What these men don't understand, just on a shallow level, is that they want to work their women to the bone yet expect them to look high-maintenance and well-rested. Many men are not realistic.
@Hillard Liggins studies show women retain their wealth and health by staying single. It's the opposite for men. And as a man, you should be embarrassed to expect a woman to bring something a man should bring to the table. By far, you are not a catch!
@Hillard Liggins we are, dumbass. I have two master's degrees, with no help from a man...the issue you don't understand is needing versus wanting. You're right, we don't need you. And the kind like you no woman wants. You sound unhappy with yourself!
@Hillard Liggins both genders need things from the other. That's why they both exist. Welcome to earth. Your issue is thinking the needs are the same. You don't know what a man is and you don't know what a woman is.
I can confirm what you are saying .. I’m a nurse and I’ve worked in nursing homes for years and what I’ve noticed is most of the men are left to die... it’s really sad when you see it. Some have no families whatsoever who come and visit them .. This is especially common with black men....
They were hyper sexual in their youth. Multi-baby mothers and countless children that they did not protect or provide for. So no one will go out of their way to visit papa the rolling stone in his nursing home.
That’s because those women family members didn’t have men provide for them. My son doesn’t see it yet either but he’s 13 and I’m telling him now he’s needs to be able to provide for his family.
Hey sweetheart! Is his daddy in his life too? I recently found out that another man has to teach the child to be a providing man otherwise they won’t get it. Hope this helps ☺️💜
Hent Bust no he’s not but he has other male role models in his life. I don’t agree necessarily that has to be heard from a man the information still has to be given over and over. He already gets because he’s working on being n entrepreneur. What people lack when they grow up should not be used as an excuse to be a loser it should be used as motivation. Since, he doesn’t see a father here he wants to be there for his future family.
3737raider they don’t have to see it in a marriage that’s an excuse people use for the dysfunction. You can live a certain way and choose a different path.
Mine is not yet she told us to give the dusty types a f’n chance. You couldn’t walk through my mothers door step without juice a full meal etc when she dated then she didn’t play. She’s getting old I guess. She’s been married twice we used to shop so much with my step dads money we’d hide the stuff in the closet. She always attracted providers. She worked but that was her own money. Now I ask for advice she don’t have ish to give. It’s disappointing.
If you pay your bills and your mans bill you don't have a man..you have a son,and that's problematic and detrimental to any relationship and creates a spoiled and entitled man
As a single mom myself I cannot understand why these mothers raise their son’s to be whimpy men that their girlfriend is supposed to take care of. My son is 11 and I drill in his head about being getting a good paying job, taking care of his family and being a provider. Making good money. I also surround him with male family and roles models that are that way. For me as a single mom it is an opportunity to actually raise a good man not bring another man child into the world.
Same. My sun is 10. I tell him if he wants to continue his legacy it comes with cost. I also get with him when he's asking his sister for help. Though she's older I tell him to get that out of his head
I have seen the mother wants to come first but he was so selfish nobody that no one came 1st except for him. So what did it Prosper the mother to bring up that type of selfish narcissistic man.
A guy I went on a date with 2 weeks ago asked me if I noticed any common threads with the men I've been interacting with. One of my observations were men that want an independent submissive woman. . We both chuckled.
Mental Alchemist I’m sorry but if the woman is to view you as the head and respect you as the MAN of the house (meaning the main protector and provider), and be willing to submit to you, then as the man your job is to play that role and take care of the financial aspect of the relationship. What would make a woman feel inclined to submit if she’s carrying 50% of the financial burden IN ADDITION to her duties as a wife and mother? It doesn’t work like that which is why relationships are failing. You can’t have it both ways.
Mental Alchemist A man who can’t fully provide for a woman has no right to be the head of the household. If she has kids for him and is still helping him financially, it’s still not 50-50. A man who can’t fully provide for a woman isn’t good enough to be a husband.
@@justinaagyei-mensah6545 say that 💯 Really makes you wonder what such a man would be bringing to your life if you still have to pay half the bills while dealing with all the additional responsibility of a household, on top of keeping up with the social expectations of looking good.
Mental Alchemist listen to 7:56-8:30 this portion of her segment is literally about you. We don’t blame you, we just won’t respect you with the mindset you currently have.
My mother was wit a dusty man: my father. She fell for him because he looked good. My ex was a dusty. He didn’t have shit to offer me, but I got with him anyway because I thought he looked good. Never again will a date a dusty. I’m breaking the cycle forever.
@@kaassaus4230 that’s a very personal opinion. But what’s true is as men age their hairline starts to recede, their belly starts to puff up, their bones starts to crack easily, back starts hunching. In reality there’s very few good looking older men. Hollywood men are exceptions not rules.
Ladies, NEVER deal with a man who proudly declares himself a "mamas boy" and she is chronically single. If I hear a man say that I always ask about the mom and if that's the case he ain't gonna hear from me again...I say nothing and run away
Wow, you hit the nail on the head sis....they will die alone, sick and bitter. I'm in the medical profession and man let me tell you, when you see these men with an aide instead of family and people who love and care for them it's a sad sight indeed.
It took me to be left alone Mother’s Day weekend while my bd went out of town and didn’t answer his phone. I was so confused on how i got in that situation. I took responsibility for my own actions, and forgave myself and the men i ALLOWED to treat me like trash. I leveled up mentally and my daughter has seen nothing but luxery lifetstyle by quality men. And even asked me why she never SEEN me have a boyfriend,(been on plenty of dates) she’s 5 and i couldn’t be more happier
My ex called me a gold digger. I told him if I am a gold digger I picked the wrong mark. This 56 year old MAN had nothing. Couldn’t even pay for the date most of the time. My lesson is learned. Never will I do that again.
Chloe_ pls look at the TH-cam channel “cooking with strongmommy chrissie”. At her video “my marriage is over”. This is a perfect example and would luv ur opinion
The bible tells us that Timothy I 5:8 a man who does not provide their family is worse than a non believer. Trust me because I see it all the time, they don't pay now but they certainly pay later. I work in public health and the number one regret that these men tell me about is they wish they would not have chose drugs/alcohol, chasing women, chasing the streets over the women in their lives and families. Trust me they pay. Think about it...why do you think bm have all this bad luck and things are always happening to them...its because their spirit is not right.
New Subbie! Please keep waking up the people! I was screaming yes! During the whole video! I am a stay at home mom. I agree with EVERYTHING you said. When I first got married my husband told me he pays all of the bills. I can work if I want to, but that money doesn’t go into the budget. His mom had a problem with that. Luckily, she got over it.
