A lot of people who look like they "have it all" are in massive debt, living above their means. When there is a downturn in the economy, those people are the ones who end up losing all. You never know if someone is truly lucky, smart, talented and have built true wealth or if their lifestyle is built on a house of cards.
It's hard to tell the financial situation of others. Again, I'm not implying that everyone should reveal their financial status. But imagine if we could see everyone's financial situation as a number hovering above their head. :)
Too many people don't truly appreciate when someone gives them assistance. They take the assistance for granted. And many people expect hand-out for their entire life, wondering why someone isn't always there to help them...sad.@@JeanneFerrariamas-sr5ml
this is something i have come to realize as i've recently become a homeowner in hawaii, while also being born and raised in hawaii... generational wealth certainly gives you an advantage to becoming a homeowner
true...I moved to mainland years ago, majority of my relatives who own homes in Hawaii either inherited property or were gifted substantial amounts of money for the down payment....good for them....nice I have a place to hang out a couple times a year!!!
Mahalo so much for this. I think this is such an important video following the sad tragedy of the family in Manoa whom were overwhelmed with debt. It’s good to be reminded to no need compare ourselves to others.
This is so true. As the father acted rashly, and sadly saw no other solution. It's said that "people who feel desperation use a permanent solution to solve a temporary matter". And to anyone else who may be in the pit of a 'debt-hole', if you are standing in there with a shovel...stop digging!
Every family is different about the values, character, integrity and dollars to the family members whether rich or poor. Sometimes those values aren't intentionally passed but they are passed or acquired by those around them. It's up to the individual as to what values, character, integrity that they want to keep. I've seen wealthy backgrounds have no sense of values, character or integrity and those of less wealth have more value, character, integrity than others. I see families high and low, think nothing of others while others do in the same family. People leave stuff for family members and others don't. I hope those leaving legacies to family members consider whether or not, those receiving are worth gift of money if they've never spent much time with them. As one ages, they find time to be more valuable than money. One can earn money, they can't earn more time.
I'm often reminding myself that what I see on TH-cam is only a "snapshot" of someone else's life and is not the full picture. And, true, the content creators may have certain advantages that I don't have, and never had. It can be tough to see others seemingly having a wonderful life all the time, but we don't see their lives in their entirety. We see only what they allow us to see. Sometimes they are not showing the advantages they were born into, and sometimes they are just not showing their lives "warts and all," which is probably more often the case. We have to ask ourselves if behind the scenes they're really that happy all the time. Most likely not, considering how tough life is for all of us. Most people don't live charmed lives. I think the people who follow you, myself included, do so because you keep it real. You don't try to put on an air of having a charmed life, either for yourself in particular or for Hawaii in general. That makes you more relatable for us, your dedicated followers. Having said all that, I just wanted to say thanks for keeping it real! I hope you and your family experience the financial and personal success that you so clearly deserve and continue to work toward. A big MAHALO to you, Chris!🙌👏🤙
Mahalo for the comment. What's shown on social media is curated. If regular people take the time to curate their posts, imagine what the professional influencers are doing. It's something we all know, yet, like I mentioned, when it catches us on a bad day, the comparison trap is tough. Because if I look around, it seems like a third of the population is either driving a Tesla, Lexus, or new truck. I just have to remember to be grateful for what we have (my 20-year old car still gets us from Point A to Point B just as good as those other vehicles) :)
you only see the "B" roll (beauty shots), not the whole picture. We all want to be the best, have the best, show the best. Be you and make your life happy the way you can.
Can you help me? What is the name of the bird with the unique “multiple bird call?” I have a video that has 10 minutes of the beautiful sound of the Hawaiian birds at sunrise. No one has ever told me what the name of that bird is. It has a lower pitched, 3-4 sound call
❤❤❤ Aloha Ohana. I departed Hawai'i after enlisting in our USN, 8/1983. Moved back 2004-2009 and never returned. Like you Chris i mostly grew up in Kanehohe and graduated from Castle High School. My elementary school years was at Lincoln Elementary School, Makiki, on the slops of Punch Bowl, Magazine Street. My fellow KamaAina! Don't compare yourself or family's life to others locally and especially abroad! I get this reaction all the time, "Hawaii?! You from Hawaii, PARADISE?! Why you moved away and never returned?!" Only our 50th State Hawai'i condure up these reactions from others here in the other 49 States and abroad. Men from Fiji reactions were the same! Of course mine to Fiji. Don't forget Da Aina beauty and blessings each of you live in the Aina Named Hawai'i. I currently live in Huachuca City, Arizona. Mahalo and blessings Chris. Blessings all KamaAina!
As always, another thoughtful video! You know, once in a great while I do wonder how some people can afford huge custom built homes and two Lexus's (Lexi?) in the garage, but more often, I see homeless people and am thankful that I am not in THAT situation. It goes both ways.
Gratitude for what we do have is so important to a happy, fulfilling life. I didn’t have many of the advantages that others had growing up, but I had enough to get me motivated and to be grateful, which has served me well in my life. That and hard work! Always ups and downs. But our values and gratitude always gives us a solid foundation on how to live - and enjoy - life, no matter what we have, or don’t have. Thank you for this thought provoking video.
Chris, Thanks for another great video! My parents always instill in my brother and I to be thankful for what we are blessed with. Not to look at others because we don’t know if they did something illegal or unethical things to be successful. So I anyone who envious of others, be thankful for the life you are blessed with.
I don't ever comment on videos but this hits very close to home as I've definitely struggled with comparing myself to others especially to my peers who's families are well off. This video really brought peace to myself, mahalo.
Mahalo for the comment. Like I mentioned, comparison can catch us hard, especially when we are having a bad day. When I got sick recently, I was feeling down and that's when things started to kick in. Had to catch myself and remember what I had going in my life.
generational wealth. very powerful. in addition to the student loans and good family enviornment you grew up in there's a lot more that your parents provided that gives you the real advantage to grow, learn, and adapt when you needed it. It's the strong work ethic, and strong morales and foresight to build a future for yourself and your family. That private school education easily gave you about 5 to 10 years education advantage over everyone else in Hawaii. For those that don't know hawaii public education is pretty atrocious in how far behind they are. This includes k-12 and even the state funded university, Very good message Sir. Mahalos.
Mahalo for the comment. I'm not sure the private school education gave me that big of an advantage. Mostly, it gave me confidence in learning and I quickly figured out how to learn things fast. By the time I was a senior, my private school advantage had leveled out.
There are some that leverage social media to portray a level of affluence and success that does not align with reality. Overt conspicuous consumption is often used to mask deficiencies in more personal aspects in one's life. The need to continually broadcast how wonderful your life is could be a hollow affirmation and denying problems that are festering. Honesty, humility and being a good person is the true measure of a complete person.
I worked very hard while Living on the mainland to move and retire on the Big Island. Thinking it was “paradise” after 5 years I came to realize it wasn’t the paradise I thought it was. The price of fuel, electricity and food are almost three that of the mainland. However, the biggest issue for everyone living there is the lack of adequate healthcare. It’s nearly nonexistent on the island. You may be able to afford the living expenses, just don’t get sick! The sun, sand and surf are amazing. The way the government runs the Island is upsetting as the corruption runs rampant. Hawai’i is a wonderful place to visit, living there is challenging to say the least.
