I remember these days. You would talk about Joy a lot. Good memories of our youth. Another note, it always surprises me when you talk about your challenges in life. I honestly don't see anything but my friend Johnny. I don't see a disability. Maybe it's because we have known each other for so long. It's interesting to see things from your perspective.
Thank you for putting this video out there...After the end of my bad, twenty year marriage...I didn't think I'd be in a relationship again...but eventually I met a man who I not only believe is the love of my life, but also has SB. Unfortunately, our nearly five year relationship ended badly when I realized that he still...even after all that time...just couldn't see a future for us/felt 'unequal' to me due to the SB. I truly believe I tried every way possible to show him that, for me, the SB was only one part of him...and that I accepted him exactly as he is....an intelligent, caring soul that I madly fell for...a man easily my equal...but somehow I just couldn't overcome the things in his mind (mostly put there by a not so great ex in addition to all the other typical assumptions that people would make/had made about him because he was in a chair). In the end, it was clear that he was sabotaging our relationship and deliberately stalling moving forward despite plans we'd been making and when I pressed him about it...he would only blame himself more and put himself down...then he abruptly disappeared when he couldn't seem to answer the simplest questions I asked of him in regards to our future...breaking not only my heart, but that of my youngest son who cared for him and still asks where he is and wants to call him all the time. I of course am gutted and consider him to truly be the love of my life, I don't believe there will ever be anyone that comes close to him--I just wish I could have found a way for him to see himself as I saw him...blahh...all that and what I really wanted to say was how great it was you put this video out there...and that I hope it will allow people with SB who might worry they won't find someone who loves them for them...or fears taking the next steps in a relationship to see that it really can work. I wish I had found this months ago and could have showed it to him. I'm off to watch part two now, but I want to wish you both all the best. (oh and edited this just to add...on the off chance you happen to come across this Andrew, you are loved and missed dreadfully)
Sorry to hear that. Spina Bifida or any disability is sometimes more mentally exhausting than it is physically. I do pray that more people with disabilities could experience "normal" life. If you haven't already, you should also check out the Squirmy and Grubs TH-cam channel.
@@ChasetheJourney (it's me, Clever Boots) Sorry I didn't reply sooner,...I went through a pretty dark time there for a while, but I actually did eventually check out Squirmy and Grubs and am a HUGE fan! Hannah's "Nope" and Shane's penchant for the melodramatic are so wonderful to watch! Also wanted to say that Andrew and I managed to get back together...though I think he still struggles with feelings of being "not good enough or worthy" of me which...Gahhhhh! It is one of the biggest struggles of our relationship...and one that can be pretty damaging to us both though I try not to let it and steer as clear as I can of anything that might trigger a downward spiral in him. I wonder if you and Joy ever struggled with anything like that? It's hard to know when to push something and when to back off. Past relationships he's had which were not terribly balanced, much less in his favor, have made him so wary of opening up and sometimes it feels like he's testing me...as though he's waiting for me to act like someone else and prove that little voice in his head that says he's not good enough right...ugh. I love him to pieces but at times feel a bit lost in how I might 'prove' to him that he's, for a lack of better term, safe with me...that I would never do anything to hurt him. Being a high-functioning Autistic myself, I tend to be very direct, say what I mean, and I don't lie (many Autistics aren't good at lying, I'm one of them). I also believe that his acceptance of the idea that I DO love him and i'm here for the long haul is still a work in progress...which is sooooo frustrating! If you and Joy went through anything similar, or have any thoughts at all about how I can navigate this tricky bit of our relationship,... I'd love to hear them. We just fit together so well, I don't understand how that doesn't give him faith that this is the real thing for both of us...
Some people have experienced trauma and as a result, trust is a hard thing to deal with. A relationship that's going to work will require complete trust on both sides...and that's easier said than done, based on past experiences. Those experiences shape us and until one recognizes their triggers and finds a way to navigate through them, relationships maye be tough. 😉
The idea of taking a little tour of some monumental locations in your relationship is so fun. Can’t wait for parts 2, 3, 4, and 5! Also, Joy’s biscuits look amazing.
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I remember these days. You would talk about Joy a lot. Good memories of our youth.
Another note, it always surprises me when you talk about your challenges in life. I honestly don't see anything but my friend Johnny. I don't see a disability. Maybe it's because we have known each other for so long. It's interesting to see things from your perspective.