See, this is what confuses me. I have dated men who wanted to have a traditional relationship with traditional male-female dynamics. But then....I hear, I don't want to always pay for our dates, it's unfair. But I thought in a traditional relationship, the guy picks up the bills? You established that you want a traditional relationship from the beginning and now, you feel like you're spending too much money for our $5 Tuesday nights, and our Dennys and Chili's Saturday afternoons, and you want me to start picking up the tab sometimes. So what is it. Do you want this to be a a 50/50 relationship, which is cool, or do you want us to be Ricky and Lucy? Which is it? Like, this stuff genuinely got me confused.
@@3737raider Well....you just don't say Hi to someone and then get married. We were in a committed relationship. He wanted to chart our course towards the aisle. He even had a specific time frame he wanted to do it in. I didn't, because I don't believe in marriage, but that was his end goal. He wanted to be married. I just found it confusing how he wanted all of this Tradition, but at the same time, pitching a row over spending $50 one night a week. I thought that was what he wanted.
Serena Williams said in a interview "black men needs and wants to feel like they are the woman in the relationship" I think the reason for this is: Black women after slaveru had to work as nanny for white folks leaving their kids alone at home thus lots of black men have an avoidante emotional attachment style where as adults they punish women by ghosting/ignoring becoming emotionally cold (unconsciously punishing his mother) because they did not had the emotional nurturing every child needs to form healthier secure emotional attachments as adults.
Chloé, I love your no BS policy and have much admiration for saying it like it is. I used to be one of those women to settle for a fifty fiftier was made to believe that’s how “normal” is. The saddest part is too many females fall for this bs specially in their younger years. At 32 single mother with a child i decided to shift my focus into a prosperous direction. Remember money matters, money buys comfort and piece of mind. It’s time we women of colour see ourselves in much higher regards, it’s time to break the cycle.
Girl you done did the damn thing on this video, you did not hold back! So many BM really do expect to have it bot ways and BW need to stop coddling TF outta their sons. Break the damn cycle!
Went on a date with this very handsome Indian guy who’s ex was a whites woman. The entire date he kept asking me about law school, when I’ll be done and basically what I was bring to the table. Then this man proceeded to tell me his white ex wife die nothing, brought nothing to the table then proceeded to tell me he built her a house from the ground up. Unbelievable. We as Black women have to bring everything to the table not as soon as they meet a yt woman she can chill and be provided for
I am an indian n here men r shamed for not being providers if this indian man is asking you to go 50/50 u dont need him sis bcz he is d for sure d biggest dusty
Nadahh A. Sis, I believe that’s a separate issue. If the man is abusive, the woman’s safety and removing herself from that situation should be the priority. The fact that he is providing is neither here nor there when abuse is present.
Insecure men do this. Truly masculine men comfortable in their position don’t use money to bait and control their female counterpart. This also happens to women who don’t bring anything to the relationship so resentment occurs.
I'd say, "NEEEEXT!" because there are plenty of men who TRULY have the means to provide and accept their role with pride, instead of contempt, control, and insecurity. The men who act like that truly don't have it to give. So, they are resenting and punishing you ("making you pay") to make up for them giving something they really don't have. Also, certain women are honestly responsible for how men treat them in these situations (not saying that's you in any way). They give off an air of being "too grateful", indebted, and doormat-ty. l have a way of letting men know up front that I will not let them mistreat me very easily, I will stand up for myself and leave if I sense ANY f**ckery of any kind, because I can easily be taken care of by someone nicer without mental problems...and I'll pull out the proof of it as a last resort.
Excellent video as usual. I forward these to my daughter whose ex is a dusty-which is the father of my wonderful grandson and he sadly believes he doesn’t need to provide financially for his son. She supported him financially for a LONG TIME. She finally give him the boot. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Those who didn't maximize their youth. Those who didn't use their time well. Those who worked like mules to please and are old in pain envying their daughters. Those who sacrificed their dreams for fuckboys,bore kids for the dusty remained dusty for the kids.
Ash Wa Jeshi You are so right. And in a twisted way they live vicariously through their daughters, wishing that they were them, and this because the root of toxic, and controlling (helicopter parenting) behavior.
This is one of the few women that I hear telling us how it is for both men and women who don't have themselves together. If both men and women can accept some of the hard truths that we are hearing, we can have a better society. Masculine energy for men and feminine energy for women.
OMG!!! I dealt with that in my last relationship. His mom and sister felt he should spend all of his money on them. He always tried giving me the crumbs and said he needed to take care of the "family" I thought I was alone, but now I know I'm not.
Whew That part about sisters & moms. My last EX took me to meet 1 of his 5 sisters once. She had just had a baby and bought a new house with her husband. Anyway she was talking about how a (female) friend of theirs was so disgusting and selfish for also just buying a new house with her husband after ALSO just having a baby but NOT contributing financially (like she was) to the home and not helping out the husband, smh. I was so disgusted at how she was even comfortable saying that. I just KNEW that wasn’t what I wanted to get myself into. Moms and sisters who are masculine pick mes’ will be the downfall of the brothers and sons sometimes!
We were very young, but the first BM I had a real relationship with said that stay at home mothers were gold diggers! Lol. I did love him…but when we broke up, I moved to an apartment….he moved home to his mother’s house. Lol…he have a good heart, but he was a boy. No understanding of what I learned from my mother and father. My dad was a provider…bought my mother the home she wanted, cars, boat, we vacationed several times a year….cabins at Christmas, etc. They set the bar very high for me, and now I am married to a provider who is the best lover I’ve ever had, my best friend, my teacher, and my hope for humanity. If half the world was as good a man as he is, this world would be a much better place. I wish I could stress enough to women how important it is to marry a provider. But he is also not American, he is British. My mother is not American, she is Jamaican. We have different expectations and standards than Americans, especially the men, who are supposed to be the leaders of a family unit. But they continue to argue that marriage is a scan…50/50 this and that…and it makes me sad to see my girlfriends struggling with these dusties. These women need to get passports and never look back! I speak the truth, here!
I've been there. Tried holding a 50 year old man down. He was a so called manager in training at McDonald's when I met him. I don't know if he was fired or quit. Every job every after that, he quit. He would come up with the lamest excuses. "You won't braid my hair". 1st of all...a 50 year old man should not b trying to still wear braids.. ESPECIALLY when he's starting to go bald at the top of his head. I told him, I shouldn't have to worry about his hair. He should've been making sure MINE stayed done!. I put up with it for a while, but I got away from that bum!
I'm binge watching all your videos and I appreciate all this information. I feel like I have found my community. No one around me has this mindset and want to "build with a man"
That part Chloe said about bum men being found rotting in the basement alone is true. My former coworker whose deadbeat son's father passed away from Covid in 2021 in his apartment alone. No one knew until maintenance came 1 week later and his son found him. That man had put her through hell in her younger years. She is now married to a Provider husband though for 20 years. But this just proves true that the bum men that have the 50/50 mindset or reject their responsibility of providing & protecting for their offsprings really do end up having bad luck!!