Your candor is appreciated. So many people will never attribute their success to what has been given to them. However, being honest about it helps 1) other people understand that your success should not make them feel less-than, and 2) to practice gratitude. In terms of generational bottleneck, we won't ever see the scale of wealth transfer we're seeing now between boomers and their children/grandchildren. The best thing to pass down you your children is financial responsibility and accountability -- that's important no matter how much they're gifted or inherit.
I grew up like lower middle class. I usually had everything I needed, but I often had to go to a friend's house to eat, because we didn't have any food. My dad started a business when I was about 13-14. I was able to make money working at the business and has enough money to buy my own car at 16 in cash. With the extra money my parents were able to purchase land. I can live in Hawai'i rent free and even start my own farm. I know I wasn't spoiled as a child, but I still feel like I have a huge advantage. Some day I would like to give back, if I'm ever able to build the means. Idk, I'm not that greedy of a person and I see people struggling. I'd like to grow enough food to donate to poor families who can't afford things like fresh produce.
Mahalo for sharing. Food production continues to be important in Hawaii. Just hoping that we start growing more crops that locals eat, or changing our diets to eat what we can grow.
1) Yes, people (who do not live in Hawai'i) tend to rhapsodise about living over there. They think that you all live so ideally, in such a trouble-free paradise. I have done this a lot. I have wished that I lived over there, without thinking fully about what all living over there would involve, and how isolated Hawai'i really IS, what stores you do not have out there, the sameness of the weather (no real seasons to speak of), etc. I loved visiting HI as a tourist, thrice, mightily but ... I think living there might end up being a bit trying after having watched yours and others videos. Very helpful and clarifying your content has been for me. 2) I loved the book Charlotte's web. I cried so hard at the end of the book! God, I was a basket case. Who died was too unfair!
Mahalo for the comment. It's different living here vs visiting here. And it's hard to explain because the image of Hawaii as a paradise is so strong. But ask people who moved here after five years and they'll let you know how it is. And yes, Charlotte's Web was a sad book. So was Bridge to Terabithia.
I have friends who have inherited much money from Aunt’s not just parents. I think 🎉wow my aunts never gave me money? It was such a foreign thing to me! They just expected it! hundreds of thousands they inherited. you cant worry or be envious just be happy and live your life 😊
Mahalo for being up front and real . I'm subscribed to another creator who recently moved back to Hawaii - windward Oahu somewhere . Malama Life is the channel name - living for what's important in life as opposed to chasing piles of money , etc.
Excellent video and a great perspective. I’m from Hilo, but I lived all over Oahu when I was younger. Best thing I did was move my family back home. Family close by and lots of space. My wife is from Salt Lake- so we return often, but I wouldn’t go back. My cousin bought a little place with a tiny yard in Kaimuki for almost 1M. Crazy. Being a golfer-you would know this- I can hit an 8 iron- and the ball is still in my yard. Aloha- the retro’Bows hat is awesome!
This is why I dont display my life online and I don't follow anyone on social media. If I want updates on people, I will call, message or actually see them in person.
Other than my TH-cam and associated IG account, I don't post much of my life online. No Facebook or anything else. Just no time and not really interested.
I have an advantage, sort of. I was born and raised in Oahu to hard working parents and grew up with that value. After the service, I knew Hawaii couldn't offer what I wanted out of life so here I am in California. I left Hawaii with $900 in my pocket that I saved up while in the service. IMO, Hawaii is the mainland with better weather.
@@HelloFromHawaiiI had an incentive to make it in California. On the day I left Hawaii, my mother said "I'll give you 30 days before you return". She was almost correct. I was homeless for two weeks once and a good friend I met in the service helped me get back on my feet.
Envy can poison friendships. If I feel envy, I try to appreciate what I have so it won't poison a friendship I value. If the other person is envious, I wonder if they would take the more difficult aspects of my life along with those they envy.
Doctor Phil nailed this in his new book, we compare the inner reality (warts and all) of ourselves with the phony “social mask” version of the life of others. A formula for envy and victimhood excuses for not bettering ourselves.
Another thing to consider is that the person with the nicer "stuff" might be longing for what the person without nice "stuff" has. Take for example two people who make the same amount of money. One has been single for many years and longs to be married with kids. The other is married with kids and longs for the nice "stuff" that the single person has. The person who is married with kids has probably spent tens of thousands if not hundreds of thousands of dollars on dates, a wedding, diapers, childcare/tuition, a bigger place for the family, etc. Whereas the single person has not spent money on any of that, therefore allowing them to buy nice "stuff". Each person has what the other wants. Neither person is right or wrong it's just the way things are. I know this simplification of life, as there are many nuances, but I feel it does put things into perspective. Like what Chris and other commenters have said, you never know what is really going on behind the scenes.
Great point. As a parent, I can share that kids are expensive. But it's worth it. While it would be nice to drive a newer car, I wouldn't trade that for my kids.
To live a upper middle class lifestyle is pretty hard to manage. My household income is quite high, and trust me it took a lot of hard work to get there. There are things you give up like time. I'm moving to O'ahu in 3 years and with the costs of college tuition for my kids, I'm actually downgrading my lifestyle as a multi millionaire. Everything is expensive. Enjoy the simple things in life. That's what it's about.
Absolutely. Everyone's journey thru life is different. My Husband and I don't have any other family at all - so everything we have we made and achieved ourselves. It may take us longer to get what other's already have. I've never been envious of what other people have, drive and wear. Because you don't know how people get what they have and honestly I don't care. I mean good for them, happy for you and I mean it. I just want to live a quiet, peaceful life. Wealth is a tricky subject because $ isn't going as far as it use to. Unless as you said it's wealth associated with land and home(s). Be Kind to yourself, and stay in your own lane. Stop being envious of people.
Life is funny. Being one of 6 kids growing up in the 50's, my own kids always chuckle when I revel them with stories of how poor we were growing up. I believe that propelled me to try my best to better my life. I was the first in my family to earn a college degree and did this working 40 hours a week at McDonald's. Granted UH was hell of a lot cheaper than now but inflation is relative. Going through that experience helped me appreciate more the things in life that I was able to achieve. I always tell my kids that each generation needs to strive to do better than the generation before. My two kids finished college and now are very successful in their chosen fields. My daughter even got her MS. My one grandson attends Punahou and I know my son is very proud of that. Looks like their generation is on track and doing well. This is a culmination of what you can achieve within your own efforts without having to keep up with anyone.
To be Buddah-ish, ‘want of material things is what brings us suffering. Most of us would crumble if we were financially forced to downgrade the material world we currently cling to. The key to survival is to live well below one’s means and be like them squirrels and stock up on them nuts for the coming winter. Off a slight tangent, when my son entered his teenage years he got into trouble at school and was punished but we only recently (4 years later) discovered that the root of his trouble stemmed from him being bullied that he did not dress fashionably and was teased that he wore the same cheap clothes. The bullying was done by smart wealthy kids in private school. The summary of this story is that kids are taught at a young age to value material possessions. I can’t say, “Today’s kids are….” because I know generation after generation we fall for the same desires to acquire things that look cool. On a totally contradictory note, I remember countless lectures to my super shy teenage daughter about the stupidity of fashion. Then, one day I was driving her and her classmates someplace and she didn’t say one word (she’s not able to relate with her friends) in the friend’s lively car conversations until they brought up the topic of fashion, and then my daughter was able to talk a little bit about clothes with them. I felt super bad that was the only time she could relate to her friends and she only had a modest collection to show for it. For her situation maybe we could have been more understanding of her wanting certain clothes as it was not about fashion but more able trying to relate to her classmates.
