What is realized after awhile on this journey is the chaser was always the runner. The external being was just mirroring the behavior. Listen closely as teachers and channelers describe the "runner". That's been YOUR energy the whole time. "The runner is in ego", "The runner is scared", "The runner gets triggered and runs." It's been you the entire time. From the "runner's" perspective, you are in ego, running, unawakened to your traumas, blind to the effects of your fear on others. That's the mirror.
This is really helpful since my twin and I are in a big reunion. He gets triggered a lot (and so do I) and my ego has been wondering why he can't deal with it the way I do😅I try my best to hold space for him and to stay centered in my energy while also being understanding and loving towards him. Thank you again Alexx for your clear and to the point explanations!
I’m not gonna lie, there have been times on this journey where my ego has felt a bit of resentment towards the runner. It seemed like I was always the one validating that he was loved, was worthy, fighting for the relationship, etc while I never really felt that kind of reassurance from him during reunion. I understand now that that is a part of their healing, which unfortunately there is less opportunities of if twins spend more time in separation. Thank you for this nugget of enlightenment, Alexx!
@@wearethesamenergy can you do a video on how to deal with resentment towards the runner/ what lessons are there to learn from it? Or do you have a video that covers this topic or can help with resentment towards the Twin?
Her following video on the lessons of the soul family addresses a bit of this and is probably one of the more important videos to watch on this channel :) Ultimately, we feel resentment because chasers subconsciously place the responsibility (and attachment) of having their “needs” met by the runner. “Needs” defined as whatever it is that makes you feel happy and safe-something only you could give yourself.
We had 4 Réunions in 5 months and 4th we kind of both let go and i went through the dark night of the soul in a few are separation . He is very much the same as me ,he is so much like me ,that he doesn't chase but lets go easily .
This shit is so stupid to me now but your videos are amazing and I’ll continue watching 😅 (I’m saying it’s stupid bc I feel stupid for getting caught up & being obsessive/pathetic😂)
@@wearethesamenergy Dang girl❤️🔥. So much love to you😭🙏. I still value it the most high experience …UAK my ego colors it as gross now to protect…my ego💀 The reality only reals when it’s a paradox box 👏What a ride, I tell ya 😂
First time she run I cried myself to sleep every night I felt like part of my heart had been rip out my emotions where all over the place but I learnt how to deal when she runs. I keep seeing word union every where I see
@@ImaGold-n8p I’m healed now it took me while you could say self loving regarding as we all know twin flame need to self love themselves during separation before union happens. Also thee energy is so strong I feel my twin flame emotions when she’s hurting emotional 😭 I feel her pain when my right side of my heart hurts for few seconds or if she’s crying 😢 I will feel tears 😭 coming down my face .
@@garyparkin2143 yeah I know!!! It’s real!! I feel it too!! A few days ago I was cutting a piece of fruit and I felt his hands like they were mine!! It was so strange!!! I’m talking about physical sensation. Also one day I was feeling like a heavy weight of guilt!! And surprise surprise that day he text me after months of ghosting saying he was feeling like shit and scared shitless of connecting with me. Then I confirmed it was his guilt. Yeah this is really mind blowing. I don’t tell anyone people don’t get it.
@@ImaGold-n8p she’s held my arms down spiritual one night I was going to sleep when I felt someone hands grab my arms and also blocked my voice box for few seconds
@@ImaGold-n8p beginning of my twin flame with my special lady I saw a church in my dreams it felt real than few months ago I closed my eyes to go to sleep and I heard loads of people talking in same room I thought it was bingo hall or pub but something telling me both connected so maybe it’s sign
Alexx- help me wrap my brain and heart around this… my TF runner got his masters in psychology 2yrs ago & he continues to be blind to his stuff. I am surrendering to the process and dropping my ego (been in AlAnon for 8 yrs) I’m also keen to Existential Kink. Getting off on the stuff you say you don’t want. I’m aware that I Enjoy the chasing.. & I KNOW he “gets off” on me calling him out on his BS. So I don’t. (I did once 3 yrs ago before I was aware of the kink) Today I’m considering calling him out-again. In an attempt to love myself in the 3d- to say ENOUGH, you treat me poorly and as a therapist you KNOW it’s ridiculous to say “I just don’t have feelings when I’m so busy 🙄” What does this say about me? That I’m still controlling? That I don’t people please anymore? That I love myself enough to say No More? That I want him to grow so I’m going to appease his kink and fight? I feel controlling if I take action & I feel lack of self love if I don’t. Thoughts?
