My problem is that I'm curious about EVERYTHING, and will pursue something for a few months, then chase the next shiny thing. I've done amateur astronomy, ham radio (got my license!), car repair, and most recently I've started learning how to make digital music. I have trouble sticking with something long enough to go deep. Edit: Thanks for all the responses and feedback!
That's how you are, I'm like this too, and the key of it is, you have to accept it. If you are like me, you get interested almost obsessively in a subject, and once you understand enough, you lose interest. And that's okay! Don't try to become an expert on just one thing just because it is the more common model of knowledge. You will know enough about a lot of subjects, to build a general knowledge that is very useful! The "aha" moment of when what you are learning clicks into everything else you know is the best felling ever, don't go against it.
This is how my father was. And at the end of his life, he had such a wealth of experiences and memories about so many different things. And even if he didn't master a skill or an interest, he had enough experience and information to talk to someone about THEIR hobby or interest or skill and ask questions of them. He'd learn more and the person would feel they'd met someone who was truly interested in what they had to say.
Well, once upon a time, this was actually something to aspire to. See: Renaissance Man may refer to: Polymath, a person in the archetype of the High Renaissance, of broad talents and expertise (e.g. Michelangelo), in particular straddling both humanist and technological concerns (e.g. Leonardo da Vinci) (Wikipedia) The world needs people, who are interested in a wide variety of subjects just as much as people, who are experts in their fields. Without them, communication between different fields tends to be very slow and cumbersome. For example, take the challenges we face in straddling the gap between technology, ecology and economy. Plus, people like you are a lot of fun, to be around, imo 😉
Same! I like drawing, reading, writing, animating, sewing, programming, hiking, training dogs, playing video games, gardening, science etc.; and because there are so many things I like I feel like I don't have time to do all of them, and so I have to choose one or a few to focus on to get good at that. And it makes me sad because I can't choose! It makes me feel like I'm mediocre at everything.
Oh, I love all of your answers to that, they were actually really helpful. I am also struggling for lacking this "one" passion, this "one" thing I can "master", my life has had and will probably always have so numerous turns and directions. But your stance on these things are very soothing and encouraging. Thank you!
@@guidedbysunshine333 I can't STAND commercials, lol, I only watch shows on streaming services, so no commercials or ads. I do kinda like the drama though, not gonna lie!
That one made me stop the video to think. Think about all the times I didn't question because asking would get me into trouble or make me sound stupid.
I dread the 'positive thinking' culture that frowns upon rational thinking and questioning yourself and stuff in general, a very healthy habit that is heavily misunderstood as doubt.
THIIISSSS I feel like "positive thinking" has both helped and hindered me. I no longer feel miserable, but I also no longer... feel? Kind of hard to explain, I have emotions, I'm not empty. It's just that I've no longer allowed myself to dwell on sadness/stress/ any of those negative emotions, because uh-oh, that's a big sad thought. The world is too corrupted and complex so if you really sit and think about it... yeah you're going to be sad. Which seems counter productive to 'positive thinking' but then, it's like, it might be positive, but is it TRUE, and is it the thing you should actually focus on? It's like... idk, imagine being given 99 pieces of bad news but the 1 piece of good news is the one thing you're meant to focus on. Like that seems more like denial to me. Basically everyone needs to find that balance, question everything and allow a range of emotion. Sadness doesn't equal badness if it makes logical contextual sense to be feeling those emotions in that situation.
it's really important to self-reflect, I try my best to do both, being positive and getting positive habits into my life while also questioning myself a lot. I think the problem is that we all need to learn how to deal properly with negative emotions that come from doubting ourselves and similiar. it would be really toxic to just suppress them but it's also not easy to work through them, I am struggling on that a lot myself
@@pinkshortsmanwithban Haha. I actually don't! The homework I'm talking about is mine! I just grade their classwork and correct it. I know I could do a lot less, I know a lot of teachers do- and I can't blame them. But I see such a difference in the quality of education, I'm not likely to stop. Plus I get to listen to downton abbey while I do it... win! XD
"If you're not willing to open your mind and try -really, truly try- to understand the opposition of your opinions, then are you even confident in your convictions?" This!!! This is such a powerful and truthful phrase, holy shit
I always was afraid of asking teachers a question and then feeling guilty for a week of missing my opportunity. When I actually overcome this fear I became more confident. Also I noticed that teachers started to like me because I was showing that I'm listening and I'm interested in what they say. So, ALWAYS ASK THE QUESTION ❤
I forced myself to be brave as a student, and ask those questions. It always surprised me how many times another student said they were wondering too. As a teacher I always made a point of thanking my students for trusting me and for being brave enough to ask a question.
I'm college student. I love asking questions. I hate when people around me do not ask. I mean, we all there to study, it's okay to not understand stuff you've never heard before. I think it's not normal that people are afraid of asking, that people are afraid of teachers. I think asking questions is one of the best things I've learnt during school.
Depends on what teachers you had. Good teachers would of course encourage questions and discourse. But my experience with most of my teachers was that they didn't like questions, as it could highlight some gaps in their own knowledge, nothing they'd want to admit. Or, other teachers explained/answered the exact same thing they were just saying before. They weren't flexible in their classes to go "off topic" or diverge slightly from what they were "teaching". Of course I had the whole range of possible teachers, but it was a general theme that you should just listen and copy what the teachers say. Needless to say, I'm very happy my school years are long behind me, what a waste of life time xD Oh yeah, based on this, with quite a few teachers it was in your own interest to not ask questions, as annoying them too much would effect your own grades down the line XD The other extreme of the spectrum would have been if people ask a question every two seconds and interrupting too much. But a good teacher can handle that too, if it's a question about what they're talking about right now can go into it, otherwise take time at the end of the lesson for taking & answering questions that came up during the lecture. P.S. Ooooh, also a final reason not to ask questions (in school): some teachers did dive into questions, and then added those topics as material for your tests. So let's say it would've been a conflict of interest: Nice to learn something more, but you're also adding additional learning material for yourself and all your classmates... :P
@@Marczking I'm very sorry for your negative school experience. I can agree with your opinion partly. For me personally knowledge is more important than passing the test. I think it's all about teacher's qualification, there are bad teachers which is sad. But there are cool teachers too who you can talk to. I can understand people who are afraid of asking but I still hate (what a strong word) position when people decide to be silent versus being active and responsible. Actually topic is vast, so we can talk privately (is it a right word?) with e-mail or something if you are interested in it. Whatever your answer will (or won't) be, good luck to you, I wish you good teachers and pleasant learning.
