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  • @Jammidodger
    @Jammidodger  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +116

    Go to squarespace.com/jammidodger to get a free trial and 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain.

    • @RivLoveshine
      @RivLoveshine 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I want to see pride pillows!

    • @samijodavis9204
      @samijodavis9204 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Seahorse Breeder!

    • @donnyshields4450
      @donnyshields4450 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Sponsorship ends at 8:17

    • @pencilpauli9442
      @pencilpauli9442 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      RIP Jamie's jam business that is not nor ever has been made up
      There will be a funeral with the symbolic berry all of a jar of jam.

    • @cathleenc6943
      @cathleenc6943 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I think your cats would make great models for that new line of feline athletic shoes you've been drawing up in your spare time.

  • @OverlyPositiveFanboy
    @OverlyPositiveFanboy 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1361

    "How could anyone be lesbian when country boys exist?"
    I'd imagine the existence of country girls probably answers your question.

    • @JuniperTree13
      @JuniperTree13 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +90

      I positively adore this

    • @joelpartee594
      @joelpartee594 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

      “Did you think I meant country matters?”

    • @katpiercemusic
      @katpiercemusic 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Country boys are apparently so irresistible that they’ve all gone gay for each other, leaving country girls to their own devices. And we all rejoiced!

    • @kafi_isweird
      @kafi_isweird 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +85

      and the country boys are dating the other country boys

    • @Void_Th3_W0lf
      @Void_Th3_W0lf 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +82

      Bisexual here. Give me the county boys AND girls
      Edit: Uhh.... Nvm I recently found out I'm actually a lesbian and my "butterflies" with boys is just anxiety... Anyways, I still think the above statement speaks for the bisexual community!

  • @eurydice5890
    @eurydice5890 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2087

    The worst part of “don’t date my daughter” that if she turns out be be aroace and actually never dates, the parents will be like “NO you have to get married and have kids and traumatize them, just like we did”

    • @disrespecc9678
      @disrespecc9678 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +72

      sometimes aroace people still do that

    • @woodykrska9947
      @woodykrska9947 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +110

      @@disrespecc9678this is what I like about these comments sections. People are all so nice, and we only disagree about the details. Everyone is inclusive to the best of our ability, and it shows. /gen

    • @starscreamthecruel8026
      @starscreamthecruel8026 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +112

      I feel SEEN :D and I defied them., still single and child free :)

    • @MusicMan27_
      @MusicMan27_ 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      @@starscreamthecruel8026lmao

    • @rachelann9362
      @rachelann9362 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +67

      Or just not want children. I think my MIL asked me once, and indirectly through my husband-she seems to respect it (10 years together, 4.5 married). She just refuses to call our pets furbabies, which is fine by me since I don’t refer to them like that either. Meanwhile my mom got two kids out of my older sister, so I was off the hook on that front.

  • @arisily
    @arisily 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1282

    Regarding the birth control one, yes, it is a crime to tamper with or sabotage someone's birth control. It's reproductive coercion and is a form of abuse

    • @LC-sr2se
      @LC-sr2se 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +190

      i also believe it would be classed as rape to tamper with a form of contraception

    • @FunkyLittlePoptart
      @FunkyLittlePoptart 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +199

      I know for certain that where I'm from it's considered rape to "stealth" someone. (For those who don't know, "stealthing" is when a man sneaks off the condom during consensual sex. She didn't consent to unprotected sex, therefore he is a rapist.)@@LC-sr2se

    • @sara.gem.n.L
      @sara.gem.n.L 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +94

      In Victoria, Australia stealthing is rape.

    • @44foxyy
      @44foxyy 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      ⁠@@sara.gem.n.Lmoving to the next state over today

    • @katrinadaly1755
      @katrinadaly1755 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +58

      TRIGGER WARNING: SA
      This is legitimately why I only use semi-permanent/implantable BC like the IUD/Implant.
      I’m aware not everyone has this option (I for one have tried every type of BC pill and had every side effect).
      After SA I just don’t feel like I can take that ‘chance’ of missing a pill, forgetting or not being able to afford it - I have disabilities that make any pregnancy high risk and my mental health and financial situation is in no way suitable to be dealing with even the possibility of pregnancy in that situation.

  • @bambino05
    @bambino05 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2647

    My MIL dropped my daughter off home after she'd been at nursery and apparently made a new friend, she said "[daughter] has a new boyfriend, called [boy]" like, no. She's 2, she doesn't have a boyfriend or girlfriend, she has no comprehension of what a boyfriend or girlfriend even is. I made a point to ask my daughter if she'd made a new FRIEND today. Last time my daughter made a new friend, a girl, no one made a comment about how she had a girlfriend. Sorry, not sorry, I'm not pushing cis-het normativity on any of my children. Until the moment my child explicitly says they are dating someone, I will not be insinuating that their relationship is anything more than platonic.

    • @candiedfinz
      @candiedfinz 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +358

      THIS!! I got so tired of hearing my parents poke at me about a boy I would be friends with, even after repeatedly explaining I didn't like boys that way and just found them easier to be friends with. Girls my age at the time were always dramatic and obsessed with cute boys and Lululemon. I couldn't get along with them. But I _never_ heard the teasing or ceaseless interrogation when I talked about girls that I usually received when I talked about guys.
      When I told my parents I was demian (demisexual + demiromantic, which is on the aroace spectrum), they were disappointed that I wasn't a breeding creature that hyperfixated on some lame ass guys my age. When I finally DID get into a committed relationship with an older man after developing an extremely close emotional bond and deciding I wanted to be with him, they shunned me for a long time and are only just now warming up to him. You can never please these cishets, I swear.

    • @ghoulsilver6352
      @ghoulsilver6352 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      and they say the gays are pushing it onto kids...

    • @MusicMan27_
      @MusicMan27_ 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +153

      honestly tho I hate being nagged about like liking my friends bc I’m aromantic so I don’t really want to date any of them, but I do love all my friends but it’s entirely platonic

    • @susannairisastarte5192
      @susannairisastarte5192 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +81

      ❤🥰🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️This queer person supports you

    • @anna_in_aotearoa3166
      @anna_in_aotearoa3166 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +94

      Definitely agree, that kind of weird age-inappropriate OTT amato-normativity is just blech, & continues pushing the narrative that people of differing genders can't just be FRIENDS, darn it. Big ups to parents who are more thoughtful about this stuff!

  • @kiryanna
    @kiryanna 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +882

    The fact that some women still need to claim physical illness in order for a partner to leave them alone when they're not in the mood is what I find disgusting, not the women who do it

    • @krazymusic68
      @krazymusic68 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +83

      Right? Totally agree with that. My partners will drop the subject IMMEDIATELY if I just tell them "sorry, I'm just not in the mood right now". We'll usually just find another way to be close, like cuddle on the couch or play a game together. People should feel safe telling their partners the truth.

    • @verynsawyer1413
      @verynsawyer1413 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

      Exactly. While the difference in what they want may be the underlying issue, if the guy is someone who makes a spreadsheet of all the times she says "no," that is not someone you can have an adult conversation about that with. I even bet many of the excuses are only used after already saying "no," at least once and him not respecting that answer.

    • @alexs.5871
      @alexs.5871 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I read an exchange a while back where a guy goes 'female privilege is being able to fake a headache to get out of sex.'
      And the reply just goes 'female oppression is having to fake a headache because a simple 'no' isn't enough'
      So fucking true

    • @07Flash11MRC
      @07Flash11MRC 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

      Same thing for when women don't want kids, but men do. Ofc it can also be the other way around, but statistically speaking it is mostly men trying to strongmen women into having kids they don't want jut to save the relationship.

    • @Shalakor
      @Shalakor 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

      Plus, ya know, people actually do just get headaches, and that tends to be a mood killer. The idea that a headache is always immediately assumed to be an excuse until proven otherwise (or even after proven otherwise) is quite toxic in its own right.

