I am so glad I discovered this chanel. Last year, when I was 14 I thought I was trans (ftm). I was really confused about my gender, and around that time crushed on a girl for the first time. I really hated my body and being referred to as "she". I watched a lot of trans activists and really though about starting testosterone. Then I thought I was non-binary, didn't know what pronouns to use bc all of them felt weird. Then I found your channel. I realized, that I hated my body due to my eating disorder and didn't have any symptoms of gender dysphoria. I figured out that being "not like other girls" while growing up and hating dresses DID NOT MEAN that I was a guy or "something in between" Upd: Also, my mental health got so much better as soon as I stopped identifying as a transmen. I really felt the improvement, I was almost depressed, bc a trans lebel did not solve any of my problem, but made it even worse. I'm glad I feel better now, even though I'm still struggling with my mental health. Thanks for your support y'all
That’s really good to hear. It’s a shame to see young girls take such harmful, body altering drugs. By the time they figure out that they would like to stay as women, their voices are deep and they are already experiencing medical complications from testosterone. Atrophy has to be one of the most painful things a woman can experience.
Glad, you found a way out of the confusion. ❤ Plus, feeling uncomfortable in your body is a pretty much universal experience for people going through puberty.
I’m 27 now I went through similar issues and channels like this helped and I got help for my ED. I wish you luck with yours and hope you are feeling much better.
The transition from girl to woman for a "normal" girl is confusing. Growing breasts, having to shop for bras, growing out of them constantly. Add in having pms, new mood swings, learning to deal with monthly menstral cycles that you now need to track, what products work for you, how to manage it at school. Not to mention the added un wanted attention from males, young and old. It's a lot to process, and sometimes in very young girls. My daughter started wearing very baggy hoodies even in 100 degree weather. We were very open in our conversations, as she had kids who were transitioning in her high school. She told me she never questioned if she was a girl, but she was definetly "hiding" her new figure. She's now 20 and wears mostly tshirts, and hoodies when it is actually cold. Enjoy your videos, thanks for speaking out.
I`m a guy. It really isn`t socially acceptable for men to give attention to barely post pubescent girls. Maybe boys of their own age change in their responses, but adult men `young and old` are not interested...those that are are shunned. Most girls are totally happy with the arrival of puberty, whatever its challenges....you spend a decade as a child and hopefully many decades as an adult. Puberty is the start of that process of independence and maturation. It`s ridiculous to carry on this `puberty is a curse for girls` narrative...it`s so backward.
It does seem that way. While I am not LGBT it does seem like they are trying to trans the gay away which seems a bit counterproductive. Again, as an outsider I maybe completely wrong here.
I was a they them maybe thinking trans until I was diagnosed as borderline; I realized that not having a sense of self and matching who I was around were symptoms of my diagnosis I got when I was 35ish. I am so sorry and scared for kids who are adopting this when it isn't at all what's going on. Pray for them.
oh my god i was exactly the same! i thought i was non-binary when i had no idea how i felt about myself. I dressed and presented myself very androgynously and was regularly called sir. I lost friends because i was so unsure about my identity. Turns out it was just a very long bpd episode and once our of it I realised i was 💯 female. Can't believe someone else had the same symptoms!
I am glad you were able to get the proper diagnosis and the h you need. It’s sad seeing people getting misdiagnosed people regretting going through transiting.
@@jessicahoward9046 Yeah, it was a lot to come to terms with. I still struggle with identity, just not when it comes to gender. I hope you're in a better place now.
I've noticed that a lot of people with any mental or spiritual issues, or anything with sexual identity, even the straight people who are lustful, majority of that comes from having no sense of who you are as a person, and then of course, you find something else to define who you are. And majority of stuff with sexual identity revolves around having sex and not really their actual sex...if that makes sense.... Like - it all boils down to the burden of defining yourself which is something human beings can't handle but many don't want to admit...so you go on trying different identities and seeing what is less work... English isn't my first language, sorry.
Its sad to see that nowadays young people try so hard to fit into some box, even destroying their lifes in the attempt, while years ago people fought tooth and nail to get rid of that boxsystem, because it does more harm to people, then helping them. Just be yourself with all your flaws, be proud to be individual and to not be a box with a label on it.
I think it's normal for young people, especially teenagers, to try to fit into some boxes. It's part of finding yourself, seeing what you like and dislike and usually doesn't last very long. Back when I was a teen, we had tons of goth and scene kids and I don't think it's very different. What's really sad is that the adults around them can't protect them from destroying their lives, because it's now allowed and they might even get sued or witch-hunted to the point that it destroys their career.
The irony is, the concept of gender 'boxes' had been dismantled for many years, but this new ideology is bringing it back (constantly referring to 'gender roles' and gender being a 'social construct'), while at the same time constructing new 'boxes' that kids are flocking to in their thousands! 😢
it’s so interesting you say that because these people (myself included) are people who didn’t let themselves be confined to boxes. we are so happy being ourselves, and we know ourselves, and this is what we look like.
My “nephew” is 17. At about 13, he decided he was nonbinary and wanted to be addressed as they/them. About a year and a half later he ramped it up and decided he was trans. He presents like the first three people in this video - the hair, piercings, etc. - definitely not masculine but not quite feminine either. His dad won’t allow any medical transitions until he’s 18. I hope with my entire soul that he doesn’t start making permanent changes once that birthday hits, not because I don’t want a trans nephew but because I honestly don’t believe he’s trans. The thought that he’ll permanently alter his body and regret it scares the crap out of me. (and yes, I realize he’s actually a she, but I still love the kid and want to offer support to the best of my ability so I use the he/him pronouns)
I'm part of transgender youth and this sounds like your nephew isn't trans at all, being non binary isn't a real thing and you need Gender dysphoria to be transsexual.
Going along with the pronouns is only encouraging her and isn't actually helping her at all. There's a video about that on this channel as well that I would highly recommend watching.
I find it weird they can get put on T so easily! I am a woman who had a total hysterectomy, and have non existent levels of T, which is causing me several health issues, yet I can’t get T in any other form aside from Gel here in Sweden. The Gel doesn’t work for me 😭
It’s really annoying how these people can easily get these hormones (which I’m going to be fr, don’t even help them besides give them a little facial hair and slightly deepen their voice) and people who actually need it to maintain their health issues are have difficulty getting it as grown adults
@@Cardinal_claw Only giving T gel when a patient that needs a better way to supplement T is a form of medical gate keeping that harms the patient and boost company profits at the expense of the patient health and wellbeing. This gatekeeping is obviously harmful for dredubz.