Despite the name I have never come across one of these books that wasn't an excellent beginner's resource for the subject. I like that they don't take themselves or the people reading seriously while being genuinely good about the intended goal.
This video came up at a good time. I’m considering switching career paths and there’s an opening in the company I currently work for that I’m interested in. I’ve been too nervous to ask about it but ... won’t know unless I try.
Wow Lefie, this might be your best...so far. Love your channel as it's inspired me to some major life changes. I'm now in a 25 ft RV with a small storage. Sold a rental property at the height of the market. Now, just emotional baggage to dispense.
Dear Lefie, thank you so much for being so candid about all your habits. I might write up a list of all the shows I ve seen lately, the results will be uncomfortable yet eye-opening. A few days ago I watched a video of yours where you mentionned that you tend to create during the day and consume in the evening. I found that very interesting. It is incredibly easy to realize if an action is creation oriented or consumation oriented once one is aware and willing to face the music. Lately I ve been using this as a tool to boost my mood, when I feel slugish, I ask myself when the last time was I actively created. It is incredibly helpful! Love the bouquet! 🌸🌸🌸
28 years without a TV (it started when my son was born because I wanted to raise him without TV) have been good, but the last couple of years, TH-cam and Reddit have sucked me in. I need to undo these bad habits. Thanks for the reminder and motivation, Lefie!
another great video! my little sister just started college and I see how she’s struggling to talk to people because she’s afraid of looking dumb. Already gave her some advices and definitely gonna send this video to her
I love this concept and this video. I have watched many of the shows above and for the most part, they have gotten me nowhere. Being a literature person (English teacher...) I appreciate many of them, and being an entrepreneur, I appreciate and LOVE Breaking Bad... but when it all comes down to it, a terrible waste of time. When I'm tired, I need to go to sleep - not waste my time until I can go to sleep. I've also been learning about online business and that has changed my life for the better. It's the only thing that has made me examine my time and activity management and the only thing that has made me grow personally, which is ultimately how I found your channel. Only took me 2.5 years of study to get here! Thank you for all you are doing! I appreciate you!
love this!! I think “success” comes from being a life long learner in all ways. a little humility and willingness to grow is all I’m hoping to cultivate.
Lefie, thank for your expression. You are beautifully articulate and you offer thought-provoking content. I needed so very much to see/hear this vid right now. Gratitude, my fellow thinker!
"it all comes down to this would you rather look stupid temporarily or be stupid exponentially" is totally on point. I hear you on the reducing consumption.... but I can't reconcile creating content designed for others to consume. Putting other people into the rabbithole.
What an excellent source of rich knowledge! When you said something about others opinions; it reminded me very vividly of Platos-Parmenides. Great content; much anticipation for the next!
Hot take! Loved your video, and all Your content in general. Working on being more aware, and questioning things is such an important part of growth. As a person who’s been at this for so many years, I find it’s helpful to do some questioning and then pause. When you do this practice correctly, it can be exhausting, invigorating, scary and life changing. Take the extra time to digest what you find to help the process. 🙌🏼
Less Consumption, More Creation! And yessss question everything. I used to watch so much TV/Movies but now I focus on creating my art, and it is so much more fulfilling bringing my ideas to completion, as opposed to primarily watching other people's creative works.
@sonnyecho I couldn't agree more. The average person in the USA watches 15 hours of TV a week. A full time college student spends 12 hours a week in the classroom.
I'm really worried about myself. I think I actually have an addiction to TH-cam. Especially at night before I go to sleep, the worst time I know, it's like this comforting little ritual. Curl up with my little phone and just scroll and scroll, stop watch a little bit of something, scroll some more. Cuz that's the thing. Nothing really holds my interest for all that long anyway. And I'm feeling more and more anxious and crappy as I do. The thought of not watching TH-cam fills me with panic, however. It's like taking away my blanket or favorite toy if I were four years old
as an artist, i have little to no inspiration without people around me. if anything this video highlighted how much my life improves as i have access to these things, but i think we probably watch stuff differently.
THIS!!! I've stopped watching TV shows. When I do, it's maybe 2 in a year and I binge watch it when I'm truly in a downtime 🤣. I fux with this content 💯
Interesting and valuable perspective. I was preparing to say that I’ve started writing my first novel and what’s undoubtedly helped me understand storytelling is absorbing stories through tv and movie... I think I’m going to abstain from watching content while I’m creating and then binge while I’m in between projects.
I've become less interested in consuming other people's content and more interested in creating my own. BRILLIANT Being productive, contributing feel so good.
