I'm currently going through this with my husband of 6 months he's been gone for 2wks packed all his stuff. This is the kicker we have 4 kids and 1 of them is 3 months.
I have said it before and am saying it again, ladies it's all about the chase, today's generation we have men who are still babies inside hence fear of commitment, they keep options open just to keep you around, Reason why have decided to choose myself over games and drama💪
You gave good advice on this before! If someone hurts you? Stay clear of them. I think the same applies here to me. I would be hurt by someone leaving without any idea what is going on with him. Move on.
I remember back in the day, I was interested in this guy. And he was polite and very nice to me. It was obvious that we were attracted to each other, but I could never figure out why he was resisting so much. At first, I thought something was wrong with me. Then, one day, he told me why he was acting the way he was. "He told me I am no good!" I was glad he told me and believe me all you have to do is tell me once, and I am gone. So it just goes to show it was not me. And I was happy after that because I know I deserve better, and I will get it. Because I love myself and I will get the best!
But wow! To tell someone they’re no good is not right! Who are they to tell you who YOU are? They weren’t in your life prior to meeting them so they don’t see what you do from day to day and some women are raising children, working hard and some are in school, or taking care of their parents like f you sir!!. So to tell someone they are “no good” is craaazzzzy.
About 90% of the time he's a narcissist and too busy dealing with his other supply sources. They go and come back and go again. Then expect you to be alone while waiting for them to come back, while they been out playing around with many others.
It's like waiting for a man to take you to a special place or event, or go on vacation to a destination you've always wanted to experience, but he can't seem to get it together, afford it, can't or is afraid to travel, AND WON'T TELL YOU WHY. Sometimes we have to create and seek our own happiness and experiences. So don't depend on a man to provide you with what's on your Bucket List. Go to plan "B" and don't waste the precious years of your youth with a man who can't make his mind up or makes "Guest Appearances" sporatically in your life.
I thank God for this is me, I never chased him since he left me with three children, I moved on with my life and my children are big now, and it's almost 9yrs now and I'm still strong😊..this is wisdom 💯🙏
Morning, morning, Sister Faye and everyone. Thank you for reminding us each day of who we are. We are women, maternal. We have instinctive intuition. Let's trust ourselves. 😊
Right to the point Current situation. He said he waited and he will continue. 4 years of celibacy will not be compromised. He has to work for everything now😂 not my problem
Don't ever fall for the: "Let's take a break" game either. There are NO "breaks" in a marriage or relationship. Let him go, and end it. What he really wants it to go out and "sow his royal oats" and have you on standby in case the other woman doesn't work out. Never be a man's option.
Ladies prepare yourself if u decide to have sex with a man. If sex is something u want to do keep your feelings out of it. I know it's hard ladies but get some emotional intelligence and keep your feelings in check. Like the guy said mirror his actions no matter how hard it is. I dont want no one that don't want me!!
Amen! I was shocked when a man revealed that most men see s3x as "something to do." Most times, they don't even like the woman they're involved with! Ladies, guard your heart at all costs. You're better off getting a "rabbit" or "The Rose" to fulfill your desires. At least you know who your toys have been, and are disease free.
Been celibate (longer than I care to admit), I've been silent for 9 days and so has he. This involvement started nearly 5 months ago. So not much invested, BUT, the connection that I have "to him" is stronger than anything I've EVER felt. As the days go by, I think about him more and more and more. I can't get him off my mind! I understand he and I were not meant to be. So, why can't I stop thinking about him & desiring him? When I talk to others, they BORE me. He excites me. I've got a whole mess going on in my head/heart, and SOUL ! HELP !!!! uggggghhhh! 😭😭😭
Hi Put ur mind on other things. Work. Hobbies. Start learning something new 4 ur brain cells. I believe the mes n this video is so True / Powerful. The men these days have so many Women just n their faces all the x. I see it daily n my career. They don't have 2 do much @ all when it comes 2 Women. U Love urself enough 2 not be running, calling, texting SM'ing after a dude. All the BEST 💯
@@twilderlm2559 Thank you! Appreciate Ya! I'm trying to move on and refocus. I recall he and I talking about all the other girls that wanted him. He humbly hung his head and said, but I want you! (so sweet, so endearing) But here we are! There has to be some beauty for these ashes!
