I wish I had this advice when I traveled abroad. I did the same thing, bringing my cousin to abroad within a year when I came to abroad. That was the beginning of my problems. I almost got deported. My good heart and my God was the one that sustained me. Please take his advice. If you get the chance to travel, cut family burden off your head and focus. When you settle, you can do better for them. Do not rush.
No matter the sacrifices you make for people they will still not be satisfied, they will even wish you downfall, they will regeat it one day. Thanks for sharing your experience
I concur with this gentleman. Less of the extended family.They dont really care about you. When the think the going is good, they pretend they love you.They dont.
I did the same thing like he did for his family and I’m doing the same now. I took care of my siblings and I didn’t think about myself and life first. It’s too late and I regret it very much, so think about yourself first before you think about your family back home 😊
What he is saying about his family is a lie because l know him very well his mother dead very early and his cousin mother took care of him so he travelled to Germany he came for his junior cousin and the guy never disappoint him they all live peaceful in Mülheim an der l don't know what he wants from his brother.
Very wise words on being abroad and overly helping family. I agree perfectly. If you don't think of yourself you will be drained and when you need help no one will help. I am gradually learning that
Hmm is not easy oooo that’s why we the up coming is hard to get help is very sad, helping others has become a problem now a days God help us. Dj God bless you paaa .
Everything this man saying is very true, please listen to the advice if you are interested in traveling or you are new in abroad. Focus on your school and you first before helping anyone but your parents are exceptional. After all my struggles in U.S for so many years, my only sibling treated me like trash when I went for visit in Ghana. After everything I did for her and her family. We should be careful about them because they are jealous and envious of our life. This’s a sister I wanted to help and bring here to America, but she told me she cannot come to struggling and suffer without papers like me and also leave her husband to travel. This’s my older sis oo. But now when I was able to go to Gh, she’s jealous of my life. I cried like a child, because of what happened I don’t even want to go to visit Ghana😢.
Honey what else did she say other than she can’t leave her husband come to America and struggles for papers in America like you? The way you are hurt and pained there’s more to the story. What happened?
@@tamnadvardis7039my sister told me she can’t come to U.S and struggle the way I was without paper when I wanted to help her to come to America. I did help her to build 4 bedrooms house which I personally gave her money to do the first 2 bedrooms, the light and the toilet system in her house and also get a car which I bought the car but she did pay for the duty herself in Gh. She said I haven’t done anything for her😅. Even if I cut my head open she will not appreciate it.
It's called the sense of entitlement. I do what I can. Whether you die for them or not they will not appreciate your effort. Trust me they will survive if u die.
God bless you for your advice big man. I paid connection for my SNR brother to come Germany here , when the visa came out he told me he is not ready to traveled meanwhile we both agreed for start all money gone wasted. 😢 He then later call me oneday and say to me he has got a traveling deal bi so I should borrowed him some money, a person wey you said traveling is not your interest now wants to travel, hmmmm I didn't want the family to say am wicked and stuffs so I gave out 8,000euros to my SNR brother as a loan. Not knowing the people he trusted them scam him and snice then I have been helping his wife and kids but yet still I'm a bad person to them so one thing I have learn in life it to focus on your own cos, when you're down no family member will even take a phone and check up on you . Never
DJ Nyame is a really interviewer. When he asks a question, he gives the person time to explain himself very well unlike some other interviewers. I enjoy watching videos on this channel
Ive spent years caring for my family. Trying my best to change their circumstances. My own mother was ungrateful and walked away from a store I opened for her because she lost all the money. Its never enough and they will take you for granted.
But to be honest these old time borgas did very very well for our families but now all of them are struggling abroad with no help . Hmm I was discussing this same issue with a friend abroad yesterday. These old borgas were super generous but yet life didn’t treat them well. I hv learnt a lot from
Yes language learning is very important is compulsory now, if you fail to learn the language, your visa will be something, my wife is learning the language in December she will be done after she will get better in Germany here.