Mahalo for sharing. It's sad that material things are a big part of the social sphere of school. Ironically, for most kids, the stuff they have has almost nothing to do with what they earn, but what is given to them by their parents.
I must continue to compliment you on the quality of your videos. Great video and great content. I know you must plan and think about what you're going to say a lot and say it just right. I don't know how you continually do it. Anyways. I am frugal and don't spend a lot of money although I definitely have the finances to do so. I truly am satisfied with what I have. I benefited from my immigrant parents who worked so hard to provide everything I needed including the guidance for me to make good choices in life. I don't envy what other people have because for me, it doesn't matter. Life could be a lot worse and I am grateful for my current standard of living. I live in a house, have food and can pay my bills. I know there are others that are not so fortunate. If my situation becomes more challenging, I have confidence that I can adjust. I hope that those that live a better lifestyle can adjust too if the economy becomes darker as some economist are forecasting. Life is great as long as you think it is.
Mahalo for the comment. Yes, I do plan out my videos, but like I mentioned in a post, it's been a struggle these last few weeks. Just been tired and busy with work. It's great that you are satisfied with what you have. Very rare quality these days. Even I find myself looking every now and then. I have to catch myself and remember all of the great things I have.
Many people live with debt and spend beyond their means in HI and the mainland. I lived in HI 26 yrs and live in CA currently and plan to return to HI. Been able to retire early due to being in my lane and keeping the goal of retiring early without spending unnecessarily like have our kids to public school and pay for their college education loan free. In the end what’s important is to keep the family in mind when you’re living and enjoying life. Been very blessed with investments, real estate and being in my own lane. Good luck finding the meaning of life for yourself.
“Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have. For He Himself has said, ‘I will never leave you nor forsake you.’” Hebrews 13:5. I’m not a Christian as I have never found the faith to accept the leap, but I have studied the Bible and enjoy studying the early history of Western civilization. The Bible is full of teachings pointed to not succumbing to envy and jealousy, as they are very much cancers that grow in one’s heart…and can destroy one’s life as any other cancer would. For me, I always remind myself to not to judge others on what they have or don’t have, but to judge them on their actions…eventually, it does become easier not to really care about the things others have - it doesn’t affect me directly one way or the other…
I find the social pressures to keep up to be much higher on the mainland. That’s one of the main reasons I don’t want to raise my children on the mainland. People are way more down to earth here.
I had classmates owning a nice condo and 2 kids and pretty wife in our 20's and I was still struggling with college bills, couldn't date cause no funds... I get it. At 43 I came up and we are more even but back then I was slightly jealous he inherited alot of wealth.
A lot of people would trade the inherited money for more time with the loved ones who they inherited from. Can be a mixed blessing that comes with loss.
It's tougher in the beginning because it takes time to build a career and settle down. More or less, I think things level out. Although getting a house early is a great head start in life here.
Hi Chris, thank you for the vlog! What is the measure of success? I think this is different for everyone. Some people measure success in material things, others measure success in the happiness of their family or themselves. Of course, financial security does provide a level of freedom to not worry about things that people without the financial stability have to deal with on a daily basis. I know people that do not have much, but they are very happy and that can also be a very enviable situation.
Great question to ask. What is success? That should look different for everyone, given their circumstances. For some it might be wealth. For others it might be relationships.
Great video on the subject that we all seem to forget that we shouldn’t live over our means. It’s unfortunate that we became a debt acceptable society.
in comparison to the world to come, this world has nothing to offer me. besides that, ive had the best this world has to offer so i know im not missing out on anything except more dissapointment and self loathing.
Moving to Town from the mainland, the biggest difference I feel, not just see, is collective beliefs. Locals tend to believe in some version of lack. Many mainlanders and much of the world believe in abundance. In reality, abundance is the natural state of the universe. So if you believe you lack money, which is a recent transactional device to these islands historically, what you actually believe in is still abundance. It’s just an abundance of “lack.”
Good introspection video. The end questions about inheritance/passing on to the next generation sort of relates to the video made earlier about the two economist and future of Hawaii. Hawaii's past achievements of the current grandparents/parents are the economic changes that occurred with post WWII and baby boomers. Pre WWII was a depression era economy with sugar, pineapple, tourism and military. Post war increased sugar, pineapple, tourism, military and economic boom with trade for the United States and the world, with Hawaii being a major port Pacific wise. Now, our agriculture of sugar/pineapple is gone. We still have military & tourism, but international trade has changed, where foreign manufacturers are coming in more than domestic exports are going out. The trade tariffs that the tail end of Trump administration shows the impacts American manufacturing when current products in some way, shape or form relies on materials from foreign nations that trade embargo/tariffs impacts American productivity, compared to post WWII, where everything was made in the United States. Growth, income and careers have changed since post WWII. No major agriculture workers, production, exports. Dwindling tourism with economic growth of international travelers and their incomes dependent on their incomes/economies at home. More competition closer to Asian/Pacific travelers for closer, cheaper, different than Hawaii. That means past economic gains by earlier generations aren't continuing on with the younger, ever proliferation generations. Older generations worked, saved and received supply/demand prices of property as it grew. Current generations aren't saving or investing on future income. They are spending on consumer goods, expecting continuation of what's existing, not thinking of the future of all. Government/politicians aren't really addressing long term of years/decades, which like the voters (current generations) of what comes next. Where's the fresh water coming from as we hit the next million residents? How much waste and sewage can our existing systems maintain? Living on an island with fixed resources/revenues but growing population/demands is like having one air tank under water and multiples divers too deep to rise and all running out of oxygen.
All great points of discussion. The current economy will have huge impacts on how wealth is passed down in Hawaii. As more families move away, that wealth, in part, leaves with them, which means less generational wealth staying here.
Keeping up with the Joneses, it's all about one's chosen profession (job) and the income limitations of that profession and sector of the economy and therefore one can't compare oneself with others who jobs with higher incomes.
Yup, I'm that guy looking at other people thinking... dang they must be rich. Or I'm just poor. 8) But you know, I'm that guy helping my kid out with life and school stuff so I guess all is good.
Hey Chris. I have advice on keeping your sanity in today's world. Stay off social media. I only have FB, not to post, but for the occasional secret browsing of friends
What is also a problem is when we rely on our parent’s home or finances for our future needs. I know too many who are not saving for retirement or trying to pay off their mortgage because they feel they will get money from their parents when they pass away and that’s exactly what breaks up families. I don’t know if that’s called greed or stupidity
@@HelloFromHawaii. Not sure how you feel but I believe parents need to also be aware of how complicated it gets when they ask one of their children to move in to care for them. Are they to be left homeless once the parent passes. Many sacrifice their social life and career to care for their parents 24/7 and siblings who never once helped out is ready to push them out and sell or demand pay off. Parents should protect the one who agrees to care for them.