Years ago some piece of trash who didn’t even deserve a conversation actually said to me, “You don’t know how to play me when I stand you up.” I was an idiot to have anything to do with him. I hope others will read this and save themselves some pain.
i was just on the verge of discovering that my recent gentleman caller could not read nor write. it hit me like a ton of bricks, why he never looked at the menu in restaurants, why he would push away some book or magazine i wanted to show him, and i kept asking him why he never got on the internet, and he would avoid answering certain questions. i think the last time he visited me he knew he couldnt hide it much longer. that was sometime after thanksgiving. aint heard from him since. no christmas call, no new years call. so they can ghost you for all kinds of reasons. too bad cause he was still a nice guy.
Soooo, you're not going to reach out? Not going to try to help him? Just gonna let it go? (I'm not suggesting that you do anything diff)... just asking ...
yes, i thought about it, but i was reading up on reasons why a person couldn't or wouldn't learn to read, like having dyslexia or some other learning disability. very interesting. there's something called bibliophobia in which a person actually has a fear of books! they won't enter a library or a bookstore. anyway, i don't know. it could turn into something too complicated, even though it only takes a mere four months to learn.@@SB-tc2jr
Auntie Grandma 👋🏽👋🏽 I've learned I'm Extremely Emotionally Unavailable n a long distance anything... I'm not a phone person. I'm not n2 texting. I don't use SM the way most do. I'm only on Twitter / TH-cam. I'm a Face 2 Face Same Space type of Woman👍🏾💯👍🏾💪🏾
I love your part of ‘Other half’ I know we were brought up but the guy is your other half..I would wonder 💭 wait how is that?Your insight has not only inspired me to not focus on ‘other half’ but to focus on myself!I love 💕 that forever grateful!Keep it going🎉Love this!❤
Yeah but some men pull away bcuz they be messing around with other women or they already in a relationship and you be they side peice, besides what Ms. Faye says...
I've watched this 1 several x. It's really hepled me personally. I can't relate 2 most of these videos b/c I haven't lived it. I just watch / listen 4 the Wisdom. This, MOSDEF have lived it. The most helpful part of this mes 4 me... I don't have 2 say SHIT 2 him. Just go silent. Going silent is Great 4 the brain. If u say nothing ur mind can't 2nd guess itself. 4 me, that's where it all starts messing up, but no longer. When ur brian turns on u. Say less. Yaaaasss👍🏾👍🏾
My narc husband of 25 years left after he got his cut on selling our home. At 1st he would call/text now it's rare. I told him am not chasing you anymore n need time 2 heal. It's going on a yr in February since he been gone. In my opinion it's " abandonment" only thing narcissistic Don't think they do anything wrong. Am taking Faye advice n care 4 self n Don't want him back only problem not sure on how 2 convey to a narcissistic tht information. Any comments welcome!
25 yrs is a lot of time invested, but the most valuable is the 1 year that you've spent alone. Restoration could happen, but is that what you want? Perhaps, you should turn the page and start a new chapter. You get to write what happens on the next pages. Make the ending of this book exactly what you want it to be, Queen! You got this! We believe in YOU !!!
Don't call him or reach out, but beware in the future he will attempt to hoover and manuplate you back into the relationship. Love and cherish yourself and move on and make a new life for yourself without him being in it. You not calling him back and reaching out to him he will get the message and leave it at that.
