As a health care worker, I can attest to the decline of care. The nursing assistants are supposed to help with taking care of the personal needs. I’m glad you were able to help her
Unfortunately in most states nursing assistants get paid very little -- you get paid more work in fast food for example. They're also chronically understaffed. When you have to shower, feed, change diapers, etc. and more for 30 people in an 8 hour shift you don't have time to do their hair. It's really sad and I wish that we as a society treated certified nursing assistants better so they could offer much needed care
In the eighties, my mom was a home healthcare nurse. I feel like I watched public funding for that type of care just get absolutely gutted over the years My mom now works at an insurance company, helping to choose who does and doesn't receive care 🙃 Like what even is our healthcare system. As kids, we used to be able to go visit the older folks on hospice and cheer them up and sing songs for them, etc. Now my nurse mom literally works to *deny* care to people. Like what even is the world.
She needs to pull her chart through her patient portal for her records and then contact an experienced malpractice attorney like Morgan & Morgan. Everyone needs to know their rights to contact the Patient Advocate or equivalent at the hospital they're admitted to! You do not need to "put up with" substandard care or neglect just because you feel like the unit is shorthanded. The lack of hygiene cannot be excused! They have huge hand towel sized disposable wash cloths for this purpose. (I would bet money there were fresh, unopened packets of them in a drawer in her hospital room.) And a nurse or aide worth their certificates would at least know how to tidy her with a basin of soapy water and a wash cloth. And not changing bed pads, diapers, or walking folks to the toilet on time can cause serious infections or impactions in the colon for patients with limited mobility and causing a need for surgical intervention. That's part of basic care with disabled patients. It also sounds like she wasn't moved out of bed and to recliners regularly or at all to keep her muscle tone and encourage her nervous system to build new neural pathways. I'm so sorry she went through all of this and can receive justice for that malpractice.
I CANNOT imagine going through something like that and losing all mobility! The way she talks about it shows how mentally strong she is ~ I truly wish the best for her, and I can't imagine being so neglected on top of it.
Following you reminded me to pack my brush and comb when I was going to the ER, knowing I would be admitted. I had to brush my own hair, no one helped me bathe, and brushing my teeth was completely disregarded. One night I had a meltdown because I wanted to go home, the roommate kept the tv on the entire time, the light on all night and I just lost it. Then a nurse stood at the end of my bed and talked with me. She had such haunted eyes, she was so young and broken. It was during/right after the worse of the pandemic. The health care crisis is horrid, the workers are so stressed. Thank you and your client for sharing this with us.
I am a careGiver for the past 41 years & they were suppose to clean this lady on a daily basis but the lazy no good heartless staff chose to neglect her & that's wrong. GOD bless U.
I fell down a flight of stairs. Broke my neck in 3 places, both wrists, 3 ribs and my hip. My hair got incredibly matted while in the hospital! It was terrible!
I had a blood infection which caused paralysis from the chest down. I was in hospital for 3 months. I couldn't wash my very long hair for weeks after I had 2 surgeries for 2 abscesses on my spinal cord right at the base of my neck. By the time I could it was tangled very badly. Thankfully my spouse was able to get it untangled. I had a Miami neck brace on almost the entire time I was there which rubs the base of the head and hair So my spouse had to learn how to braid my hair so it wouldn't become matted there. If I didn't have him it would have been much worse.
When my mom was in the hospital for her emergency liver transplant they didn’t take care of her hair. My dad tried combing it out for her but she said it was painful so he ended up cutting it down to a small Afro. I was so upset lol like y’all have 4 daughters who could’ve came up there to comb her hair.
I live in Germany and even there you don't get taken care of properly in the hospital. When my disabled brother had to go to the hospital for several weeks, we moved in with him, because they wouldn't even feed him. It scares me to know, that he is not taken care of, if something happens to me and my mother. My anxiety has gotten better, but at one point it was so bad, that I didn't want to drive in the same care than my mother, in case of a lethal accident.
I remember when my dad was in the ICU for 2 week and sadly he passed away a month later. The reason for bringing it up was his hair and overall hygiene care. He was only 55 and I was 32 working full time with little one at home. Although he had the best nursing and physician staff at the heart hosp. He was on a ventilator and couldn’t move, but expect the CNA would help but barely had time to come turn him and found myself coming his shoulder length, very fine and spare hair. I was able to get it combed and braided. The worst was washing his dentures, keep in mind he had MRSA in his sputum meaning it was even airborn through droplets. Like sneezing ir coughing. It was just so sad.. they made no effort to help, no sure if they could? Your hair looks great too!