When Pension age is at 67 , it only has to make sense and helpful to the natives since they don't have no other home , for immigrants it is useless to live and sacrifice your useful and productive years to at age 67 abroad only to then decide to settle home , there is no life to enjoy at 67,only death awaits but unfortunately most people get caught up in that trap, the both notion either to still live abroad or to go home after pension is stupid, he who finds the balance, plans on private/early pension and settles early back home is the smartest , more productive and beneficial ... Between the ages of 40-50 the wise should put in the work and should be prepared to go back home.. Africa is home ,Ghana is home , Emancipate yourself from mental entrapment ..
I concur. Get an occupational pension where one can retire at about 55- 60. It will also be advisable to invest in properties at an early age to give you an additional income to support your occupational income. If you reach the age of 66, then you have been blessed. You can claim your state pension. Trust me you will live comfortably in Ghana.
This man speaks the honest truth, nothing but the truth. Is it a mistake we Ghanaians, in particular, do? Absolutely No. will the family we tried our best to assist at home, or here, appreciate you? No. But, it’s worth it. The key point here for us is to learn from this experiences and create value for your self.
This story is very true how most Ghanian send money monthly when they can't pay their own bills abroad or have a peaceful comfortable life. That is a very big mistake people should learn from this story
DJ, you didn't ask him where he is from in Ghana. This guy should know me. I met him in Accra through GAABO, a very popular guy in Adabraka Accra in the 70s and 80s. If he is the one, and reads this he will know who I am and should get in touch. Gaabo was my friend. And he was driving me around when I came to Ghana from Germany in 1979 with a green Datsun 160J. You wrote to me about traveling when I got back to Germany. I even still have a color picture I took of you and Gaabo in front of Republic House, liberty avenue in Accra. Get in touch let's chat on old times if it is you. Looks like it is you and even the name sounds familiar. I relocated to the US in 81. I have even lost touch with Gaabo too!
Our water bodies are being destroyed, the land is being destroyed, the future of the youth is bleak, men and women are dying everyday from road accident and economic hardship and you want to come home?? You all should join hands with fix the country and freedom fighters let's make our motherland a home!
DJ, if you can humbly start to ask "How long or years did it take everybody to get their papers abroad?" So we the new ones can know how to prepare ourselves before such years. Even though i know we all not meant to have the same. Thank you
People are going through a lot with family back home. Being first gen 🇺🇸, things were different for me. I decided to make changes in how I help people back home.😏
@@asitis7624 Exactly! That's why whyt people have a functioning system in place, and we don't. Whether "family" or not, when you mess up, they will have the law deal with you.
You brougth you two Cousins in Germany and He came with yoir pasport and He bougth the Ticket him self can you Tell them how much money you own him where is his Land He told you to buy for him .which can of bitterness is that stop we have hat so many Things so stop
This is one of best interviews i have listened, how i wish i have his number just to tell him, he said everything i wanted to say about family members 🙏🏿
I wish I had this advice when I traveled abroad. I did the same thing, bringing my cousin to abroad within a year when I came to abroad. That was the beginning of my problems. I almost got deported. My good heart and my God was the one that sustained me. Please take his advice. If you get the chance to travel, cut family burden off your head and focus. When you settle, you can do better for them. Do not rush.
Thank you DJ Nyaame for interviewing this man. This interview is a greater eye opener. Thousands of lessons to learn from it.
No matter the sacrifices you make for people they will still not be satisfied, they will even wish you downfall, they will regeat it one day. Thanks for sharing your experience
One has to establish himself first and foremost in Europe before the family back in Ghana or Africa. Africans are naturally ungrateful
You can say that again
DJ, please bring him back. We need more advice from him.
Big up to this man..... He is speaking 💯 facts. Don't die in abroad is not worth it.
I concur with this gentleman.
Less of the extended family.They dont really care about you. When the think the going is good, they pretend they love you.They dont.