U don't have 2 feel the need 2 tell him anything. From my experience, the less u say u better. As Women, some x our brains latch onto a man 4 whatever reason / we think it's our ❤, but really it's our brain pretending 2b our ❤. The less u say 2 that man the better. Keep ur brain Clear / Positive. All The BEST👍🏾👍🏾
I just asked him if he has been with another female because we had s..x without protection. He got so mad and said i disrespected him n we should just be friends instead, to avoid lack of respect😢😢😢i had to say goodbye😢 because there is no way we can be friends. I won’t chase him but it hurts😢
I am so sorry for your pain. Dry your eyes and chin up!!! It sounds like he was looking for an excuse ... chalk it up as a loss. Be thankful for what you had, and be excited about what lies ahead - TRUE happiness. Let us not cry over spilled milk !!!
If its going well and then all of a sudden they dissapear there's nothing wrong with calling him and expressing a little curiousity and concern. If you still dont get a response after that, then i wouldn't pursue it any longer.
One call is stronger than just letting it slide. It shows you’ve got empathy and also communicates boundaries. If he doesn’t respond to your concern with respect and setting solid plans to reconnect, then block and move on. NEVER let him back in after that, ever.
I agree. I lived my whole life doing what I was taught, not calling them. Better to stand up for yourself and let them know their conduct is unacceptable. Then no more contact.
Goodmorning miss faye bd always going ghost Monday-Friday never come back making up excuses over and over again same patterns now he lock up going to court mental health been a Playa the fool...
She emanates joy and life. I’m happily married, dont even agree with her on all things, but I love her content. She brightens my day. You’re just mad threats of been “old and single” don’t scare us anymore.
Ladies never beg for someone's love.
Please don't think age matters. Those in there 40s and 50s play the same games as the younger generations. Love yourself.
Yes, they do and into their 60' and 70s.
I couldn't agree more✍💯💯
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This is true 💯
I agree
Men tend to pull away when he has another woman he's dealing with and has feelings for.
uh uh... I used to think that, it's not!
It’s definitely one of the reasons
I'm currently going through this with my husband of 6 months he's been gone for 2wks packed all his stuff. This is the kicker we have 4 kids and 1 of them is 3 months.
@@michelleloveyou9786 this so sad
WHEN HE PULLS AWAY HE HAS OTHER WOMEN
👸never give him a 2nd chance to ghost u. ghosting is the utmost disrespect. UNFORGIVEABLE & guaranteed to happen again. 🏃♀️no excuses. run😌
I have said it before and am saying it again, ladies it's all about the chase, today's generation we have men who are still babies inside hence fear of commitment, they keep options open just to keep you around, Reason why have decided to choose myself over games and drama💪
You gave good advice on this before! If someone hurts you? Stay clear of them. I think the same applies here to me. I would be hurt by someone leaving without any idea what is going on with him. Move on.
Absolutely!!
I remember back in the day, I was interested in this guy. And he was polite and very nice to me. It was obvious that we were attracted to each other, but I could never figure out why he was resisting so much. At first, I thought something was wrong with me. Then, one day, he told me why he was acting the way he was. "He told me I am no good!" I was glad he told me and believe me all you have to do is tell me once, and I am gone. So it just goes to show it was not me. And I was happy after that because I know I deserve better, and I will get it. Because I love myself and I will get the best!
I'm glad he was honest enough to tell you instead of pretending to be something he was not.
@1racethehumanrace946 Yes, I am glad too because I didn't want to hate him for that. However I had respect for him being hinset.
I'm glad you didn't try to "fix" him because it's not possible.
@@cclarry I agree!
But wow! To tell someone they’re no good is not right! Who are they to tell you who YOU are? They weren’t in your life prior to meeting them so they don’t see what you do from day to day and some women are raising children, working hard and some are in school, or taking care of their parents like f you sir!!. So to tell someone they are “no good” is craaazzzzy.
About 90% of the time he's a narcissist and too busy dealing with his other supply sources. They go and come back and go again. Then expect you to be alone while waiting for them to come back, while they been out playing around with many others.