  • @Montesama314
    @Montesama314 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1341

    It's strange how some people want to restrict marriage rights to only straight people as if it's some sanctified and awesome thing, but ALSO there is this meme of marriage being miserable.
    What are bigots clutching onto so tightly?

    • @neon17.08
      @neon17.08 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      The bigots actually don't want gays to be miserable like them, how nice of them to think about us.

    • @marial870
      @marial870 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Exactly. Someone who supported marriage equality early on (Dolly Parton or Madonna, I think?) even said something like "Everyone deserves to be miserable like straight people" 😂.

    • @LoremIpsum-dp1li
      @LoremIpsum-dp1li 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +214

      Less people are getting married than ever before, most marriages end in divorce, yet the politicians in my country are refusing to grant the right to marry to the people who actually want it? Conservative logik.

    • @marybdrake1472
      @marybdrake1472 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

      That's a very good question.

    • @ellisburton8733
      @ellisburton8733 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +56

      Statistically, straight people are not doing so great marriage wise. Would be funny if Jamie finds out that non-straights are doing better 😂

  • @rejectgirl1
    @rejectgirl1 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +847

    My wife and I are sapphics, and sometimes we wonder if we're doing marriage wrong because we don't hate each other. She's always thrilled to come home to me after work, and I'm always there to give her a hug and a kiss. I can't imagine living in a house with someone that isn't happy to have me around, it sounds completely miserable.

    • @SuperJJParker
      @SuperJJParker 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      What's a sapphic?

    • @kitty79er
      @kitty79er 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

      that's adorable!!!

    • @ILoveYou-rv3pd
      @ILoveYou-rv3pd 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

      @@SuperJJParkerwomen attracted to women?

    • @SuperJJParker
      @SuperJJParker 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@ILoveYou-rv3pd 🤷‍♂️ I don't know, that's why I asked. So it's just another word for gay or lesbian or different?

    • @meep5667
      @meep5667 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +63

      ​@@SuperJJParker
      It includes bi and pan women

  • @enbyishimaru
    @enbyishimaru 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +380

    Caring about the planet was my first sign of being gay. Wanting to dominate it while having endless cake was my first sign of being ace

    • @CharaDreemurr_TheyThem
      @CharaDreemurr_TheyThem 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I feel called out.
      Did you get the notice that we're moving up the invasion? Heard only a few got it

    • @Silly_lil_scribbles
      @Silly_lil_scribbles 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      Real

    • @waffles3629
      @waffles3629 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

      Oh no, did someone forget you issue you your garlic bread rations? 🧄🍞

    • @floreya67
      @floreya67 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Same, I already was a climate/animal rights activist as a child, that must have been what made me a lesbian!

    • @Nokyyyyy
      @Nokyyyyy 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Welp. Guess I'm gay too

  • @OtakuSapien
    @OtakuSapien 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +389

    I once saw a baby onesie that said "I love getting picked up by older women." That is somehow fine, but a kid knowing gay people exist is age inappropriate.

    • @ShinyAvalon
      @ShinyAvalon 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +55

      At least that one has a double meaning in which one of them (a baby being physically lifted by women) is age-appropriate, making the _inappropriate_ interpretation...basically a pun. I feel like the "inappropriate words on baby clothes" trend probably _started_ with things like that...but then some troglodytes decided that funny part _wasn't_ the word play, but...a sex joke appearing on a baby. 🙄

    • @Raddiebaddie
      @Raddiebaddie 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Or like "ladies man" and "i love b00bs" on a bib 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

    • @Lemoncakelover678
      @Lemoncakelover678 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      ​@@ShinyAvalonit's so weird, I feel bad for those babies

    • @waffles3629
      @waffles3629 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

      Yep. I've seen ones that said "lock up your daughters" and "Daddy is my boyfriend" 🤮

    • @skittlemilks1614
      @skittlemilks1614 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Ehh that one made me laugh I’d give it a pass lol. Definitely agree with your point tho.

  • @silverghostcat1924
    @silverghostcat1924 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +667

    My question is: If none of the daughters are allowed to date, then who are the sons supposed to date? 🧐

    • @XxItsNotAnonymousxX
      @XxItsNotAnonymousxX 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +269

      Each other.

    • @kitty79er
      @kitty79er 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +124

      @@XxItsNotAnonymousxX 😂😂... perfect problem solved and then the women will run away into the woods but far from any kind of "wood"

    • @silverghostcat1924
      @silverghostcat1924 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      ​@@XxItsNotAnonymousxX🤣🤣🤣

    • @XxItsNotAnonymousxX
      @XxItsNotAnonymousxX 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      @@kitty79er Exactly. :D

    • @SilverAceOfSpades
      @SilverAceOfSpades 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      This whole comment thread is cursed

  • @taiga738
    @taiga738 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +263

    That last one about sabotaging the girlfriend's birth control with the intention of getting her pregnant without her consent is abusive and might qualify as rape. If no, it's definitely some kind of sex crime. Reminds me of the stuff about poking holes in condoms.

    • @athrowawayperson9990
      @athrowawayperson9990 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +63

      it qualifies as reproductive coercion, and yes it's a sex crime.

    • @lrfcowper
      @lrfcowper 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Any kind of sexual contact without informed consent is rape. Is one person under the influence, drugged, unconscious, etc. and therefore can't give consent? Rape. Is one person too young to understand what's being proposed? Rape. Is one person unaware that the other person has been having unprotected sex with another person? That's not just an affair, that's rape. Is one person uninformed about the lack of birth control? Raaaaape.

  • @WolfCat621
    @WolfCat621 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +233

    I've always found the "my daughter can't date anyone" trope to be so funny. I always thought it was a rule for every girl, and I was always wondering "If the girls can't date, who are the boys supposed to date?" And even before I knew what being gay even was, I assumed every time a guy who still lived with their parents said that they were dating someone, they were dating another guy cause girls couldn't date.

  • @Gwenx
    @Gwenx 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +310

    The "woman who deny their partners sex because they have a "headache" is disgusting" really hurts me..
    As a bisexual female who have only been in straight relationships so far, i have heard this soooo often... I didn't realize that i might be asexual, before i met my now partner, who is so nice, sweet and respectful especially around sex, he doesn't demand, he just asks, and he understands that a headache for me only gets worse if i have to scoot around in a bed or whatever.
    Saying no have been something he had to teach me, that i was in fact allowed to say "no" or "not today I'm feeling bad" or perhaps "hey i would like to try later but no promise"..
    Trauma is not for fun. No means no. If they start coming up with excuses to get out of a situation, you should seriously think about why they feel like they need an excuse to say no..

    • @iseinsdumm5703
      @iseinsdumm5703 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

      I am still rather young and didn't have any relationships yet, I am honestly so shocked about all the things that I heard people doing to/demanding from their partner. Like, aren't you supposed to like them and want them to feel good around you? I'm glad that you found someone who makes you happy

    • @angel794
      @angel794 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      So sad that you believed you couldn't say NO to a guy who wanted sex from you until you met your current guy. Anyway, glad you can do it now.

    • @bluedragonfly8139
      @bluedragonfly8139 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      One of my favorite quotes is 'No is an answer, not an obstacle.'
      I'm glad you've got someone who really cares about you!!

  • @rall-ellen7150
    @rall-ellen7150 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +61

    The "I hate my wife" trope is been around for so long and yet in our days when women are not that enthusiastic about marriage, the same men are getting upset that they can't get wives.

  • @SassyGirl822006
    @SassyGirl822006 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +243

    Cis-het woman here. I do not shave my legs. Not only do I wear jeans 99.9999% of the waking hours, I have very sparce and fine leg hair. If anyone is that close to notice, they are either invited, or about to be kicked in the head.

    • @Jeewanu216
      @Jeewanu216 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

      Rock it proud, sis.