I have 3 sons, 18, 10 and 8. My 18 year old has been working since he was 12 in my husband's lawn care business, volunteered at the community library, and found his own job at 17 working in a grocery store, his school also has a work study program where he learned how to work in a bank office and do technical support at a hospital. My oldest also has a 1st degree black belt in martial arts and is on his way to college on an almost full academic scholarship and wants to major in computer engineering. And my youngest sons stay on honor roll and have their blue belts in martial arts and help their dad in the summer time with his lawn care business. All children must be cultivated by being kept busy learning productive skills and boys need to be around men to show them how to be masculine.Men need to be strong defenders, they need to know the pride and joy of having your own money and budgeting it for yourself and your family. They need wisdom,respect for all women, good manners, self love and a God centered morality. The parents now are going to need to raise the future generation and teach the current generation how to be men for our righteous daughters, feminine righteous women, and our nations suvival.
Chloe you are soooo on point. Young women, middle aged women, and older women will learn something listening to this video. Your work is very much appreciated, thank you ❤
I admit that I WAS a dust bunny mule. Now single and happy at 48 andddd financially stable and all the things and behaviors from the past have been disected and no longer practiced. If a man were to be invited in (they are like vampires so I am cautious ⚠️ af) he will have no choice but to be a GOOD thing in my life.
I keep thinking about the couple Will and Jasmine on the show Married at First Sight. Jasmine wanted a provider, and Will wanted 50/50. Needless to say, their relationship didn't work out.
I came across your channel yesterday and I was subscribed within minutes...I absolutely love your inputs on the hypergamy topic. I’ve been tuned in all day at work...keep it up lady. ❤️ 💜
Girl where u come from where u been at my whole life why am I just now finding you ????? Edit: about the thing about men’s sisters and mothers feeling entitled to his money , my child’s father mother has always harbored hatred for me because of the way her son has always provided for me and his daughter no matter what🤦🏾♀️ I feel as though it’s toxic and unhealthy to feel like this toward your own child
My mother in law is that way too, its because she needs HIS security because she spent her life being a PICK ME and is now approaching 60 and STILL in low- income housing.
Perfect example of this is youtuber “Cooking with Strongmommy chrissie”- her video My marriage is over is a perfect example of this- she has 9 kids with 7 baby daddies . Sad just sad🤦🏾♀️
Crystal Baker im sorry to judge but that is her fault for allowing herself to get pregnant 7 times. That is just insane. I dont care what anyone says that woman is not mentally well. The executive functioning is off.
Thank you for your video! First hand experience, young African in his 30s wants everything !! MONEY , IPADS , LAPTOPS , IN ALL I SPENT OVER €2.000 On this guy! I was in love with him ! He took advantage!
They wanna know what that mouth do😭😂🤣😂🤣 I absolutely love your energy! Thank you for uplifting black women & making your videos fun at the same time 🙌🏿🤗💜
Yup! I had a weak man tell me that he doesn't take females out to seafood restaurants because his sister and female cousin told him he spends too much money on dates. Wow. Then he proceeded to tell me about his 2 kids by 2 babymothers and how 1 of them just want the child support even when their kid lived with him. Smdh. But of course he still wanted to see me.
My natural father was a misogynistic dusty and I had zero respect for him. My mother left him so he found the next lady to be a workhorse. I was engaged to a dusty man myself and left him because his mother saw him as her surrogate boyfriend. I was so good to her but all she tried to do was to compete for his attention. After I left him, she introduced him to a new woman and apparently quite a downgrade. Those dusties do that once we realize they’re getting over on us and we’re smart enough to leave.
Can you please make a video about how to act with your little brother (do's and don'ts) or how to raise a child to be a masculine man. I am so grateful to discover your channel, thank you for the precious advice.
I love your videos. You cover a lot of the word games and titles that are used by men to attempt to manipulate a women’s mind and behavior. It’s a psychological land mine of boxes women are suppose to fit in. It’s a joke. I’m glad I’ve learned to not be the people pleaser, clean up woman, doormat and Barbara the Builder I use to be. Lol! Wasted time...
I don't know any mother who wants to pay everything...including me....what I say is that men just want to take advantage of women, I don't respect any man who don't provide, let them stay w their mothers
Hi Chloe, I’m a new subbie and I love your content. I would love to see videos on plastic surgery/injectibles/fillers (as far as improving/maintaining appearance if hypergamy is a woman’s goal) and also Black women dating outside of their race in the journey to hypergamy. Thanks! ❤️
j W I agree. I just recently got it myself for my 45th bday. I look and feel refreshed! I also got fillers in my smile lines and under my eyes which i’ll continue to do.
I so wish i had your videos in ny life in my twenties...or before i had children. I find it so interesting that men get so mad when woman have standards especially when she doesn't believe in the 50/50. And its always the dustiest men that want the most from women.
Adults should be able to take care of themselves, and if in a relationship, protect each other. If men or women don't like what they are getting in a relationship, move on. We are responsible for picking the partners we choose.
Lord!!..those sisters and mother-in-laws...smh..I love way you make this mess make sense...while youre talking, its like I'm seeing my life flash before my eyes...wow.
And the same ones that think it goes both ways,be the same ones that don't appreciate women that do so. Name me one man that did and say this and treated their woman like a queen . I'll wait ( side eye ).
When I was younger, I protected women and my girlfriend moved in to escape her abusive parents. But she did learn from her grandparents about finances and I wasn't the best at budgeting then. I just worked hard! Now, She didn't like the idea of sharing her knowledge with me. So if you don't share your safety with me, don't tell me to share my safety with you. I will let you know what my role is and you can let me know.. If we disrespect each other, that just gets ugly. You either share your best with your person, or you don't. So, you should do what's best for yourself.. man or woman. You shouldn't ask to be taken care of by a woman.. But you shouldn't ever cohabitate with a woman either and you shouldn't sign marriage papers.. You get respect for owning your own house and a few cars.. I swear! Do you know how many broke women want to do whatever he can for a man like that. There is this blonde bartender who keeps asking me to let her by me a steak. Don't get married.. lol. This is very one-sided poor advice. You get sick, you think she's gonna stick around? Lmao.. Its fine. She can do what she wants. But so can he.. !st, you can get kids through adoption or in another country, without legal issues. 2nd, Hire a nanny for the kids, for minimum wage. That's if you want kids. Never let her live in the same home you live in. She's not YOUR woman, so don't call her that. She's a respectable person. So is he..
I love this woman..I have been listening to her for just a day or so and I have learned so much and I will be applying her info to my life.. but I must say..she is too funny...😅 #Subscribed
Sorry Chloe I didn’t know you had already made this video !! But yes this is my mother 1000% even my friends realize my mom treats me harder at 20 than my 40 year old brother who lives on a air mattress in his guest bedroom with $500 sneakers his girlfriend buys him
I am loving your content, so thank you! I am struggling with understanding how hypergamy plays out in the earlier dating stages. i.e. can we really expect men to pay for all dates, and if so do we communicate it somehow or just let it be assumed? Maybe from a more personal perspective, did your partner pay for everything you two did as a couple for the first month? Year? Thank you!
