1. Stop being desperate 2. Have hobbies you don't give up on 3. Stop chasing her if she is not interested 4. Stop acting needy 5. Women love the chase 6. Find something worthwhile to chase 7. Women are attracted to confidence 8. you attract higher value women (When you stop chasing them) 9. You deserve someone who is as excited as what you are to find them
Nope. Either be super handsome / very rich. How can you be confident around a woman if she thinks you’re ugly? You can only feel confident around a woman if you’re confident she finds you sexually attractive.
Not sure if anyone cares but if you guys are bored like me during the covid times then you can watch pretty much all of the latest series on InstaFlixxer. Have been watching with my brother for the last couple of months xD
This is true. When I stopped talking to her and paying her attention I noticed she was looking at me a lot and getting closer to me. I think she will talk to me eventually.
I can concur the women I dated chased me hard once things kicked off or even they were the ones to kick things off. I just have to be the cool guy I am and they escalate things when they can. Currently have a few dates planned with a great gal who made several moves and asked me out first all while I basically acted like nothing was up. That being said I do feel like I get an exceptional amount of attention from people from both sexes. Certain rules do apply.
I know this video has been out a year already, but I really appreciate it as a reaffirmation. Particularly the part saying: don’t chase, when they suddenly go quiet and stop messaging after messaging loads. It’s been tempting to chase her up, but hearing advice from a woman like yourself has helped clarify the options and stand firm. Your videos have been immensely beneficial. Cheers again!
Am really enjoying how Joy presents these techniques and how she relates them to every day references so people can easily relate to and offcourse her gestures in describing them tops it all... you are the absolute best dating / relationship coach on the internet
I just might be a needy customer at the supermarket. After this video I have realized that I should have cashier options. No more checking out at the same register for me, I mean it.
In over 30 year's experience with 100's of women what I learned is do not care about them too much. As soon as you start caring about them and showering them with love and affection it's a downward spiral. They lose interest. Women are like children. They want what they can't have. And when they get it don't really want it anymore. And never tell her you love her. Princess Leah was obsessed with Han Solo. Why? Because he didn't love her. When she told him she loved him he replied "I know". Never tell her you love her. For that's when all the troubles begin. And lastly, never take advice from a woman on how to get women.
I am not sure if anyone is facing the same problem, but I did the stop-chasing like dozen of times and now it became a habit, and sometimes I feel like I did it prematurely lol Anyway this process really make you feel good and less hurt :/
For some reason these videos are on my youtube feed. Love the accent. I just want to say I tried the looking straight forward when walking through a crowd. It worked! People got out of the way. 😄
To be honest I love been single. Got a good life. Do what I want when I want. I feel if I have a lass it would spoil what I have. I enjoy my life so much. Is that normal for a 35 year old ?
All the notes really seem to mean is to be on track with where you want to go, and enjoy some things that are important to you on the way. Just wait for a woman to notice you, problem is that if you aren't showing status, you might not be noticed. I mean, lets be real, the guy who is quiet, keeps to himself, and is a homebody is out of a lot of womens idea of a good quality man. That doesn't mean that those types of men aren't accomplished, they are too busy accomplishing things, and choose to not showboat about it. To be blunt, a man that does his laundry, dishes, keeps his place nice, cuts grass, takes out garbage, etc. has just as much to do as a woman, and they can be both accomplished. It should be a mutual interest, and regardless of who asks who out, as long as two people meet, that's where magic is. With hobbies, and laundry, dishes, garbage, and goals, where is the time ??
Chase, don't chase....stop, go?😂🤔 I don't chase anymore I just chill. I'm not even interested in women much atm. I just need some time to myself again, need to bring back the old days when I was in control of my life. Again and again...
Funny but according to this I do everything right!Once stopped chasing for 4 years and guess what.Nothing happened!...Well anyone with the clock ticking wouldn't want another 4 years of that .So I decided to fire off wildly in all directions. My intention was to get rejected 10 times before even considering resigning. Got as far as 3 and hit good. Two kids later....Don't take it lying down guys
I'm definitely a very emotionally independent guy, but I don't have any good places to meet good women, so I've just been alone since I dropped out of HS.
"You can never truly be alone if you like the person you're alone with" Wayne Dyer. Be honestly happy with yourself, and people that compliment your life will enter into it.