    • @naolucillerandom5280
      @naolucillerandom5280 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      I'm growing out my leg hair. If it's too embarrassing, I'll do like our great grandmas and wear stockings or knee high socks. It just feels weird to think I haven't seen what my real legs look like since I was 12...

    • @lorettabes4553
      @lorettabes4553 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I'm mixed, on the light side, but with dark hair. I don't shave either. I like being able to feel wind on my legs. I only shave sometimes if I wanna look extra pretty for a part or smt, but almost no other time.

    • @lorettabes4553
      @lorettabes4553 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      ​@@naolucillerandom5280own it! I wear pants most of the time, but knee high socks are great if your legs get cold. Anyway, rock your legs!

    • @bluedragonfly8139
      @bluedragonfly8139 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I only shave when it gets hot and humid and the thought of anything trapping even the tiniest amount of heat near my body makes me want to cry. Otherwise, I wear jeans, so f it!

  • @someloser4180
    @someloser4180 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +237

    I don’t get how some people are teaching anything LGBT is “Indoctrination”. By that definition, wouldn’t teaching kids about religion also be indoctrination?

    • @Raddiebaddie
      @Raddiebaddie 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      They’re fine with indoctrination as long as they’re the ones doing it 🙃🙃

    • @IDKmanYouLoseTheGame
      @IDKmanYouLoseTheGame 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

      But... indoctrinating about religión cishet normativa is good! That will make them people of value to society!/s

    • @waffles3629
      @waffles3629 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

      ​​@@IDKmanYouLoseTheGame ugh, I wish this wasn't an actual viewpoint some people hold. It's terrifying. (I know you were being sarcastic, I'm not saying you)

    • @redbirb
      @redbirb 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      It's because it's about control, not caring about the kids.

  • @HeySlothKid
    @HeySlothKid 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +111

    The Venn diagram of people who insist that cis/cisgender is a slur and people who don't realise it just means "not transgender" is pretty much a circle

    • @Amara87387
      @Amara87387 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

      I think they think it’s a slur because they use trans like a slur

    • @waffles3629
      @waffles3629 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      ​@@Amara87387 exactly, it's quite sad

    • @credendovides20
      @credendovides20 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Honestly? Those who DO understand it are even worse.
      They hate that there is a word to define "not transgender" because they feel like for once they are not considered "the norm". They are not an affirmative, they are "not X". Putting emphasize on something else than they are makes them feel less important becase they are entitled to feel like they are the main thing everytime.
      The others should be defined with a word, they don't need it because they think they are the blank canvas of what a human should be and the others are deviating from this standard.

  • @Castkett4ever
    @Castkett4ever 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +290

    I once cooked a meal and then threw out the garbage. And that is how i became bisexual 😂

    • @ДарьяОсипова-ч1р
      @ДарьяОсипова-ч1р 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      at the same day?????!!! Oh no!!!!

    • @ShinyAvalon
      @ShinyAvalon 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Hopefully you _ate_ the meal in between cooking it and taking out the trash. ;)

    • @obcorc
      @obcorc 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      So what you mean to say is, you cooked dinner but made total mess; then you took the trash out, but something went wrong; the bin lid fell on your hand or something, right? I refuse to believe bisexuality can exist without chaos.
      (gentle tease from a fellow bi, non-chaos bis are valid 👉💥)

    • @Castkett4ever
      @Castkett4ever 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @obcorc damn it! I guess one cannot hide the true chaos from their fellow bis haha

    • @Lizard_Ri
      @Lizard_Ri 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Ah, that must have been what happened to me! Time to convince other people to do it too and open a bi cult!

  • @94DeathAngel
    @94DeathAngel 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +282

    So straight people wont let gay people get married but also they dont want to be married themselves? Are they anti gay or just anti marrage or both?

    • @reptiqueen7275
      @reptiqueen7275 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +78

      Seeing gay people being happily married ruins their idea that the marrage is the problem. If being married isn't the problem, then they must be the problem and they can't handle that idea.

    • @sharkburgers9301
      @sharkburgers9301 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

      they seem to be anti marriage, but if an aroace person said they didn't want to get married, they'd probably get mad at them or tell them they'll change their mind

    • @reptiqueen7275
      @reptiqueen7275 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

      @@sharkburgers9301 I'm an aroace, and yes they get mad when I say I'm not marrying. They also say no sex, then get mad when I say I'm not having sex. Like make up your mind people, if you're going to be a bigot, at least be consistent

    • @ShinyAvalon
      @ShinyAvalon 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      They're hypocritical haters with no coherent opinion on marriage - only boomer humor and bile.

    • @HumbleWooper
      @HumbleWooper 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      @@reptiqueen7275 We're still supposed to WANT it, just not *have* it until we're a certain age or in a particular stage of a relationship. Us truly not wanting it with anyone of any gender, race, orientation, etc confuses the crap out of them.

  • @Qibli_IS_cool
    @Qibli_IS_cool 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +815

    As a cis straight person, I can confirm, we aren't okay 😭🙏

    • @PansyPops
      @PansyPops 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +118

      I’m pretty sure nobody is ok at the moment 🥲

    • @Salikino
      @Salikino 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

      I hope you get feeling better, then!

    • @XxItsNotAnonymousxX
      @XxItsNotAnonymousxX 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

      Say "one pepperoni pizza, please" if you need help.

    • @Magnocalabro
      @Magnocalabro 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      No one is okay these days 😂

    • @Moonwalker2923
      @Moonwalker2923 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Aw well get better soon 🤣🤣

  • @racheld23biscuitsmom42
    @racheld23biscuitsmom42 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +235

    The other day at work I flinched and cringed because this poor man was at our service desk (I’m a cashier at a grocery store) resolving an issue and his wife loudly said “never send a man to do anything! Hahaha”.. another woman joined in. The poor guy was just solemnly going about his business as they went back and forth about all the stuff they don’t trust their husbands with. The irony was that the issue wasn’t even his fault.. it was a glitch in our system.

    • @ShinyAvalon
      @ShinyAvalon 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      More straights being _definitely_ not okay. -_-

    • @jacktadash
      @jacktadash 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      My partner and I are both disabled but in different ways and we joke about how the other is useless at some things some times but we love each other.

    • @verynsawyer1413
      @verynsawyer1413 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      @@jacktadash sure, but I highly doubt you would start talking in public with a stranger in front of them about how useless they were because of a disability that wasn't even getting in the way of what you were doing. It's one thing to joke with your partner about something you've established doesn't bother them, and a completely different thing to make fun of them to a stranger for no reason.

  • @kameleon7935
    @kameleon7935 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +504

    I thought I was an ok straight...
    Well, turns out I'm not straight 🏳‍🌈❤

    • @freddiefishton
      @freddiefishton 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

      That would explain it

    • @aoifedeborha2420
      @aoifedeborha2420 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      Lol I went through the same thing after watching this channel and started reconsidering some stuff 😂 congrats for finding out, spread love ❤❤❤

    • @LoremIpsum-dp1li
      @LoremIpsum-dp1li 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      My experience as well. I thought I was an OK (cis) straight, now I'm questioning if I'm bigender, which would complicate my orientation. (Technically, I'd be both straight and gay.)
      It's just a little bit disheartening to me because it gives me a feeling that there can't be any OK straights because those that are OK inevitably turn out to not be straight (and/or not cis). (I know that's not true, but my brain doesn't care about that.)

    • @pemanilnoob
      @pemanilnoob 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      I thought I was an ok cis for years
      How wrong I was

    • @kellibrenneke2253
      @kellibrenneke2253 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Right!!!

  • @CiCodiCadno
    @CiCodiCadno 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    To answer "Why don't they get divorced?" - it's because that 78-year-old manbaby needs a woman to do all the household labour for him. He can't divorce her. He needs her services as a maid, not as a partner.
    Also, if he's so "DGAF", he probably has a lacklustre emotional relationship with his potential kids or friends - men like that need an emotional anchor in a woman, and go off the rails without one to serve them.