Omg! Your list made me laugh! A lot!🤣🤣🤣 Had to pause and check some of your tv-list names. Yes, Dexter and Killing Eve👍👍👍 I watch too much tv I guess. But then, I love it! Especially true crime because of the psychology. And also The Tudors, The Borgias etc. Plus history documentaries. I love learning through documentaries. Digital art sounds very interesting. I know one of my nieces work with that. To me, it’s a strange topic. I mean, I’ve seen the cool results but the way... I’m too bloody old for that! But you are young so go for it! I know you can do it! Love from 🇸🇪💗
I've been wanting to get rid of TV's in my house again for the last couple years. Screens are such a time suck! I need more motivation to ignore them 😪😩😫
I was waiting for 'this video is sponsored by skillshare' haha, but it never came. Joking aside, thank you for this video. I have been struggling, and I have been trying to ask more questions (mostly to myself). This video was a nice reminder
I can’t be the only one who paused the screen to read the tv shows lefie watched Also fun fact: my phone always tries to autocorrect “Lefie” to “kefir”
@@carolann811 Oh, thanks for the tip! I'm not familiar with it, but as an (not so) closeted Stephen King fan, I have a feeling, I would enjoy the heck out of it. Bring on the psychotic nurses 😉
My brother-in-law, who worked in the government, said that if you read six books on a subject you become the go to expert. No one else has done the work and so you definitely know more than your peers do.
Hey Lefie! I hope you are having a great week - self awareness is such an awesome habit I agree! I practice it by asking for feedback when I want to improve. Thanks for your awesome content as always :-)
This is a good message, I always say "Try to see reality for what it is and not for what you want it to be" It's hard AF but asking questions and being honest is how you do it.
I grew up totally ignoring TV after my school. Now, whenever I enter a room I can totally go unaware of the presence of TV. When it comes to learning something, The takeaway is to Believe in the process. We just have to make sure our practices are perfect. when we identify our practices are not perfect we just have to take self-correct the practices and move forward. All these perfect practices will make us perfect in anything we persue. P.S. you seem interesting. I subscribed.
You seem really interesting and open minded...it's great for a person not to take themselves too seriously and not be afraid to stumble in the pursuit of something different.
Just wanted to say I FREAKING LOVE YOUR MIND arghsgrufrh it's so refreshing to hear perspectives like yours -- very hard to come by nowadays. I don't know how I stumbled upon your channel but I'm always glad I did. P.S that's a beautiful vase of flowers, are they real or artificial?
Thank you Lefie, I really enjoyed. I have also found asking questions has consistently re directed my life in a better direction. From small daily stuff or big life decisions, it's asking questions that makes me aware of my options and which is best for me.
I remember lot of this rest mentality was rooted in the rebellion against my parents. I played videogames, watched shows and ran off to books to deny my parents the right to rule my mind. Now that I'm older, these acts of freedom have become bounds themselves. They now rule my mind, not my parents and not even me. So often we carve these caves of comfort, only for them to become a prison of possibilities. Bounded, we slowly spend our life away, unaware or in denial, not taking any risk, not even harbouring a desire to peak outside. Thank you for this video. Being aware about the prison is the first step of escaping it. And your video helped me do that.
Thank you for posting this! It was exactly what I needed to hear today. I am glad you are making the content you do! It has opened me to some new ideas, and motivated to pursue some of my own dreams and goals. Keep up the good work you do, whatever form it takes! 😊
Creating instead of consuming - that's something I need in my life. I get most of my comfort from seeing random things on the internet that don't even make me very happy, but it requires less energy then drawing, sewing etc. It'd be nice if you could talk more about it
i love the question of consuming video media *so much* because asking it helped elevate my experience of watching tv and movies (and even youtube videos of cute raccoons) forever. i love storytelling so much and genuinely believe its a critical part of our human imperative, and releasing the boundary between "storytelling" and "entertainment" allowed tv et al to be art that i am intentionally engaging with and can be in active conversation with. it isn't separate from my own creation, its part of the world that i create within, even in different forms. i truly believe reading makes you a better writer, and exploring stories that aren't your own make you a better storyteller for yourself. by questioning my own guilt or projections of (non)value onto these media forms, i got to love them more. and better my own art! love this framing--just ask the question. be open to your answer. learning more about yourself is tight :)
Made a decision in Jan to limit my screen time more, i set a goal of 60min no screens (phone, tv, laptop, etc) - but i realised early this month I'd barely watched TV the last 6 weeks so I finally made the call and moved it into another room where I can still play PS4 and watch dvds, but no TV. It was scary at first, but now I hardly even notice it and I get so much more done. I'm studying Paramedicine next month so the less distraction the better! Wouldnt have started without asking the question :) Will try to keep that mentality when at uni too, thanks Lefie 🙏
Thanks. I'm convinced that wisdom comes to those who decide to ask questions. In a world in which many are confident in their choice to accuse with no evidence, simply asking questions instead of having immediate assumptions would do a whole lot for clearing up misunderstandings. I am very visually oriented and so I do partake in lots of visual content, and this helps when reading is an issue. But the difference for me is to spend most of that time becoming educated in much and to become informed about current events in the world without simply watching mainstream media. Cheers
Never feel embarrassed to ask a genuine question. Anyone who belittles you for it is garbage. I had a really humbling experience in regards to growth through questions while working retail. Our Assistant manager was giving instructions to one of the younger cashiers, and he finished by confirming if she knew how to look up UPC codes with our scanners. She said yes of course. Then as soon as he walked away, she turned to me and asked me how to look up UPC codes. She didnt feel comfortable telling him or asking him because he was one to belittle people if they didnt know something he thought they "should know already". Seeing her moment of panic with the Assistant Manager, but me being the person she felt comfortable asking for help was touching. I try to make sure I answer everyone's questions directly and without judgement now.
I'm glad to confirm there's more people out there that apply this principle. I don't know exactly when I started questioning myself in every aspect, but it's been sooooo good for my development as a person, as a professional and as a Christian. And it's sad that most people don't question what they believe, mostly because they're afraid, but like Lefie said, it could take down a conviction, or make you stronger in the reasons why you believe them.