Hey sweetheart! The man pays for all dates 100%. Never give a man money ever & never offer to. Let him pay everything and if he ever offers u money be like “really? Wow thanks” and take it. Btw this mindset doesnt work with pookies and rayrays or dusty men. It only works with older men 40+ who find u attractive. Make sure u wear attractive classy clothes and makeup. Never be natural! Being natural is beautiful but when u wear makeup its a subliminal message to men that u take hours to take care of ur appearance and it turns them on. It makes them wanna pay for everything. Make sure the man is at least 20 years older than u for this to work. If a man ever asks to pay for a date run for the hills! Run away. Tell them “oh so we’re just friends?” And walk away. In the earlier stages, let the man approach u first and ask u out to eat first. When he asks where u want to go, name the most expensive place u can think of. Dinner dates only, no free coffee dates or park dates. If u have food allergies (like me) name an expensive vegan food restaurant. If he doesn’t take u there, run for the hills. Never ask a man to pay or for money in the beginning stages. When he asks u out to dinner, Say things like “oh so u want to treat me to dinner?”. That means he is paying if he says yes. Also, dinner dates should be no more than 1-2 days a week. Never call or text him first. Never seem too available. In between dates, when he calls u/ texts u, wait hours before texting back and tell him u were busy. The longer u make him wait for a response, the more he’s interested. Men are hunters and get turned off if ur too easy. Be hard to get. Play very hard tbh. But be nice and feminine and girly. Bat your eyelashes a lot during dates. Don’t hold his hand until like month 2. No kisses or hugs until month 2. No sex until he gets u a car, and house, and/or a ring. Period. Make him work for u. Hope this helps. Head over to sheraseven1 channel and finish watching chloe_ channel for all the advice u need. Hope this helps
I am 45 now, and have never paid for dates EVER (not as a teenager, not in my 20s, not married to my ex in my 30s, or beyond)... and not with my soon-to-be husband. It's an air that a woman carries about herself, I think. Because no man has ever even jestured/asked/expected that I *would* be paying. To be honest, I don't even know what that's like. It seems very odd and weird of a concept. Very foreign.
I think this depends on what you're dating for are you dating for knowledge and marriage or you're dating for fun. a real man if he takes you out on a date and you're looking to have a serious relationship you going to be able to talk to him about your expectations
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What these men don't understand, just on a shallow level, is that they want to work their women to the bone yet expect them to look high-maintenance and well-rested. Many men are not realistic.
Preach!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
@Hillard Liggins studies show women retain their wealth and health by staying single. It's the opposite for men.
And as a man, you should be embarrassed to expect a woman to bring something a man should bring to the table. By far, you are not a catch!
@Hillard Liggins we are, dumbass. I have two master's degrees, with no help from a man...the issue you don't understand is needing versus wanting. You're right, we don't need you. And the kind like you no woman wants. You sound unhappy with yourself!
@Hillard Liggins both genders need things from the other. That's why they both exist. Welcome to earth. Your issue is thinking the needs are the same. You don't know what a man is and you don't know what a woman is.
Miss J yup hate these kind of men
“They want to be City Boys in their 30s 40s 50s and 60s”
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And 70s 😅😂🤣😭😅😂🤣😭
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Omg this is way too funny
I didn’t have to laugh this loud 😂😂
So many that fit these exactly characteristics keep popping up in the comments. Your inner dustiness is showing!!
So basically these men want a woman’s body but a man to be in it 😆
Hopefulbond damn this hit me because it’s so true.
Basically...
Hopefulbond they should hook up with those transgenders then but those transgenders be acting like real feminine women with high standards though lol
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Hopefulbond they want the presence of a father they didnt have in their childhood in woman form I guess 🤷🏾♀️
Out of wedlock culture has tragic consequences.
3737raider it is an out of wedlock culture...
I agree
3737raider facts!
@@cynicalskeptic4517 I was born via marriage and planned so that's not always the case
Most definitely! Thank God that's not my heritage!
I can confirm what you are saying .. I’m a nurse and I’ve worked in nursing homes for years and what I’ve noticed is most of the men are left to die... it’s really sad when you see it. Some have no families whatsoever who come and visit them ..
This is especially common with black men....
They get overcome by depression and develop all sorts of illnesses....
Rebecca Philantrope
Wow
It makes sense
They were hyper sexual in their youth. Multi-baby mothers and countless children that they did not protect or provide for. So no one will go out of their way to visit papa the rolling stone in his nursing home.
@@SAMack-xd2fn they can't the state is paying for it lol nice try
That’s because those women family members didn’t have men provide for them. My son doesn’t see it yet either but he’s 13 and I’m telling him now he’s needs to be able to provide for his family.
Hey sweetheart! Is his daddy in his life too? I recently found out that another man has to teach the child to be a providing man otherwise they won’t get it. Hope this helps ☺️💜
Kristy Smith smart mother
Boys need to see their father do this in a marriage not you just talking.
Hent Bust no he’s not but he has other male role models in his life. I don’t agree necessarily that has to be heard from a man the information still has to be given over and over. He already gets because he’s working on being n entrepreneur. What people lack when they grow up should not be used as an excuse to be a loser it should be used as motivation. Since, he doesn’t see a father here he wants to be
there for his future family.
3737raider they don’t have to see it in a marriage that’s an excuse people use for the dysfunction. You can live a certain way and choose a different path.
My mom is a pick me I’m glad I’m learning this early!!
Lilith Of Saturn ur mom great
Mine is not yet she told us to give the dusty types a f’n chance. You couldn’t walk through my mothers door step without juice a full meal etc when she dated then she didn’t play. She’s getting old I guess. She’s been married twice we used to shop so much with my step dads money we’d hide the stuff in the closet. She always attracted providers. She worked but that was her own money. Now I ask for advice she don’t have ish to give. It’s disappointing.
@@gorgeousnavy5011 well maybe in her old years, she realized that something else was necessary
In the words of Ali Wong, “The word two income household makes me want to vomit “.🤮
I love her😂😂😂
As long as he knows my income is none of his business 😎
"He'd rather jump off a cliff and break EVERY bone in his body than provide." That's true they do exist.
OMG TRUEST WORDS EVER SPOKEN!
If you pay your bills and your mans bill you don't have a man..you have a son,and that's problematic and detrimental to any relationship and creates a spoiled and entitled man
And a Man are saying „I have a daughter” or a „I have a SugarBaby”, when in comes to pay for everything.
Period. Period. Period.
