'You Don't Need To Apologise': Connell's Therapy Session | Normal People On iPlayer Now
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Connell decides to go to therapy and speak about his mental health issues. #NormalPeople #MentalHealthAwareness
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Paul Mescal’s body language in this scene is immaculate and painfully authentic. The sense of embarrassment meaning one doesn’t hold eye contact. The twitching of the hands and the fiddling with the fingers. The steady onset of tears rather than the blubbering histrionics we see in tv and Hollywood productions. Probably some of the best acting I’ve ever seen.
This sounds exactly like me when I have to talk to a therapist 😭
That’s so wonderful to say, I hope he knows what a profound effect this has had on so many people. At the end of the day that’s what great acting should do. Connect.
Have you seen him in the film After Sun?
Idk I’m a loud whiny disgusting snotty crier myself but I get what you mean
Connell was not the character I expected to relate to the most. I rarely ever see openly insecure and shy male characters on tv, especially done as realistically as this.
Yes same. When I saw the show I felt very relate with connell and that's very rare for me because i never identify with a man in tv show or movies.
but not that realistic because he is still getting laid
Ikrrr
@@McMickeyfreedom lmao
An absolutely brilliant video. Very well done!
You see Daisy, you should drop that utterly inept and amateurish Varey. The Daily Mail headline of 27 Jan 2021, says it all. It reads: Paul Mescal insists 'there wasn't a huge amount of acting going on' in his realistic sex scenes with Normal People co-star Daisy Edgar-Jones because he 'liked her very much' The ‘chemistry wasn’t just superb acting, it was real! He continues: You know when you have "it",' of having chemistry with his scene partner. 'I knew when I was with Daisy that it felt natural, that there wasn't a huge amount of "acting" going on. 'Gushing about his co-star, Paul added: 'When you have that chemistry it makes it so much fun! Daisy and I liked each other very much' So that's probably the root of it: having a similar sense of humour, thinking about the world in a relatively similar way and being able to communicate all that.'
He's really good. Its like watching a recorded video and not a drama series
Zel Matinong I genuinely thought it was a recorded therapy sesh. I’ve never seen the show, but damn, with acting like that, I need to see how I can get it in the US.
Fayshelle Djunki it’s in Hulu
@@fayshelledjunki205 my thoughts too, looking for the book too but I guess I'm out of luck
Exactly my thoughts
This. This is the kind of acting that deserves an Oscar.
As someone who has suffered from depression herself and had two mental breakdowns this year, I can attest wholeheartedly that this is exactly what mental illness looks like. 100%. At least, it did for me. It's like slowly dying on the inside, until you can bear it no more. At which point, you breakdown before the very first person who is willing to listen. This scene is brilliantly acted, and brilliantly captured.👏
I agree with you 100%, this is what depression looks and feels like -- total alienation. Paul played this part so well that I felt like I was watching a real therapy session, not an actor portraying a therapy session.
I've suffered, too, so I understand and I hope you're feeling better now. Keep fighting the good fight because you're worth it (we all are).
My thoughts are with you. Suffering from two mental breakdowns could not have been easy. Thank you for sharing your story and I wish you well for your future x
He was nominated for an Emmy!
@ac McG I am so happy for you! I sincerely am. I too, have started therapy and it's really helping me. Thank you for sharing your story :-)
@@skyefeyden Thank you :-) Mental illness can be a sneaky monster, but I hope you have healed well too.
I agree, Paul nailed this scene. I can't think of any other actor playing such a vulnerable scene so well. (Even though this is the first time I have seen him)
This guy is incredible. This is some of the best acting I have EVER seen. He is naturalistic to a fault. Unreal.
That's such a bizarre response to someone making a positive statement - hardly warranted @@EarPlugTV
@@stephenporter101 Weird. I did not post this comment under this video intentionally. I was responding to a completely different video 11 months ago. I apologize for any confusion or hurt feelings. And out of context I agree it would be a weird response.
I can see the pain in his eyes... damn
Good acting eh
He made me cry.
He’s so good in this scene! Another really good scene is after the debs he calls Marianne to apologize, which ends their high school chapter of their love story. Paul is a tremendous actor! Can’t wait to see what he does next!
Omg I teared up on that scene, u could really feel Connell's devastation. As he slowly grows more and more emotional during the call, until he's just sobbing on the street.
jennie I felt that scene too when he broke down.
I cried through the second half of episode 3.