  • @A_T216
    @A_T216 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +169

    The conflation by adults of youth and attractiveness will never not be creepy to me.

    • @noidealol9739
      @noidealol9739 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      ik, it's really gross.

  • @jooleebilly
    @jooleebilly 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +116

    I was in the gyno surgeon's office one day to ask for a hysterectomy. She asked me about my sex life, and I said I wasn't sexually active. Then she went out of the room for a minute, and her assistant, an older woman, said to me conspiratorially, "I don't blame you. All men are bums." I didn't say this, but I wanted to: "I'm Ace, but thanks." Plus, I couldn't have had romantic feelings for men? Or women? Or enby people? I mean, I'm not SEXUALLY active or attracted to anyone, but I'm romantically attracted to any and all genders. I didn't know the term "cake and cuddles" at the time, but that's where I was at during that time in my life. It was just a bit weird and I didn't know why she'd say that. I guess a man/men hurt her?
    And of course since I was still menstruating and could *technically* get pregnant (at 48), the surgeon lied about HRT and said she wouldn't do it. So I kept getting Depo-Provera shots every 3 months, and that puts you at a higher risk of strokes and heart attacks. But gob forbid they take away my "option" of having babies. Ugh.

    • @waffles3629
      @waffles3629 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      Ugh. I thankfully managed to find a doctor who would give me one in my 20s, but I had so many doctors who just learned of my wish to get one and was told it would never happen until I was at least 35 with 2 kids. One even asked me "But what about what your future husband wants?" while I was literally holding my girlfriend's hand. He knew we were a couple, not sure if he knew she's a woman (she's also trans and can't do anything medical atm), but because she was supporting me he assumed I'd eventually find a "real man". The doc who evicted my uterus asked me if I might be interested in a hysterectomy one day after I said I was trans (well and after explaining what non-binary is, which she just accepted). She even agreed to stop asking me about sexual activity if I promised to tell her if it changed. And she held to that.

  • @kwowka
    @kwowka 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +100

    Shout out to my cishet friend. He wore a dress to the movies once to piss of his parents. His little sister is queer and they’re trying to passively move disabled and gay friendly leaflets into the house. Icon.

    • @LittleLexi24
      @LittleLexi24 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      He’s a legend

    • @floreya67
      @floreya67 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Your friend sounds cool!

  • @Mike-di1og
    @Mike-di1og 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +257

    So many men equate “straightness” with “toxic masculinity” but then the majority of those same people conflate “toxic masculinity” with “consciously avoid ever doing the morally right thing in any circumstance ever”

    • @MorganChaos
      @MorganChaos 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +58

      I remember once saying that talking about toxic masculinity isn't attacking all masculinity, and one dude was like "name one masculine trait that isn't toxic." I named several (I can't remember them all but "loyalty," "calm," and something like "camraderie/companionship/brotherhood" were in there). He claimed all the traits I named were feminine.
      I mean, yeah, if you define masculinity as all the toxic shit and everything not toxic as feminine then yeah, okay, I guess all masculinity is toxic. You win, bro. Now let the adults talk.

    • @IndigoViolent
      @IndigoViolent 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@MorganChaosIt always makes me laugh when MRAs are like, "Feminists hate men! They think men don't have to be violent and aggressive and incapable of communicating and can be decent and respectful human beings, but we're just total shitheads who can't change!" It's like, wait, who is who hates men here?

  • @percyorsomething2641
    @percyorsomething2641 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +92

    I, as a trans man, have a lot of trouble personally with letting myself do "feminine" things in public, but today in my English class I wrote a stupid little few paragraphs romance story and read it out to the class. I love writing romance, cause I'm good at it, and gender roles stifle people's creativity by putting them into tiny weird boxes.

    • @GilboPaints
      @GilboPaints 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Hell yeah, brother

    • @catalinacaro8183
      @catalinacaro8183 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Don't worry, as a cis tomboy girl I also have trouble doing some "femenine" stuff sometimes because I feel I'm going to be seen as a girly girl and being treated as such 😅 (specially by the not nice part of society)
      You're not alone brother

    • @ClimbLikeAGirl-vz3gt
      @ClimbLikeAGirl-vz3gt 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm a cis Woman in my mid 20s and I've Def been on the tomboy side in my teens. I've gone into a very male dominated major and will start working as a mechanic soon and it gives me some major gender Euphoria lol. Somewhere along my finding myself and figuring out my gender journey I found myself comfortable doing whatever feels good. Can't wait to turn up in a frilly dress when appropriate lol

  • @skylaradams426
    @skylaradams426 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +296

    As a Christian, I completely agree with everything you said. I’m sorry for all the people who have used their interpretation of the Bible as an excuse to hurt you. I wish they read the parts about loving everyone and not judging.

    • @qu1gsley
      @qu1gsley 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +43

      same. i genuinely do not understand the point of hunting queer people down and screaming at them when literally there are gay or trans christians, and if you push religeon too hard no one will want it. so sorry you had to go through that

    • @donnamitsuki281
      @donnamitsuki281 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +48

      The other day I went to church with my mom. And I read this thing on one of the commandments,the not say Gods name in vain and it came with the explanation *not use religion or God as a justification for unjust or cruel actions* so... Literally everyone who uses religion to hate queer people are quite literally violating a commandment...
      That was a fun learning experience as catholic

    • @Blaumagier
      @Blaumagier 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

      ​​@@donnamitsuki281Yeah a lot of people incorrectly think "using God's name in vain" means saying things like GD but it really means invoking the name of God to justify actions that God does not, in fact, endorse.

    • @jacktadash
      @jacktadash 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ...the book with the slavery and r8p and genocide and racism and ssxism and Homophobia? I think they read it better than you smh

    • @marchg4114
      @marchg4114 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      Especially the last part. All those hypocritical pharisee-wannabes who mewl "I hate the sin, but I love the sinner!" are 1) ignoring the part about not judging and A) lying anyway.

  • @S-cape-goat
    @S-cape-goat 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +385

    Monday I discovered my kitten is intersex(boy and girl body). My famly are so transphobic thay wanted to "remove" my kitty. Now I don't let enny body come near my kitty thay stay in my room . Also my fear of coming out went up 100%

    • @kitty79er
      @kitty79er 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +87

      i would run away with the adorable cat and leave a note saying screw you and also i'm ....

    • @S-cape-goat
      @S-cape-goat 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +59

      @@kitty79er I would if my other kat didn't gif birth today. Have to protect the Fluffy babys

    • @espenwenttojarket
      @espenwenttojarket 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +72

      Sorry to hear this. Please stay safe, and remember that they are the problem. I hope you can find a safe space to come out, to live.

    • @S-cape-goat
      @S-cape-goat 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      @@espenwenttojarket thank you soo much 🤗

    • @qu1gsley
      @qu1gsley 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

      same thing happened to a siamese cat i have, their name is steppy :)

  • @alisaurus4224
    @alisaurus4224 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +46

    Cis woman married to a cis man for 16 years & we’re still each other’s favorite people. Like what is even the point of marrying someone if you don’t want to be with them?

  • @shinkoryu14
    @shinkoryu14 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +138

    To answer your question, "Country Boys" is the American stereotype of a rural cowboy/farmboy type who rides big pickup trucks and are stereotypically pretty masculine. Funnily enough, country music tends to be very dude-bro-y in that women get objectified in it a looooot by those masculine country boys. It's... unfortunately a whole thing.

    • @DocKrazy
      @DocKrazy 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      You mean objectified as in literally referred to as various objects?
      Like cars. And... Backroads or some shit?
      I don't listen to country music and aren't american lol that's just my impression and a vague memory of that one song I've heard someone else complain about.