I did the same thing like he did for his family and I’m doing the same now. I took care of my siblings and I didn’t think about myself and life first. It’s too late and I regret it very much, so think about yourself first before you think about your family back home 😊
Hmmmm me too.
What he is saying about his family is a lie because l know him very well his mother dead very early and his cousin mother took care of him so he travelled to Germany he came for his junior cousin and the guy never disappoint him they all live peaceful in Mülheim an der l don't know what he wants from his brother.
He was determined. Very smart guy, a lesson to all.
this man is 54 years. but look more younger
Pls tell them for us, some men will ignore their wife and children to take care of the extended family
Learning lots of lessons from this page . God bless you DJ Nyame.
Glad to hear that… pls share our video links with your friends
Very wise words on being abroad and overly helping family. I agree perfectly. If you don't think of yourself you will be drained and when you need help no one will help. I am gradually learning that
We Need old Borga's like this man to really educate us.
We really do
Hmm is not easy oooo that’s why we the up coming is hard to get help is very sad, helping others has become a problem now a days God help us. Dj God bless you paaa .
I really enjoyed this interview.
Full of advice and sense
Thanks 🙏 pls share the video link with your friends on whatsapp & Facebook page
Everything this man saying is very true, please listen to the advice if you are interested in traveling or you are new in abroad. Focus on your school and you first before helping anyone but your parents are exceptional. After all my struggles in U.S for so many years, my only sibling treated me like trash when I went for visit in Ghana. After everything I did for her and her family. We should be careful about them because they are jealous and envious of our life. This’s a sister I wanted to help and bring here to America, but she told me she cannot come to struggling and suffer without papers like me and also leave her husband to travel. This’s my older sis oo. But now when I was able to go to Gh, she’s jealous of my life. I cried like a child, because of what happened I don’t even want to go to visit Ghana😢.
Sorry to hear your experience with your family!. Now that you know, keep your head up and make the best out of your stay here in the US!
Don't go to Ghana and enjoy your life in US.
Are you related to Ebo?
Honey what else did she say other than she can’t leave her husband come to America and struggles for papers in America like you? The way you are hurt and pained there’s more to the story. What happened?
She told you her truth. She cannot come and kill herself. Choices
You've really spoken well. I am glad that you realized your mistakes early enough to make amends. God bless you.
No matter how hard you try for your family, they will never appreciate you because they always feel you can do more
They think their money is in our pockets
Most of them are very ungrateful and can easily forget
I say er,I send my sister 2000 cedis and she was telling me they changed her e levy oo
@@tamnadvardis7039my sister told me she can’t come to U.S and struggle the way I was without paper when I wanted to help her to come to America. I did help her to build 4 bedrooms house which I personally gave her money to do the first 2 bedrooms, the light and the toilet system in her house and also get a car which I bought the car but she did pay for the duty herself in Gh. She said I haven’t done anything for her😅. Even if I cut my head open she will not appreciate it.
It's called the sense of entitlement. I do what I can. Whether you die for them or not they will not appreciate your effort. Trust me they will survive if u die.
@@AbigailOseiDuodu sorry hun you have done your best don’t kill yourself
Our DJ Nyammi dey look fresh level don changed.
DJ in fact you are more than good
You are helping someone of us
God bless you for your advice big man. I paid connection for my SNR brother to come Germany here , when the visa came out he told me he is not ready to traveled meanwhile we both agreed for start all money gone wasted. 😢
He then later call me oneday and say to me he has got a traveling deal bi so I should borrowed him some money, a person wey you said traveling is not your interest now wants to travel, hmmmm I didn't want the family to say am wicked and stuffs so I gave out 8,000euros to my SNR brother as a loan.