This is a direct response to my questions even though I don’t know if you saw them as I posted them just a few hours ago. 😅 If the runner is on a different timeline and they only learn the lesson through reunion I guess the next question is what then leads them to reach out to you again after being in separation for so long? And also are there any real signs for the chaser that this time is coming for the runner? I guess it’s hard to tell when their time is coming if they only learn this through reunion. But they must have learned something or else why would they reach out again to reunite?
Do you have a video on choosing not to be with your twin in the 3D? I have known my twin since I was 13 and he was 14, over 32 years. I never knew about twin flames until just recently, but we both have felt this intense spiritual connection and have talked about it a lot. We’ve gone through many separations and he struggles with a gambling addiction and is why I moved on. I am married and trying my best to learn and grow but I’m having a hard time not thinking about him. I would say he is more the “Chaser” and I’m the “runner” although we have reversed roles at one point. I always said this connection with him was a curse because it felt like we could never make it work but I can’t ever forget about him and truly move on. I am really trying to look at it differently now and letting it motivate me to grow and learn my lessons, but could use some help ☺️
idk im tired. im ready for a peaceful life. yet theres no desire to seek a soulmate instead. ive handed it over. no expectations anymore. no clue if he will come back. but i have that sense of knowing hes my twin. im not up for a childish triggered separation. we still have not united at all! hs friend who keeps asking for a time to get together, then cancels and runs. i finally said you know i love u unconditionally but this is ridiculous. contact me if u want but i need peace and cant do this anymore. he is 60 and still emotionally immature. i guess as the chaser i was too!
Yes, the runner is very caught up in the matrix and with immature coping mechanisms. The chaser is more advanced. Setting boundaries is important. I’m so tired also, dealing with those type of behavior. He told that he is really scared of connecting with me. I don’t understand. I just go on with my life and focus on my evolution.
@@ImaGold-n8p oh sorry 😞 I see a lot of twin flame TH-cam videos saying the chaser can run can be with someone else but there will be back because twin flame are 2 people but are connected by joining of there hearts 💕 and true love ❤️ both very powerful so you twin flame will return to you just have faith and faith wins all the time please thanks
@@ImaGold-n8pI hear ya lady! It’s like a curse! I think its best we just let go and get to the point of being sick of it and just focus on your passions. It takes time to get there. Its strange because hes done and said some very immature things and I should be like whatever dude I don’t need this. But I still have that unconditional love. I know he has has some very difficult situations in his life even though he looks like a successful CEO and well known to the outside world. Its like I tell him things that are intuitive and he must think- how does she know that? Lately I feel like I am just playing in the matrix because I know nothing matters but at the same time its all so important. It just is. So it gets better as you continue to regain your power. However I would like things to just calm down so I can enjoy life without him popping in my mond, dreams, numbers, sirens, etc. You cannot manifest ur twin because he is me. its a difficult concept.
What are you thoughts on the twin not coming into mini reunions to catch up? Is it because they are taking a very long time to catch up? It seems as though so many of us go years without any catch up conversations or hangouts. Also, Do you classify very brief text check ins as reunions if its from their own doing?
These to me would signify three things: the person is either a Karmic or a Soulmate + Karmic, you are not learning your lessons and growing, or you are sending the Higher Self mixed messages.
@@wearethesamenergy its tricky when someone newly gets married, because they have to do whats right, which should be expected in the sense of not having a relationship on the side, which I wouldnt want anyway
@@wearethesamenergy I should also add that seeing him in person here and there and the continued chasing energy over the years, I'm sure is largely what is making him not come back in. I feel with almost 100% certainty he is a genuine twin flame.
Can you please make it the topic of the video? Why, if a twin flame woman ran away from a twin in fear and had no information about him, should she try to find out who he was? Why does the universe never give a third chance? Why is it so hard to create a family with someone else? It's like all the efforts to create something meaningful with someone else have gone for nothing 💔Thanks in advance, and I hope to hear your opinion🙏
Well, it depends on who you're talking to and why they're confirming or denying. If you're speaking to a psychic who says you met a TF, I would say do not use that as a confirmation. If you're not following patterns that are common on a TF journey (and they all have a pattern), but you're convinced it's a TF even though others are telling you "no," you may need to see if you're just holding onto the title
@@wearethesamenergy in fact, I did not ask for it and was confused. The connection has the patterns and I used to rely on the advice of others in my life so I took it as a lesson to not to do so.