When I was going through puberty. I was MASSIVELY uncomfortable. I was mortified the first time my mum and dad told me i started needing a bra. I hated wearing anything tight or that 'gave me a figure' Going through those years of puberty i was so uncomfortable in my body, in who i was, in what i looked like/ what i didn't look like, how clothing sat on me. I wasn't allowed to wear the same stuff as i did as a kid, cos they just didn't make it for teens, or it wasn't appropriate. I'm now a grown woman, and looking back, i was just struggling with issues of my autism beforei even knew what it was or that i had it. and it makes me sad that so many people are being told that it's not 'NORMAL' to be uncomfortable in your body when it's going through such serious changes. I'm at least glad that I was never upset about being a 'female', and that i liked traditional 'cutesy' things, otherwise I can imagine that people would have convinced me that i was a boy- and if I had been born with these youngsters, somebody would have made me feel like i needed to transition because i wasn't 'really' a girl. nope, I most defo am, there is no right way to be female, and sex sterotypes does not a trans child make. I like gaming, cosplaying and 'traditionally boy stuff', and yet i am still a happy thriving female....This gender movement really does scare me.
Same. My parents are actually still attempting to force me to "show my figure". To who?? I'm not looking for a boyfriend, I'm just trying to live my life for god's sake!
please pray for my friends that got lost in this game and their family lives are being torn apart for the decisions they have taken. God please help this people.
I hear this a lot. Is that a real thing? Like a law that allows them to start hormones and stuff w/o talking to a therapist? Bc that’s insane! I also hear ppl talk about the government incentivizing kids to transition but I don’t know where they’re getting that information.
@ yea it was back almost 8-9 years ago I last new of. But they have got in our schools and got pornography like books in there libraries and reading kids in elementary school books that are more or less saying there are more than two genders and if they don’t feel like the gender they are it’s ok to just change your gender and they have laws that was allowing the teachers and whom ever to hide things and not allow parents to set the rules for there child. It had got real bad.
You are so real, and not afraid to speak the truth! im a teen and around 14 i had a phase like this... i changed my name, pronouns, cut my hair, dressed like a guy, and i also started liking girls... 3 years later i sit here being one of the most feminine bisexual teenager you've ever seen. Please listen to this guy you as a teen HAVE NO IDEA what your gender really is, phases come and go and you should not be able to decide about life changing procedures underage.
Interesting journey. I never cut my hair or dressed like a guy nor I liked girls ever. I only changed my name and pronouns online (pronouns have always been he/him by the way). You know, the first thing that made me question myself was the fact that I experienced some weird feeling when someone would refer to me as he/him in person (it was on accident by the way)....it felt like some sort of happiness I don't know. Although all this confusing mess started when I was 13. I'm 16 now. Also, I agree with you to be honest. I think it's a phase for me too ngl. Only time will tell...but at the current moment of writing this comment I haven't outgrown this phase yet.
Hello, I know this has nothing much to do with the video but I have been watching your videos for a long while now and I just wanted to say that it is very good how you clarifiy things and how you give your honest opinion. Also, I wish you a happy new year and to everyone who sees this too! 🎇
First tiktok clip shown... IMMEDIATELY felt concerned. Also, I am truly happy that I found your channel because you are able to speak your opinions I can not with most of the people in my life. Currently (28 yr old) going through my own transitioning journey, and as much as this process is working very well for me thankfully..and bringing inner peace, I am sad that I have to constantly hold back my opinions within the community.. even when those opinions are just simple concerns for others. It takes a lot of strength to do what you do on your channel, you are very inspiring.
this made me question my gender. what if i am my agab? then my heart stopped working correctly. that's a reassurance scary enough to not question my own nb gender further. i also received the same reaction when i was thinking i might be a man.
I am so glad I grew up in the 1960's. I was a tomboy. I liked jeans and tshirts, I liked to play with my dog and ride my bike. I didn't like dresses and dolls. I was quite uncomfortable with puberty but I got over it.
Me too. I was a 90’s kid, but still, I developed early and I went through a phase wearing tight sports bras and boys clothes bc I wasn’t ready to be a woman. I can’t imagine how confused I would have been if that were today.
I used to identify as nonbinary for about 9 years until I figured out that I am and always will be a biological woman starting in 2021, though I didn’t fully accept this or really tell anyone until late in 2024, and I am so so grateful that I never went on testosterone nor get any surgeries (I never wanted to physically/medically transition) because I would have been miserable now if I had done so.
No, it's disrespectful to demand that the world change around you, everyone is free to identify as whatever and everyone is free to call anyone however they want.
I feel like even if you disagree with those people, its a step too far to be misgendering them on purpose. Because no matter if you think theyre actually trans or not, what they prefer would be that you call them by the pronounds they most likely have in their profile. It just makes you look very bitter imo. I do agree with some of your content, especially with the surgeries on minors. But theres no need to shoot around this much friendly fire sir.
Two friends of mine have recently said that they allowed themselves wearing make up only after starting HRT. I found this concerning too. Like, is it wrong to be a girl and like make up? But if you are a gnc/trans boy, you are cool and edgy. I used to be a really untidy tomboy with tons of inner misogyny, then a goth androgyn (allowed myself make up at that point while nor being 'girly', yeah, thought myself non-binary). Now I'm a femme (lesbian) and I love it.
This must be infuriating for you. Im so sorry you even have to watch these lost kids making a mockery of something you had to deal with that was probably super traumatic and hard for you. Thank you for doing what you do. ❤
Hello, I have to admit that I don't know much about this but I'm learning. I have questions but I'm glad you are happy with who you are. Enjoy your life!
This channel in just 2 videos has taught me more on LGBT than anything/anyone in a decade. It clarified my own experience, my sibling's experience, and helped clarify so much that nowadays is left very confusing. Thank you for what you're doing.