Don't you just love common sense. Your financial situation is dependent on one thing and one thing only...your behavior. Those who are in debt need to change their behavior. One way to do that is to learn basic financial literacy. Math is math, the numbers won't lie unless YOU make it lie.
This is why I would hope that schools teach financial literacy. Things like how to create a budget and understanding how to save are important life skills.
@@HelloFromHawaii Schools teach you how to be employable, not how to exceed your financial goals and expectations. I'm a product of that. Now I've learned better.
I love Charlotte’s Web. Which, when you think about it, is all about making a pig look like a silk purse, to rob from the aphorism. “Some pig!” How different is that from gilded social media posts? Some people need to shine on social media, I guess. I think what you do is more interesting and more worthwhile because it makes people think, rather than just envy. Which - sorry, I can’t resist - is really Terrific!
I felt this video real talk i never when go college but I worked from 18 till today age 44 and still no more nothing to really show for had my first child at 20 and second at 26 seen all my friends get new cars houses trips all kine toys and felt like you said what I doing wrong Good For Them but how they can but I no can went into depression cause felt like I doing the work but not making enough for get anything mind you I have credit card debit card ol skool stand in line at bank grab cash but I'm the the one people call when need help fix this when something broke house car their car stereo clean yard whatever life nuts but I learning at age 44 no mind that that not you take care your life in time you going get yours just workem and one day you going get your house your new truck your toys to anyone who feel like I did/do we earned what we get and no owe nobody keep pushing through that hot day in the sun the sun only out half day push through that shitty rainy day going stop even if little while she going stop k getting carried away Mahalo for this video Braddah
Mahalo for sharing. It's hard not to compare, but like I mentioned, you never know what's always going on in the background. Best to remember what you have to be thankful for. It's hard, but helps me.
I think that’s unfair to just assume someone is getting help because they look like they are doing well. You don’t know what people do for a living just by looking at them. Some of the most successful people are the most plain and not extravagant people. Some of them will have an outlet where maybe their wealth makes its appearance but the lesson is don’t judge. Mind your own business. Be your own person. Nevermind trying to figure what others are doing. You figure out how to better yourself rather than trying to tear other people’s success down. I get judged a lot but you know what, I don’t care. I know what I did to get where I am and nobody can take those triumphs away from me.
Weeds can be beautiful, don’t know why we can’t enjoy a weed garden. Weeds are used in powerful medicine too. Most grass around is just weeds that are mowed 😂 What we’re fighting in society are ADs telling us what we need and want, usually focused on young people, once you turn 50, the world no longer wants you to have fun.
I'm not so sure that Hawaii was more affordable back then. I think affordability is relative. However, I do think that housing was more attainable back then just because there were more "empty spaces" on the Monopoly board. My wife does help with child care for our sons. Invaluable.
Wealth is lost over 3 to 4 generations. The best thing you can do is be an example to your kids and teach them how to build wealth for themselves. Have them work part-time from a young age. Show them how to save a large percentage of their earnings. How to invest the savings. How to manage time between job and school. How to then use these funds to help with investing in themselves. You can get educated, build a career, and retire at 65... or you can invest, build passive income, achieve F.I.R.E., travel the world, and help your parents.😁
@@HelloFromHawaiiYou should teach them hard work, perseverance, grit, and wealth building. Too many today think when things get tough they can just quit. And it's questionable if things are really tough or just a little difficult. "I don't like it.'
So the USA owes The Kingdom of Hawai'i 93 Billion dollars. For Illeagaly annexing Hawai'i. There are probably interest and penalties also due. After 125 years of Occupation !
Honestly I don’t doubt this one bit. $120k is like $80k take home. Pay your rent, utilities, car, insurance and all of a sudden you got $200 left over for the month. Not exactly rollin in the dough.
That is my salary goal. I agree with one of these post- about 80k take home pay and I'm good. Single with no kids though...that probably makes a difference.
Absolutely If you have lots of money as an example, you would not want people to know your rich because it would attract jealousy people and you might get swindled or worse robbed
A lot of people who look like they "have it all" are in massive debt, living above their means. When there is a downturn in the economy, those people are the ones who end up losing all. You never know if someone is truly lucky, smart, talented and have built true wealth or if their lifestyle is built on a house of cards.
Important video-I appreciate your analogy of the diorama--it’s these little things that give us an advantage - over time,in life-live simply-
Excellent reply! Mahalo ❤
omg what do i do.
It's hard to tell the financial situation of others. Again, I'm not implying that everyone should reveal their financial status. But imagine if we could see everyone's financial situation as a number hovering above their head. :)
Too many people don't truly appreciate when someone gives them assistance. They take the assistance for granted.
And many people expect hand-out for their entire life, wondering why someone isn't always there to help them...sad.@@JeanneFerrariamas-sr5ml
this is something i have come to realize as i've recently become a homeowner in hawaii, while also being born and raised in hawaii... generational wealth certainly gives you an advantage to becoming a homeowner
Very true. It helps.
true...I moved to mainland years ago, majority of my relatives who own homes in Hawaii either inherited property or were gifted substantial amounts of money for the down payment....good for them....nice I have a place to hang out a couple times a year!!!
Mahalo so much for this. I think this is such an important video following the sad tragedy of the family in Manoa whom were overwhelmed with debt. It’s good to be reminded to no need compare ourselves to others.
This is so true. As the father acted rashly, and sadly saw no other solution. It's said that "people who feel desperation use a permanent solution to solve a temporary matter". And to anyone else who may be in the pit of a 'debt-hole', if you are standing in there with a shovel...stop digging!
More important to pass on strong values, character and integrity instead of $$$
Very true. The money will be spent or wasted. The strong values are so much more important.
But all of the above is better
Every family is different about the values, character, integrity and dollars to the family members whether rich or poor. Sometimes those values aren't intentionally passed but they are passed or acquired by those around them. It's up to the individual as to what values, character, integrity that they want to keep. I've seen wealthy backgrounds have no sense of values, character or integrity and those of less wealth have more value, character, integrity than others. I see families high and low, think nothing of others while others do in the same family. People leave stuff for family members and others don't. I hope those leaving legacies to family members consider whether or not, those receiving are worth gift of money if they've never spent much time with them. As one ages, they find time to be more valuable than money. One can earn money, they can't earn more time.
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I'm often reminding myself that what I see on TH-cam is only a "snapshot" of someone else's life and is not the full picture. And, true, the content creators may have certain advantages that I don't have, and never had. It can be tough to see others seemingly having a wonderful life all the time, but we don't see their lives in their entirety. We see only what they allow us to see. Sometimes they are not showing the advantages they were born into, and sometimes they are just not showing their lives "warts and all," which is probably more often the case. We have to ask ourselves if behind the scenes they're really that happy all the time. Most likely not, considering how tough life is for all of us. Most people don't live charmed lives.
I think the people who follow you, myself included, do so because you keep it real. You don't try to put on an air of having a charmed life, either for yourself in particular or for Hawaii in general. That makes you more relatable for us, your dedicated followers. Having said all that, I just wanted to say thanks for keeping it real! I hope you and your family experience the financial and personal success that you so clearly deserve and continue to work toward. A big MAHALO to you, Chris!🙌👏🤙
Mahalo for the comment. What's shown on social media is curated. If regular people take the time to curate their posts, imagine what the professional influencers are doing.