If I had been a CNA and she was my patient. I would have done her hair, brushed her teeth and gave her a bath!! She is a strong woman!! 💪 ❤ I'm so glad you could help her! I wanted to jump through the screen and hug her!!
This poor woman, you can tell she's been through hell and back, but she's pushing through. I didn't do my hair for just 3 months (i have long curly hair), and it took my carer and husband 3 hours (one either side) to dentangle and dematt my hair. I cried throughout the whole thing from pain and just emotion and shame. I was depressed so badly and my pain levels were so high i didn't have the strength to even touch my hair. I myself am in a wheelchair due to Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, which causes dislocations, pain, spasms, passing out, etc. I went from wearing heeled boots and beginning my own wedding photography business to now, bed and wheelchair bound. I am so thankful that before i got severe, i managed to marry my husband and walk down the aisle. Depression, accidents, and illness can happen anytime to anyone, and that's why I hate when people judge. You've done so well with her hair, and the transformation is just amazing. Keep up the amazing work. I just subbed!
🦓 I was in hospital for eight weeks last year, and only got my hair washed twice. It all fell out in the few months after I got home, but now it’s growing back in. PS do you have MCAS and POTS, too?
She is right, when one’s life is at stake, hair is the last thing to worry about, but if any of your family members or friends is in such situation, and you can take care of them while they can’t do it themselves, please go ahead and offer your help. Sometimes even the smallest things (i.e. contact salon to arrange an appointment) can be too much to handle, and your help could make a difference.
Working in ICUs, can I tell you how fast patients hair can get tangled and matted? So often it happens in a matter or a day or two and suddenly, when we can finally pay closer attention to things like hair.. it’s already almost a lost cause. Especially after car accidents where debris and blood dries in it. I work at night where we may have a little more time for the “small” details and have spent several hours trying to save hair. Btw, use hydrogen peroxide for blood removal :)
I can sympathise whole heartedly with this lady, I have Multiple Sclerosis which is another auto immune illness with a similar conditions. My condition has made it to where I can't stand or walk at all, and I've lost a good deal of core muscle strength so I find myself falling forward when I've overly tired. Sometimes I can go a week or two between hair brushes, but I'm fortunate to have not been subject to great deals of matting, Even when you love your hair sometimes everything falls by the wayside when you don't feel so well.
Her wife staying by her side and helping her is beautiful. I stayed in the hospital for 2.5 months getting major surgeries and fighting for my life. My curly, thick hair was waist length. Would have been a total matted mess if I didn’t have my mother there to braid and wash it. If disabled people don’t have family to care for them, this is what happens. Hospitals don’t provide complete care that a person needs. Even months after surgery my mom was still helping me comb my hair. I’m independent now, but if you have someone who’s ill in your life, think about ways you could help them. How would you want to be cared for if you couldn’t take care of yourself?
This happened to me in the hospital. I was in ICU for a couple weeks and my hair got really matted. When I was finally alert for a few days I had to literally use a plastic fork to pick my hair. It took days to pick it out. The nurses offered me a comb, but the combs are so cheap they would just bend...I still give thanks to my fork today😁
This is really emotional for me. I've spent a lot of time in and out of hospitals due to chronic and auto-immune conditions, with waist-length hair, and if I'd had to cut my hair it would've been absolutely world shattering for me. I've been lucky (I guess) enough that most of my issues are simply incredible amounts of pain, so I will put my hair in dutch braids often before we even go to the hospital. I then just have dry shampoo, and I'll undo my hair and redo it daily, brushing it inbetween, because my hair is my crowning glory. It is a huge part of my sense of self. However, I'm now sitting here considering teaching either my wife or my best local friend to braid, because if I wasn't able to do that - my wife hates touching anyone else's hair, the bestie can't braid - then I don't know what would happen with my hair. I'm so glad you did this for this lady, and that you understand just how important hair is. Because so many people really don't get it.
I can totally understand the frustration of not being able to do anything for myself. Thankfully my mama had always been there for me and braided my hair when I’m in the hospital so it didn’t get matted. It meant so much to have help to feel just human. To bathe me and help me keep some sense of dignity. Sending love and blessings for y’all and her.