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Well he would be mad with me because when I'm done that's it. I don't walk backwards!
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Simple as that! I think this is usually the reason they pull away.
Agree.
It's like waiting for a man to take you to a special place or event, or go on vacation to a destination you've always wanted to experience, but he can't seem to get it together, afford it, can't or is afraid to travel, AND WON'T TELL YOU WHY.
Sometimes we have to create and seek our own happiness and experiences. So don't depend on a man to provide you with what's on your Bucket List. Go to plan "B" and don't waste the precious years of your youth with a man who can't make his mind up or makes "Guest Appearances" sporatically in your life.
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Well said!!
I thank God for this is me, I never chased him since he left me with three children, I moved on with my life and my children are big now, and it's almost 9yrs now and I'm still strong😊..this is wisdom 💯🙏
Morning, morning, Sister Faye and everyone. Thank you for reminding us each day of who we are. We are women, maternal. We have instinctive intuition. Let's trust ourselves. 😊
Right to the point
Current situation. He said he waited and he will continue. 4 years of celibacy will not be compromised. He has to work for everything now😂 not my problem
Don't ever fall for the: "Let's take a break" game either. There are NO "breaks" in a marriage or relationship. Let him go, and end it. What he really wants it to go out and "sow his royal oats" and have you on standby in case the other woman doesn't work out. Never be a man's option.
THANK YOU Miss Faye for your wise reminders, common sense with tough love ! 🙏🏼
Ladies prepare yourself if u decide to have sex with a man. If sex is something u want to do keep your feelings out of it. I know it's hard ladies but get some emotional intelligence and keep your feelings in check. Like the guy said mirror his actions no matter how hard it is. I dont want no one that don't want me!!
Amen! I was shocked when a man revealed that most men see s3x as "something to do." Most times, they don't even like the woman they're involved with! Ladies, guard your heart at all costs. You're better off getting a "rabbit" or "The Rose" to fulfill your desires. At least you know who your toys have been, and are disease free.
Pulling away can be a break of trust
Been celibate (longer than I care to admit), I've been silent for 9 days and so has he. This involvement started nearly 5 months ago. So not much invested, BUT, the connection that I have "to him" is stronger than anything I've EVER felt. As the days go by, I think about him more and more and more. I can't get him off my mind! I understand he and I were not meant to be. So, why can't I stop thinking about him & desiring him? When I talk to others, they BORE me. He excites me. I've got a whole mess going on in my head/heart, and SOUL ! HELP !!!! uggggghhhh! 😭😭😭
Hi
Put ur mind on other things. Work. Hobbies. Start learning something new 4 ur brain cells.
I believe the mes n this video is so True / Powerful.
The men these days have so many Women just n their faces all the x. I see it daily n my career. They don't have 2 do much @ all when it comes 2 Women.
U Love urself enough 2 not be running, calling, texting SM'ing after a dude.
All the BEST 💯
@@twilderlm2559 Thank you! Appreciate Ya! I'm trying to move on and refocus. I recall he and I talking about all the other girls that wanted him. He humbly hung his head and said, but I want you! (so sweet, so endearing) But here we are! There has to be some beauty for these ashes!
Be STILL !!
Positive Rising ❤Everyone… LOVE YOURSELF…FOCUS ON YOURSELF 👂🏽🧘🏽♀️🧘🏽♀️🙏🏽Stay Consistent on Loving Yourself Change Is Coming 😊
He pulls away because he can't measure up to your class.
Why is it always when a guy pulls away? Pull away from his sorry ass.
Absolutely 100%, my thoughts as well!!
