i don’t think i’m coming out to my family for a few more years, not because i can’t legally have hrt, but because my grandpa has no filter and will probably be very judgemental about it, even around my younger cousins. unfortunately for him, he has type 2 diabetes and way too much dr pepper.
As soon as you're an adult, you're master of your own life. You have to do what is best for you, and if others disagree, that is their issue to deal with. Better that than growing older with too many regrets.
my parents have always been slightly homophobic and transphobic and whatnot never openly, but you could tell they were, and ofcourse upon finding out I was trans... yeah well, couldn't do much with that When I turned 18, I have told them and they just said "well... you're too late now, you're already 18, you're a grown man now, you can't become a woman" well, no wonder I couldn't tell them, they once threw an ENTIRE TANTRUM when just SUSPECTING my sister was gay (this was a month before she got a BF)
I can't imagine being so uncaring of a parent that I would insist that my child *wait* to start transitioning. My family has been incredibly supportive, but I also only cracked my egg at 31. Still worth it, but I wish I had started as a teenager.
I mean the parents aren't entirely wrong, that's first off a really big thing that you can't really come back from. And secondly because you might change your mind since anyone under 18 normally make highly irresponsible decisions or at least bad ones at best. So best wait a good long while and think about the pros and cons before actually doing that. Sides it's highly frowned upon due to the kind of people that actually do that are normally jerks or are highly entitled. (Just my two cents, nothing more nothing less.)
you can't really "come back" from puberty either. Parents who let their kids transition usually do it because their kids nearly fucking killed themselves from gender dysphoria. it's really hard to convince even the good ones.
Bruh, when you’ve identified as trans for years 99% of the time you are trans, transitioning as early as possible, especially socially and with puberty blockers, is risk-free, constant literally nothing. Heck, we allow 12 year olds to decide to undergo cis-puberty, but when it’s trans puberty you suddenly take issue?!? Holding off transition at this point is literally without benefit with several risks. Plus the ending just demonstrates that “you’re too young!” was just a cheap excuse to mask transphobia, it nearly always is.
you can 100% come back from it if you find out it's not for you, unless you do surgery right out of the gate which most would agree you probably shouldn't; even hrt is extremely easy to reverse during the first year or so and still possible to reverse after
@randoman8654 transitioning doesn't just happen overnight, its a long process that spans over years, and when taking hormones no visible or permanent effects are gonna happen until at least several months into the process, not to mention it takes a while just to get hrt. So people have plenty of time to turn back if they want before anything even changed in their body
The greatest thing about being an adult is that nobody is in charge of your life anymore, it's literally all up to you how you want to live.😊
And the worst thing about being an adult is that no ones in charge of your life, its all up to you
*irs raises finger* erm actually . . . .
Still werid
i don’t think i’m coming out to my family for a few more years, not because i can’t legally have hrt, but because my grandpa has no filter and will probably be very judgemental about it, even around my younger cousins. unfortunately for him, he has type 2 diabetes and way too much dr pepper.
Respect, I had been debating and postponing untill like 32. 😅
Sadly my parents *are* gone and they weren't even as crummy and selfish as these ones!
They may not be dead...but they might as well be in the eyes of their child.
As soon as you're an adult, you're master of your own life. You have to do what is best for you, and if others disagree, that is their issue to deal with. Better that than growing older with too many regrets.
my parents have always been slightly homophobic and transphobic and whatnot
never openly, but you could tell they were, and ofcourse upon finding out I was trans... yeah well, couldn't do much with that
When I turned 18, I have told them and they just said
"well... you're too late now, you're already 18, you're a grown man now, you can't become a woman"
well, no wonder I couldn't tell them, they once threw an ENTIRE TANTRUM when just SUSPECTING my sister was gay
(this was a month before she got a BF)
I can't imagine being so uncaring of a parent that I would insist that my child *wait* to start transitioning.
My family has been incredibly supportive, but I also only cracked my egg at 31. Still worth it, but I wish I had started as a teenager.
I'd disown them
@Pbcvl kay!! :3
That can be arranged
you CAN choose your family no matter what they say, dear fellow ppl who have bad family
Well, I didn't realize I was trans until I was about 18, so.
Glad my parents aren't like that
Not to sound mean or anything but why does the voice sound so devoid of any emotions at all?
I mean the parents aren't entirely wrong, that's first off a really big thing that you can't really come back from. And secondly because you might change your mind since anyone under 18 normally make highly irresponsible decisions or at least bad ones at best. So best wait a good long while and think about the pros and cons before actually doing that. Sides it's highly frowned upon due to the kind of people that actually do that are normally jerks or are highly entitled. (Just my two cents, nothing more nothing less.)
you can't really "come back" from puberty either.
Parents who let their kids transition usually do it because their kids nearly fucking killed themselves from gender dysphoria. it's really hard to convince even the good ones.
Bruh, when you’ve identified as trans for years 99% of the time you are trans, transitioning as early as possible, especially socially and with puberty blockers, is risk-free, constant literally nothing. Heck, we allow 12 year olds to decide to undergo cis-puberty, but when it’s trans puberty you suddenly take issue?!? Holding off transition at this point is literally without benefit with several risks. Plus the ending just demonstrates that “you’re too young!” was just a cheap excuse to mask transphobia, it nearly always is.
But the longer you wait to transition the less effective it is.
you can 100% come back from it if you find out it's not for you, unless you do surgery right out of the gate which most would agree you probably shouldn't; even hrt is extremely easy to reverse during the first year or so and still possible to reverse after
@randoman8654 transitioning doesn't just happen overnight, its a long process that spans over years, and when taking hormones no visible or permanent effects are gonna happen until at least several months into the process, not to mention it takes a while just to get hrt. So people have plenty of time to turn back if they want before anything even changed in their body