Unfortunately, all hospitals are sooo understaffed, underfunded and overworked. It’s sad what she went through, I do therapeutic recreation and have done hair, nails, facials for patients based on care plans. Basic human needs should not be overlooked plus anything you do for a patient must be documented! Best of luck to her.
I came close to this in one week of having sepsis. I was able to shower near the end of the week but brushing out my hair after was very hard and exhausting. I had to get my adult kids to bring me detangling supplies just to get through. It took me hours simply because I was exhausted and I have curly hair that will lock easily. When they said I needed to have a big surgery a few months later I got my hair cut much shorter so I would be able to care for it easier….because you can plan ahead for surgery but not a serious spontaneous health crisis!
Love love watching your videos. I helped my auntie with her matted hair after chemo and her not having rhe energy for her hair. It took me a week to do it. It's so hard to do. Thanks for the videos to give me the power to help her. Love this community.
It’s an actual fact that women aren’t treated as well by the medical field, even female staff. We’re gas lighted, not taken seriously, assumed we’re being dramatic or exaggerating. As the lady said she was pretty much ignored while the man had things done for him that he could do himself. A few years ago I was very I’ll but hadn’t realised how Ill, taken seriously by medical people and family. I had a physio appointment as my leg wasn’t working properly, I have EDS. They were trying to get the covid backlog of patients down, so they were sending patients to private gyms a d personal trainers. A relative is one & a friend, both said don’t be stupid enough to do that because they don’t have the necessary skills or knowledge. The symptoms I had were pain from EDS, I broke my ankle and it didn’t hurt anywhere near as much as my usual pain. I had no energy, what I thought was stomach bugs but was another allergy to gluten that snuck in, MCAD caused that Fevers from the allergy I was blacking out without warning Pain from subluxing and dislocating joints, constant sprains, burning muscles, te dons, nerves…it’s horrible Undiagnosed POTS, the gluten allergy gave me food poisoning/stomach bug symptoms, because I was so dehydrated I didn’t have enough blood circulating. Severe pain Acid reflux Itching Days of being completely wiped out. The POTS makes me feel faint in a major way My pulse is too fast My heartbeat and blood pressure go up and down…a lot more too As says I started to feel a little better and my stomach calmed down I was starting it all over again with gluten. I was too ill to do my work. Does that sound like someone who should be going to a gym? The people I know who are trainers were horrified, I could black out on a walking machine, dislocate a wrist, elbow and shoulder trying to pick up a light weight, those ropes you’re supposed to behold and they move like a worm…seeing it makes me feel sick 🤢that would be horrendously painful and continue for weeks. Women & girls aren’t taken seriously
Where was this woman in the hospital? No bath? Five hours to get help after soiling the bed? This is inhumane. The hospital needs to be held accountable. I feel so sad for her! This is why you NEED to have someone with you in the hospital as much as you can. I understand that people need to work and can't always be there, but this is so sad.
Gezz. I hope she looks into the health care stuff. Not just to pay for the detangling service (and flying out there) but also the oral thrush payment, and extra time for fixing the sores. I hope you can recover as much as you can. Sorry to hear the extensions didn't work but it's great that it's growing back thicker ^^
The hospital I was rushed only did medical care. My waist length hair got seriously matted. I went from having covid to breaking my leg and foot. I was sent to rehab after the hospital. My first night at rehab, an aid cut the matted hair from my head. I went from waist length hair to 1 inch long hair all over my head. That was very depressing because I loved donating my hair. Age 64 was my last ever donation. 😢
This happened to my stepsis..took her way down. Her being in the ICU bed caused her hair to get matted. The nurses set me up with a way to wash n comb her hair out. She did eventually regain walking n all her movements, but her eyes required surgery.
Omg I had a VERY similar experience, I was placed in a medically induced coma for about 3 weeks and ended up with matting so severe, prior to that my hair was thick and shiny and and reached to the middle of my butt. It was my whole identity, no one in the hospital did anything, until I came off the ventilator my family couldn’t do anything. This was also in the middle of the pandemic so my visitors were limited to one per day for a total of 2hrs. I got lucky, one I was conscious my mom started working on it, it took over a week but she got it. It was one of the most traumatic things I’ve ever experienced
My daughters hair wasn’t touched for 10 days after brain surgery. They did change her though, I was right there. I didn’t know her hair could be washed yet and didn’t ask because her life hung in the balance. After permission I detangled for a day and then they washed her.