Hey alexx, just a little thing i wanted to ask hope you reply..i thought of myself as the chaser but now i am with someone else and also happy the person i thought of as my twin flame runner contacted me a few days ago in hopes of wanting something again but i am already with someone else so i denied it maybe had a hard time but did.. i just wanted to ask would i actually would have denied if it was a true twin flame runner who came back and i chose someone else and thats close to impossible in a true tf relationship which could mean that this person and i are not twin flames right? I have cried and cried over him but a few days ago i met someone else and if i did and denied him coming back to my life means he never was a tf right? Cause if he would have been one i wouldn’t have denied him coming back and two i as a chaser wouldn’t be with someone else and also say no to the runner if they came back??
Thank you so much for all of your videos, Alexx. I have a question regarding this one: if the runner learns in reunion, does this mean that it is best to make each reunion last sometime (i.e.: the longer the reunion-phase, the more they learn?)? I'm asking this because my TF is in a relationship with someone else, and I now I really want to break contact with him (after just having been together 2 times in this reunion) because I think that this situation is asking me to deal with my karmic lesson of self-worth and therefore I want to set boundaries for how I want to be treated by him (he wants me in his life, but so far as a secret and this makes me feel worthless). Looking forward to your answer. Thank you in advance :-)
What is realized after awhile on this journey is the chaser was always the runner. The external being was just mirroring the behavior. Listen closely as teachers and channelers describe the "runner". That's been YOUR energy the whole time. "The runner is in ego", "The runner is scared", "The runner gets triggered and runs." It's been you the entire time. From the "runner's" perspective, you are in ego, running, unawakened to your traumas, blind to the effects of your fear on others. That's the mirror.
Wow!!!
@@alchemicalsoul That's a really prospective on that ! Everytime he felt like running i was actually running from myself at the time 😁
Beautiful way of putting it.
Ha... you're so right, thank you for giving me this perspective 🙏
I love this channel so much
Aww, thank you for watching!
This is really helpful since my twin and I are in a big reunion. He gets triggered a lot (and so do I) and my ego has been wondering why he can't deal with it the way I do😅I try my best to hold space for him and to stay centered in my energy while also being understanding and loving towards him. Thank you again Alexx for your clear and to the point explanations!
Excellent explanation. Thank you ❤
so much thanks For your valuable guidance
I’m not gonna lie, there have been times on this journey where my ego has felt a bit of resentment towards the runner. It seemed like I was always the one validating that he was loved, was worthy, fighting for the relationship, etc while I never really felt that kind of reassurance from him during reunion. I understand now that that is a part of their healing, which unfortunately there is less opportunities of if twins spend more time in separation. Thank you for this nugget of enlightenment, Alexx!
It's not uncommon to feel how you feel, and your feelings are completely valid!
@@wearethesamenergy can you do a video on how to deal with resentment towards the runner/ what lessons are there to learn from it? Or do you have a video that covers this topic or can help with resentment towards the Twin?
@@Tiilii1997 I'll add it to my list
Thanks a lot!
Her following video on the lessons of the soul family addresses a bit of this and is probably one of the more important videos to watch on this channel :) Ultimately, we feel resentment because chasers subconsciously place the responsibility (and attachment) of having their “needs” met by the runner. “Needs” defined as whatever it is that makes you feel happy and safe-something only you could give yourself.
We had 4 Réunions in 5 months and 4th we kind of both let go and i went through the dark night of the soul in a few are separation . He is very much the same as me ,he is so much like me ,that he doesn't chase but lets go easily .
Thank u so much ❤ that makes so much sense!!! 🙏✨️
Wow, so interesting. Thank you, Alexx! 🧡🧡
Thank you Alexx!!❤
Love it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This shit is so stupid to me now but your videos are amazing and I’ll continue watching 😅 (I’m saying it’s stupid bc I feel stupid for getting caught up & being obsessive/pathetic😂)
You're not pathetic 🙏
@@wearethesamenergy Dang girl❤️🔥. So much love to you😭🙏. I still value it the most high experience …UAK my ego colors it as gross now to protect…my ego💀 The reality only reals when it’s a paradox box 👏What a ride, I tell ya 😂
Thank you ☺️
Thank you. ❤❤❤🙏
I'm puzzled: how can my twin flame have been able to run for two years without getting tired? kkkkkkkkkk
First time she run I cried myself to sleep every night I felt like part of my heart had been rip out my emotions where all over the place but I learnt how to deal when she runs. I keep seeing word union every where I see
I know. That happen to me too. Now 7 months after I feel no pain anymore. I have healed. 🙏
@@ImaGold-n8p I’m healed now it took me while you could say self loving regarding as we all know twin flame need to self love themselves during separation before union happens. Also thee energy is so strong I feel my twin flame emotions when she’s hurting emotional 😭 I feel her pain when my right side of my heart hurts for few seconds or if she’s crying 😢 I will feel tears 😭 coming down my face .