Hi Marcus! I love you and thank you for standing up for young women and young men alike! I think the work you are doing is super important and your message needs to be heard. Keep up the amazing work, you are wonderful ❤
They should go back in time and go back to making a therapist sign off saying that they are in a way trans I guess. They have brainwashed by the doctors and theripest push this now even. I’m disgusted with the trans and woke community bc they are throwing their agenda on or kids even there class rooms. The teachers are also pushing this bc they read these books telling them they are different and can change there body to be happy
the problem with this is it gets difficult to determine who is actually trans and who is being manipulated into making a big irreversible mistake as a fad
i came out at nine years old when i didn’t have the proper words to express myself. i can’t possible fathom what my life would be like if i tried for even a moment longer to pretend to be a woman. no one is transitioning as a fad, we are transitioning to survive
Guess your just ignoring all the people transition back because of just that. Social pressure aka fad. I know 3 girl irl that have already regreted what they've done to themselves. Your just wrong
I love your channel. I'm so glad that I discovered you a few years ago. Side note, you look so handsome! I love your natural curly hair. I hope that you have a great day.
I don’t know if you take recommendations, but it would be cool if you did some sort of QNA video for young dysphoric people who are trying to navigate the health system right now with all this nonsense going on. It’s really hard to find unbiased/non-political advice on how to navigate dysphoria pre-operation. Most groups online are anti operation to begin with, and most therapists “professionals” I’ve talked to don’t seem to have the patients best interest in mind when questions are asked. I think it’d be really interesting and helpful to the true dysphoric people to make an educational video like that. Most other ones online are filled with political bias or aren’t made by trans people.
Yes, isn't it interesting how hard it is to find simple, solid, unbiased advice. You'd think a movement that is supposedly advocating for the best interests of trans people would make that a top priority.
hi, it’s crowley, the “really young child”. this video was brought to my attention and i really feel pity for you. I came out as trans at nine years old, and for so many years I was incredibly unhappy because I was unable to transition. I did all the stereotypical masculine things to fit in- I shaved my head, I wore dark, baggy clothing, I had a masculine name. In that time, I was depressed, and masculine, and never felt less like myself. That’s because that wasn’t my authentic self. I am happy when I get to experiment with my look- when I have long hair, when I try different styles- etc etc etc. I started testosterone at sixteen after four years of psychiatric help, and the whole time I pleaded with my doctors to help me. I stayed firm and got exactly what I knew would help me. I’m sorry that you believe that the only way to want to be masculine or to be a man is to conform within social boundaries, and I’m sorry that you’ll probably never find your authentic self because you are afraid of the judgement of others. I’ve got a pretty good life, with a lot of people who love and even admire me for being myself. Yes, I know I’ve written a lot but I’ll leave with one last thing: being young and trans is a blessing I’ll never take for granted. Getting to show other people that young people can be trans and happy and successful has been a gift. I hope one day you’ll see how much of a miracle it is that modern medicine can help all kinds of people, even those you don’t like.
@@crowley1782 but you do realise that he is trans right? and that he literally "found his authentic self" by transitioning right? The thing is - if you have such immense gender dysphoria that requires transitioning and taking irreversible hormons which - lets be honest - fuck up your body for life, that same gender dyshoria makes you want to do anything possible to not look like the person before the transition because you hate the characteristics which make you present as the gender assigned at birth - this is the basic principle of transsexualism! If you transition to a man but still want to look like a girl or dont have a problem with your girl body then what kind of gender dysphoria is that?
What’s crazy to me is he calls you a girl for the way you present but you just,, DON’T look like a girl?? Lmao. I saw the original video and I remember thinking how you just looked like an androgynous cis guy.
I 💯 agree with Crowley. Masculinity and being an FTM isn't always the same. It's alr with being a Transman when you enjoy wearing makeup and do pedicures. It's alr with being a trans woman and like wearing masc clothes, being a butch and do masc hobbies. It's alr with being non binary and enjoy with both. Human beings are unique and are born with a purpose in life and it's up to them to decide on what they'll do to be happy. Not just as someone but as their authentic human selves
This is actually sad, I am transmasc and genderfluid and I'm not 'confused' and this person doesn't really have a right to say that either, I know who I am and it won't ever change. It is very wrong to misgender anyone, they're not women they are what they identify as and thats okay, whats not okay is that you as a person is trying to tell people that them being themselves is a 'phase' no its not don't push your beliefs onto anyone. I understand that Testosterone isn't reversible, and just because someone is young doesn't mean they're confused, you wouldn't say that to a cis person right? you are also able to be feminine and be trans or masculine and trans, you also don't need to have dysphoria to be trans, I understand where some of your opinions are coming from but this stll isn't right and the transphobia is disgusting.
I'm 15 and currently belive I'm trans and also belive I suffer from gender dysphoria, but I won't be going for a diagnose, testosterone or surgery until I turn 18-20 becuse, what if I'm wrong?
I feel like I’m commenting on every video because this channel is new to me… I wonder if women, especially in America, are feeling like it’s hard to be a woman (r*pe, inequality, stereotyping women, etc) is part of the trend. Like are we just afraid to be woman?? Please, really curious about all this!
I agree if a person wants to destroy their own body if they're fully capable of consenting to the medical intervention. What I don't agree with is the doctors who know the patients aren't capable of consenting and go through with it. There would need to be prerequisites that can prove this is needed for the individual and was helped to make this decision, given they believe it is the right one after all other treatments are tried. This could constitute as aggression for just allowing someone who isn't capable of consent to be able to consent.
If this was being spoken about when I was a kid, I PROMISE you that I would have transitioned. But now, I’m a 32 year old female who is fine with the way I am. The only issue I have now is the excruciating period pain I suffer thanks to endo, knowing I’ve never wanted children and will never want them, but cannot have the surgery that would stop this because it’s not my choice and could change my mind… but people like this that can go to their doctor and claim to be trans and will be able to have these surgeries.