Not knowing the people he trusted them scam him and snice then I have been helping his wife and kids but yet still I'm a bad person to them so one thing I have learn in life it to focus on your own cos, when you're down no family member will even take a phone and check up on you . Never
Hmmm... so sorry. God will replenish all you have lost and more 🥺🙏🏾
Amen sis 🙌🙏. thanks for your motivation words, appreciate!
Sorry bro
But we need u on this interview please
After he refused to travel, you sent another 8000.... eii some people.
ALLL THE INTERVIEW THIS IS BEST.BRO TNX FOR ADVICE
This guy is a great guy. God bless you, man 🙏
It’s like helping people can be your biggest regret in life🥺
Not that, I did the same thing when I came to abroad in 90s, and I’m still doing the same now.
I’m telling you
This is the best person you've interviewed so far
Very ungrateful families and friends..You did what God expected you to do. Well done.
DJ Nyame is a really interviewer. When he asks a question, he gives the person time to explain himself very well unlike some other interviewers. I enjoy watching videos on this channel
Thank you 🙏 I appreciate pls do share our video links with your friends on whatsapp, Facebook page, telegram invite them
Even here in Ghana....... I learnt my lesson in a hard way😢.
Hmmmmmmmmmm
Same here dear
Ghana you call a home is being destroyed by evil men and women. You people should all join freedom fighters and let's fight for a better Ghana. Peace!
Daddy Allah bless you u have said it all n I have learn from it
am so happy for this interview 🙌 ☺️
VERY NICE INTERVIEW THIS MAN IS VERY INTELLIGENT❤❤ AND VERY HONESTY❤😮 GOOD ADVICE FROM THIS INTERVIEW😮😮
Ive spent years caring for my family. Trying my best to change their circumstances. My own mother was ungrateful and walked away from a store I opened for her because she lost all the money.
Its never enough and they will take you for granted.
But to be honest these old time borgas did very very well for our families but now all of them are struggling abroad with no help . Hmm I was discussing this same issue with a friend abroad yesterday. These old borgas were super generous but yet life didn’t treat them well. I hv learnt a lot from
Great advice ❤
You are not alone I did for 40years educating all my four siblings but they were ungrateful they even decided to sell my property God bless 🙌 🙏
Sorry dear........ even just one p3...... i still feel the pain😢
Oh very bad
Hold your heart 😢 Bro
@@marydonkor6619lol asem oooo
Eiii😮
How can someone decide to sell another man's property?
Thank youuu Brother
Yes language learning is very important is compulsory now, if you fail to learn the language, your visa will be something, my wife is learning the language in December she will be done after she will get better in Germany here.
When Pension age is at 67 , it only has to make sense and helpful to the natives since they don't have no other home , for immigrants it is useless to live and sacrifice your useful and productive years to at age 67 abroad only to then decide to settle home , there is no life to enjoy at 67,only death awaits but unfortunately most people get caught up in that trap, the both notion either to still live abroad or to go home after pension is stupid, he who finds the balance, plans on private/early pension and settles early back home is the smartest , more productive and beneficial ... Between the ages of 40-50 the wise should put in the work and should be prepared to go back home.. Africa is home ,Ghana is home , Emancipate yourself from mental entrapment ..
True, at age 67 what are you coming to do at home? That pension is a trap
I concur. Get an occupational pension where one can retire at about 55- 60. It will also be advisable to invest in properties at an early age to give you an additional income to support your occupational income.
If you reach the age of 66, then you have been blessed. You can claim your state pension.
Trust me you will live comfortably in Ghana.
Well said big boss. God bless you.
The Family at home is the key disapoitment the one
This man is talking more sence Dj
This man speaks the honest truth, nothing but the truth. Is it a mistake we Ghanaians, in particular, do? Absolutely No. will the family we tried our best to assist at home, or here, appreciate you? No. But, it’s worth it. The key point here for us is to learn from this experiences and create value for your self.
So humble by his speech. He will go far...
