Thanks to Rosebud for mentioning having respect for those of us who are chronically ill. Not to say anyone’s experience with anything is not valid, but hearing pregnant women speak about how miserable they were, but knowing it’s temporary and there’s an end, always kinda produces some feelings in me, cuz for some of us who are chronically ill that’s our everyday. And even worse it’s invisible, so we’re not treated more kindly cuz we’re pregnant, we don’t get time off from work or assistance from others, many refuse to acknowledge or believe that we’re suffering and how severe it is. And we’re just expected to get through each day just like everyone else. And do everything everyone else does. It’s really horrible. So I appreciate that she thought to think of those of us in that scenario.
Love this ❤ again had my baby same time as Esther (have a 4mo old girl) so I feel so grateful I can come here and feel apart of a community when in this country like you all talked about postpartum is so nuanced and needs to be talked about in such a way-we live in multitudes, not just that its great or not great.
Especially true when you're further apart in age. My sister is 10 years older.. She grew up with our dad being a normal guy. By the time I came around, he was a violent drunk.. She was out of the house by the time I was 8 so we had VERY different experiences.
Thank you Rosebud for sharing your experiences with motherhood on the pod! I have a three month old and have had a lot of similar feelings/emotions and it feels so helpful to know other moms who feel the same way.
Ya’ll! Every episode hits me right in the heart❤❤ I love the honesty. And I wish I had this when I went through my 2 pregnancies. And it doesn’t invalidate Kalya’s input at all because it’s just about being a female. And I really appreciate her perspective and openness to the mom experience❤
Esther it's the hormone roller coaster! How do you think women go through multiple pregnancies? As soon as your body is healed, it naturally goes OK, round 2!!!
What made me reject the whole feminist movement is how angry they are towards motherhood and how they look down on women that decide to have children, and god forbid she wants to be a stay at home mom.
What you’re describing isn’t feminism, it’s an over correction from patriarchy. Actual feminism is about the freedom of choice for women to do what they want to do whatever that may be.
sooo genetic studies show that both nature and nurture have an equally important role in the child’s development. Your kid could have inherited genes that increase their likelihood of developing addiction/mental health disorders etc but these may not be expressed/activated unless the kid experiences heavy trauma in early childhood, severe stress and other environmental factors
Hey listening to a previous episode. I'd like to share I'm worse then Ester. My night stand us a mini fridge stuffed full of condiments soda and stuff I might snack on at night. Plus left overs in tubs I'll eat if I wake up.
Esther thinking Nature over Nurture is concerning. There is no consensus but most psychologists currently feel it is not one or the other. Rather it’s both working in tandem. To think everything about a person formed from the start is just naive.
I am actually a chimera twin(absorbed my twin in the womb) and have never heard other people talk about it before! Literally didnt even know there was a term for it.
Also rose and any mother your more then just a mom your A daughter a friend a coworker just way more than one thing I think when we put labels on things it makes it weird and distorted and we put ourselves in that one box when we are more than that ❤️
Had to turn off a podcast I listen to every week because of microphone touching noises. That low constant rumble makes my teeth hurt. I wish it didn’t affect me so much lol.
@@naneninonuism6189 well she’s still in the newborn phase I guess, but my honest take is that I don’t think Esther’s really had her own identity. She was like this prior to the baby too. She has no idea who she is.
I love the points about feminism and motherhood. I just lost my job, 17 weeks pregnant with my second. I’m ready for a break from working but never saw myself as a SAHM as someone with a master’s degree and has worked since I was 16. Keep up the insightful, encouraging conversation, ladies!
I literally just discovered the lady that runs on all fours!! It’s crazy seeing her jump over hurdles like that!! WILD! I wonder what she does for a living that she has so much time to practice this skill! Love you slugs! ❤
Sending you lots of love and baby dust during this tough time! And also want to validate that it’s totally ok to take care of yourself and turn away from things that don’t serve you in this season. My heart is with you and I hope everything works out for you! ❤
54:50 : Sad women gathered thinking that they are the warrior in their children's life. But no, your children are not yours. It's Earth children, you're just a tool used by Earth to make sure brain is exist.