I’m a young trans male, since I was 10-14 (now). It was not merely because I was influenced by people on line that I feel this way, or say that I do. I’ve been confused since I was even younger because of the dysphoria and detachment I felt with my own gender, especially as I started going through puberty. And after a while when I felt I needed to come out and did not feel hesitant anymore and was positive, I told and came out to people. But even if I myself am still confused, I have time to figure things out, especially given my age and I’m still biologically myself. This was in no way just me lying about myself. I could say a lot more, but I don’t want to share my entire story on the internet. However, these people are clearly still in the stage of confusion, because they do not understand completely how it feels. And I understand that you don’t feel comfortable in the body you were born in, I know that all too well, but getting surgery and medication/hormones THAT young? There is no turning back now, and that sticks to you forever. It isn’t like makeup where you can just take it off, you still need to figure yourself out as a trans person at that age. Things change as you grow up, especially when going through puberty and adolescence, and who knows if I myself will feel the same way I do now in the future? But that doesn’t mean I think that’s going to happen, just something that COULD happen. I’m still a trans person right now, and I will continue to stay with that identity NOW. These people are just taking it too far, and they most likely are going to be like “wtf” in a few years or sooner because of what they have done.
your content spreads messages that reinforce ideas that harm actual trans people. i am a trans minor in alabama and i legally cannot transition because of messages like yours
I’ve been watching channels like yours lately, which are more right wing in the political spectrum, I don’t consider myself from right neither left but I’ve been reading and listening more to people in the left through the years. I’m still very young and I moved recently to the USA, in my country (which is still in development) there are more discrimination and there are not much laws to protect people against such or worse things like hate crimes, that’s why I used to read and listen more people on the left; but just having a year and some months living here I’m seeing more of what I used to hear and felt incredulous about, people accusing others of discrimination or hate speech out of any disagreement when there’s not, like some sort of victim complex… And I’m impressed because I wasn’t aware of that issue, people would do something wrong and when they get called out they would accuse the world is discriminating them, like trying to get away of their own social responsibilities… I believe it’s worth it to listen to both sides, and both have their rights and wrongs; we’ve been talking more about respect and equality for the past decades but it seems like we’ve lost a little the real meaning of respect and that’s kind of sad…
3:49 the individuals you're talking about don't care about the patients they care about the overall cost they're going to make. Keep in mind they can charge up to 50 to 100,000 to the insurance company for this patient that's extra money in my pocket.
I recently had an issue with sh, and even I, a hormonal teenager who was in a dark enough state of mind to try to hurt myself, realized immediately afterwards that this was something that would never change and I had irreversibly altered my body. Even if it felt good in the moment. Even if they're just little scars that will fade almost completely over time, I instantly regretted putting them there in the first place. I can't imagine how detransitioners feel about having whole parts of themselves removed and altered if I felt this horrid about 4 cat scratch looking cuts
I think it's more because a lot of those people think:" oh so women aren't treated equally in life? So I'm gonna call myself anything else than a woman so I get treated equally" which is totally crazy and not the right way
3:01 isnt gender identity and gender expression different? Thats why a trans man and cis man may have a feminine, masculine or other gender expression?
I think its insane how you can say some of this stuff while being a trans man. Ill use the example of the person who was 'comfortable showing their chest online'. As a trans man pre T and pre surgeries i still wear tight fitting tops, and crop tops outside. Its not transitioning that makes you trans and i think you, a trans man should know that. And also wanting to dye your hair, or cut your hair, or change your style or whatever else every so often isnt an issue. Thats them simply expressing themselves and its insane to me how you could judge your own community so heavily for simply being themselves and existing?
What is literally insane is actually believing that you can simply change your Gender. If you were born a Female you will NEVER be a male. No amount of Surgery or Hormone treatments is going to change that. If you were born a Male you will ALWAYS be a male. Sure if you honestly can't live with your self as your biological Gender then sure do what you need to do to live the best life you can but believing and expecting others to believe that you are actually physically the other Gender is completely insane. You can NEVER change your DNA.
Gender dysphoria makes you trans, if it's only about identity it is just appropriation. No matter what the popular narrative is now, an actual trans person will always strive to pass as the other gender, for them it is actually painful not to be recognized as the gender they feel like they are. A trans woman with a full on beard is not an actual trans woman, it's just a man who identifies as a trans woman or has AG, same with a trans man wanting to show "his" curves And Marcus as an actual trans person, understands GD, he does not hate his community, but is willing to call out people.
You must be new. He speaks about the difference between being trans, having body dysmorphia and just following a social trend to feel included; three very different things that people combine then regret later in life. And he like many others absolutely reject children going through such a difficult and life altering procedure before their bodies or brains even have a chance to fully develop.
I think it’s really interesting how you seem to not comprehend what he’s saying. If you have true gender dysphoria you would not show off the parts of you that make you dysphoric.
@@AVeryStableGenuis just because he's trans doesn't mean he has the right to hate on people like this and entirely misgender them without knowing anything about their backstory
Although I'm starting to agree with this man, but if it was actually transphobic, no, it's not a fcking opinion, if you think so, then you're clearly here just for the trans diss and not to listen to trans people's problems with people like this, you're here only to see someone who claims they're trans gets told they're not@@antzooma
I am so glad I discovered this chanel. Last year, when I was 14 I thought I was trans (ftm). I was really confused about my gender, and around that time crushed on a girl for the first time. I really hated my body and being referred to as "she". I watched a lot of trans activists and really though about starting testosterone. Then I thought I was non-binary, didn't know what pronouns to use bc all of them felt weird. Then I found your channel. I realized, that I hated my body due to my eating disorder and didn't have any symptoms of gender dysphoria. I figured out that being "not like other girls" while growing up and hating dresses DID NOT MEAN that I was a guy or "something in between"
Upd: Also, my mental health got so much better as soon as I stopped identifying as a transmen. I really felt the improvement, I was almost depressed, bc a trans lebel did not solve any of my problem, but made it even worse. I'm glad I feel better now, even though I'm still struggling with my mental health. Thanks for your support y'all
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👏🏼 know someone who de-trans after she started addressing her eating disorders.
That’s really good to hear. It’s a shame to see young girls take such harmful, body altering drugs. By the time they figure out that they would like to stay as women, their voices are deep and they are already experiencing medical complications from testosterone. Atrophy has to be one of the most painful things a woman can experience.
Glad, you found a way out of the confusion. ❤
Plus, feeling uncomfortable in your body is a pretty much universal experience for people going through puberty.
I’m 27 now I went through similar issues and channels like this helped and I got help for my ED. I wish you luck with yours and hope you are feeling much better.
The transition from girl to woman for a "normal" girl is confusing. Growing breasts, having to shop for bras, growing out of them constantly. Add in having pms, new mood swings, learning to deal with monthly menstral cycles that you now need to track, what products work for you, how to manage it at school. Not to mention the added un wanted attention from males, young and old. It's a lot to process, and sometimes in very young girls.
My daughter started wearing very baggy hoodies even in 100 degree weather. We were very open in our conversations, as she had kids who were transitioning in her high school. She told me she never questioned if she was a girl, but she was definetly "hiding" her new figure. She's now 20 and wears mostly tshirts, and hoodies when it is actually cold.