It's something we all know, yet, like I mentioned, when it catches us on a bad day, the comparison trap is tough. Because if I look around, it seems like a third of the population is either driving a Tesla, Lexus, or new truck. I just have to remember to be grateful for what we have (my 20-year old car still gets us from Point A to Point B just as good as those other vehicles) :)
you only see the "B" roll (beauty shots), not the whole picture. We all want to be the best, have the best, show the best. Be you and make your life happy the way you can.
Can you help me? What is the name of the bird with the unique “multiple bird call?” I have a video that has 10 minutes of the beautiful sound of the Hawaiian birds at sunrise.
No one has ever told me what the name of that bird is. It has a lower pitched, 3-4 sound call
❤❤❤ Aloha Ohana. I departed Hawai'i after enlisting in our USN, 8/1983. Moved back 2004-2009 and never returned. Like you Chris i mostly grew up in Kanehohe and graduated from Castle High School. My elementary school years was at Lincoln Elementary School, Makiki, on the slops of Punch Bowl, Magazine Street. My fellow KamaAina! Don't compare yourself or family's life to others locally and especially abroad! I get this reaction all the time, "Hawaii?! You from Hawaii, PARADISE?! Why you moved away and never returned?!" Only our 50th State Hawai'i condure up these reactions from others here in the other 49 States and abroad. Men from Fiji reactions were the same! Of course mine to Fiji. Don't forget Da Aina beauty and blessings each of you live in the Aina Named Hawai'i. I currently live in Huachuca City, Arizona. Mahalo and blessings Chris. Blessings all KamaAina!
Mahalo for sharing. I used to get that reaction a lot when I was in Colorado and Oregon.
As always, another thoughtful video! You know, once in a great while I do wonder how some people can afford huge custom built homes and two Lexus's (Lexi?) in the garage, but more often, I see homeless people and am thankful that I am not in THAT situation. It goes both ways.
Lexi? lol. Not sure what the plural is, as I've never considered buying one. ;)
I love your honesty and authenticity, rare to come across now of days.
God bless you and your family and keep up the videos please 🤙🌈
Mahalo for the comment. 🤙
You have no idea that you are speaking for so many of us here in Hawaii. Keep sharing your observations and home grown wisdom!
Mahalo. Appreciate the kind words 🤙
Gratitude for what we do have is so important to a happy, fulfilling life. I didn’t have many of the advantages that others had growing up, but I had enough to get me motivated and to be grateful, which has served me well in my life. That and hard work! Always ups and downs. But our values and gratitude always gives us a solid foundation on how to live - and enjoy - life, no matter what we have, or don’t have. Thank you for this thought provoking video.
🤙 Values that are passed on are very underrated.
I really appreciate this video Chris. It was super insightful and gives a person a lot to think about. Thanks
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Chris, Thanks for another great video! My parents always instill in my brother and I to be thankful for what we are blessed with. Not to look at others because we don’t know if they did something illegal or unethical things to be successful. So I anyone who envious of others, be thankful for the life you are blessed with.
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Your authenticity and humility are admirable. Mahalo, bro!
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I don't ever comment on videos but this hits very close to home as I've definitely struggled with comparing myself to others especially to my peers who's families are well off. This video really brought peace to myself, mahalo.
Mahalo for the comment. Like I mentioned, comparison can catch us hard, especially when we are having a bad day. When I got sick recently, I was feeling down and that's when things started to kick in. Had to catch myself and remember what I had going in my life.
generational wealth. very powerful. in addition to the student loans and good family enviornment you grew up in there's a lot more that your parents provided that gives you the real advantage to grow, learn, and adapt when you needed it. It's the strong work ethic, and strong morales and foresight to build a future for yourself and your family. That private school education easily gave you about 5 to 10 years education advantage over everyone else in Hawaii. For those that don't know hawaii public education is pretty atrocious in how far behind they are. This includes k-12 and even the state funded university, Very good message Sir. Mahalos.
Mahalo for the comment. I'm not sure the private school education gave me that big of an advantage. Mostly, it gave me confidence in learning and I quickly figured out how to learn things fast. By the time I was a senior, my private school advantage had leveled out.
There are some that leverage social media to portray a level of affluence and success that does not align with reality. Overt conspicuous consumption is often used to mask deficiencies in more personal aspects in one's life. The need to continually broadcast how wonderful your life is could be a hollow affirmation and denying problems that are festering. Honesty, humility and being a good person is the true measure of a complete person.
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Living on the mainland to move and retire on the Big Island. Thinking it was “paradise” after 5 years I came to realize it wasn’t the paradise I thought it was. The price of fuel, electricity and food are almost three that of the mainland. However, the biggest issue for everyone living there is the lack of adequate healthcare. It’s nearly nonexistent on the island. You may be able to afford the living expenses, just don’t get sick! The sun, sand and surf are amazing. The way the government runs the Island is upsetting as the corruption runs rampant. Hawai’i is a wonderful place to visit, living there is challenging to say the least.
Interesting that you realized it after five years. I think that's about the time most people come to the same realizations that you have.
Be thankful that you have your health, there are always someone better and some are worse off than you.
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Well said. Being grateful for what you have and not what you don't will make your a happier person.
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Your candor is appreciated. So many people will never attribute their success to what has been given to them. However, being honest about it helps 1) other people understand that your success should not make them feel less-than, and 2) to practice gratitude.
In terms of generational bottleneck, we won't ever see the scale of wealth transfer we're seeing now between boomers and their children/grandchildren. The best thing to pass down you your children is financial responsibility and accountability -- that's important no matter how much they're gifted or inherit.
Mahalo for sharing. Agree that passing down financial and social responsibility will be valuable in the future.
Another great video Chris! Keeping it real as always!!! Mahalo 🤙🏼
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I grew up like lower middle class. I usually had everything I needed, but I often had to go to a friend's house to eat, because we didn't have any food. My dad started a business when I was about 13-14. I was able to make money working at the business and has enough money to buy my own car at 16 in cash. With the extra money my parents were able to purchase land. I can live in Hawai'i rent free and even start my own farm.
I know I wasn't spoiled as a child, but I still feel like I have a huge advantage. Some day I would like to give back, if I'm ever able to build the means. Idk, I'm not that greedy of a person and I see people struggling. I'd like to grow enough food to donate to poor families who can't afford things like fresh produce.
Mahalo for sharing. Food production continues to be important in Hawaii. Just hoping that we start growing more crops that locals eat, or changing our diets to eat what we can grow.
You're awesome!!! @wMerlinw You should share your business here so more hawaiians can support!
1) Yes, people (who do not live in Hawai'i) tend to rhapsodise about living over there. They think that you all live so ideally, in such a trouble-free paradise.
I have done this a lot. I have wished that I lived over there, without thinking fully about what all living over there would involve, and how isolated Hawai'i really IS, what stores you do not have out there, the sameness of the weather (no real seasons to speak of), etc. I loved visiting HI as a tourist, thrice, mightily but ... I think living there might end up being a bit trying after having watched yours and others videos. Very helpful and clarifying your content has been for me.