Great advice on what to do when he pulls back and what our response should be.-very important. Thank you Miss Faye 👍🏽💜💜
Years ago some piece of trash who didn’t even deserve a conversation actually said to me, “You don’t know how to play me when I stand you up.” I was an idiot to have anything to do with him. I hope others will read this and save themselves some pain.
i was just on the verge of discovering that my recent gentleman caller could not read nor write. it hit me like a ton of bricks, why he never looked at the menu in restaurants, why he would push away some book or magazine i wanted to show him, and i kept asking him why he never got on the internet, and he would avoid answering certain questions. i think the last time he visited me he knew he couldnt hide it much longer. that was sometime after thanksgiving. aint heard from him since. no christmas call, no new years call. so they can ghost you for all kinds of reasons. too bad cause he was still a nice guy.
That really is too bad, maybe you could’ve helped with that issue if he would’ve been opened about it 🤷🏾♀️
Soooo, you're not going to reach out? Not going to try to help him? Just gonna let it go? (I'm not suggesting that you do anything diff)... just asking ...
yes, i thought about it, but i was reading up on reasons why a person couldn't or wouldn't learn to read, like having dyslexia or some other learning disability. very interesting. there's something called bibliophobia in which a person actually has a fear of books! they won't enter a library or a bookstore. anyway, i don't know. it could turn into something too complicated, even though it only takes a mere four months to learn.@@SB-tc2jr
Auntie Grandma 👋🏽👋🏽
I've learned I'm Extremely Emotionally Unavailable n a long distance anything... I'm not a phone person. I'm not n2 texting. I don't use SM the way most do. I'm only on Twitter / TH-cam.
I'm a Face 2 Face Same Space type of Woman👍🏾💯👍🏾💪🏾
You are the person i need in my life right now.
I love your part of ‘Other half’ I know we were brought up but the guy is your other half..I would wonder 💭 wait how is that?Your insight has not only inspired me to not focus on ‘other half’ but to focus on myself!I love 💕 that forever grateful!Keep it going🎉Love this!❤
Thank you for the Wisdom Beautiful Queen Miss Faye...👑🥰♥️
❤ my mind is a powerful healing tool ❤
Good Morning Miss Faye! 🙏
Thanks Ms Faye for your excellent commentary. 🙏🏽💕🙏🏽
When he pulls away, it means HE DONT WANT YOU 👌
This is AMAZING. Soo empowering thank you 😄
Thank you for the wisdom
Good advice.You're sweater is nice.
I'm def writing in lol
Needed this thank you
Ms. Faye, you always hit the mark. Bullseye 🎯. Keep speaking the truth.
Yeah but some men pull away bcuz they be messing around with other women or they already in a relationship and you be they side peice, besides what Ms. Faye says...
Grand Rising Queen ❤❤❤❤❤❤peace and blessings, Namaste 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Amazing courage Messenger ❤️😊💯🆙🔥🙏
Thank you Miss Faye for your LIFE LONG WISDOM💕😊🌻
I'm a woman I pull away too let's not discount women lose interest.
Thank you 🙏 Mrs Faye for your good ❤
Thank You. Listening from Colorado. ❤🙏. ✌.
Keep going,
Good morning Queen Faye! 😊🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 Enjoy your blessed lovely day beloved! ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I've watched this 1 several x. It's really hepled me personally. I can't relate 2 most of these videos b/c I haven't lived it. I just watch / listen 4 the Wisdom.
This, MOSDEF have lived it. The most helpful part of this mes 4 me... I don't have 2 say SHIT 2 him. Just go silent. Going silent is Great 4 the brain. If u say nothing ur mind can't 2nd guess itself. 4 me, that's where it all starts messing up, but no longer.
When ur brian turns on u. Say less. Yaaaasss👍🏾👍🏾
U rite miss faye❤❤❤❤❤
Good Morning Ms Faye !💜
My narc husband of 25 years left after he got his cut on selling our home. At 1st he would call/text now it's rare. I told him am not chasing you anymore n need time 2 heal. It's going on a yr in February since he been gone. In my opinion it's " abandonment" only thing narcissistic Don't think they do anything wrong. Am taking Faye advice n care 4 self n Don't want him back only problem not sure on how 2 convey to a narcissistic tht information. Any comments welcome!