Modern women are already spoiled and entitled. Did you want to call the women out or do they have no accountability?🙄
As a single mom myself I cannot understand why these mothers raise their son’s to be whimpy men that their girlfriend is supposed to take care of. My son is 11 and I drill in his head about being getting a good paying job, taking care of his family and being a provider. Making good money. I also surround him with male family and roles models that are that way. For me as a single mom it is an opportunity to actually raise a good man not bring another man child into the world.
Thank you ! I’m teaching my son his natural role as well. He’s 3 lol 😆
@@shy-redhead awwww 3 how cute me too my son just turned 7
Same. My sun is 10. I tell him if he wants to continue his legacy it comes with cost. I also get with him when he's asking his sister for help. Though she's older I tell him to get that out of his head
I'm doing the same. If I can do ANYTHING to keep them from being a dusty like their Father, I will!!
I teach my daughter how to cook and to be respectful to the guy she dates. So that she won't be like her lazy mother.
Yes, the mothers and sisters sometimes are the ones to help to promote the deadbeat behavior because they want to come first, not the girlfriend/wife.
I have seen the mother wants to come first but he was so selfish nobody that no one came 1st except for him. So what did it Prosper the mother to bring up that type of selfish narcissistic man.
Yeeeeeees!!!!!
They do come first tho , wives are child bearers not loved ones .
@@vfree4579 he is a free man and you are a ogly femoid mad that a man loves himself and as she should
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A guy I went on a date with 2 weeks ago asked me if I noticed any common threads with the men I've been interacting with. One of my observations were men that want an independent submissive woman. .
We both chuckled.
Ricki McFarland I totally agree 😂
Mental Alchemist I’m sorry but if the woman is to view you as the head and respect you as the MAN of the house (meaning the main protector and provider), and be willing to submit to you, then as the man your job is to play that role and take care of the financial aspect of the relationship. What would make a woman feel inclined to submit if she’s carrying 50% of the financial burden IN ADDITION to her duties as a wife and mother? It doesn’t work like that which is why relationships are failing. You can’t have it both ways.
Mental Alchemist A man who can’t fully provide for a woman has no right to be the head of the household. If she has kids for him and is still helping him financially, it’s still not 50-50. A man who can’t fully provide for a woman isn’t good enough to be a husband.
@@justinaagyei-mensah6545 say that 💯 Really makes you wonder what such a man would be bringing to your life if you still have to pay half the bills while dealing with all the additional responsibility of a household, on top of keeping up with the social expectations of looking good.
Mental Alchemist listen to 7:56-8:30 this portion of her segment is literally about you. We don’t blame you, we just won’t respect you with the mindset you currently have.
My mother was wit a dusty man: my father. She fell for him because he looked good. My ex was a dusty. He didn’t have shit to offer me, but I got with him anyway because I thought he looked good. Never again will a date a dusty. I’m breaking the cycle forever.
😂😂😂😂the arrogance of y'all is AMAZING!!! Ya pops was a dusty huh? Don't that make you half dusty? Foh.
the ONE Drop from AmetsYah no but I’m sure you’re a dusty.
@@ladyhathor2499 if it makes you feel better to think I'm dusty, sho u right😏
When you said "MEN HIT THE WALL" 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 that's what I've been saying. They think they immortal or something..lol we all age.
To be fair they look better when they age.
Pot bellies, balding hair, teeth missing, wrinkly skin is not a good look
musima41 Which TH-camr? 👀
@@kaassaus4230 that’s a very personal opinion. But what’s true is as men age their hairline starts to recede, their belly starts to puff up, their bones starts to crack easily, back starts hunching. In reality there’s very few good looking older men. Hollywood men are exceptions not rules.
@@kaassaus4230 until the age of 45
Men today are much different from 50 years ago.
@Paul Hogue You are a bitter soul....get some help!
Men today don't have the social, political, and economic advantages men had 50 years ago so I don't know why you would expect the same outcome.
ken excuses excuses and more excuses smdh
@Paul Hogue u sound like one of those lost boys chloe was talking about
Why are u on a womens forum anyway?? Chloe explained to us why
I broke up an engagement years ago because he wanted fiffty
50/50= slavery
Me too! 🤣
Same. Been single and Celibate ever since
That just means you don't know how to pick
50/50? What a loser he should have asked for 100 . Cause he king
Ladies, NEVER deal with a man who proudly declares himself a "mamas boy" and she is chronically single. If I hear a man say that I always ask about the mom and if that's the case he ain't gonna hear from me again...I say nothing and run away
Yes!!!! I JUST learned
Man's first profile pic on dating app is arm and arm with his mom smiling straight at camera:
🚨RED FLAG RED FLAG🚨
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EVEN FLORIDA WAS A STAY AT HOME MOM IN THE PROJECTS !!!
Joycelynn Morgan yesssssss
Wow, you hit the nail on the head sis....they will die alone, sick and bitter. I'm in the medical profession and man let me tell you, when you see these men with an aide instead of family and people who love and care for them it's a sad sight indeed.
It took me to be left alone Mother’s Day weekend while my bd went out of town and didn’t answer his phone. I was so confused on how i got in that situation. I took responsibility for my own actions, and forgave myself and the men i ALLOWED to treat me like trash. I leveled up mentally and my daughter has seen nothing but luxery lifetstyle by quality men. And even asked me why she never SEEN me have a boyfriend,(been on plenty of dates) she’s 5 and i couldn’t be more happier
My ex called me a gold digger. I told him if I am a gold digger I picked the wrong mark. This 56 year old MAN had nothing. Couldn’t even pay for the date most of the time. My lesson is learned. Never will I do that again.
Can Men Flourish if they don't Provide and Protect? #Leggo
I don't believe so because later down the line they will feel incomplete.
I ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 YOUR Channel #Chole_ Thanks a Million%
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Chloe_ pls look at the TH-cam channel “cooking with strongmommy chrissie”. At her video “my marriage is over”. This is a perfect example and would luv ur opinion
No they cannot.
The bible tells us that Timothy I 5:8 a man who does not provide their family is worse than a non believer. Trust me because I see it all the time, they don't pay now but they certainly pay later. I work in public health and the number one regret that these men tell me about is they wish they would not have chose drugs/alcohol, chasing women, chasing the streets over the women in their lives and families. Trust me they pay. Think about it...why do you think bm have all this bad luck and things are always happening to them...its because their spirit is not right.
@Jamilla Dobson *Tears*
Wow...Chloe, you have blown up in these streets of TH-cam and I am not surprised because you’re dope....!
Thank you for this wonderful commentary!
New Subbie! Please keep waking up the people! I was screaming yes! During the whole video! I am a stay at home mom. I agree with EVERYTHING you said. When I first got married my husband told me he pays all of the bills. I can work if I want to, but that money doesn’t go into the budget. His mom had a problem with that. Luckily, she got over it.
thegirlof1983 we need more men like your husband.