    • @shinkoryu14
      @shinkoryu14 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

      @@DocKrazy Ha ha, no, though that wouldn't surprise me if something like that existed. I just mean appearing in the background of the video in short shorts and a bikini top. Objectified as in made into a sex object.

    • @bloodywilliam3083
      @bloodywilliam3083 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Ironic since the first thing I think of when the term “country boy” comes up is twinkish shirtless farm boys.

    • @bluedragonfly8139
      @bluedragonfly8139 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      We had an unfortunate stint of four months where the store where I work played *mostly country* and Istg one of the songs was a dude *rhapsodizing about his pickup truck*!
      Also that reminds me of 'sold' aka 'The Grundy County Auction Incident', which I thought was a good song as a youngster, then heard it again later in life and it gave me the ick something fierce.

  • @TheWatchersMeteorite
    @TheWatchersMeteorite 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +169

    "Love thy neighbor" ruins so many bigots reasoning for being bigots LMAO.

    • @AwwesomeVal
      @AwwesomeVal 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      My bigoted grandmother thinks that she isn't being judgmental or hating her neighbor when she tells people they're going to hell. She thinks she's helping to save their soul.
      It's tragic. I can't speak to the woman without an argument.

    • @IDKmanYouLoseTheGame
      @IDKmanYouLoseTheGame 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      ​@AwwesomeVal as a Catholic, the Bible literally says that the only one in the position to judge one's actions is God himself. Humans have the duty to love and respect others like they were their own brothers... it so sad seeing religion be used as a mere excuse to be hateful and discriminate people who only are being themselves...

    • @waffles3629
      @waffles3629 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@AwwesomeVal ugh, my bigoted grandma thought saying "I don't want all [slur for a racial minority] to be [genocided]" meant she wasn't racist. Needless to say I was "busy" for a lot of family events.

    • @saturnsafespace
      @saturnsafespace 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      half those people (bigots) literally don’t even actually look at old scripts/testaments. And not even the ‘man shall not lie with man’ quote was by Jesus or God! the og line too refers to ped0philia, saying ‘man shall not lie with boy’, and this is why things getting lost in translation is the worsttt

  • @PaulaRoederer
    @PaulaRoederer 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +70

    Speaking as a cis gender straight woman, I don't consider "cis" to be a slur. Also, I'm not ok. I've never been ok, but at least I'm not a climate change denying bigot. I like being married, and now I'm REALLY wishing pride jam was a real thing. 😂

    • @humanperson2480
      @humanperson2480 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Wow, found the OK straight!

  • @SuchitaBhattacharya
    @SuchitaBhattacharya 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +58

    29:33 As far as I know, it is illegal. Under the same law that makes poking holes in condoms illegal. It's called "reproductive coercion." In some places, it classifies as sexual assault.

    • @sara.gem.n.L
      @sara.gem.n.L 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I'm in Victoria, Australia and here it's classified as rape.

    • @athrowawayperson9990
      @athrowawayperson9990 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      in most places in the western world, it qualifies as sex crime, bare minimum, if not rape.

  • @GorillazGang23
    @GorillazGang23 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +167

    This is so strange 💀💀💀 like you get married just to hate on each other? Lmao

    • @carlagraca2729
      @carlagraca2729 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      And that's the story of how I didn't want to get married until I met my husband at 40

  • @ghostinlovewithaflower
    @ghostinlovewithaflower 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +233

    Why are some people so strange ❌
    Why are some people so straight ✅

    • @qu1gsley
      @qu1gsley 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      you beat me to it ;-;

    • @moimeself1088
      @moimeself1088 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Errr.. bc we are?

    • @Gale_789
      @Gale_789 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@moimeself1088As a straight person, we are both. (Straight and Strange)

  • @intercat4907
    @intercat4907 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +114

    Aw ... that's why they didn't want us to get married. They were protecting us from whatever this is. How sweet. And all along we thought they were just hogging all the happiness for themselves.

    • @kitty79er
      @kitty79er 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      damn they really protecting us from all that pain /s

  • @jacktadash
    @jacktadash 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +69

    I met two men in the park recently, I got talking to them because they likes my dog. They explained they'd both gotten married (to women) had their first kids, bought homes and got dogs and bonded over the fact it all made them miserable. It felt like I was being recruited into a gang or something, they kept trying to get me to join in with the misery fest but I like my partner, kid, home and dog and I have chronic depression and anxiety, I don't need friends that bond over hating their privilege.

  • @Alphaismyname
    @Alphaismyname 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +325

    These straights are indeed, not ok

    • @alicebthegachaweirdo8378
      @alicebthegachaweirdo8378 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

      One of the only straight people that I know who is okay is my little sister

    • @SuperJJParker
      @SuperJJParker 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@alicebthegachaweirdo8378You don't know enough people.

    • @alicebthegachaweirdo8378
      @alicebthegachaweirdo8378 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      @@SuperJJParker I know lots of people actually. I know my big sister who is straight, I know my mum who is bisexual (like me), I know my dad who is my dad
      I know other people too, but I’m too lazy to talk about them

    • @SuperJJParker
      @SuperJJParker 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@alicebthegachaweirdo8378 You didn't state that your dad is bisexual. So is he a not okay straight person?

    • @S-cape-goat
      @S-cape-goat 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@alicebthegachaweirdo8378yes wel I dont know enny happy straght cuppel outside of my famly. Thay al lie cheat and fight. . Also hi fellow bi person

  • @ShinTriAce
    @ShinTriAce 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +56

    Why are some people in relationships if you're just gonna hate on your partner?

  • @AlonAltman
    @AlonAltman 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +67

    The one with two women and babies, I thought they were lesbians bringing their children on their first date because they are single moms.

    • @missnaomi613
      @missnaomi613 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      That would have been cool.

    • @xfairfaeriex
      @xfairfaeriex 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      I read it as a first date between moms/friends who just became moms (aka first mom date) - kind of like a play date but for new moms.

  • @alicebthegachaweirdo8378
    @alicebthegachaweirdo8378 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +107

    I was just about to write a comment about how straight people refuse to buy their children clothes with a rainbow on them because according to them rainbows are inappropriate, and then Jamie said the exact same thing in the video

    • @S-cape-goat
      @S-cape-goat 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      My homophobic/transphobic sister doesn't know what the pride flags are and keeps buying pride murch for are Uther sister kid how is crazy about rainbows 🌈 ( she is 6 and her favourite colour is rainbow)

    • @noidealol9739
      @noidealol9739 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I love this@@S-cape-goat

  • @nicoleruser4909
    @nicoleruser4909 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +60

    What do you mean I'm not supposed to pump my own gas? Do I look straight to you- or worse, like I'm from New Jersey???

    • @benamisai-kham5892
      @benamisai-kham5892 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      Anything but being from Jersey 😭

  • @yazzyari9746
    @yazzyari9746 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

    The part where that man was saying he wouldnt date his age or anyone who remembers where they were during 9/11 is especially gross. I know so many people who were really young when it happened [like 4/5] and remember still, so he’s pushing 40 actively looking only for freshly turned adults and early to mid 20s

    • @kitty79er
      @kitty79er 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      he's icky

    • @Amyphere
      @Amyphere 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Match him up with a 45-year old non-American who doesn’t actually care that much about US news

  • @Drgn8DDragonsDungeon
    @Drgn8DDragonsDungeon 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +184

    Insert obligatory "green is not a creative colour" reference 😂

    • @sphis1327
      @sphis1327 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

      dhmis💯

    • @KindlyKalen
      @KindlyKalen 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      Don’t Hug Me I’m Scared Fan Spotted in our Community, Initiate Relatability like!

    • @Pomyluna99
      @Pomyluna99 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      What's your favourite idea :D

    • @MiloTheSilly
      @MiloTheSilly 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      dhmis reference omg

    • @deverashb.4875
      @deverashb.4875 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      GD it! Ihadforgotten about that disturbing video. Now I'm forced to watch it again.

