One helpful tip I'll add that was missing in the last scenario- when you are dealing with someone who is wasted, get them a glass of water and watch them drink it. It may not be feasible in every situation, but it's a great way to make sure they don't feel quite so sick the next morning and to show you care.
as long as they are completely awake, because of course, never give anything by mouth to an unconscious person, but if they are too wasted to safely drink and ur trying to do things w them, yeaa that's on u
I totally agree with this method. This shows respect and the common courtesy of seeing if the other individual is on the same page as him or her (Are they feeling the same way).
I agree with this for the most part, but in the last example I think the sober person should check up on the drunk person every now and then to keep them hydrated and make sure they don't get alcohol poisoning. Also that they don't choke on their own vomit when they're passed out.
Sarah Sant, all good points and good considerations for safety. However, note that he left her in the recovery position used by EMTs and paramedics, which is an aspiration/choking preventive measure.
If I recall correctly the position you're referring to is the left lateral recumbent position. It's not only used for prevention of aspiration and choking, but also pregnant patients that cannot fully lie supine due to hypotensive interactions with the uterus and inferior vena cava. Good catch!
This series was SO GOOD... 🙄 Until that part about being "cool" by not expressing disappointment, therefore being able to "save face." 😬 Expressing disappointment that things didn't go as you had hoped AND reassuring that you appreciate their setting boundaries that you will still respect are NOT mutually exclusive. Deceiving by minimizing ones disappointment under the guise of "saving face" is some misguided interpersonal advice that sets a person up for built-up resentment in the relationship, rather than honest, open, safe communication that is otherwise espoused throughout this vid series. Please consider changing this learning material ASAP.
I do agree. He could talk to that person the next day once he’s cooled down and ask did I do anything wrong ? I felt like things were going great… But bottling this up is not healthy
@@vanessamilton8235 and you are being mean. I agree that if you would say "oh that sucks" and leave the other person feeling guilty, than it's manipulative. but if you do as @Alexandra Volz said, expressing your feelings AND reassure their feelings, than you're more honest than saying "it's ok" when it's actually not. I'm thinking about something like: "oh that is very unfortunate. I really hoped for [blank]. But thank you so much for being honest to me and I'm super proud that you are setting your boundaries." or somehting like that and I also agree with the initial post that we should not pretend to be ok when we are not, just to not "lose face". But if I had to choose, I would prefer so so much more people being disonest to me about their feelings for the sake of my comfort than people making me feel guilty about setting my boundaries. And that unfortunately happens much much more.
this is so important for me to learn. I live with my crush and it is a challenge to cope with the frustration and the rejection and the girls that he takes home and to stay respectful and friendly and cool and nice.
I uh, don't know how to say this but thank you for these videos. Finally getting educated as an adult and realizing I may have been taken advantage of lately, so thank you for teaching me its okay to say no in the future... and should probably avoid people who say otherwise
not really it demeans the male physce. Telling us that were evil for preassuring females and were to blame if she says no and should stay away forever. how is that morally mature? not at all these leftists are far from reality! they are anything immoral but not moral!!!
Whenever the camera would pan over to the guy to talk about how not getting what you want sucks or something, my health class found it really weird that he would just be there so we called him the planned Parenthood consent ghost
I would have put more attention on the feelings of the person who doesn't want to have sex: sometimes he/she could experiment guiltiness not responding to the expectations of the other...
This video is utterly terrible. It shows the fallacy that children can give an adult level of consent. It also shows no partners in lifelong monogamous relationships. Responsible sex is always between adults and always within the confines of a relationship in which a pregnancy would not be catastrophic (generally a lifelong relationship). Planned parenthood is clearly failing to live up to its name in this video. The scenarios they show are the antithesis to planning to be a parent.
I do not understand. If I want sex., or want a specific sexual practice. And that's important to me. I'll suggest it. And it's rejected. And I feel angry. And I'm willing to end the relationship. It can be a sexual relationship. Why should I say that I feel fine. If it's not true? Is not sincerity the basis of a relationship? I want sex, I consider it important. If you refuse, it's not okay for me. I will be dissatisfied and break with you. I think it's better than telling - it's okay, we can do something else. And then break up and not say why.