I've always told myself that asking questions made me weak or made me look stupid, but all that's done is force me to work 10x harder and longer than I need to. So much of my life was wasted doing busy work or banging my head against a wall trying to avoid imposing on or confronting people. Literally years of my life gone. Well past time for a change.
i literally have thoughts like these all day but i have never really put them into words but now you did it perfectly! i am for sure sending this to a lotta friends :)) thank your for creating your content
I’ve seen two shows all the way through in total. Thought that was really weird of me and thought nobody else watched entire shows so this blew my mind!!
I feel like people who got stuck at the "time spent watching tv" part really missed the point here. Anyways, always good to see how you talk about some subjects that have been so worn out, distorted and emptied throughout the internet recently. You always have a more interesting take on them, and seem to be able to get the most out of them for what's really useful for YOUR life and what matches YOUR needs and values. That's an awesome ability I'm constantly trying to cultivate myself. In this video I felt like I could take a peek on how you do this. Thank you! P.S.: I'm brazilian so I felt a little proud to see 3% in your list, haha, even though I didn't finish it yet myself! What did you think of it?
Fantastic video. I find your videos very peaceful, fun, and leaving me with things to think about. Thank you for that. Questions have always helped me grow and yes sometimes the answer is uncomfortable but that is only because it I already know the answer. I strive to grow and improve so feeling dumb is part of the game. Not many have talked about how questions help you grow. I love questioning things I do not know about so I can learn and grow. It has lead to great conversations with friends.
I’m falling in love with you a little more after every video I watch. You always give such interesting insight through very beautiful videos. I must say though that the part where you look at the camera like we’re watching you was very distracting and very funny
Thank you for sharing your ideas and perspective. I recently found your channel and I’m savoring the time that I have to watch through your videos as I’ve enjoyed each one!
Okay,so I woke up and thought I wouldn't touch my phone for the next 1 hour of waking up and the next thing I know I was glued to the phone and this video. I have been so addicted to watching TV series cause it's comfortable. Just look at the screen and do nothing. But it causes so much damage. Thank you again so much for your short,to the exact point and mostly 'when I needed it the most' timing video. ❤️
You all heard it from the horse's mouth: Lefie wants us all to stop watching Lefie. Real talk though asking questions is good, but I wonder if getting rid of our comforts or escapes is good? Playing sports is an way to unwind for many, but it's just an escape. Should people give up sports as it takes time away from work? What about food? That can be an escape, but you can probably save time and money just eating potatoes and take vitamin tablets. More time to work on creative things. Why do anything.
It was not her main goal to tell you to stop watching telly, it was her main goal to make us think about the things we do, find normal, we have in our comfort zone. So if you believe that watching tv is good for you and you believe it's a good thing to continue to do it then go for it. (just like me hehe)
Man I've probably spent like 20% of my life on TH-cam vids
And their ads
I can relate.
was it worth it tho? yeah
I guess I’m close to that too plus tv. Oh dear! Sounds like I’m doing absolutely nothing!
It depends on which YT... if it was teaching you then you don't lose...
My problem is that I'm curious about EVERYTHING, and will pursue something for a few months, then chase the next shiny thing. I've done amateur astronomy, ham radio (got my license!), car repair, and most recently I've started learning how to make digital music. I have trouble sticking with something long enough to go deep.
Edit: Thanks for all the responses and feedback!
That's how you are, I'm like this too, and the key of it is, you have to accept it. If you are like me, you get interested almost obsessively in a subject, and once you understand enough, you lose interest. And that's okay! Don't try to become an expert on just one thing just because it is the more common model of knowledge. You will know enough about a lot of subjects, to build a general knowledge that is very useful! The "aha" moment of when what you are learning clicks into everything else you know is the best felling ever, don't go against it.
This is how my father was. And at the end of his life, he had such a wealth of experiences and memories about so many different things. And even if he didn't master a skill or an interest, he had enough experience and information to talk to someone about THEIR hobby or interest or skill and ask questions of them. He'd learn more and the person would feel they'd met someone who was truly interested in what they had to say.
Well, once upon a time, this was actually something to aspire to.
See:
Renaissance Man may refer to:
Polymath, a person in the archetype of the High Renaissance, of broad talents and expertise (e.g. Michelangelo), in particular straddling both humanist and technological concerns (e.g. Leonardo da Vinci)
(Wikipedia)
The world needs people, who are interested in a wide variety of subjects just as much as people, who are experts in their fields.
Without them, communication between different fields tends to be very slow and cumbersome.
For example, take the challenges we face in straddling the gap between technology, ecology and economy.
Plus, people like you are a lot of fun, to be around, imo 😉
Same! I like drawing, reading, writing, animating, sewing, programming, hiking, training dogs, playing video games, gardening, science etc.; and because there are so many things I like I feel like I don't have time to do all of them, and so I have to choose one or a few to focus on to get good at that. And it makes me sad because I can't choose! It makes me feel like I'm mediocre at everything.
Oh, I love all of your answers to that, they were actually really helpful. I am also struggling for lacking this "one" passion, this "one" thing I can "master", my life has had and will probably always have so numerous turns and directions. But your stance on these things are very soothing and encouraging. Thank you!
I was thinking "Don't tell me to cut out t.v., Lefie, cause it's NOT going to happen!", but asking questions? Now that I can handle!
I haven’t seen tv in so long. I saw a part of a show recently and couldn’t believe how many commercials and drama there was lol
@@guidedbysunshine333 I can't STAND commercials, lol, I only watch shows on streaming services, so no commercials or ads. I do kinda like the drama though, not gonna lie!
@@benwrex6280 sometimes watching drama makes your own life not seem so terrible hahah!
@@guidedbysunshine333 lol, so true!
What? Oh, I can do it too!
"He who asks a question is a fool for a moment. He who does not is a fool forever." - Confucius.