See, this is what confuses me. I have dated men who wanted to have a traditional relationship with traditional male-female dynamics. But then....I hear, I don't want to always pay for our dates, it's unfair. But I thought in a traditional relationship, the guy picks up the bills? You established that you want a traditional relationship from the beginning and now, you feel like you're spending too much money for our $5 Tuesday nights, and our Dennys and Chili's Saturday afternoons, and you want me to start picking up the tab sometimes. So what is it. Do you want this to be a a 50/50 relationship, which is cool, or do you want us to be Ricky and Lucy? Which is it? Like, this stuff genuinely got me confused.
Traditional relationships is a marriage not dates. If they are not talking marriage they are just talking.
@@3737raider Well....you just don't say Hi to someone and then get married. We were in a committed relationship. He wanted to chart our course towards the aisle. He even had a specific time frame he wanted to do it in. I didn't, because I don't believe in marriage, but that was his end goal. He wanted to be married. I just found it confusing how he wanted all of this Tradition, but at the same time, pitching a row over spending $50 one night a week. I thought that was what he wanted.
You’re beautiful, why are are you going to ghetto ass Denny’s for a date? Please discover SheRaSeven1 channel
@@candylove49 LOL-true! The pancakes are bomb though!
Indiegirl007 was he really single.
Serena Williams said in a interview "black men needs and wants to feel like they are the woman in the relationship" I think the reason for this is: Black women after slaveru had to work as nanny for white folks leaving their kids alone at home thus lots of black men have an avoidante emotional attachment style where as adults they punish women by ghosting/ignoring becoming emotionally cold (unconsciously punishing his mother) because they did not had the emotional nurturing every child needs to form healthier secure emotional attachments as adults.
So true
Chloé,
I love your no BS policy and have much admiration for saying it like it is. I used to be one of those women to settle for a fifty fiftier was made to believe that’s how “normal” is. The saddest part is too many females fall for this bs specially in their younger years. At 32 single mother with a child i decided to shift my focus into a prosperous direction. Remember money matters, money buys comfort and piece of mind. It’s time we women of colour see ourselves in much higher regards, it’s time to break the cycle.
Girl you done did the damn thing on this video, you did not hold back! So many BM really do expect to have it bot ways and BW need to stop coddling TF outta their sons. Break the damn cycle!
Went on a date with this very handsome Indian guy who’s ex was a whites woman. The entire date he kept asking me about law school, when I’ll be done and basically what I was bring to the table. Then this man proceeded to tell me his white ex wife die nothing, brought nothing to the table then proceeded to tell me he built her a house from the ground up. Unbelievable. We as Black women have to bring everything to the table not as soon as they meet a yt woman she can chill and be provided for
I am an indian n here men r shamed for not being providers if this indian man is asking you to go 50/50 u dont need him sis bcz he is d for sure d biggest dusty
What do you say about men who use being a provider/breadwinner to control, belittle, and abuse women?
@@cynicalskeptic4517
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Nadahh A. Sis, I believe that’s a separate issue. If the man is abusive, the woman’s safety and removing herself from that situation should be the priority. The fact that he is providing is neither here nor there when abuse is present.
@@jeanettec.espinoza8355
Thanks dear.
Insecure men do this. Truly masculine men comfortable in their position don’t use money to bait and control their female counterpart. This also happens to women who don’t bring anything to the relationship so resentment occurs.
I'd say, "NEEEEXT!" because there are plenty of men who TRULY have the means to provide and accept their role with pride, instead of contempt, control, and insecurity. The men who act like that truly don't have it to give. So, they are resenting and punishing you ("making you pay") to make up for them giving something they really don't have. Also, certain women are honestly responsible for how men treat them in these situations (not saying that's you in any way). They give off an air of being "too grateful", indebted, and doormat-ty. l have a way of letting men know up front that I will not let them mistreat me very easily, I will stand up for myself and leave if I sense ANY f**ckery of any kind, because I can easily be taken care of by someone nicer without mental problems...and I'll pull out the proof of it as a last resort.
Excellent video as usual. I forward these to my daughter whose ex is a dusty-which is the father of my wonderful grandson and he sadly believes he doesn’t need to provide financially for his son. She supported him financially for a LONG TIME. She finally give him the boot. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Black women particularly compete with their daughters for their daughter’s partners, and friends.
ew NEVER
Those who didn't maximize their youth.
Those who didn't use their time well.
Those who worked like mules to please and are old in pain envying their daughters.
Those who sacrificed their dreams for fuckboys,bore kids for the dusty remained dusty for the kids.
Ash Wa Jeshi You are so right. And in a twisted way they live vicariously through their daughters, wishing that they were them, and this because the root of toxic, and controlling (helicopter parenting) behavior.
The mothers become narcissistic as well.
I really wish more men could here this.
“They want to be City Boyz” 🤣🤣🤣 sis I’m hollering
😂😂😂😂😂😂
This is one of the few women that I hear telling us how it is for both men and women who don't have themselves together. If both men and women can accept some of the hard truths that we are hearing, we can have a better society. Masculine energy for men and feminine energy for women.
OMG!!! I dealt with that in my last relationship. His mom and sister felt he should spend all of his money on them. He always tried giving me the crumbs and said he needed to take care of the "family" I thought I was alone, but now I know I'm not.
Whew That part about sisters & moms. My last EX took me to meet 1 of his 5 sisters once. She had just had a baby and bought a new house with her husband. Anyway she was talking about how a (female) friend of theirs was so disgusting and selfish for also just buying a new house with her husband after ALSO just having a baby but NOT contributing financially (like she was) to the home and not helping out the husband, smh. I was so disgusted at how she was even comfortable saying that. I just KNEW that wasn’t what I wanted to get myself into. Moms and sisters who are masculine pick mes’ will be the downfall of the brothers and sons sometimes!
I appreciate this 100% and wish more women knew their worth.
I love your channel I only wish I knew this in my 20s , I’m saving everyone one of your videos so I can teach my daughter. Well done 💕
We were very young, but the first BM I had a real relationship with said that stay at home mothers were gold diggers! Lol. I did love him…but when we broke up, I moved to an apartment….he moved home to his mother’s house. Lol…he have a good heart, but he was a boy. No understanding of what I learned from my mother and father. My dad was a provider…bought my mother the home she wanted, cars, boat, we vacationed several times a year….cabins at Christmas, etc. They set the bar very high for me, and now I am married to a provider who is the best lover I’ve ever had, my best friend, my teacher, and my hope for humanity. If half the world was as good a man as he is, this world would be a much better place. I wish I could stress enough to women how important it is to marry a provider. But he is also not American, he is British. My mother is not American, she is Jamaican. We have different expectations and standards than Americans, especially the men, who are supposed to be the leaders of a family unit. But they continue to argue that marriage is a scan…50/50 this and that…and it makes me sad to see my girlfriends struggling with these dusties. These women need to get passports and never look back! I speak the truth, here!