TOTALLY AGREEEEEEE
His eventual realisation hits me hard when he breaks down ❤
Paul Mescal is probably the first male actor I've seen giving an accurate portrayal of crying.
What about Joaquin Phoenix? Philip Seymour Hoffman? Daniel Day-Lewis? I do have to agree, mescal does bring some raw talent - but its not like he’s alone in this.
What a really ignorant, sexist thing to say and all the people who also agreed with you are just as ignorant.
@@ojanymolina4222 sexist? lmaooooo pls
@@blonded4009 it is. They're saying that most male actors are incapable of displaying vulnerable, raw emotions. As if they don't cry or suffer in real life.
@@blonded4009 I don't even see why they needed to insert gender into their statement
I know this is the point, but christ, I went through the EXACT same thing. I was referred to the university's service by a friend. I was given the form (online, not paper). I was seated in a comfy, oddly coloured waiting room. Led into a spacious, empy feeling room. And I broke down in front of someone I'd only just met because I realised how frightened I was that coming to university hadn't changed me or my circumstances. I still felt completely alone, even after the drinking and "friends" that came with the early days.
Same here, can I ask has your circumstances changed after graduating?
@@Prodrentjet I haven’t actually graduated yet. And I’ve learned to relax, I think. I’m still very lonely, but have found solace in some things. I’m taking medication and trying to exercise and explore the city and the surrounding area (met some very kind horses) as often as I can.
@@proximacentauri2684 glad to hear you're faring well Michael. Hope it stays up for you. Depression sucks.
@@proximacentauri2684 ❤️
some would say that's the onset of depression or schizo... I'd say that's most peoples experience, therefore normal .
It was Paul's first television role, and he won a BAFTA and was nominated for an Emmy. Aftersun was his first lead role in a film, and he's nominated for an Oscar, for Lead Actor. Recently, it was announced that he is nominated for an Oliver Award for his performance in A Street Car Named Desire.
It's a little insane, but unsurprising (and very well-deserved), just how quickly Paul is establishing himself as one of the best of his generation.
This particular scene shows his talent as an actor. It was so real and emotional. It seemed like you were sitting in an actual therapy session.
I literally thought it was a legit therapy session until I checked the comments. Its pretty insane he's this good at acting.
I still can't believe this is his first TV role. He's outstanding in Normal People. I really hope he has a successful career 👏👏👏
Fast forward 2 years, Oscar nominated actor 😃
@babybobs6 deserved the win I would say.
I think so many people can relate to this when they leave their home town and go away to university...I felt like that too 🥺..so sad...brilliant actor
True... I’m in the states now but miss my hometown ... been 3 years since I visited
So true!
That added layer of losing a childhood friend, having that tie to your former life cut off forever... I can relate.
This… I left my hometown 6 years ago.
As a therapist, I usually try to avoid watching scenes like this but I'm glad I made an exception. Absolutely spot-on performance of a client, and props to the writers - 99% of clients apologize for crying/breaking down in session, at least the first time they do it.
I have my theory as to why patients apologize in therapy (over and over), but I'm curious to know why you think they do.
I feel that Paul Mescal was able to create something that even the original book failed to communicate. In the book, we only are made aware of Connell's crying after his whole speech, the author clarifies that throughout all that he was crying, but we find that out in a short passing line. Here Paul is able to express years of repression and Connell's devastating mental state, it's like a last straw moment, after years of feeling alinated both in company and in complete loneliness.
A rare occasion where the book and adaptation can exist in equally acclaimed light for different reasons.
This scene broke me and then fixed me again. His acting was incredible, I FELT his pain
😂😂😂 wise up
To someone with social anxiety and generally poor social skills this is really relatable. I'd love to be able to walk into a room and just make friends with people but I can't. I can practice and get techniques but as soon as I'm in a situation with new people I just freeze up and my mind reminds me of previous failed attempts and how worthless I am and that people won't like me anyway so it's better to just stay quiet
I can't begin to tell how much I relate to your comment. I suffer from social anxiety too. Sometimes when I go to a new place, I think I will now make a fresh start, will be an extrovert here, act like an extrovert atleast and then I can slowly see history repeating itself. Makes you feel worthless. It's shitty
I would be your friend
Paul Mescal is an absolutely phenomenal actor.
The way Sally Rooney wrote about depression and the way Paul Mescal brought Connell’s character to life is just phenomenal. I’ve never seen such accurate representation of depression before
This boy can act--he's the real thing. What a nice thing to discover. I wish Mr. Mescal all the best--!