Martin Bittner this comment is disgusting. You're basically saying that when you want sex your partner better give it to you or you're going to break up with them. Who the hell says something like that?
@@lexieshepard9972 ~ I totally agree there, this is some very toxic behaviour, and is disgustingly disrespectful to the partner. Feeling frustrated and upset when someone says no is fine, but expressing those feelings by taking them out on the person is ABSOLUTELY NOT OK. Similarly, it's okay to break up with someone because you don't feel like you're sexually compatible, ie if one partner has a higher sex drive than the other, or one partner is more sexually adventurous than the other. However, and here's the key part, it's important to do this without without insulting or belittling your partner for having said 'no' to certain sexual acts. Everyone is entitled to say 'no', and they should never feel punished for this.
The whole point is for you to learn how to get over your sexual frustration. If you need a highly sexual partner, make that clear. However, they do not always have to say yes. Threatening to break up with them over it is not consent.
@@lexieshepard9972 Staying with someone in a relationship is not unconditional. Everyone has some conditions. Chat together. Go for walks together. Dance together. Go to the theaters together. Have sex together. Have children together. Anything that is important to someone in a relationship. If you want to have children with someone and your partner doesn't want to, you won't say it - that's fine, I don't mind if it's not true. You can say that having children is essential for you, and if your partner does not want them with you, you will break up with him. Clear, honest communication. And it's the same with sex and anything else.
@@torivenske you can say it's OK because you are not able to make a reasonable decision based on the outcome of your behavior. So they are talking INFORMED consent.
Why is no one seeing anything wrong in all these videos, promoting premarital sex, gay and all. #jesus lives# As a Christian if you feel a burning desire to indulge in all these can't you go on your needs and pray #sincerely# to God to help you overcome, trust me he will. Why can't we put this much effort to teach teens abstinence until Marriage, why can't we teach them sexual purity . Why can't we teach them to walk in a way worthy of the Lord. I can't describe the way #jesus# feels when we draw advice from these and neglect his ways. #Jesus lives#
The things you want to teach are unsafe and are proven through studies and that that type of education does not work and does not make premarital sex less common.
they are not promoting anything but honestly and respect. IF you are having a sexual relationship THIS is what you need to know. If you do not want a sexual relationship these films teach you how to say no, and teach others to respect you for it.
That last situation was so heartwarming
This video has helped me not to pressure my boyfriend
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That's a first. I've never heard a girl have to pressure a boy. Congrats! Usually boys pressure me. Booo
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One helpful tip I'll add that was missing in the last scenario- when you are dealing with someone who is wasted, get them a glass of water and watch them drink it. It may not be feasible in every situation, but it's a great way to make sure they don't feel quite so sick the next morning and to show you care.
as long as they are completely awake, because of course, never give anything by mouth to an unconscious person, but if they are too wasted to safely drink and ur trying to do things w them, yeaa that's on u
So cool to see people being decent to each other. Great series!
Sex is cool and all, but have you ever broke into someone's house to talk about consent?
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Uhm I have, you haven’t? Get with the times man 🙄
Or filmed them ?
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I'm so showing these videos to my kids when they are older. which will probably be painfully embarrassing for them...but too bad!
@Bob Gabat ok
what age are you thinking about? maybe show it to them before it's embarrassing ^^ haha
This series is excellent
I wished they would make vids like these mandatory in schools ;`( maybe that would save us all some bad experiences
so true
preach lol
thats kinda sexist to males wtf you dumb bitqch
yeah mabey I also wished they would teach this to girls and then thatd save us guys some bad experiences too!!
Sexual frustration can be HARD. pun intended
I totally agree with this method. This shows respect and the common courtesy of seeing if the other individual is on the same page as him or her (Are they feeling the same way).