2) I loved the book Charlotte's web. I cried so hard at the end of the book! God, I was a basket case. Who died was too unfair!
Mahalo for the comment. It's different living here vs visiting here. And it's hard to explain because the image of Hawaii as a paradise is so strong. But ask people who moved here after five years and they'll let you know how it is.
And yes, Charlotte's Web was a sad book. So was Bridge to Terabithia.
Sameness of the weather is actually a good thing though ❤
I have friends who have inherited much money from Aunt’s not just parents. I think 🎉wow my aunts never gave me money? It was such a foreign thing to me! They just expected it! hundreds of thousands they inherited. you cant worry or be envious just be happy and live your life 😊
Yeah, that's how it can be, especially if the aunt didn't have kids.
Mahalo for being up front and real . I'm subscribed to another creator who recently moved back to Hawaii - windward Oahu somewhere . Malama Life is the channel name - living for what's important in life as opposed to chasing piles of money , etc.
I've seen that channel. Interesting contrast to live as a minimalist in Hawaii, given how expensive things are.
Excellent video and a great perspective. I’m from Hilo, but I lived all over Oahu when I was younger. Best thing I did was move my family back home. Family close by and lots of space. My wife is from Salt Lake- so we return often, but I wouldn’t go back. My cousin bought a little place with a tiny yard in Kaimuki for almost 1M. Crazy. Being a golfer-you would know this- I can hit an 8 iron- and the ball is still in my yard. Aloha- the retro’Bows hat is awesome!
lol. Big yard. 🤙
This is why I dont display my life online and I don't follow anyone on social media. If I want updates on people, I will call, message or actually see them in person.
Other than my TH-cam and associated IG account, I don't post much of my life online. No Facebook or anything else. Just no time and not really interested.
asians like to show off....so better that way
good vlog with a lot of reflection and awareness, esp living in hawaii but applicable pretty much everywhere. thx!
Mahalo. Yeah, definitely applicable anywhere.
I have an advantage, sort of. I was born and raised in Oahu to hard working parents and grew up with that value. After the service, I knew Hawaii couldn't offer what I wanted out of life so here I am in California. I left Hawaii with $900 in my pocket that I saved up while in the service.
IMO, Hawaii is the mainland with better weather.
Glad the move worked out. $900 isn't a small amount. It's a good place to start.
@@HelloFromHawaiiI had an incentive to make it in California. On the day I left Hawaii, my mother said "I'll give you 30 days before you return". She was almost correct. I was homeless for two weeks once and a good friend I met in the service helped me get back on my feet.
keeping it real makes you relatable. I enjoy watching your channel.
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Envy can poison friendships. If I feel envy, I try to appreciate what I have so it won't poison a friendship I value. If the other person is envious, I wonder if they would take the more difficult aspects of my life along with those they envy.
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Doctor Phil nailed this in his new book, we compare the inner reality (warts and all) of ourselves with the phony “social mask” version of the life of others. A formula for envy and victimhood excuses for not bettering ourselves.
Maybe I'll check out his book. Thanks for the recommendation. 🤙
Another thing to consider is that the person with the nicer "stuff" might be longing for what the person without nice "stuff" has. Take for example two people who make the same amount of money. One has been single for many years and longs to be married with kids. The other is married with kids and longs for the nice "stuff" that the single person has. The person who is married with kids has probably spent tens of thousands if not hundreds of thousands of dollars on dates, a wedding, diapers, childcare/tuition, a bigger place for the family, etc. Whereas the single person has not spent money on any of that, therefore allowing them to buy nice "stuff". Each person has what the other wants. Neither person is right or wrong it's just the way things are. I know this simplification of life, as there are many nuances, but I feel it does put things into perspective. Like what Chris and other commenters have said, you never know what is really going on behind the scenes.
Great point. As a parent, I can share that kids are expensive. But it's worth it. While it would be nice to drive a newer car, I wouldn't trade that for my kids.
This is a truly lovely video. Mahalo. 🌺
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To live a upper middle class lifestyle is pretty hard to manage. My household income is quite high, and trust me it took a lot of hard work to get there. There are things you give up like time. I'm moving to O'ahu in 3 years and with the costs of college tuition for my kids, I'm actually downgrading my lifestyle as a multi millionaire. Everything is expensive. Enjoy the simple things in life. That's what it's about.
Absolutely.
Everyone's journey thru life is different. My Husband and I don't have any other family at all - so everything we have we made and achieved ourselves. It may take us longer to get what other's already have. I've never been envious of what other people have, drive and wear. Because you don't know how people get what they have and honestly I don't care. I mean good for them, happy for you and I mean it.
I just want to live a quiet, peaceful life. Wealth is a tricky subject because $ isn't going as far as it use to. Unless as you said it's wealth associated with land and home(s).
Be Kind to yourself, and stay in your own lane. Stop being envious of people.
Mahalo for the words of wisdom 🤙
Life is funny. Being one of 6 kids growing up in the 50's, my own kids always chuckle when I revel them with stories of how poor we were growing up. I believe that propelled me to try my best to better my life. I was the first in my family to earn a college degree and did this working 40 hours a week at McDonald's. Granted UH was hell of a lot cheaper than now but inflation is relative. Going through that experience helped me appreciate more the things in life that I was able to achieve. I always tell my kids that each generation needs to strive to do better than the generation before. My two kids finished college and now are very successful in their chosen fields. My daughter even got her MS. My one grandson attends Punahou and I know my son is very proud of that. Looks like their generation is on track and doing well. This is a culmination of what you can achieve within your own efforts without having to keep up with anyone.
Mahalo for sharing. Love that work ethic and how it can transcend generations.
Enjoy your content. Stay positive 🤙🏽
Another great video!
To be Buddah-ish,
‘want of material things is what brings us suffering. Most of us would crumble if we were financially forced to downgrade the material world we currently cling to. The key to survival is to live well below one’s means and be like them squirrels and stock up on them nuts for the coming winter.
Off a slight tangent, when my son entered his teenage years he got into trouble at school and was punished but we only recently (4 years later) discovered that the root of his trouble stemmed from him being bullied that he did not dress fashionably and was teased that he wore the same cheap clothes. The bullying was done by smart wealthy kids in private school. The summary of this story is that kids are taught at a young age to value material possessions. I can’t say, “Today’s kids are….” because I know generation after generation we fall for the same desires to acquire things that look cool.
On a totally contradictory note, I remember countless lectures to my super shy teenage daughter about the stupidity of fashion. Then, one day I was driving her and her classmates someplace and she didn’t say one word (she’s not able to relate with her friends) in the friend’s lively car conversations until they brought up the topic of fashion, and then my daughter was able to talk a little bit about clothes with them. I felt super bad that was the only time she could relate to her friends and she only had a modest collection to show for it. For her situation maybe we could have been more understanding of her wanting certain clothes as it was not about fashion but more able trying to relate to her classmates.
Mahalo for sharing. It's sad that material things are a big part of the social sphere of school. Ironically, for most kids, the stuff they have has almost nothing to do with what they earn, but what is given to them by their parents.