I am licensed medical professional. 10 years into my career I suffered my own health crisis and went from Doc to patient. I was in the hospital for 17 days. When I woke up on day 9-my hair was matted to the scalp in areas. Ended up having to cut ✂️ my long hair short. Also, for those of you commenting she should sue. Hair tangling is not considered medical malpractice😂. It possibly could be considered neglecting ADL's . But, nobody is going to get anything from that suit. The only way would be if it was included with an actual medical malpractice or neglect case.
You are a truly an amazing person I wish someone like you was in my area im on the west coast Washington state your a truly kind soul very understanding and no judgement that's something so rare unfortunately to find any type of beauty services so thank you for giving me hope that i will find someone in my area god bless you and all you do🙏
I did have warning and stuff with planned surgeries and it was still difficult to fully maintain my hair with planning. What absolute bs to blame her for the situation and say such disrespectful and unfeeling stuff to her. Unfortunately so many peoples response when you have mobility issues and long hair is to tell you to cut it, loss of dignity is a big issue with disability
My grandma got sick and lost mobility after she got the jabs and i went to her house twice a week and did her hair and makeup, just so she'd feel some sense of normalcy. I did this for 3 years until she passed away in November. She used to get her hair done at the salon once a week but as she got less and less mobile, it became hard for her to go to the salon at all, so i would come do it when her home health nurse would come bathe her twice a week. I know she appreciated it and now that she's gone, I'm really glad i did it, even though i would not look forward to it sometimes.
I have same issues of matted hairs for almost a year. I am currently in winnipeg. Can anybody suggest a good salon for me in winnipeg. I don’t want it to be cut or removed. I want it to be detangled. Pls if anybody can help me. Any help is appreciated…
My daughter became pregnant with twins. Lo and behold, she ended up having a third, now we have what I like to call “Irish Triplets”, anyway, unfortunately she went to jail for six months shortly after, I literally had to cut what I thought was my best feature! My hair was so long and thick and beautiful! Now it is short and curly and looks so fucking stupid! I just COULD NOT keep up with it! Put it up and left it up for six months! So matted I had to cut it all off! Oh well, it will grow back. I suppose I am very lucky compared to what this poor lady had been through! She seems pretty tough though! Keep your head up! (and our hair brushed!)
As a woman with profound disabilities myself I'm here to say. The health care industry needs to do better. My sister spent weeks in hospital with covid. They never helped her bathe, she wasn't given the means to clean her teeth, she nearly died from a secondary infection that was preventable if they had used basic hygiene. Do Better.
You aren’t helping people. You’re taking advantage of people during their worst moments! I reached out. I was told it would take 5 days, and cost $7,750 "Give or take..." $150 each day, just to book, $400 for the first hour of each day, and $200 an hour for 5 more hours a day. Who can possibly afford that! 8 thousand dollars for 5 days of work! You must be out of your mind! I thought I found someone who could help me. This broke my heart. You should be ashamed of yourself.
I’m sorry that you think she should work for free or for a wage that is not sustainable. Her job is heavy on the arms, involves a lot of emotional investment, not to mention her time, expertise, and she pays for an assistant. If you cannot understand that she has bills to pay, food to put on the table, mouths to feed, then yes, please go find someone else. She is an independent woman and she has decided to pay herself what she’s worth.
Much love to this amazing woman who has been through so much. Thanks so much for the great work you do helping people in these situations. I just want to mention, the term “confined to a wheelchair” isn’t used in the disability community anymore. It has a negative connotation, and wheelchairs are anything but negative for people with mobility issues. In fact, its the opposite, wheelchairs are freedom and hugely positive 🎉👨🦽❤
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As a health care worker, I can attest to the decline of care. The nursing assistants are supposed to help with taking care of the personal needs. I’m glad you were able to help her
Unfortunately in most states nursing assistants get paid very little -- you get paid more work in fast food for example. They're also chronically understaffed. When you have to shower, feed, change diapers, etc. and more for 30 people in an 8 hour shift you don't have time to do their hair. It's really sad and I wish that we as a society treated certified nursing assistants better so they could offer much needed care
@@DreamingOutLoud91 exactly. Understaffed, underpaid but high work demands
In the eighties, my mom was a home healthcare nurse. I feel like I watched public funding for that type of care just get absolutely gutted over the years
My mom now works at an insurance company, helping to choose who does and doesn't receive care 🙃
Like what even is our healthcare system. As kids, we used to be able to go visit the older folks on hospice and cheer them up and sing songs for them, etc.
Now my nurse mom literally works to *deny* care to people. Like what even is the world.