I agree with this for the most part, but in the last example I think the sober person should check up on the drunk person every now and then to keep them hydrated and make sure they don't get alcohol poisoning. Also that they don't choke on their own vomit when they're passed out.
Sarah Sant, all good points and good considerations for safety. However, note that he left her in the recovery position used by EMTs and paramedics, which is an aspiration/choking preventive measure.
If I recall correctly the position you're referring to is the left lateral recumbent position. It's not only used for prevention of aspiration and choking, but also pregnant patients that cannot fully lie supine due to hypotensive interactions with the uterus and inferior vena cava. Good catch!
that black guy with from the straight couple is sooooo hot
This series was SO GOOD... 🙄 Until that part about being "cool" by not expressing disappointment, therefore being able to "save face." 😬 Expressing disappointment that things didn't go as you had hoped AND reassuring that you appreciate their setting boundaries that you will still respect are NOT mutually exclusive. Deceiving by minimizing ones disappointment under the guise of "saving face" is some misguided interpersonal advice that sets a person up for built-up resentment in the relationship, rather than honest, open, safe communication that is otherwise espoused throughout this vid series. Please consider changing this learning material ASAP.
I do agree. He could talk to that person the next day once he’s cooled down and ask did I do anything wrong ? I felt like things were going great… But bottling this up is not healthy
You’re being VERY dramatic. That’s your takeaway? Frankly, showing outward disappointment is a bit manipulative
@@vanessamilton8235 and you are being mean. I agree that if you would say "oh that sucks" and leave the other person feeling guilty, than it's manipulative. but if you do as @Alexandra Volz said, expressing your feelings AND reassure their feelings, than you're more honest than saying "it's ok" when it's actually not. I'm thinking about something like: "oh that is very unfortunate. I really hoped for [blank]. But thank you so much for being honest to me and I'm super proud that you are setting your boundaries." or somehting like that
and I also agree with the initial post that we should not pretend to be ok when we are not, just to not "lose face". But if I had to choose, I would prefer so so much more people being disonest to me about their feelings for the sake of my comfort than people making me feel guilty about setting my boundaries. And that unfortunately happens much much more.
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Marvelous production values on this series, thanks for offering what this communication looks like for us who've never seen it yet
They are amazing, teaching the younger generation to be patient and resilient......
I respect these videos
Thank you for making this video.
Could you add captions in Spanish? I'd like to share it with my hispanophone peers. I could translate myself, if that's required. Thanks c:
+Nicolas Martinez Great thought! I would help too
this is so important for me to learn. I live with my crush and it is a challenge to cope with the frustration and the rejection and the girls that he takes home and to stay respectful and friendly and cool and nice.
I uh, don't know how to say this but thank you for these videos. Finally getting educated as an adult and realizing I may have been taken advantage of lately, so thank you for teaching me its okay to say no in the future... and should probably avoid people who say otherwise
Thank you Planned Parenthood - we love your page 💙💙❤❤
This was very enlightening. Very informative, and morally mature. Really loved this video.❤️
not really it demeans the male physce. Telling us that were evil for preassuring females and were to blame if she says no and should stay away forever. how is that morally mature? not at all these leftists are far from reality! they are anything immoral but not moral!!!
i love this
Whenever the camera would pan over to the guy to talk about how not getting what you want sucks or something, my health class found it really weird that he would just be there so we called him the planned Parenthood consent ghost
Lmao my class just bust out laughing
Good advice
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I would have put more attention on the feelings of the person who doesn't want to have sex: sometimes he/she could experiment guiltiness not responding to the expectations of the other...
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Thi k I've only experienced people who won't take no or any other signals for an answer
I really like these videos thank you
I wish these vids were out 55 yrs ago. It was hard to say 'no' and have them respect it.
her chin lmfaoooo
BUAHAHAH bruh 💀
This is like orientation videos on the first day at work (wishful thinking, not an ounce of realistic human behavior)
Who's here from OFY/what is wrong with the host?!?!?!