Great video content as always👍🏼🤙🏼
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I must continue to compliment you on the quality of your videos. Great video and great content. I know you must plan and think about what you're going to say a lot and say it just right. I don't know how you continually do it.
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I am frugal and don't spend a lot of money although I definitely have the finances to do so. I truly am satisfied with what I have. I benefited from my immigrant parents who worked so hard to provide everything I needed including the guidance for me to make good choices in life. I don't envy what other people have because for me, it doesn't matter. Life could be a lot worse and I am grateful for my current standard of living. I live in a house, have food and can pay my bills. I know there are others that are not so fortunate. If my situation becomes more challenging, I have confidence that I can adjust. I hope that those that live a better lifestyle can adjust too if the economy becomes darker as some economist are forecasting. Life is great as long as you think it is.
Mahalo for the comment. Yes, I do plan out my videos, but like I mentioned in a post, it's been a struggle these last few weeks. Just been tired and busy with work.
It's great that you are satisfied with what you have. Very rare quality these days. Even I find myself looking every now and then. I have to catch myself and remember all of the great things I have.
Many people live with debt and spend beyond their means in HI and the mainland. I lived in HI 26 yrs and live in CA currently and plan to return to HI. Been able to retire early due to being in my lane and keeping the goal of retiring early without spending unnecessarily like have our kids to public school and pay for their college education loan free. In the end what’s important is to keep the family in mind when you’re living and enjoying life. Been very blessed with investments, real estate and being in my own lane. Good luck finding the meaning of life for yourself.
Mahalo for sharing. Always great to focus on family and staying in your own lane. 🤙
“Let your conduct be without covetousness; be content with such things as you have. For He Himself has said, ‘I will never leave you nor forsake you.’” Hebrews 13:5.
I’m not a Christian as I have never found the faith to accept the leap, but I have studied the Bible and enjoy studying the early history of Western civilization. The Bible is full of teachings pointed to not succumbing to envy and jealousy, as they are very much cancers that grow in one’s heart…and can destroy one’s life as any other cancer would.
For me, I always remind myself to not to judge others on what they have or don’t have, but to judge them on their actions…eventually, it does become easier not to really care about the things others have - it doesn’t affect me directly one way or the other…
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Excellent video. Thank you.
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I find the social pressures to keep up to be much higher on the mainland. That’s one of the main reasons I don’t want to raise my children on the mainland. People are way more down to earth here.
I had classmates owning a nice condo and 2 kids and pretty wife in our 20's and I was still struggling with college bills, couldn't date cause no funds... I get it. At 43 I came up and we are more even but back then I was slightly jealous he inherited alot of wealth.
A lot of people would trade the inherited money for more time with the loved ones who they inherited from. Can be a mixed blessing that comes with loss.
It's tougher in the beginning because it takes time to build a career and settle down. More or less, I think things level out. Although getting a house early is a great head start in life here.
Hi Chris, thank you for the vlog! What is the measure of success? I think this is different for everyone. Some people measure success in material things, others measure success in the happiness of their family or themselves. Of course, financial security does provide a level of freedom to not worry about things that people without the financial stability have to deal with on a daily basis. I know people that do not have much, but they are very happy and that can also be a very enviable situation.
Great question to ask. What is success? That should look different for everyone, given their circumstances. For some it might be wealth. For others it might be relationships.
I have less than ever before in my life to be able to live here. I've never been happier. Things don't make you happy!
Great video on the subject that we all seem to forget that we shouldn’t live over our means. It’s unfortunate that we became a debt acceptable society.
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in comparison to the world to come, this world has nothing to offer me. besides that, ive had the best this world has to offer so i know im not missing out on anything except more dissapointment and self loathing.
Chris IMO you have family, health, future. You my friend are wealthy not rich but I feel you know the difference. ALOHA😊
Mahalo. I try to remind myself that I'm both, since "rich" is relative.
Moving to Town from the mainland, the biggest difference I feel, not just see, is collective beliefs. Locals tend to believe in some version of lack. Many mainlanders and much of the world believe in abundance. In reality, abundance is the natural state of the universe. So if you believe you lack money, which is a recent transactional device to these islands historically, what you actually believe in is still abundance. It’s just an abundance of “lack.”
Interesting observation. Maybe that mentality comes from being on an island?
Owning property can not be overstated as a way to build generational wealth.
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Good introspection video. The end questions about inheritance/passing on to the next generation sort of relates to the video made earlier about the two economist and future of Hawaii. Hawaii's past achievements of the current grandparents/parents are the economic changes that occurred with post WWII and baby boomers. Pre WWII was a depression era economy with sugar, pineapple, tourism and military. Post war increased sugar, pineapple, tourism, military and economic boom with trade for the United States and the world, with Hawaii being a major port Pacific wise. Now, our agriculture of sugar/pineapple is gone. We still have military & tourism, but international trade has changed, where foreign manufacturers are coming in more than domestic exports are going out. The trade tariffs that the tail end of Trump administration shows the impacts American manufacturing when current products in some way, shape or form relies on materials from foreign nations that trade embargo/tariffs impacts American productivity, compared to post WWII, where everything was made in the United States. Growth, income and careers have changed since post WWII. No major agriculture workers, production, exports. Dwindling tourism with economic growth of international travelers and their incomes dependent on their incomes/economies at home. More competition closer to Asian/Pacific travelers for closer, cheaper, different than Hawaii. That means past economic gains by earlier generations aren't continuing on with the younger, ever proliferation generations. Older generations worked, saved and received supply/demand prices of property as it grew. Current generations aren't saving or investing on future income. They are spending on consumer goods, expecting continuation of what's existing, not thinking of the future of all. Government/politicians aren't really addressing long term of years/decades, which like the voters (current generations) of what comes next. Where's the fresh water coming from as we hit the next million residents? How much waste and sewage can our existing systems maintain? Living on an island with fixed resources/revenues but growing population/demands is like having one air tank under water and multiples divers too deep to rise and all running out of oxygen.
All great points of discussion. The current economy will have huge impacts on how wealth is passed down in Hawaii. As more families move away, that wealth, in part, leaves with them, which means less generational wealth staying here.
Keeping up with the Joneses, it's all about one's chosen profession (job) and the income limitations of that profession and sector of the economy and therefore one can't compare oneself with others who jobs with higher incomes.
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Yup, I'm that guy looking at other people thinking... dang they must be rich. Or I'm just poor. 8) But you know, I'm that guy helping my kid out with life and school stuff so I guess all is good.
What you're doing is much more impactful. 🤙
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This is the problem Nationwide with social media. ....Its a TRAP. Some commit suicide.
It's a sad trap.
im OFF of social media completely. Except here on Boob tube.@@HelloFromHawaii
Hey Chris. I have advice on keeping your sanity in today's world. Stay off social media. I only have FB, not to post, but for the occasional secret browsing of friends
I actually don't use social media much. No Facebook or X. Only use Instagram to post occasional pictures.
What is also a problem is when we rely on our parent’s home or finances for our future needs. I know too many who are not saving for retirement or trying to pay off their mortgage because they feel they will get money from their parents when they pass away and that’s exactly what breaks up families. I don’t know if that’s called greed or stupidity
Great point and a topic for another video. I've already heard horror stories about families breaking apart when it's time to divide up assets.