Enjoy your videos, thanks for speaking out.
at 30 years old i still have never grown out of a bra. i wish i had that experience 😂
Very normal. Few women are confident enough to endure people (both men and women) staring at their curves all the time!
Why put normal in quotes?
I`m a guy. It really isn`t socially acceptable for men to give attention to barely post pubescent girls. Maybe boys of their own age change in their responses, but adult men `young and old` are not interested...those that are are shunned. Most girls are totally happy with the arrival of puberty, whatever its challenges....you spend a decade as a child and hopefully many decades as an adult. Puberty is the start of that process of independence and maturation. It`s ridiculous to carry on this `puberty is a curse for girls` narrative...it`s so backward.
Exactly!
3:43 .. there's lots of confusion & chaos being thrown at our homosexual brothers & sisters 💔
Can’t even get a boyfriend without some weirdos calling us transphobic cause I don’t wanna cut my limbs off
It does seem that way. While I am not LGBT it does seem like they are trying to trans the gay away which seems a bit counterproductive. Again, as an outsider I maybe completely wrong here.
@@melissamurray8307 Theres also a big movement to get people not to reproduce, extreme pro abortion, sterilization, etc.
@@melissamurray8307They're trying to trans Tom girls as well.
If you have confusion then you must figure that out. Don't blame straight people
I was a they them maybe thinking trans until I was diagnosed as borderline; I realized that not having a sense of self and matching who I was around were symptoms of my diagnosis I got when I was 35ish. I am so sorry and scared for kids who are adopting this when it isn't at all what's going on. Pray for them.
oh my god i was exactly the same! i thought i was non-binary when i had no idea how i felt about myself. I dressed and presented myself very androgynously and was regularly called sir. I lost friends because i was so unsure about my identity. Turns out it was just a very long bpd episode and once our of it I realised i was 💯 female. Can't believe someone else had the same symptoms!
I am glad you were able to get the proper diagnosis and the h you need. It’s sad seeing people getting misdiagnosed people regretting going through transiting.
@@jessicahoward9046 Yeah, it was a lot to come to terms with. I still struggle with identity, just not when it comes to gender. I hope you're in a better place now.
Same for me but instead of borderline it was autism
I've noticed that a lot of people with any mental or spiritual issues, or anything with sexual identity, even the straight people who are lustful, majority of that comes from having no sense of who you are as a person, and then of course, you find something else to define who you are. And majority of stuff with sexual identity revolves around having sex and not really their actual sex...if that makes sense.... Like - it all boils down to the burden of defining yourself which is something human beings can't handle but many don't want to admit...so you go on trying different identities and seeing what is less work... English isn't my first language, sorry.
Its sad to see that nowadays young people try so hard to fit into some box, even destroying their lifes in the attempt, while years ago people fought tooth and nail to get rid of that boxsystem, because it does more harm to people, then helping them. Just be yourself with all your flaws, be proud to be individual and to not be a box with a label on it.
It’s because they advertise the box as “freedom”
I think it's normal for young people, especially teenagers, to try to fit into some boxes. It's part of finding yourself, seeing what you like and dislike and usually doesn't last very long. Back when I was a teen, we had tons of goth and scene kids and I don't think it's very different. What's really sad is that the adults around them can't protect them from destroying their lives, because it's now allowed and they might even get sued or witch-hunted to the point that it destroys their career.
The irony is, the concept of gender 'boxes' had been dismantled for many years, but this new ideology is bringing it back (constantly referring to 'gender roles' and gender being a 'social construct'), while at the same time constructing new 'boxes' that kids are flocking to in their thousands! 😢
it’s so interesting you say that because these people (myself included) are people who didn’t let themselves be confined to boxes. we are so happy being ourselves, and we know ourselves, and this is what we look like.
Yeah now it’s “if you don’t like pink then your not a girl” how did we hit a whole 360??
My “nephew” is 17. At about 13, he decided he was nonbinary and wanted to be addressed as they/them. About a year and a half later he ramped it up and decided he was trans. He presents like the first three people in this video - the hair, piercings, etc. - definitely not masculine but not quite feminine either. His dad won’t allow any medical transitions until he’s 18. I hope with my entire soul that he doesn’t start making permanent changes once that birthday hits, not because I don’t want a trans nephew but because I honestly don’t believe he’s trans. The thought that he’ll permanently alter his body and regret it scares the crap out of me. (and yes, I realize he’s actually a she, but I still love the kid and want to offer support to the best of my ability so I use the he/him pronouns)
I'm part of transgender youth and this sounds like your nephew isn't trans at all, being non binary isn't a real thing and you need Gender dysphoria to be transsexual.
Once your nephew/niece is 18, there is nothing you can do. they're adults now and they got to learn from their mistakes
And they use that love and compliance to abuse you and others into forced compliance...it's forced tolerance stop calling Her a he
Going along with the pronouns is only encouraging her and isn't actually helping her at all. There's a video about that on this channel as well that I would highly recommend watching.
Tell him to freeze his juice because he coukd go sterile
I find it weird they can get put on T so easily! I am a woman who had a total hysterectomy, and have non existent levels of T, which is causing me several health issues, yet I can’t get T in any other form aside from Gel here in Sweden. The Gel doesn’t work for me 😭
Same situation in US. I cant get it either because of dangerous side effects. T is a helluva drug
I've been seeing lots of stories like this. This is why gatekeeping is a good thing when it comes to medicine
It’s really annoying how these people can easily get these hormones (which I’m going to be fr, don’t even help them besides give them a little facial hair and slightly deepen their voice) and people who actually need it to maintain their health issues are have difficulty getting it as grown adults
Yknow how? Lots of activists insisted that "you don’t need dysphoria to be trans."
@@Cardinal_claw Only giving T gel when a patient that needs a better way to supplement T is a form of medical gate keeping that harms the patient and boost company profits at the expense of the patient health and wellbeing. This gatekeeping is obviously harmful for dredubz.
When I was going through puberty. I was MASSIVELY uncomfortable. I was mortified the first time my mum and dad told me i started needing a bra. I hated wearing anything tight or that 'gave me a figure' Going through those years of puberty i was so uncomfortable in my body, in who i was, in what i looked like/ what i didn't look like, how clothing sat on me. I wasn't allowed to wear the same stuff as i did as a kid, cos they just didn't make it for teens, or it wasn't appropriate. I'm now a grown woman, and looking back, i was just struggling with issues of my autism beforei even knew what it was or that i had it. and it makes me sad that so many people are being told that it's not 'NORMAL' to be uncomfortable in your body when it's going through such serious changes.