I stopped Chasing Women 30 Years ago, I admit it was Hard. I got to Thinking, You know Men always have to Jump through Hoops to get a Girl, if they want Us so Bad they could come to Us for a Change. This has it's Pro's and Con's and I recently have become Out of the Loop a bit. I have Noticed a Girl that Works at a Place I Frequent seems to Like Me. I'm Friendly and We Small Talk because She is Working and I shouldn't Distract Her too much. My Problem is I'm eager to ask Her Out, but I'm afraid She might be to Young for Me. This has happened to Me before and I found out the Girl was 25 and I felt like a Creepy Old Man since I'm 57. I'm terrible at Judging Age. of course I can tell if She is LEGAL Age, but Women seem to Mature Fast and they Act Older than they are.
Could you do a video about insecurities. I feel a bit insecure about my eyes because I have mild blepharitis. I still get attention from attractive women but because the eyes are so important I do feel insecure.
There is a channel on YT called HealthyGamer where a psychologist openly talks with people who have these issues, I found his exploration of where their fears come from very helpful.
Here’s my advice. Don’t make the decision for the girl. Let them make the decision. You have nothing to lose. Think of it this way, you got a no by default, you might get a yes if you actually go for it.
No, women don't panic if I don't call back right away. They feel rejected, get angry and either move on ir stay home and pout. If they aren't given control, they do not want the guy. Too MANY expect to be bedded down by the second date. If not, they feel insulted. Then there is opposite - opening a door for her offering to hold her hand protectively is an instant killer.
I answered YES in the beginning but I'm just trying to get laid. I don't want a GF just to get laid, the chase is fun but you have to chase multiply chicks at a time(its a numbers game bros).
For the vast majority of guys these are directions for being happier alone. If you are not attractive the women will not suddenly chase you because you have a stamp hobby. Online dating has really made most of this type of advice obsolete.
Lol this is bullshit ... 🤣 I been alone for 25 years I never chased after women and I thing I do well for myself .. and yet I have no girl chase me ...
I have been hearing this same thing from men again and again! Seeing a woman saying it just feels amazing. Until recently I used to believe as a man you need to be chasing - because I had heard about this "Men are hunters" thing - but now the mindset has changed. The earlier mindset cost me an amazing girl who chased me for years. Not gonna make the same mistake again.
HAVE HOBBIES YOU DONT GIVE UPP ON MY HOBBIES ARE GOING FOR WALKS WITH MY DOG AND RIDE MY BIKE LISTIN TOO MUSIC AND GO TOO THE BEACH FOR THE DAY ETC AND CHILL OUT AT THE BEACH ALL DAY LONG OR THE BAR FOR SOME FOOD AND DRINKS OFF WINES AND BEERS WITH THE BOYS ANNA JOYANIMA AND COFFEE DATES WITH THE BOYS AND GIRLS THAT ARE LONG OR HAD A BADE BRACK UPP WITH YOUR BOYFREINDS OR EX BOYFRIENDS AND HANGOUT. WITH THEM AN CHILLOUT AND JUST TALK ABOUT SOO SO SO AND HLPE THEM MOVE ON FROM THE PAST RELATIONSHIPS ANNA JOYANIMA WINGMAN FOR GIRLS AND WINGMAN FOR THE WOMEN AS WELL TOO SOO I AM BUSY SOME OFF THE TIME TOO CHILL OUT WITH THEM FOR THE DAY OUT & ABOUT IN TOWN
Women shouldn't be a man's focus. Love God and your neighbor as yourself, and you will be an attractive man, whether or not a woman is spiritually perceptive enough to appreciate it.
1. Stop being desperate
2. Have hobbies you don't give up on
3. Stop chasing her if she is not interested
4. Stop acting needy
5. Women love the chase
6. Find something worthwhile to chase
7. Women are attracted to confidence
8. you attract higher value women (When you stop chasing them)
9. You deserve someone who is as excited as what you are to find them
truth
Nope. Either be super handsome / very rich. How can you be confident around a woman if she thinks you’re ugly? You can only feel confident around a woman if you’re confident she finds you sexually attractive.
Not sure if anyone cares but if you guys are bored like me during the covid times then you can watch pretty much all of the latest series on InstaFlixxer. Have been watching with my brother for the last couple of months xD
@Kason Antonio Yup, have been using instaflixxer for since november myself :)
I've believed that for many years. I now realize happiness comes from within. Thank you. 👍
Absolutely!
Proverbs 31:3 Do not spend your strength on women, your vigor on those who ruin kings.