“Would you rather look stupid temporarily or be stupid exponentially?” - Lefie
I just wrote that one down! :D
Me : Yes.
That one made me stop the video to think. Think about all the times I didn't question because asking would get me into trouble or make me sound stupid.
I dread the 'positive thinking' culture that frowns upon rational thinking and questioning yourself and stuff in general, a very healthy habit that is heavily misunderstood as doubt.
This!
THIIISSSS
I feel like "positive thinking" has both helped and hindered me. I no longer feel miserable, but I also no longer... feel? Kind of hard to explain, I have emotions, I'm not empty. It's just that I've no longer allowed myself to dwell on sadness/stress/ any of those negative emotions, because uh-oh, that's a big sad thought.
The world is too corrupted and complex so if you really sit and think about it... yeah you're going to be sad. Which seems counter productive to 'positive thinking' but then, it's like, it might be positive, but is it TRUE, and is it the thing you should actually focus on?
It's like... idk, imagine being given 99 pieces of bad news but the 1 piece of good news is the one thing you're meant to focus on. Like that seems more like denial to me.
Basically everyone needs to find that balance, question everything and allow a range of emotion. Sadness doesn't equal badness if it makes logical contextual sense to be feeling those emotions in that situation.
it's really important to self-reflect, I try my best to do both, being positive and getting positive habits into my life while also questioning myself a lot.
I think the problem is that we all need to learn how to deal properly with negative emotions that come from doubting ourselves and similiar.
it would be really toxic to just suppress them but it's also not easy to work through them, I am struggling on that a lot myself
it still wouldn't frown, no matter what :) progress babe
edit: also, MODERATION.
THANK YOU Jesus I thought I was the only one! Positivity can be just as toxic as negativity
What I'm learning is that if I quit my job I could finally catch up on all those TV shows I'd like to see
I'm a teacher. I watch TV while I grade to battle how extremely draining it is to come home from work and have to work unpaid for hours. XD
Retired teacher here. I so get that. Best thing about retirement?... NO MORE HOMEWORK.
No homework sounds lovely... but man, I think I'd miss the kids. I guess there is no perfect situation! XD
@@aprilo4447 Don't give homework :)
@@pinkshortsmanwithban Haha. I actually don't! The homework I'm talking about is mine! I just grade their classwork and correct it. I know I could do a lot less, I know a lot of teachers do- and I can't blame them. But I see such a difference in the quality of education, I'm not likely to stop. Plus I get to listen to downton abbey while I do it... win! XD
Knowing Lefie has also watched all of Gossip Girl makes me feel a little better about my viewing choices
Exactly
"If you're not willing to open your mind and try -really, truly try- to understand the opposition of your opinions, then are you even confident in your convictions?"
This!!! This is such a powerful and truthful phrase, holy shit
I absolutely love this phrase of hers! It makes so much sense!!
but what do you do if you realize that you are not confident in your convictions? :S
@@randjan8592 that means you are not confident in your opinions either
I’ll remind myself of this when I’m thinking of not asking a question in class because I do not want to look like a fool. Thank you 🖤
I always was afraid of asking teachers a question and then feeling guilty for a week of missing my opportunity. When I actually overcome this fear I became more confident. Also I noticed that teachers started to like me because I was showing that I'm listening and I'm interested in what they say.
So, ALWAYS ASK THE QUESTION ❤
I forced myself to be brave as a student, and ask those questions. It always surprised me how many times another student said they were wondering too. As a teacher I always made a point of thanking my students for trusting me and for being brave enough to ask a question.
Yes!
My sister told me once, "it's better to be stupid once than stupid your whole life" and since then I'm not shy nor afraid of asking questions.
I paused the list to look for “Killing Eve” and you did not let me down
True
I'm college student. I love asking questions. I hate when people around me do not ask. I mean, we all there to study, it's okay to not understand stuff you've never heard before. I think it's not normal that people are afraid of asking, that people are afraid of teachers. I think asking questions is one of the best things I've learnt during school.
Depends on what teachers you had. Good teachers would of course encourage questions and discourse. But my experience with most of my teachers was that they didn't like questions, as it could highlight some gaps in their own knowledge, nothing they'd want to admit.
Or, other teachers explained/answered the exact same thing they were just saying before. They weren't flexible in their classes to go "off topic" or diverge slightly from what they were "teaching".
Of course I had the whole range of possible teachers, but it was a general theme that you should just listen and copy what the teachers say. Needless to say, I'm very happy my school years are long behind me, what a waste of life time xD
Oh yeah, based on this, with quite a few teachers it was in your own interest to not ask questions, as annoying them too much would effect your own grades down the line XD
The other extreme of the spectrum would have been if people ask a question every two seconds and interrupting too much. But a good teacher can handle that too, if it's a question about what they're talking about right now can go into it, otherwise take time at the end of the lesson for taking & answering questions that came up during the lecture.
P.S. Ooooh, also a final reason not to ask questions (in school): some teachers did dive into questions, and then added those topics as material for your tests. So let's say it would've been a conflict of interest: Nice to learn something more, but you're also adding additional learning material for yourself and all your classmates... :P
@@Marczking I'm very sorry for your negative school experience.
I can agree with your opinion partly. For me personally knowledge is more important than passing the test.
I think it's all about teacher's qualification, there are bad teachers which is sad. But there are cool teachers too who you can talk to.
I can understand people who are afraid of asking but I still hate (what a strong word) position when people decide to be silent versus being active and responsible.
Actually topic is vast, so we can talk privately (is it a right word?) with e-mail or something if you are interested in it. Whatever your answer will (or won't) be, good luck to you, I wish you good teachers and pleasant learning.
This former teacher applauds you for asking! Keep it up!
Comfort. Yup. That’s what I’m using screen time for during this weird past year. No regrets.