I'm at least glad that I was never upset about being a 'female', and that i liked traditional 'cutesy' things, otherwise I can imagine that people would have convinced me that i was a boy- and if I had been born with these youngsters, somebody would have made me feel like i needed to transition because i wasn't 'really' a girl.
nope, I most defo am, there is no right way to be female, and sex sterotypes does not a trans child make. I like gaming, cosplaying and 'traditionally boy stuff', and yet i am still a happy thriving female....This gender movement really does scare me.
Same. My parents are actually still attempting to force me to "show my figure". To who?? I'm not looking for a boyfriend, I'm just trying to live my life for god's sake!
please pray for my friends that got lost in this game and their family lives are being torn apart for the decisions they have taken. God please help this people.
Prayers don’t work. We know this. If prayers worked then the world would be perfect.
I honestly blame the government the most bc they stop them from having to talk to a therapist and get down to the real answers
I hear this a lot. Is that a real thing? Like a law that allows them to start hormones and stuff w/o talking to a therapist? Bc that’s insane! I also hear ppl talk about the government incentivizing kids to transition but I don’t know where they’re getting that information.
@ yea it was back almost 8-9 years ago I last new of. But they have got in our schools and got pornography like books in there libraries and reading kids in elementary school books that are more or less saying there are more than two genders and if they don’t feel like the gender they are it’s ok to just change your gender and they have laws that was allowing the teachers and whom ever to hide things and not allow parents to set the rules for there child. It had got real bad.
You are so real, and not afraid to speak the truth! im a teen and around 14 i had a phase like this... i changed my name, pronouns, cut my hair, dressed like a guy, and i also started liking girls... 3 years later i sit here being one of the most feminine bisexual teenager you've ever seen. Please listen to this guy you as a teen HAVE NO IDEA what your gender really is, phases come and go and you should not be able to decide about life changing procedures underage.
Interesting journey. I never cut my hair or dressed like a guy nor I liked girls ever. I only changed my name and pronouns online (pronouns have always been he/him by the way). You know, the first thing that made me question myself was the fact that I experienced some weird feeling when someone would refer to me as he/him in person (it was on accident by the way)....it felt like some sort of happiness I don't know. Although all this confusing mess started when I was 13. I'm 16 now. Also, I agree with you to be honest.
I think it's a phase for me too ngl. Only time will tell...but at the current moment of writing this comment I haven't outgrown this phase yet.
how can you judge a person's whole gender identity based on a 20 second video tf? (im talking about most of these tictcks
Hello, I know this has nothing much to do with the video but I have been watching your videos for a long while now and I just wanted to say that it is very good how you clarifiy things and how you give your honest opinion. Also, I wish you a happy new year and to everyone who sees this too! 🎇
First tiktok clip shown... IMMEDIATELY felt concerned.
Also, I am truly happy that I found your channel because you are able to speak your opinions I can not with most of the people in my life. Currently (28 yr old) going through my own transitioning journey, and as much as this process is working very well for me thankfully..and bringing inner peace, I am sad that I have to constantly hold back my opinions within the community.. even when those opinions are just simple concerns for others. It takes a lot of strength to do what you do on your channel, you are very inspiring.
this made me question my gender. what if i am my agab?
then my heart stopped working correctly.
that's a reassurance scary enough to not question my own nb gender further. i also received the same reaction when i was thinking i might be a man.
I am so glad I grew up in the 1960's. I was a tomboy. I liked jeans and tshirts, I liked to play with my dog and ride my bike. I didn't like dresses and dolls. I was quite uncomfortable with puberty but I got over it.
Me too. I was a 90’s kid, but still, I developed early and I went through a phase wearing tight sports bras and boys clothes bc I wasn’t ready to be a woman. I can’t imagine how confused I would have been if that were today.
I used to identify as nonbinary for about 9 years until I figured out that I am and always will be a biological woman starting in 2021, though I didn’t fully accept this or really tell anyone until late in 2024, and I am so so grateful that I never went on testosterone nor get any surgeries (I never wanted to physically/medically transition) because I would have been miserable now if I had done so.
Regardless if what you say makes sense or not, it's disrespectful to call them women if they identify otherwise
No, it's disrespectful to demand that the world change around you, everyone is free to identify as whatever and everyone is free to call anyone however they want.
No. It's not.
Also, I love how you articulated yourself in this video, from respect and understanding; that’s something rare today but still very appreciated.
I feel like even if you disagree with those people, its a step too far to be misgendering them on purpose. Because no matter if you think theyre actually trans or not, what they prefer would be that you call them by the pronounds they most likely have in their profile. It just makes you look very bitter imo. I do agree with some of your content, especially with the surgeries on minors. But theres no need to shoot around this much friendly fire sir.
Two friends of mine have recently said that they allowed themselves wearing make up only after starting HRT. I found this concerning too. Like, is it wrong to be a girl and like make up? But if you are a gnc/trans boy, you are cool and edgy.
I used to be a really untidy tomboy with tons of inner misogyny, then a goth androgyn (allowed myself make up at that point while nor being 'girly', yeah, thought myself non-binary). Now I'm a femme (lesbian) and I love it.
you're saying your misogyny went away ? i don't believe it
This must be infuriating for you. Im so sorry you even have to watch these lost kids making a mockery of something you had to deal with that was probably super traumatic and hard for you. Thank you for doing what you do. ❤
He doesn't 'have' to.. He does it because he cares and he is trying to help inform people about what trans and gender dysphoria actually is..
He doesn't 'have' to.. He does it because he genuinely wants to help and inform others ❤
the real issue is that it's so blurred you can't tell who is genuine or just joining a fad
not a mockery but a celebration! isn’t it so wonderful that modern medicine allows us to be ourselves?
@ are you the one in the video called crowley wtf
Hello, I have to admit that I don't know much about this but I'm learning. I have questions but I'm glad you are happy with who you are. Enjoy your life!
Watch Buck Angel and Blair White too...
This channel in just 2 videos has taught me more on LGBT than anything/anyone in a decade.
It clarified my own experience, my sibling's experience, and helped clarify so much that nowadays is left very confusing.
Thank you for what you're doing.