Why is khalyla talking to her mom about newborns and what it was like 🤔 if she is hiding it i totally get it after being low key traumatized by Bobby’s army she doesn’t want them stressing her out talking shit.
Esther I had terribly traumatic pregnancies and births. I wanted my child to have a sibling. And I miss being pregnant all the time even though I really almost died twice. And was miserable during pregnancy. But I LOVE babies and caring for babies It’s magical
Motherhood is great and fantastic and im sure it is world changing but u guuuuys.....you have had multiple full podcasts about it and yet again....please please please find another topic to add. Im not even asking for you guys to stop talk8ng about it but can you guys try to limit it to atleast something less than the full pod? Cmooooon
Siblings all have their individual experiences, even within the same home. Family systems theory suggests every person in a family plays a distinct role.. The peacekeeper, the scapegoat, etc. My siblings and I all find the same stuff funny and have this core sarcasm and dark humor about us but we are all different. We are pretty far apart in age.. My oldest sister is 10 years older and in that time, our life changed so much. She was 17 when we lost everything and my dad became an abusive alcoholic.. I was only 7. Also - there was 5 kids for us too. They kept going until they got a boy. 4 girls, 1 boy. There was a boy who was stillborn before me, so they kept going.. Then had me, then my brother. He passed away at 22, about 10 years ago. It's just weird to not have a brother.. And i can't imagine for my mom and dad, losing their only son.
You should try to collab with Trisha’s pod in some way; she would balance yall a little maybe, new mom like Esther they would be hilarious talking about motherhood and they would like her past lives she is like a cat lmao
My favorite pod, been listening since day 1 but I have a Little remark no one asked for. The new podcast icon you have on all those podcast platforms isn't working for me at least. The design doesn't stand out enough so I have a hard time finding the new episodes between all the other podcasts I follow. Maybe it's worthwhile to consider a new icon
With all the repeat guests lately can we please get Caleb Hearon again 😆
His honesty was so damn refreshing
Agreed, Caleb was a great guest!
Please!
@@H-Vox Agreed. every time I watch him is so refreshing!
Pleaseee
Thanks to Rosebud for mentioning having respect for those of us who are chronically ill. Not to say anyone’s experience with anything is not valid, but hearing pregnant women speak about how miserable they were, but knowing it’s temporary and there’s an end, always kinda produces some feelings in me, cuz for some of us who are chronically ill that’s our everyday. And even worse it’s invisible, so we’re not treated more kindly cuz we’re pregnant, we don’t get time off from work or assistance from others, many refuse to acknowledge or believe that we’re suffering and how severe it is. And we’re just expected to get through each day just like everyone else. And do everything everyone else does. It’s really horrible. So I appreciate that she thought to think of those of us in that scenario.
Rosebud should be a permanent or very regular fixture of the show. I laughed, I cried, I was enlightened.
Great episode! ❤
TT should only add someone who has a lot of connections to famous people to have on the show as guests. Not sure if Rosebud has that.
This was such a good conversation. I agree with Khalila I love hearing all reactions to motherhood.
Love this ❤ again had my baby same time as Esther (have a 4mo old girl) so I feel so grateful I can come here and feel apart of a community when in this country like you all talked about postpartum is so nuanced and needs to be talked about in such a way-we live in multitudes, not just that its great or not great.
I couldn't be more proud of you Ester! Embrace every moment of attachment to your daughter, there is nothing like it! ❤❤❤
Every kid gets a diff version of their parents that’s what I heard and seen growing up ! At first I would be jealous but now I understand as an adult
Especially true when you're further apart in age. My sister is 10 years older.. She grew up with our dad being a normal guy. By the time I came around, he was a violent drunk.. She was out of the house by the time I was 8 so we had VERY different experiences.