So glad to see someone else reading a "for dummies" book these days... keep it up, continuity is key, never stop be curious :)
Despite the name I have never come across one of these books that wasn't an excellent beginner's resource for the subject. I like that they don't take themselves or the people reading seriously while being genuinely good about the intended goal.
This video came up at a good time. I’m considering switching career paths and there’s an opening in the company I currently work for that I’m interested in. I’ve been too nervous to ask about it but ... won’t know unless I try.
Go for it!!
Good luck.
Go for it. Best of luck.
Go for it, gurl! Good luck!
@@letuche I will be shadowing someone in the position I'm interested in later this week!
Wow Lefie, this might be your best...so far. Love your channel as it's inspired me to some major life changes. I'm now in a 25 ft RV with a small storage. Sold a rental property at the height of the market. Now, just emotional baggage to dispense.
Dear Lefie, thank you so much for being so candid about all your habits. I might write up a list of all the shows I ve seen lately, the results will be uncomfortable yet eye-opening.
A few days ago I watched a video of yours where you mentionned that you tend to create during the day and consume in the evening. I found that very interesting. It is incredibly easy to realize if an action is creation oriented or consumation oriented once one is aware and willing to face the music. Lately I ve been using this as a tool to boost my mood, when I feel slugish, I ask myself when the last time was I actively created. It is incredibly helpful!
Love the bouquet!
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28 years without a TV (it started when my son was born because I wanted to raise him without TV) have been good, but the last couple of years, TH-cam and Reddit have sucked me in. I need to undo these bad habits. Thanks for the reminder and motivation, Lefie!
Great video, as always. Thank you
another great video! my little sister just started college and I see how she’s struggling to talk to people because she’s afraid of looking dumb. Already gave her some advices and definitely gonna send this video to her
I love this concept and this video. I have watched many of the shows above and for the most part, they have gotten me nowhere. Being a literature person (English teacher...) I appreciate many of them, and being an entrepreneur, I appreciate and LOVE Breaking Bad... but when it all comes down to it, a terrible waste of time. When I'm tired, I need to go to sleep - not waste my time until I can go to sleep.
I've also been learning about online business and that has changed my life for the better. It's the only thing that has made me examine my time and activity management and the only thing that has made me grow personally, which is ultimately how I found your channel. Only took me 2.5 years of study to get here!
Thank you for all you are doing! I appreciate you!
Love the captioned headphones shots. PS. I don't watch much tv either anymore, but Master of None was an awesome show!
love this!! I think “success” comes from being a life long learner in all ways. a little humility and willingness to grow is all I’m hoping to cultivate.
Lefie, thank for your expression. You are beautifully articulate and you offer thought-provoking content. I needed so very much to see/hear this vid right now. Gratitude, my fellow thinker!
What a refreshing human being you are. I'm so happy I found your videos.
"it all comes down to this would you rather look stupid temporarily or be stupid exponentially" is totally on point.
I hear you on the reducing consumption.... but I can't reconcile creating content designed for others to consume. Putting other people into the rabbithole.
What an excellent way to promote creative-expression! Much to contemplate and discuss about consumption. Great invitation to learn; excited to ask!
What an excellent source of rich knowledge! When you said something about others opinions; it reminded me very vividly of Platos-Parmenides. Great content; much anticipation for the next!
Hot take! Loved your video, and all Your content in general. Working on being more aware, and questioning things is such an important part of growth. As a person who’s been at this for so many years, I find it’s helpful to do some questioning and then pause. When you do this practice correctly, it can be exhausting, invigorating, scary and life changing. Take the extra time to digest what you find to help the process. 🙌🏼
Yes! The ART of asking questions...and then LISTEN for the answers!
This was a refreshing take on an old thing!! I like the way you have with words!
Less Consumption, More Creation! And yessss question everything. I used to watch so much TV/Movies but now I focus on creating my art, and it is so much more fulfilling bringing my ideas to completion, as opposed to primarily watching other people's creative works.
I haven't owned a TV in 15 years. I've never looked back.
I pirate the occasiona show that becomes cultural icons like GoT, The Mandalorian, etc.
@sonnyecho I couldn't agree more. The average person in the USA watches 15 hours of TV a week. A full time college student spends 12 hours a week in the classroom.
I'm really worried about myself. I think I actually have an addiction to TH-cam. Especially at night before I go to sleep, the worst time I know, it's like this comforting little ritual. Curl up with my little phone and just scroll and scroll, stop watch a little bit of something, scroll some more. Cuz that's the thing. Nothing really holds my interest for all that long anyway. And I'm feeling more and more anxious and crappy as I do. The thought of not watching TH-cam fills me with panic, however. It's like taking away my blanket or favorite toy if I were four years old
Dexter. This Is Us. Grey's Anatomy. Six Feet Under. Scandal. Damages. Incredible series I absolutely loved.
as an artist, i have little to no inspiration without people around me. if anything this video highlighted how much my life improves as i have access to these things, but i think we probably watch stuff differently.
THIS!!! I've stopped watching TV shows. When I do, it's maybe 2 in a year and I binge watch it when I'm truly in a downtime 🤣. I fux with this content 💯
Interesting and valuable perspective. I was preparing to say that I’ve started writing my first novel and what’s undoubtedly helped me understand storytelling is absorbing stories through tv and movie... I think I’m going to abstain from watching content while I’m creating and then binge while I’m in between projects.
I've become less interested in consuming other people's content and more interested in creating my own. BRILLIANT
Being productive, contributing feel so good.