Hi Marcus! I love you and thank you for standing up for young women and young men alike! I think the work you are doing is super important and your message needs to be heard. Keep up the amazing work, you are wonderful ❤
Let the kids do what they want life’s to short to pussyfoot around we are all trans and we should support each other especially the trans youth
Are they going to Drs? Its crazy that they will do a top surgery under a year of transitioning 😮
They should go back in time and go back to making a therapist sign off saying that they are in a way trans I guess. They have brainwashed by the doctors and theripest push this now even. I’m disgusted with the trans and woke community bc they are throwing their agenda on or kids even there class rooms. The teachers are also pushing this bc they read these books telling them they are different and can change there body to be happy
the problem with this is it gets difficult to determine who is actually trans and who is being manipulated into making a big irreversible mistake as a fad
i came out at nine years old when i didn’t have the proper words to express myself. i can’t possible fathom what my life would be like if i tried for even a moment longer to pretend to be a woman. no one is transitioning as a fad, we are transitioning to survive
@ you can't come out at 9 years old no matter what you think lol
Guess your just ignoring all the people transition back because of just that. Social pressure aka fad. I know 3 girl irl that have already regreted what they've done to themselves. Your just wrong
I love your channel. I'm so glad that I discovered you a few years ago. Side note, you look so handsome! I love your natural curly hair. I hope that you have a great day.
I don’t know if you take recommendations, but it would be cool if you did some sort of QNA video for young dysphoric people who are trying to navigate the health system right now with all this nonsense going on. It’s really hard to find unbiased/non-political advice on how to navigate dysphoria pre-operation. Most groups online are anti operation to begin with, and most therapists “professionals” I’ve talked to don’t seem to have the patients best interest in mind when questions are asked. I think it’d be really interesting and helpful to the true dysphoric people to make an educational video like that. Most other ones online are filled with political bias or aren’t made by trans people.
Yes, isn't it interesting how hard it is to find simple, solid, unbiased advice. You'd think a movement that is supposedly advocating for the best interests of trans people would make that a top priority.
hi, it’s crowley, the “really young child”. this video was brought to my attention and i really feel pity for you. I came out as trans at nine years old, and for so many years I was incredibly unhappy because I was unable to transition. I did all the stereotypical masculine things to fit in- I shaved my head, I wore dark, baggy clothing, I had a masculine name. In that time, I was depressed, and masculine, and never felt less like myself. That’s because that wasn’t my authentic self. I am happy when I get to experiment with my look- when I have long hair, when I try different styles- etc etc etc. I started testosterone at sixteen after four years of psychiatric help, and the whole time I pleaded with my doctors to help me. I stayed firm and got exactly what I knew would help me. I’m sorry that you believe that the only way to want to be masculine or to be a man is to conform within social boundaries, and I’m sorry that you’ll probably never find your authentic self because you are afraid of the judgement of others. I’ve got a pretty good life, with a lot of people who love and even admire me for being myself. Yes, I know I’ve written a lot but I’ll leave with one last thing: being young and trans is a blessing I’ll never take for granted. Getting to show other people that young people can be trans and happy and successful has been a gift. I hope one day you’ll see how much of a miracle it is that modern medicine can help all kinds of people, even those you don’t like.
Im calling major cap on half this
@@PuppyBIoodi’ve no way to disprove you, but i am curious as to why you think id lie
@@crowley1782 but you do realise that he is trans right? and that he literally "found his authentic self" by transitioning right? The thing is - if you have such immense gender dysphoria that requires transitioning and taking irreversible hormons which - lets be honest - fuck up your body for life, that same gender dyshoria makes you want to do anything possible to not look like the person before the transition because you hate the characteristics which make you present as the gender assigned at birth - this is the basic principle of transsexualism! If you transition to a man but still want to look like a girl or dont have a problem with your girl body then what kind of gender dysphoria is that?
What’s crazy to me is he calls you a girl for the way you present but you just,, DON’T look like a girl?? Lmao. I saw the original video and I remember thinking how you just looked like an androgynous cis guy.
I 💯 agree with Crowley. Masculinity and being an FTM isn't always the same. It's alr with being a Transman when you enjoy wearing makeup and do pedicures. It's alr with being a trans woman and like wearing masc clothes, being a butch and do masc hobbies. It's alr with being non binary and enjoy with both. Human beings are unique and are born with a purpose in life and it's up to them to decide on what they'll do to be happy. Not just as someone but as their authentic human selves
This is actually sad, I am transmasc and genderfluid and I'm not 'confused' and this person doesn't really have a right to say that either, I know who I am and it won't ever change. It is very wrong to misgender anyone, they're not women they are what they identify as and thats okay, whats not okay is that you as a person is trying to tell people that them being themselves is a 'phase' no its not don't push your beliefs onto anyone. I understand that Testosterone isn't reversible, and just because someone is young doesn't mean they're confused, you wouldn't say that to a cis person right? you are also able to be feminine and be trans or masculine and trans, you also don't need to have dysphoria to be trans, I understand where some of your opinions are coming from but this stll isn't right and the transphobia is disgusting.
I'm 15 and currently belive I'm trans and also belive I suffer from gender dysphoria, but I won't be going for a diagnose, testosterone or surgery until I turn 18-20 becuse, what if I'm wrong?
Wise choice. I'd do the same.
Y’all, this is horrific.
I feel like I’m commenting on every video because this channel is new to me… I wonder if women, especially in America, are feeling like it’s hard to be a woman (r*pe, inequality, stereotyping women, etc) is part of the trend. Like are we just afraid to be woman?? Please, really curious about all this!
Just commenting so say how much I love you and your content ❤ keep doing the lords work, we need you 😂😂❤
I agree if a person wants to destroy their own body if they're fully capable of consenting to the medical intervention. What I don't agree with is the doctors who know the patients aren't capable of consenting and go through with it. There would need to be prerequisites that can prove this is needed for the individual and was helped to make this decision, given they believe it is the right one after all other treatments are tried.
This could constitute as aggression for just allowing someone who isn't capable of consent to be able to consent.
No mentally well person would want to destroy their own body. So no one should be enabled to do so. All ‘transitioning’ is harmful.
If this was being spoken about when I was a kid, I PROMISE you that I would have transitioned. But now, I’m a 32 year old female who is fine with the way I am. The only issue I have now is the excruciating period pain I suffer thanks to endo, knowing I’ve never wanted children and will never want them, but cannot have the surgery that would stop this because it’s not my choice and could change my mind… but people like this that can go to their doctor and claim to be trans and will be able to have these surgeries.