If you have good careing friends ... you will never feel alone, being positive and confident, people will want to be around you and women take notice.
I stole her pursue she chased me more than love has to be chased😎😎😎
Lmfao
You stole that of Lamont to Grady on Sanford and son 😑
This is true. When I stopped talking to her and paying her attention I noticed she was looking at me a lot and getting closer to me. I think she will talk to me eventually.
If she is getting closer that is her sign that she wants you to engage, many women will never make a move, no matter how badly they might want to.
the same advice applies to women.
ALONE doesn't mean you're lonely.
If you're not emotionally ready to be in a relationship, then enjoy the solitude.
I am alone but not lonely - Robert DeNiro Heat
Absolutely right
I'm enjoying not only the solitude, but especially the FREEDOM. 😊
Point 1 you have a beautiful accent and the way you speaks boosts my Vibe tysm
I can concur the women I dated chased me hard once things kicked off or even they were the ones to kick things off. I just have to be the cool guy I am and they escalate things when they can. Currently have a few dates planned with a great gal who made several moves and asked me out first all while I basically acted like nothing was up.
That being said I do feel like I get an exceptional amount of attention from people from both sexes. Certain rules do apply.
I know this video has been out a year already, but I really appreciate it as a reaffirmation.
Particularly the part saying: don’t chase, when they suddenly go quiet and stop messaging after messaging loads.
It’s been tempting to chase her up, but hearing advice from a woman like yourself has helped clarify the options and stand firm. Your videos have been immensely beneficial. Cheers again!
Shine yourself so that you can settle for whatever will have you. Great message. If a man cannot pursue what he wants, then that's not worthwhile.
Well damn! Im on the right path tho!! It's been 2 years since i prioriized myself
Am really enjoying how Joy presents these techniques and how she relates them to every day references so people can easily relate to and offcourse her gestures in describing them tops it all... you are the absolute best dating / relationship coach on the internet
Love the way you say “super fan board”
I like the background. I also really enjoy watching your pose and demeanour in front of the camera. Great stuff
I have been by myself, loved myself, have not chased for 9 months - I am still single. Now I would really like a women.
Finally guidence to stop chasing girls from a girl!
Thanks ANNAa!
I just might be a needy customer at the supermarket. After this video I have realized that I should have cashier options. No more checking out at the same register for me, I mean it.
Good luck!
First ! Anna is the best and awesome !
Thank you! 🙂
This is a good video Anna. A great reminder.
Thank you so much!
Based on quality on comments there is need for attracting more mature viewers
In over 30 year's experience with 100's of women what I learned is do not care about them too much. As soon as you start caring about them and showering them with love and affection it's a downward spiral. They lose interest. Women are like children. They want what they can't have. And when they get it don't really want it anymore. And never tell her you love her. Princess Leah was obsessed with Han Solo. Why? Because he didn't love her. When she told him she loved him he replied "I know". Never tell her you love her. For that's when all the troubles begin. And lastly, never take advice from a woman on how to get women.
facts
Thank you lovely lady 🌹👍💖
I am not sure if anyone is facing the same problem, but I did the stop-chasing like dozen of times and now it became a habit, and sometimes I feel like I did it prematurely lol
Anyway this process really make you feel good and less hurt :/
If you feel good then what is the problem?
For some reason these videos are on my youtube feed. Love the accent. I just want to say I tried the looking straight forward when walking through a crowd. It worked! People got out of the way. 😄
This always worked years ago in disco's.
🙂 Awesome to hear!
i love it and i love you :) thank u for the advice joyanima
Well Done, Anna and ya lol sometimes I find I have a hobby just for something to do when the women I like aren’t available lol
I'm 3rd!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Well done! 🙂
@@Joyanima Thanks Anna!!!!!!
To be honest I love been single. Got a good life. Do what I want when I want. I feel if I have a lass it would spoil what I have. I enjoy my life so much. Is that normal for a 35 year old ?
"Normal" is overrated.
HOW TOO BEE DESPERATE STOP BEING DESPERATE
A great video it will help me lot
Thanks ❤❤
Glad to hear that
Thanks for such valuable advice!. I started to live like that a year ago.. it really helps.
You are so welcome!
1) I don't approach.
2) I don't chase.
3) I don't pursue.
4) I don't care.
Any questions?
I don't answer the second question or after.