  • @DocKrazy
    @DocKrazy 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    Meals? And no dessert? Kronk would be disappointed.
    There's always room for dessert

    • @bbo7002
      @bbo7002 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And coffee? 🥺☕

  • @cato5565
    @cato5565 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    Yeah I remember it was easier for my conservative teacher to assume that I sleep with my two best friends at the same time (they are twin brothers on top wtf) instead of realizing that Iam in fact gay and very close friends with them. It is so disgusting and violating...😢

    • @montanalemaitre4451
      @montanalemaitre4451 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Wh...What context would even have come up for your teacher to even make you aware of this messed-up thought process? What the actual hell?

    • @cato5565
      @cato5565 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I know it is just so fucked up urgh🙄...
      I finished school and after two years I came back to visit the school again out of nostalgia. My teacher recognized me and we had a little talk about the old times. She asked me how it went with Daniel and Luke (the twins). I didn't understand what she meant, until she said:" I thought you three were in a relationship or had something else going on together". I was shocked and told her that I have in fact a girlfriend, and there was never anything but friendship between Luke, Daniel and me. She smiled weirdly at me and told me, that she doesn't believe me. I escaped the situation as fast as I could, cause it was degrading, awkward and just WRONG wtf...
      And then I remembered that she always had made these weird comments towards us like:" aaw you are so cute together", "I think you will be dating as adults" bla bla bla (and we always felt uncomfortable about it but we thought it was weird but normal adult behavior...).
      I think her sick thought process was, that I would sleep with both of them and later I would decide which one of them I preferred and get married to him🤢
      Cause clearly children and young adults are sexobsessed weird creatures that don't know what is good for them but in the long run they will find "the true way" and marry one of their best childhood friends 🤮...

  • @chancematters
    @chancematters 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +101

    Well, jam was so on brand, the only next possible option is PAJAMAS. Jamie’s Jammies!

    • @girlwithtehface5880
      @girlwithtehface5880 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Dodger!
      (Am I doing it right?)

    • @bluedragonfly8139
      @bluedragonfly8139 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ...so the first 'ad' I saw about the jam wasn't this one, so I briefly thought it was real and was very intrigued...now I'm slighlty sad...

  • @jenl112
    @jenl112 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    When my niece was a toddler, she pulled a sticker off an old craft project and when I told her we could fix it she said "Papa will fix it, because he's a boy". I was going to point out that girls can fix stuff too, but she started laughing like the idea of her grandfather being a boy was the funniest thing she ever heard. The kids are doing all right.

  • @edspace.
    @edspace. 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    If I remember rightly from law school swapping contraceptive pills for sugar pills would be an offense as its an offense to obtain sex on false pretences under the Sexual Offenses Act.
    Granted this may not be the case in all jurisdictions and we didn't cover this in depth on the GDL but that might be the case.
    Anyone who knows more feel free to comment.

  • @LittleLexi24
    @LittleLexi24 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    As a Trans Girl I do try to avoid doing stereotypical masculine things because I’m scared people will think I’m faking it.

  • @juliatarrel1674
    @juliatarrel1674 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    "Be excellent to each other" Bill & Ted's excellent summary of many world religions' core message.
    Re post-pregnancy body: it's literally impossible for a woman to regain it. Pregnancy changes every part of the body, not just the belly.

  • @94DeathAngel
    @94DeathAngel 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    I know what you mean, i used to be a server and the religious crowds after church were always the worst behaving customers. They would say the nastiest things to all the servers.

    • @ShintogaDeathAngel
      @ShintogaDeathAngel 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Did they also leave those awful fake dollar bill things with scripture on them?

    • @94DeathAngel
      @94DeathAngel 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@ShintogaDeathAngel not to me, but a different server I worked with got that once.

  • @tomrobertson3444
    @tomrobertson3444 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +93

    I'm happily married and truly love my wife. Does that make me gay?

    • @kitty79er
      @kitty79er 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      depends are you a women??? /s

    • @jambi1527
      @jambi1527 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

      According to conservatives, yes 🙄

    • @qu1gsley
      @qu1gsley 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

      fellas, is it gay to love women?

    • @marial870
      @marial870 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      If you're a woman 🤷‍♀

    • @theshire9173
      @theshire9173 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

      Yes. It’s too feminine to actually love someone

  • @AutisticRebbetzen
    @AutisticRebbetzen 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +78

    Hey- you didn't ask for help with your foot cramp, but as a 32 year old who had really bad ones during my recent pregnancy, I found topical magnesium cream helpful at reducing the frequency and severity. The cream itself feels icky to me and it will make any skin abrasions sting, but it did help.
    Also, returning exactly to pre-pregnancy shape is a ridiculous goal IMHO.

    • @elaineb7065
      @elaineb7065 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      We should be more educated on what pregnancy does to a body...

    • @AutisticRebbetzen
      @AutisticRebbetzen 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      ​@@elaineb7065 Absolutely. Pregnancy is bizarre and mundane at the same time. Around half of us have the potential to experience it, and yet no two pregnancies are the same. It is stunning what kinds of changes can be normal in pregnancy. So many things can happen that pregnancy books don't even cover it all.
      But also we should be more educated on our bodies in general. It is amazing the kind of things that people don't know.

  • @firstwaddledee9182
    @firstwaddledee9182 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    22:20 fire bois… water bois… earth bois… air bois… the four bois lived together in perfect harmony… until the fire bois attacked.

  • @candiedfinz
    @candiedfinz 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +189

    Cishets: Men only eat MEALS!!
    My very male ass: ✨rice cake✨

    • @kitty79er
      @kitty79er 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

      rice cakes go hard

    • @saros_system
      @saros_system 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      ​@@kitty79er Especially the matcha ones.

    • @kitty79er
      @kitty79er 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@saros_system they make macha ones... take my money

    • @cornbabylaughter
      @cornbabylaughter 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      rice cakes taste like styrofoam

    • @AliceBunny05
      @AliceBunny05 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@cornbabylaughterthey have flavored rice cakes :) I like the cheddar ones. but they've got caramel too

  • @kimbernimue7721
    @kimbernimue7721 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    As someone who has given birth twice, *there is no spring back.* Your body will always function differently *even if you lose weight.* It's 2024, let's normalize body's changing over time and being happy about getting to experience next stages of life! If we become more inclusive of our own bodies it would also benefit others, creating space for oneself is the first step in making space for others. Take care!

    • @lizard3755
      @lizard3755 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      My mom was very active during her pregnancy with one of my sisters, to the point where she actually weighed less after giving birth than she had pre-pregnancy. Her mom told her like a week after she gave birth that she needed to lose weight, which blew my mind to hear because my grandmother gave birth six times and should know from experience that's not how the post partum period works, and isn't an appropriate thing to say to someone recovering from pregnancy and birthing.

  • @CatherineKimport
    @CatherineKimport 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Regarding all of the "I don't really want to be married" straights like the "HELP" guy... I do wonder how many (mostly straight) people just get married because they think it's the only way to "level up" and not because it's what they actually want to do. Like, peer pressure, family pressure, societal expectations.
    And as a corollary, I wonder how many of THOSE people's anger at people trying to do their own thing is just them projecting their own regret onto the world. Kinda in the same way that some people who paid down their student debt (which might be a US-only thing?) get mad whenever the idea of student debt forgiveness is floated.

  • @Boundwithflame23
    @Boundwithflame23 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    20:15 I vaguely recall seeing one of these where the person responding was like “I’ll take it and get 150k because I hate myself”
    Which isn’t much better but yknow

  • @traciechakraborty3829
    @traciechakraborty3829 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +55

    my ex was an iffy daad who missed a lot of our son's younger years. But did I tell my son he was TRASH? NO! Because the person I'd be hurting was my son. My now-adult son's good relationship with his father was worth it.