25 yrs is a lot of time invested, but the most valuable is the 1 year that you've spent alone. Restoration could happen, but is that what you want? Perhaps, you should turn the page and start a new chapter. You get to write what happens on the next pages. Make the ending of this book exactly what you want it to be, Queen! You got this! We believe in YOU !!!
Don't call him or reach out, but beware in the future he will attempt to hoover and manuplate you back into the relationship. Love and cherish yourself and move on and make a new life for yourself without him being in it. You not calling him back and reaching out to him he will get the message and leave it at that.
U don't have 2 feel the need 2 tell him anything. From my experience, the less u say u better. As Women, some x our brains latch onto a man 4 whatever reason / we think it's our ❤, but really it's our brain pretending 2b our ❤. The less u say 2 that man the better. Keep ur brain Clear / Positive.
All The BEST👍🏾👍🏾
Thank you ❤
Sweet Advice
I just asked him if he has been with another female because we had s..x without protection. He got so mad and said i disrespected him n we should just be friends instead, to avoid lack of respect😢😢😢i had to say goodbye😢 because there is no way we can be friends. I won’t chase him but it hurts😢
I am so sorry for your pain. Dry your eyes and chin up!!! It sounds like he was looking for an excuse ... chalk it up as a loss. Be thankful for what you had, and be excited about what lies ahead - TRUE happiness. Let us not cry over spilled milk !!!
You called him out and he got mad as he knew it was true and projected it onto you to carry the guilt for the breakup.
@@SB-tc2jr 💗💕💗
@@Prometheuspredator yes exactly what i thought, i even suspect he is married🥲🥲
Good morning Ms Faye
#Well Said. Thank You 💕
So true miss Faye thank you from Europe 🙏🍀♥️
Hey Aunt Tea Faye! 🍵
How do you make him prove it? How do you react when you finally hear from him?
Heeeey Ms. Faye
Facts 💯❤️
❤❤❤ thank you
You are so welcome
Good morning ☀️ attention
Good morning
If its going well and then all of a sudden they dissapear there's nothing wrong with calling him and expressing a little curiousity and concern.
If you still dont get a response after that, then i wouldn't
pursue it any longer.
Should not call at all.
If you call, your doing exactly what he wants, to hear your worry, your concern, your begging, I wouldn’t do it, men play too many Games!
@@bexielynne
No .
It depends on how you say it.
You dont know what happened so why would you presume its malicious?
Stop already.
One call is stronger than just letting it slide. It shows you’ve got empathy and also communicates boundaries. If he doesn’t respond to your concern with respect and setting solid plans to reconnect, then block and move on. NEVER let him back in after that, ever.
I agree. I lived my whole life doing what I was taught, not calling them. Better to stand up for yourself and let them know their conduct is unacceptable. Then no more contact.
Facts
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Are you available to speak with me?
Some are trying to handle 2 birds with 1 stone and its not working out he is a serial cheater
Goodmorning miss faye bd always going ghost Monday-Friday never come back making up excuses over and over again same patterns now he lock up going to court mental health been a Playa the fool...
Bitter lonely old ancient lady😂😂
She emanates joy and life. I’m happily married, dont even agree with her on all things, but I love her content. She brightens my day. You’re just mad threats of been “old and single” don’t scare us anymore.
@@LGrian Yep. Now that women don’t have to rely on men financially, we are free to be alone unless we meet someone who can actually enrich our lives.
who hurt you lol..
@@liamargarethoxton8814 🤣🤣🤣
😅😅😅 it can come across as such. LOL - but that just means you're not her audience. And what are you doing here anyway? lol lol
I understood very well. Thank you so much. ❤️🫶🏾 im glad I’ve been keeping up to my boundaries.
Thank you ❤
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