Thank you..I'm really changing my thinking.
I've been there. Tried holding a 50 year old man down. He was a so called manager in training at McDonald's when I met him. I don't know if he was fired or quit. Every job every after that, he quit. He would come up with the lamest excuses. "You won't braid my hair". 1st of all...a 50 year old man should not b trying to still wear braids.. ESPECIALLY when he's starting to go bald at the top of his head. I told him, I shouldn't have to worry about his hair. He should've been making sure MINE stayed done!. I put up with it for a while, but I got away from that bum!
I'm binge watching all your videos and I appreciate all this information. I feel like I have found my community. No one around me has this mindset and want to "build with a man"
That part Chloe said about bum men being found rotting in the basement alone is true.
My former coworker whose deadbeat son's father passed away from Covid in 2021 in his apartment alone. No one knew until maintenance came 1 week later and his son found him. That man had put her through hell in her younger years. She is now married to a Provider husband though for 20 years. But this just proves true that the bum men that have the 50/50 mindset or reject their responsibility of providing & protecting for their offsprings really do end up having bad luck!!
I have 3 sons, 18, 10 and 8. My 18 year old has been working since he was 12 in my husband's lawn care business, volunteered at the community library, and found his own job at 17 working in a grocery store, his school also has a work study program where he learned how to work in a bank office and do technical support at a hospital. My oldest also has a 1st degree black belt in martial arts and is on his way to college on an almost full academic scholarship and wants to major in computer engineering. And my youngest sons stay on honor roll and have their blue belts in martial arts and help their dad in the summer time with his lawn care business. All children must be cultivated by being kept busy learning productive skills and boys need to be around men to show them how to be masculine.Men need to be strong defenders, they need to know the pride and joy of having your own money and budgeting it for yourself and your family. They need wisdom,respect for all women, good manners, self love and a God centered morality. The parents now are going to need to raise the future generation and teach the current generation how to be men for our righteous daughters, feminine righteous women, and our nations suvival.
Chloe you are soooo on point. Young women, middle aged women, and older women will learn something listening to this video. Your work is very much appreciated, thank you ❤
I admit that I WAS a dust bunny mule. Now single and happy at 48 andddd financially stable and all the things and behaviors from the past have been disected and no longer practiced. If a man were to be invited in (they are like vampires so I am cautious ⚠️ af) he will have no choice but to be a GOOD thing in my life.
That T-shirt tho 🤪🤪🤪 #BlackWokeBrokeButStillDope 😒😒😒 is Wild & completely true about most of the mentality these days.... smh
I learnt the hard way thank you for the message.
yes ! thankyou chloe, why aren't more women talking about this?
REAL TALK Sis!! 💯💯 Such truth and all I can say is Thank You!!!!!! Please stay on YOUR purpose Lady!❤️
the And I- oop! had me screaming!
I so appreciate you...continue to bring awesome content..
I keep thinking about the couple Will and Jasmine on the show Married at First Sight. Jasmine wanted a provider, and Will wanted 50/50. Needless to say, their relationship didn't work out.
I was in a long distance relationship with a 52 years old Guy who is living with his daddy to save money... A stingy and 50/50 Guy , I was so blinded
I came across your channel yesterday and I was subscribed within minutes...I absolutely love your inputs on the hypergamy topic. I’ve been tuned in all day at work...keep it up lady. ❤️ 💜
What about the men who have the “bag” and are financially stable but still refuse to fully provide or they don’t know protect or lead?
You’re always dead on with your messages ❤️❤️
Girl where u come from where u been at my whole life why am I just now finding you ?????
Edit: about the thing about men’s sisters and mothers feeling entitled to his money , my child’s father mother has always harbored hatred for me because of the way her son has always provided for me and his daughter no matter what🤦🏾♀️ I feel as though it’s toxic and unhealthy to feel like this toward your own child
My mother in law is that way too, its because she needs HIS security because she spent her life being a PICK ME and is now approaching 60 and STILL in low- income housing.
Perfect example of this is youtuber “Cooking with Strongmommy chrissie”- her video My marriage is over is a perfect example of this- she has 9 kids with 7 baby daddies . Sad just sad🤦🏾♀️
CRYSTAL yes i wasthe one who asked her on her cooking channel didnt she see the red flags,
Kufre Akpan nope, ALL 9 came from HER. I think he has 5 kids
Hardhhh
Crystal Baker im sorry to judge but that is her fault for allowing herself to get pregnant 7 times. That is just insane. I dont care what anyone says that woman is not mentally well. The executive functioning is off.
THEwhimsical1
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I don't do no 50/50! If he can't run it, I will shut it down, and do me!
Thank you for your video! First hand experience, young African in his 30s wants everything !! MONEY , IPADS , LAPTOPS , IN ALL I SPENT OVER €2.000 On this guy! I was in love with him ! He took advantage!
I really wish I had learned all this much earlier in life 😩🤦🏾♀️ Thank you for posting 💞
It would be helpful to have more real life examples of the kind of men we need to have as our spec and why they’re good for hypergamous women please
They wanna know what that mouth do😭😂🤣😂🤣
I absolutely love your energy! Thank you for uplifting black women & making your videos fun at the same time 🙌🏿🤗💜
I never heard so much facts in one video 😩🙌🏽
Yup! I had a weak man tell me that he doesn't take females out to seafood restaurants because his sister and female cousin told him he spends too much money on dates. Wow. Then he proceeded to tell me about his 2 kids by 2 babymothers and how 1 of them just want the child support even when their kid lived with him. Smdh. But of course he still wanted to see me.
My natural father was a misogynistic dusty and I had zero respect for him. My mother left him so he found the next lady to be a workhorse. I was engaged to a dusty man myself and left him because his mother saw him as her surrogate boyfriend. I was so good to her but all she tried to do was to compete for his attention. After I left him, she introduced him to a new woman and apparently quite a downgrade. Those dusties do that once we realize they’re getting over on us and we’re smart enough to leave.
Can you please make a video about how to act with your little brother (do's and don'ts) or how to raise a child to be a masculine man. I am so grateful to discover your channel, thank you for the precious advice.
You are 100% correct my dear.
I wish that I had this wisdom growing up!
I just don't date anymore, and I'm much happier this way.
I love your videos. You cover a lot of the word games and titles that are used by men to attempt to manipulate a women’s mind and behavior. It’s a psychological land mine of boxes women are suppose to fit in. It’s a joke. I’m glad I’ve learned to not be the people pleaser, clean up woman, doormat and Barbara the Builder I use to be. Lol! Wasted time...