    • @AwwesomeVal
      @AwwesomeVal 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      I feel like there are certain situations where telling your kid their dad is trash is a good idea. For example, if my mother had given me that kind of warning about him, a lot less awful things would have happened, because I would have avoided him.

  • @aprettygothichick
    @aprettygothichick 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    The worst part of the whole "My daughter is never allowed to date!" is that the same parents will turn around the moment the same daughter turns 18 and ask "Why haven't you gotten married and given us grandchildren yet?!?!"

  • @felvkitties8
    @felvkitties8 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    I was raised in a household that was so toxic with my mom saying all men are awful, lazy excreta. It really is not ok to raise kids this way!!!! Took me a long time to realize she was just unhappy and definitely all men not like this! It's just awful. My husband makes jokes about being unhappy or the traditional kinda stuff people say! I hate it

  • @ktm9292
    @ktm9292 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Switching or tampering with birth control is sexual assault. At least here in Australia. It is covered under the the definitions of consent where consent must fully informed and freely given. If someone has an expectation that they are protected from pregnancy when they have sex with you and you've tampered with this, the consent obtained is considered fraudulent and therefore void. This works both ways and also applies to failure to disclose an STI. Having said that, SA conviction rates are pretty shockingly bad so it's less likely that this behaviour would lead to an actual criminal conviction.

  • @carriebryan1211
    @carriebryan1211 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    My dad: Men can't be trusted.
    My dad, 10 years later: When will you get a boyfriend?
    My dad, another 10 years later: You should go to a pastor and tell him you want to marry a widower who needs a wife to take care of his children.
    Me: Men can't be trusted.

  • @gunssx
    @gunssx 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    Didn't read the full title and got confused cause I was like "isn't he already married??"

  • @bushybeardedbear
    @bushybeardedbear 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    To be fair, I'd also change the ages of myself and my partner. Not because getting older is bad exactly, but so we can spend longer together...

    • @Femi_man
      @Femi_man 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Ok Romeo I see you

    • @monoduck
      @monoduck 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Aw that's sweet

    • @axehead45
      @axehead45 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      This is one of the cutest fucking things I’ve ever heard

    • @sarahr8311
      @sarahr8311 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I could see changing it if they're having health issues too. Like, high weight and age can cause joint problems, so I'd happily change my partner's weight and age so his feet and knees didn't hurt him when he runs any more.
      That is... definitely not what the OP meant though.

  • @16poetisa
    @16poetisa 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Yes, interfering with someone's medication is generally a crime.

  • @gamegirlcz1697
    @gamegirlcz1697 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +66

    01:52 We have a wine glass.. and a whine glass 😂😂

    • @mikna5758
      @mikna5758 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @mr.perfectcell1887
    @mr.perfectcell1887 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I just got into it with a therapist doing this mental health class who insisted that households without a father, including same sex couples with kids were worse for the child than male/female parent households. I left feeling worse than when I got in... I just had to vent somewhere...

    • @Saezimmerman
      @Saezimmerman 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      I had to do a research paper once on same sex couples adopting & the studies from the time showed the exact opposite of the nonsense that person was pushing. That was in the 90s! We’ve known for a long time that stability and love are the key in kids outcomes - not their parents’ gender.

    • @mr.perfectcell1887
      @mr.perfectcell1887 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Saezimmerman I agree. Thanks for taking the time to respond.

  • @John_Weiss
    @John_Weiss 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    2:09 On that whole wine-vs-beer thing: There are parts of Germany where wine, not beer, is the alcoholic beverage of choice. In middle-western Germany and especially along the Rhine. I studied in Mainz for a semester, and forget about "Oktoberfest" - September, when the Jungwein was available, was the big celebration! "Jungwein" means "young wine," and is the "raw" fermented wine-grape juice that hasn't fermented away all of the sugar yet. So it's sweet, still tastes close to wine, but a bit more … "yeasty", and packs a *_Whallop!_* It's easy drinking and therefore easy to get Totally Hammered off of!

  • @thenerdasaurus3717
    @thenerdasaurus3717 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    As an AFAB autistic person, in elementary school, my only friends were guys for years (my interests were dinosaurs and video games - most of the girls I was around didn’t like/weren’t exposed to those things yet).
    My mom put so much pressure on me, saying she “knew” I was gonna marry one of them. *I was five*
    The worst part is, I internalized all that pressure and was terrified that suddenly my male friends were going to like me in that way or try to kiss me when, while I loved them a lot *as friends* , I did NOT want anything romantic from them. Worse yet, if they did that, it would mean they never really saw me as an equal/just a person (or that’s how it felt at the time). And of course I was WAY too scared to talk to them about it. My mom and this kind of sexualization of children is the reason I lost my first best friend.
    Jonas, if you’re out there, you were a real one buddy. I’m sorry I never said goodbye

  • @kayliedawn4596
    @kayliedawn4596 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +92

    Fellas, is it gay to eat mozzarella sticks?

    • @aoifedeborha2420
      @aoifedeborha2420 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      Depends how you eat them 🤣🤣🤣

    • @Aceballchaoticenergy
      @Aceballchaoticenergy 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

      Sounds a bit too close to garlic bread. I think we aces will have to confiscate them 😈

    • @AtagenaofWherever
      @AtagenaofWherever 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      @@Aceballchaoticenergy as an ace who loves mozzarella sticks, we need to start stocking up for the invasion.

    • @ДарьяОсипова-ч1р
      @ДарьяОсипова-ч1р 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      extremely gay!

    • @starscreamthecruel8026
      @starscreamthecruel8026 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@AceballchaoticenergyMozzarella GARLIC bread sticks :D

  • @TheDarwinProject1
    @TheDarwinProject1 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    To add to the wedding ring & One Ring on Gollum comparison, just as the One Ring extended his life, married men live longer than unmarried men.

    • @lizard3755
      @lizard3755 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Dads with daughters also live longer! My dad shared that statistic with my sisters and I last Father's Day and thanked us for being his girls, it was really sweet.

  • @FunkyLittlePoptart
    @FunkyLittlePoptart 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    I do love the fact that Jamie thinks the sort of men who make these jokes love their wives. His delusion is precious. These men aren't capable of seeing women as people, let alone that they might be lovable. They ought to be left alone to fend for themselves.

  • @lunareclipse3692
    @lunareclipse3692 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    When my niece was playing with rubber ducks she said they were both girls and then had them kiss. And my brother in law (her dad) said “Not with two girls” and acted all mad about it.

    • @anna_in_aotearoa3166
      @anna_in_aotearoa3166 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Sigh 😔 Just as well she will have you to talk to as she grows up!! Sensible aunts, uncles & others providing a lifeline for the win...

  • @Sly-Moose
    @Sly-Moose 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +67

    Ladies, is it sapphic to take out the trash? 😂

    • @londongirl2768
      @londongirl2768 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      I wouldn’t know, since I am already sapphic, but what are single women actually meant to do

    • @espenwenttojarket
      @espenwenttojarket 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Only if you replace him with a woman, I guess?

    • @hawkeyescoffee6399
      @hawkeyescoffee6399 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@londongirl2768Ssingle straight women are just supposed to sit and stare sadly at the ever increasing pile of rubbish in their home. Then sigh "if only I was a lesbian, then I could take that the ten feet out of my home to the bin outside". Then when the mountain of rubbish takes over the whole house, they just....move. However, they can also never go anywhere because their car ran out of fuel 2 weeks after they got it (4 years ago)... and they were legally not allowed to fill it up because they are just a straight woman. [/Sarc, obvs😅]

    • @PhoebeSchmaltz-oj2ci
      @PhoebeSchmaltz-oj2ci 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I mean, in my case, yes
      But I'm not lesbian because of it, I'm lesbian because i like women

    • @susannairisastarte5192
      @susannairisastarte5192 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I dunno. I take the trash out.😂 🏳️‍🌈 Must explain a lot

  • @meganholian4837
    @meganholian4837 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    In relation to the first post, my dad used to “jokingly” say “you can’t date until you’re 30 and you can’t get married until I’m dead”. He was not happy when I had my first date in high school. SHOCKER I cut him off a little while after that (for so many reasons). Too bad I moved in with a guy at 26, DAD!