@@garyparkin2143 yeah I know!!! It’s real!! I feel it too!! A few days ago I was cutting a piece of fruit and I felt his hands like they were mine!! It was so strange!!! I’m talking about physical sensation. Also one day I was feeling like a heavy weight of guilt!! And surprise surprise that day he text me after months of ghosting saying he was feeling like shit and scared shitless of connecting with me. Then I confirmed it was his guilt. Yeah this is really mind blowing. I don’t tell anyone people don’t get it.
@@ImaGold-n8p she’s held my arms down spiritual one night I was going to sleep when I felt someone hands grab my arms and also blocked my voice box for few seconds
@@ImaGold-n8p beginning of my twin flame with my special lady I saw a church in my dreams it felt real than few months ago I closed my eyes to go to sleep and I heard loads of people talking in same room I thought it was bingo hall or pub but something telling me both connected so maybe it’s sign
Alexx- help me wrap my brain and heart around this… my TF runner got his masters in psychology 2yrs ago & he continues to be blind to his stuff. I am surrendering to the process and dropping my ego (been in AlAnon for 8 yrs) I’m also keen to Existential Kink. Getting off on the stuff you say you don’t want. I’m aware that I Enjoy the chasing.. & I KNOW he “gets off” on me calling him out on his BS. So I don’t. (I did once 3 yrs ago before I was aware of the kink) Today I’m considering calling him out-again. In an attempt to love myself in the 3d- to say ENOUGH, you treat me poorly and as a therapist you KNOW it’s ridiculous to say “I just don’t have feelings when I’m so busy 🙄” What does this say about me? That I’m still controlling? That I don’t people please anymore? That I love myself enough to say No More? That I want him to grow so I’m going to appease his kink and fight? I feel controlling if I take action & I feel lack of self love if I don’t. Thoughts?
I'm sorry, I don't actually understand your question?
This is a direct response to my questions even though I don’t know if you saw them as I posted them just a few hours ago. 😅 If the runner is on a different timeline and they only learn the lesson through reunion I guess the next question is what then leads them to reach out to you again after being in separation for so long? And also are there any real signs for the chaser that this time is coming for the runner? I guess it’s hard to tell when their time is coming if they only learn this through reunion. But they must have learned something or else why would they reach out again to reunite?
I would suggest watching all of my TF Q&A videos
Do you have a video on choosing not to be with your twin in the 3D? I have known my twin since I was 13 and he was 14, over 32 years. I never knew about twin flames until just recently, but we both have felt this intense spiritual connection and have talked about it a lot.
We’ve gone through many separations and he struggles with a gambling addiction and is why I moved on. I am married and trying my best to learn and grow but I’m having a hard time not thinking about him.
I would say he is more the “Chaser” and I’m the “runner” although we have reversed roles at one point.
I always said this connection with him was a curse because it felt like we could never make it work but I can’t ever forget about him and truly move on. I am really trying to look at it differently now and letting it motivate me to grow and learn my lessons, but could use some help ☺️
"Twin Flame Separation (an Important Message)"
idk im tired. im ready for a peaceful life. yet theres no desire to seek a soulmate instead. ive handed it over. no expectations anymore. no clue if he will come back. but i have that sense of knowing hes my twin. im not up for a childish triggered separation. we still have not united at all! hs friend who keeps asking for a time to get together, then cancels and runs. i finally said you know i love u unconditionally but this is ridiculous. contact me if u want but i need peace and cant do this anymore. he is 60 and still emotionally immature. i guess as the chaser i was too!
Yes, the runner is very caught up in the matrix and with immature coping mechanisms. The chaser is more advanced. Setting boundaries is important. I’m so tired also, dealing with those type of behavior. He told that he is really scared of connecting with me. I don’t understand. I just go on with my life and focus on my evolution.