She needs to pull her chart through her patient portal for her records and then contact an experienced malpractice attorney like Morgan & Morgan. Everyone needs to know their rights to contact the Patient Advocate or equivalent at the hospital they're admitted to! You do not need to "put up with" substandard care or neglect just because you feel like the unit is shorthanded. The lack of hygiene cannot be excused! They have huge hand towel sized disposable wash cloths for this purpose. (I would bet money there were fresh, unopened packets of them in a drawer in her hospital room.) And a nurse or aide worth their certificates would at least know how to tidy her with a basin of soapy water and a wash cloth. And not changing bed pads, diapers, or walking folks to the toilet on time can cause serious infections or impactions in the colon for patients with limited mobility and causing a need for surgical intervention. That's part of basic care with disabled patients. It also sounds like she wasn't moved out of bed and to recliners regularly or at all to keep her muscle tone and encourage her nervous system to build new neural pathways. I'm so sorry she went through all of this and can receive justice for that malpractice.
No. Hair tangling is not considered medical malpractice. Also Morgan & Morgan is just as good as prepaid legal services-it's a joke.
I CANNOT imagine going through something like that and losing all mobility! The way she talks about it shows how mentally strong she is ~ I truly wish the best for her, and I can't imagine being so neglected on top of it.
Following you reminded me to pack my brush and comb when I was going to the ER, knowing I would be admitted. I had to brush my own hair, no one helped me bathe, and brushing my teeth was completely disregarded. One night I had a meltdown because I wanted to go home, the roommate kept the tv on the entire time, the light on all night and I just lost it. Then a nurse stood at the end of my bed and talked with me. She had such haunted eyes, she was so young and broken. It was during/right after the worse of the pandemic. The health care crisis is horrid, the workers are so stressed. Thank you and your client for sharing this with us.
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I am a careGiver for the past 41 years & they were suppose to clean this lady on a daily basis but the lazy no good heartless staff chose to neglect her & that's wrong. GOD bless U.
I fell down a flight of stairs. Broke my neck in 3 places, both wrists, 3 ribs and my hip. My hair got incredibly matted while in the hospital! It was terrible!
I had a blood infection which caused paralysis from the chest down. I was in hospital for 3 months. I couldn't wash my very long hair for weeks after I had 2 surgeries for 2 abscesses on my spinal cord right at the base of my neck. By the time I could it was tangled very badly. Thankfully my spouse was able to get it untangled. I had a Miami neck brace on almost the entire time I was there which rubs the base of the head and hair So my spouse had to learn how to braid my hair so it wouldn't become matted there. If I didn't have him it would have been much worse.
I hope you've since recovered.
When my mom was in the hospital for her emergency liver transplant they didn’t take care of her hair. My dad tried combing it out for her but she said it was painful so he ended up cutting it down to a small Afro. I was so upset lol like y’all have 4 daughters who could’ve came up there to comb her hair.
I live in Germany and even there you don't get taken care of properly in the hospital. When my disabled brother had to go to the hospital for several weeks, we moved in with him, because they wouldn't even feed him. It scares me to know, that he is not taken care of, if something happens to me and my mother. My anxiety has gotten better, but at one point it was so bad, that I didn't want to drive in the same care than my mother, in case of a lethal accident.
Dang, just as a woman you would think one of the nurses would have said, "Girl, let me comb your hair for you, let me braid it up so it won't tangle".
I remember when my dad was in the ICU for 2 week and sadly he passed away a month later. The reason for bringing it up was his hair and overall hygiene care. He was only 55 and I was 32 working full time with little one at home. Although he had the best nursing and physician staff at the heart hosp. He was on a ventilator and couldn’t move, but expect the CNA would help but barely had time to come turn him and found myself coming his shoulder length, very fine and spare hair. I was able to get it combed and braided. The worst was washing his dentures, keep in mind he had MRSA in his sputum meaning it was even airborn through droplets. Like sneezing ir coughing. It was just so sad.. they made no effort to help, no sure if they could? Your hair looks great too!
If I had been a CNA and she was my patient. I would have done her hair, brushed her teeth and gave her a bath!! She is a strong woman!! 💪 ❤ I'm so glad you could help her! I wanted to jump through the screen and hug her!!
