a very long time we have nothing to talk about it
Currently dealing with this just not sure if it’s a good idea.
Yeah i HATE my ex. I feel bad cause she is a really nice person, but she dumped me without warning and said she had no reason. Thing is she has noooo idea how i really feel and we are "friends" even though i really do hate her. any advice?
Tell her you need time apart to get over the break up, from there you can slowly drift away with a legitimate reason
my advice is dump her ass and find new girlfriend. and a really nice person will not do what you said. A nice person will tell you exactly why she broke it off and give you a legitimate reason especially if you asked her. The reason she broke it off sounds to me is because it did not suit her own personal needs at the time. Staying friends will probably eat you up inside. Knowing she is with someone else when all this time you wanted to be with her. So it is better just to end it.
To hell with her. Upgrade and leave her alone.
Yeah here's one: stop being so weak. You a man. Why would you wanna be a stow away??? So you basically allowing her to do this. You fucc'd up cuz now you playing her game!
Move on
No way! He asked me that but I was firm and said NO!! It would feel ike being in the same shitty relationship but without the sex!!
Thanks
Just be friends first and see how it goes obviously if they ask to be friend then meaning they still care n still love you , well if u guys are friends do not bring the past up talk about everything else but don't show him you're sad or hurt it won't help; then later on when they sure about u then ya will get back together
No.
I want him..but not as a friend . He doesn’t want to commit in a relationship with me again but he would sleep with me if i want and meet and talk. He Said that he has some problems and doesn’t know what he wants now... he looked sad and depressed ... and he said that he is in the mood of “ i don t care anymore about anything”. What I should do? I want to help him and I love him...
i hope you did not agree to sleeping with him.. sounds like he is not into you but just wants to use you
My ex bf is crazy he texted me 5 months after we broke up. Told him to please not text me and And then I blocked him
I agree with most of what you say. This person you spend 4 or 5 years of your life with. Why wouldn’t you want this person in your life? There’s dating there’s relationships. I cherish all my relationships and I didn’t date much so the few people I’ve had I want them in my life for ever and I want the very best for them always. Sometimes in life things just don’t work out bad circumstances not bad people. 💕🤗
Because there’s s billon other people to be friends with!! Move on
No. I want to move on. That looks clingy imo. Let it go.
i know this girl who kept 2 guys in the dark about each other for 3 years ...then she broke it off with one. the following account has some details changed ...i am a guy from a south east asian country i was studying in a British university in the late 90s and thru mutual friends got acquainted with this girl (G ) who was from the same country as me. G was studying in a different university . i noticed when i bumped into at social events during the yearly summer holidays G' s bf was never around. her bf was from a neighbouring country and was just an hour drive away ...so that struck me as odd. i came back to my home country to work upon graduation and G graduated a few months later and came back to work too. within one month of returning , g broke up with her bf from university .( they were together for 3 years) he was due to graduate next year and would have easily found work in my country.. ........it turned out g was dating this other guy from my country and told her uni bf not to come to her but she visited him instead for a week during the 6 weeks of summer holidays ...
G got married about 9 months after she broke up with her uni bf.
some people are fully capable of spending years with someone and not want to marry that person..becos they are waiting to be someone else
@@spiderjump there are some cold hearted people out there. But karma will give them what they deserve
The woman who wrote this need psicology..... MOVE ON!!!
Please I need advice on this. My ex boyfriend wants us to be friends because he doesn't wanna loose me and we broke up because he has lost interest in everything, he's not in love with me now it's an attitude . Should I forget him or I should wait as he said, he's trying to get himself back
josephine adu asiamah you should not wait for anyone. Life is too short to wait for someone to act right. Move on with your life. If he gets himself back and you are still available (you might find someone better in the meantime), then you might think about it. Or not.
I do not want to talk to ex .
I hope you respond please do, my ex girlfriend wants to stay friends while we are at different schools and its her last year and her home life is very rough even from my experience, she says she still wants me to be there and she does too and she wants us to figure ourself out during this time. And she wants us to to build a friendship so when the time comes we will have that really really really strong connection again.. What should I do ? I would love your advice man
If u start loving her again then its obvious what u should do..O(∩_∩)O
***** Agree with this guy ^
AncientSoulTalk1 .. women’s don’t keep male friends if they do not need them... if a ex girlfriend still contacting u that mean she have an plan B on you.. make a move if u really want her back .. she still feeling for u and she’s waiting for u to unlock the matter cos she is missing some of ur special effects that the new guys can’t meet up to..
Thank u
So, this advice contradicts (the "they're not quite done with you" part) with what he said on the same issue a few months prior to this video. th-cam.com/video/h5wRCiGNyiI/w-d-xo.html So, which one is it?
I Hope you can answer this question , how can i assure that my boyfriend will never go back to his ex ? what are the signs that he still love his ex ?
Kenjie Articulo if he has moved on from her and is really over her then it shouldnt be a problem..be a better gf than she was maybe.
@@aftrdrk7263 there is no such thing as being better, just be yourself. If they can't get with the program then they never liked you for you period.
Paivy Martin you are correct and I can’t argue with that. I know someone who recently found out her boyfriend cheated with his ex. She tried very hard to be good to him . Unfortunately she took him back after what he did.
What if after a break up, she still wants to keep in contact? She said text me when you get home safely. We texted a few mgs but then I ended the text conversation bc she said she's not ready but she still have feelings for me too. Is no contact the best route?
She does not want you to move on just in case her new relationship does not work out.
@@spiderjump she didn't leave me with someone else
I know this sounds weird but my ex and me broke up about 2 months ago because he had cheated and it wasn’t the first time either but I had enough so I ended things between us but just yesterday he reached out to me because I told him I wanted to talk about him deleting our sex videos 😂🤦🏽♀️ so we were talking and he was just trying to make convo like how I was doing and that he hopes I don’t ever have to go through what he put me through again and just admitting how he was in the wrong for what he did to me basically but I told him I don’t trust him to be friends cuz he betrayed me when I was his gf so I cant see us being friends after that and he just said that he’ll give me time to think about it and text me later when he is out of jail (Ik this story is really fucked up) to see if I’m still down to be friends just so he can check up on me here and there. Sooo im just wondering if he has feelings for me still & why could he want to stay friends with me if he cheated
No, he wasn't your friend. During the time he was in jail, he was surrounded by predominantly men. He was unable to cheat again with other females.
He has/had plenty of time to think of a way to manipulate and gain some form of insurance for his own personal desires and feeling desired by anyone. Thus, he contacted his exes. He's manipulative.
Touche'~
Actually I broke up with him some time ago, first he basically hated me then he got a new girlfriend and asked if we could stop fighting and be friends again like before, so now we hang out almost every single day and it's just as nice as in the beginning of our relationship sooo.. That doesn't always have to be bad yk
Basically he cheats on his new gf, sad
You’re a terrible person along with him
U are handsome and smarth
And you are gay
agreed
I agree you should not be made to feel obligated to become friends and hangout with an ex. Specially when you have not spoken in years. Then both married to other people, started a new life and family.