When they in unison said, "I don't think that's created by women." Powerful
I don’t have kids but I have a mom and this pod was so insightful and just nice to listen to thank you!
love when yall have rose bud on🩷 great conversations💘 icons!! superstars
i’m not a mom, but as a woman and auntie and mothering person i LOVED this conversation. 💗🫶🐌
Thank you Rosebud for sharing your experiences with motherhood on the pod! I have a three month old and have had a lot of similar feelings/emotions and it feels so helpful to know other moms who feel the same way.
The feelings of isolation hit. I went to a get-together and couldn’t even socialize because I was chasing the toddler the whole time.
Ya’ll! Every episode hits me right in the heart❤❤ I love the honesty. And I wish I had this when I went through my 2 pregnancies. And it doesn’t invalidate Kalya’s input at all because it’s just about being a female. And I really appreciate her perspective and openness to the mom experience❤
Rosebud Baker is the aunty that is chill sometimes and crazy sometimes
As a mom of a 4 yr old & 2 yr old, I relate a lot more to how Rosebud feels as a mother.
Love Rosebud. Anytime I see her on a thumbnail it’s an instant click.
Esther bringing up Jessi Klein got me soooo hyped!!! 1000/10 recommend reading "I'll Show Myself Out", suuuch a great and resourceful book
Esther it's the hormone roller coaster! How do you think women go through multiple pregnancies? As soon as your body is healed, it naturally goes OK, round 2!!!
What made me reject the whole feminist movement is how angry they are towards motherhood and how they look down on women that decide to have children, and god forbid she wants to be a stay at home mom.
What you’re describing isn’t feminism, it’s an over correction from patriarchy. Actual feminism is about the freedom of choice for women to do what they want to do whatever that may be.
The mom segment hit. Love my mommy and I wish I got to see her be a happy mom. Maybe that’s why I work so hard to make her a happy mom now 💗🤲🏼
Again, wish theyd bring a doula on, there's sooo much research and information now on parenthood & all the hormones that go with it.
This was wonderful! 🥰
sooo genetic studies show that both nature and nurture have an equally important role in the child’s development. Your kid could have inherited genes that increase their likelihood of developing addiction/mental health disorders etc but these may not be expressed/activated unless the kid experiences heavy trauma in early childhood, severe stress and other environmental factors
You need to sign this beautiful blonde on as the 3rd host. Please! She is amazing and so witty!
The convos would be come strictly motherly… just kidding I know rosebud would hate reading that lol
can you guys have annie as a guest
Fun chat, love hearing all the diff experiences
Loving this 🙌
This episode made my ears pop
the gain is way too high on your mics
Hey listening to a previous episode. I'd like to share I'm worse then Ester. My night stand us a mini fridge stuffed full of condiments soda and stuff I might snack on at night. Plus left overs in tubs I'll eat if I wake up.
I fucking love this podcast 🩷
Love these mommy eps❤️ can we get rosebud and Whitney?! Mommy slug here✋🏼
nah whitney is a weird right winger now, keep her away
This is the first time I realized how much rosebud looks like Nicole Kidman
Esther thinking Nature over Nurture is concerning. There is no consensus but most psychologists currently feel it is not one or the other. Rather it’s both working in tandem. To think everything about a person formed from the start is just naive.
she still has the most annoying mindset imo
Loved every minute of this episode❤❤❤
Rosebud reminds me of Helen Hunt. Just a classy, cool lady
She reminds me of Nicole Kidman. Strikingly beautiful with and without makeup.
Rosebud Baker sounds like a beautiful horse.
I am actually a chimera twin(absorbed my twin in the womb) and have never heard other people talk about it before! Literally didnt even know there was a term for it.