As a Schizophrenic myself, I would hope my doctor would stop me from doing anything crazy.
I’m a young trans male, since I was 10-14 (now). It was not merely because I was influenced by people on line that I feel this way, or say that I do. I’ve been confused since I was even younger because of the dysphoria and detachment I felt with my own gender, especially as I started going through puberty. And after a while when I felt I needed to come out and did not feel hesitant anymore and was positive, I told and came out to people. But even if I myself am still confused, I have time to figure things out, especially given my age and I’m still biologically myself. This was in no way just me lying about myself. I could say a lot more, but I don’t want to share my entire story on the internet.
However, these people are clearly still in the stage of confusion, because they do not understand completely how it feels. And I understand that you don’t feel comfortable in the body you were born in, I know that all too well, but getting surgery and medication/hormones THAT young? There is no turning back now, and that sticks to you forever. It isn’t like makeup where you can just take it off, you still need to figure yourself out as a trans person at that age. Things change as you grow up, especially when going through puberty and adolescence, and who knows if I myself will feel the same way I do now in the future? But that doesn’t mean I think that’s going to happen, just something that COULD happen. I’m still a trans person right now, and I will continue to stay with that identity NOW. These people are just taking it too far, and they most likely are going to be like “wtf” in a few years or sooner because of what they have done.
your content spreads messages that reinforce ideas that harm actual trans people. i am a trans minor in alabama and i legally cannot transition because of messages like yours
You'll be aight.
@ i'm not alright i'm only alive because of weed
@@ry-e2k but you do realise that he is trans right?
@@damnitaintright yes i do and that gives him even more ability to harm the trans community by spreading misinformation and fear
Being trans doesn't excuse with being transphobic
Confused is the word for them
I’ve been watching channels like yours lately, which are more right wing in the political spectrum, I don’t consider myself from right neither left but I’ve been reading and listening more to people in the left through the years. I’m still very young and I moved recently to the USA, in my country (which is still in development) there are more discrimination and there are not much laws to protect people against such or worse things like hate crimes, that’s why I used to read and listen more people on the left; but just having a year and some months living here I’m seeing more of what I used to hear and felt incredulous about, people accusing others of discrimination or hate speech out of any disagreement when there’s not, like some sort of victim complex… And I’m impressed because I wasn’t aware of that issue, people would do something wrong and when they get called out they would accuse the world is discriminating them, like trying to get away of their own social responsibilities… I believe it’s worth it to listen to both sides, and both have their rights and wrongs; we’ve been talking more about respect and equality for the past decades but it seems like we’ve lost a little the real meaning of respect and that’s kind of sad…
3:49 the individuals you're talking about don't care about the patients they care about the overall cost they're going to make. Keep in mind they can charge up to 50 to 100,000 to the insurance company for this patient that's extra money in my pocket.
I recently had an issue with sh, and even I, a hormonal teenager who was in a dark enough state of mind to try to hurt myself, realized immediately afterwards that this was something that would never change and I had irreversibly altered my body. Even if it felt good in the moment. Even if they're just little scars that will fade almost completely over time, I instantly regretted putting them there in the first place. I can't imagine how detransitioners feel about having whole parts of themselves removed and altered if I felt this horrid about 4 cat scratch looking cuts
Thank you also for the great explaining you do all the differences. ❤
Thank you for covering this...
I'm going through this right now with a family member and I'm terrified for my niece.
😢
Praying for you and your niece, I hope she can come to her senses. Much love to you
keep them away from her and good luck!
I think it's more because a lot of those people think:" oh so women aren't treated equally in life? So I'm gonna call myself anything else than a woman so I get treated equally" which is totally crazy and not the right way
How many middle aged people do you see that are still goth? Exactly.
Just let us be tomboys!!
The person in the Zeppelin and Nirvana t shirts...right, you listen to them.
No!! The grunge peeps from the 80s and 90s want their “uniform” back. Please don’t apply it to these people.
3:01 isnt gender identity and gender expression different? Thats why a trans man and cis man may have a feminine, masculine or other gender expression?
oh god
@ wht?
I think its insane how you can say some of this stuff while being a trans man. Ill use the example of the person who was 'comfortable showing their chest online'. As a trans man pre T and pre surgeries i still wear tight fitting tops, and crop tops outside. Its not transitioning that makes you trans and i think you, a trans man should know that. And also wanting to dye your hair, or cut your hair, or change your style or whatever else every so often isnt an issue. Thats them simply expressing themselves and its insane to me how you could judge your own community so heavily for simply being themselves and existing?
What is literally insane is actually believing that you can simply change your Gender. If you were born a Female you will NEVER be a male. No amount of Surgery or Hormone treatments is going to change that. If you were born a Male you will ALWAYS be a male. Sure if you honestly can't live with your self as your biological Gender then sure do what you need to do to live the best life you can but believing and expecting others to believe that you are actually physically the other Gender is completely insane. You can NEVER change your DNA.
Gender dysphoria makes you trans, if it's only about identity it is just appropriation. No matter what the popular narrative is now, an actual trans person will always strive to pass as the other gender, for them it is actually painful not to be recognized as the gender they feel like they are. A trans woman with a full on beard is not an actual trans woman, it's just a man who identifies as a trans woman or has AG, same with a trans man wanting to show "his" curves And Marcus as an actual trans person, understands GD, he does not hate his community, but is willing to call out people.
You must be new. He speaks about the difference between being trans, having body dysmorphia and just following a social trend to feel included; three very different things that people combine then regret later in life. And he like many others absolutely reject children going through such a difficult and life altering procedure before their bodies or brains even have a chance to fully develop.
I think it’s really interesting how you seem to not comprehend what he’s saying. If you have true gender dysphoria you would not show off the parts of you that make you dysphoric.
Being trans is not an expression of self the way style and creativity are.
I totally agree
0:48 who hurt you omg😭
@nichtsreimtsichaufcolin You know he is trans right and has a right to speak on it.
fr.. weird asf
@@AVeryStableGenuis just because he's trans doesn't mean he has the right to hate on people like this and entirely misgender them without knowing anything about their backstory
@@finnsphighter there's no 'hate' here it's called an opinion
Although I'm starting to agree with this man, but if it was actually transphobic, no, it's not a fcking opinion, if you think so, then you're clearly here just for the trans diss and not to listen to trans people's problems with people like this, you're here only to see someone who claims they're trans gets told they're not@@antzooma
This is brainwashing. And it's hilarious