This poor woman, you can tell she's been through hell and back, but she's pushing through. I didn't do my hair for just 3 months (i have long curly hair), and it took my carer and husband 3 hours (one either side) to dentangle and dematt my hair. I cried throughout the whole thing from pain and just emotion and shame. I was depressed so badly and my pain levels were so high i didn't have the strength to even touch my hair.
I myself am in a wheelchair due to Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, which causes dislocations, pain, spasms, passing out, etc. I went from wearing heeled boots and beginning my own wedding photography business to now, bed and wheelchair bound. I am so thankful that before i got severe, i managed to marry my husband and walk down the aisle.
Depression, accidents, and illness can happen anytime to anyone, and that's why I hate when people judge. You've done so well with her hair, and the transformation is just amazing. Keep up the amazing work. I just subbed!
🦓 I was in hospital for eight weeks last year, and only got my hair washed twice. It all fell out in the few months after I got home, but now it’s growing back in.
PS do you have MCAS and POTS, too?
@@karenneill9109 I have suspected POTs
@@geekcouplegaming Ugh. I’m sorry. Can I ask an intrusive question? When did you get sick(er)? 2011? 2015 2019\2020?
@@karenneill9109 it's been getting progressively worse over the years, why you ask?
@@geekcouplegaming A lot of people have sudden escalations of symptoms, so I was just curious if you fit the pattern that some are noticing.
She is right, when one’s life is at stake, hair is the last thing to worry about, but if any of your family members or friends is in such situation, and you can take care of them while they can’t do it themselves, please go ahead and offer your help.
Sometimes even the smallest things (i.e. contact salon to arrange an appointment) can be too much to handle, and your help could make a difference.
Working in ICUs, can I tell you how fast patients hair can get tangled and matted? So often it happens in a matter or a day or two and suddenly, when we can finally pay closer attention to things like hair.. it’s already almost a lost cause. Especially after car accidents where debris and blood dries in it. I work at night where we may have a little more time for the “small” details and have spent several hours trying to save hair. Btw, use hydrogen peroxide for blood removal :)
I can sympathise whole heartedly with this lady, I have Multiple Sclerosis which is another auto immune illness with a similar conditions. My condition has made it to where I can't stand or walk at all, and I've lost a good deal of core muscle strength so I find myself falling forward when I've overly tired.
Sometimes I can go a week or two between hair brushes, but I'm fortunate to have not been subject to great deals of matting, Even when you love your hair sometimes everything falls by the wayside when you don't feel so well.
Her wife staying by her side and helping her is beautiful. I stayed in the hospital for 2.5 months getting major surgeries and fighting for my life. My curly, thick hair was waist length. Would have been a total matted mess if I didn’t have my mother there to braid and wash it. If disabled people don’t have family to care for them, this is what happens. Hospitals don’t provide complete care that a person needs. Even months after surgery my mom was still helping me comb my hair. I’m independent now, but if you have someone who’s ill in your life, think about ways you could help them. How would you want to be cared for if you couldn’t take care of yourself?
This happened to me in the hospital. I was in ICU for a couple weeks and my hair got really matted. When I was finally alert for a few days I had to literally use a plastic fork to pick my hair. It took days to pick it out. The nurses offered me a comb, but the combs are so cheap they would just bend...I still give thanks to my fork today😁
To endure what she had to is a miracle. She deserves care & compassion at least. Just heartbreaking this entire situation.
This is really emotional for me. I've spent a lot of time in and out of hospitals due to chronic and auto-immune conditions, with waist-length hair, and if I'd had to cut my hair it would've been absolutely world shattering for me. I've been lucky (I guess) enough that most of my issues are simply incredible amounts of pain, so I will put my hair in dutch braids often before we even go to the hospital. I then just have dry shampoo, and I'll undo my hair and redo it daily, brushing it inbetween, because my hair is my crowning glory. It is a huge part of my sense of self.
However, I'm now sitting here considering teaching either my wife or my best local friend to braid, because if I wasn't able to do that - my wife hates touching anyone else's hair, the bestie can't braid - then I don't know what would happen with my hair.
I'm so glad you did this for this lady, and that you understand just how important hair is. Because so many people really don't get it.
Wow, that's so heartbreaking. I hope she'll be able to walk again and take her life back fully.
I can totally understand the frustration of not being able to do anything for myself. Thankfully my mama had always been there for me and braided my hair when I’m in the hospital so it didn’t get matted. It meant so much to have help to feel just human. To bathe me and help me keep some sense of dignity. Sending love and blessings for y’all and her.
You are true kindness and empathy and I hope we can all learn just a little more kindness from you.