@@HelloFromHawaii. Not sure how you feel but I believe parents need to also be aware of how complicated it gets when they ask one of their children to move in to care for them. Are they to be left homeless once the parent passes. Many sacrifice their social life and career to care for their parents 24/7 and siblings who never once helped out is ready to push them out and sell or demand pay off. Parents should protect the one who agrees to care for them.
They can show all they want. We should not believe everything we see online.
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comparison is the thief of joy
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Don't you just love common sense. Your financial situation is dependent on one thing and one thing only...your behavior. Those who are in debt need to change their behavior. One way to do that is to learn basic financial literacy. Math is math, the numbers won't lie unless YOU make it lie.
This is why I would hope that schools teach financial literacy. Things like how to create a budget and understanding how to save are important life skills.
@@HelloFromHawaii Schools teach you how to be employable, not how to exceed your financial goals and expectations. I'm a product of that. Now I've learned better.
Out of content, I left Hawaii 15yrs ago local guy, brah the streets looks so empty, wheres everybody?
This was filmed on a weekend. 🤙
Can you tell me what building that is in the background on the left at 1:15 please?
I believe it's called the Kapuaiwa Building.
@@HelloFromHawaii Mahalo, you're so kind.
You’ll pass onto your keiki the priceless wealth of ohana and aloha. These commodities are how locals survive including transplants. Mahalo.
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I love Charlotte’s Web. Which, when you think about it, is all about making a pig look like a silk purse, to rob from the aphorism. “Some pig!” How different is that from gilded social media posts? Some people need to shine on social media, I guess. I think what you do is more interesting and more worthwhile because it makes people think, rather than just envy. Which - sorry, I can’t resist - is really Terrific!
lol. Great reference. So Radiant!
@@HelloFromHawaii Darn right!
You've got your feet on the ground. I like that.
Great videos!
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Cannon is pointed at Aloha Tower. Coincidence or nah?
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とても 良いトピックどうもありがとうございます。
ちょうど 同じような事を考えていました。昔の人は もっと質素に生活していたので 次の世代に遺産を残せたのではないのかなと思います。とにかく この動画 作ってくれてとてもありがたいです🙏
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Materialism = Unhappiness
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I don't try to compete with anyone, I was raised in a poor family and as grown man I am just making ends meet n I'm good with that.,🌴🌊🤙😎💯
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I felt this video real talk i never when go college but I worked from 18 till today age 44 and still no more nothing to really show for had my first child at 20 and second at 26 seen all my friends get new cars houses trips all kine toys and felt like you said what I doing wrong Good For Them but how they can but I no can went into depression cause felt like I doing the work but not making enough for get anything mind you I have credit card debit card ol skool stand in line at bank grab cash but I'm the the one people call when need help fix this when something broke house car their car stereo clean yard whatever life nuts but I learning at age 44 no mind that that not you take care your life in time you going get yours just workem and one day you going get your house your new truck your toys to anyone who feel like I did/do we earned what we get and no owe nobody keep pushing through that hot day in the sun the sun only out half day push through that shitty rainy day going stop even if little while she going stop k getting carried away Mahalo for this video Braddah
Mahalo for sharing. It's hard not to compare, but like I mentioned, you never know what's always going on in the background. Best to remember what you have to be thankful for. It's hard, but helps me.
I'm only able to afford rent because the army caused permanent damage to my legs and pay disability. I tell people not to compare themselves to me.
Mahalo for sharing. That's a great message to share.
I think that’s unfair to just assume someone is getting help because they look like they are doing well. You don’t know what people do for a living just by looking at them. Some of the most successful people are the most plain and not extravagant people. Some of them will have an outlet where maybe their wealth makes its appearance but the lesson is don’t judge. Mind your own business. Be your own person. Nevermind trying to figure what others are doing. You figure out how to better yourself rather than trying to tear other people’s success down. I get judged a lot but you know what, I don’t care. I know what I did to get where I am and nobody can take those triumphs away from me.
Very true about how some of the most successful people are the most unassuming.
Weeds can be beautiful, don’t know why we can’t enjoy a weed garden. Weeds are used in powerful medicine too. Most grass around is just weeds that are mowed 😂 What we’re fighting in society are ADs telling us what we need and want, usually focused on young people, once you turn 50, the world no longer wants you to have fun.
I have some good stories about weeds in our yard. :) I'll have to share them one day.
You have to remember that Hawaii was more affordable for your parents. Our parents also sacrificed for us. What about help from your wife?
I'm not so sure that Hawaii was more affordable back then. I think affordability is relative. However, I do think that housing was more attainable back then just because there were more "empty spaces" on the Monopoly board.
My wife does help with child care for our sons. Invaluable.
Everyone compares their dreary hometown to Hawaii. I want to be in Hawaii.
Maybe you'll get a chance to live here one day.
@@HelloFromHawaii Thanks but I don't think I can afford it. I'm looking at somewhere cheaper like Tokyo or Bangkok.
Wealth is lost over 3 to 4 generations. The best thing you can do is be an example to your kids and teach them how to build wealth for themselves. Have them work part-time from a young age. Show them how to save a large percentage of their earnings. How to invest the savings. How to manage time between job and school. How to then use these funds to help with investing in themselves.
You can get educated, build a career, and retire at 65... or you can invest, build passive income, achieve F.I.R.E., travel the world, and help your parents.😁
I'll be teaching them to budget in the future. My dad taught us to save a little, give a little, and spend a little.
@@HelloFromHawaiiYou should teach them hard work, perseverance, grit, and wealth building. Too many today think when things get tough they can just quit. And it's questionable if things are really tough or just a little difficult. "I don't like it.'
So the USA owes The Kingdom of Hawai'i 93 Billion dollars. For Illeagaly annexing Hawai'i. There are probably interest and penalties also due. After 125 years of Occupation !
What is fair is that life is not fair
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So basically just stay quiet and be humble.. got it.
lol. No need stay quiet. Humility is always a great quality, though.
I hope your integrity got a lot better with age.
I would like to suggest a book to you, [Occupation of Planet Earth, get back to me when your finished
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hahaha kalahopa. mauka makai born and raised. lots of changes in a lifetime. neva to be the same.
The older one becomes the less you care about status or keeping up…😘
dont worry about what other people have be happy with what you have or you will never be happy WTF
I make $120,000 year and I’m still poor living in Hawaii
depends what your expenses are.
That's a great salary. I guess "poor" is relative.
Honestly I don’t doubt this one bit. $120k is like $80k take home. Pay your rent, utilities, car, insurance and all of a sudden you got $200 left over for the month. Not exactly rollin in the dough.
That is my salary goal. I agree with one of these post- about 80k take home pay and I'm good. Single with no kids though...that probably makes a difference.
This is not unique to Hawaii, it's a thing in Western culture in general. And yeah, no compare, eh?
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theres a saying...rich people look poor...and poor people look rich
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Absolutely
If you have lots of money as an example, you would not want people to know your rich because it would attract jealousy people and you might get swindled or worse robbed
there would be 1000 people asking you to invest in this or that and rip u off
Comparing to others is foolish, stuff doesn't make anyone happy.
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I want to leave Hawaii. Overrated
Nah, not overrated 🤙
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