💖forever begging&pleading for the Trash Tuesday x Cancelled collab💖
This was so nourishing🙏🏻🌟
Feaww no fake enlightened wannabe guru guest this week
Rosebud feels like a natural successor to Annie's chair.
Also rose and any mother your more then just a mom your A daughter a friend a coworker just way more than one thing I think when we put labels on things it makes it weird and distorted and we put ourselves in that one box when we are more than that ❤️
Did Annie leave?
Same topic from the last episode...reddit might be right 😅
My grandma always told me being pregnant is having one foot in the grave 😢
Had to turn off a podcast I listen to every week because of microphone touching noises. That low constant rumble makes my teeth hurt. I wish it didn’t affect me so much lol.
It really was so distracting, I came to the comments to make sure it wasn’t just me!
13 weeks rn and b I can’t wait to get this baby out! My neck, my back my 🐱 and my crack hurt 😢
The chewing banana into the Mic ahhhhhhhhhhhh 😵💫
Is this a repeat episode?
My fav Rosebud 💖
pleasee do a fully earnest motherhood ep w hrh collection
This must have been filmed before the last rosebud episode since Khalyla was like I wasn’t here the last time you were on ??? Hmm
Eating a banana into the mic is insane, lol
I don't know if that defines memory as opposed to the "body keeps the score"
00:33, number two is on the way.😂
Knowing I get to watch this episode at the end of my work day is bringing me so much joy! I love when Rosie's on TT! ❤❤❤
I’m the oldest of 5 and the youngest and I are also the most similar!!
37:53 well wait, wtf bc I thought most people have asymmetry in their face at least to a small degree, myself included
The mic interference is hard to get past when wearing ear buds.
Listened to this episode twice because I needed to hear these things so badly!! Thank You ❤
Esther has GOT to find something else to talk about. Also Khalyla HAS to get off Tik Tok. Jesus ladies.
I fully agree. I'm a mom of a toddler myself and still find the mom talk excessive. Everything in moderation.
@@naneninonuism6189 well she’s still in the newborn phase I guess, but my honest take is that I don’t think Esther’s really had her own identity. She was like this prior to the baby too. She has no idea who she is.
I love every moment of it. Find the content you’re interested in.
@@taylorb4014 congrats Taylor! 👏
Esther’s baby is made of Cream Saver and Oat Milk. Just wait til you guys have to allow your kids to distance and grow up.
little esther could've shared clothes with it's child after 10 or so years, but it's not a boy xoxo
Love feeling pointless as a father. Great ep.
I love the points about feminism and motherhood. I just lost my job, 17 weeks pregnant with my second. I’m ready for a break from working but never saw myself as a SAHM as someone with a master’s degree and has worked since I was 16. Keep up the insightful, encouraging conversation, ladies!
YASS 🎉 LOVE ROSEBUD 🫶
I literally just discovered the lady that runs on all fours!! It’s crazy seeing her jump over hurdles like that!! WILD! I wonder what she does for a living that she has so much time to practice this skill! Love you slugs! ❤
She was in an abusive household and was left in the car of wild dogs. When I discovered her she couldn’t communicate
Care*
🦋
Rosebud sounds like she needed to be in a village when she was rasing her daughter. I like being alone, so I loved it.
I'm so happy for them, but I don't know if I can watch this podcast while still struggling with infertility...
Sending you lots of love and baby dust during this tough time! And also want to validate that it’s totally ok to take care of yourself and turn away from things that don’t serve you in this season. My heart is with you and I hope everything works out for you! ❤
LOVE ROSEBUD
54:50 : Sad women gathered thinking that they are the warrior in their children's life. But no, your children are not yours. It's Earth children, you're just a tool used by Earth to make sure brain is exist.
Women are powerful, beautiful, divine creatures ❤ felt so inspired by this episode.
It was annoying hearing Rosebud sniffing into the mic through the episode. Wanted to give her a tissue to blow her nose.