Unfortunately, all hospitals are sooo understaffed, underfunded and overworked. It’s sad what she went through, I do therapeutic recreation and have done hair, nails, facials for patients based on care plans. Basic human needs should not be overlooked plus anything you do for a patient must be documented! Best of luck to her.
I'm genuinely Thanking YOU 😊 for sharing these videos ❤
I came close to this in one week of having sepsis. I was able to shower near the end of the week but brushing out my hair after was very hard and exhausting. I had to get my adult kids to bring me detangling supplies just to get through. It took me hours simply because I was exhausted and I have curly hair that will lock easily. When they said I needed to have a big surgery a few months later I got my hair cut much shorter so I would be able to care for it easier….because you can plan ahead for surgery but not a serious spontaneous health crisis!
You are amazing! God is using you and you shine so bright!!
You are an angel, my dear Hadassa. Bless you.
Love love watching your videos. I helped my auntie with her matted hair after chemo and her not having rhe energy for her hair. It took me a week to do it. It's so hard to do. Thanks for the videos to give me the power to help her. Love this community.
It’s an actual fact that women aren’t treated as well by the medical field, even female staff. We’re gas lighted, not taken seriously, assumed we’re being dramatic or exaggerating.
As the lady said she was pretty much ignored while the man had things done for him that he could do himself.
A few years ago I was very I’ll but hadn’t realised how Ill, taken seriously by medical people and family. I had a physio appointment as my leg wasn’t working properly, I have EDS. They were trying to get the covid backlog of patients down, so they were sending patients to private gyms a d personal trainers. A relative is one & a friend, both said don’t be stupid enough to do that because they don’t have the necessary skills or knowledge.
The symptoms I had were pain from EDS, I broke my ankle and it didn’t hurt anywhere near as much as my usual pain.
I had no energy, what I thought was stomach bugs but was another allergy to gluten that snuck in, MCAD caused that
Fevers from the allergy
I was blacking out without warning
Pain from subluxing and dislocating joints, constant sprains, burning muscles, te dons, nerves…it’s horrible
Undiagnosed POTS, the gluten allergy gave me food poisoning/stomach bug symptoms, because I was so dehydrated I didn’t have enough blood circulating.
Severe pain
Acid reflux
Itching
Days of being completely wiped out.
The POTS makes me feel faint in a major way
My pulse is too fast
My heartbeat and blood pressure go up and down…a lot more too
As says I started to feel a little better and my stomach calmed down I was starting it all over again with gluten. I was too ill to do my work.
Does that sound like someone who should be going to a gym?
The people I know who are trainers were horrified, I could black out on a walking machine, dislocate a wrist, elbow and shoulder trying to pick up a light weight, those ropes you’re supposed to behold and they move like a worm…seeing it makes me feel sick 🤢that would be horrendously painful and continue for weeks.
Women & girls aren’t taken seriously
Where was this woman in the hospital? No bath? Five hours to get help after soiling the bed? This is inhumane. The hospital needs to be held accountable. I feel so sad for her!
This is why you NEED to have someone with you in the hospital as much as you can. I understand that people need to work and can't always be there, but this is so sad.
So glad you posted! What you do is just so kind and heart warming.
You're a miracle worker! Prayers for the purple lady.
Gezz. I hope she looks into the health care stuff. Not just to pay for the detangling service (and flying out there) but also the oral thrush payment, and extra time for fixing the sores. I hope you can recover as much as you can. Sorry to hear the extensions didn't work but it's great that it's growing back thicker ^^
The hospital I was rushed only did medical care. My waist length hair got seriously matted. I went from having covid to breaking my leg and foot. I was sent to rehab after the hospital. My first night at rehab, an aid cut the matted hair from my head. I went from waist length hair to 1 inch long hair all over my head. That was very depressing because I loved donating my hair. Age 64 was my last ever donation. 😢
You and your staff are angels on earth! Thank you for what you do and for sharing it with us ❤
This happened to my stepsis..took her way down. Her being in the ICU bed caused her hair to get matted. The nurses set me up with a way to wash n comb her hair out. She did eventually regain walking n all her movements, but her eyes required surgery.