I wanted to jump to the screen and hug him. When he openly says he's not happy, it broke my heart
Showed this to my friend (hasn’t watched normal people) her response was, wow it’s so brave of him to broadcast his therapy session, her mouth dropped when I said it was a drama series ahaha he’s brilliant
Bollocks
It would be so nice if he got the Emmy. In an awards show that nominates so many of the same people and things again and again it'll be refreshing to see someone win for their first TV appearance! He's a shoe in for a Bafta nom next year.
He won’t.Political correctness trumps objectivity these days. Daisy Edgar Jones,just as brilliant,wasn’t even nominated.
@@NomenFugazi I know, right?! I mean, both of these actors deserve so many awards and so much recognition for this show alone.
It’s sad he didn’t win but honestly it is incredible that he got nominated for his first tv appearance especially getting nominated against such acting giants
I can't say I relate to Connell 100%. But when he talks about not being able to fit in and thinking that would change at University hit me like a tonne of bricks
The entire monologue is really heartfelt but especially the part where he just says "I hate it here" and his voice really cracks just sends me.
This is almost painful to watch; testament to just how good this man is at his job
He just blows me away. The whole series was outstanding.
Watched Normal People and Aftersun in quick succession and goddamn Paul's got me crying on a daily basisssss 😭😭
Such an accurate portrayal of young adult anxiety
I've cried with Connell. This scene is so soulful and so meaningful for me.
Never in my life i sobbed so hard while watching a male lead , i can't even relate to his character but i felt his every word, like i lived his life. He made it so believable. He's such an amazing actor. Particularly in this scene he shined the most.
it’s impossible to watch this scene without crying
Paul and Daisy are some of the best actors I've ever seen. This scene was absolutely spectacular and real. Its mindblowing how real it feels. One of the best portrayals of depression I've ever seen.
In this era of globalising, I think most of us relate to this. I wondered through groups, never really fit in anywhere. I was glad when I got a chance to leave town. I had close friends there. But I had to wait 4 more years to connect deeply with a friend. Been away from hometown for 10 years, and now I find myself detached from everywhere.
I guess it’s not anyone’s fault. Some just feel hollow inside no matter where they are, void follows them to death.
one of the most realistic depictions of a breakdown in a therapy session since Gandolfini's panic attack in The Sopranos in Melfi's office.
This acting is remarkable - I was taken aback watching the scene on Normal People and had to TH-cam it to watch again - hes so raw and realistic
I am in awe of Paul every time I see this scene, the first time I almost cried with him
When I first watched this scene I did cry I thought he was excellent.
I relate to him so bad. How his voice trembles and shakes as he speaks. I’ve been through that. I still am.
This scene plus the one where he leaves a voice msg for marriane after the Debs is so..... Heart wrenching.
This scene destroys me every time I watch it. It's relatable to an uncomfortable degree. The shame so many people feel and battle can be hell to deal with. What a powerful performance. What powerful writing. Love Paul Mescal, man.
honestly this is one of the best acting performances i've ever seen. i bingewatched the show last month and i keep coming back for this scene.
One of the most hearbreaking moments i've seen in a tv show. I'll never forget it. Amazing.
Ngl, I bubbled my eyes out at this bit! Such an incredible actor - I truly felt all of his pain!
I’ve never related to a scene more in my life, I bawled the first time I watched this! Amazing acting ❤️
The way that Paul was able to create a feeling of sadness for him at first, almost pity, and then transforms it into us FEELING those emotions - letting our heart break with him. Haven’t experienced this level of writing and acting that has captured me like this did. Just rewatched this show and dealt with something related to what Paul is going through now. So excited to see where his career takes him! I’m a huge fan. I can’t even imagine what it would feel like to bare my soul like this in front of a camera
Absolutely spectacular. Paul Mescal deserves an Emmy for this.
What an amazing actor! I am in awe..
This particular scene got me in so many ways possible. What an incredible acting from Paul!
He seriously killed it !!! he is just a brilliant actor !! hope everything good for him, love you Paulll 😭❤️
This was so powerful. Especially, as to how they lead up to this near the end of the series. Although you could see some of these things, they never let on that it was this bad inside him, so it made it all the more real and hardhitting, It wasn't out of nowhere but you just didn't see it being this bad. That is how it often is, especially with men. I wish this didn't hit so close to home but there's a reason I have watched this scene over and over from time to time.