I’m not only an iPhone, I’m an iPhone Pro Max!
All the notes really seem to mean is to be on track with where you want to go, and enjoy some things that are important to you on the way. Just wait for a woman to notice you, problem is that if you aren't showing status, you might not be noticed. I mean, lets be real, the guy who is quiet, keeps to himself, and is a homebody is out of a lot of womens idea of a good quality man. That doesn't mean that those types of men aren't accomplished, they are too busy accomplishing things, and choose to not showboat about it. To be blunt, a man that does his laundry, dishes, keeps his place nice, cuts grass, takes out garbage, etc. has just as much to do as a woman, and they can be both accomplished. It should be a mutual interest, and regardless of who asks who out, as long as two people meet, that's where magic is. With hobbies, and laundry, dishes, garbage, and goals, where is the time ??
I like to try the opposite of what she advise just to see how she react.
Chase, don't chase....stop, go?😂🤔 I don't chase anymore I just chill. I'm not even interested in women much atm. I just need some time to myself again, need to bring back the old days when I was in control of my life. Again and again...
Funny but according to this I do everything right!Once stopped chasing for 4 years and guess what.Nothing happened!...Well anyone with the clock ticking wouldn't want another 4 years of that .So I decided to fire off wildly in all directions. My intention was to get rejected 10 times before even considering resigning. Got as far as 3 and hit good. Two kids later....Don't take it lying down guys
Lol because this shit is bullshit.. women want to be chased .. no woman is going to chase you...
VERY-GOOD !
Where is the balance between making the first move/showing interest and not chasing? I’m fuzzy on these mixed messages
I'm definitely a very emotionally independent guy, but I don't have any good places to meet good women, so I've just been alone since I dropped out of HS.
But without jokes, 100% working strategies 👍, and I'm talking from experience. 😎😊
Perfect!
When I Was 16 and in high School I Decided to Stop Chasing girls and Start Playing Guitar Chasing After my Dreams 👍👍
Thankyou.. You always make my day by your video 🙂🙂
My pleasure 😊
"You can never truly be alone if you like the person you're alone with" Wayne Dyer. Be honestly happy with yourself, and people that compliment your life will enter into it.
I stopped Chasing Women 30 Years ago, I admit it was Hard. I got to Thinking, You know Men always have to Jump through Hoops to get a Girl, if they want Us so Bad they could come to Us for a Change. This has it's Pro's and Con's and I recently have become Out of the Loop a bit. I have Noticed a Girl that Works at a Place I Frequent seems to Like Me. I'm Friendly and We Small Talk because She is Working and I shouldn't Distract Her too much. My Problem is I'm eager to ask Her Out, but I'm afraid She might be to Young for Me. This has happened to Me before and I found out the Girl was 25 and I felt like a Creepy Old Man since I'm 57. I'm terrible at Judging Age. of course I can tell if She is LEGAL Age, but Women seem to Mature Fast and they Act Older than they are.
It's not who you like, it's who likes you.
Cool, calm & collected ✍
If you act your not interested surely the girl will think your not interested and move on ?
Yes. That's why this video is bullshit.
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Loved this!
That's great to hear!
I love this video. These things can be easy to do as well!
Beautiful video beautiful woman on point
Could you do a video about insecurities. I feel a bit insecure about my eyes because I have mild blepharitis. I still get attention from attractive women but because the eyes are so important I do feel insecure.
You’re still a boss, homie
Thanks man
There is a channel on YT called HealthyGamer where a psychologist openly talks with people who have these issues, I found his exploration of where their fears come from very helpful.
Thank you so much.
Here’s my advice. Don’t make the decision for the girl. Let them make the decision. You have nothing to lose. Think of it this way, you got a no by default, you might get a yes if you actually go for it.
Wow my apps really need updating.
Hi how r the dragons Khalisee??
Now what to do when you dont have a family and all your friends are mest up alcoholics? I cant just magicaly have a healthy surounding.
Ana: not chasing girls will get you more girls.
Me: I beg to differ😂😂🤣🤣
..... Also, have GOOD game.
Fresh and fit podcast will say other things
No, women don't panic if I don't call back right away. They feel rejected, get angry and either move on ir stay home and pout. If they aren't given control, they do not want the guy. Too MANY expect to be bedded down by the second date. If not, they feel insulted. Then there is opposite - opening a door for her offering to hold her hand protectively is an instant killer.
I haven't been chasing girls the past 6 years, and still single.