Omg I had a VERY similar experience, I was placed in a medically induced coma for about 3 weeks and ended up with matting so severe, prior to that my hair was thick and shiny and and reached to the middle of my butt. It was my whole identity, no one in the hospital did anything, until I came off the ventilator my family couldn’t do anything. This was also in the middle of the pandemic so my visitors were limited to one per day for a total of 2hrs. I got lucky, one I was conscious my mom started working on it, it took over a week but she got it. It was one of the most traumatic things I’ve ever experienced
My daughters hair wasn’t touched for 10 days after brain surgery. They did change her though, I was right there. I didn’t know her hair could be washed yet and didn’t ask because her life hung in the balance. After permission I detangled for a day and then they washed her.
I am licensed medical professional. 10 years into my career I suffered my own health crisis and went from Doc to patient. I was in the hospital for 17 days. When I woke up on day 9-my hair was matted to the scalp in areas. Ended up having to cut ✂️ my long hair short. Also, for those of you commenting she should sue. Hair tangling is not considered medical malpractice😂. It possibly could be considered neglecting ADL's . But, nobody is going to get anything from that suit. The only way would be if it was included with an actual medical malpractice or neglect case.
You are a truly an amazing person I wish someone like you was in my area im on the west coast Washington state your a truly kind soul very understanding and no judgement that's something so rare unfortunately to find any type of beauty services so thank you for giving me hope that i will find someone in my area god bless you and all you do🙏
Wow, I wish I could contact you. I had an experience like this. I could not walk for a month, long story, but it made me cry hearing this.
I did have warning and stuff with planned surgeries and it was still difficult to fully maintain my hair with planning. What absolute bs to blame her for the situation and say such disrespectful and unfeeling stuff to her. Unfortunately so many peoples response when you have mobility issues and long hair is to tell you to cut it, loss of dignity is a big issue with disability
My grandma got sick and lost mobility after she got the jabs and i went to her house twice a week and did her hair and makeup, just so she'd feel some sense of normalcy. I did this for 3 years until she passed away in November. She used to get her hair done at the salon once a week but as she got less and less mobile, it became hard for her to go to the salon at all, so i would come do it when her home health nurse would come bathe her twice a week. I know she appreciated it and now that she's gone, I'm really glad i did it, even though i would not look forward to it sometimes.
I have same issues of matted hairs for almost a year. I am currently in winnipeg. Can anybody suggest a good salon for me in winnipeg. I don’t want it to be cut or removed. I want it to be detangled. Pls if anybody can help me. Any help is appreciated…
My daughter became pregnant with twins. Lo and behold, she ended up having a third, now we have what I like to call “Irish Triplets”, anyway, unfortunately she went to jail for six months shortly after, I literally had to cut what I thought was my best feature! My hair was so long and thick and beautiful! Now it is short and curly and looks so fucking stupid! I just COULD NOT keep up with it! Put it up and left it up for six months! So matted I had to cut it all off! Oh well, it will grow back. I suppose I am very lucky compared to what this poor lady had been through! She seems pretty tough though! Keep your head up! (and our hair brushed!)
She should file a complaint about the hospital's non-caring staff.
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As a woman with profound disabilities myself I'm here to say. The health care industry needs to do better. My sister spent weeks in hospital with covid. They never helped her bathe, she wasn't given the means to clean her teeth, she nearly died from a secondary infection that was preventable if they had used basic hygiene. Do Better.
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Thank you 🥰
It’s sad that even if her partner is a woman, she wasnt attentive and sensitive to brushing and caring for her partner’s hair .. sad
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She should sue that hospital
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You aren’t helping people. You’re taking advantage of people during their worst moments! I reached out. I was told it would take 5 days, and cost $7,750 "Give or take..." $150 each day, just to book, $400 for the first hour of each day, and $200 an hour for 5 more hours a day. Who can possibly afford that! 8 thousand dollars for 5 days of work! You must be out of your mind! I thought I found someone who could help me. This broke my heart. You should be ashamed of yourself.
I’m sorry that you think she should work for free or for a wage that is not sustainable. Her job is heavy on the arms, involves a lot of emotional investment, not to mention her time, expertise, and she pays for an assistant.
If you cannot understand that she has bills to pay, food to put on the table, mouths to feed, then yes, please go find someone else. She is an independent woman and she has decided to pay herself what she’s worth.
Much love to this amazing woman who has been through so much. Thanks so much for the great work you do helping people in these situations. I just want to mention, the term “confined to a wheelchair” isn’t used in the disability community anymore. It has a negative connotation, and wheelchairs are anything but negative for people with mobility issues. In fact, its the opposite, wheelchairs are freedom and hugely positive 🎉👨🦽❤