  • @stillinhere
    @stillinhere 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I think I just realized the reason people pressured me to stay in an unhappy marriage was because they really believed that marriage is a necessary torture. In the same way they think that since they suffered through other things (being hit with a switch or just having to pay student loan debt) everyone else has to, also. I was the other type of person. I think, “I suffered, and feel NO ONE else should ever have to suffer.”

  • @astringer1
    @astringer1 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    'Audacity' is a great word

  • @freddiefishton
    @freddiefishton 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    17:56 if it’s to ALL men, then there would be some men who would choose the nice car and gift it to their wonderful wife. wh-WHAT DO YOU MEAN THATS *GAY?!?*

  • @tilltab
    @tilltab 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    I thought the ‘first date’ one was the mums, which would have been super cute and wholesome and not fit for this video, because it hadn’t occurred to me it might mean the literal babies! Ew!

  • @calamityjean1525
    @calamityjean1525 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    Regarding the "What about electric cars?" question, at least one straight man that I know about has described his electric car as a "chick magnet".

    • @pathevermore3683
      @pathevermore3683 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      well it has a magnet, so......

    • @monoduck
      @monoduck 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Are the people nearby feeding their chickens metal? (Comedy)

  • @TwinkleTwinkleTruly
    @TwinkleTwinkleTruly 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    It honestly just dawned on me, that the reason some men are so protective of their daughters, is because they expect all men to treat women like they’ve treated women and now that it’s their own daughter that’s “at risk” they realise that they, the fathers, have been treating women as shite and rubbish, and they obviously don’t want their daughters to experience that. Funny how it only becomes an issue once they begin to actually care about the person in question, but until then, they don’t care how many people they hurt. It’s legitimately scary that some people don’t care until it’s something that will also affect them by proxy, like if the daughter gets heartbroken she’ll be upset and that will have an impact on the social aspect of the family for a while or, worse, she gets hurt or gets taken advantage of, maybe even becomes pregnant and the lad leaves out and leaves her with all the horrible choices and responsibilities, which will have both a societal impact on the family what with how some places still judge young girls but rarely the boys that are also involved, or you know, the financial and emotional impact of either a termination or the birth of a baby, especially to a teen parent. Like, instead of going “I won’t let my daughter date, cuz she might meet a guy that will treat her like crap, cuz that’s what I either did or have allowed from boys and men around me.” Maybe going “I will raise my sons to be good and caring partners and to take responsibility and think things through, and I will call out bad behaviour from my male friends!”. It’s comparing: “Welp, the old roof is leaking everywhere so I better get some more buckets!” to “I should path those holes and start saving up to get the old roof replaced, otherwise this will continue indefinitely.”

  • @almamater9566
    @almamater9566 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    Cis straight married dude here. I totally agree. No it's not too early for kids to know about lgbt+ relationships. If they are they are too young to hear about relationships in general. My wife and i have two kids. My bil is gay and they see him kissing his boyfriend as much as they see their mom and i kiss. They see no difference. Cause there is no difference. Well tbh our youngest kid goes eww when he sees 2 adults kiss no matter what their sexuality is but that's another story 😂

    • @kitty79er
      @kitty79er 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      as someone whose way to old to say eww to people kissing.... i still do...... to any couple

    • @HumbleWooper
      @HumbleWooper 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Absolutely! If they're old enough to ask, IMO they're old enough to get a true (age-appropriate) answer. If their family doesn't teach them they'll find out from peers, teachers, other adults they trust, or the internet... and those other sources might get important things wrong or traumatize the kid with graphic explanations, images, or videos.

  • @katashworth41
    @katashworth41 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    Thankfully I’ve not heard anything about my nieces (18 months and almost 1) having a boyfriend as my eldest niece seems to think that boys are just for throwing toys at (or giving raisins to in the case of my partner) which isn’t a great start in teaching her about relationships.

    • @kitty79er
      @kitty79er 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      hopefully she knows how to make freinds without violence

    • @katashworth41
      @katashworth41 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@kitty79er She does, though just after I posted that aforementioned partner did tell me she attacked him with her plastic frying pan :/ (she likes fake food).

    • @kitty79er
      @kitty79er 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@katashworth41 Rapunzel Season two.... the return of the plastic

  • @delarkaBCN
    @delarkaBCN 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    bro Jamie the squarespace-cinematic-universe is getting better each time

  • @C.V317
    @C.V317 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    “I don’t know where I sit on if the dad is actually trash, there’s probably an age-appropriate time to inform them of that.”
    Trust me, if your dad is actually trash, you don’t need to be informed; you just pick it up on your own.

  • @mazerinthemage2395
    @mazerinthemage2395 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    22:08
    Water, Earth, Fire, Air. Long ago, the 4 boys lived together in harmony. Then, everything changed when the Fire Boys attacked!

  • @unidentified_frowning_object
    @unidentified_frowning_object 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +58

    I think you should open a pride potato business, all of the ✨spuds✨ are different flag colours. I think it would be VERY successfull

    • @aoifedeborha2420
      @aoifedeborha2420 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Idk if he’s done this already or not, but I’d love that!!! Great idea (:

    • @kitty79er
      @kitty79er 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      because in the end... potatoes reign supreme

    • @Caprabone
      @Caprabone 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Or crisps!

    • @catebrooks6779
      @catebrooks6779 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I came here to suggest crisps as well!

  • @mudkip_btw
    @mudkip_btw 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +63

    omg is this Jamie Raines aka Jammidodger from The T in LGBT+? 😮😮

    • @robfortune6
      @robfortune6 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      yes it is 😮😮

    • @danielreher1987
      @danielreher1987 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      Yep!

  • @LimeGirl-
    @LimeGirl- 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    I had Cis friends than Always found me wierd for being trans and Bi, now i'm having the same ideas to straight and cis people-

  • @Red-in-Green
    @Red-in-Green 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    The environmentalism not being manly one baffles me. Those people should go talk to Teddy Roosevelt, founding environmentalist and noted manliest man to ever exist.
    When I was working in conservation, there was one team in our group called the Trail Crew who spent their days lifting, moving, and smashing rocks. I literally cannot imagine a more traditionally masculine activity.

  • @sarahwingert225
    @sarahwingert225 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    When I was in South Africa, there was a rumour going around that I was a trans woman (I'm actually a cis woman, male expressing lesbian), because I had hair on my legs and short hair, so I obviously had to have been a boy once. 🙈😂

  • @JoRiver11
    @JoRiver11 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    First meme - that whole "brother policing his sister’s dating life" has always made my blood boil.
    In the books that shall not be named, JK Umbridge really went there (though tbh all of the romantic relationship stuff in those books was pretty awful)

    • @STaR_Ri
      @STaR_Ri 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Ohh thanks (not) for reminding me of that part of my Harry Potter hyperfixation/special interest (ages 9-11, thank god I moved on BEFORE JKR decided to come out as a transphobe) I wish I had noticed it at the time, I cringe now thinking about it

  • @skyinou
    @skyinou 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    17:00 - Gatekeeping desert?! WTF?! 🤣🤣🤣

    • @anna_in_aotearoa3166
      @anna_in_aotearoa3166 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      IKR? 🤣 People choose to gender the weirdest-ass things. If I was a guy cobfronted with that kind of crap I'd just say "F it" and make the whole meal out of cheesecake...

  • @aoifedeborha2420
    @aoifedeborha2420 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    Green? You’re getting ready for St. Patrick’s Day!!! 🍀🍀🍀

  • @shadowldrago
    @shadowldrago 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I think my favorite parts of these videos is when Jamie flubs something, and Yes Ands it into a joke. Gets me every time.