Care to elaborate on this?
I took Anna's advice stop chasing girls I now going steady with a nice young man and I'm heterosexual 😂😂😂👍
We are what we repeatedly do- “ You are the move you make “ in other words...
What are these background you use called?!...
Easier said than done
I answered YES in the beginning but I'm just trying to get laid. I don't want a GF just to get laid, the chase is fun but you have to chase multiply chicks at a time(its a numbers game bros).
Women shouldn't chase and men shouldn't chase....so how does anybody hook up.🤔🤔🤔🤔. Trying to broker a relationship is just shitty.
Guess i'm doing good then, because i retired from online dating.
I have Hobbies and No woman stops or takes the place of my enjoying them
Cars, Model cars. Bonsai trees
I like to be confident
Hope i'll meet you someday so i can use your techniques on you 😎
omg TH-cam seriously needs a button for users to pin a video on their home tab
😀 would be helpful!
Make a playlist :P
For the vast majority of guys these are directions for being happier alone. If you are not attractive the women will not suddenly chase you because you have a stamp hobby. Online dating has really made most of this type of advice obsolete.
First..u know everyone likes doing this lol but great content!!
haha 🙂 thank you so much!
Lol this is bullshit ... 🤣 I been alone for 25 years I never chased after women and I thing I do well for myself .. and yet I have no girl chase me ...
The apple store advertises, and has a PR team...
Thank you!
I hope you give me a heart.............
(I need that heart! Lol, JK 😉😘)
But seriously this was a good reminder.
Love you Anna ❤️
No one chasing girl, better then me. 😜😎 I'm the best. 😊
Simp
@@praful1328 😆😅 Sure Sure 😎😝
@@SmileyJohnson At least you had admitted it simp😆
Awesome 🙂
I'm an iPhone! 😃
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I have been hearing this same thing from men again and again!
Seeing a woman saying it just feels amazing.
Until recently I used to believe as a man you need to be chasing - because I had heard about this "Men are hunters" thing - but now the mindset has changed. The earlier mindset cost me an amazing girl who chased me for years. Not gonna make the same mistake again.
Finances better after you meet a girl 😂😂😂😂😂
Alr single for 35 yrs. So why bother chasing a woman when u r ok for 35yrs alr.
Make sense
How can I talk to you?
100
Wow online dating advice that is not some redpill bro science bs,,, well done
Sorry, Iron Man.
Need to find trust in women.!!..
Finding a life first maby blur lol
👍👍
Lol Now You're Talking.
HAVE HOBBIES YOU DONT GIVE UPP ON MY HOBBIES ARE GOING FOR WALKS WITH MY DOG AND RIDE MY BIKE LISTIN TOO MUSIC AND GO TOO THE BEACH FOR THE DAY ETC AND CHILL OUT AT THE BEACH ALL DAY LONG OR THE BAR FOR SOME FOOD AND DRINKS OFF WINES AND BEERS WITH THE BOYS ANNA JOYANIMA AND COFFEE DATES WITH THE BOYS AND GIRLS THAT ARE LONG OR HAD A BADE BRACK UPP WITH YOUR BOYFREINDS OR EX BOYFRIENDS AND HANGOUT. WITH THEM AN CHILLOUT AND JUST TALK ABOUT SOO SO SO AND HLPE THEM MOVE ON FROM THE PAST RELATIONSHIPS ANNA JOYANIMA WINGMAN FOR GIRLS AND WINGMAN FOR THE WOMEN AS WELL TOO SOO I AM BUSY SOME OFF THE TIME TOO CHILL OUT WITH THEM FOR THE DAY OUT & ABOUT IN TOWN
Women shouldn't be a man's focus. Love God and your neighbor as yourself, and you will be an attractive man, whether or not a woman is spiritually perceptive enough to appreciate it.
Yeah, nah.
Anna are u single or in a relationship ??? 😂
I actually only carry my iPhone when I'm outside running so it can break without my heart breaking knowing that my main smartphone is safe at home. 😁
I can get plenty chicks if I want been there done that
Lier
@@stantheman4964 what i get in year take you 10 yrs i got it like that
Yeah you keep telling ya self that Chris,
tired of this crap... gave her the boot! Id rather go climbing with cool people like me! Besides Im an introvert so I dont care! Ha! Ha!
Never take eating advice from women, men. LOL.
You such a cutie marry me in Australia xxx