Me too...
he is incredibly talented. watching this scene made me feel so vulnerable for him. it’s rare to see a man opening up like this in such a realistic way. beautiful man and beautiful actor. i loved him in this
it was the best acting scene performed by Paul that I have ever seen in my life, full of truth and emotion ... I cry to this day as I watch it, respect Paul Mescal 💜
I recently finished this series, and I'll have to admit, it left a profound mark on me. I can understand and relate to Connell and Marianne in some ways. I really hope they end up together, god knows they deserve it. Yeah, probably one of the most moving pieces of tv I have seen in my 24 years of life
Genuinely the most convincing piece of acting I have ever seen. Nothing ever spoke so directly to my heart and experience with being in the early 20s... So so beautiful and devastating
I can feel his pain deep in my heart! Paul does really a great job. He is a special one ,
I was crying along with him so hard when I watched this episode 😢
Never ever did I see a scene that emulated my school days. What
an actor!
Outstanding. One of the most heartbreaking scenes.
Paul was absolutely incredible in this show, but in particular in this episode
I'm incredibly happy that Paul Mescal's career has been thriving since this show. Spellbinding performance.
This scene REALLY hit home to both myself and a lot of people who suffer from mental health issues or who have lost a loved one to suicide, or who struggle to adapt to college life, much like Connell. I adore how it's filmed in almost entirely one, long, continuous take, and Paul absolutely sells Connell's utter heartbreak and despair! 😭💔 Tissues at the ready! 😢🤧
This is how my son is it's heartbreaking.
This made me cry so much...
His performance was just spectacular
I've never seen the actual series.
And I cried.
This is really how I feel. I was told by a girl that I really liked to watch this and Marianne reminded me of her. We don't talk anymore but she truly was one of a kind. Like no one ive ever spoken to before. We never really spoke in school because we were in different friend groups etc, but I knew she had something special about her. I always liked her but people around me and friends always hated on her because of how she looked, and that hurt me inside because I would get mocked at for liking her etc. She will never see this and I know she is excelling in whatever she's doing. I will always love her deep down, and even though I may have never had the chance, I hope one day, I can get that chance again. She was beautiful inside and out, and it kills me that she couldn't believe me because everything I said was the truth. Her name was Sophie. If she somehow sees this which i know she won't, just know that you are special. To me and everyone around you.
I'm gonna leave this here but yh,
The one that got away.
KR.
Just reading this comment but reach out to her and see if you can strike up a line of communication again. It's not too late to see what might be, even if it's just a friendship
lol paul mescals daughter in aftersun is called sophie
i cant watch this series without tears rolling down all the time
is this an actor? If he is give him an Oscar
Yeah, it’s a scene from the series Normal People - give it a watch! It’s 12 episodes long I think? 30 minutes-ish an episode. Him and his co-star are excellent together!
Thanh D. Le he’s gooood
He’s brilliant! Honestly felt every bit of emotion in the series
He has been nominated for an Emmy
Thankfully, he is an Oscar nominated actor now.... well deserved.🎉
Everything about this show the writing dialogues the acting was so real, it was like being a fly on the wall watching them live their lives
Anyone who has been in therapy for depression, Bipolar disorders, etc. will vouch for this scene's utter authenticity. When Connell apologizes, he's doing it because he feels worthless and what he has to say is not worth expressing. When the therapist says "You don't need to apologize", that is achingly familiar too. This is a brilliant scene with a brilliant actor. Heartbreakingly real.
I teared up on this, not gonna lie... this show was so much more than I thought it would be... in every great way possible... it was funny, and sad, and honest... and this scene... whew..... man... i can only hope to create something so gut wrenchingly honest.
never related more to a character than I did with Connell in this scene... I had to pause it multiple times because of how close it hit home.. It's literally word for word how I felt in my childhood and now... Sally Rooney is a genius and Paul brought everything to life in the best way possible... This stayed with me, even if it's been a while since I watched it, I still come back to this scene...
I remember seeing NP last year and I stopped watching the series after this scene and finished it after two days. It's so personal and raw.
As of today, he is ACADEMY AWARD NOMINEE Paul Mescal. Hands down the greatest actor of our generation right now.
The worst place you sometimes can leave someone is with their own thoughts…
I’m not usually one with drama shows but this one hit way to hard. To much was similar and relatable.