Thank you. 🙂
@@ChasetheJourney can you do a live stream my friend
please
@@pumpkinseb666 No. :) Is this Nick?
Someone I know.
Binge watching right now 😅 great love story. Going to play part 2 now.
Enjoy! 🤣
Thank you for putting this video out there...After the end of my bad, twenty year marriage...I didn't think I'd be in a relationship again...but eventually I met a man who I not only believe is the love of my life, but also has SB. Unfortunately, our nearly five year relationship ended badly when I realized that he still...even after all that time...just couldn't see a future for us/felt 'unequal' to me due to the SB. I truly believe I tried every way possible to show him that, for me, the SB was only one part of him...and that I accepted him exactly as he is....an intelligent, caring soul that I madly fell for...a man easily my equal...but somehow I just couldn't overcome the things in his mind (mostly put there by a not so great ex in addition to all the other typical assumptions that people would make/had made about him because he was in a chair). In the end, it was clear that he was sabotaging our relationship and deliberately stalling moving forward despite plans we'd been making and when I pressed him about it...he would only blame himself more and put himself down...then he abruptly disappeared when he couldn't seem to answer the simplest questions I asked of him in regards to our future...breaking not only my heart, but that of my youngest son who cared for him and still asks where he is and wants to call him all the time. I of course am gutted and consider him to truly be the love of my life, I don't believe there will ever be anyone that comes close to him--I just wish I could have found a way for him to see himself as I saw him...blahh...all that and what I really wanted to say was how great it was you put this video out there...and that I hope it will allow people with SB who might worry they won't find someone who loves them for them...or fears taking the next steps in a relationship to see that it really can work. I wish I had found this months ago and could have showed it to him. I'm off to watch part two now, but I want to wish you both all the best.
(oh and edited this just to add...on the off chance you happen to come across this Andrew, you are loved and missed dreadfully)
Sorry to hear that. Spina Bifida or any disability is sometimes more mentally exhausting than it is physically. I do pray that more people with disabilities could experience "normal" life. If you haven't already, you should also check out the Squirmy and Grubs TH-cam channel.
@@ChasetheJourney (it's me, Clever Boots) Sorry I didn't reply sooner,...I went through a pretty dark time there for a while, but I actually did eventually check out Squirmy and Grubs and am a HUGE fan! Hannah's "Nope" and Shane's penchant for the melodramatic are so wonderful to watch! Also wanted to say that Andrew and I managed to get back together...though I think he still struggles with feelings of being "not good enough or worthy" of me which...Gahhhhh! It is one of the biggest struggles of our relationship...and one that can be pretty damaging to us both though I try not to let it and steer as clear as I can of anything that might trigger a downward spiral in him. I wonder if you and Joy ever struggled with anything like that? It's hard to know when to push something and when to back off. Past relationships he's had which were not terribly balanced, much less in his favor, have made him so wary of opening up and sometimes it feels like he's testing me...as though he's waiting for me to act like someone else and prove that little voice in his head that says he's not good enough right...ugh.
I love him to pieces but at times feel a bit lost in how I might 'prove' to him that he's, for a lack of better term, safe with me...that I would never do anything to hurt him. Being a high-functioning Autistic myself, I tend to be very direct, say what I mean, and I don't lie (many Autistics aren't good at lying, I'm one of them). I also believe that his acceptance of the idea that I DO love him and i'm here for the long haul is still a work in progress...which is sooooo frustrating! If you and Joy went through anything similar, or have any thoughts at all about how I can navigate this tricky bit of our relationship,... I'd love to hear them. We just fit together so well, I don't understand how that doesn't give him faith that this is the real thing for both of us...
Some people have experienced trauma and as a result, trust is a hard thing to deal with. A relationship that's going to work will require complete trust on both sides...and that's easier said than done, based on past experiences. Those experiences shape us and until one recognizes their triggers and finds a way to navigate through them, relationships maye be tough. 😉
You guys are awesome
Great vid !
Thanks so much!
The idea of taking a little tour of some monumental locations in your relationship is so fun. Can’t wait for parts 2, 3, 4, and 5! Also, Joy’s biscuits look amazing.
It's mostly all filmed, but... apparently I talk to much and it went past my time limit. 🤣