Great interview ever❤❤❤❤
I'm enjoying the conversation 🎉
Thanks 🙏 pls share the video link with your friends on whatsapp, Facebook page, telegram
He should come again dj
This story is very true how most Ghanian send money monthly when they can't pay their own bills abroad or have a peaceful comfortable life. That is a very big mistake people should learn from this story
True talk. Very good advice 👌
This man advised is very important so everyone should take it in his pocket
DJ, you didn't ask him where he is from in Ghana. This guy should know me. I met him in Accra through GAABO, a very popular guy in Adabraka Accra in the 70s and 80s. If he is the one, and reads this he will know who I am and should get in touch. Gaabo was my friend. And he was driving me around when I came to Ghana from Germany in 1979 with a green Datsun 160J. You wrote to me about traveling when I got back to Germany. I even still have a color picture I took of you and Gaabo in front of Republic House, liberty avenue in Accra. Get in touch let's chat on old times if it is you. Looks like it is you and even the name sounds familiar. I relocated to the US in 81. I have even lost touch with Gaabo too!
Our water bodies are being destroyed, the land is being destroyed, the future of the youth is bleak, men and women are dying everyday from road accident and economic hardship and you want to come home?? You all should join hands with fix the country and freedom fighters let's make our motherland a home!
Dj nyame, is the best.❤❤❤
Thanks pls share the video link with your friends on whatsapp & Facebook page
I always share DJ don't worry bro👍
God bless you Good word.
DJ, if you can humbly start to ask "How long or years did it take everybody to get their papers abroad?" So we the new ones can know how to prepare ourselves before such years. Even though i know we all not meant to have the same. Thank you
It depends, everyone has a different God. Some 1 year, some 10 years, some 27 year, some will never get one. Is only the grace of GOD my dear.
He’s making a lot of sense. Always put yourself first.
Good advise we need part 2
You have right bro
Bravo bros, sound advice 🎉
Thanks brother you are saying the truth may our lord bless you and keep you safe, be strong 💪 you are not alone ❤️
You have good ❤ heart//////
you have done well God bless you every thing you said is true
Hahaha senior Donatello 😁💔
It was visa free JJ time
People are going through a lot with family back home. Being first gen 🇺🇸, things were different for me. I decided to make changes in how I help people back home.😏
Master i related to your story paaah !but family is always a family, may God bless you brother.
That's where the problem is.
Family is always a family make them continue their evil ways
@@asitis7624 Exactly! That's why whyt people have a functioning system in place, and we don't. Whether "family" or not, when you mess up, they will have the law deal with you.
Thank you sir 🙏
I wish I watched this interview earlier. The family will ruin your life
We all done big mistakes family are wicked Good talk
She will get better job
AFRICAN FAMILIES don't think deep. regretably we should ignore family totally.
We all have this terrible experience with some family. Hmmmmm 😮
Why can’t I download the video please
Great interview
It's very true papa God bless you
Great lessons
Respect big bro
My School Grandpaaaa
Ure so smart 😅and prepared for the operation 😅😂
Akwantuo mu nsem....hmmmm
Thank u Sir
God bless you daddy
U make my day
Is true whats he is saying i
Hmmmm bro 😮
U are not alone bro,we are all victims
Do you mean I should stop what I have started…Because I’m in the process of doing same thing 😮😮
Think twice about it.
@@agyenimboateng1852some people might not betray you daaa so kindly think twice 🙏🏽
1988 eh i was not born mpo 😂
Miracle 😅😊
Wow
Hmmm efie nipa 😢
Part 2
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Hmm
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You brougth you two Cousins in Germany and He came with yoir pasport and He bougth the Ticket him self can you Tell them how much money you own him where is his Land He told you to buy for him .which can of bitterness is that stop we have hat so many Things so stop
Huh??😅
Tua tua tu tu tua
Hmmmmmmm
This is one of best interviews i have listened, how i wish i have his number just to tell him, he said everything i wanted to say about family members 🙏🏿
He is the type of people we need in abroad to receive us 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽❤️