I enjoyed these videos and I hope you continue them! I know it’s a long shot, but one of my favorite healthy tv couples is in Madam Secretary. Close second, and more realistic re popularity, is Jake and Amy from Brooklyn 99
This was an amazing nuanced analysis of my favorite couple on this show! Their marriage style really reminded me of my Asian heritage and you did an amazing job explaining how marriage has been viewed differently across time and culture and how this one was more dynamic than the usually housewife tropes. Please give us the Lorelei and Rori relationship videos soon! Your take and perspective is amazing!
I agree it was a big deal but the point is she had enough power in the relationship to take a stand and make it known that she was not ok with it, which I think challenges some of the narrative that all SAHW are powerless and at the mercy of their husbands. Emily's character, whether she is likeable or not, is a strong female character despite being a "traditional" wife.
You make a good point that they werent friends and didnt spend time together but..i think they did but it was off camera. I mean what else would they do when they went to Europe on vacations if not spend time together? I imagine they went together to museums and plays and had friends abroad they stayed at and had a very rich social life, but when it came to their home at Hartford they didnt know how to be with one another, like their time together was only dedicated when they traveled. I cant imagine them just hangin out watchin a movie and eating pizza in front of the TV 😂 P.S. this pink blouse and makeup looks absolutely stunning on you, it bringa out your eyes and smile 🩷🩷🩷
Excellent analysis! Could you talk about the time Richard rear ended Emily?? I thought that was so violent, he could have hurt her really bad. Also, could you comment on the movie "The Break Up" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Bond? That movie shows realistic fights in couples even if some scenes are exaggerated
That is a good point about the rear ending - I always thought it wasn't that serious but you're right it could have hurt her. It was one of the few times you saw Richard lose his cool and composed exterior. For the most part, he was never portrayed as a violent or aggressive man so I think in this case you could give him a pass but still... Now I haven't seen this movie but I will check it out. Thank you for the recommendation!
I definitely think Lorelei saw her parents as partners and not lovers which caused her to only really default on the lustful chase with men however not want to fully give up her power to them. Luke was the perfect opportunity for her to find both 🖤 sorry unrelated but also very influenced by this video lol ty for sharing
How do we build this connection / value, early on ? Or should it only be after marriage ? I experience lots of talking stages, but unable to build a codependency / connection like this with a man. Should we just dive in from day 1 ? I keep it light emotionally at the start, but it always seems that men crumble away.
The truth is you need to find a man who is looking for a partner and wife. You let the man set the tone and direction and if he is not seeking that out from you then you move on. I wouldn't be thinking about building this type of relationship with a man who isn't a husband so until a man proposes, you are only dating and you keep living your life for you. Until you are married, you are single.
@@divorceguruthanks Tanya, yes, makes sense. It’s just - I’ve encountered many of these types of men who are simultaneously obsessed with / into their ex’s. I’m confused as to what these women do to get them hooked ? When I dig, these women don’t even use the rules. They slept with them straight away, showed jealousy, were difficult etc. So I’m wondering whether being aloof & controlled, (both emotionally & segually), actually drives them away ? It’s rarely worked for me to be nonchalant. It’s not gotten anyone more keen to pursue me.
@@AlyssaAlmaiahi I can guess what those women did: they ended the relationship. Men are always obsessed with "the one that got away". It's usually a sign of emotional immaturity so just understand that it's a them problem and you're not doing anything wrong. The point of the rules is not to get men to pursue you, it's actually to show you which men are truly interested in you and which were never going to be that man for you. In some sense, it will drive men away - the wrong men. The men who will waste your time and never really be ready to commit to you. Not all men will be your man and most won't so don't worry about them not liking you. It's better that way.
@@divorceguru yes please ! ❤ I find it makes sense in theory, but rarely have I seen it work in reality. My most successful relationships were not based on the rules, and are lot of my friends who are happily married didn’t use it either. I’m wondering if building emotional connecting earlier on is more important, than expecting a man to pursue / chase you, for just existing ? Yes, it filters out men who aren’t serious, but how did those same men get into relationships with women before ? It def feels like some women know what to do / say.
I don’t always agree with Emily, but I respect her hustle
I enjoyed these videos and I hope you continue them!
I know it’s a long shot, but one of my favorite healthy tv couples is in Madam Secretary. Close second, and more realistic re popularity, is Jake and Amy from Brooklyn 99
This was an amazing nuanced analysis of my favorite couple on this show! Their marriage style really reminded me of my Asian heritage and you did an amazing job explaining how marriage has been viewed differently across time and culture and how this one was more dynamic than the usually housewife tropes. Please give us the Lorelei and Rori relationship videos soon! Your take and perspective is amazing!
Emily is my favourite character on Gilmore Girls, even though I don't always agree with her.
I’ve never even watched Gilmore girls but I still really enjoyed this video!!
I love that! Maybe I've enticed you to check it out?
@@divorceguru I’m honestly really considering it😭 I feel like the vibes will fit perfectly with the upcoming fall weather!
@@bunnyoffate2559 Yes it goes perfectly with pumpkin spice lates and cosy outerwear!
Would be so cool if you could make a video on Little women and the relationship with Jo and Laurie vs fredreick bhaer
I Love when you are looking through a very diferent lens into these relationships, i cant wait for more love you so much tanya❤❤❤
Thank you! I so appreciate the comment
always love to hear your insights!! Also you look really pretty ☺️
Thank you!
Love those videos !
LOVE your analysis! So look forward to your videos
Thank you! So glad you enjoy the videos
I really don't like Emily but she was totally right to het mad s Richard for the lunch thing. She wasn't making it a big deal. It WAS a big deal
I agree it was a big deal but the point is she had enough power in the relationship to take a stand and make it known that she was not ok with it, which I think challenges some of the narrative that all SAHW are powerless and at the mercy of their husbands. Emily's character, whether she is likeable or not, is a strong female character despite being a "traditional" wife.
You make a good point that they werent friends and didnt spend time together but..i think they did but it was off camera. I mean what else would they do when they went to Europe on vacations if not spend time together? I imagine they went together to museums and plays and had friends abroad they stayed at and had a very rich social life, but when it came to their home at Hartford they didnt know how to be with one another, like their time together was only dedicated when they traveled. I cant imagine them just hangin out watchin a movie and eating pizza in front of the TV 😂
P.S. this pink blouse and makeup looks absolutely stunning on you, it bringa out your eyes and smile 🩷🩷🩷
Excellent analysis! Could you talk about the time Richard rear ended Emily?? I thought that was so violent, he could have hurt her really bad.
Also, could you comment on the movie "The Break Up" with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Bond? That movie shows realistic fights in couples even if some scenes are exaggerated
That is a good point about the rear ending - I always thought it wasn't that serious but you're right it could have hurt her. It was one of the few times you saw Richard lose his cool and composed exterior. For the most part, he was never portrayed as a violent or aggressive man so I think in this case you could give him a pass but still... Now I haven't seen this movie but I will check it out. Thank you for the recommendation!
I wouldn't want my partner having secret lunch with an ex either - DIVORCE may even be on the cards.
I definitely think Lorelei saw her parents as partners and not lovers which caused her to only really default on the lustful chase with men however not want to fully give up her power to them. Luke was the perfect opportunity for her to find both 🖤 sorry unrelated but also very influenced by this video lol ty for sharing
How do we build this connection / value, early on ? Or should it only be after marriage ? I experience lots of talking stages, but unable to build a codependency / connection like this with a man. Should we just dive in from day 1 ? I keep it light emotionally at the start, but it always seems that men crumble away.
The truth is you need to find a man who is looking for a partner and wife. You let the man set the tone and direction and if he is not seeking that out from you then you move on. I wouldn't be thinking about building this type of relationship with a man who isn't a husband so until a man proposes, you are only dating and you keep living your life for you. Until you are married, you are single.
@@divorceguruthanks Tanya, yes, makes sense. It’s just - I’ve encountered many of these types of men who are simultaneously obsessed with / into their ex’s. I’m confused as to what these women do to get them hooked ? When I dig, these women don’t even use the rules. They slept with them straight away, showed jealousy, were difficult etc. So I’m wondering whether being aloof & controlled, (both emotionally & segually), actually drives them away ? It’s rarely worked for me to be nonchalant. It’s not gotten anyone more keen to pursue me.
@@AlyssaAlmaiahi I can guess what those women did: they ended the relationship. Men are always obsessed with "the one that got away". It's usually a sign of emotional immaturity so just understand that it's a them problem and you're not doing anything wrong. The point of the rules is not to get men to pursue you, it's actually to show you which men are truly interested in you and which were never going to be that man for you. In some sense, it will drive men away - the wrong men. The men who will waste your time and never really be ready to commit to you. Not all men will be your man and most won't so don't worry about them not liking you. It's better that way.
@@AlyssaAlmaiahi I will probably do a video on the rules actually
@@divorceguru yes please ! ❤ I find it makes sense in theory, but rarely have I seen it work in reality. My most successful relationships were not based on the rules, and are lot of my friends who are happily married didn’t use it either. I’m wondering if building emotional connecting earlier on is more important, than expecting a man to pursue / chase you, for just existing ? Yes, it filters out men who aren’t serious, but how did those same men get into relationships with women before ? It def feels like some women know what to do / say.