@@ImaGold-n8p oh sorry 😞 I see a lot of twin flame TH-cam videos saying the chaser can run can be with someone else but there will be back because twin flame are 2 people but are connected by joining of there hearts 💕 and true love ❤️ both very powerful so you twin flame will return to you just have faith and faith wins all the time please thanks
@@ImaGold-n8pI hear ya lady! It’s like a curse! I think its best we just let go and get to the point of being sick of it and just focus on your passions. It takes time to get there. Its strange because hes done and said some very immature things and I should be like whatever dude I don’t need this. But I still have that unconditional love. I know he has has some very difficult situations in his life even though he looks like a successful CEO and well known to the outside world. Its like I tell him things that are intuitive and he must think- how does she know that? Lately I feel like I am just playing in the matrix because I know nothing matters but at the same time its all so important. It just is. So it gets better as you continue to regain your power. However I would like things to just calm down so I can enjoy life without him popping in my mond, dreams, numbers, sirens, etc. You cannot manifest ur twin because he is me. its a difficult concept.
What happens when the chaser rejects the runner, why does that happen? Why the flip? And what happens next?
"Twin Flames Role Reversal" and "Twin Flame Stages"
What are you thoughts on the twin not coming into mini reunions to catch up? Is it because they are taking a very long time to catch up? It seems as though so many of us go years without any catch up conversations or hangouts. Also, Do you classify very brief text check ins as reunions if its from their own doing?
These to me would signify three things: the person is either a Karmic or a Soulmate + Karmic, you are not learning your lessons and growing, or you are sending the Higher Self mixed messages.
@@wearethesamenergy its tricky when someone newly gets married, because they have to do whats right, which should be expected in the sense of not having a relationship on the side, which I wouldnt want anyway
@@wearethesamenergy I should also add that seeing him in person here and there and the continued chasing energy over the years, I'm sure is largely what is making him not come back in. I feel with almost 100% certainty he is a genuine twin flame.
just commenting out of support❤️
Can you please make it the topic of the video? Why, if a twin flame woman ran away from a twin in fear and had no information about him, should she try to find out who he was? Why does the universe never give a third chance? Why is it so hard to create a family with someone else? It's like all the efforts to create something meaningful with someone else have gone for nothing 💔Thanks in advance, and I hope to hear your opinion🙏
Please watch "Choosing a Soulmate Over a Twin Flames"
In this context, does reunion need to be physically together or is it also a time of constant communication that the runner would instil lessons?
It can be both
Alexx, can someone confirm or reject for us whether the connection is a TF connection?
Well, it depends on who you're talking to and why they're confirming or denying. If you're speaking to a psychic who says you met a TF, I would say do not use that as a confirmation. If you're not following patterns that are common on a TF journey (and they all have a pattern), but you're convinced it's a TF even though others are telling you "no," you may need to see if you're just holding onto the title
@@wearethesamenergy in fact, I did not ask for it and was confused. The connection has the patterns and I used to rely on the advice of others in my life so I took it as a lesson to not to do so.
Excellent job learning that lesson, then!
@@wearethesamenergy thank you! 🤍
Do they need to physically separate?
Yes
Hey alexx, just a little thing i wanted to ask hope you reply..i thought of myself as the chaser but now i am with someone else and also happy the person i thought of as my twin flame runner contacted me a few days ago in hopes of wanting something again but i am already with someone else so i denied it maybe had a hard time but did.. i just wanted to ask would i actually would have denied if it was a true twin flame runner who came back and i chose someone else and thats close to impossible in a true tf relationship which could mean that this person and i are not twin flames right? I have cried and cried over him but a few days ago i met someone else and if i did and denied him coming back to my life means he never was a tf right? Cause if he would have been one i wouldn’t have denied him coming back and two i as a chaser wouldn’t be with someone else and also say no to the runner if they came back??
They were a Karmic
Thank you so much for all of your videos, Alexx. I have a question regarding this one: if the runner learns in reunion, does this mean that it is best to make each reunion last sometime (i.e.: the longer the reunion-phase, the more they learn?)? I'm asking this because my TF is in a relationship with someone else, and I now I really want to break contact with him (after just having been together 2 times in this reunion) because I think that this situation is asking me to deal with my karmic lesson of self-worth and therefore I want to set boundaries for how I want to be treated by him (he wants me in his life, but so far as a secret and this makes me feel worthless). Looking forward to your answer. Thank you in advance :-)
Always do what's best for YOU. Don't worry about them. They don't even exist without you.
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