I don't know any mother who wants to pay everything...including me....what I say is that men just want to take advantage of women, I don't respect any man who don't provide, let them stay w their mothers
Wait a second, women pay for their man's bills and expenses? Nah that's crazzzyyyy.
Hi Chloe, I’m a new subbie and I love your content. I would love to see videos on plastic surgery/injectibles/fillers (as far as improving/maintaining appearance if hypergamy is a woman’s goal) and also Black women dating outside of their race in the journey to hypergamy. Thanks! ❤️
Danise Phaedra Botox is the truth!! I’m 35 and I’ve got my 25 year old face back baby!! No surgery just botox!
j W I agree. I just recently got it myself for my 45th bday. I look and feel refreshed! I also got fillers in my smile lines and under my eyes which i’ll continue to do.
And then some men go ahead and prove your point in the comments 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Chloe, thk you for this channel it is helping me have a greater understanding of myself and role.I am your target market. Blessings from Trinidad.
I so wish i had your videos in ny life in my twenties...or before i had children. I find it so interesting that men get so mad when woman have standards especially when she doesn't believe in the 50/50. And its always the dustiest men that want the most from women.
Adults should be able to take care of themselves, and if in a relationship, protect each other. If men or women don't like what they are getting in a relationship, move on. We are responsible for picking the partners we choose.
Question if you have a 50/50 man, is there no hope, can we as the hypergamist woman help him? Or is he just DOOMED to die alone????
Help Him Do What? It is not your Job to teach a Man how to be a provider.
Leave him to play in his suicide spot
I have to agree.
There is no way he is changing.
Not on your call at least.
Unless if and only if he decides he wants to.
Lord!!..those sisters and mother-in-laws...smh..I love way you make this mess make sense...while youre talking, its like I'm seeing my life flash before my eyes...wow.
And the same ones that think it goes both ways,be the same ones that don't appreciate women that do so. Name me one man that did and say this and treated their woman like a queen . I'll wait ( side eye ).
Exactly! 💯
When I was younger, I protected women and my girlfriend moved in to escape her abusive parents. But she did learn from her grandparents about finances and I wasn't the best at budgeting then. I just worked hard! Now, She didn't like the idea of sharing her knowledge with me. So if you don't share your safety with me, don't tell me to share my safety with you. I will let you know what my role is and you can let me know.. If we disrespect each other, that just gets ugly. You either share your best with your person, or you don't. So, you should do what's best for yourself.. man or woman. You shouldn't ask to be taken care of by a woman.. But you shouldn't ever cohabitate with a woman either and you shouldn't sign marriage papers.. You get respect for owning your own house and a few cars.. I swear! Do you know how many broke women want to do whatever he can for a man like that. There is this blonde bartender who keeps asking me to let her by me a steak. Don't get married.. lol. This is very one-sided poor advice. You get sick, you think she's gonna stick around? Lmao.. Its fine. She can do what she wants. But so can he.. !st, you can get kids through adoption or in another country, without legal issues. 2nd, Hire a nanny for the kids, for minimum wage. That's if you want kids. Never let her live in the same home you live in. She's not YOUR woman, so don't call her that. She's a respectable person. So is he..
Yes Sis!!! You beat THIS topic down!!! Can't be any confusion left!!
I love this woman..I have been listening to her for just a day or so and I have learned so much and I will be applying her info to my life.. but I must say..she is too funny...😅
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"Territorial pushback" you are spot on.
I can't thank you enough for this work of Art Just A Blessing to My Upgrade 💞💕
how would a sister who is starting to see "dusty" qualities in her brother then get him to step away from that weak and not masculine mentality?
My lady, I’m blown away - dead and stinking in a basement 2 weeks after he died, woooo. Great tips.
Sorry Chloe I didn’t know you had already made this video !! But yes this is my mother 1000% even my friends realize my mom treats me harder at 20 than my 40 year old brother who lives on a air mattress in his guest bedroom with $500 sneakers his girlfriend buys him
Run far away from those people. Family are not supposed to treat you like you are worthless.
Provide, Protect, and Preside.
New subscriber from London. Your content is on fire x
I am loving your content, so thank you! I am struggling with understanding how hypergamy plays out in the earlier dating stages. i.e. can we really expect men to pay for all dates, and if so do we communicate it somehow or just let it be assumed? Maybe from a more personal perspective, did your partner pay for everything you two did as a couple for the first month? Year? Thank you!
Hey sweetheart! The man pays for all dates 100%. Never give a man money ever & never offer to. Let him pay everything and if he ever offers u money be like “really? Wow thanks” and take it. Btw this mindset doesnt work with pookies and rayrays or dusty men. It only works with older men 40+ who find u attractive. Make sure u wear attractive classy clothes and makeup. Never be natural! Being natural is beautiful but when u wear makeup its a subliminal message to men that u take hours to take care of ur appearance and it turns them on. It makes them wanna pay for everything. Make sure the man is at least 20 years older than u for this to work. If a man ever asks to pay for a date run for the hills! Run away. Tell them “oh so we’re just friends?” And walk away.
In the earlier stages, let the man approach u first and ask u out to eat first. When he asks where u want to go, name the most expensive place u can think of. Dinner dates only, no free coffee dates or park dates. If u have food allergies (like me) name an expensive vegan food restaurant. If he doesn’t take u there, run for the hills. Never ask a man to pay or for money in the beginning stages. When he asks u out to dinner, Say things like “oh so u want to treat me to dinner?”. That means he is paying if he says yes. Also, dinner dates should be no more than 1-2 days a week. Never call or text him first. Never seem too available. In between dates, when he calls u/ texts u, wait hours before texting back and tell him u were busy. The longer u make him wait for a response, the more he’s interested. Men are hunters and get turned off if ur too easy. Be hard to get. Play very hard tbh. But be nice and feminine and girly. Bat your eyelashes a lot during dates. Don’t hold his hand until like month 2. No kisses or hugs until month 2. No sex until he gets u a car, and house, and/or a ring. Period. Make him work for u.
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I am 45 now, and have never paid for dates EVER (not as a teenager, not in my 20s, not married to my ex in my 30s, or beyond)... and not with my soon-to-be husband. It's an air that a woman carries about herself, I think. Because no man has ever even jestured/asked/expected that I *would* be paying. To be honest, I don't even know what that's like. It seems very odd and weird of a concept. Very foreign.
If he invites you out, he pays. Men know this. No need for you to worry.
I think this depends on what you're dating for are you dating for knowledge and marriage or you're dating for fun. a real man if he takes you out on a date and you're looking to have a serious relationship you going to be able to talk to him about your expectations
Date men who are older! They are usually financially stable and established in their careers therefore they have no problems paying for dates
Alot of these types of fem dusties are on the DL RUNNNN
Im loving this.😉💕
Do you have a book? If not you need to write one sis
😂😂😂Chloe you are right on point