The ep was like listening to three men talk about feminism. Feminism has always been about women having choices and motherhood is one of them.
but that is not how it is generally expressed
Agreed. It would be great for them to have someone on who is more educated on this topic
Would LOVE to see you bring Kara Loewentheil on! She is a feminist coach and her book changed my life fr
Is Khalyla pregnant?? Shes talking in present tense about a few pregnancy things
Why is khalyla talking to her mom about newborns and what it was like 🤔 if she is hiding it i totally get it after being low key traumatized by Bobby’s army she doesn’t want them stressing her out talking shit.
You can see a hill under her chest. My guess is she’s prob like 4-5 months.
I think she is. She looked preggo in one of her insta stories
Awe I hope she is 💕💕💕 she'll be am amazing mama bear. She's been such an amazing guardian to her niece and of course Esther's nurse 🤣
LA women in their mid 30s who think they are enlightened and spiritual experts the second they have a kid
Every episode khalylq says something so shocking or disguising that there should be a record screech. It’s nuts
how bout that high pass filter please.... around 100Hz
Esther I had terribly traumatic pregnancies and births. I wanted my child to have a sibling. And I miss being pregnant all the time even though I really almost died twice. And was miserable during pregnancy. But I LOVE babies and caring for babies It’s magical
Women are so interesting
😍😍😍😍😍
Esther needs her own show. Khalyla’s not very funny; nor is the guest.
Longer eps please
I agree with the experience of mother hood being a complete separate thing from your experience with your daughter.
is khalyla pregnant 🤔🤔 lots of baby talk lately
Motherhood is great and fantastic and im sure it is world changing but u guuuuys.....you have had multiple full podcasts about it and yet again....please please please find another topic to add. Im not even asking for you guys to stop talk8ng about it but can you guys try to limit it to atleast something less than the full pod? Cmooooon
(53 min in and its almost over, this was the ONLY talk8ng point)
AGREED!!!
I’m glad I’m not the only one! I feel like this is slowly becoming a podcast about being a mom.
The podcast has become an hour-long therapy session with Khalyla being conflicted about having a kid or not.
I agree. I'm a mom myself but I feel there's been too much mom talk from Esther. Not that she can never mention it, but everything in moderation.
Please get Brittany Broski I’m BEGGING!! PLEASE
The worm thing
The same thing happened to me to when I was a kid khayla
Siblings all have their individual experiences, even within the same home. Family systems theory suggests every person in a family plays a distinct role.. The peacekeeper, the scapegoat, etc. My siblings and I all find the same stuff funny and have this core sarcasm and dark humor about us but we are all different. We are pretty far apart in age.. My oldest sister is 10 years older and in that time, our life changed so much. She was 17 when we lost everything and my dad became an abusive alcoholic.. I was only 7.
Also - there was 5 kids for us too. They kept going until they got a boy. 4 girls, 1 boy. There was a boy who was stillborn before me, so they kept going.. Then had me, then my brother. He passed away at 22, about 10 years ago. It's just weird to not have a brother.. And i can't imagine for my mom and dad, losing their only son.
I'm super curious how your viewership is since it's been just Esther and Kahlila.
I find myself enjoying the show and guests much more than before. ❤❤
❤❤❤❤❤❤
Khalyla that's is so Saad. 3:06 I could relate. I grew up not feeling any love/connection from my mom.
@15:27 She's SO RIGHT to be upset--her husband didn't need to bring her baby to a comedy club AT ALL WTF?? You're a grown man. Say no.
You should try to collab with Trisha’s pod in some way; she would balance yall a little maybe, new mom like Esther they would be hilarious talking about motherhood and they would like her past lives she is like a cat lmao
My favorite pod, been listening since day 1 but I have a Little remark no one asked for. The new podcast icon you have on all those podcast platforms isn't working for me at least. The design doesn't stand out enough so I have a hard time finding the new episodes between all the other podcasts I follow. Maybe it's worthwhile to consider a new icon