Omg! Your list made me laugh! A lot!🤣🤣🤣 Had to pause and check some of your tv-list names. Yes, Dexter and Killing Eve👍👍👍 I watch too much tv I guess. But then, I love it! Especially true crime because of the psychology. And also The Tudors, The Borgias etc. Plus history documentaries. I love learning through documentaries. Digital art sounds very interesting. I know one of my nieces work with that. To me, it’s a strange topic. I mean, I’ve seen the cool results but the way... I’m too bloody old for that! But you are young so go for it! I know you can do it! Love from 🇸🇪💗
I'm so happy to see this video.. I'm so motivated by the explanations why we should change our bad habit starting by ask a question 👍👍
Wow this came to me at the perfect time. Thank you, Lefie
I think I may have somehow manifested your video to me haha. Thank you, Universe! This is just what I need.
that's really the condensed version of what i learned from studying kant's concept of critique
This feels like me being a productivity machine and not allowing myself pleasure in life. Great questions
I've been wanting to get rid of TV's in my house again for the last couple years. Screens are such a time suck! I need more motivation to ignore them 😪😩😫
I appreciate that you are working on to get rid of your television and I hope you will soon accomplish that
I was waiting for 'this video is sponsored by skillshare' haha, but it never came. Joking aside, thank you for this video. I have been struggling, and I have been trying to ask more questions (mostly to myself). This video was a nice reminder
Haha same!
I can’t be the only one who paused the screen to read the tv shows lefie watched
Also fun fact: my phone always tries to autocorrect “Lefie” to “kefir”
Same!!
Twice.
Lol, I did, too. I'm looking for a new show and lack of productivity ain't stopping me 😂
@@raraavis7782 Did you watch Ratchet on Netflix?
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Oh, thanks for the tip! I'm not familiar with it, but as an (not so) closeted Stephen King fan, I have a feeling, I would enjoy the heck out of it. Bring on the psychotic nurses 😉
My brother-in-law, who worked in the government, said that if you read six books on a subject you become the go to expert. No one else has done the work and so you definitely know more than your peers do.
Hey Lefie! I hope you are having a great week - self awareness is such an awesome habit I agree! I practice it by asking for feedback when I want to improve. Thanks for your awesome content as always :-)
Hey, Phil! Thanks for the excellent comment as always. 😁
This is a good message, I always say "Try to see reality for what it is and not for what you want it to be"
It's hard AF but asking questions and being honest is how you do it.
All true, we're all ignorant of things. Great thing is we can ask the question and seek the answer. Great video, thank you.
I grew up totally ignoring TV after my school. Now, whenever I enter a room I can totally go unaware of the presence of TV. When it comes to learning something, The takeaway is to Believe in the process. We just have to make sure our practices are perfect. when we identify our practices are not perfect we just have to take self-correct the practices and move forward. All these perfect practices will make us perfect in anything we persue.
P.S. you seem interesting. I subscribed.
your videos speak to me, again and again
You don't have many things but you have Baratza so you have the right things.
You seem really interesting and open minded...it's great for a person not to take themselves too seriously and not be afraid to stumble in the pursuit of something different.
So happy to find such channels. Really appreciate your work and thanks
Just wanted to say I FREAKING LOVE YOUR MIND arghsgrufrh it's so refreshing to hear perspectives like yours -- very hard to come by nowadays. I don't know how I stumbled upon your channel but I'm always glad I did.
P.S that's a beautiful vase of flowers, are they real or artificial?
Whoa, thank you. 😊They're real!
This is how i try to live my life. It still hurts everytime i feel foolish. It’s still worth it.
instructions unclear, fractured my hand
Some of those shows are essentials.
Yes. Yes. YES! I can't tell you how much I love this! I have been feeling the same way recently (* as I watch your content * )
YES to questioning the unknown.
Also, Fleabag, Russian Doll, Dead to Me 💯
Yes on all 3!
Great video. Thanks for your advise about asking questions.
Thank you Lefie, I really enjoyed.
I have also found asking questions has consistently re directed my life in a better direction. From small daily stuff or big life decisions, it's asking questions that makes me aware of my options and which is best for me.
The plant nerd in me just love that beautiful vase of flowers. I absolutely agree, if you don't start asking questions, you'll function in auto-mode.
I remember lot of this rest mentality was rooted in the rebellion against my parents. I played videogames, watched shows and ran off to books to deny my parents the right to rule my mind.
Now that I'm older, these acts of freedom have become bounds themselves. They now rule my mind, not my parents and not even me.
So often we carve these caves of comfort, only for them to become a prison of possibilities. Bounded, we slowly spend our life away, unaware or in denial, not taking any risk, not even harbouring a desire to peak outside.
Thank you for this video. Being aware about the prison is the first step of escaping it. And your video helped me do that.
Thank you for posting this! It was exactly what I needed to hear today. I am glad you are making the content you do! It has opened me to some new ideas, and motivated to pursue some of my own dreams and goals. Keep up the good work you do, whatever form it takes! 😊
Thanks, Nate! 😊 I'm happy you enjoy them.
I bet most people have watched alot more hours of TV than that. It's alarming.
Creating instead of consuming - that's something I need in my life. I get most of my comfort from seeing random things on the internet that don't even make me very happy, but it requires less energy then drawing, sewing etc. It'd be nice if you could talk more about it
i love the question of consuming video media *so much* because asking it helped elevate my experience of watching tv and movies (and even youtube videos of cute raccoons) forever. i love storytelling so much and genuinely believe its a critical part of our human imperative, and releasing the boundary between "storytelling" and "entertainment" allowed tv et al to be art that i am intentionally engaging with and can be in active conversation with. it isn't separate from my own creation, its part of the world that i create within, even in different forms. i truly believe reading makes you a better writer, and exploring stories that aren't your own make you a better storyteller for yourself. by questioning my own guilt or projections of (non)value onto these media forms, i got to love them more. and better my own art! love this framing--just ask the question. be open to your answer. learning more about yourself is tight :)
Made a decision in Jan to limit my screen time more, i set a goal of 60min no screens (phone, tv, laptop, etc) - but i realised early this month I'd barely watched TV the last 6 weeks so I finally made the call and moved it into another room where I can still play PS4 and watch dvds, but no TV.