Jason Echeverria R IGHT
IKR.
i'm from ofy...i'd rather not watch all of these lol
It can be hard sometimes
that guy is so creepy
im never going to have sex I wanna be single
There is an unarmed black man in my house talkjing to me about consent. I do not consent to this.
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In your dreams, get real
what do you mean ?
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Yes
Of course
Todd Howard is gay?
apparently
This video is utterly terrible. It shows the fallacy that children can give an adult level of consent. It also shows no partners in lifelong monogamous relationships. Responsible sex is always between adults and always within the confines of a relationship in which a pregnancy would not be catastrophic (generally a lifelong relationship). Planned parenthood is clearly failing to live up to its name in this video. The scenarios they show are the antithesis to planning to be a parent.
The couples are all gay or interracial. The narrative is obvious. Baizuo
wow unconfident much because your clearly making fun of yourself
I do not understand.
If I want sex., or want a specific sexual practice. And that's important to me. I'll suggest it. And it's rejected.
And I feel angry. And I'm willing to end the relationship. It can be a sexual relationship. Why should I say that I feel fine. If it's not true? Is not sincerity the basis of a relationship?
I want sex, I consider it important. If you refuse, it's not okay for me. I will be dissatisfied and break with you.
I think it's better than telling - it's okay, we can do something else. And then break up and not say why.
Martin Bittner this comment is disgusting. You're basically saying that when you want sex your partner better give it to you or you're going to break up with them. Who the hell says something like that?
@@lexieshepard9972 ~ I totally agree there, this is some very toxic behaviour, and is disgustingly disrespectful to the partner. Feeling frustrated and upset when someone says no is fine, but expressing those feelings by taking them out on the person is ABSOLUTELY NOT OK. Similarly, it's okay to break up with someone because you don't feel like you're sexually compatible, ie if one partner has a higher sex drive than the other, or one partner is more sexually adventurous than the other. However, and here's the key part, it's important to do this without without insulting or belittling your partner for having said 'no' to certain sexual acts. Everyone is entitled to say 'no', and they should never feel punished for this.
The whole point is for you to learn how to get over your sexual frustration. If you need a highly sexual partner, make that clear. However, they do not always have to say yes. Threatening to break up with them over it is not consent.
@@lexieshepard9972 Staying with someone in a relationship is not unconditional. Everyone has some conditions. Chat together. Go for walks together. Dance together. Go to the theaters together. Have sex together. Have children together. Anything that is important to someone in a relationship.
If you want to have children with someone and your partner doesn't want to, you won't say it - that's fine, I don't mind if it's not true. You can say that having children is essential for you, and if your partner does not want them with you, you will break up with him. Clear, honest communication. And it's the same with sex and anything else.
It's okay to want sex but you have no right to be rude to someone who denies you sex.
you can still consent if you're drunk
a little tipsy, sure. But she obviously could not form words.
@@torivenske you can say it's OK because you are not able to make a reasonable decision based on the outcome of your behavior. So they are talking INFORMED consent.
Why is no one seeing anything wrong in all these videos, promoting premarital sex, gay and all. #jesus lives# As a Christian if you feel a burning desire to indulge in all these can't you go on your needs and pray #sincerely# to God to help you overcome, trust me he will. Why can't we put this much effort to teach teens abstinence until Marriage, why can't we teach them sexual purity . Why can't we teach them to walk in a way worthy of the Lord. I can't describe the way #jesus# feels when we draw advice from these and neglect his ways. #Jesus lives#
No one cares.
The things you want to teach are unsafe and are proven through studies and that that type of education does not work and does not make premarital sex less common.
because it doesn't work and plus let gay people live their lives they aren't hurting you or your kids so it doesn't matter what they do
they are not promoting anything but honestly and respect. IF you are having a sexual relationship THIS is what you need to know. If you do not want a sexual relationship these films teach you how to say no, and teach others to respect you for it.
Why cant you stop shoving your beliefs down everyones throats? #ChristianFundieAgenda