This hit me like a freight train when I watched it earlier for the first time.
I cried because I've related to it on times.
This is marvelous acting. I literally thought this was a real therapy session until i read the title properly again!
This therapy session feels very authentic, amazing acting.
Congratulations to Paul Mescal for his Oscar nomination for Best Actor in Aftersun. He is such a terrific actor.
this is the most relatable depiction of loneliness I've ever seen.
I felt this so deeply
He is incredibly gifted,
I've never been in therapy, so I don't want to self-diagnose. BUT I totally can relate to what Connell feels. I don't think I fit in anywhere. I'm afraid to go outside my environment where I already have my friends that I'm comfortable with. Every time I try to adapt to new places, I always end up thinking about my old friends.
This scene is the most important in the whole show.
Paul mescal portrays depression so accurately, it’s not just being sad, it’s a feeling of withdrawal with everyone and everything, a loneliness and an emptiness that just clings onto u not matter where u go. And it just wears u out inside and tires u. You do things to cope with the feelings like Connell moving away would fix this feeling of withdrawal. The death of his best friend made it worse because now he has no strong sense of home to go to other than Marianne and his mother. For me I would use toxic coping mechanisms to cope with that feeling of loneliness and isolation and I’d put on role on what people would want me to be or at least make me personality traits more acceptable. I’d pretend I’m this silly person without a care in the world, I’d act like I’m too naive to be depressed so people wouldn’t worry about me if I did say something slightly more negative. And obviously because of playing a version of myself rather than being myself it makes me feel more lonely and all my life no matter how much I try I never find people like me, and it upsets me. Sometimes I meet people and I almost get tricked because I realise actually we aren’t a like as I thought and now this person has a very different idea of who I am and I feel forced to almost maintain it because if they saw all this hurt and pain and loneliness and all the ugliness to who I am, they will leave me. So I either end the relationship myself so it’s easier to cope with that loss and so I’m not abandoned or I carry on maintaining this character and hope the mask doesn’t slip, and if the mask does slip I hope that the person still accepts me. But yeah I feel for him so much in this scene and I wish I could give him a hug
thanks for sharing. you're not alone
I don't put a front on, I'm genuine and unafraid to show my depression. The result is the same, even though the former may grant you facetious interaction, the latter shows people that your depression would hold them back; either way, you end up alone.
As someone who has dealt with loneliness for a long time and depression I feel like I saw myself in this scene. Losing a friend when you don't have a lot is tough and devastating you doubt yourself and think people don't like you. Its this painful emptiness that grows and unfortunately sometimes it can lead to negative coping methods and it can lead to an addiction. Its tough but eventually you reach your breaking point where you feel so burnt out
I don't think that anyone ever described my life better than that comment of yours. thank you so much for writig it. take good care of yourself x
@@nancynancy1587 I’m glad you have someone to relate to and I’m glad I’m not the only one out there. I hope you have better days
i came into this series thinking i would most relate to marianne & have nothing in common with connell. & at first, that was true. much like marianne, i was always the shy, stand-offish outcast girl in school. but at the same time, i relate to connell so much more than i expected, especially as the series went on. his shyness, social anxiety, having a hard time fitting in in college, depression, etc… it was all so poignant and real
incredible just incredible! wow
He’s really great actor. He’s the best Connell. I cant imagine other actors play connell
This one performance is the reason why Ridley Scott chose Paul Mescal to be the lead in Gladiator 2
another great watch thank you paul
Rarement vu une série aussi belle j’ai adoré 💖💖💖💖
I think part of the reason why I loved this show was because Connell is a spitting-image of myself.
Incredible acting from Mescal.
Just incredible.
I truely thought it was a real therapy session show when I saw this clip. Added "Normal People" to my watch list without watching the trailer. Watched the series a year later, didn't realised it was because of this clip until the specic scene. Mind-blowing performance by Paul. WOW.
hand this man the emmy already!!!
Incredible.
Paul Mescel is one hell of an actor. He fully deserves every scrap of praise he has been getting
Omg watched this show seeing what the hype was all about and wow! This show really hit hard especially this scene! 😭
Some of the best acting ive ever seen.
I'm back here again because this scene just gets how I feel. Every word of this scene is just- a bandaid that I'm too scared to take off because I know the wound would hurt and it will bleed in places. I miss my school and I'm struggling to find that connection in college.
Wow, fantastic performance by the therapist. Really stole the show for me
Damn, his acting is so good