It was scary at first, but now I hardly even notice it and I get so much more done. I'm studying Paramedicine next month so the less distraction the better!
Wouldnt have started without asking the question :)
Will try to keep that mentality when at uni too, thanks Lefie 🙏
Thanks. I'm convinced that wisdom comes to those who decide to ask questions. In a world in which many are confident in their choice to accuse with no evidence, simply asking questions instead of having immediate assumptions would do a whole lot for clearing up misunderstandings. I am very visually oriented and so I do partake in lots of visual content, and this helps when reading is an issue. But the difference for me is to spend most of that time becoming educated in much and to become informed about current events in the world without simply watching mainstream media. Cheers
Thank you for your thoughts, greetings from Austria 😊
Never feel embarrassed to ask a genuine question. Anyone who belittles you for it is garbage.
I had a really humbling experience in regards to growth through questions while working retail. Our Assistant manager was giving instructions to one of the younger cashiers, and he finished by confirming if she knew how to look up UPC codes with our scanners. She said yes of course. Then as soon as he walked away, she turned to me and asked me how to look up UPC codes. She didnt feel comfortable telling him or asking him because he was one to belittle people if they didnt know something he thought they "should know already". Seeing her moment of panic with the Assistant Manager, but me being the person she felt comfortable asking for help was touching. I try to make sure I answer everyone's questions directly and without judgement now.
Real Life, real people. Thanks to share your own experience. I will try to be succesfull as well, thanks.
Courage to learn new skills and ask questions along the way... (big sigh), the bane of my existence! Brilliant video.
I'm glad to confirm there's more people out there that apply this principle.
I don't know exactly when I started questioning myself in every aspect, but it's been sooooo good for my development as a person, as a professional and as a Christian.
And it's sad that most people don't question what they believe, mostly because they're afraid, but like Lefie said, it could take down a conviction, or make you stronger in the reasons why you believe them.
I'm riveted! Brimming with questions...and festering intentions (planning to start 😐).
Where are you?
I've always told myself that asking questions made me weak or made me look stupid, but all that's done is force me to work 10x harder and longer than I need to. So much of my life was wasted doing busy work or banging my head against a wall trying to avoid imposing on or confronting people. Literally years of my life gone. Well past time for a change.
i literally have thoughts like these all day but i have never really put them into words but now you did it perfectly! i am for sure sending this to a lotta friends :)) thank your for creating your content
Very very educative and informative,
Learnt a lot from the above video,
Thank you always 🙏🙏
I can definitely change my consumption time for productivity! Thank you for inspiring me!❤️
Thank you ❤️🙏🏼🌷 xx
I’ve seen two shows all the way through in total. Thought that was really weird of me and thought nobody else watched entire shows so this blew my mind!!
I feel like people who got stuck at the "time spent watching tv" part really missed the point here. Anyways, always good to see how you talk about some subjects that have been so worn out, distorted and emptied throughout the internet recently. You always have a more interesting take on them, and seem to be able to get the most out of them for what's really useful for YOUR life and what matches YOUR needs and values. That's an awesome ability I'm constantly trying to cultivate myself. In this video I felt like I could take a peek on how you do this. Thank you!
P.S.: I'm brazilian so I felt a little proud to see 3% in your list, haha, even though I didn't finish it yet myself! What did you think of it?
Fantastic video. I find your videos very peaceful, fun, and leaving me with things to think about. Thank you for that. Questions have always helped me grow and yes sometimes the answer is uncomfortable but that is only because it I already know the answer. I strive to grow and improve so feeling dumb is part of the game. Not many have talked about how questions help you grow. I love questioning things I do not know about so I can learn and grow. It has lead to great conversations with friends.
I almost don't want to comment, because 200 comments looks just so pleasing to the eye, but: great video!
I’m falling in love with you a little more after every video I watch. You always give such interesting insight through very beautiful videos.
I must say though that the part where you look at the camera like we’re watching you was very distracting and very funny
This is so necessary........always learn, admit you don't know something and become aware of your mental models.
Thank you for sharing your ideas and perspective. I recently found your channel and I’m savoring the time that I have to watch through your videos as I’ve enjoyed each one!
Welcome, Renee!
Okay,so I woke up and thought I wouldn't touch my phone for the next 1 hour of waking up and the next thing I know I was glued to the phone and this video.
I have been so addicted to watching TV series cause it's comfortable. Just look at the screen and do nothing.
But it causes so much damage.
Thank you again so much for your short,to the exact point and mostly 'when I needed it the most' timing video. ❤️
"Flow state" is actually what I need
Inspiring video! :)
Really like the way you make your videos!
I better don't sum up my total hours of watching Netflix. 😅
What, no Gentleman Jack?! It's a MUST
Wow this was eye opening for me. For me just for me. And I enjoyed it. Because I think this way. 👏🏾
Beginner's Mind (Shoshin) is a basic Zen principle.
You all heard it from the horse's mouth: Lefie wants us all to stop watching Lefie.
Real talk though asking questions is good, but I wonder if getting rid of our comforts or escapes is good? Playing sports is an way to unwind for many, but it's just an escape. Should people give up sports as it takes time away from work? What about food? That can be an escape, but you can probably save time and money just eating potatoes and take vitamin tablets. More time to work on creative things. Why do anything.
It was not her main goal to tell you to stop watching telly, it was her main goal to make us think about the things we do, find normal, we have in our comfort zone. So if you believe that watching tv is good for you and you believe it's a good thing to continue to do it then go for it. (just like me hehe)
George Carlin had a set about how children aren't taught to ask questions 🙌